Hammer das ist ja echt cool

This is a brilliant attitude to have, you are lucky to have such a great family!

Do you have step siblings? It sounds like you're only child for four people.

Carl Greisheimer You have a bizarre obsession with Dr. B's sex life. You have commented on every comment that references the subject and even managed to insert it when it was never brought up. Very bizarre. Clearly she choses to keep that part of her life as private as possible, as many people do.

This is all well and good, but if you have an immature, easily led, immoral, selfish idiot for an ex then any contact becomes impossible. Well, any time I met my ex it was a struggle not to commit murder. My ex has no real interest in his sons and does not have any contact with them. During and after the divorce I told my sons to keep in contact with him as he was their father, but the father found more pleasure in the company of his girlfriend's young daughters.

@@carlgreisheimer8701 I don't know Love, maybe you should write it as a standalone comment in the main section of her video. Be one of the first commenters and I'll just bet she will see it. Then she'll know. I've had some brain consuming crushes in my time so I do understand.

lazyperfectionist1 I also agree

i see you everywhere

A divorce dynamic is complicated enough and throw new partners!! uff.. How is life going?

Totally understand. But at the end of the day, new partners have to understand that the kids’ well-being are what’s most important, and that having their parents present a united front as good friends is so important for them.

@@StealthMode3924 totally agreed

@@NaharTamrin they also have to understand that the children’s other parent isn’t going anywhere and will not be shut out simply because their coparent is in a new relationship. I see that a lot in this day and age. “I don’t care if you and your ex have children together, I’m your partner now and you shouldn’t be involved with them.”

💯 My ex and I dont always get along but we do everything together that we should for the kids My most recent ex boyfriend was extremely jealous of my ex husband even though I was the one who left him My son was graduating from bootcamp and of could my ex husband and I both are going and I never lived that down🙄

compulsive and a perfectionist. Demanding....

As opposed to saying 'you're great, I wanna be around you.' Better yet, if that's what you admire... Why don't you aspire to be more like that? That's how you attract friends like that.

@@donsettie344 Don't be so hard on yourself. None of us are perfect!

Right!

Danny Booth I've never known anyone with kids that divorced amicably. If you can get along that well, why divorce?

M P I can only speak from my experience. A divorce is simply an evolution, a relationship between two persons and ending the majority of things, mostly personal intimacy, between themselves. Not the end of all the other things in the life they once shared. That’s all I can say on that. Dr B says it pretty well and I don’t think I can top that. DB

Danny Booth: Really? Are you also a psychologist and/or marriage counselor? If all divorced people followed her example, it would be really difficult for a divorced person to get remarried again. How do you expect a new spouse to accept his or her spouse's 'divorced vacation'? I don't see that happening.

My parents divorced 20 (yes,twenty!) years ago and they are STILL fighting.ughh

M P my thoughts excactly, I don't understand divorce in general, like how can you not just figure things out. I ges some people just never were taught the basics to a relationship or somthin or mayb just married super idiotic people.

Sounds like my crazy ass parents.

exactly what my goals are with my ex

They sound like great people ❤️ glad your father is ok 🙏

Says a LOT about each of you and the type of people you are in your hearts to be able to do that for the benefit of your children. Well done. 💛

Lina Katzke do they have new source each one of them

Sounds pretty good! Especially being able to see each other in walking distance!

You are a very lucky person son to have such mature and admirable parents. My husband had been single about 3 years when we met and after 2 years of dating we married. He was not legally married to his ex but they created my 2 beautiful sons (they don’t like the word step). We tried to do the amicable and mature thing a few times but it didn’t work out. Eventually due to addiction my sons came to live with us full time. We attempted to do the “right” thing once again but when they were 9 and 11 she made it clear she would rather not see them if she couldn’t take them with her and not have anything to do with us. This was against court orders so she really didn’t have much to do with them. They are both just over the legal adult age now and although they are FANTASTIC boys...they needed their mama. So please give your 2 wonderful parents an extra thank you and big hug 🤗 when you see them because they did a great thing for you.

Your last sentence is gold! 😂

Lol warm regards from Brazil

She kind of annoys me to watch her but the content is always interesting.

Mayim is awesome. Scientific mind with a heart of gold.

Ainiewainy what happened after he left? Did your dad met someone else

My daughter is divorced and remarried she has 2 girls with her ex and her new husband has 2 boys with his ex they share custody at first their relationship was very bad. She tried to be civil but he and his new woman were beyond rude to her. Her new husband's relationship with his ex was even worse if possible. Somewhere along the line tho my daughter's ex and his new wife mellowed and they are at least civil to each other. Their eldest daughter who is 10 has some serious depression issues and they were forced together to come up with some help for her so they prob decided being civil was better than being hateful. Esp when my daughter refused to fight back. Her new husband's ex wife is just as hateful as ever and despises my daughter. I don't know how she feels about him tho whether she is mad cause their divorced or if she hates him. She doesn't have a civil bone in her body. I've personally never met her (nor have i met my daughter's ex's new wife) which is prob good cause i know some things about her (and him) that I'd be tempted to throw in their faces. Really nasty things i can't believe my daughter allowed to happen. The fact was she just didn't care about him enough to tell him .no. (I'd still have protested and .not allowed him to bring his new woman over while they were still married and living together) esp with the kids right there and my daughter in the next bedroom!! I couldnt belirve she'd have allowed him to disrespect her that badly. She said she just didn't care what he did. I was appalled. I still am obviously and it's been 5+ yrs.

Lisa England Are you you married?

Hello

I feel your pain .

I call them “paycheck dads”

If you don’t mind me asking, how have you stayed with him, even after the kids grew up?

Elina I think the important question is *why* she would stay with him. He's useless and life is too short to waste it on people that give it no meaning. All he's contributed to your life are two ejaculations, some cash, and a mowed lawn. That's nothing a second job, a bootycall, and a teenager with a lawn mower couldn't provide. Dump him and move on with your life.

Mary Hunt yeah that’s what I want to know. Maybe we haven’t heard the full story or..? Because I can’t believe staying with someone like that.

NiallBucks 😂😂😂

Lolllllll

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Lol!!!!!!!!!!!

Me too

Our Florida Garden I'm not divorce either, but my husband is my best friend, I could not bare not to talk to him the way we have for the last 22 years...maybe we could be friends after a divorce, my son still lives with us and he is an adult, but he will be our priority forever, that's why I think we couldn't be much apart from each other. Maybe I am just being naive...

Fizzy Lifting Drink I totally agree with you. The idea that you can co-exist is great but the main reason why one gets married should be forever. Running from relationship to relationship and dating in this fast paced world does not do well especially when kids are involved. Marriage was made by God and in this world where people are questioning the need to be married and why they got married etc ultimately we will have all this confusion. We should date and learn before deciding and find things in common and be more into it than just getting married because everyone is doing it or because of sex etc. One should never ever get married outside of love, any other reason means divorce.

why why why ...did you not work to keep your love alive

Wow

i was thinking the same thing but i only think it works if there are one set of kids, but if mayim went and started a relationship with another man or vice versa with the husband building a relationship with another women would this dynamic work and if there are other partners how are they handling it... i have so many questions

It would work if both partners wanted to continue this as their priority and choose their significant others to be a part of it. Sure not any other partner would work in this dynamic but that make them the wrong choices for both of Miyam and her ex. I have seen this work myself as a coworkers I work with are divorced parents and both are married yet continue to be friends and made a big union of family! It almost feel like they both adopted each others kids too. I can say it’s tricky sometimes and harder for some more than others because some worry about power struggle or feel insecure but if every party was mature and present, it can yield nice results.

Rebecca Nicole Vega Yes I agree! Do you really want to spend your free time around his new wife or vice versa. By all means celebrating milestones together is important but those can be limited to a few hours not days. Even if you think the new spouse is great it’s still odd for all involved.

My ex got remarried, and their are actually 3 sets of kids. 2 from his first wife (1 out of the nest, 1 will remain permanantly), my 2 who are there half the time and with me half the time, and the current wife's 2 that he has adopted. The current wife and I were pregnant at the same times, knew each other even back then, and both love my kids. I love my ex's kids from his first marriage, and in some weird way I do care about his current wife's kids as well. I think it is just a matter of realizing that the kid's are on this weird, winding road too, and that they are all siblings and people in their own right. I can care about their well-being and be there for them because I am capable of being a nice person and a responsible adult. I also have a unique view into her kids' world because I am their siblings' mom, so know more about the family than a random stranger or a neighbor might.

Going Green Mom Good for you! Many people are so focused on themselves or on how hurt they are when really divorced or separated isn’t about you losing someone or being hurt they don’t want to continue this path with you. It sure highly depends on how mature loving and kind you are to each other after it all. After all, whatever happens, even if someone cheated, it’s not a big deal as long as the one who did own their doings. It’s all about why you had kids and what’s better for them! You can separate things but that’s the easiest way about it. The best way is not to hate the new wife or gf. There is a reason for everything to work or not; it wasn’t meant to be! You can’t be mad at life for that or at the person even if it means they learnt and made it work with someone else. I have a foster daughter and for awhile she had a dad figure but we got separated. I foster her since she’s months old. Now do I like that we are separated? Nope but that’s because it never was my choice nor was I affected by anything to pick it. People live their own struggle too and they have their own demons before you come in their life. It’s not about the kids only but sometimes about being kind and realizing the other person is trying their best too. Sometimes it doesn’t work but that never bad! Who are you to say they must never change nor have you first always? I always think of it as a dance we do together and sometimes we dance for ages while sometimes we dance for a track or two! Life isn’t about marriage or being together! Life is your journey and honestly, if you looked and was honest and vulnerable, you’d see it was not working and it would be worst if it went your way.

thelazyparent That's amazing. It's so nice to read that such a sad situation as a divorce with kids involved turned out that positive for every party :)

thelazyparent - you sound like you have your sh** together. A rare women indeed

Ask Seal...

My Dad comes to visit with his girlfriend. He hugs my Mom and they joke around, but they make sure to include his girlfriend and laugh with her. They realize being an adult is about compromise. I love my Dads girlfriend, she is an awesome person. I also make sure my Mom knows she cannot be replaced.

Jan Franklin maybe she doesn’t feel it’s necessary to have a new partner but who really knows.

😂😂I do think too. Cat is cute.

The bat cat!

He IS the night!

Couldn't keep my eyes off the cat😸😸