Sorry for the funky audio... I am learing how to use new mics and there was cross over /audio bleed between the two... :( but I hope you like what we had to say! Steven's story is so powerful

This was wonderful. I loved working with you on this. I hope to do it again!

Parental abuse is the worst. The people who are supposed to be there for you, are the ones who are hurting you. It’s a rough situation.

Kati and Boogie together? Never thought I needed this collab. As someone who has dealt with abuse, thank you for choosing to have someone on to talk about this topic with you, instead of making an analysis video by yourself. I feel it’s so important for others to have their stories heard because each case of abuse can be so different. Keep up the great work! 👍👍

He seems so open and willingly to discuss his feelings. I pray he finds peace and confidence. 😊

Dear Kati, I have been trying to find the right words to be able to express my gratitude for the difference you have made in my life through your amazing videos. The fact that I am still here alive and relatively well is directly because I stumbled upon your videos on one of the worst days of my life. Biggest effect of your content on me and what I'm mostly great full to you for is the fact that you took away the stigma, guilt, shame and judgment associated with mental health issues and through your videos gave me the strength to get help instead of taking the easy, cowardly way out. So I can just say Thank you! Thank you from the bottom of my (still beating!) heart, thank you for opening up these difficult topics and making them accessible to people like me who need them badly. God bless you

He's so self aware. Thats a lot of the problem fixed right there.

Your channel deserves more attention

look at that good dog. 10/10

My heart aches for this truly beautiful man. Wishing him nothing but healing and love. Also for what its worth he has a lovely voice and a beautiful air of tenderness and warmth of person. He just seems like someone with so much good to give to himself and others. Its just that some of it is hidden in all of the pain and awful abuse he’s suffered. Sending him soooo much love and soothing energy!!! ❤️

This is so nice to make this video. Boogie is such an awesome guy. It was pleasure to talk to you and commenting you on your content. Keep it up Kati. I hope that you have a wonderful day

Yes! Romanticising or embracing the broken version of you is so tempting, but doing the work ultimately feels so much better, and it may get harder at times, but the further we go, the easier it is, because if nothing else we can look back and see how far we've come. Thank you so much for sharing! It's so moving to hear the story of a fellow survivor who's out there climbing up from rock bottom too.

I was not familiar w/Boogie (gonna check his channel out now), but I applaud his rawness & vulnerability...& my heart goes out to him w/what he has been through. Awesome, that he is consistently & presently trying to better himself w/his issues & traumatizing past. Kati, I recently found you & just want to tell you what an AMAZING therapist I think you are. Your demeanor is so calm, understanding, genuine & you are VERY knowledgeable...your video's speak to my heart in a way I can really feel, comprehend & use your tools w/my issues in my every day life. I have been watching a lot of them & honestly I have gotten more from you then the last 3 therapist in my real life. I wish you were tangible to me to have sessions w/in person! Anyway, just needed to let you know your helping me (I see along w/a lot of other people)...& TY.❤

Is the audio weird for anyone else?

I can relate to much of the parental abuse Boogie went through and have been a fan of his content for many years, nice to see two of my favourite channels doing a collab!

"even on your deathbed you can get a more comfortable pillow" legendary

Can I suggest that you do a video with Drew Monson? I think he’s a wonderful soul and it would be nice to see him talk about his feelings. Thank you Kati and Boogie for this inspiring video xx

This is awesome! I have overcome anxiety and can’t wait to share steps on how I finally let it go!

I love Boogies honesty and openness. Over the years I’ve become much more open and willing to talk about the things I feel and have felt and the things that I feel have shaped my view of the world and it’s helped a lot. Everyone needs to be able to discuss their feelings like this

Kati I love that you’re doing more collabs it’s really great to see you in action helping others. 💗

Thank you for sharing Boogie! I have always heard parts of your story and had always been interested to hear more. Thanks for inspiring other people with difficult childhoods to heal and work through it.

He’s a beautiful man and I get what he’s saying emotional abuse is worse sometimes....I’m still healing at 47 I’m finally getting strength to be me and to get toxic people out of my life but I still freeze when people are horrible to me...but I’m working on that....

This was so nice to watch and see someone struggling just as much as me. It helps to see I’m not alone. I know there’s a lot of resources nowadays for PTSD, but deep talks like this are really relatable and comforting to watch. Thank you, Boogie for sharing and being vulnerable

Kati, you're such an inspiration to me! Your empathic nature is similar to mine and it is so refreshing to see someone using such a power for good! Your compassion and insight has helped and will continue to inspire so so many ♡ in a world where so much evil and hatred is omnipotent, you demonstrate the fact there is still hope!

These videos give me some more strength to one day reach out about it. Also the dog omg!! 😍 instantly made the video that much better Thanks for the video Kati 💛

This man is such a warm and sincere person, he has so many wonderful qualities and seems really easy to talk to. It’s refreshing to come across individuals who are so honest and caring. The fact he is still friends with his previous partner speaks volumes, what a wonderful person

I haven’t gotten a chance to watch it all the way through yet, does the puppers 🐶 make an appearance!?! Edit: Watched it, loved it, and was NOT disappointed w/ the amount of 🐶!!!!! (And those fluffy ears!!!)

Such a powerful session and video. I feel for your guest because of his upbringing that I relate with so much. This video just shows me how deeply you care for your patients and people who come into your life. I just adore how kind you are and how you are able to kindly suggest or share thoughtful techniques to help someone. I'm so grateful I found your channel. I'm trying to come back into my body and heal past traumas. I grew up with lots of verbal and physical abuse from both my mom and dad and was the 2nd to the oldest of 9 and always trying to keep the peace and save my siblings and even my mom from being hit so I took the brunt of my dads abuse. Then when I went out into the world on my own and to college I was raped on a shameful amount ofoccasions. I drank and put myself in situations where men forced themselves on me. I always blamed myself but now I'm starting to see that saying no and asking them to stop should have been enough. It's not my fault. I have whole chunks of my childhood that I cannot remember. It's so tough because it hasn't gotten better in my adult life I seem to attract toxic relationships that cause me so much harm and I've been such a people pleaser. I'm learning to set boundaries and to find my worth. I'm scared to fully recall sexual abuse and I feel like I was malested as a small child. I have these feelings that come over me that I haven't been able to explain and I have started to have some flashbacks and its caused me to hate sex and not being able to be touched. I just need to remember so that I can heal. How do I help myself remember? I haven't been getting the care I need (I've been in therapy on and off since 2006) but I really want to get well and am still trying to find a great psychiatrist and therapist. I have spoken to 2 new providers over the last 3 weeks and am being seen again tomorrow but it hasn't been going well. There are just so many things that are bothering me. For me yoga is one thing that helps me get out of my head and back into my body. When I used to go to a local studio several times a week I was happier and a better me. Now that my practice is alone at home it's not as fulfilling but I still value it.

I love him so much. It is always so helpful for me to hear from someone that has also been through severe trauma because I feel less alone.

Boogie has such a big heart. To a fault at times. He apologizes too much for just having an opinion, which isnt the healthiest thing to do. Found your channel because of the collab, look forward to the content.

I was just talking to my friend yesterday who is also a survivor of child abuse about how it’s not talked about enough especially when it comes to the adults who survive and break the cycle and the daily struggles we go through.

Had my first therapy appointment this week and Kati you definitely impacted my decision to go out and seek help and that it’s not a weak thing to do, so thank you!

i love you so so much kati!!! i love what you stand for and how you help others. thank you for being so amazing and helping me understand all things mental health 💞💞💞

I'm loving these collabs! I'm just kind of bummed that the audio seems to be really quiet even with my volume up all the way :( I struggled to hear a lot of it.

This is powerful. His story is so beautiful and he’s worked so hard.

Thank you for sharing this video, Steven is someone that I really admire and respect.

Kati you are so sweet. We really need more people like you in this world.

What a beautiful discussion about the resiliency of the human spirit. Amazing man. I know he is helping so many with his story.

This was so important... so INCREDIBLY important. It struck me how openly Boogie talked about this because I often talk about my issues with the same factuality and people think that It's strange. "How can you be so accepting of your past?" Well there is NOTHING I can do to change it now is there? It's amazing to see it being discussed so freely.

It really stood out to me the bit where he talked about jumping out of a moving vehicle in an attempt to escape an abuser who has you cornered in a car, because I also have had to do that before in my past, and nobody I know personally has ever resorted to that risky of a flight response. I didn’t even care if jumping could have killed or seriously hurt me at that point, nothing would have been as painful as what I was going through.

The positivity in this video is remarkable. Thank you both for putting this out there and being so down to earth. Topics like this are rarely discussed transparently but I could (and I bet statisitics say 95% of us) relate to alot of these internal struggles. Also! Love your videos Kati, Im in my junior year for a b.s. in psychology and your videos always help me remember what I'm working for.

Hi, I just found your channel about a month ago and your channel and advice has really helped me

5 things that make me happy is hard man. 1 - Making my family happy 2 - My cat 3 -

My mom and I live with my grandmother She is the most toxic negative person I have ever known She’s nice and sweet one minute then the next screaming about bills and money and telling us we’re lazy and to move out when we’re both trying She is so obsessed with my mom and I when we leave she calls non stop when we are getting ready she asks us 20.000 questions She complains about every single thing She tries to catch us in lies so she has excuses to start fights The other day I was sitting at the table she comes in and asks me where I’m going I say didn’t mom tell you and she calls me disrespectful 10 minutes later the microwave she coffee pot are thrown on the table she’s screaming at us calling us lazy and white trash my moms crying I’m shaking and disassociating I’m so sick of my so called grandmother Some days I just stare off into space hoping for the day we move out and I can put this behind me but I know the anxiety will always stick with me I’ll always feel like I’m less than I’ll always feel like I’m walking on egg shells Because my own grandma made me feel like it I’m tired of going to bed wondering what she’s going to be like the next morning Those are usually the days I wake up to her yelling and I’m laying cod shaking Worrying I don’t know what to do I just turned 18 and I feel so stuck so useless

I think he's charismatic and kind. Confidence isn't just about looks. It's difficult for many different kinds of people.

I was brought to tears by this. Thank you for being so open.

Wow, Kati, two videos in a row you're interviewing my favorite people!

When I was experiencing anxiety disorder and depression 18 years ago it was the feelings of derealization that were the absolute worst. So disturbing when it first happened to me, I really thought I was going absolutely insane. And so hard to get control of yourself as that wave of derealization takes hold of you. For me it was like 20 foot thick glass descending over me and the whole world around me was just this hazy illusion. I mean you would be doing something as innocuous as talking to one of your friends or a work colleague and without warning this elemental feeling of "I'm not really here, none of this exists" would just descend. Sometimes I'd just have to walk away to try get under control (it must have looked so weird to whoever I was talking to....)

I love the explanation of DPDR! I have been struggling with derealization for years and it's always been such a difficult phenomenon to explain to those who haven't personally experienced it. Kati, thank you so much for spreading the word on disorders like this and destigmatizing mental illness. Much love to you and Boogie

Sometimes I feel like my traumatic experience was not enough for me to develop ptsd and my eating disorder...Is it only me?

I would be interested to know what 'types' of therapy Steven has done. I semi' relate to Steven's childhood, however, mine was more neglectful than physically abusive, but still emotionally abusive. I have found schema group therapy to be incredibly opening and has helped me get in touch with actually feeling again instead of using the childhood learnt survival techniques such as dissociation.

Alternate title: (Perhaps) The Two most Lovable People KZfaq

Wow im trying to be social worker and this video will help me to study, listen other people's experience. Thank you so much !!!!

I found Bougie when I was suicidal. His suicide video was one of the first one comes up. Bougie saying, “Reincarnation is a bitch!” Has stuck with me for 4 years. I also loves the Mountain Dew stew.

He’s telling his story so confidently. He’s not persuading me that he has no confidence.

35:40 words I wish everyone can hear on their worst days. Thank you for this

Your channel needs more attention. Steven is someone that I really relate to and respect.

The best pieces of advice I'd ever been given from his last of words shed a light on my concept that a really emotionally injured person walking on the right track can potentially play a part just like a real therapist to other people at the end.

Thank you for this! We love Boogie, he is someone my husband and we keep up with online and care about. ( hi Boogie! ) I agree with Kati, gosh we really like you! Thank you for the honesty and the updates. You both help so much and it is appreciated. Much Love.

It's so wonderful to see boogie working to improve his life. ❤ This was such a great collaboration.

everyone in the comments: kissing boogie's ass and praising him for being a martyr and an inspiration me, almost a year later, able to see through his bullshit and inconsistencies, having seen him gaslight his audience and bait suicide multiple times on stream:

Very interesting talk, glad to hear his story. Wish him the best. Is there any way "back" for people that have gone through traumatic things like this? Or will it stay there and you have to learn to live with it and control it?

not only do i love listening to you talk, kati, but i love listening to boogie talk!! so, this was the coolest collab for me :3 boogie is such a great guy & sammy is so cute jumping on your lap periodically :b love ya!

The captions on this video are wonderful and entirely accurate which is so awesome to see for such a long video! Huge thank you to the person or people who put the time in to do this

So this video was great! But I really wanted to comment that your hair is really pretty Kati!! I love the length!

You look amazing Steven. Keep winning!

I love Boogie, I can relate in some ways to his story. I love watching him succeed! Looking forward to all the great things to come I the future!

Kati, I searched, but I don't see a video of yours about phone and Internet addiction. I'd love if you wanted to make some content about this. I'm struggling with it right now. I think a lot of us are. I can't afford therapy right now for my anxiety and depression and it's a huge coping mechanism that I don't want, but fall into everyday. Happy Holidays, Abby

We all know Sammy is the real star of the interview 😉 On a more real note though, this interview gave me a lot to think about. I struggle with anxiety and some self destructive tendencies, and I definitely think I'll be talking to a therapist about dissociation. There's always a point when I'm hyper stressed that I start to just auto pilot. I log out. I've tries therapy before but with no way to vocalize my experience nothing came of it. Definitely think I'll give it another thought. I WANT to be a better me.

I enjoyed this video. Makes me reconsider how I treat others when I can get angry about stuff that I don't really care that much about. It's weird because I was never abused from what I remember, but I completely understand the disassociation. I just like to combat people's ideas, and sometimes get a bit too into it.

Boogie2988 I totally get how you would not have self-esteem. I suffer from PTSD myself and I feel broken and sometimes I do not care what I look like. I spent too much time trying to be pretty for others and I am done with that. I want someone who wants me for who I am. Not what I look like. Don't just not think you are worth getting your teeth fixed. My grandma used to tell me, 'you do it for yourself' and she was referring to just taking care of yourself. When I take care of myself it makes me fell better about myself. You seem to deserve all good things and a good woman to get old with as a best friend.

Wow. Great video. Learned a few things about myself and boogie. Watched him off and on and it’s great to see him make all the progress he has made. Thank you for sharing.

I had a bit of an epiphany about one of my own brain squirrels (what I call my specific "crazies " or mental health issues). Not sure I can put into words but here goes: unless I am indoors by myself and not at a window where I could be seen, I always feel like I am being observed and judged by other people. Not specific people as such, but just this ongoing feeling that people are looking at me and thinking badly of me. I suppose I have just accepted that I'm paranoid. But I think perhaps to some extent I am actually depersonalising - viewing myself from ths third person - and it's actually me looking at and judging myself negatively 🙃 not really sure how to overcome it but I can at least manage it and for the most part challenge the thoughts.

Hey Kati I was wondering something... What is the difference between Clinical Depression and MDD? thanks you!

I love and appreciate when people put themselves out there, warts and all, in order to raise awareness and incite change. I'm 50 now and was diagnosed with the cPTSD ensemble 6 1/2 years ago. The more I incessantly learn, the more I compulsively ponder, the more I come to believe that the only real chance I have at a normal life is speaking (and getting a service dog!). Perhaps getting it out there, pushing beyond the disbelievers and "omnipotent" self-help purveyors and trying to find groups of parents and youngsters who unfortunately understand chronic CSA and need to know more. Maybe in that role, and downing a lot of Ativan, I will somehow achieve some kind of prosocial, productive version of fulfilling "normal".

This helped me understand my own experiences better and put terms to feelings. I am currently seeking out a therapist. It has been a difficult process so far. I just wanted to let you know that I AM SO THANKFUL for this video.

What a beautiful story! I am so glad this was filmed. I can imagine that there's a fine line where you have to be mindful yourself, to not therapetize during what's meant to be a conversation. This provides great insight for what a therapist does in a "civilian" space, and thank you!

This was a really informative discussion. I've watched some of Boogie's content on his previous challenges with mental health issues and appreciate the raw and honest discussion here.

When he talked about his teeth it really hit home for me. My teeth have gotten so bad because of years of not taking care of myself, and I lost a bunch of weight recently and now the only thing holding me back is my teeth. They hurt so bad and I can’t afford to get the work I would need done. No insurance could cover me, I’m basically on the verge of being homeless and the biggest things holding me back was my weight and my teeth and I feel like I can’t enjoy my weight loss because I know how bad my teeth are and it makes me just feel like an overall shitty person because society really clowns and hates people who don’t have good teeth and they don’t take the time to understand why some of us have gotten to such a low point where we weren’t even brushing our teeth like we should have been, along with other basic self care things. I wish I could afford to get my teeth done because it’s a mess, he is so lucky he could afford to get his teeth fixed, I wish I was able to just get it done . I hope he does it for himself and I hope it makes him feel better about himself.

That dog is so chill

The subtitles were very helpful especially because of the funky audio. It kept me engaged in the conversation. Thank you

Idk how I feel about this video. Thank you for making it! I have never met anyone who has gone through mental abuse and knew that it happened. I don't know who to talk to, but listening to this is like talking about it. I feel like I finally got to have a conversation about it.

Thank you Katie for all that you do from a victim of attempted murder & PTSD survivor. I love your videos. Really helpful. ❤

I really liked this video, Steven is one of my favourite KZfaqrs and I really admire his calmness and rationality! In my home country (Luxembourg) mental health is still very taboo and therapy isn‘t even covered by our state insurance (which is really outrageous considering that health care in general is free). I personally try to open that dialogue over here and I really take you as an inspiration to do that, Kati! Keep up the great content, you‘re really doing amazing work 🤗

Hello Kati, I saw that you linked in your description box a video for translation but when I clicked on it it took me to your channel.

Kati, not only are you an excellent counselor, but you also seem like you’d be a terrific friend!

I've been struggling lately and watching videos like this helps me out. I would love to have a conversation with her and pick her brain about things.

What a sweet and dear person. I wish he would have so much more compassion with himself. Bless his heart ❤️

I'd have Derealization at the start of the school year. After having weeks of near isolation and then suddenly being surrounded by hundreds of people in classrooms and assembly halls. everything would blur together...

My dad was an Alcoholic. I can so relate to his story.

Can you go in detail with binge eating vs. food Addiction?

What a nice guy, can relate to much of what he said as far as emotional abuse being far worse than physical, and having no confidence after abuse... Ten years of an abusive marriage and there's nothing left of me...

This man is articulate well spoken kind creative and vulnerable all reasons that I admire his strength! 💙

This was such a great video. It’s really nice to see someone talk openly and truly about they’re mental health struggles. I’ve suffered bad with my mental health, for a good number of years now and I know how difficult it can be to talk about it. I have nothing but Respect to Boogie for talking about his life and his struggles. I really enjoy your videos generally! Their very informative and help me to understand my personal mental conditions better. And know you help many others, as well so thank you.

such a devastating life but such a positive man! I cannot ever understand these kinds of people who keep smiling even through the shittiest of times. I commend you, this is a great video!

Love you just holding Sammy the whole time

Kind of broke my heart what his mother said at the dinner table. Overfeeding him just to keep him from creating a relationship with himself and others. Like why? But i guess i can understand because my dad was abusive too and he did things that are unthinkable but still boogies experience is heartbreaking.

Thank you Kati for creating this wonderful video and giving me some tools to use.

Thank you for talking about DPDR! I'm always happy to see it recognized somewhere.

It was wonderful have this video up here today. It caught me at the right moment because I have been struggling. I would love to see more of these videos with interviews!