You are amazing! The kind and compassionate way you explain things...it's not stone cold clinical but not airy fairy positive. It's clear and easy to absorb and understand. This is an incredible skill. Thank you for sharing the way you do.

Damn. Went to therapy over 5 years in my twenties. For years of SA as a child that left me with C-PTSD, major depression, and always suicidal to some degree. The therapist knew why I was there, everything I had been through… and still crossed serious lines multiple time- ethical and legal. I’m in my late 30s now and while I finally was able to improve some, this video here made me be able to put into words something I knew but could never really verbalize- that therapist made everything so much harder, so much worse, and now I can see why. If that therapist is “opening” these memories the NOT “updating” those schemas properly, even in fact confirming them by repeating that same kind of abuse… that’s like setting those schemas in Roman concrete. To be honest, I don’t think much of my distressing beliefs about people and the world ARE logically wrong, just that most people need to believe the world isn’t as dangerous or violent as it really is because they couldn’t cope if they faced it. Being older and wiser I am badly depressed less often, but more angry. I see that as massive progress though, since while anger has. It’s problems, its still a lot safer in all ways than depression. And anger is only happens when you blame others, and other are who deserve the blame in my situation, and it took me years to be able to feel that.

The gentle demeanor and emotional intelligence you present is extremely comforting

I have not actually commented on a KZfaq video before, but feel compelled to here. The information being presented here and in the other videos by Dr. Olds are incredibly helpful. I went through a divorce a couple of years ago which sent me on a self discovery journey I was not expecting. I found myself looking autism and then found myself looking into concepts of trust and then further into trauma and parts… and now I see an actual way to treat trauma and frameworks to think through these subjects. It is also frightening and I see how there is significant work to be done that is aside from intellectually understanding or being familiar. Thank you for the quality of the communication here.

Truly revolutionary. Without working with subconscious felt based belief, there's no real change in humanity. This is not just about "a change", this to me feels like a huge shift, a transformation. Thank you Dr. Olds.

Thank you. These are THE BEST videos online about Memory Reconsolidating; more people need to know about these.

Love your channel. I hope it grows. This video actually explained a recent experience of mine, where i was able to do exactly that. I struggle with a anxiety disorder and figured out what core belief is behind the fear. I then proved to myself that it is untrue, while i was in the state of strong anxiety. It was relative easy, because it was the belief that i am dumb and i made an iq test. But it was a very strong and liberating experience. After i was surprised, that it really changed the anxiety attacks in certain situations, without me having to constantly reafirm myself. I am glad i found a explanation and i hope i can utilize it in other cases.

Late to the thread here, but a huge thank you for putting to words some of the bits and pieces of concepts I've found along my personal path of healing but haven't had words for. The world owes it to those of you dedicating your lives to these studies.

The greatest incomparable gift to the psychiatric, therapy and teaching is Dr. Tori Olds, the world ,clients,and students are bettered by her work and her kind sincere engagement.

This is very helpful for porn and sex addiction. I did memory reconsolidation on my own, without knowing what I was doing or what MR is, because I found out that the root of my fantasies when I wanted to hook up with random girls or watch porn, was a belief that was given to me during highschool, that the amount of sex I had was tied to my inherent self worth, and my strong urge to be accepted by peers, which at the time was immense, translated into a craving, to fill this void. And of course, I couldn't ever fill it, so I kept wanting more and more, which is what I called addiction. But then I brought that memory and belief up, I felt the emotions of it... And changed the memory and belief. Suddenly, the cravings vanished, even if I go and expose myself to it, I am not interested in fantasizing about it or hooking up with random girls... It happened so suddenly and it was like magic... I talked about it with others that had the same issue, and imo this belief, given to young men during their teens, it is something widespread nowadays, that's why you have all of these redpill/incel/nofap communities , that's what they all have in common.

Thank you so much Dr. Tori. I've been on a journey (ifs and psychedelics); I discovered your channel a few days ago and am so grateful for your voice, cadence, unpretentiousness, and complete information. I discover so much more with your style!!! Note: I was triggered by the date you posted this video because it was 12 days before my major trauma. I hope you know how you make such a difference in peoples lives! Thank you for sharing and being part of the psychological renaissance you mentioned!!!

Just kinda had an emotional release because I connected soo well to this!!! Thank you soo much for the work you do because you’re saving lives!!! ❤️🔥

Such a useful series, Dr. Tori :) Landed on these while I was looking for videos to support learning for my students (We are learning about Cognitive Psychology) and now I am hooked. Thank you so much! As a practicing Therapist, this is like landing on a Gold Mine :D

This is a very clear presentation about memory reconsolidation. Thank you!

Dr. Tori Olds I want to express a pure love and gratitude for you making these amazing educational video. And express how much it has transformed the way I relate to myself to others and my internal landscape. I’ve finally at 28 been able to accept I need help and to start therapy which was very intimidating for me. I want to thank you and your part in it all !❤

Thank you for putting me on to Bruce Ecker with this video, and the Parts video. This process is very much what we use in Hypnotherapy (my training is 5PATH) with age regression, forgiveness work and parts work. It’s good to have the neurological research and language to back up our work.

you are kind of my caregiver that was missing when I was child.. you are the hope for me.. I thank you from the depest part of my heart..

I also wanna thank you for your service. the way you explain is very clear, simple and inspires compassion without it being a religious commandment. thanks ❤

It is amazing and gives so much hope. It also explains how manipulation works in reverse mode. How even evidence don't change some people, only causes temporary confusion. If someone doesn't like the evidence, if they don't benefit emotionally or financially, new evidence stops them for a little until they gather/ make up excuses or information to reinforce the old view that they don't want to let go. Self-deception falls into this behavior too. We live in an exiting time. Humanity needs tools to heal traumas, so we don't destroy each other and our environment. It is painful time because growing is painful. Looking into mirrors can be painful. If there is no willingness to take up that pain, if the comfort of not changing is valued more: no betterment of our world is possible. Also: that is why gaslighting is so mentally exhausting and can drive people crazy. When a predator is enjoying hurting their victim, when they enjoy the confusion, the victim's mental abuse is playing with her basic survival processes. In a level that is not even in her hand because it is wired so deeply, it is evolutionary so important, it is about survival. At one time, I was gaslighted and two versions of reality were presented at the same time. Although I did wanted to find the truth with the full commitment to handle the truth, my mind felt extremely messed up. I even felt nauseous and somewhat like they spun me around. At night, when my mind still wanted to come up with a coherent story, I was grinding my teeth. I was so surprised in the morning when I didn't understand why I have sand grains on my tongue. It took me a couple of seconds to realize: that is actually the top of my teeth. Mental abuse is powerful, painful and deep. On top of it: nobody takes it seriously because it is not the same as a big, gaping, bleeding wound. To suffer alone without any other human's care and warmth is pretty awful.

Yes! Thank you for clearly putting into words the things I implicitly (hah!) learned after decades of failed therapy. I am convinced this is the reason why CBT does not work for (most) people suffering from CPTSD, and can in fact harm, dysregulate, and traumatize further. Cognitively brute forcing your way through nervous system (over)activation and deeply wired trauma responses is not sustainable or even possible in many cases. I wish more therapists were aware of this, it would have saved me decades of suffering and iatrogenic trauma. Thank you for being part of this growing movement and spreading this knowledge!

I love the way you explain things, with such warmth. I feel deeply understood and that relaxes me a ton. Thank you so much

This video is more helpful to more people than is probably communicated to you. So I thought you should know that.

I love how I feel hopeful after all your videos 🥰

I’m just blown away by all your videos! Like seriously blown away! You are awesome! Thank you!

These videos are fantastic and so clearly explained. Thank you.

Question 🙋🏻‍♂️ You said that there is a five hour window for “updates and tweaks” to the original schema….how many times can the memory be opened and reconsolidated? What if the memory for the client is to horrific? Wouldn’t that be more damaging in the long run? Absolutely LOVE your work and videos, NGL your videos have encouraged me to look into becoming a therapist :)

Fantastic video! The changing of implicit memory and production of transformational change ❤❤❤

Really great stuff. Gently updating the core, suboptimal, harming beliefs. Sounds very similar to exposure and/or CBT to me, too I loved the examples Dr Olds gave later in the video (10:00ish) because it showed us how to apply these techniques It would be even more helpful to have a daily set of steps / ritual to go through to actually reconsolidate a common memory that most patients struggle with; you gave the sharing your emotions example, but more steps from start to finish would be awesome!! As usual, Dr. Olds' advice and explanations come from professional experience applying these techniques, and data-backed research papers that have been successful at helping patients

Dr Olds, what you are describing is what the Lefkoe Institute has been doing for 30 years. It is quick and effective and it has changed my life.

Hey I done this to work through misconception of my past that played an effect on my every day life. Great explaination

you are a natural teacher

Nicely done. I am just learning about this form of therapy.

Really great presentation! I just want to say that I, and others, practice a form of psychotherapy called the Pesso Boyden System Psychomotor (PBSP, named after it's inventors, Albert Pesson and his wife, Diane Boyden Peso) that has been operating with these principles of memory reconsolidation since the 1960"s. I'm pleased that the memory reconsolidation model is becoming widespread!

Your video was great, you have gained a new subscriber.

Thank you Tori for sharing your knowledge with such clarity.

Thank you very much for a very clear and concise explanation of memory reconsolidation :)

Are you familiar with the work of Eugene Gendlin? He and his colleague had discovered essentially the same thing by analyzing the work of many psychotherapists. I wonder if they did it before Bruce Ecker did. The process he developed is called Focusing. Here's an excerpt from Wikipedia: "Focusing is an internally oriented psychotherapeutic process developed by psychotherapist Eugene Gendlin. It can be used in any kind of therapeutic situation, including peer-to-peer sessions. It involves holding a specific kind of open, non-judging attention to an internal knowing which is experienced but is not yet in words. Focusing can, among other things, be used to become clear on what one feels or wants, to obtain new insights about one's situation, and to stimulate change or healing of the situation.[1] Focusing is set apart from other methods of inner awareness by three qualities: something called the "felt sense", a quality of engaged accepting attention, and a researched-based technique that facilitates change."

Well done

Thank you Dr. Tori

Loving your channel Tori, I hope you keep it up

Beautiful work, Dr. Olds!

Awesome. Thanks.

this is indeed useful, i hope there is more like this quality

Excellent video for therapists and clients. Will pass it on

thanks for sharing this knowledge

Excited to learn more. I'm curious what techniques are used to trigger the old implicit memories? What if you have a hard time feeling emotion?

Wow this is amazing. Makes so much sense

This is incredibly helpful, Dr. Olds. My only issue is that I'm 58 and I have a really hard time remembering specific incidents from childhood. Are there ways to remember some incidents so that I can uncover these schemas and is it possible to do this on your own? Do you recommend guided meditations or journaling to bring them out? I wish you''d consider creating a guided meditation. You have a soothing voice for sure. Thank you for these amazing videos!!

I am curious about the statement, "Memories exist in a neural network or pattern." This is something I have heard before. Axons, dendrites, and neurons do form patterns when stimulated. However, the patterns are not fixed and dissipate when the stimulation ceases. When the stimulation stops, the axions move to other interesting sites, the dendrites accept new axions, and the pattern dissolves. The dissolving of the pattern has led to the assumption in "Memory Consolidation theory" that there is a "Memory Trace." The memory trace is said to be the process whereby the brain keeps track of all of the patterns of axions, dendrites, and neurons, signaling them to reassemble into the pattern developed initially. This mechanism is not well defined, and its location is unknown. When dendrites and axons are inactive for some period of time, the brain has a process called "pruning and trimming." The inactive connections are pruned and trimmed out by the brain to make room for more active connections. This is related to the brain's neuroplasticity. If patterns were formed permanently as memories and the memories were inactive for some time, as in long-term memory, the brain would prune the connections out and destroy any patterns that could be reformed. We have trillions of memories, and we make new ones every moment. The older we are, the more memories we have. How does the brain know which ones to throw out or keep? Notwithstanding all of the connections of neurons in the brain, if all our memories were permanent patterns, the brain would be filled, and we would experience gridlock in our brain. So, where are the memories? We have struggled to find one memory in the physical brain, and we have not found one yet. So, where are they? There is no current theory on how memories are created, how they are stored, where they are stored, how they are recalled, and then restored or reconsolidated that will pass Occam's razor. The most curious question is, where are our memories? We have so many memories, yet we can't find one in the brain. Memories are changing all the time. They are in a balanced matrix; when one memory is changed, the whole matrix must be rebalanced, shifting and changing many other memories. Memories build on each other, and none stand alone. The video sounds great, but it seems to have feet of clay. Mike

Fantastic explanation!!

Thank you for that video! Really helpful and insightful !

You’re great!❤❤❤

I really wish I had a therapist

Brilliant. I love your style of explanation. Thanks

Ty

Amazing! you deliver so clearly and you inspire

Sounds like ART?!

Soo good! Thank you!! I will share this. I am a firm believer in the coherence work.

ok. i'm halfway through and i'm thinking maybe i didn't hear correctly what i heard since it's about 1am and i should be sleeping. if i did hear what i've heard...WHOA!!!!!!! comment to be continued at some point ...

Thank you for this

This sounds like such a powerful type of therapy. How can I start this kind of therapy? I have severe PTSD and I think this could be useful for me.

Hello, I'm very new to coherence therapy and see mixed reactions on the web. This video of yours is 4 years old; have you used Coherence Therapy a lot in your practice in those intervening years? Is your experience as glowing as Ecker's presentations? Like all the symptoms go away? Thanks for your clarity, gentleness, and great examples. Cheers to you, Richard

Good video

Thanks buddy

Really enjoying these videos. Thank you

Great video! could you name some of the most revelant authors currently doing research on this topic please? Thank you and congratulations!

this is amazzziiiinggggg!!!

thanks for the video

"Opening neural networks for relearning" only matters if the client actually has a different reality to learn different things from. Leaking through is the assumption that the client's view of reality is distorted and that they just need to be somehow conned into fixing it.

"The heart doesn't always know what the head knows." "My cognitive acknowledgement doesn't mean I've taken it to heart." "In order to heal old wounds, you must first reopen them." "This body is nothing more than a biological meat-machine that runs experiential programming." "Reprogramming a behavior rooted in memory requires an experience at least as profound as the memory." "Overwriting scars." I've been toying with this concept for years now, saying things like those. The topics on this channel are uncannily analogous. I'm a computer programmer, and amateur behavioral psychologist with a special interest in trauma and neurodivergence. I recently found myself overtaken with the idea that there are "many me's", I found that the way I would disclose my "current mind" to others (my "current headspace", how long it takes to "change my headgears", that "I am in work-mode and can't take your words to heart at this moment", or that "The mode my head is in right now is unable to play guitar very well at all, I'll need a few drinks to let my emotional side come out", etc) is incredibly analogous to D.I.D, in that "changing headgears" was analogous to "switching", or that being unable to pull myself out of an age regressive state is like being "front stuck", etc, except that my headspaces are all "logically co-conscious, but not emotionally co-conscious." Like, "I know I'll feel an emotion about X later when I'm no longer in this dissociative state." I subsequently began talking about this rather publicly, and I was then recommended to look into IFS, which is far, far more descriptive of my perspective of my own behaviors and the "many me's" thing. The "memory reconsolidation" reverberates to me all of my language about my meatmachine hypothesis, the lack of free will (eg, self-sabotage, different "me's" having different ideals/goals/desires, inability to simply will permanent change in my own behavior), etc. It also subsequently transformed into more of a philosophy full of paradox (eg, we only behave as we are experientially programmed to, therefore I cannot reasonably judge others for their behaviors, and yet I still do because I am programmed to do so), that simply being cognizant of something doesn't mean it has been taken to heart -> internalized -> incorporated into my behavior and treatment of others, but that continuing to be cognizant long-term would result in slow gradual change (CBT, I suppose). That personal CBT-esque idea thus extends not to one's self, but in how others are conditioned over time to behave as a result of how I treat them, and so on. Thus, it became more of a philosophy and more of a secular and psychological personal religion/spirituality with one main underlying morality that admittedly is very jesus-esque: "Treat others how you would prefer to be treated", because behavior is viral, behavior spreads, and kindness spreads. That spirituality - being based largely on the premise that we are all merely meat-machines - also implicitly expands into a pantheistic perspective - that human neurological processes - and as such, human psychological behavior - operates on the same fundamental laws of classical physics: actions and reactions, a need for homeostasis, a mental balance, "As above, so below. As below, so above." That as a physical and biological machine programmed through our experiences of others, that all societies themselves are also emergent machines, working together to build, survive, etc, and yet also harm itself; and yet through that harm, there is a balance, a silver-lining, and in the case of trauma, that silver lining is often an inescapable drive to become self-aware enough, forced to become emotionally intelligent enough, to work through that trauma and use that gained wisdom to understand our own psychology and to help others. That there truly is a reason for everything, even if it may not be pre-determined, that reason may be as simple as cause-and-effect. That we are all one. That we all have purpose. And that nothing we could ever do could possibly take that purpose away from us. And despite that some of our existences are horrendously painful, the only miraculous thing about any of this is that we have the ability to experience it, to be self-aware. That self-awareness itself is the way to reprogram ourselves, and therein lies our freedom of will, yet which could not have come about if trauma did not exist. That is the inevitable mathematical solution to the problem of the imbalance of trauma: free will. One doesn't exist without the other, just the same as there is no cold without hot, no up without down, no inside without outside, no good without evil; these are merely the opposite ends of the same corresponding scales. It is no wonder at all that therapists so often become therapists due to their own personal traumas. To have problems is to inevitably seek solutions. How did you come to work so closely with IFS and memory re-consolidation?

Fatntastic presentation style!😊

Appreciate you, Dr. Olds. Thank you for this video. :)

Excellent video ❤️❤️

This is an amazing video and makes so much sense on why i have certain trust issues in relationships that follow me regardless. What are ways to reactivate the experience and change the belief patterns. it seems the only way would be to trust my partner to not hurt me/do things that have happened before that i lack trust in and have my partner validate me in those times. however, i feel that if i am hurt and proved wrong again it will only strengthen that irrational predictive model. how can i use this in relationships & change belief patterns with new experiences without depending on someone else to change my belief systems and have the patterns be solidified through my own work?

Great video. Very clearly presented.

Yes

I love this explanation. May I use this video on my website for educational purposes?

Wow, really well explained and somehow entertaining as well, thanks a lot :)

wow! awesome! now I know what I am going through))

How do you prevent emotional flooding in reactivation?

How to do Reactivation? is there some more information I can read\watch on it?

I'm confused. When I think of the actual traumatic memory, I can't actually get a felt sense. It's cognitive. So I'm not sure how to reconsolidate the memory. I get the felt sense of the memory during specific moments, when I'm going through a depressive episode, I'm stressed, things are going wrong, and the negative beliefs about myself surface. THEN it is felt, along with the corresponding schema and beliefs about myself. So what do I do when that happens?

Is Schema therapy enfolded in Coherence Therapy....are they distinct as I just discovered Schema Therapy recently...I'm guessing Coherence is a more advanced and deeper type of therapy than Schema ?

How would you apply this to an implicit belief system? Seems like they work quite similarly.

Are the other chapters under the same title?

I’ve identified my schemas and “reopened” memories… how am I meant to disconfirm or update them? They remain the same.

This work is identical to Maxwell Maltz's PSYCHO-CYBERNETICS. Also, other works like Goldman, Clynes, Peale and a number of New Thought Metaphysicians and Spiritual Leaders. And if you look deeply, The Bible and all of the other great scriptures talk about this same process.

Where can i receive this form of therapy as a patient? Can’t seem to find anyone

you have a soothing nature ، sometimes its hard for me to hear this type of videos , what re consolidation mean ?

I tend to forget everything in indirect way, it’s like I’m doing it intentionally but I don’t mean it, idk how But what ik is that I started to do that in my childhood to run away from my reality and then I realized that i started to do it whenever i catch feelings for any person (a friend or a partner) i run away from making good memories with them and i tend to forget the already made ones with them.. It’s an endless struggle that is causing me to lose my whole life, like rn I’m typing this while I can’t remember any of yesterday’s event. Idk what to do, I would appreciate any advice you can give.

I have misophonia. What if we have no idea what the memory is?

Do you have any thoughts on Brunet's method? Im starting this week, using beta blockers to help the brain reconsolidate with out the bodily effects from the trauma.

faster eft is banging!!! Its already real

I have severe chronic fatigue, ehlers danlos - pain fatigue etc etc. Do you have a course that helps rewire the brain or help me?

How does memory reconsolidation work with delusional disorders? Does the person need insight in order to be helped with coherence therapy?

Hello Dr. Olds. Your presentation here is like a four course meal served on fine china! Thanks. You refer to Dan Siegel in another video I watched. He promotes creating a “coherent narrative” as a method of integration and change for those who have non-secure attachment histories. He and Dr. Lisa Firestone created an online course to guide a person through creating a coherent narrative (I purchased the course but have not gone all the way trough it). Would you say Dr. Siegel’s approach (assuming you know about his work in this area) is incremental or transformational?

So if you don’t remember memories then you’d likely have to try psychedelic therapy?

Intelligence is so sexy...lol this is so cool! Thank you🙏

i really need therapy but i cant afford it and im about to lose my mind and energy

Wonder if this is why MDMA assisted therapy works