pick-me girl to toxic boy mom to monster-in-law is such a real pipeline

Gotta love the irony that a mother, the female parent, wants a son because she's interested in monster trucks and wrestling more than "girly" things, but cannot fathom a world where she could share those interests with her daughter because "girls don't like that stuff"

The mom: "my daughter doesn't have any interests" Also the mom: "she's into make-up and fashion"

My mother had three daughters, no sons. Our house was full of pink and flowers, we read anne of green gables, and watched princess movies. I had fairy print wall paper and polly pockets. My mom reviled in the girlyness. It makes me so sad how much we put down little girls. Little girls are delightful. Running in the backyard in a princess dress and muddy feet. Tea parties with apple juice. Dolls playing out royal dramas. Girlhood is so precious. Let's celebrate it more. Edit- so this was supposed to be a run little post. A tribute to my childhood. Because people are just kind of mean to little girls, cuz misogyny ya know, but I have now been called both transphobic and not transphobic enough in the replies lmao. Just goes to show you that if someone is intent on not liking you they'll find a reason. All the more reason to just enjoy your day and have a silly goofy time not being a dick.

The "doing ___ for my kid so they don't accept your son/daughter doing ___" trend started off actually cute and healthy. The earliest videos I saw of that trend were things like "taking my daughter on tea dates so she doesn't accept your son doing the bare minimum" or "teaching my son to journal when he's upset so he doesn't take his emotions out on your daughter." It doesn't have to be gross, but boy moms made it that way

i don’t have kids but i nanny a ton. these kind of parents are absolutely terrifying. why are you thinking about your sons future partner when he’s not even capable of viewing another person in that light? it’s absolutely WILD.

How weird is it that the first woman talks about her children only in the context of view they benefit her. She loves her children because they reflect all versions of herself, but she especially loves her son because of how much he loves her

It's so concerning how the teenage boy who spent his birthday with his girlfriend has been telling her that he has a bad home life, and the mother dismisses it as "attention seeking." Even if he WAS lying for attention, she should be deeply disturbed that her own kid needed attention so badly that he was lying about abuse. But the fact that she's immediately dismissed it as ridiculous and then launched into a story about him being disrespectful for not spending his birthday with her makes it obvious that he wasn't lying.

One of my favorite stories about how I was raised without strict gender boxes is this: When I was younger, I spent ages in the garage with my dad, helping him with his tools and helping him build. Wanna know what we were building? A stable for my toy horses who I played dress up with

Bet you, the daughter whose mum bought her male twin a car has more interests than fashion and makeup (still amazing interests) but doesn't pay enough attention to her to know that.

There are few things quite as disheartening as a boy mom whose internalized misogyny is mercilessly wielded against any woman she comes into contact with, whether it be the young woman in love with her son, or even the daughter(s) she may have

Every day, Freud is justified in his grave, and I'm upset about it

I was babysitting for a family, and the mom got her son a fake sink so he could wash fake dishes. NOT because she didn't want him to be impressed by a future partner, but because "more little boys should know how to wash dishes."

I’m so tired of this rhetoric of “girls have attitudes, blah blah blah” I have seen women in my family treat their teenage daughters like slaves. They are thrown into survival mode and then told they have attitudes if they dare try to stand up for herself. And there are so many mothers out there that are borderline threatening to their son’s girlfriends. It’s so…icky.

the car vs $300 gift card one actually makes me so angry i had to pause and get up and rant to myself about it multiple times 😭 the fact that she can't see the clear favoritism she's displaying, the fact that she can't see whats so different about an entire fucking car and 300 buck gift card is honestly concerning. and the going car shopping with the son too; she made an active effort to find out what kind of car he would be interested in, what he would use, and she made it into a bonding activity for the two of them, but she can't bother to show the same level of care and effort for her daughter. my immediate thought was like you said - she could have taken her daughter shopping with a budget in the same price range as the car. now they both recieve an equal gift, you're supporting your daughter's interests as well as your son's, and you've given her a special bonding experience for just the two of you as well. like its astounding how she didn't thinkk of this??

"Raising my son so that every time he has a girlfriend, he's thinking about/comparing her to me" is.... just... so completely disgusting. I think the discussions I've had with my son about the prospective future and partner(s) he might have mainly circulate around "Make sure you find someone who respects your boundaries and communicates with you, and you have to work on how to communicate with others. if you decide to marry someone that's up to you, but if you do end up with someone, find someone who makes you happy first and foremost. someone where the love you share drives you both to be better people, because you are always aiming to grow together". Like.... I don't give a fuck if your future partner is vegan? I care that you have a solid love that feeds you in a life that so often starves you of things you need.

The pick-me girl to emotionally incestous boymom pipeline is so real and crazy. I think women who are insecure don't like that they can see themselves in their daughters, not to mention the fact that society has taught women to value themselves by the metric of male attention/affection/protection they can get for so long that these women project that onto their own children even to the point of getting jealous over hypothetical future competition for their son's attention. Honestly it's all just so gross, I think people should get therapy before having kids so they don't do shit like this.

Growing up as an only child (until 13) I was already suspicious that my mom didn't want a girl - but then she had two sons with her second husband, and i watched them get everything thing they wanted handed to them while I was dismissed and given just the basic essentials. Pretty sure she knew about her second husband abusing me too but blamed me for it because I wore tank tops. I'm okay, I cut them off, NC.

I'm very worried about these kids. How will these moms react if their children realize they're gay, or trans, or literally anything other than cis and straight? I would hope they'd still love and accept them, but it concerns me how gendered all of these are.

The "This is why God gave me boys" one. I, a girl in theory, told my mom exactly that same thing, many times, over a couple of decades. I used to have fantasies at my grocery store job of taking Mom shopping and making sure I took all the heavy bags. This isn't a gendered thing. This is just a "kid to a hardworking parent" thing

You say "boy mom" I say "Immature mother who sees their daughter(s) as nothing but competition"

That little boy talking about taking care of his mother was so sweet! But news flash. Little girls speak like that too. Little kids see grown-ups struggle and will want to help. And think they can fix our problems. It's a sweet thing.

The mom in the AITA post who said her daughter 'doesn't really seem to have any specific interests'... For one, she mentioned soon after that her daughter is into fashion and make-up. But also, I feel like whenever parents aren't up to date on their childrens' interests, it's because they've on a consistent level not asked about their interests, not paid attention to them or straight up mocked them for the interests they have. At some point you stop telling your parents what you're into, because they barely react to it at all anyway.

About the mum that bought her son a car and her daughter a gift card. My brothers didn't knew what to get me for my 18th birthday so instead of giving me a gift card they took me shopping and set a budget for me. We got pizza together and it was so nice and also just a fun bonding moment that showed that they cared. We never had a close relationship but that was such a fun day (I ended up buying Lego btw)

When my dad was asked, "who gives this woman's hand away to this man in marriage today?", he said, "My daughter is not a possession to be given away, but I do offer my blessing to this union and express my joy to be gaining a son". I LOVED it and was so proud of him for saying that!!! ❤❤

They got it all backwards lol... Teaching my son to cook and clean so their future partner doesn't have to take on most of the workload. Every man I have dated has expected ME to do all the cooking and cleaning, pretty much anything to do with the household. We're not gonna be doing that over here!! He's gonna learn 1, how to take care of HIMSELF but also take on 50% of the household duties because that's what's FAIR. If it wouldn't be acceptable do it to a roommate or friend, why tf would you treat your partner that way???

The boy mom with the twin gifts that were so unequal brought to my mind the husband who has lived with their wife forever but still can’t figure out what to get her for her bday so just gets a gift card (then expects to be congratulated for remembering). To me, it clearly shows that the mom has paid so much more attention to her son. That lack of interest and understanding took me right back to every bday and Xmas with my mom. I feel so much for these kids.

Not only is a son’s love for his mother different from that for his partner, a grown man’s love for his mother is different from a little boy’s love for his mother. Whether he has a partner or not. His partner is not “stealing him” from you.

My mom is totally a toxic boy mom. She always preferred my brother over me and my sister. Which is hilarious because we were pretty neglected as kids. My brother doesn’t bother going to the supervised visits anymore and my sister just feels obligated to at this point. Once they hit 18, i doubt they’ll see her more than like once a year. Which is just the reality of having a toxic, abusive, and narcissistic mother lol

"keep his balls empty"... I just barfed inside my mouth a bit

So there was this reddit post where this woman basically complained about her daughter and said she wished she should give her up. Meanwhile, she talked up her son, talking about how they whispered secrets, cuddled, etc. She also said that the son never went through terrible twos. She acted as if her daughter was the devil for...acting like a kid. She talked about how her son told her to send the daughter to her room. She refused therapy for herself because clearly, she wasn't the problem. It was really gross and sad. The ages of the kids in the story were like five and four or something.

Interesting how that mom is so glad she has a boy to take care of her in her old age when it's women who are more likely to be in caretaker roles. Not that anyone should have kids with the expectation that they'll take care of them in their old age.

The birthday story hit so hard. It was weird to hear the parents perspective of a situation where they make the kid responsible for the parents emotions

The "our child is lying about our home life" at 9:30 is a thing my abusive parents did, too. They don't like anyone spilling the family secrets about the toxic environment. Then they act shocked when their kid doesn't want to hang out with them.

10/10 would sleep with a man whos mother threatens to do the same to me that I do to him. Please ma'am. Right this way

My parents wanted daughters and they got them. They got the pretty princess, dress loving girl in my sister and...me. Who was interested in bugs and lizards and playing in the mud. Which turned into fixing shit, video games, comic books..etc. My mom used to joke "Did they accidentally give me a boy?" 🙃 Gender is so stupid

"what did my hypothetical daughter ever do to you?" LITERALLY. These women are picking fights with hypothetical women who may or may not ever enter their son's lives... it is psychotic and the reason mother in laws have such a bad reputation.

i think it's funny how these kinds of moms don't want daughters because they don't want to deal with any girly things, but like...they themselves like these stereotypically masculine things, so isn't that in itself proof that not all girls are one way? and besides, even as someone who isn't all that into girly things (even before i transitioned i was into stuff like monster jam, if anything i've been more comfortable with feminine things since i came out as transmasc lmfao), i would still love to do "girly" things with any kids i wanted to have, it just seems so sweet and wholesome to be able to braid their hair or play dolls with your kid, even if it's something you would never be interested in, why wouldn't you want to make those memories of pure happiness with your kid, no matter what it is you're doing? if anything that's way more precious than the weird ownership they think they have over their sons, thinking other women are "competition" in some weird gross incesty way

I was the youngest girl in a family of 6, and only two of us were boys. To this day, 32 years in my life, the difference between how my mom treated me and my sisters is starkly contrasted to how she treats my brothers. They are damn near holy in comparison. You said emotional 1nc3st, and it struck a chord in me that just reminded me of my childhood and how my mother favors my brothers. Even to this day, that behavior has trickled into her relationship with her grandsons where she is openly favoring the grandchildren who are boys, and ignoring the grandchildren who are girls. I now have just one daughter of my own, and I work ceaselessly to give her a life where her presence is valued, appreciated, and respected. I could never imagine putting a child above another just because of their gender.

"I'm not saying my girls don't love me." Maybe they shouldn't.

The giving away your daughter ritual is called 'kanyadaan' in hinduism and it perfectly translates to girl donation. I've always found it weird but hey, divided by religions and cultures, united by misogyny

the car was $10,000. it wasnt a cheap car and no way op would treat their daughter to anything that expensive. clear favorites.

I just had to deal with my mom and brother both acting like toddlers so seeing this is kinda ironic

All those moms favoring their sons and expecting them to grow up to take care of her are likely in for a big disappointment. The way societal pressures and gender roles lead to most caregivers being women aside, raising a son who thinks he's more special than everyone else isn't exactly the way to teach the empathy and respect of others that would end up with any kind of caregiver, let alone a good one. He is not even going to visit her in Shady Pines.

Getting a used car where the wheels are actively falling off is like $3 grand in the US. A car that is actually safe to drive would be about 10 grand at the very least (and that is with amazing haggling skills). I think the daughter not speaking to her mother for giving her only $300 is more than justified to just move out and cut ties at that point

“toxic gossip train” is all i can think about 💀

In a way, these moms are creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. When they raise their sons to idolize their mothers as the ideal romantic partner, they are going to look for a partner who acts like a mother to them, and in turn they are kind of "replacing" their mother with this new partner

Exactly what I needed after three excruciating hours in a class with the worlds worst professor

UHG THE MOM WITH THE TWINS AND THE CAR KILLED ME. It really reminds me of one of my own stories. My moms side of the family has a yearly family get together, this includes granparents, aunts/uncles and several cousins. The year when my mom and bio-dad divorced bio-dad got my brother(6m) a Nintendo DS for Christmas. Since he had gotten such a nice gift I was also very excited to see what I had gotten because up to this point we had been treated pretty equally. For me (who just turned 11 that day because Christmas is also my birthday) bio-dad gave me a framed stock photo of a horse in a toster box, and a note about how he wasn't sure what to get me anymore because I "was a woman now" (I had gotten my first period like two months before this) When I started crying (overstim/overwhelm + the clear unfairness of the gifts) my step-dad called me a brat for thinking it wasn't fair. My mom at least saw that this was fucking wierd so she decided that calling him to ask him what he was thinking was a great idea. This quickly devolved into an hour long screaming match where he agreed to mail us the money to buy me one (at this point I just wanted to curl up and die for causing a scene at Christmas and ruining it for everyone). My poor brother thought it was his fault and tried to make it right by giving his gift to me (i explained why i was upset when i calmed down and he realized that none of that was his fault). When I did end up getting my own my brother and I ended up switching DSes because I picked out a red one, and he had gotten a blue one (I liked blue more than red and he liked red more than blue so it was an easy choice lol).

16:13 That's wild… “my daughter didn't express a care for freedom or a strive for being independent- so I figured she wanted to be a pretty trophy wife.” Am I understanding that she didn't explicitly say she wanted a car/ anything?

Me listening attentively to the stories, but also watching the plushies in their slow declines.

i was the first baby girl born since my dads older sister. when the family found out they were expecting a girl the joy and unconditional love was unwavering. i had one older brother and i did everything that he did, only i was wearing princess dresses and tiaras the whole time.

On the car vs card issue, OP responded to some comments before deleting the account entirely - the car cost TEN FUCKING THOUSAND DOLLARS 💀💀💀

I’m a AFAB Gen Xer. I’m very grateful to my parents who thought that gendering toys was silly, and let me play with whatever I liked.

the story about the birthday, as a mom i totally get wanting to spend your child’s birthday with them. labor and birth is a huge event and spending that day with your child is special. that being said it’s selfish to force or guilt your child into spending time with you, he’s growing up. eat a piece of cake with him when he comes home and talk about his day! to ruin his day is lunatic behavior.

The thing about the nutcracker made me laugh, since it reminded me of the proud mom I saw at the theater, crying her heart out in happy tears while she watched her son dance the male lead role in that exact ballet.

As a mother, I love these videos just because you give everyone the best parenting advice. I wish every parent could know the parenting skills you know, and you don’t even have kids 😂

The thing that pisses me off the most, is the fact that so often the negleted daughter will stick around the mother on daily basis even as an adult, taking care of her parents, while being totally taken for granted for everything she does, while the favored son will be nowhere to be seen and still he'll receive all the unconditional love the mother has to share. It feels nearly like it can't be completely subconscious. The negleted child will work so hard to get the attention they never had, while the pampered on will keep having good things coming to them and their life will be successfull. It's like sabotaging the life of one of your child's while sponsoring the other to the maximum. I need to note tho, that there's the phenomenon of "daddy's girls", it's not just the mums showing favoritism like this. It looks like the parents will favor the child that reminds them less of themselves and more the one who's going to grow up to be someone they'd date... which is so disturbed on it's own way.

I will always say in these videos, I wonder what these moms will do if their son is gay or trans. There might not be a girl replacing the mom. I think they would like explode.

20:59 So like, can we talk about the fact that that one lady had her baby in a headlock. That was weird.

I can't tell whether or not these "boy moms" are narcissists who chose their sons as the golden child for their toxic lifestyles. Or if they all just settled for partners they didn't actually love, and the initial parenting bond was just the strongest love they've ever actually felt and so have to project that being mutual.

I did horrible at an audition just now, this genuinely made me feel better

it makes my head and heart hurt to see moms basically say their daughters aren’t worth having in comparison to their sons.

"We accept the love we think we deserve" I love you so much perks of being a wallflower

I'm a daughter who had a little brother but my mom was normal and treated us equally. From the way she loved and raised us to our gender roles. I can't fathom the hatred a "boy mom" might have created between our sibling bond, because my brother is literally my best friend. It's so sad that a lot and boys and girls are raised to compete with each other

something so powerfully toxic online parent about "am i a terrible mom? please be kind" she's practically begging people to give her an echo chamber and give her no criticism

i don't have any kids but my grandma(rest in piss) was an ABUSIVE boy mom, who raised by dad, and ABUSIVE "girl" dad(i'm a trans dude). they should have taken notes from my mom's parents, they gave three sons and one girl and they're so chill about it. one of my uncles is adopted too and they treat him no differently. he's also a welder and really cool, just thought i'd add that

I’m a twin and even tho were identical (I’m a cis woman) my twin is trans so he’s my twin brother. My mom always treated our older brother much better than us and my twin better than me. As I’m the girl and the youngest (only by a minute, but that counts to her) this literally happened to me except she said the car was both of ours but then only let my twin have it and there wasn’t even a measly 300$ gift card for me. That mom sucks and so does mine. And even tho I’m the only construction worker and have no interest in stereotypical “girly” things, I’m still treated the same so I doubt her interests were a real factor in it, it’s just misogyny plain and simple

i’m a fraternal twin, and my parents have ALWAYS given me and my brother equivalent gifts, even when they weren’t the best parents to either of us. even when we were young we always had a split birthday cake, and although i thought it was annoying back then, i understand now that it was just their way of treating us as equals with the money they had. a car vs a gift card is an extremely clear choice to be cruel and i hope her daughter realizes it’s not her fault her own mom treats her that way

"People accept the love they think they deserve" is one of the most emotionally intelligent things I've ever heard anyone say.

5:02 In these types of videos, the sons usaly look around 3 years old. And the age gap between spouses in most of the world is 2 years. So these moms are fighting actual babies.

Something I’ve noticed about toxic boy moms. A lot of them tend to have only ONE son. An extra is they’ll have multiple girls. I think that adds to their twisted projection. Seeing him as a “diamond” in the “rough”.

Thank you for another video, this series is a perfect example of internalized misogyny (on, kids..)

im a boy and benefit from favoritism. I got a 3d printer and other stuff for christmas a few years back when my older sister just got a bunch of little stuff. i was grateful and happy for the 3d printer but then a felt guilty that i was happy about it when i knew i got a far better gift than my sister. i tried talking to my parents about this but they brushed it off. i dont want to benefit from favoritism but at this point theres nothing i can do about it and i feel awful. my sister is 22 and lives in another state now so its mostly over, but everytime my parents provide something good for me, i still feel a twinge of guilt

MY EXPERIENCE WITH A CRAZY BOY MOM AS A TEEN GIRL I’m 16 and I got my first boyfriend (I was his first too) this year, 2023. His mom is like this. He was 17 and I was 15 when we got together. She FLIPPED OUT about the age gap (her and her controlling angry and abusive husband and her have a 8 year age gap and met when she was 19.). He’d tell me things about home that I totally believe and his mom told me how he is lying to impress me. She at one point was like “he says things like how you love him more than I do and that isn’t true at all” and I said “I never tell him things like that, that’s manipulative. He says those things on his own” and she goes “yeah I know you don’t but still” Another time she told me how he lies for attention about how his home life is too. His mom tells him everything like he is her therapist and cries to him all the time. His sister who is a year younger than I am would get jealous when he would do anything for me. Like girlfriend level like she would cry when he would touch me or do sweet things for me. IT WAS SO CONCERNING We broke up because he was toxic because of his insane incest-y family and because he was a reflection of his family. They wanted me to conform to their standards and lives but were so toxic and awful that the LAST thing I want it “acceptance” into their family. They refuse change but need it. I feel really bad for all his future girlfriends and for him as a person. I realize as a person that I bring more to the table and deserve more than that. For anyone in the shoes I was in: He won’t pick you over her She isn’t going to change. She hates your position, not you. Therefore nothing but changing your relationship will change how she treats and thinks of you. Good luck and please leave. Save yourself the heartbreak. Anyways, much love and care. 😊 Ps: if you want I’ll tell you more or if you want to talk about anything I’d be happy to.

imagine toxic beige boy moms

As someone from Texas, hearing the car vs. $300 Visa gift card AITA fully FLOORED me. Cars are a NECESSITY to get around here. It's not a matter of "interest" it's a matter of having viable freedom of movement. I wonder where these people are located. If it's somewhere in the States equivalent to Texas in terms of automobile reliance, then the daughter's reaction would be light compared to mine lmaoooo it ain't even about the monetary expense

25:31 The implication that a daughter wouldn't do that for her is crazy. When it comes to love it holds no gender. My sister has carried my mom up the stairs when she couldn't go up on her own. The reason is because she loves her dearly and wants her to do well but apparently to this lady it's something that's not possible 💀

Dude, my mom is great and isn't as toxic as these moms but she sitll has some boy mom tendencies. Whenever someone was pregnant she would say "better hope its a boy they're easier to raise" like omg they're easier for you because you made me grow up fsater and take up adult tasks instead of my two older brothers. They were easier because you didn't get mad at them for everything, they were easier because you adultified your child daughter and took her innocent behavior and put negative connotation behind it.

9:26 "he lies to her about his home life for attention"/"he tries to convince her his home life is awful" is a MASSIVE red flag in this whole schtick. anyone who's been raised by an abusive narcissist has had front row seats to this kind of bs. personally, i tried reaching out for help *once*, and cps got involved. after a few months, my parental figure pulled me out of therapy and then made me write emails to "admit that i lied for attention" to my school counselor, the dean, and my two closest friends. long story short, if someone is degrading their kid like this, keep your fuckin' eyes peeled for who's the REAL p.o.s.

I love your videos, Kiwi. Your videos always cheer me up even if it’s topics like toxic boy mums. And I really appreciate that you write your own CCs and not only the auto-generated ones

“Pick her over me.” And that’s the problem, parents should never be in competition with their children’s partners. Those are two different kind of love and relationships. There is room for both!

They're so busy teaching their sons to expect a certain kind of partner with a certain skill set, of a sort....but are they teaching their boys to respect women? To treat them like queens? To know what 'no' means? To never use the term 'friendzone', or assume that kindness, friendship, and general smiles means they are owed something? Hm, I think the answer to that is obvious. And that is so sad, that that is where their values lie. Obsessive in all the wrong ways.

Can we talk about how Kiwi’s earring game is ALWAYS on point? Like she is rocking those Toy Story earrings!

My cat died a few days ago and this post made me feel better so thank you❤

Little girls are not that simple yk? I was in princess dresses chasing down frogs in the mud and muck as a child. As an adult, I’m in overalls fixing up machinery while in a full face of makeup. Women at all ages, especially girlhood, are so complex.

In a really harsh day off my period, so a queer kiwi video coming out is just what I needed. Glad for the boymum topic, Lmao.

Freud having a field day with these women

My bio brother 'loved' my mother while also verbally and physically abusing her. She disowned him when she found out that he SA-ed me several times when I was 11. Didn't pass Go, didn't collect $200, told him to get tf out of our lives and don't come back. She could tolerate him abusing her, because she felt like she deserved it 'cause she spanked us when we were little, but she put her foot DOWN when it came to him abusing me. She tried so hard to prevent his mistreatment of me, but she had no idea how far he had already went the few times she wasn't looking. But alllll that time, he claimed he loved his mother and his 'baby sister' dearly. Acted like the model son whenever someone outside the house was around. It was horrendous. As soon as we were alone, he'd tell our mother how much he hated her and wished she was *gone,* if you get my meaning. He thought he could get away with anything because Mom tolerated his abuse and his father (our bio father, who I've disowned years ago) enabled his behavior. No, sons do not love their mothers more than daughters do. Abuse and hatred are not gender-specific behaviors. He abused her, meanwhile I'm still around and would trade my life for my mother. These 'mothers' who favor their children because of some INSANE fanfiction they made up in their heads, as well as enable and encourage their sons awful behaviors, boggle my mind. My mother disowned her own son to protect me. I doubt any of these mothers would do anything close to that if, horrifically, they were put in the same position.

I taught kindergarten for fifteen years. We took the kids to The Nutcracker one year. The best reaction was from a little boy who was totally sports-obsessed and generally traditionally masculine. He leaned over the balcony and had his mouth hanging open the whole time like it was the most medical thing he ever saw. His mom said he asked Santa for the movie that year.

God, that story about the twins is heartbreaking. It was bad enough as a younger child always being an afterthought (e.g. my older sister got a car and a huge party for her high school graduation, while I got a $5 piece of costume jewelry and a reheated takeout pizza), but I can't even imagine how much worse it would be if it was my LITERAL TWIN.

My son was stillborn, so I don’t get to raise him, but I was so excited to teach him all kinds of life skills so that some day he would be self sufficient enough to be in a partnership and engage in relationships with people because he wanted to, not because they fulfilled a need he hadn’t been empowered to fulfill for himself. His sister is going to learn all kinds of skills and as much self respect as I can empower her to have so she has the inner strength to withstand potential MILs like these ones if she finds a person she decides is worth it, and the confidence to know she’s worth better if her partner caters to toxic parents. My son and daughter both deserve(d) to be taught that they are worth being loved and respected, and I’m going to make sure that if any of my kids friends have a parent like these ones, they have the opportunity to learn that they deserve love and respect from the people in their lives whenever they’re spending time at our house.

Yo idk if youve been seeing these shorts or not but I've been seeing a lot of video of women doing a back and forth with themselves complaining about their husband not doing stuff around the house correctly or at all. It's an interesting topic and I hate seeing them, I feel you're perfect for discussing these weaponized incompetence apologists

My relationship with my son is the most beautiful, powerful, inspirational and pure thing that I have experienced. But thats just cause he's my only child. These women are so creepy.

The Jiniret slowly falling in the background was so funny to me for absolutely no good reason. Also the outfits on them were adorable!

Toxic boy mum: why dosen't my daughter visit me anymore Also toxic boy mum: i love my son unconditionally I love my daughter conditionally

If I ever have a son I'm gonna teach him to cook so he can take care of himself and learn that cooking isn't exclusively a woman's job.

i think something that these boy moms miss, specifically when it comes to the whole "teaching my son to cook so he's not [insert whatever here]" is like... it is SO close to the point. we should try to raise kids, regardless of gender, to be good people. we should show them how to have a healthy relationship, both romantic and not, and should "raise them for a future relationship" in the sense that we give them the skills needed to be able to set boundaries and have good, strong, and stable relationships

My mom hated the color pink when she had me. She doesn’t anymore, but she just got me cute little blue, yellow, or green outfits as a kid. She always put a bow in my hair to stop strangers from thinking I was a boy because of the blue, but most of those yellow or green outfits were girly and had flowers and stuff. There is definitely a middle ground that these boy moms are acting like doesn’t exist.

Yes, when I was a little girl, my favorite color was pink and I wanted to be a ballerina. But you know what else I wanted to be? A firefighter, a basketball player, and a superhero. To this day, superheroes are my special interest and I have so many comics, movies, and action figures. I still like some feminine things, but I've always been interested in "masculine" things as well like video games and superheroes.