I discovered your channel through my therapist! Everything you’re saying about coherence therapies is really clicking with me despite me not being a professional.

Tori, This video series is amazing! Upon completing these videos, I put my best effort into a memory re consolidation that has been limiting me for some time. I was able to come up with the evidence why it's just not true anymore and felt a shift in my body. You do an excellent job as a guide for this material, I am very grateful you made this series. Thank you so much, and all the best to you going forward!

Thank you so much Tori, the entire series is full of well explained, essential information.

I am so glad that I came across your videos! I’m currently receiving therapy using the I FS model, and it is incredible! Having your videos to watch and just consolidate my learning and progress even more. Thank you.❤

The last words you said Doctor were substantial. Paraphrasing, to get in touch with your belief from the past and realize it with the reality of the present.

This is brilliant. Thank you for creating this video and synthesizing all of this. Truly wonderful ❤️

This is an awesome explanation of our inner selves! I am part of 2 different Christian inner healing groups that are making this concept normal. We do it in a relationship with the Trinity. I love hearing how this works for anyone regardless of personal belief!

Hi Dr. Olds. I am writing this as a personal message to you. I just saw your videos. They are great. Thanks for putting them out there. I am a meditator who is also undergoing therapy for developmental trauma. I am currently at a point where I do need to work with implicit memories ... clearly.. and your teachings seem to be made for the same work. I am really grateful for what you have shared. I hope that all beings heal with such therapies. Wishing you the very best!

23 min in. Bruce Ecker's index cards. This sounds like a variation on CPT. But I already have changed most of my black and white statements (Nobody, everybody...) into greys. (Few people like me. Many people see me as incompetent. I don't trust more than a few people....) Overall I don't find it helps much. The key here, from what you are saying is to recognize the exceptions, and dwell on them for 20 seconds or so. 24 min in. Reality as it is. In some cases the reality is to get out of the relationship. I can see better how the index card may make you more willing to change. As a modification of this exercise: Carry the card around. And as disconfirming events occur, write them down. I sort of did an inverse of this when I was a boy of 14. I thought my mom was nagging me about this and that ALL THE TIME. So I started writing them down. At the end of 2 weeks, I had 4 items. So I stopped believing she nagged me all the time. Writing down instances of a belief or its disconfirmation for me is very powerfull 24 in. "No longer a child" A lot of the time I feel like I'm 'stuck' being a teenager. I still like young people better than adults, and am far more comfortable with them, and am more ready to trust them. (This worked well as a high school teacher) But then, a competent teenager is almost adult. But I still haven't figured out what I want to do when I grow up. (grin) 25 in. Could you do a video on connecting to parts. I have real trouble getting meaningful contact with them. It's all 20 questions, as I try out different notions and see what sparks resonance, except with my older parts. (A protector and a gate keeper both in their 40's sort of, although one seems ageless, older than dirt.) 26 in. Powerlessness and compassion. Feeling compassion for a part is MUCH easier than for myself. Liking a part is easier than liking Me. I have a bunch of parts that I like a lot better than I do myself. Powerlessness is more subtle than this. It's one thing to know that as a "big person" I have powers of agency to do things that I didn't have as a child. But I also don't seem to be able to use these effectively to make changes in the directions I want. In a sense I've traded external boundaries for internal ones, but I don't know how to get rid of hte internal ones. 26.5 "There's always an adult for us." Yeah. Instead of being small, and no one is there for us, we can be big and no one is there for us. Hopefully as bigger people, we don't burst into tears as easily. Sorry, but as a non-child (I don't think of myself as adult....) I don't find myself very good at giving me comfort. A big part of me feels I don't deserve comfort. Another part says comfort is too dangerous. One of the best things about parts, is company. Even if they are as imaginary as the imaginary playmates that kids have, they help with the loneliness. I do NOT want to lose my parts. 27:46 How do you find safe, supportive communities? 29:00 I'm not spiritual, and have strong dislike/contempt for the church that gave me such hangups about sex. (Not entirely the church's fault. My parents hand a big hand in this with their silence on all things relating to sex, including setting zero romantic example.) 29:50 Sifting through life. I'm doing this. Trying to write down snippets from my childhood. The wrong things are being confirmed. Very few memories in my house in the public spaces from age about 8 to early teens. This fits in the window of probable physical abuse too. Thanks for this video. No need to respond to this comment.

I am not sure if you are aware of the impact you are having on ppl at least for me... I am really starting to see light again in my life!! Thank you so much and may god bless you ✌🏻😊

These videos are amazing. Never before have I been this engrossed and fascinated to watch the next one....and the next. This information is making so much sense where I was previously very confused. Very grateful to you. Thanks

Your videos are so amazing and I’m blown away!!! I’m going to journal and ask myself these questions tonight! Thank you so much :) your videos are helping people!

Thank you so much for making this information intelligible and accessible to all. Much love for your work

So very helpful. You are a blessing ❤

Great information for people. I understood this long ago , good to refresh the knowledge and confirm what I know. Thank you.

gratitude and brilliance

thanks for onboarding me to this amazing potential. You have a very clear and deep ability to communicate. Much gratitude.

Another incredible video! SO much incredible information so well presented.

Fantastic stuff! I'd like to challenge the idea that rationality is not involved: Identifying feelings, thoughts, urges, and memories is rationality in action; and disconfirming with competing evidence is rationality in action. Perhaps there's a different conception of rationality here. 😀 I say that rationality is the commitment to use logic, and logic is the art of noncontradictory identification.

Thanks for your passionate work I am a psychiatrist & had no knowledge o f this & it’s difficult to find a compassionate Therapist nearby. I will try to learn from your videos. May God bless you🙏🙏

Thank you !!!from Argentina

Thank you Tori for great explanation.

Great video, really clear and helpful, thank you!

This is absolute gold dust - please can u run for president??!

Thanks again, very very clear: for those without access to money Adult children of alcoholics (includes dysfunctional familys) ACA work with inner child work Also when you are triggered, shouting arguing....the child is triggere, activated usually frightened or hurt....can you access that material by talking to someone, journaling, reflecting k

Thank you Tori.

@Dr. Tori Olds would you mind providing a reference for the amygdala taking 20 seconds to process positive experience and a quarter second for negative please? Very interesting!

Amazing vide as always

You are awesome. Thank you 🙏🏽

These videos are so brilliant and helpful.

Wow awsome concepts and Presntation. Thank you ☺️

Kinds of educators: 1. "I make sure what I'm saying sounds really complex, so you're impressed by my intelligence." 2. This (solid info without pretense).

Dr. Tori: so enjoy in your series! I have been searching for a psychology graduate program which has IFS or coherence therapy and somatic therapy. Can you give me some suggestions? IFS or coherence therapy only take credited therapists to get training. Most graduate program is about cognitive therapy. I like to have the transformational changes for self and others. (I learned SE with other practitioner)

Wonderful video Tori! As a fellow psychologist, these newer modalities have reignited my passion for therapy after using CBT for years. I think IFS and Coherence Therapy sit so nicely together. Are there other modalities/techniques that inspire you or that you use in your practice?

Great explanation! Thank you for making this video. Quick question: When the 5 hour window period is open during memory reconsolidation, when it is able to be updated, how do negative experiences affect that memory? For example, you reactivate the implicit memory, there's a mismatch that happens with disconfirmation, but you think about negative thoughts again or have a perceived bad experience. Does that negate the mismatch and you end up not updating the original negative memory at all. I guess my question is, once you have a mismatch, how do you prevent negative thoughts or experiences from coming in that supports the original negative schema you're trying to get rid of?

These videos are excellent. Will you be continuing to teach online like this? So thankful to have found your work.

Do you find that the "Affect Bridge" would help in tracing implicit learning? If so, could you please demonstrate the Affect Bridge? Thanks!

16:05 self therapy

How can you tell the difference between parts work and osdd?

I have a question that comes from a critical place, but I do legitimately want to know your thoughts on it. This method sounds a lot like an "EM" or "exploration of meaning" that was practiced in the NXIVM cult or the Auditing process in the Scientology cult. How is it different from that? I would appreciate your input on this.

Just discovered in me: If I let myself feel good/pretty about myself then I won't improve myself and won't be perfect. Interesting

I'm thinking to date a psychologist so much understandings in every date😅

Has anyone tried it and helped?

Hi, I really appreciated this video and have some history using techniques similar to the ones mentioned. As someone who struggles with anxious attachment patterns of relating, I’ve looked far and wide for ways to update my patterns. I feel like I have brought the implicit to the explicit level. I have evidence of why my implicit perceptions are not true. But, I am not finding lasting change when the triggers become more present. Are there reasons why this could be the case? The work feels quite cognitive, so I might not be really accessing affect.

Could you please suggest me a book on pyscology to understand and heal myself for childhood and adult traumas ?Also ,please suggest if medicinal therapy does help with restoration of whole brain functioning ?Does it help to heal not just the neurological but the physiological and mental effects of trauma as well ?

I really appreciate your content it's very helpful well explained & practical...Thank you so much, Dr.Tori. I have a question: Last night, I try to do the reactivation part, I thought it would be easier but once I began to ask questions & get curious, I felt really scared & judgy of all the images & memories related to a particular thought or belief. Like" I never paid attention that this X conversation heart you that bad or made you feel smaller! God, you're so weak & unconfident". I tried to do this by journaling but I felt so ashamed of writing down what this "inner me" feels or believes. So, I tried to imagine the conversation . Still, I struggled the most to accept the feeling or hear the answer of this "inner me " who is crying& feels powerless. I would go back & forth to reassure her that it's a safe space; you can talk, & then I would get judgy& scared again!. I wonder What if I the "adult me" can't handle the truth either?! what if I'm also incapable of helping the "inner me" or make her feel supported & stronger?! Or this "judgy/scared part" is also another inner part & I should do the same work with it? & if so, how can I make the space for these two-characters or parts while trying to make the implicit explicit?

Cool concept. Do you have a "how to" book? I come from a background of CSA as a toddler, caregiver separation age 5, CEN from 5 onward, and possible CPA from age 5 to age 14. A very high stress teaching career with little support didn't help. I have no conscious memory of the trauma. I don't have signficant intrusive memory -- some amount of emotional flashbacks, but never very strong, I can usually take a deep breath, "I'm having an emoflash. It will go away" and carry on. I have been doing parts work with a therapist who uses mostly modalities from Fisher and Perry with chunks of IFS, and it's working, but slowly. I've identified 3 teen parts, two ~8 yr old parts, a 4 yr old and a toddler. There are other parts,but I suspect that some of them are projections -- like imaginary friends. I like the idea of transformational change, but am curious as to how do you reactivate the schema? Since watching this, whenever I get a memory, I "talk to it" "Yes, then we did need to worry about the next meal. We were growing, and we couldn't be certain if there would be enough supper. That's not true now. We have a pantry, and two freezers that we keep filled. We don't have to eat, just because it's available." So my process is: * do something that activates a childhood memory. * examine the emotion that comes with it. * talk to the me of that era calmly and compassionately and explain in words and imagery why the action may not be necessary any more. Currently I do a "group meditation" with my parts, starting out with a statement, a variation on, "Welcome everyone. You are safe here. YOu are save, NOW. The bad events are decades ago. The people that did them are gone. I am no longer little. I've grown up, and can protect you. My teen parts will help me protect you who are smaller. Many of you carry memories of dark times. When you are ready to talk we are ready to listen. No rush. You need to be comfortable and secure and safe first. At this point I try to create a feeling of calm friendly warmth. While I usually succeed at this, it often is only for a minute or two. And there are parts that so far won't come. A punishment part. And a 'you don't need therapy' part. May be the same. *** Two ways of introspection that may help clients: A: I have a memory map project. Short notes with my age at the time, the location, and what happened there. B: Talking with other people about childhood, particularly shared. I've gotten a lot of points on my map from connecting to ex playmates, my sister, browsing aerial photos of the neighborhood. A letter from my sister sparked another dozen. I'm up to 260 so far. And I'm seeing a pattern: Few scenes inside where my mom is there. Only one scene where my mom is angry, yet from my sister, mom was angry a lot. This is where my probably CPA comes from.

Is it possible for someone to cure Sexual fetishism based on complex trauma by this method? Most of the bad memories are unconsciously written. I hope you to see my question....

Why oh why couldn't you have been my mother? Lol

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