Probably the "everyone is always triggered these days!" crowd getting... triggered again. 🙄

@@jgr_lilli_ the irony is incredible.

As an adult with C PTSD , I mainly watch family friendly movies and shows- and I still get triggered easily, so this is really useful actually for many people ;)

I think if you were to watch any of her videos, without the understanding that she’s speaking of foster children, it could come off as preachy. And sadly it’s the internet and people see and hear what they want.

Are you okay now my mate ❤

Good point! IMO Inside Out is a movie for adults (who may have been through childhood trauma) and I think it's a good movie in that context, but yeah possibly too much for a lot of kids.

@@maddythelion My point exactly!!

Another DID pal, I find Laura’s content absolutely incredible and genuinely helpful I truly believe in childhood based recovery for people who has major inner child and childhood based spacial needs (meaning, letting the inner child use the body, and recover and self sooth as needed, it is incredibly healing at least for me- it works wonders) Honestly Laura, a lot of your videos changed the way I care and”parent myself (and of course my alters)

@@GuyG.KTalesOfAnimals don’t mean to only speak for my-selves but that’s the only perspective I know and I don’t want to speak for other people. It was triggering for me(and maybe others) but I can still see why it helped a lot of others. I’m so happy that movie was able to help some of you! That’s awesome!!! I agree I’ve learned so so much from Laura :) She’s helped my entire system in ways I didn’t know existed. Glad to meet another person with DID because someone understands but on the flip side we all feel for you and are saddened that you had to develop it to survive. Someday, I hope to watch Inside Out again and be able to help my own system feel more connected.

I think animated movied can be even more powerful than live action movies. I know a number of children who cried during Inside Out and they had not experienced trauma. I cried during "Up"

Thank you for watching and considering!

The preschoolers who are huge fans of Nsync??

I've only seen the first one while babysitting, but I think it's more aimed at tweens. Still could be a lot, but I never thought it was aimed at the under 8 crowd

Kids movies often have a lot of dark subjects. Even newer ones. I mean Anna is slowly dying in Frozen and that was for really young children too. Children are little humans, many of whom will expirience difficult things themselves in real life. Having dark subjects in children's media isn't a bad thing, I'd argue it's a necesity (though of corse not in every movie/book). What matters is how it's presented.

@@afairyist9981exactly. if they don’t experience it with supervision, they will eventually experience it without.

As a non-traumatized adult, I feel like this movie may be too much for ME.😢

I think it has Always been that way, and works out because children dont think too much into it (depending on development they might be scared but Not all). While they can't handle the "realistic everyday adjacent scenario" that adults watch because it IS too real for them.

Ty for the feedback and for watching!

Now that you mention it, that might be worth suggesting to CSM that they add. They could even consult with people like Laura.

I'm not a parent either, but I think it's fine to say "I am not letting you watch it because I know it would make you sad". And maybe "let's watch it when we can rent it at home so we can pause it if we need to."

As a parent, I have a conversation with my child at their level to explain the reasons why I am deciding the film is inappropriate. I don't get into the detail, but I do demonstrate that it's because I'm looking out for their well-being. For example, I might explain that the movie is too rough, and that we can look instead for a film where the characters cooperate instead of fight, or go on adventures together, and then I redirect to that. Even content with antagonism, or where there is the good guy-bad guy trope, used to be very upsetting for my little one. They would develop nightmares and anxieties stemming from that content. So we have ongoing conversations, and they understand from that that I am looking out for their best interests.

As an adult who was previously in the system, I as a kid would have found a way to secretly watch the movie if I really wanted to. Preventing me at that point probably wouldve been an invasion of privacy, something which could have been very traumatizing. I think having a very honest and respectful conversation with the kid about your concerns but letting them ultimately make the decision would be the best call. If they still want to see it, at least they can see it with you as a support, and you can together plan for what happens if the movie ends up being too much. If your child has PTSD, it is really important to be aware of what might trigger them. But also if they are expressing a willingness to look at and process these triggers, that's actually super important for healing. Being a safe place to explore healing would be very important when raising children, especially traumatized ones. And offering traumatized kids agency and control over their trauma in safe ways can make a huge difference. I am not yet a parent, but hopefully you find my insights and opinions useful to take into consideration.

I'd probably start by framing media as "fun" vs. "upsetting" instead of "appropriate" vs. "inappropriate" as a lot of kids in foster care have been exposed to inappropriate media; the term is going to feel arbitrary to them. You can model looking up trigger information whenever you start to consider a film ("I find that I can't really enjoy watching a movie if pets are in danger; it makes me feel really anxious. Let's look up whether this movie has that kind of thing happening in it. While I'm doing that, let's think of other things that might make it hard for us to have fun") and try to make it more of a discussion. Janne_Mai is also right that compromise can be considered, like waiting until the movie can be rented so you can watch it in a more familiar space and pause it whenever.

You can also suggest waiting until the movie becomes available on DVD, so that you can watch it in a more familiar environment where it's easier to stop or pause if kids get overwhelmed. (Not a parent either.)

I love the point that a movie potentially difficult for a child in a theater, where there's no option to pause and regroup, could be a much better experience when viewed on DVD in a comforting home environment would someone who knows what's coming up.

Please remember that isn't your fault. That's why the internet is so helpful now in helping people. The fact that you regret it now shows how much you care

Yes! I was shown chucky by my babysitter when I was 10 and I had nightmares for literal months afterwards, I had to sleep in my sisters bed with her for comfort. I was terrified to go back, they were awful. Their german shepherd also bit my sister and gave her a phobia of dogs. One time they refused to bring the dogs in and left her on top of a jungle gym for 2 hours in the cold, laughing at her. I hope she (the babysitter) is in jail. Not the worst thing to ever happen to me or my sister but it was still awful.

Ohh yeah the thumbnail for this video captures "they are slowly dying" geez KZfaq machine 🤦🏼

wait what?! lol

@@foster.parentingthe thumbnail for this video is the part where you & the captions say “they are slowly dying” I don’t make content so idk how this works, but that’s what OP was talking about

Thank you so much!!!

If you don't have the space or money to take her in, there's a lot of charities and government programs (depending where you live) that you could let know of her situation that might be able to help, especially if she's in a situation considered a priority (any combination of: single mother, pregnant, mentally or physically ill or disabled, has addictions, has trauma, is rough sleeping etc) Try doing a search for your/her area and getting in contact with someone. In my country, your local authority is obliged to prevent and help homeless people by negotiating with landlords and providing low-cost housing/helping them get a job/access to benefits. I'm currently in contact with mine due to living in temp housing I need to leave soon.

It's the best movie of the Trolls franchise. Get over yourself, lady!

@@janellehibbard I’m so glad you enjoyed it!!!

I think out of all of them we liked World Tour the best

@@foster.parentinghickory turning out to be a yodeling troll shook me in theaters. We rewatched that with my kids at home because everyone was sick. 🤒 not as fun as the theater but I’d feel terribly if we got a bunch of other kids sick.

@@janellehibbardtaste is subjective. Also using lady as a derogatory tag? Your internalized misogyny is showing.