We can't run away from problems, where ever you go, there will be problems (and solutions to said problem) 👽

Agree, there re a lot of examples which Allah softens heart of someone, for example omar bin khattab, khalid bin walid, hamzah, etc, dont stop to ask Allah to the one who we love, Allah will answer if you deep believe

*I totally agree but don't loose hope friend. Being the last born I was abused mentally, physically and emotionally by my own siblings and parent's. My story is long. Just pray for me to get out of sicknesses that I'm battling from my past traumas. By Allah's mercy Alhamdulillah I'm away from them. So have faith one day you'll be out of all those troubles. I forgave my Mother but my siblings didn't want even to talk about it. I don't know it's because of their proudness or what? But I just keep greetings for Swilatu rahim*

Very true, look at Abu lahab and the prophet Muhammad (Saw), lahab was extremely toxic

One of the salaf said, if having people around you will make you sin, stay lonely.

At least you are self-aware.

The Prophet (PBUH) recommended that we all do a self-assessment every night before bed. To determine what we have to work on. It is a good habit to get into, as I remind myself and everyone else. One other thing, according to the Prophet (PBUH) Jihad ul Nefs is the greater Jihad. We all struggle, this is part of the test of this Dunya. Allah (SWT) placed within each of us, a challenge and a test, to know and be self-aware of this is the first part of the challenge and then to struggle is the other part. Being aware of it when others are not, is clearly a good start. Allah (SWT) purposely made us imperfect, so that we can constantly remember Him and turn to Him for forgiveness and guidance. Alhamdulillah, that you are self-aware and conscious of yourself.

So true, I too think I am one of these on different days and situations.... I have to watch myself more from now... and stop complaining, back biting, flaw finder, pseudo expert, lazy, pessimist, self centered behaviour....

Can anyone explain this Hadith for me please

I don’t understand the message

@@YOURMUSLIMGUYyou don’t get judged for your thoughts as long as you dont act upon them

I am the same😭 Every thing is related to me I feel a bit like some of these coming from my family members Suddenly I begin to understand "why I did not have any friends up until now"

Same here !

Brother And sisters I don’t want praise thank you

Ameen 🧡🧡🧡

Ameen

@@YOURMUSLIMGUY ❤️❤️🌹🌹🌹

Aameen summa Aameen ❤

@@Md_sadiq_Md ❤️❤️🌹🌹

It's a good sign that at least you recognise. I have a little bit of each too. May Allah allow us to improve ourselves, ameen!

@@TazNaseha yes Alhamdulillah. May Allah help us improve ourselves. It's a great video for self analysis

I swear it was soooo weird but now we now how to handle and act after thia video

@@TazNaseha ameen

Aameen

Aameen summa Aameen ❤

5 Difficult Challenges of the Journey to Heaven that Believers Must Pass “My Lord, I am not worthy to be a resident of Paradise. And also not strong enough to face the fire of Jahim Hell. . . . Every day my age continues to decrease. Meanwhile my sins continued to increase. How shall I bear it?” (Abu Nuwas). This poem is from a famous Muslim poet. His name is Abu Nuwas. The contents very well describe what's on my mind (Zafira). Because I feel a lot of sin. So the journey to heaven becomes very scary. I always think about what happens after death. What are the obstacles for the human soul to reach heaven? The following is my story of finding peace of mind. I'm sure, if there is certainty of going to heaven, there must be peace of mind. Basic Questions that Continue to Haunt? I am a teacher at a Public Middle School. I am quite close with the students. So we often talk. My students often ask many things. One of them they want to know how to get to heaven. What are the obstacles to the journey to heaven that a Muslim needs to go through. At first I just answered simple. That humans will surely die. Therefore we need to live piously and do a lot of good deeds. However, this answer did not satisfy them immediately. Many more questions regarding the details of human condition after death. This makes me personally also curious. So I took the time to study it. 5 Obstacles to the Journey to Heaven I discovered that there are many obstacles on the way to heaven. We as Muslims need to go through all of these things. 1. Sin and charitable burden as long as we live. The first challenge is that during our lives we need to obey all of His laws. And we need to do charity to cover sins. “. . . And fear Allah, and know that you will be gathered to Him” (Qs 2:203). However, I realize that we humans must make a lot of mistakes. There is no way our charity will be enough to cover sins. This is just the first hurdle. Which in my opinion, is very hard for us to live in life. 2. The realm of the grave (the realm of Bazrah). It is a realm of waiting before heading to the afterlife (Qs 23:100). Even when in the grave, humans will receive heavy obstacles. That is to bear various punishments which are the punishment for all his sins. For example, humans will get a view of how suffering in hell will be (Qs 40:46). In addition, humans will get hit by an iron sledgehammer repeatedly (Bukhari Hadith No.1285). Not to mention various other torments. For example exposed to hell fire. The graves are so narrow that the bones are crushed. And accompanied by scary creatures as the embodiment of bad deeds (Hadith Ahmad No.17803). All of this is multiplied for humans who are big sinners. For example, if you have committed adultery, you will suffer greatly. “. . . whoever does that (including adultery). . . (namely) the punishment will be multiplied for him on the Day of Judgment and he will remain in that punishment, in a state of humiliation” (Qs 25:68-69). 3. When calculating and considering (Yaumul Hisab and Yaumul Mizan). This is the time when all human deeds get a reckoning. The more severe the charity or sin will be clearly seen (Qs 7:8-9). Allah knows best that no sin, even the slightest, escapes His sight. Even mistakes that we are not aware of, He will know it. Everything will be on the scales! "And whoever does a particle's weight of evil, surely he will see (reply) too" (QS 99:8). By the time this happens, are you sure there will be more charity than all sins? 4. Shiratal Mustaqim Bridge. After completing the calculation, each soul will pass through the Shiratal Mustaqim bridge. For those who do a lot of charity, it will be easy to get through it. But for most people it will be very difficult. Like crossing a bridge smaller than a strand of hair. “. . . slippery place that can slip. There are iron scrapers, iron hooks and iron spikes. . . There are those who are torn to pieces delayed and there are those who are thrown into the hell of Jahannam. . .” (Muslim Hadith No.269). After seeing just these four hindrances, I am so disturbed! There are many questions that keep filling my mind. Especially how can I be sure that I will finally get to heaven? Isn't this a question that many Muslims are also worried about? 5. Heaven or hell. The end of human life will be somewhere in between. That is heaven or hell (Qs 4:56-57). A place where humans receive eternal blessings or punishment. The Scriptures of all religions describe hell as a place of horror full of eternal suffering. Of course I as a human being feel afraid. Because they do not know how God's decision. Will He accept or reject me later. I find there are indeed a lot of questions on this subject. Because of that there are various answers from religious experts. Answer 1: In general, the answer is that we will definitely go to heaven. “Every one of my people will enter paradise except those who are reluctant. . . . Whoever obeys me will enter heaven and whoever disobeys me means he is reluctant” (Bukhari Hadith No. 6737). But when I read, this Hadith still contains prerequisites. That is, it is necessary to obey all religious orders. Don't we as human beings certainly have mistakes and sins? So it is very difficult to get the assurance of certainty in heaven. Even the punishment of the grave is already a very terrible suffering! Answer 2: The next answer is that Muslims will eventually go to heaven. But must go through God's punishment first. That is, if you fall from the Shiratal Mustaqim bridge, you will be punished. Allah will leave him there until the end of his sentence. If later there is goodness then it will be lifted up to heaven. The problem is that we cannot know God's judgment. There is no guarantee that humans will go to heaven in the end. What if we still cannot survive? There are even scary hadiths. That if there are still small crimes, we still cannot enter heaven. "The person who has the weight of arrogance in his heart will not enter heaven" (Hadith Muslim No. 133). It is because of this that I feel very uneasy. In my opinion the journey to heaven is like a journey through various obstacles without the certainty of heaven! Because in the end, we humans never know what will happen. We are only asked to carry out religion steadfastly. Is There a Direct Guarantee to Paradise? Until one day I saw a Christian magazine bulletin. The one on the teacher's desk. I am very interested in the large print excerpt of the writing. It reads: “. . . indeed today you will be with Me [Isa Al-Masih] in Paradise” (Gospel, Luke 23:43). I was very surprised by this statement. I thought how short the trip to heaven would be for them? How could anyone possibly give a guarantee of survival? Because of that, even though I was embarrassed at first, I finally worked up the courage to ask. I went to my friend, Farida to discuss. Farida explained that Isa Al-Masih is God's way of helping sinful humans. He is the embodiment of the Spirit of God who became flesh. So that if we have faith and become followers of Jesus, God's salvation is available. We can go directly to heaven with His grace. Because God forgave all sins through Isa Al-Masih. So that we don't have to bear the penalty of sin. “. . . whoever believes in Him [Isa Al-Masih], he will receive forgiveness of sins for His name's sake” (Gospel, Acts 10:43). That's why Isa was able to guarantee safety. Believing in Jesus Gives a Guarantee of Survival I became very interested in Farida's explanation. Because it gives hope that humans can survive. We do not need to try to overcome the five obstacles above. And there is no need to worry that at the last moment God will reject us. I myself went through a long process of struggle, to finally decide to become a follower of Isa Al-Masih. But afterwards I experienced a very different peace and confidence in my heart. I miss sharing this with all my friends. So that we can also get the confidence of heaven. You don't need to be afraid anymore of the five obstacles to heaven without certainty. “Believe in the Lord Jesus Christ [Isa Al-Masih] and you will be saved, you and your household” (Gospel, Acts 16:31). Jesus and Islam...

You shouldn’t cut ties, but distance yourself as much needed to not get affected, your distance between you and her shouldn’t be as close that it could affect you. The distance and ties between you and her should be enough for you and her to keep the ties and contacts. Never cut ties

@@islamicbeliever1179 I don't plan on cutting ties. We still are in good connections with her children ( cousins ). I just want to know how much am I obligated to try and fix the issue. My Parents tell me do not even try and talk to them about the issues. They keep telling me that they have tried for years and failed.

Same, I’m already self loathing as I remind myself of the people who raised me projecting these traits. I had a traumatic childhood violence abuse sexual physical emotional feel a sadness in my heart no matter what I do where I go I’m a practicing Muslim however affected by my traumas and now passing them down to my own children - we live in times of information overload and difficult to put into practice positive parenting. The cycle is perpetual I behave the way my parents raised me with my own when I said I would be different. I feel hopeless and so deluded to think Allah might be pleased with me and then when death approaches be in for a shock that my actions will take me to the fire. I’m insecure and depressed and struggle daily.

@ Mohd Norzaihar : My thought exactly. A nice shared. Jazak Allahu khayran. Aameen.

He is Ahmet....Medical Doctor

@@theworldpowerdirector4723 thank you, and his surname? Just want to search about more materials from him

Well some people are willing to change, others aren't. It's a personal judgment call that you need to make whether you believe they'll change or not. Most likely, they won't, and staying away is the best answer in that scenario.