Your voice is so lovely! The music is so good

your voice is amazing!! :)

girl u cannot sing

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Do a video on those TikToks that demonize single mothers and pretend to glorify single fathers.

goddammit, I feel bad for laughing at that XD

For real, it is so much easier for the therapist and that's the greatest thing ever 👍🏻

“Wait, your mom actually said that? Like, on social media said that? Okay. Yeah. Yeah, everything happening in here makes perfect sense.”

Movie night with my therapist: a compilation of trauma in 1 min intervals

very true!

Right! Enabling abhorrent behavior and doing a massive disservice to their children. Hope she won’t mind visiting her son in jail someday or seeing her daughters in toxic relationship after toxic relationship if she doesn’t stand up and be an actual parent instead of being just another child

well... She might be the one that he is going to punch once he becomes an adult...

When the proper response is to teach him how to deal with his feelings in a constructive manner so that he doesn't have a school disciplinary file and a juvenile record and a criminal record.

@@lizvtaz6- Chased by a real-life M3gan.

it’s giving “he bullies you cuz he likes you sweetie 🥺“

That makes a lot of sense actually

And when you look at their partners it all adds up tbh

next stage after this is toxic mother in law!

Two are like this megan fox and Angelina joli

YESSSS

It's because they don't see themselves as bad parents. They think they are justified and right in their behaviour and no matter what you tell them it doesn't get through to them. This is my experience as someone who has toxic abusive parents and a mom who favours my brother over my AFAB self.

Abusers never see themselves as bad people :/ Ik this is unrelated to boy moms, but my father has done some of the most horrible things to my family and blames everything but himself for how we turned out.

The toxic boy mom culture is the inverse of purity balls. 🤢🤮

😳

👉👈

I'm so sorry

I relate to this a lot

The reason there are so many violent toxic men in the world is because of this. Why are boys never told no and girls are forced to be young adults and not allowed to have as much fun. It’s patriarchy conditioning and it needs to stop. I think we should have all gender kid scouts, toys mixed in the same isle, no more baby dolls and making girls pretend to have babies (it’s creepy), etc. Also guns, etc shouldn’t be pushed on boys. We played with water guns which was fun as long as kids know the different . Also it wasn’t bloody or gorey. We played with water. Same with water balloons. I was called a tomboy, even though it’s perfectly fine for girls to do fun things. I’m also autistic. The best thing to do is seek out other autistic people or even people with ADD. Don’t waste time with people who don’t make an effort to understand you or respect you.

Welp, hopefully you aren't (or won't be ) living with them anymore.

Is it possible for you to go no-contact with them? Because that seems like a good a idea

My ex and his mom were like that, can confirm it's awful

Had the same problem with my boyfriend and his mum until we had a massive fight and I said it’s becoming very unnatural and unhealthy. Me and his friends told him how weird it became and he actually pulled back and put some distance (emotional and physical between his mother and him, still have a good relationship but now it’s actually healthy.) She ultimately doesn’t like me because I “stole away her son” and his time. :( She was the worst when she was single and needed my boyfriend to be there to look after and protect her. To spend all his time with her and watch films and cook with her, it was weird-

it’s very sad when mothers use their sons as extensions of their daddy/hubby issues. my ex had all brothers and her mom hated her and referred to her sons as papi…

@@malixati can he do that even with you being there heck you could be like Her daughter also like you are her future daughter in law if you stayed

@@malixati if you were together

I was coming here to say that!! How awful!

Hm, maybe. But also being trans can be strange and she might be super happy that her mom so clearly wants a boy and very obviously doesnt see her as one. But what do I know, my parents are super unsupportive anti LGBT conservatives. Life is weird.

I can't shake the image of them having a debriefing session like "welcome to being second class sweetie"

I was thinking about that & how her daughter might end up having issues with her identity down the line bc of her mom's misogyny... transmasc and knew I was trans when I was 12. Misogyny violently shoved me right back in the closet for almost 10 years and gave me a lot of issues that I'm still working through and probably will be for decades more 😅 it'll probably subconsciously seep into her the insecurity that "her mom would love her so much more if she wasn't trans", I wouldn't wish that on anyone and I feel so bad for this girl... I hope she'll be alright and find a support network outside of family

It has to be sad that when you notice your mom doesn't love you like she used to after you came out

They seem to feel the need to push herto and cis everything most/ all the time... they can't imagine their kid/s being anything different to them because the parents are looking at the kids as a part of them. If the kid is different then they've 'failed' (as they see it) pretty grim really

Fr like they accuse us (even us aro folks) of pushing being lgbt+ onto kids while doing this shit

People say shit like that about my daughter, I remind them that she is 1 year old, and doesn't yet know for herself who, if anyone, she will be attracted to. We literally have no idea what her future will be. She could be ace. She could be trans. She could be poly. She could be completely uninterested in long term commitment and only want to date casually. She's her own person, she'll find out in her own time. A long time from now.

Also the wedding industry is a racket! When I got married I found it so weird everyone had these expectations for what it should be.

I'm ace and my parents keep saying they're never going to get grandbabies, knowing that I plan on fostering. Apparently if it's not biological then it doesn't count

Right???

affirmative

what dose ciseht mean

@albertspeaks4880 Cis is short for cisgender, which just means that you identify with the gender you were assigned at birth. Het in this case is short for heterosexual, meaning that you're sexually attracted to the opposite gender as yours.

​@@albertspeaks4880to these people it means evil

they’re gone, reduced to atoms

​@@immkk1125bold of you to assume before social media this type of behaviour didn't exist

@@LangkeeLongkeeexactly my thoughts lmao before social media this preferential behavior was exclusive to inside the family, and local community. now horrible mothers have the internet at their fingertips, and can make these behaviors known to the world😭

My mom literally tells me "that's impossible all parents have that one kid they love". I'm like "As an adult at least lie about it" and she was like "But why?"

​@@seekittycatwtf? I've got three Rugrats and definitely don't "have that one kid" that I love. Your mom is kinda messed tf up.

not the toxicity being so bad it turns into alliance 😬🤚

Weeiirdddd

It wouldn't feel comfortable around my mother after that

That poor dude wow

not the kind of allyship we need lol

fr mg

As soon as I saw it was like "bro ofc it's a mansion"

Coz the huge amount of pocket money

We all know people that exploit their kids for views make the most ad money

ew...

Complain about women in front of her. This is coming from a woman lol.

You've gotta be next level pick me to complain about OTHER PEOPLES BABIES being girls

​@youresinningtoo3996 why? She'd love that lol

That internalized misogyny is off the charts omg

I had a friend (no longer a friend bc she’s a deeply unhealthy person with one hell of a cruel streak) who, upon the emerging dissolution of her marriage to a dude she’d only known 6 months prior to marrying, decided having a baby was THE solution to her marriage problems. So she was already in an unhappy marriage I don’t think she ever *actually* wanted in the first place to a man who routinely and actively ignored her wants and needs in favor of shaping her into the person he wanted her to be (a passive Mormon tradwife pretty much), who went on to have a baby she didn’t *actually* want so it could fix her marriage, but that didn’t work so she had two more, but that ALSO didn’t work so now she’s just an even more miserable, cruel person who deeply resents her three small children for not doing their “job.” Popping out babies doesn’t fix your problems and I wish people didn’t feel so a-ok about literally creating another human for the sole purpose of serving an impossible job as mommy and daddy’s therapist.

Yeah shotgun dads are effed I got one and was completely isolated after enough showings of the gun. No one wanted to come to my house bc my dad made a show of bringing out guns and pointing them at literal teenagers in a "joking" manner

Also the „I do to you what you do to her“ part. Like, I know you meant that threateningly, but could you please stop kissing my bf?

Thats so upsetting that thing. Why would the girl come to the dad for anything? If this is how they react with the smallest suggestion of then dating?

It very much is another form of emotional incest.

Treating your daughter like she's bad for liking someone and wanting a relationship with them. It's not a healthy foundation to build future relationships on. It also has the implication that you don't trust your daughter's judgement.

they just don’t like the first or don’t like women. i say as somebody who got replaced and abused as soon as my brother came around, the brother i helped raise who also abused me because my family showed him it was okay.

@@maskedkittyMCKids really learn how to treat their siblings from their parents. I’m super guilty of the way I treated my sister growing up. I honestly don’t expect her to forgive me, but it was 100% because my parents made me think it was okay.

Sometimes I think it's just instinct. Apparently, it's very common in owls.

i cannot imagine carrying a baby just to end up treating it like a toy or collectable.

@jasperspearl2768 good thing humans aren't owls

Toxic girl dads are TERRIFYING. (I say as an AFAB person with a toxic dad.)

That video would be like 5 hours long to be fair in that case

@@arcaneSaereal

Yesssss, I'd watch/listen to her talk about toxic boy mums/toxic girl dads for hours, it's a really interesting topic

My dad is a bit of a toxic girl dad. He doesn’t get mad at me for things he would lose his shit over if my brother did it. Admittedly I was a bit of a spoiled bitch

thats so cute

That's so sweet! That's how my mom acts whenever a guest eats her food with good appetite

Yes! My parents are both from cultures where hospitality is a huge deal. The first question when someone comes to my house is "tea?" And the second is"have you eaten?", and after that, you never allow an empty plate or glass. I couldn't fathom acting like this. I know it's cultural but so weird. Plus in some places you could literally be charged with poisoning for something like this.

Same attitude with the leaders of lbgtq

@davidkay1948 what... I'm curious what leaders are you talking about 🤣

@@SailorMiMi770 it shows u don't pay attention

@ladymonicos we here were queer and coming for ur children hmmmmmmmm don't sound innocent to me

@davidkay1948 babe where did you hear that, because I'm gay and I've never heard anything remotely like that 😂

terfs when tirms walk in:

​@@hannah9690maybe we can make them kill each other

@@somedragonbastardI don’t normally condone violence. But.

The TIRMs vs the TERFs. A battle for the ages.

Sounds like Andrew Tate 😭 He manipulates both cis and trans girls

I feel like favoritismn can almost create survivor's guilt in the favorite children, so messed up

@@Roman-bw2fo that explains it well,ty!

Dude my dad favors my brother so much to the point where it feels like he forgets like I exist. He never calls, he never texts (unless i do it first) and I feel overall unimportant. My brother likes to rub the favoritism in and though it hurts i know i can't do anything about it. My brother will get anything he wants, but when it comes to me I have to tell him in exclusive detail why i want what i want. I don't want to be the favorite child but I wish my dad would love us equally.

@@collector2570 oh yeah,absolutley! Sorry about your experiences with ur relatives,knowing thats making such a huge part of your life hell is just not... Cool. Usually if the kids know how toxic favouritism is they wouldnt rub it in so much,maybe you can educate them about it,if youre still in contact with them.

@@ametrime4754 yea but i live with my grandparents right now and they give me enough love and care to fill the sad parts about it. I'll be cutting contact with my dad when im ready but at the moment im far from it. Sorry for my rant/vent.

Way too many parents treat their children like pets that they own, train, and control. It's absurd.

fr my mom acts like this and it rly scarred me emotionally, i have hella problems cus of it.

my parents were the same way so i ended up spending my entire life shutting down and did absolutely nothing. now im incompetent to live in society like a normal human bc my step mom kinda ruined me with things like that. obv there was a lot more at play but like,, fr, parents need to be better. my mom ruined my life long before i even got a chance to make a dent for myself, and now even with therapy and meds i'll never function as a normal person. it may seem small to a parent, but that stuff adds up and really causes painful, permanent damage

@banquetoftheleviathan1404 not all accidental parents r like that my mom was an accidental mom and still treated me badly

@@raccon7344i’m so sorry you had to go through that :( please remember that you are loved, and you’re not responsible for your trauma, you did nothing wrong, i’m always here if you need someone to talk to

Most of these moms probably don’t have a good relationship with their husbands or want their husbands to cut off their relationship with their mothers

@@nationalinstituteofcheese3012 This. There's a lot of internalised misogyny going on top of the toxic perception that boys are just "more worthy". Also, because their relationship with husbands are usually crappy, these poor boys are supposed to be a replacement for them. A "perfect husband". Some of these boy moms would marry them if they could, despite the fact that they raised them to be as bad as their husbands, or even worse.

I am so sorry you have to go through those things

That sucks I’m so sorry if you want to talk I can put one of my socials here

@@Absintherain oh thank you, that's so sweet

@@modernghost0 what ones would work best for you?

@@Absintherain oh, I use Instagram mostly!

People still feel weirdly possessive of their children. Not like in the loving way, but the problematic romance novel level kind of possessive where they're treated like property

It kinda rings like a narcissism trait, as in the parent is viewing the kid as a part of them hence the possessivenes and hate towards the kids partner

This makes me wonder if this come from the culture of wedding = sending your daughter away. Western and Asiatic cultures have this history of the wife traditionally leaving their family when they get married (because they were/are seen as properties of their father and then, their husband) And so, as time went on, and men actually started to connect with their children a bit, it created this mentality of "father, as the man of the house, must protect daughters from men to keep them"

@@lilbread1717it makes sense, but still kinda icky cause why would fathers try keeping their daughters from marrying and leaving with another man (or woman or alone)?? sounds really weird

In that culture its about PURE BLOODLINES

Agreed, father

Father Lorax ur so based

Thank you, father.

Thanks Daddy Lorax 💕

@@wxndplumes yes

it's probably because the mom can only love one of her children at a time so she thinks her boy can only love one person at a time............

The "I married a Momma's boy" show is a good example of this. Women who didn't like their husband's and formed an unhealthy emotional attachment to their sons. To the point that they find even the existence of the women they choose to marry repulsive. It's horrible.

yeah these types of people would go insane finding out about poly people

ikr so weird.

ikr so weird.

Ignore the haters.

i also think her reaction to her son having a boyfriend is also a bit incesty like she’s thinking “he’s mine” etc

Love you having been away from meat for so long you don't even recognise it anymore

Plain bread with ham and cayenne pepper is still hella disgusting. 12/10 instant spit

I interpreted that situation and her saying the girlfriend eats everything in my house as like a reference to oral seggs and thought this was her way of preventing girlfriend from getting physical with the son.

It's ewphoria, somebody validating your gender through discrimination

It's sad to be honest her daughters will grow up feeling empty with an unwanted trauma they might feel when they grow older and that's never finding love and happiness from their parents .

Fun transfem shirt: "I transitioned and all I got was misogyny... and this shirt."

@@complainer406 EWPHORIA this is fucking genius, stolen

you hate trans women because they’re trans. i hate them because they’re women. we are not the same.

My friend has the opposite situation! Her nan doesn't like her bc she reminds her of her mum

Every child deserves a parent. Not every parent deserves a child.

@@cospaws8810A little off topic but I love your pfp! I’m enby and that looks so cool :)

@@august6760 Thank you! Made it myself :)

Welcome to the real world

Considering people can have babies literally by accident, unfortunately it will never not be a thing.

I wish more parents thought like you do. Your son is so lucky to have you as his mom:)

You’re an amazing parent you should be proud of yourself

This was a beautiful comment, it’s so lovely and heartwarming to hear parents out here like this 🥺💕

waht dose ciseht mean, I hear it lot

If you mean cis-het then it's a combination of the word CISgender (someone who remains the same gender they were assigned at birth) and HETerosexual (someone who is attracted to the opposite gender)

What is older sister syndrome?

@@chindu5645 It's a concept of being the older sister inevitably brings some sort of trauma. You're either the main caregiver to your younger siblings, making you grow much faster mentally and unfairly so. It also means you might struggle with either or both parents to bond affectionately as they put more pressure and expectations on you for being the eldest and being a woman.

@@thatgaypotato7234wowzers that hit close to home tbh. Im the oldest sibling/daughter and i cook, clean, watch after or for my siblings constantly since like 9 lmao

lmao 😆

This makes me glad we don’t do them where I live

Gender reveals where I live is a phone call or maybe a small party where the parents go "it's a ___!" and I think that's how gender reveals should happen

Straight people be like: IT’S A GIRL 💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥

I don't get this obsession with genitals. I was born with a vag. Still not a woman. Attributing a whole social role and status to someone based on what's between their legs is ridiculous.

unless you are announcing your own gender identity lmao

fr!

You are/will be a good father.

That's a wonderful mentality! However, unfortunately, it seems like the dad also was more excited for the second child and so both parents are at risk for having relationship shiny object syndrome and having more favoritism toward a new child and probably being unfaithful in their marriage, like you suggested could happen.

It’s like that with my cultural upbringing as well. After my mom had surgery, she had me help her get her dressed and wanted me to drive her to all of her PT appointments despite me taking an accelerated chemistry class over the summer. Despite all of that, she’s always treated my brother better and allowed him to get away with everything….

the internalised misogyny is real

REAL thank u for wording it out i was wondering why it seemed so familiar

No literally. My brother can cheat on his gf and my mom’s like oh it’s okay….. he can do no wrong

Yeah. I'm the middle child, and my ACTUAL MOM treated my step-sister better than me. I always told myself that it isn't her fault, but sometimes I literally can't stop myself from making a rude comment, even though I know I shouldn't.

I love this idea

That sounds so cool!! :)

Thanks for the shirt idea ❤

good god i'm so sorry that happened to you... weird ass mom

You had to be broken up after the lingerie incident?! I'd be running and making warning posts for people 😂

AHHH! Dude same dynamic between my ex and his mom! It was so so SO disturbing. The lingerie thing really brought back the memory. This is a thing that I witnessed too. She would also have VERY loud sex with one of her many boyfriends (literally all of whom were married, but she didn’t care) with full knowledge he and his brother could hear and shared WAY, WAAAAYYYY too much about her sex life with my ex and his brother literally from the time they were children. One time he told me this really upsetting story about how his mom persuaded him to take ecstasy with her, framed as this awww so sweet bonding thing but…no. That’s not at all what it was and hearing how it didn’t even register as strange to him really frightened me, and made me so sad for him. God, even thinking back on it now my skin starts to crawl. She used him as a replacement for a husband since the time he was a kid - both of them, but especially him. My ex took the brunt of this sick behavior and it messed him up so much I honestly don’t know if he will ever be capable of having a healthy relationship. Of course he was still wholly responsible for his behavior toward me and other women, but i don’t see how someone who was subjected to this sort of thing since day 1 wouldn’t be SEVERELY messed up when it comes to actual romantic relationships. She was also an incredibly unwell, fucked up person in general who refuses to take any personal responsibility for ANYTHING and purposefully leverages her health shit as emotional blackmail toward him while simultaneously stealing from him, using him, and manipulating him. She would terrorize his ex girlfriend when he and I were still together and the only reason I believe I escaped that is because she isn’t “done” with that ex yet. I’m fully expecting the day to come when she goes after me too. Mommy issues are no joke

Sounds like u just saw ur future

@@davidkay1948 Oh yea totally 😂

Unfortunately most older people had kids because societies pressure to build families. They're stuck in a loveless marriage with kids they resent, so most toxic boy moms stem from an idealistic life they force onto their boys. It's extremely sad, and the generational trauma is a mixed back of toxicity and trauma for everyone :(

DUDE I THOUGHT I COMMENTED WTF HAHAHAHAAHAHAHAH I WAS SCARED LIKE I DIDNT WROTE THAT

my first thought exactly! chasing her away with that bahaviour was probably the point

Fr

Yep; you’re spot on. My ex’s mother is a toxic person and toxic boy mom. She treated him as a literal replacement for a partner from the time he was born - straight up abuse - and it *severely* affected the way he would go on to treat women in the future. He is incapable of having a healthy relationship with a woman. I do not think he’s a bad person, even after all the hellish things he put me through. I do think he is the end result of a lifetime of extreme emotional incest, up to and including abuse. I think he just straight up doesn’t know how to have a romantic relationship that isn’t based on a super unhealthy “mommy” dynamic. This isn’t to absolve him of responsibility - absolutely not. But I do see a very clear, direct link between the way his mother has treated him his entire life and the problems he has in relationships now.

Oh and “mommy issues” is a defining characteristic for him. I hope he one day finds a way to free himself of the seemingly irreparable damage that woman has done to him.

@@alch3myst so cringy 😣 what a nightmare to deal w!

Drag queens are disrespectful so I understand that, but the good kind of gay people shouldn't be seen as a threat to a child

@@divine555 the point of my comment was that neither are dangerous. “Drag queens are disrespectful” is a weird thing to say…

@@juannasmoke7010 they are though, and they've been falsely made icons out of the LGBT community, I understand how not all drag queens have vulgar humor but it's making us look bad spmi understand wanting your kids to stay away from them until their older, agreed though, as annoying as most of them are they aren't in anyway dangerous

@@divine555 drag queens as a whole are not ‘disrespectful’ sounds like you’re caving to the arguments of bigots. Drag queens aren’t using “vulgar humour” around children. No one is forced to be around them, and if the show is for kids, it catered to them. No one made them icons, they’re just a part of the community, and if you wanna ignore them do that, but stop generalizing them, none of the queens I’ve met have ever been close to disrespectful.

@@juannasmoke7010 all the ones I've seen have been, and plus the reason why I said their seen as symbols with the LGBT community is because for some reason whenever a kids show wants to show forced "diversity" for sexualities they show a drag queen, and I'm just so tired of being represented by the horrid words of those people, their outfits are gorgeous but the way I've seen them act just disappoints me

Why the cousins though? They not her children.

Why did she want all boys anyways? She wanted a girl to and she had one but ignored you.

My mum has helped me out with some stuff like that, at and past 30. It's not cause she's a boy mum or loves me more than my siblings, I just have ADHD and Autism and I need help >.

@@rhaeven I'm sorry if my comment in any way made you feel bad. There's no shame in needing help. My frustration stemmed from my ex being fully capable but not bothering.

@@nickievison1134 no it's okay! Didn't feel shamed by it at all, just adding perspective that some people need help like that, and that makes it even weirder that a mom would do it for someone who didn't need the help

@@nickievison1134most likely she did all that so you wouldn’t. Boy moms don’t want another woman doing for their son they want to do it.

And the girls would be growing up thinking its fine to be hit aswell

@@spinchh so sad

I’m so sorry if you wanna vent I can give you my socials :(

@@Absintherain Thank you that a sweet thought. Thanks for being nice.🥹

@@cheezarose what ones would work best for you :)

@@Absintherain Which ever you are more comfortable with. It's no obligation of course.

What does agender mean? (I see you and support just am unsure of the meaning)

All I have to say about that is odd😀 very very odd, that must have been so uncomfortable 😬

I'm pretty sure my mother thinks I'm incapable of thinking badly of her. A thing she kinda said to me once. It's largly because she 2as always despret to get her mom's effection who was very abusive to her and thinks this is how your kids are supposed to be. I dislike the woman greatly, she's not a good person but I can't help but feel bad for her when she talks about her mum

I really hope you're right.

Why do you think him being a boy makes him her favorite child? She doesn’t sound like a toxic boy mom based off how you worded this. There could be other factors that go into this. Is he the oldest? Does he have any disabilities? Is he the youngest? Are there personalities more similar to each other?

@@FunFactswithAmani Well, the most straightforward answer I can give to your questions is that cause we're brown. And brown moms' generally adore their sons more than their daughters cause they think that only the sons will provide them food and shelter in their old age and the daughters will just marry off to another man and leave the house. It's nothing but what the patriarchal society has forced them to internalise eversince THEY were kids. So, we can't even fully blame them. That's why i try my best to not hate my mom, it's not her fault she was forced to think this way.

@banquetoftheleviathan1404 I'm not the best at explaining it and it's better if you look it up yourself but in a nutshell, oldest sibling syndrome is when the eldest sibling acts like a parent or seems bossy to their other siblings a lot. They're used to acting as a parent because they're forced too. (Still, you should go do your own research about it as well, I'm not the best person to be asking :)

@banquetoftheleviathan1404 Glad that I could help you :) Now go drink water because you need to hydrate and not diedrate

@@catherineevans9852 Quick question, do you know RYLA?

@@catherineevans9852i’m the oldest sibling, that is probably the best explanation i’ve read. i felt called out

@@bichitenshi6696 I don't know what RYLA is. I'll do some research on it when I'm at home in a week or if you want, you could tell me about it too. (Go drink some water :)

I'm forever suspicious of people who dislike cats, happy cats are so chill

Anyone who gives you that ultimatum just did you a favour and saved you so much time! Cats > basically everything

👏🏼👏🏼🐱🐱

more moms should be like u

I think that's very noble and caring for your daughter, but I would also like to ask you to specify what you mean by "shattering a child's spirit," bc, as unintentional it may be, that seems similar to the toxic boy mom mentality, just reversed. I think breaking the toxic parent's spirit and educating a child on humility is a better approach that aligns more with what seems to be your intention. (Although ideally you'd be able to educate the parent and not break their spirit, either).

Haha this reminds me of this children’s book called “mama, do you love me?” That’s so sweet

Right? It's one of those words where once you hear/read the definition, you realize you've been seeing it, you just didn't know there was a word for it!

@@mageofmagic870 it isn't a real thing anyway lol

​@@divine555dude I've been seeing u in comments if u don't believe this is real stop commenting

@@creepygirl759 no lol

@@divine555 can I ask why

Agreed, people should just be focusing on their child/children's development without any major issues

yknow who should really be having gender reveal parties ? trans ppl. i think thatd be a pretty cool and fun way to come out

Maybe this is just my ignorance. I know chances are that children being raised by queer parents are more likely to be queer themselves but isn't also weird to assume that your child is going to be queer? Just as much like straight parents assuming their kids is going to be not queer?

@@drownedtrashrat3501 Very good idea. Awhile back, I saw a couple publish a "birth announcement correction", informing the public that their baby girl had been, in reality, a baby boy.

@@arcadiaberger9204

As an Enby who has shaved my head multiple times, I feel this. All I can say is that what you see in the mirror is all that matters. If you see yourself and your haircut and clothes as beautiful, then don't let anyone take that away from you (especially people who just dont get your style or even gender in general). I know how hard it is, but if you like it, then that's all that matters, and it will piss some people off and make others very happy. I know that when I see people with a buzzcut in public I get very happy, but I've also gotten my share of dirty looks lol

@@estherriley6879 omg thank you for commenting it means so much to me! I agree with you. I love seeing women, men, and our non binary friends who have buzzed or shaved heads because I think it looks so beautiful. I will try to remember your advice. Thank you so much. Im getting my nose pierced this week so I’ve got something to look forward to.

I’m sorry your parents give you such a hard time. My advise would be to focus on yourself and dress/ style the way that you feel is right for you. Because when your outer self reflects your inner self, that’s beautiful in itself and this way you show people “this is who I am, take it or leave me alone.” And who knows, maybe someone sees you with your new look and specifically because of that thinks ‘they look great and seems so cool! I wanna be their friend!’

Hi, I'm sorry your parents aren't accepting. Please know that whatever happens, the LGBTQIA+ community is standing right there next to you. Please focus on yourself and taking care of your mental and physical health and styling yourself in a way that makes you feel happy and comfortable in your self. Happy Pride from a homosexual genderfluid! 🏳‍🌈

Congrats on your coming out. 🤍

i teared up, literally i would be heartbroken hearing about this dream, and 2 is still such a baby :c great that you try to make her feel secure

They have kids because they want grandkids, of course they assume

Honestly having a boy seems worse in almost every way imaginable.

It’s sad that it took eighteen years for her to appreciate her daughters but I bet the son probably had a good reason to leave. She might be leaving stuff out.

I hate the fact you're incredibly right.

Both are wrong , idk why you feel the need to bring in race to it?

​@@meroaccDon't be dense. They brung it up because society in general treats the two situations differently based on bigotry. OBVIOUSLY they are both wrong. Nobody said it wasn't for one or the other, they're calling out people who DO treat these differently BECAUSE of these factors. Like, don't act stupid bro you know what they were saying 🙄

@@rosegolden8959 how am I acting stupid ? How does race afffect it then?why not explain how ?🤦‍♀️idk why west is so obbseesed with race that all you can see is black and white🤦‍♀️and why not explain your view instead of calling the opposing person dense? What factors hun? Explain? You people don't even explain and call anybody opposite to their viewpoint dumb🙄

@@meroacc bruh. The factors I'm referring to ARE race, gender, etc. I literally said just that. And I also JUST explained how these factors do affect how society treats them. The reason people bring this up is because bigotry is still rampant in the West and as long as it is we need to call it out when we see it...I'm sorry I can't help not calling someone who doesn't take the time to think dense. Your inability to read and comprehend have nothing to do with you being on the "opposing side"