"The gays need to stop sexualising kids" says the mom, who wants to be her son's true love, and is planning her 6 yo daughter's wedding

These moms give me the same vibes as those dads who didn’t know women have value until they had a daughter.

All these women keep saying, "you don't experience true love until you have a son", damn, so your husband isn't your true love?! Wild

The “I’ll be my child’s first love” trope with straight parents is one of the grossest things this world normalizes on a daily basis.

Every child deserves a parent, not every parent deserves a child

The fact that the 1st mom described herself as a toxic mom as if it was not a big deal, she knows it's toxic and still doesn't move a finger to change that 💀

As a girlfriend of a guy who has a boy mom; I am her biggest competitor and it’s so exhausting. I will never be good enough and am expected to be a mother and lover which is wild. Ex: “if you’re going to do my son’s laundry for the rest of your life, you can’t dry his shirts in the dryer, hang dry only like mommy does” literally word for word.

"He hits and punches his sisters, but maybe he's just had a bad day." Spoken like a true enabler.

My mum somehow managed to be a boy mum while having all daughters. She had a boy before me and my younger sister but he was stillborn. She holds this dead child over our heads telling us that if he survived she wouldn't have had us because all she wanted was a boy and ruins fathers day for our dad every year because he was born in the same week as it. She has 5 daughters and would happily push us all aside for a child that was never alive because he was a boy 🙂

These moms are a prime example of how to not only make your children hate YOU, but also hate each other.

My older brother dislocated my jaw by elbowing my face when he was 17 and I was 15. I was passing by him. My mom said "you probably deserved it" and refused to take me to the ER. She also told me and my little sister that "since he doesn't have a girlfriend you need to give him cuddles because boys dont get enough cuddles". I have so many stories, but basically my mother would make so many excuses for his behavior (and still does - he lives with her at the age of 30). Really messed up, glad I moved out as soon as I could.

That first woman gave me such an ick when she was talking about their weddings. Especially the daughters, it’s so gross that she just sees her daughters as little dolls to dress up. What does that teach them? 🤢

These are the types of women who call me selfish for not wanting kids. The same women who have daughters because they want a ''mini me'' or because they want a free child maid to take care of the chores and siblings. The same women who have sons to make their husbands jealous and because they want someone who gives them the love and attention they don't get from their partner. Ah yes, very selfless and not selfish at all.

That internalized misogyny hits different when it’s a mother, doesn’t it.

I’m a cis male, and I have one cis male brother. My mom is what I would lovingly refer to as a “mother who has boys.” She taught us to be responsible, kind, well-adjusted, to love ourselves and others, all of the classic parenting lessons. She’s not perfect, no parent is, but I think she did a pretty good job with us. I also have an aunt, technically a family friend but functionally an aunt, who has five boys. She’s a boy mom. Her kids are spoiled and entitled. Lavish and expensive birthday parties where the kid was almost always crying over some stupid detail, yelling and trying to hit me and my brother when we were playing with the toys that they wanted to play with. It was one thing when we were playing at their house with their toys, but it even happened when they were at our house playing with our toys. The oldest one only recently grew out of being a brat and mellowed out to some degree, and he’s a high school junior. He’s lucky if you ask me, some of his brothers are getting close to that age and showing no signs of stopping. I remember being at their house one time when I was younger and hearing my aunt say “aren’t you scared for when they start dating and your babies start to get stolen from you” and my mom being like “hey what the fuck” and me also being like “hey what the fuck.” I was somewhat young but I still understood that a significant other and a parent hold incredibly different roles in a person’s life and I still remember thinking about how weird it was to act like a partner would “steal” a kid.

My mom treats my brothers like golden boys. The sun shines outta their asses. As a girl, I'm her biggest regret.

Why do i have a feeling these mom's would not be happy if they found out their son was gay

"He hits and punches his sisters, but maybe he just had a bad day." And this is when you teach your kids not to use having a bad day as an excuse to physically hurt someone. That's the kind of mentality that produces abusive partners/parents.

21:06 not to mention this is phrased as if having a daughter is somehow punishment for bad behavior while having a boy is being ‘rewarded’ with love 💀

As someone who’s dated a guy with a boy mom, she was insane, at teh start she was nice and basically wanted to be friends with me, but when she noticed her son was actually interested in me and actually liked me a lot. She basically started to act like I was he competition and made sure we never saw each other and it tore apart our relationship. And she did the sam thing to his female friends. and she listened to our calls and made sure we never got to be alone and actually developed a real relationship. And as soon as he and I broke up she hated me and made him hate me ( same thing with female friends). I honestly feel for the kid but his mom affected him so badly that Jesus he may not have a healthy relationship for a long time

This reminds me of dads who are so overprotective of their daughters that they view her love interest as a competition and threaten them for “breaking her heart”. It’s very creepy

My mother is a toxic boy mum. I haven't spoken to my family in many years, but last I've heard, my brother is 26 years old, working in an industry where he can AFFORD to live on his own, but still chooses to live at home, and everyone other than my parents all agree he has an aura around him that causes unease & discomfort. I've heard it from my childhood neighbors (both kids and adults), my cousins, most of my brother's former friends, and even HIS BOSS. People don't feel safe being around him. Like he's always on the verge of snapping. And this isnt even getting into how these toxic boy moms also baby their sons in regards to chores & basic care. I used to call my brother "pigpen" behind his back because he would come home from construction sites, absolutely covered in filth & smelling rancid, but would not bathe unless my parents begged him to. Last time I saw him, he assaulted me. Dug his nails into my arm & would not let me go until I promised to apologize to our mom for hurting her feelings. These are the sons these women are creating. The ones that give off serial killer vibes.

My mom once said to me "When me and your father talked about what gender would we prefer our kid to be I said a boy, but when I had you, and I held you for the first time, I had no care in the world if you were a girl or a boy,All I could think of was how much I love you, you are my kid, you're a human being, and I'll do my very best take care of you and raise with all the love you need" And I think thats how a normal mom should see her kids. I've never once seen a hint of misogyny from my mother growing up. Of couse she is not perfect, but I am grateful for her, and always will be.

"you owe your kids everything, and they owe you nothing..." Girl, preach

I heard a boy mom say "God gave me a daughter to fix the mistakes i wish I would've from a young age. God gave me a son to know what love and security truly feels like." All i got from that is I'm going to be harsh, overbearing and critical of every action/thought my daughter has to live vicariously through her and I'm going to spoil and love my son unconditionally and he can do no wrong

3:45 she's in for a rude awakening when her daughters find these in the future and she figures out she isn't going to have any role in their weddings LMAO

As the mom of a boy (and a girl) I find this SO weird. When I think about my son finding someone one day, which is rarely because he's not even two years old lol, I'm excited for him to experience that and for us to meet the person he ends up with. I feel the same way about my daughter getting married one day. So many boy moms told me "you'll be his first love" before I had my son and it sounded SO cringe and creepy.

Hi! I'm a daughter of a boys mom, and I can testify that this is exactly what's happening. While I'm being shamed and punished for the smallest mistakes I make, my brother is celebrated for the smallest effort he makes. Now that I moved out I constantly being guilt tripped for leaving bc "now there is noone who help in the house course." And when I tell my mom to teach the same skills to my brother as to me so he can help, she is like "but thats not a man job". My brother is 13, he can't clean, can't cook and unable to complete the smallest tasks bc my mom did everything for him.

the competitiveness that toxic boy moms feel between their husband and their daughter gives oedipus complex vibes 😬

the way toxic boy moms are like "you dont know true love until you have a son 😊" as if 10% of all women killed by men weren't killed by their sons

The fact that she isn’t sad that her daughters will grow up to possibly marry a guy whose mom let hit people too..

Sending love to all the amab children to boy moms who are actually trans girls. Because heaven knows how that’s gonna go.

As a daughter to a toxic boy mom, this doesn't stop when they grow up. They are treated the exact same way and it gets even creepier while the daughters are begged to get married because mom wants her little grandbabies so she can do the exact same thing with them

I really hate to see Freud winning

I am a teenage daughter of a toxic boy mum. I live in the same room with my brother. When my mother comes in at night to hug my sibling and kiss him goodnight, she never bats an eye on me, she just leaves. Since I was little she always acted like I was her competition for dads attention. She always treated my brother as a better, more grateful child. I'm just gonna tell you- growing up I always felt unloved and I plan to leave my house and live on my own once I turn 16 and I'll be able to work.

It’s rough to be an older brother with a toxic boy mom and also have a younger sister and see how she gets treated compared to you…there’s a lot there 😩

“He hits his sisters, he punches them, and I’m just like, maybe he’s had a hard day” NO, JUST NO

Imagine what that mom would say if her daughters hit her son back, I bet they get scolded bad. There's a reason why men tend to be aggressive and confident while women tend to be less confident and more worried about how other people feel: it's because of the difference in upbringing.

As a person that grew up with two brothers, I can say that I do have resentment for my family believing in the "boys will be boys" thing 💀 while forcing me to grow up quickly and learn how to handle household chores. To all girls/middle child out there, hope that some day we'll get to heal that childhood trauma of "just being there while the siblings gets attention". ❤🎉

My mom has 4 kids. 3 girls youngest is a boy. She definitely favored him over the rest of us. It painfully obvious. I had assumed it was just because he was the youngest... You know ... The baby! It was when I was around 10 or 11 when I started to get the feeling that it's not just that he's the youngest. But that he's a boy... Her tone, language, manorialisms and behavior was just VASTLY different. She didn't just show him more attention and affection... But it was the way wanted him to favor her too... Even over one of us, her own daughters! Like she was in competition with us over him.... She was also a VERY young teenage single mom rejected by her dad, my dad, and my brother's dad... But my brother has NO CHOICE but to depend on her for everything so he COULDN'T reject her... It was all so very toxic. She's spent years in therapy to sort out her many issues with abandonment, codependency and the trauma from abuse and DV... and I'm so proud of her, her progress, the work she's constantly doing, and the person she's become! It's possible to recognize, work and change!

I think the mere fact that they call themselves “boy mums” is already ridiculous. Have you ever heard someone say they’re a “girl mum”? Like your just a mum, you’re not special for having a son because like you had a 50/50 chance of that babes.

Imagine being one of those daughters, old enough to use a phone and coming across your own mother’s tiktok account where she tells the world that she loves your brother more than you and that she cuts him slack when he treats you badly because of that fact. Imagine figuring that out on your own on accident after a period of who knows how long of feeling paranoia that you’re not enough for your own mother anymore.

I saw a boy mom destroy her whole family because her favorite son got married. She acted as if he cheated on her. Don't be like that.

This video reminds me when I experienced the brunt of this first the first time. I was 6 and my little brother was 3-4. He was loud and attention-seeking, and would trample over my boundaries all of the time. It did not help that I have high functioning Asperger's. So I was super overwhelmed, and never had respect or space in my dysfunctional household (even if I did not have Asperger's i was always the scapegoat). My brother could run all over me, lick, kick, bite, spit on me, saying he had a "crush" on me and wanted to "marry me." This, even as a six year-old, really creeped me out, and being quiet/passive to get by only made it worse. It would get to the point where I would try to softly express my discomfort, I remember actively being reprimanded and guilt-tripped because, "He just loves you, he's so sweet and full of love and you just hate that!!" My parents would openly discuss in front of me how they were afraid I was going to end up like my mean failure of a step-cousin because having boundaries and being overstimulated to them was the epitome of "mean and miserable." They are still like this to this day. I am actively working on getting to a safe place to become estranged from them.

had a teacher who said she hopes her son turns out to be gay because she wants to be the woman he loves the most forever. it was extremely disturbing to me and she even said that she was getting excited that she was seeing "signs that he was gay."

I find it hilarious how boy moms are often like this, while every instance of a 'girl dad' that I've seen is just genuinely wholesome. And usually has some kind of story about the dad going against toxic masculinity to learn how to paint his daughter's nails, do his daughter's hair up in really cool hairstyles, or to just learn how to manage their own emotions so that they can teach their daughter how to.

The Straights (TM): ewwww you cant take your children to kid friendly drag shows, that's grooming 😡 Also them when a mother is practically in love romantically with her son: Aww so cute 😍 💕

I always think about how the Kardashians have protected the sons in the family so much. Keeping them out of the media etc while the girls are in ad campaigns, seen all over the internet. It's weird to me, you should want to protect all your children equally and not based on their gender. It's all too common unfortunately.

"Emotional incest" is a perfect explanation

Growing up Latina I’m so used to seeing women coddle their sons/husbands/male family over their girls. I have so many stories of boys having favoritism and shit. One time my cousin broke a glass bottle of tea and it made a huge mess and I was the one who got yelled at for it by our grandmother. We were teenagers and he’s two years older than me 🙃

People really just film themselves admitting to child abuse

I also saw a really heartbreaking AITA post on reddit awhile ago about a mother wanting to LITERALLY send her 5 year old daughter to live with someone else because she got along with her son (who was like around 6 I think) a lot better for some reason and genuinely did not like her daughter. Can't for the life of me find it now but it just breaks my heart for these little girls who grow up knowing they are not as vauled as their brothers.

Maybe boys expect their girlfriends to be their new moms because their moms used to use them like a boyfriend. It’s disgusting. They’re saying all these things about their sons like "I don’t want him to get married I want to be the only woman in his life" well you are his only mom. Unless you had something else in mind. Sicko.

My mom became a “boy mom” whenever she had my little brother. He was the 3rd child out of 4 and my mom was ecstatic to finally have a boy and would talk about how he’s “her one and only baby boy” and he got a lot of favoritism growing up. But I think it’s hilarious (in a sad way) that whenever I came out as trans and have transitioned she still calls him her only boy. Anytime I try and tell her that the way she treats my brother is enforcing misogyny in him and my little sister she ignores it. Love the video! I haven’t seen this talked about to much!

I'm a granddaughter of a toxic boy mom, and the way my grandmother treats my mom vs my uncle is insane. I'm honestly shocked my mom isn't way more emotionally f*cked up. Also, my brother was the first grandchild, and my grandmother kisses the ground he walks on. It's super annoying because my grandmother has always bragged about how feminist she is, but when it comes to her own family she treats all the women and girls like trash. I was also named after my dad's mother so she really doesn't like me.

i said it on another video but i’ll say it again: if your relationship with your son would make freud happy, reconsider

homophobes will be "concerned" (hateful) about gay men adopting sons but meanwhile there's straight women behaving this sorta way towards theirs. It absolutely disgusts me that some parents will treat their children differently based solely on what's in their pants. My mom had her share of issues but the stuff displayed in this video is so far removed from how she treated my brother and me that it's hard for me to really wrap my head around it. She definitely used us to fill the void she had because my birth father was an abuser who didn't love her but she would never stoop so low to get this specific kind of love from us. It was more like she used us as therapists lol. Sigmund Freud may have been a depraved hack job but even a broken clock is right twice a day. I hate that there's people that continue to prove him right about this sort of thing. I will say though that unlike how he explained it, it's not a natural aspect of human nature. It is 100% conditioned in us by extreme heteronormativity but it's still there and relevant for a lot of people all the same. I wish parents would raise children in a gender neutral way by default. Just let them pick and choose their hobbies and interests and self expression as they see fit based on what is around them rather than steering them into a specific box. Some parents should really just collect dolls.

The only good thing to come out of boy mum tiktoks is the Sigmund Freud memes

As the only 'daughter' in a family with four brothers this is freakily accurate. My mother has outright said that she wishes she could marry my brothers since they were BABIES. She also views me as a mini copy of herself to mold into who SHE wanted to be.

my mum has a subtle favoritism over my brother. it was definitely easier for her to understand that my brother is stressed with school and wanted to go to therapy cuz it affected his mental health greatly. i did the same thing multiply times, telling and also hinting her that i have a hard time with school and its damaging my mental health greatly and in response she just compared my hardships with her and saying that she's more tired etc. really made me feel like that my exhaustion isn't deserved and that i shouldn't feel this way at all.

My grandma is a toxic boy mom. Her son is now almost 60, lives with her because he never knew how to do anything for himself and lost all of his money, is abusive to her, is manipulative, wastes all of her money without an ounce of consideration for her. And she still acts as if he is her special baby boy, she doesn't let anyone criticize him, thinks he can never do anything wrong. It's 100% emotional incest. Truly bizarre relationship.

Sigmund Freud is giggling in his grave and I hate it

As a mom of a baby boy and a toddler girl…this behavior confuses and concerns me. Deeply. I want my KIDS to be happy PPL and whenever THEY get a partner, I hope they are an amazing person that also makes THEM happy. But…I didn’t even think about this until I saw this video. He’s a BAAAAAYBEEEEE and shes TWOOOOO. I love that my husband and I get to be my kids first loves…but I certainly don’t want to be their only loves. 😂 I want them to grow up productive and happy kiddos. It does make me sad that my grandparents were obsessed with my daughter and when my son was born…she seemed pushed aside and it breaks my heart bc my daughter is such an amazing, brilliant and creative little creature.

And she'll still expect the girls to take care of her and their brother when they're older.

When I was a child, my mom used to tell me: " Oh, we all were so happy to know that we're having a girl, because you would be our little helper." Helper, this word put so my burden and pain in my heart because I actually often felt like I was born to be decoration, or last chance to fix their broken marriage, or caretaker in their senior years. But not a child to be loved. I was valued for my functions but not loved for who I am. My mother's favoritism towards my brother went so far that she often blamed me that I take too much love from my father, so my brother doesn't get enough. So, to make things more "fare" she consciously loved my brother more. Now, when I'm 22 and my brother is 32, I am the only person my parents put emotional labor of solving their marriage problems onto. Despite my brother being more mature and actually having family of his own. They never dear to bother him with any family troubles.

When a daddy's girl with covert narcissism and a dislike of their mother grows up and becomes a mother, that's when you get a toxic boy mom.

I’m only a girl mom but I just can’t understand not loving your daughters and wanting to give them all of your love and tell them every day how beautiful they are just to build them up.

As a mom of 2, who are both boys, “toxic boy moms” make me feel sick. I love my boys very very much but when I think of them growing up and getting partners I don’t get jealous, I get excited because I know that one day they are gonna go and live their own lives and even though they’re little and that won’t be for a long time, I know they’re going to be their own people who don’t need mom to hold their hand forever

I despise the notion that you have a boy because you needed true love or w.e and a daughter to have to grow up, like that makes it sound like having a daughter is a punishment.

I really don't understand how much some people care about their childs sex

I'm genuinely grateful that both my parents aren't toxic or have a favorite child. They see me and my two younger brothers as equally important. But I did meet a toxic boy mom. My aunt. During Intermediate School, I was here in the USA living with my grandmother, uncle and his two kids. We were perfectly fine until my aunt (my mom's and uncle's eldest sister) moved in with us. She had always favored one of my cousins for being a boy, while she didn't really give me and my other cousin (who is a female) the same amount of care or respect. She would call my cousin that he's "the love of her life", her "husband", etc. She says she hates men, yet favors him. And even after she FINALLY had a child who turned out to be a baby girl, she still favors my cousin. Thankfully he never let my aunt's "love" get to his head, he was always and my and his sister's side. But it was genuinely creepy. Now, we all stay away from our aunt and genuinely do not appreciate her presence. All three of us know that she isn't a good person, a good aunt or a good mother. Truly disgusting.

"Your Kids dont owe u love" one of the realest lines ive ever heard and yet parents somehow never understand that if you dont give them love how will they return it? How could you even hope for that?

Toxic boy moms and over-protective girl dads are cut from the same horrible cloth :/

My brother technically died when he was born (they were able to revive him, he's okay now) and it really screwed with my mom. It was horrible because he always got attention and I had to grow up fast to take care of him. My mother taught me to put a pizza in the oven by watching me repeatedly burn myself and yelling at me to do better until I figured it out, and taught my brother by telling him to ask me to put it in for him. My parents eventually divorced and my dad got almost full custody but my father and I were forced to teach my brother things he should have known because my mother babied him so much. Toxic boy moms create hostility and incompetence. My brother has fallen out of those habits and is a wonderful human, but it was hard to get him to be responsible for certain things as a preteen and young teenager.

I also found it weird how in the first tiktok when she said she thinks about her daughters wedding she’s excited to do the hair and makeup. It’s like she thinks of her daughters as a little dress up doll instead of a fully fledged person who might not even get married or possibly has completely different tastes than her.

I hate toxic boy mums. I remember when I was 10 and went into the changing room after swimming session, there was this mother who was who was changing her 12 year old son’s clothes in the women’s changing room. All the ladies requested her to not bring him there and she said that he needs his mom to change his clothes cuz he is very young. 12 is def enough of an age to know how to change your own clothes. There were 8 year old girls who could change their own clothes. We finally had to complain to the pool authorities for that shit to stop.

"he hits and punches his sisters and i think 'maybe he's just had a hard day'" shit like this is what leads to the 'boys will be boys' mentality. It's not because boys are actually inherently more inclined to misbehave, but because parents like this excuse behaviour that they wouldn't for thier girls. I have no doubt this mum probably doesn't have allow the same excuses if her girls hit the son.

6:22 - strongly agreed. That woman is raising that boy to be an abuser or a bully, and those poor girls are paying the price for it. If she doesn't stop this behavior now, I don't see a good ending for any of her kids.

My last boyfriend’s mother is like this. The *extreme* levels of emotional incest was legitimately disturbing to witness. My ex is a very messed up person who treats women like objects to work out his severe mommy issues on and I blame his mom for being the origin point. I cannot begin to tell you how many things he would tell me about the relationship with his mother that made my stomach turn. She treated - no, TREATS bc it never stopped - him as a replacement for a partner from the day he was born. I mean this in every way you can imagine, yes, *that* way too. It was just so deeply disturbing. Even when he tried very hard to distance himself as an adult upon beginning to realize how unhealthy the relationship was, the sick grip she had on him is one he never really escaped.

Had a flashback to a story of malicious compliance, where a nanny was kicked, bitten, and PUSHED DOWN THE STAIRS by a toddler boy. There was a baby in the house (girl) and the mom constantly gave the toddler anything they wanted. At one point, when the nanny was told to give him what he wanted, she started taking the kid to get any snack he wanted and letting him in to where the parents were working. When she was instructed instead to just let the toddler cry til he settled down, the mom left and came home over an hour later and he was still screaming, following her around smacking her while she carried the baby until she put the baby down ON THE FLOOR and picked the toddler up til he stopped screaming. The nanny picked the baby up and got her settled, then left. I literally don't understand people like this.

My mother was very much a toxic boy mom in the 90's. Too bad for her all three of us kids still abandoned her ass despite any favoritism. I made sure he was drinking his Respect Women juice as we grew up.

I've heard quite a few cishet women say they don't want to have girls because they're too much work or are dramatic. And that shiz hurts my soul. If you genuinely feel that way you shouldn't be a parent at all.

8:15 I grew up with a younger brother who was physically violent and it wasnt taken seriously because he was younger but 1) he grew up to be a violent man and 2) i can confirm that it is extremely psychologically damaging for people to not take it seriously and it's something I'm still working through as an adult

I never realized that this was how my mother treated me and my brothers until now. My brothers and I have always had a strained relationship and im full of so much resentment towards them that I never really knew the cause of before this. thank you for this video

3:36 "he hits his sister and I tell them he's probably just having a bad day" OKAY COOL so the daughters will grow up thinking it's normal for men to hit them when they had a bad day🫠🫠🫠

sons are like “hey mom? im three and have no experience with big feelings. what do i do about them?” and these moms just respond with “idk have you tried hitting women? its ok if you know them” like,,, *h u h*

"god gave you a son to know what true love feels like" I guess god gave you daughters to get a son in law? or grandsons??? these moms are crazy

My parents, especially my father, always wanted a son. My mother had a miscarriage and their oldest child, a boy, died after a few months of being born. I don't remember how my sister was treated exactly, however my hair was always cut short and I was often called by the name I would have gotten, if I was born a boy. It really messed with my self-esteem later on, since my mother, after I hit puberty changed her behavior towards me. She didn't hug me anymore, for example. My parents made a lot of mistakes, but I have grown up with many different influences (online) and our relationship is much better now, as I started to act like the adult and approach them kindly. I do care about them and I love them, they have been horrible parents and the damage still makes me cry, but I don't want to look into the past and rather the future. It seems as if they do care about me now and I really want to believe that, because it makes my life much more bearable.

The worst thing about that first woman is that she KNOWS that the way she favours her son is wrong but does it anyway

imagine how the first mother would react if her son assaulted someone. like she would completely deny it and hurt the victim so much more in the process (im not saying that the kid will grow up to be a predator it’s just something that could happen especially if he isn’t taught that behavior isn’t okay)

Imagine those poor little girls finding those tiktok and knowing that their suspicions were actually true, your mother has a favourite

These boys are gonna grow up to be serial killers.

Let's not forget, daughters also exist for free labor! I'm AFAB, and my mother was a boy mom before the trend. It went back to when she was pregnant with me, and both of my parents thought it was raucously funny when he would punch her stomach because he didn't want me to be born (how do I know? because it was one of the stories they would tell about how cute my brother was when he was a kid. Sigh). My mother used me for free labor, and even with the seven year difference between us I was expected to make all of his lunches when we were both home from school. I did all of their laundry from the ages of 8 to 18 almost 19 (except my brother left finally when I was 16) and only stopped because I went to college, along with a bunch of other domestic tasks (another one of the things that I distinctly remember is having to vacuum the entire house mostly alone whenever my mother told me even though the vacuum was mostly taller than me, with occasional help from my father if he noticed the vacuum was about to fall on top of me. Fun times... and yeah, surprise... I don't really talk to them anymore).

24:00 everyone always says this mom is joking, but it doesn't matter. Throughout my whole childhood until I got hospitalized my mom would say she'd pick favorites based off what we did. Eventually I gave up because i hated having to earn her approval and love and having to compete with my brother so I started acting out. Apparently the favorites thing was a joke, but it didn't feel like it You have to be clear if you're joking with children, and even then there's a line where they won't recognize it as a joke no matter what you say

I'm a girl and growing up my dad had always told me I could get anything I want and boys would do anything for me because I'm a girl. It isnt true at all and I was so confused and upset when boys in my class didnt do what I wanted. As a kid I believed my was god, or some kind of superhero. Everytime I'd tell my dad about a friend that was a boy he always say I had a crush on him or give me a lecture about how guys only wanted sex, I was only a little kid, from 1st grade to 3rd 🤯🤠

the fact that there are parents teaching kids of my generation these lessons is terrifying to me.

Holy shit this literally brought up repressed memories of my dad. I'm a trans masc so I was raised as a girl. I have a younger brother, one time we went on an elementary school trip and he forgot to put sunscreen on and got burned. I got grounded for that. Another time in high-school my brother punched me in the head and all he got was a "don't do that, bud"

i would never argue for taking love and care away from a child but i have witnessed how extreme favoritism for boys ruins lives. i had a friend who had to go to a worse school because her brother didnt get in and she wasnt allowed to go anywhere else/anywhere better than him. it starts out cute but it leads to guys who in full sincerity expect their wives and girlfriends to be their new moms.

The most toxic women be having the most kids and keep having them

I’ve heard a few things about the possible psychology behind this, some people think that toxic boymoms act that way because they have experienced abuse from men so the idea of now having this boy they made themselves and can mold into whatever they want can function as a (albeit terrible) coping mechanism for them to “fix” the trauma, the downside is that now they get unhealthily emotionally attached to their child and on worst case scenario, put damaging expectations on that child and treat them like a partner because “he is the perfect man i made for myself, its not fair that someone else gets to have him” *** i do gotta say that (to my knowledge) this is not scientifically proven but just a theory as to why that behavior exists in the first place, it also might not apply to every single person