Those who give unsolicited advice, never ask themselves if it has been asked for ? No matter how well intended it may be, it always creates a dynamic of fault finding from a complete stranger who has no right to express such an opinion on othere they don't know. Sometimes, it's more important to respect people space and privacy, than it is to share your so called sage advice with others who haven't asked for it and just don't need to be hassled by these busy bodies.

“I’m deaf” *puts ear buds back in.

Last week a guy come to me saying that i should lower the weight and do a slower movement, and i was just doing my warmup

Bothering someone at the gym that doesn't ask is rude. I would never do that. I don't want someone bothering me. I'm at the gym to get a workout done, not chat.

Some guy tried to correct my form in the gym once whilst I was in between my set. He signalled to take my earphones out and he tried to demonstrate what to do and so I watched. After this I didn't say anything to him, put my earphones back in and continued doing it the way I was originally doing it.

This is rampant among golfers. I’m evidently good enough that I’m more likely to be asked for advice (which, if I’m deep in the middle of a practice session, can itself be obtrusive), but lots of hackers think they’ve got the secret keys. If they’re insistent about it, I say “no, I know exactly what I’m doing.” If they’re more friendly in their approach. I might say “thanks, but that’s not what I’m working on right now”.

I was in the squat rack once and saw a lady loitering behind me…I figured she was waiting for the rack so said I would be done really soon..she said, “ I just wanted to let you know that Jesus told me to tell you that he loves you.” Not “Jesus loves you” This was “He told me to tell you..” I’m all “Shit….is he benching right now??” I thanked her and carried on and she left…. Then I was like Wait….did he seem worried about me?? Or was it like fan boying…” he’s using killer form and slaying that squat so tell him I love him!” 😂 Sooooo many questions!

I told some lady to buzz off after she decided me helping my son do some contrast 5x5/5x5 squat/box jumps was child abuse.

I’m a guy and some dude who didn’t speak English felt he needed to correct the way I was doing curls. I waived him off as politely as I could and he still stood there watching and tried to correct me again. I had to walk away before I got pissed.

My unsolicited advice for people getting unsolicited advice: Wait until your last set and say "Okay, I'll give it a try." Try it and then say "AHHH MY BACK! Why would you do this to me?!?!"

I was once approached by a coach at a commercial gym I used to train at who told me she was "so happy to see a woman lifting heavy" but then went on to warn me that my knee cave would lead to a ruptured meniscus, as she had seen in "many clients". Thankfully I knew better at the time and I kind of wish she could see me now, continuing to embrace the valgus at high intensities with my strong strong knees.

It's obviously a tricky thing. There is an ego dynamic going on with both sides, and sometimes(often) an ulterior motive with the giving side. Absolutes ain't always so cute so in certain circumstances giving unsolicited advice is appropriate and might be greatly appreciated. The giver and receiver need not be an azz about it ideally though..

For myself, I don't want unsolicited advice. I have my earphones in, and even if myself and my girlfriend are in the gym at the same time, we may not even talk to one another during our session. There is definitely a gendered aspect to this too. If we did a survey of whether women wanted unsolicited advice in the gym, I would say the vast, vast majority would say no. So why do people think it's ok? The gym is safe, leave people to do their own thing.

When I was first learning to lift I had someone point out during my overhead press that I was liable to throw my back out with the way I was contorting. I had no idea since I was new and just trying to figure things out. They gave me some tips and it felt really good after that. So at least in that instance I was appreciative.

I always give form advice to the women at my gym. I also sexually objectify them. #homegym #marriedlife

I only ever get bad advice. And I'm a guy. Some gems: - Don't go below parallel on a shoulder press - you'll get injured -Don't bend forward when doing a lateral raise - you'll get injured -Don't touch the pad to your bum on a leg curl --- you'll never guess why(hint you'll get injured)

A man tried to give my then fiancee advice on OHP. He thought it was too much weight to use an empty bar. I was there instructing her.

I dislike when people with Elite genetics tell me that my programming isn't right, or that I need to work harder/ lift heavier... like no, you just happen to have it easier and can run whatever program you want and get great results, this doesn't apply to me

I actually just had an employee at the LA Fitness where I work out tell me I should teach some kids how to deadlift. They were totally cat-backed and starting with the barbell about 6" in front of their toes. I gave them a couple tips, and they seemed to appreciate it.

A snappy comeback isn't necessary and only makes an already uncomfortable situation worse. Just deal with the unsolicited advice which is par for the course in a commercial gym.

This video has fully convinced me that Austin is an AI generated persona

The only time I'll give unsolicited advice is if someone is doing something actually dangerous in the sense of things like walking out the opposite way on a squat while having the hooks too high. Like that could actually be a genuine accident waiting to happen. That's the thing I'll mainly approach people about.

Once I had a guy at the next rack ask me if he could give me some advice on my squat technique. I said (not so enthusiasticly) yes and he gave his advice which was reasonable*. The squat was admittedly ugly and I said yeah I knew I should be doing "that". *:Then I said it was a PR by the way (it was an all-time main squat single PR) so he was surprised and congratulated me. Real nice guy. Chatted at the gym here and there since then till I moved to another city.

This think happend to me. I got three same with little difference opinions on cable triceps curl. Like you should stay a little more inclined. Ok. Then the second person, you should stay much more inclined and then the third person you should stay straight and limit your movement. Whatever I tried from each one, each type of what they said, my triceps worked fine, no injury, but it is annoying when you see people with different opinions. I have a friend with experience and he helped me to learn some workouts and I made also a program. Also I watched different videos with plenty of workouts, but this type of people is becoming annoying. Maybe I don't want to workout very stricted in that day? Maybe I had my personal problems and I need to find peace between machines. If I wanted advice I will ask for it. When I feel that something is not ok, I will ask. But as I said there are different types of perspectives and maybe some of the movement will work on that guy, but some of them will not work on the other guy. When this phenomenom will stop? I did't get a question like "Hi! What are you doing? How are you?", only advice, adivice, and more advice until I was at that point to stop doing the gym. For example, today, I didn't have no motivation to make the next workout. I made only three for the chest, and I was so annoyed.

The appropriate response is "Thanks, but I'm good." That's it. People are doing it because they think they're trying to help and if you want to encourage them to help when you actually could need it, you just be polite. That's it. No fresh lip or wacky comebacks.

Unsocilited gym advice is like r/thanksihateit in human form

unsocillited advice/critics…wow sounds just like the internet!

Honestly I’ve only given outward advice to peoples lifting twice. They were both people who were doing Olympic lifting (not awful but far from ideal.) One of them thanked me greatly, and the other one ended up paying me to coach him. Other than that I’m pretty hands off even if people are doing stuff “wrong” in my eyes

Is it always bad tho? Like I generally tried to give advise to someone to be nice and after reading comments I can see it probably wasn’t smart of me. But I didn’t do it with any ill intent or thinking I was better then them or anything like that? I personally welcome any advise but I understand we are all different, I just feel bad for giving advise to someone but I didn’t mean it in a bad way at all

I dunno. I got some incredible advice on lifting from older guys in the gym. I’m forever grateful for it.

You handle it by building a home gymn

It’s different for women, but as a beginner I received unsolicited OHP advice that was great and probably saved me an injury.

It all depends. 9 times out of 10, no, but there is a rare occasion. I've helped people with setting up the rack and they were very grateful.

"I see you benching the same weight every week, would you like some help?" - that dude was about to sell you something, hear him out :)

I had a Guy trying to lecture me about my Bench "I used to be like you, just putting more weight on etc. you should do it like thisnthat" I told him "no I am going to Bench like I Bench" we never spoke since.

buy home gym=profit

I've only been approached a few times by people giving me advice, and each time it was by an experienced lifter who saw my form was fucked up and gave me pointers. I appreciated it and no one was obnoxious

"OK thanks" and I put my earbuds back in. If I wanted their advice I would have asked them.

Well, when you see someone using a machine backwards who has no idea, and couldn’t wrack the weight and needed help getting out of the machine - you better believe that they wanted some advice. This video didn’t show an appreciation for the varieties of situations and circumstances where a person really could benefit from advice, but don’t know it.

Ty for posting. This is a tiresome-enough topic to make people not use a gym membership. A gym-owner pulled this on me once. I thanked him and told him I signed the waiver so he wasnt liable if I hurt myself.

Nope. No advice. I look like I know what I'm doing, because I do. I just get hit on and its always during set up. The only time I don't have headphones on.

Come on Jordan, we know why people don't give you unsolicited advice lol. I only go up to people to compliment, especially if they have the courage to use socially unacceptable technique

As people who know what they're doing, I think you should give unsolicited advice. Not necessarily the first time you see it or them, but use your judgement... if you see them in the gym time after time, training hard, and (like the example you gave) deadlifting with a catback, then advising them on technique for safety is only a good and decent thing to do for someone. Some arbitrary cue that's neither here nor there in the grand scheme of things is, basically, pointless. But fundamental advice, from professionals, in order to increase someone's safety... how is that not a good thing? Edit: Not saying you have to do it, or are obliged to, but it's a good thing to do. Negative comeback from such an interaction just means they're arseholes and, well, can just be ignored.

The golf course is 100x worse in terms of unsolicited advice. I like "Fix your own game boy."

Unsolicited advice is always a "no". Gym, golf course, etc. I suppose the only exception is giving advice to my minor children...

Gotta disagree here. Especially in commercial gyms with no or bad trainers people often have no idea what they are doing. Sure you can say it is douchey to give advice no one asked for. But many people don't ask even if they needed help. And if you get angry or annoyed at unsolicited advice i think it says more about you than about the advice giver (if it is in fact advice and not shit talk). I think we should encourage people to talk to each other more. To normies elite lifters like you guys probably seem very "scary" so they most likely will not make the first move. Also what is your reason for why you think unsolicited advice is bad? You mainly said it is bad, but not really why.

I just ignore people, outside of "How many sets you got left?" kinda conversations. If someone ever did give me unsolicited advice I'd just nod along then go back to what I was doing, unless they were persistent or were talking to me during a set. That would get a polite but stern "Leave me alone" type of response. Thus far no one has ever done that to me though, the few non-standard confrontations I've had with people was me telling them not to unnecessarily slam weights, because damaging equipment or almost breaking my foot with weights they're throwing around isn't cool and I don't care if they get mad about it

I don’t give women any advice. Lol that’s asking for trouble 😆 with todays modern woke wo man. I’ll give guys advice all the time most are quite appreciative. I’m a physical therapist it’s hard not to but I’m very concerned about being annoying

This is so sad. What an unfriendly, lonely society we have become. A gym used to be camaraderie and you kinda "knew" everyone who worked out the same time as you. Say hI, looking good, nice lift, you getting bigger/stronger, hey can I get a spot/do you need a spot, can i work in and the big guys and even trainers (yeah yeah, hit or miss) might have a tip here or there if they see you struggling. Sure today everything is online and how to do whatever exercise but it wasn't 30 years ago. Pretty sad, a whole room full of phone zombies, 90% making no progress, some doing dangerous stuff (that they don't really realize is dangerous) and all afraid to talk to each other. Sad.

if you see a young man pushing weights that can hurt him why wouldn't you interfere? there are ways to explain a new lifter the mechanics of an exercise without looking down and being a douche. isn't it what 'community' is all about?

Giving advice randomly at everyone is not good of course... but I see some kids doing incredibly stupid things that WILL HURT them if they continue, one of them put 315 on the smith machine and got under, of course after unhooking his legs were trembling and he started to go down, I DID INTERFERE telling him he would hurt his back since it was obvious he couldn't lift that much weight and his feet were UP FRONT of the bar, plus the stops went in place... what is one to do men?? let him kill himself?? Laugh after he is under the bar like most such videos do?? These guys are simping maybe because of all the recent videos of yoga pants girls posting them and saying that NORMAL AND FREQUENT male behavior in such situations is "icy" or "creepy" but it is them and not the men really... I imagine you don't like the word simping, but call it what you want, it is kissing the wrong females' ass since that encourages them to continue accusing men for just LOOKING in there direction!! I know it is not currently fashionable to tell women that if they don't want men looking at them 'like that" to not dress like that, since males can hardly help looking at such things, and most times it is IN PASSING that it is done, and they don't compare THAT to how much men see or talk to them if they are NOT dressed like that... so grow a pair and at least be more broad in the comments about it, just like any other subject you guys normally talk about, NUANCE the hell out of it. Jesus!! Sure more woman don't go to the gym looking for talk or friendships, I get it, but SOME DO... no need to be a B about it. And again even some women do that... they do it differently, but they get close to each other and talk about men in the gym, and closer and whisper in each others' ears. Is no big deal and is part of normal LIFE, Jesus how protected do people need to be nowadays!! Still, if I see a dangerous thing going on I interfere precisely because I would not feel ok if the kid kills himself and I didn't do anything because it is "unsolicited", what is the moral position about that here?? I see a small kid crossing the street looking at his phone, a car is coming fast., obviously the kid is in danger.. oh don't interfere his/her parents might not like it, let him get killed??

The whole comments section is just dudes talking about how much like love receiving unsolicited advice. Are you just being contrarian or what. If |'m in a gym, I have my headphones on, just leave me the fuck alone.