Time Stamps: 0:00 Intro 1:41 What ADHD is 7:30 Why misinformation is harmful 16:12 Some TikTok reactions 23:54 Takeaway
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@Vigdisnet Жыл бұрын
My brother has ADD, I'll never forget him crying and break down over stress over homework and chores. It had to be perfectly silent for him to focus and it was so hard for him, pre treatment, to do well in school too.
@Myllkka Жыл бұрын
Emotional dysregulation is such a huge part of ADHD, these people seem to think not being able to focus is just some cute thing that happens once a day or whatever... you actually feel a sort of pain in your brain when you try to focus. Dr. Russell Barkely talks about ADHD in a very understandable way, and Dr. Gabor Maté talks about how ADHD symptoms can worsen or be caused by trauma.
@VenusAD Жыл бұрын
I understand this so well, but for me it's that I need noise (certain types of noise, like podcasts or music) to concentrate, otherwise my mind wanders. This is why individualized treatment is so important. What works for one person might not work for the other, even though the symptoms/causes are the same. I hope your brother is doing much better now.
@ptlovelight2971 Жыл бұрын
I am the same. If my environment is not conducive to me learning, I find it emotionally difficult to stay focused and can have some meltdowns about it
@ML-di8lt Жыл бұрын
@@Myllkka I feel like so much of the 'emotional dysregulation' is really just a normal reaction to being told (either implicitly or explicitly) what an absolute f-up you are all the time. And yes, focusing can actually *hurt!* I sustained a brain injury that gave me ADHD like symptoms and I remember what a complete shock that was. Suddenly focusing actually hurt.
@jclyntoledo Жыл бұрын
Omgosh yes! I would get so mad and want to scream and throw stuff bc ppl were making noise. The best thing for your brother is to get blise canceling headphones. That will help at least with schoolwork and reading.
@hashtagmate Жыл бұрын
It took me until I was 23 until I got officially diagnosed because I'm a woman and I always had good grades 🙂🙂 I was just silently struggling and nobody took it seriously 🙂🙂🙂
@alanamontero4743 Жыл бұрын
I didn't have good grades and still nobody took it seriously except for one psych student when I was 16. (Ironically, one of the best psychologists I've ever met, though not yet qualified at the time. Excellent listening skills and created space so well and just had the best presence.) I think the girl/woman thing and not being hyperactive causes many to not be taken seriously and good grades would only make it worse.
@mmc8539 Жыл бұрын
I was diagnosed last year when I was 28 after struggling through nursing school and most of my master’s degree. I think I can relate to your frustration. I was good at masking, and had really good grades, although looking back, I don’t understand how someone didn’t notice.
@olympiaelda1121 Жыл бұрын
you gotta ‘love’ the passive-aggressive smileys
@thehealingfairee Жыл бұрын
Literally same
@tikimillie Жыл бұрын
I was like 6, but also had like, super boyish adhd? I guess i was a tomboy as a kid aswell. However they didn’t pay enough attention to my autism because of how prevelant my ADHD was.
@strangeduckling Жыл бұрын
Please do a video like this for autism/ASD! I see so many tiktoks and videos about "this is what autism is," and it absolutely jumbles up my brain and makes it hard to distinguish "this is autism" vs "this is autism FOR ME" vs "this is something similar" vs "this is something completely different" vs "this is just normal human experience."
@isabellamorris7902 Жыл бұрын
Yes please. I'm working on figuring out if I'm some flavour of neurodivergent and would like some help sorting the useful signs from the useless ones
@EveryDayALittleDeath Жыл бұрын
There's a youtuber named Yo Samdy Sam who has a video breaking down the diagnostic criteria for autism. She's not a psychologist and she doesn't really discuss misinformation as tiktok wasn't that big when she made the video, so I do think it would be helpful if Ana still made a video similar to this one, but Sam's video is a good place to start if you're wondering if you might be autistic.
@JustMeAri Жыл бұрын
Yessssss, we need a video about autism
@addyshorhnr3544 Жыл бұрын
@@isabellamorris7902 There are many channels that do this. If you think it’s adhd how to adhd is my favorite and has videos comparing it autism. Warning though autism and adhd are very similar at times. Mostly because adhd is one of the most common comorbidity. There is many studies trying to see why this occurs that are definitely worth the read.
@that_arty_person6957 Жыл бұрын
and especially with sensory issues and people assuming having them means you are autistic too or you have to be autistic to have them. Its so stressful to watch people boil down debilitating things to something like noticing sounds other people don't.
@essaly7969 Жыл бұрын
I hope one day people will understand two things: - you can relate to someone with a specific mental condition without having said mental condition - not all of your negative traits need a medical explanation Society puts a lot of demands on everyone, and if someone has anything going on in the background (trauma but also physical disabilities etc), it's pretty likely that they can feel overwhelmed or behind everybody else. Relating with some 'ADHD traits' is completely normal, because we're all human sharing experiences. At the same time, we have to be open to the idea that it's pretty easy to fall between the cracks of diagnosis when you have ADHD. I'm a textbook example of combined ADHD (I check all the traits without exception) yet I was still diagnosed as an adult, mostly because in my country it's not well-known and it requires seeing both a psychiatrist and a neurologist. That's a great way to avoid misdiagnosis, but it's also pretty ridiculous to expect families to go out of their way to seek a diagnosis they aren't even aware of by seeing multiple specialized doctors several times.
@joanna0988 Жыл бұрын
Great points! Here in Canada you can now get an ADHD diagnosis in 15mins of speaking to a psychiatrist 😐 I know 6 women with the diagnosis and on high doses of Vyvanse 🤔
@astroblast2325 Жыл бұрын
@@joanna0988 we have ONE adhd specialist in my area of the province and my "test" was a clicking game and a survey. Considering the years in therapy, talking w different psychologists and doctors for other possible diagnoses, it felt almost absurd? I don't know. It certainly wasn't affirming.
@joanna0988 Жыл бұрын
@@astroblast2325 Omg where are you located? I'm in Vancouver, BC. And yes that's not a reassuring assessment?? I'm confused why they're allowing this unless their goal is just to pump more meds into people.
@astroblast2325 Жыл бұрын
@@joanna0988 NS! We're fucked accross the board healthcare-wise, here, though
@suplannie Жыл бұрын
@@joanna0988 This is apparently not the case in Ontario, I saw 2 family doctors, 3 psychiatrists over the span of 10 years, and was only officially diagnosed by my current psychiatrist, who specializes in it. The others all agreed I probably have it, but said they didn't know enough to say for sure. Edit: Should also say, you can pay for an assessment yourself out of pocket, but that costs thousands of dollars. If you can't afford that, you'll be waiting a very long time like I did.
@squidwardjones8186 Жыл бұрын
As someone who was diagnosed as a child and still struggles with ADHD as an adult, I literally have had people who aren't diagnosed tell me that they have ADHD too because they can't focus sometimes and then turn around two seconds later and ask me wtf is wrong with me for exhibiting a very typical ADHD symptom lmao. This shit is driving me nuts. Edit: so this post seemed to resonate with a lot of people. Hope ya'll are doing okay. Don't let the bastards getcha down.✊
@boinkadoinkk Жыл бұрын
yes!!! I even had a 'friend' who was diagnosed with ADHD but her main diagnosis is CPTSD, I honestly believe she was misdiagnosed ADHD because she would literally bully me for my ADHD symptoms.... there is literally no way she is neurodivergent because my god she really looked down on me and my other neurodivergent friends for having such a hard time managing everyday things that she had no problem with 90% of the time. It was infuriating living with her, she made me feel SO useless and inferior bc of my symptoms.
@ashleycora138 Жыл бұрын
YES. I notice people claim neurodivergent then shit on people for their actual neurodivergence. How ironic.
@hermionetwo2739 Жыл бұрын
@@boinkadoinkk some people experience adhd but it isn’t as bad due to their needs being met as a kid. My ex boyfriend, he had adhd, and has struggles, but does not relate to my symtoms due to him getting help as a kid. He was able to get medicated while I didn’t. And he was raised a lot better than I was. It was very hard for him to accommodate to my adhd becuase he himself was able to find a way to get over those struggles. I don’t think we should be doubting peoples diagnosis just becuase they don’t understand you, but I don’t agree with what your friend did either. ADHD is on a spectrum a lot of the time and some need more help than others. It is often common of parents with adhd to say “you don’t have adhd cuz I do that” and often shame the child cuz they themselves also struggle. Often times people put others down cuz it is something that someone else told them often
@boinkadoinkk Жыл бұрын
@@hermionetwo2739 my friend had cptsd due to an emotionally absent, neglectful, abusive mother. She had no other family. She was also only diagnosed with ADHD at 21, which was less than a year before we became friends. I definitely get what you're saying and I agree, but she absolutely did not have *any* of her needs met as a kid. If anything that should mean her ADHD symptoms are extremely pronounced.
@hermionetwo2739 Жыл бұрын
@@boinkadoinkk yes I am the same way. I did not get diagnosed till 18 and experienced a lot of abuse as well. Remember you don’t remember what she was like as a kid, cuz I have always had this even during positive moments of my childhood
@cult2occult897 Жыл бұрын
There's an ADHD feeling I call "painful boredom" when I am so understimulated and bored that I actually would rather be dead than sit through the boredom.
@nataliesiddle8507 Жыл бұрын
Have you seen that ‘worlds quietest room’ place? Apparently the noise cancelling panels in it mean you can literally hear your own pulse and neurotypical people can’t spend more than a few minutes in it. I am genuinely curious what it could do to someone with ADHD but I am mildly worried it would kill them on the spot
@picachugirl2036 Жыл бұрын
You know i like how you named that horrible feeling
@kyratompsett4409 Жыл бұрын
Have had full on breakdowns at work because there was literally nothing to do except maybe push a broom for six hours. Management asked me what I needed to quit asking to leave early and I was like STUFF. GIVE ME SOMETHING TO DO AND I MIGHT STAY LATE! Nothing like standing in the middle of a warehouse, fantasizing about digging out your brain with a crochet hook because everything is bad and you're bored.
@insertcreativenamehere7970 Жыл бұрын
@@kyratompsett4409 I used to work at a theme park and rainy days at a small station by myself was absolute torture. There was NOTHING to do, the park was dead. Minutes felt like hours.
@sanecatlady Жыл бұрын
I haven't been diagnosed with ADHD but I definitely relate to this. I think I associate boredom with depression, so it's unbearable to me
@silversmith333 Жыл бұрын
I sought out my diagnosis because my lack of executive function was literally ruining my life and my gpa. I wish it was just fidgeting
@restlessdream8745 Жыл бұрын
Executive dysfunction is one of the hardest things to deal with. :/
@jclyntoledo Жыл бұрын
Omgosh yes! I feel like ppl don't really talk about it enough or they casually mention it.
@blueghost4769 Жыл бұрын
God i haven't been diagnosed with adhd only autism, but executive dysfunction is ruining my life too. I often spend half of my day not being able to do anything while feeling progressively worse about it. I wish i could get help with this but people don't believe me.
@NoahGooder Жыл бұрын
Executive function issues as far as i can tell from my own well ADHD are basicly like some kind of society killer. instead of being able to well sleep walk through what should be natural habits and rituals such as getting out of bed,choosing your new outfit, or brushing ones teeth you are basicly forced to manually take control and force the action because your own body doesnt take the initiative.
@selladore4911 Жыл бұрын
i feel s o ashamed of my executive dysfunction and i don't know how to break out of the cycle
@catrionathepoet130 Жыл бұрын
Tiktok did help me get my diagnosis as ADHD as an adult, however, I had such glaringly obvious symptoms as a child. I have always been inattentive, lost things frequently, made careless mistakes, struggled with time management, with major exec functioning issues and inability to keep a room clean and been fired from jobs. As a child it was flagged that I was possibly Autistic but nothing happened with that. While there is a lot of misinformation, I am grateful for tiktok for showing me I'm not alone and empowering me to seek a diagnosis.
@boinkadoinkk Жыл бұрын
literally the same thing happened to me!! (not thetiktok part - I found out I had it before I got tiktok). I also had my mother thinking I was autistic, but all the 'signs' she saw were really just inattentive ADHD symptoms/behaviors. I would get into trouble at school for being forgetful, for always being late, for never finishing my work or not listening in class. Had a lot of trouble making and keeping friends. Always forgetting appointments/meetings/plans with people and losing important things. I was/am always 'in my own head' and didn't/don't always know what was going on around me lol. Horrifically bad at managing my own time and very bad with money.There were so many signs that she and my teachers picked up on but I was growing up in china in the early 2000s and there was zero medical awareness around ADHD. Even if the people around me knew about inattentive ADHD (they didn't), there was nowhere for me to go for diagnosis or treatment. Kids just didn't get diagnosed with stuff like ADHD or asperger's in Asia, even now it's pretty rare.
@violetsky__7649 Жыл бұрын
I’m worried about being fired from my job right now not gonna lie.
@yaniquewest455 Жыл бұрын
Literally same with me
@kdelka81 Жыл бұрын
Same!
@beardpandaa Жыл бұрын
That's the same for me. It was glaringly obvious as a child for me I think too. Time management sucked. Struggled with keeping my room clean. My dad got so mad at me for not being able to vacuum the living room because I got frustrated with the vacuum not working super well and started pulling it apart trying to make it work better. He would say, "if you can't even vacuum the living room, how are you going to succeed in life and go to college or get a job?" Not being treated like my inattention was a medical issue and like I was just a weird burden was really what led to me not being diagnosed until I was 27.
@cellokat03 Жыл бұрын
I think the important distinction to be made is that many of these symptoms might result from ADHD, but those symptoms on their own don’t mean you have ADHD
@maevereynolds6344 Жыл бұрын
You put words to my thoughts!! Well put!!
@darkstarr984 Жыл бұрын
Yup. I only got diagnosed because there’s a giant pile of things I’ve found wild workarounds for actually are most of the symptoms of ADHD. I think a small amount of it is actually from PTSD… and it looks *a lot* like OCD and ASD but after talking with professionals and getting tests those were ruled out.
@dragonlady1943 Жыл бұрын
This is the comment I was looking for! Like yes, the core symptoms are necessary for diagnosis, but how do things evolve and affect each person as time goes on?
@BrieBoar Жыл бұрын
And a lot of ADHD symptoms are things that people who don't have it might experience. The difference is that people with ADHD experience them more often and with greater intensity.
@cellokat03 Жыл бұрын
@@BrieBoar Also very true!
@suplannie Жыл бұрын
I feel so conflicted about the concept of self diagnosis. It took me almost a decade as an adult before I was diagnosed. My family doctor said "Well, you have most if the symptoms, but I'm not a specialist so I can't say for sure." I ask to see a specialist, they say they don't know any that treat adults. Then I finally got to see a psychiatrist for OCD, but they said they wanted me to see another psychiatrist at the same hospital who specialized in ADHD, and wouldn't even let me on the waitlist until I was completely discharged from the anxiety clinic first. I was finally diagnosed when I moved to a new city and started seeing a psychiatrist who treated both. Not only that, but I'm lucky enough to be in a country with universal healthcare, I can't imagine how difficult it would be with the financial hurdles too. Like in some cases, I think the barriers to getting diagnosed are bad enough that self diagnosis might be all someone has, possibly for years until they can get treatment. But there are definitely all the risks you mentioned in this video too.
@Discrete1998 Жыл бұрын
I literally have a diagnosis by an ADHD specialized psychiatrist, and I was still told that it wasn’t good enough to get prescribed the proper medication (stimulants). So instead they put me on different SSRIs without telling me possible side effects of going on/off them, and I had severe negative effects with no help to my symptoms.
@mcchilde2903 Жыл бұрын
Self diagnosis is perfectly valid. I'd rather someone is self diagnose than live with the pressure of not living up to neurotypical standards. I think it's ableist to invalidate self diagnosis, as she did.
@SquirrelRave20 Жыл бұрын
The irony of bashing self-diagnosis for ADHD while describing all the symptoms that make it hard for an adult with ADHD to manage all the steps to diagnosis is frustrating.
@onemillionpercent Жыл бұрын
literally, i don’t condone the culture of needing to diagnose every issue one faces. but when it has interfered with your entire life and it’s difficult to have ever noticed it because of… so much… that’s when there could be some basis. i don’t understand why someone would *want* to have ADHD.
@foliofolio Жыл бұрын
the only real reasons you need diagnosis is to get a. sick leave b. commoditations c. treatment = therapy and or meds) not listed in any specific order. self diagnose cannot give you none of those, so why would you need to diagnose yourself ?
@alanamontero4743 Жыл бұрын
While I don't think TikTok is necessarily a good source, I'm really concerned about a rigid overfocus on DSM criteria and on overdiagnosis/misdiagnosis because I have seen that mindset - which has been around since the 90s - harm so many people. Including me. I came across ADHD in my psychology class in school and I raised it with the psychologist and psychiatrist I'd been referred to but it was dismissed, I wasn't listened to, I was belittled. A student psych raised Asperger's as a possibility but that was likewise dismissed because of the same mentality. (Turns out I'm autistic too.) I ended up dropping out of school after struggling for years, was not able to get an education, was not able to get a full-time job, and had all sorts of other issues. I developed chronic health problems. I struggled with friendships for years. I have never had a long term relationship and I'm nearly 40. I ended up with severe burnout I was recruited into an evangelical cult in my 20s. I got diagnosed in my 30s and also got out of the cult. It's better now but I've ended up with a lot of trauma, a lot of shame, no hope of normal employment, ongoing burnout, and grief over a lost life. This "TikTok misinformation" scaremongering is now all over the media in multiple countries and, as well as contributing to stigma and educational and workplace discrimination, it's being used to deny people disability support and being used by politicians to oppose people on lower incomes having greater access to medication which is otherwise unaffordable. And it's not white middle class people who are being mostly affected. I'm also aware that there's a good chance that this will lead to abuse from certain family members. Two other people have already been abused by family and others. I have - and many other people have - been mocked online and told we're lazy, weak, it's not real, etc. I know most psychologists mean well but I think you really have to look at the bigger picture and also understand that not everyone is coming from the same social/life position. TikTok misinformation is bad but I think the reaction against it is doing far more harm and most of the harm is to those who actually are ADHDers or autistic - and especially women, poc, LGBTQ+ people, poor and working class people, and those with other disabilities. Also, frankly, I'd rather some misled people come to therapists asking questions than more people going what I and others have gone through. There is no evidence of overdiagnosis in adults (quite the opposite), only perhaps overdiagnosis in young boys in some countries. Additionally, the DSM criteria, which has for its entire history been primarily based on boys, needs serious work and in the meantime people in the psych industry need to stop assuming that external presentation will fit within a narrow stereotype. (On a side note, one of the reasons why I wasn't diagnosed with ADHD was because "I wasn't distracted by external stimuli" - but I was in an incredibly bland and boring office with no windows and my thoughts and daydreams were more interesting. People with ADHD also get distracted by internal things.) The DSM criteria is also overly focused on what affects other people, like the primary problem is how we are inconvenient or annoying to others.
@raye9564 Жыл бұрын
This!!!
@SquirrelRave20 Жыл бұрын
Yep I came in here to shit -talk the DSM as well. The DSM is FAR from infallible in a lot of ways (shall we get into the gay issue?), but it's especially frustrating for ADhD. I'm solidly Gen X. When I was a child we were in DSM-2 which called it hyperactivity so I didn't fit the diagnostic. By the river inattentive was added at all I was in high school. And even then they still didn't think girls could have it . Now the DSM is better, bit it's still not fully matching up with the research. To Ana: if you really want to know about what ADHD is you need to start paying attention to people like Russell Barkley who have been doing the research for decades. And what he says is that the emotional dysregulation should be part of the criteria and has plenty of supporting evidence. TikTok didn't introduce me to rejection sensitivity being an ADHD thing, a specialist with decades of research under his belt did. I had been told shortly after the current DSM that I probably had ADHD but my psychiatrist wasn't a specialist and wasn't sure enough of the criteria. Just last year I wandered into ADHD TikTok somehow and there was enough there that I finally started to think about trying to get diagnosed. Because I didn't think I was hyper enough to have it. TikTok may be giving personal experiences of ADHD, and even some misinformation. But without it I wouldn't have ever realized that I'm not just a lazy idiot who can't finish things. I may never undo the psychic damage not being diagnosed caused me. But even if I never got a single bit of treatment, just knowing there's a reason I'm like this, there's a reason everything seems so much harder? That's priceless. And I have a real issue with taking that away from someone because maybe they only met five of the criteria in the damn DSM.
@kelseysunsolicitedopinion Жыл бұрын
Yep! Here (as someone clinically diagnosed as an adolescent) to complain about how she started with acknowledging that it is harder to diagnose/easier to hide in girls and then goes on to say that if you don't fit the DSM criteria, you're just "weaponizing your incompetence." Without going into how fucking sexist and misogynist the entirety of the DSM has been since like... its very conception.
@randomhuman_05 Жыл бұрын
@@SquirrelRave20 this^^^ ADHD is a spectrum, and we’re all different, unfortunately, medicine is just starting to realize that. There is so much more nuance to this than a lot of people think. For example “watching the same shows” can often be a sign of hyperfixation, which is common in adhd folks.
@SaruCharmed Жыл бұрын
Thanks for putting my feelings into words so perfectly. Videos like these bother me for this reason, even though they mean well.
@yeehaw4506 Жыл бұрын
The "rewatching TV shows a lot" thing cracks me up. I have ADHD and I actually have trouble finishing most shows that I start, cuz I can't sit in front of the TV for longer than an episode without getting distracted or bored.
@madmagdelena Жыл бұрын
Same with me. I can't rewatch shows. It makes me so bored my skin crawls looking for something else to do. It has to be something new each time. There have been times where I'd have one movie I'd obsessively watch a bunch of times but that's very rare.
@Karategirl5947 Жыл бұрын
I have soo much struggle with watching tv shows. Like a tv show has to grab my attention within the first 5 mins or I can’t watch it.
@lauras.9294 Жыл бұрын
I don't know if I have ADHD, but I have a similar thing. I rewatch most shows and films quite a lot, because the familiarity of knowing something is comforting. But I don't actually really watch them, they just play in the background while I'm drawing/reading/writing/playing games. Because if I only do one thing at a time I can't concentrate on that thing, unless it really uses up a lot of my brain capacity. So I do several things at a time, to concentrate on whatever it is I'm currently doing.
@chellenicki2805 Жыл бұрын
The rewatching shows is pretty valid actually. Because people with adhd can’t pay attention well it’s easier to watch something you’ve seen before so if you miss certain parts it still makes sense to you. It’s hard to focus on new shows and I get lost to the point where I have to restart things over and over. If I rewatch things I can more easily follow along. Just because it’s not a problem for you doesn’t mean it isn’t for others.
@alycatwelch Жыл бұрын
@@chellenicki2805 But different people have different viewing preferences whether they have ADHD or not. ADHD might contribute to your particular viewing preferences but viewing preferences are not a symptom in and of themself. It's not a problem to watch what you want - unless it's actually hindering you (in which case it doesn't matter if you're watching the same thing or something new, it's the watching TV when you should be doing something else entirely that's the problem).
@laurenheard5187 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for mentioning how saying "daydreaming" is dissociation is dangerous. I daydream frequently just because I am a creative and introverted person, but during a very abusive relationship I started having depersonalization and derealization episodes. They're a completely different and terrifying feeling. For me, daydreaming is pleasant but disassociation is NOT at all pleasant.
@sailormeo Жыл бұрын
Oh gosh I empathize with this so hard. The depersonalization and derealization episodes are absolutely terrifying when I’m driving. It’s been happening less since I was diagnosed with ADHD and started stimulants, but the episodes will come out of nowhere and I get so confused because I don’t know why
@celin803411 ай бұрын
I had a car accident because of daydreaming
@commentbot95108 ай бұрын
When you have disassociation or depersonalization, are you completely unable to recognize yourself and your surroundings as familiar? I would have these moments where I would feel disconnected from myself and my surroundings but I wouldn’t say I was completely disconnected from them and I was still aware that it was me and it was real. I just want to know if I experienced something different or not.
@jclyntoledo2 ай бұрын
Dissociation I would classify as zoning out. The problem is that's also what ppl call daydreaming, which honestly might be a form if dissociation but I agree that if someone has a problem with daydreaming too much it's often not the same thing. Maladaptive daydreaming is a thing.
@valeriapebble2 ай бұрын
I think I have some sort of dissociative issue as well, and it is terrifying 😢 it is almost always when I am walking and usually at work. I work in a hair salon, and I always dissociate in our breakroom if i have had a high stress day. I'll usually be walking across the room, then my vision goes black, I feel like I'm not real, I stand in place, and feel like I've essentially died and been revived. People around me usually ask "are you alright?" And tell me afterwards that I just go silent and stare off into space. After about 5 seconds of being "under," I suddenly remember where I am, what I was doing, and what happened. I usually try to ground myself in reality,by touching a wall, fidgeting with my clothes, etc. I tried telling a doctor about this as a child, and they didn't believe me, even though I was sure I was having absence seizures. 😢
@DoxicDoad Жыл бұрын
I do agree that you shouldn't self diagnose based on 'relatable' adhd things, but the diagnostic criteria is very lacking for most neurodivergent people, mostly because the mental health field is run by and large by neurotypicals, and they do not listen to us, I wasn't diagnosed until I was seventeen because my therapist said I was 'too smart' to have it Edit: I don't think the criteria themselves are bad, but they need to be expanded. They are much more about what neurotypical people see in people with ADHD and it needs to focus more on how we actually think/feel.
@nickit7655 Жыл бұрын
THIS
@chatnoir9038 Жыл бұрын
The criteria for autism/ADHD has been built based on white people, specifically boys.
@rainbowkittycat627 Жыл бұрын
Yes! Exactly
@memethornislowkeysad8987 Жыл бұрын
Id say that's not an issue of the DSM, more an issue of individual therapists? She mentions in the video due to masking its hard for some people to get diagnosed, plus some therapists are just super prejudiced :/
@multifandomnerd1328 Жыл бұрын
i'd say it like this, selfdiagnosing based on the dsm definitions after thoroughly thinking them through and looking at their effect on your life,, valid
@brinbrawner6101 Жыл бұрын
I’m clinically diagnosed with ADHD and GAD however my anxiety is through the roof because of adhd symptoms. I’m constantly anxious that I’m forgetting something, finishing tasks at work is incredibly difficult and everyone wants things done in the morning which means I have to get it done the night before because mornings and I do not mix. Constantly being in a state of overwhelm and fear because I know I’m going to fail someone at some point is not an exciting or funny way to live. Even with medication and therapy I still struggle. Adhd isn’t a quirky little thing you can “relate” to. It’s debilitating, stressful, and ostracizing.
@winxclubstellamusa Жыл бұрын
Me too! I’m doomed to carry my own inescapable, isolating hell, and there’s no way out of it. It’s not right for them to make light of a disability, I did not choose to be born with this brain. It is so humiliating how they diminish our struggles like this.
@jackchop1576 Жыл бұрын
"I'm not like other girls!"
@winxclubstellamusa Жыл бұрын
@@jackchop1576 We are genuinely not like the others and our lives are hell because of it. We can’t even make friends because we fall into the uncanny valley due to how different our mannerisms and body language is from that of a neurotypical. You have zero right to make fun of a disability! Our brain scans and our consistent testimonies prove that we are telling the truth. Be grateful that you were lucky enough to not have to bare our same burdens.
@violetsky__7649 Жыл бұрын
Agreed!!! I’m in a rough spot at work because of my own symptoms I struggle with.
@violetsky__7649 Жыл бұрын
Pp
@Ambedo1123 Жыл бұрын
My brother was thought to have had ADHD in elementary school, and pretty much the only reason he isn't diagnosed is because my mom fought the school counselor on it, saying "he's just bored". No, he was twice-exceptional. Many of these things mentioned in the videos are caused by ADHD in some cases, and it's noteworthy to say that while some of them are generally shared human experiences, it's much more extreme with ADHD. For example, watching the same shows over and over again. With my brother, it was watching Star Wars on repeat, then watching all the special features on repeat, over and over and over and over and over, and then one more time for good measure. I appreciate the route you went with this video, acknowledging people's experiences but also acknowledging that what they're attributing to ADHD could also be caused by other things. But I do have to say (since I share a lot of the symptoms my brother has plus others, and had a tested EQ of 70 at age 13), one of the *reasons* people go without getting diagnosed with ADHD as adults if it was missed in childhood is because of executive dysfunction. They aren't capable of planning and managing the sensory steps that are required to get a diagnosis (making appointments, going to the doctor, requesting time off, etc) and following through with them. I do wish you had made mention of some of the reasons people go elsewhere (like tiktok) for validation of their experiences.
@cutiefox6455 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for the comment. Interesting and true notice that executive dysfunction can lead to not being diagnosed because a person just can’t get there 🎃
@onemillionpercent Жыл бұрын
thank you. this exactly
@louhortonsculpture Жыл бұрын
Yes!! Getting a diagnosis for anything is difficult with poor executive function. As I realize I’m out of a medication and have no idea what I’m going to do to get it on time….
@raspberrytaegi Жыл бұрын
I feel like she's not interested in validating and understanding people who are really trying to get diagnosed but can't, she is only interested in portraying people who self-diagnose as well as people who use TikTok as "toxic" aka evil
@LyraDavis Жыл бұрын
@@raspberrytaegi as soon as she referenced ADD as separate I got the feeling she isn’t as experienced or as knowledgable as she would have us believe. This is why people often have to go through multiple psychiatrists before they find a good one who actually knows what they’re talking about.
@wanderinggrazer421 Жыл бұрын
Even when diagnosed by a professional, they can sometimes be wrong. I was diagnosed with ADHD as a kid but always felt like the diagnosis didn’t completely fit me. It wasn’t until we’ll into adulthood that I was diagnosed with PTSD which much better fit my symptoms and can apparently look like ADHD sometimes. So definitely get professional help if you’re experiencing symptoms that greatly effect your life because the treatments aren’t always the same.
@joanna0988 Жыл бұрын
It's not uncommon to have a diagnosis change with age. My friends son was diagnosed with autism as a small child but at 16 they changed his diagnosis to ADHD and bipolar.
@HollyJordan15 Жыл бұрын
I agree with this! It’s very complex because often with autism and or ADHD has a comorbidity of CPTSD. Equally trauma can have the same symptoms as autism and/or ADHD. It all needs a thorough assessment to tease it out.
@stinky59 Жыл бұрын
i have kind of a similar situation. i was diagnosed with “adhd and depression” with the depression actually just being excessive daytime sleepiness. i do have adhd and have had the diagnosis since i was a kid, but in my case the “depression” was actually narcolepsy as i have recently found out after years and years of constantly telling the doctors how tired i was all the time. it can often be misdiagnosed as “depression” and it’s one of those disorders that’s really hard to catch until you’re an adult and it starts interfering with your life- no one cares when a kid falls asleep in class but when you’re 21 and falling asleep on the floor in college then all of the sudden it’s time to see the neurologist because that’s a sleep disorder? i wish they would test for sleep disorders at a younger age because i wasted the formative years of my life being sleepy and miserable when my doctor should’ve taken it more seriously when i had been saying over and over how tired i was :( thankfully the treatment for both adhd and narcolepsy is stimulants so i just have to take higher doses than your typical adhd person and also modafinil which is still technically a stimulant but that one doesn’t help with the adhd it’s a lot milder and it just helps me not fall asleep during the day anymore.
@tarynriver Жыл бұрын
But also often bipolar and adhd are misdiagnosed for eachother
@themiserychick9219 Жыл бұрын
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@Elspm Жыл бұрын
I appreciate this video, and understand you want to prevent misunderstanding of ADHD and thus reach for the DSM. But equally I went undiagnosed for a long time because I ascribed so many of my symptoms to the comorbid depression, anxiety, and trauma symptoms. Many researchers in the field of ADHD diagnosis have a fair number of critiques of the DSM. Notably, emotional regulation problems have a strong research basis for inclusion. A lot of us get our diagnosis (based on the DSM-V) and then in our ongoing care will describe something to our psychiatrist, who then will say things akin to "oh yeah, that's pretty universal in my ADHD patients". I think this is a driver for at least some of these tik toks. Examples from my clinical care include: extremely disregulated emotions, poor sleep regulation, sensory issues, and cyclical changes in symptoms with my hormonal cycle.
@commentbot95108 ай бұрын
Emotional dysregulation should definitely be included. I thought I had BPD for a moment because I couldn’t explain the rapid mood swings I would get sometimes. I was going from feeling depressed, hopeless, and worthless to happy and fine like nothing happened. Or overreacting to small things, getting more angry than I should. I also had other symptoms but I didn’t switch between loving or hating people and I didn’t see things in black and white so that was the red flag to me that it wasn’t bpd.
@jadetea6112 Жыл бұрын
"Before age ___ " always gets me in ANY of these DSM definitions - not everyone has the chance to be seen by a therapist as a child. I don't remember much. My folks also downplayed a lot of my experiences in general, so how do I know which is real and which isnt? Docs have narrowed GAD as a definitive, but my current therapist is having me tested.
@VenusAD Жыл бұрын
I think what bothers me the most is that people forget that the entire point of a diagnosis is to address the difficulties you have, figure out WHY they happen, and HOW you can mitigate/deal with them and improve your quality of life. ADHD isn't your personality or identity, it's a disorder that those who have it have to figure out how to live with. It's taken me well over a decade to figure out how to manage my life with it. I was in an abusive relationship years back where my partner used the knowledge that I have ADHD often had poor short term memory to straight up gaslight me and convince me my recall ability was even worse than it was. He made me feel like an idiot. There is nothing quirky or cute about feeling like you can't control your own life. Tiktok and other social media platforms that work on view counts and short bursts of entertainment are never going to be a the right place to learn about disorders and how to treat them.
@Pikachuwhereareyou Жыл бұрын
THIS!!!
@hermionetwo2739 Жыл бұрын
I wouldn’t say it’s quirky or cute or anything, but it’s hard to seperate ADHD and personality when they do tend to go hand in hand with me. Like how I talk. The way I talk is very much how adhd is. I tend to overexplain (which is also with truama as well) due to not knowing which part to focus on and what minor part might be needed. Due to adhd being a different brain structure so it literally affects your entire brain like autism. As it is a neurodevelopmental disorder. This means effecting how you eat, and function on a very minor basis. While I would want to cure my adhd now, I would not be the same person if I had not experienced it before hand.
@RisingSunfish Жыл бұрын
It’s tricky. I have a separate neurological disorder that I would cure in a heartbeat if it were possible- it’s abundantly easy for me to see that as something I live with, but don’t see as an intrinsic part of me. ADHD is referred to as a neurotype because it’s just that: a _type_ of brain. It’s kind of like an operating system, or a model of car- not inherently better or worse, and can basically do all the same functions, but it isn’t suited for a lot of situations and environments that society has made the norm. Like, if I get a job making deliveries, but my car is a pick-up truck, I might lose time and money stopping for gas more frequently, but I’m better able to haul large objects. If I come to an office job with a Mac but it’s expected that I use Microsoft Powerpoint for presentations, I have to jump through more hoops to conform to that specification, even if I might be able to whip up an even slicker presentation in iMovie. One of the hardest things about having ADHD is gauging how much agency you have in an environment that works against your brain, and I think taking time to reflect on your strengths and sources of joy helps a lot with this. That said, OP, your ex-boyfriend did not abuse you because you have ADHD. He abused you because he was abusive; if it hadn’t been ADHD, he would have found some other vulnerability to exploit. I hope you can heal from how he hurt you and come to realize your brain is far less defective than that of somebody who thinks it’s acceptable to hurt somebody so intimately.
@MyTimelord11 Жыл бұрын
My thoughts exactly. I think a lot of this self diagnosing bull shit is just people looking for attentions because pity points are of such high value these days. Seems like everyone is trying to one up the other for pity. And it's totally seen as a personality trait rather than a mental disorder that is so severe that it actually effects your negatively. That's why it's called a disorder or a disability. Not a "quirk". It has to be severe enough to have a real negative impact. And what you said about your abusive relationship is so relatable because I was in a very similar situation myself. I'd bring something up and my ex would be like "that did/didn't happen" and I'd be like "I KNOW it did" and he'd EXPLAIN to ME how I have a hard time remembering things so I dont know what did or didnt happend and that hes right. And yeah I do have an issue with my memory sometimes but like you probably already know sometimes you do just KNOW that you remembered something. You just KNOW it's right. But no matter how many times I told him I was sure he'd be like "well you cant trust that because you dont remember things" I'm SO SO glad I got out of that before it got worse. ADHD is really hard to live with on its own.
@hermionetwo2739 Жыл бұрын
@@MyTimelord11 I don’t think there is anything wrong self diagnosing because it’s not like you can abuse it. You can’t get extra time on shit in class without an official diagnosis, so it’s not like your negatively impacting your life by self diagnosing. People who self diagnose do not HAVE MONEY to get diagnosed. Or they do not want a medical diagnosis that could be used as a way to discriminate. Which is of course illegal, but it happens and they can’t afford to sue. Spreading misinformation by accident can happen to someone with a ADHD diagnosis and without it. And if someone is doing it for attention, they still have a mental illness, just not ADHD.
@unscmistressgaming1132 Жыл бұрын
It’s so invalidating. I was diagnosed at 21 after I was self harming and on the verge of alcoholism. I went to therapy because I didn’t know what was wrong with me. None of my medications were working for depression and anxiety/panic disorder. ADHD never even crossed my mind until my therapist brought it up after a few sessions. Asked me if I’d like to be evaluate. I obviously said yes. I’m now medicated and it’s like looking at world clearly after seeing foggy for so long. For people to just claim they have ADHD because they can’t focus sometimes is irritating because ADHD is so much more than that and seriously impact function.
@juliabazanska Жыл бұрын
My mother suspected I had ADHD as a child, but as this was the 90s she was laughed out of the school’s medical office because „girls don’t have it”. I learned on my own to cope and live with my „different” brain. It wasn’t until I saw posts on social media last year that I remembered that one visit some 25 years ago. Since then I’ve been officially diagnosed with inattentive subtype (mental hyperactive) and the only thing that’s changed is that now I know I’m not „wierd” and can work on my pretty bad self-esteem issues.
@Touay.9 ай бұрын
The problem we have is the near total incompetence of the medical community when it comes to neurodiversity. As a victim of a wrongful diagnosis (told I am not autistic after a 15 minute informal interview .. ffs - by a psychiatrist) I sympathize with people who self-diagnose because it is the only diagnosis available. Now, misinformation on social media ... that is a problem, caused by the competence vacuum the medical community. Hopefully videos like this will help.
@aakashailajan Жыл бұрын
I’m glad I never joined TikTok. Life is much better without the mindless scrolling and instant dopamine resources which are literally just affecting your attention span and your subconscious. 🤷🏻♂️
@maggiethedruid9010 Жыл бұрын
It's been proven that the app goes through everything on your 0hone too. That's why people wanted it ban for being foreign spyware.
@cda6590 Жыл бұрын
@@maggiethedruid9010 You know where Tencent got the idea/original algorithms from, right? Facebook/Amazon/Microsoft/Google/The American Way.
@Jdeadevil Жыл бұрын
Or CHINESE PSYCHOLOGICAL WARFARE if you like clickbait video essays
@camila4918 Жыл бұрын
I mean I get it but like y’all act like you’re so much better than everyone who does. Yadda yadda yadda Doof u still probably mindlessly scroll on instagram or Facebook or shorts.
@chrystianaw8256 Жыл бұрын
@@camila4918 you're taking this way too personally. Chill
@demonschnauzer1555 Жыл бұрын
I’ve been diagnosed with ADHD (moderate inattentive), honestly the rewatching tv shows one is hilarious to me because I almost never rewatch shows until time has passed and I’ve forgotten them. It really frustrates me when people say certain personality traits are a symptom of a mental illness or disorder. Or when people act like neurodivergent people and neurotypical people are like aliens to each other. We’re all actually very similar, some of us are just more towards the “extremes” of behaviors. In my experience, it’s harder to get over a mental illness/disorder, or to deal with the associated problems, when you have that disorder as a core part of your identity. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t acknowledge your difference, or that you should try to conform, but when I first got diagnosed I started seeing EVERYTHING as an ADHD symptom. I’m doing much better now viewing my problems as individual traits that I can work on FIRST, and adhd symptoms SECOND, if I consider them that at all. Just what works for me.
@kxi.xd___ Жыл бұрын
i agree with the shows one, like, i rarely rewatch things bc its boring, i already know what'll happen
@ritac9769 Жыл бұрын
Yeah my immediate thought was that people with ADHD are way less likely to rewatch shows because we crave novelty and would get bored extremely quickly. The only time I rewatch or reread things is after years have passed and I don't remember much. Even then it's still not as enjoyable because I quickly remember a lot of plot points because the imagery will trigger it. In terms of the people I've met, I've noticed rewatching to be an activity many neurotypical people enjoy more than anyone else, and it's something I've always struggled to understand the appeal of for years. On the other end of things, obsessively rewatching shows seems more like an ASD behavior if anything.
@addyshorhnr3544 Жыл бұрын
The only times I “rewatch” things is if it’s my current hyper focus and I run out (literally the worst thing ever since it also becomes boring) or if it’s just background noise. My brain is geared towards auditory stimulus. I am one of the silence is grating types. So how I find helps my brain the best is pairing a non novel stimulus with a novel or intense focus one. It’s usually non novel auditory stimulus with a focused based game but I also have multiple stim games for my non novel auditory stimulus. There has been talk about me possibly being autistic instead of adhd, but that was by a psychology resident in a eating disorder clinic who probably based it off of the fact I most likely have mild social anxiety and eversion to novelty I can fail at because I have an intense fear of failure, my sensory issues which is just papers and shirt texture sometimes, or my obsession with soft blankets.
@peachiiieevee Жыл бұрын
for me, the tv show thing is kinda the opposite. ive been diagnosed as long as i can remember, and i do tend to rewatch one specific show over and over and over rather than start something new. i have rewatched a certian anime countless times over the past 6-7 years, to the point where i can leave the room for an hour, come back and still know what's going on. it's kinda similar with games, where i pour countless hours into one specific game (fe fates im looking at you) bc i simply don't want anything else. i think it's a hyperfixation thing which i struggle with bad, so its interesting to learn other people are the opposite
@lovelightstarboy Жыл бұрын
Sometimes your disorder IS a core part of your identity. I have NPD and BPD, and they very much nearly make up who I am and why I act the way I do. I often DO feel like others are alien to me because of how much they don’t understand me and the way I think. A lot of neurodivergent people are very different than neurotypicals, myself included. I’m judged by NT’s because of being different. I have ADHD and I’m autistic as well, so that just makes it worse. I’m never going to get rid of my personality disorders completely, nor my ADHD or the fact that I’m Autistic. And I don’t want to get rid of them. But wouldn’t that make them part of my identity? My brain is who I am, and my brain has these disorders. I cant change it, only learn to manage it.
@danh6720 Жыл бұрын
It feels like many people describe something as a symptom of ADHD when it may be a secondary effect possibly caused by ADHD behavior. An example being the “low self esteem/feeling like you’re not enough”. It is perfectly logical that the behaviors that are symptomatic of ADHD may cause repeated failures or negative outcomes that leave a person feeling like they often don’t measure up. Especially since lower intelligence isn’t a symptom ADHD/ADD and it’s often easy for a person with the disorder to see instances where they failed or performed poorly at a task that they know they have the capability to do well with. So it may be downstream of ADHD, but it’s downstream of a lot of other things too.
@darkstarr984 Жыл бұрын
Yes. My low self esteem and anxiety didn’t develop until adulthood because I never had social problems with my lack of ability to change and start tasks until I was an adult, because my parents are *really* understanding and supportive about those specific issues, and being homeschooled meant I could only compare my work to peers following getting the statistics from testing, where I was about average at math and exceptional in everything else. My family, all having only ever been exceptional in math besides one of my brothers who was exceptional at everything including math… finds this incomprehensible, but I just happen to be the one who has to view numbers as just another language or I have a massive meltdown over the stupidity of claiming there’s something more real about… a language that happens to be used to describe physical and spatial relationships between things, than languages that call whatever a cat is hundreds of names that all happen to be the same thing.
@Teyisagirl00 Жыл бұрын
ADHD kinda do cause depression and then the random crying because you’re mine is making you think of a memory of how you really see the world and people around you and then you forget why you was even upset since ADHD has different forms and levels of it for everyone For me it’s like a never ending of torture that crap really messes with your head especially if you get something wrong or fail the task at hand even if you’re a parent with ADHD you start to feel all that pressure that also messes with us it can even be complicated to explain to people how it really works because they’re not in your head but we are very strong though mentally depending and we’re also the most logical at times also depending
@alycatwelch Жыл бұрын
And rejection sensitivity is a trauma response. ADHD presents early on. Rejection sensitivity may emerge later as a consequence of receiving more negative feedback than others (even more so when you factor in intersectionality). Since we can be inattentive and/or impulsive, a common criticism is not being more mindful of others so we might overcorrect. People with other disorders can also develop this trauma response from their own experiences. Personally the RSD thing bothers me because it makes it sound like it's all in our heads but people perceived as different frequently ARE rejected more often and do become better at identifying the tells with experience. It feels wrong to pathologize something hammered into us growing up. It's exactly what I'd expect to happen.
@Sigmameal356 ай бұрын
@@Teyisagirl00omg yes, i used to have full breakdowns because I got one question wrong and the rest correct in 5th grade. Or if I have the thought that i made someone uncomfortable and i think about it hard for the rest of the day
@ellismerrill8501 Жыл бұрын
Self diagnosis is a nuanced conversation. I was self diagnosed with ADHD for 4 years before my formal diagnosis, largely because of the failure of a clinician to properly assess me. I feel mistrustful of mental health professionals who say "never self diagnosis" because of this past experience. If the psychologist had given me a diagnosis the fish time I got evaluated, I would have accessed support earlier and wouldn't have had to self diagnose. That being said, it is important to rule out other factors and put a LOT of research and thought and self-reflection into any diagnosis, either one you give yourself, or one a mental health professional gives you.
@daliakm1782 ай бұрын
I started going to therapy when I was 20 years old, and I was diagnosed with depression, anxiety, seasonal depressive disorder, and I tried different medications that my doctors prescribed me, but none of the shit worked. Getting diagnosed with ADHD at 33 and finally taking medication for ADHD actually helped me. It is sad when ADHD is mistaken for all kinds of other disorders because I guess doctors don’t want to prescribe the pills. By the way, I take non-stimulant medication for ADHD, and it took a while to find the right medication, but I am very grateful for the patient Doctor Who actually listens to me and was able to find the best medication for me. When I finally got my ADHD diagnosis and was finally feeling better, I felt a lot of grief for the years wasted, because my life could’ve been so much easier and better, and I would’ve been more successful had I gotten the right diagnosis to begin with. I get that it is difficult to diagnose ADHD, I am (mostly) not judging anyone, but I think it is extremely detrimental to Not diagnose ADHD.
@ReBecca-rl4bi2 ай бұрын
Same. I feel extreme grief over my life until I was diagnosed and medicated at 38 years old.
@zaharabliss106 Жыл бұрын
I'm so glad you're addressing this! I swear people view ADHD as the cute and quirky mental health disorder. As a person who was diagnosed with it as a child, I have complicated feelings towards it. It's 1000 percent apart of me but it also makes my life harder and I could've done my childhood without insomnia.
@DoodleWrite Жыл бұрын
Also - is it ADHD or is it trauma??? Plus we need to stop pathologicalizing like… every little thing people do. Sometimes it’s just normal to forget why we walked into a room to get something.
@AllyPenguin Жыл бұрын
Agreed.. I will say though, I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult and had symptoms all throughout childhood. My first restaurant job at 16, I would go to the back for something, and forget what I was going back for. The problem was I would go back to the front to remember, and as soon as I got to the back again I would forget (repeat 2 or 3 times). It annoyed my coworkers, and myself. It was so frustrating it would make me want to cry. I don't think these tiktoks are illustrating how challenging and frustrating some of these symptoms can actually be. I never thought it was funny. It made my life 1000× harder than it had to be.
@jclyntoledo Жыл бұрын
Yeah I honestly hate that ppl assume that's an ADHD thing like no that's just a ppl thing. But yes the having to do that so much that it delays stuff and takes you off track significantly is something to be concerned of and maybe an executive dysfunction thing.
@Nakia11798 Жыл бұрын
That example is perfect because it's actually something that happens to the majority of people.
@DoodleWrite Жыл бұрын
@AneMore Bingo, I have both. PTSD can appear like ADHD symptoms (ie, inattentiveness can be disassociating to escape from a distressing situation, hyperactivity can come from neglect, etc.). It takes me 5 hours to read a 30-page chapter because I’ll float off in my imagination and have to re-read something, but my “rejection dysphoria” comes from harsh and unforgiving parenting (trauma) and needing to constantly be perfect and expecting to be an adult as a growing child.
@birdiewolf3497 Жыл бұрын
Eeehh. Yes and no. like no rewatching your fav shows over and over is not a symptom of adhd or any type of mental disorder. But at the same time a lot of these symptoms are something that most people experience, but it isn't causing dysfunction.
@electricia Жыл бұрын
"It is not that hard to procure stimulants" unless you're actually legitimately diagnosed with ADHD and trying to get them from a pharmacy and have to jump through tons of hoops and insurance doesn't want to cover them and new doctors don't want to prescribe them and generally the entire system makes the thing that helps really difficult to get.
@babyface33962 ай бұрын
i laughed at that part, too. I had my diagnosis for at least a year before I was actually prescribed any
@Acron-l5j17 күн бұрын
Yeah. I tried one pill, non-stimulant, which was alright but wasn't enough and there is side affects. No doctors I went to did listen to me, they didn't swap my medication prescription and some tried to cut me out of my medication which makes me completely disfuctional
@TJ-3147 күн бұрын
Glad I live in Aus and my Dex is covered under our PBS since I was diagnosed as a child. I can get 200 Dex tablets for around $30aud which is pretty good compared to other meds
@sarak2157 Жыл бұрын
i believed that i had adhd because of tiktoks like this. i went to go and get a diagnosis. turns out i had undiagnosed… ocd! really threw me for a loop but it made so much more sense once i thought about it. these symptoms can be caused by so many things.
@ytl6406 Жыл бұрын
I waited till almost 30 years to be diagnosed with ADHD by a psychiatrist. Now I finally understand why I felt so troubled when I was little, why I was not “a good girl”, why I was not listening, etc. When I shared this diagnosis with my mom, she told me she has been through the same experiences when she was little. But she was physically punished by her parents in order to be “controlled”, to be a “good girl”, and “obeying”. So when she noticed my behaviors when I was little, she took over and “managed” my attention deficiency. So I learned how to mask my symptoms and met the expectation of “a good girl / a perfect A student”. Yes I did perform well academically, but who knows how struggling I was and how self-hatred I was because I cannot pay attention like anyone else? Now I completed my PhD by using second-language in a foreign country alone, without seeing my family for over three years, going through suicidal thoughts, self-harm, encountering racists and harassment, learning how to file restricting order in a foreign country, finally I got a job offer to help minority women who suffering gender inequality in a non-profit organization. I am happy where I am, and I appreciated my resilience and my symptoms to shape me where I am today. If I were diagnosed earlier in my childhood, I probably wouldn’t go through the depression and self-hatred process. However, these experiences are also part of me; it shaped who I am today. Life might be easier without these, but I am still grateful about what I have went through. Accept your differences. Embrace your differences.
@kateginger Жыл бұрын
You are a strong and smart person. I have anxiety and I struggle to finish my masters degree. Your story is very inspiring and I wish you a happy life, also thank you for your positive impact on the world.
@hourz Жыл бұрын
PhD with ADHD Thats awesome! I'm on my second semester at 31 and I feel like this is going to be a pain of in my ass for years to come. God knows we have to work twice as hard as everyone else.
@honestlynotsponsored Жыл бұрын
I have severe inattentive ADHD, and it is a daily struggle to function. My symptoms have cost me friendships, jobs, and physical health. I've lost so much money from losing things, fees from forgotten payments, and missed opportunities related to deadlines. It is a disorder that can cause a lot of chaos, and that in turn effects the rest of my mental health. The rise of self diagnoses based on misinformation has made it harder for me to get accomodation, because it's almost advertised as this quirky thing that a ton of people have. I've literally had a boss say to me "everyone has ADHD. You have no excuse." And that's not a perspective unique just to her. The cute ADHD TikTok content is frustrating to see because there is almost never a serious dialogue about how devestating the disorder can be.
@mrhappy76542 ай бұрын
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@dannyllerenatv8635 Жыл бұрын
I was diagnosed with ADHD combined type in my early 20s. I always had it, but I was able to manage it when I was younger and have always been in honors/gifted classes since I was in grade school. In college, however, it just became extremely severe. It got so bad to the point where I had also developed depression and OCD. It is now very well managed after a lot of treatment.
@winxclubstellamusa Жыл бұрын
Me too! I was the gifted kid up until the final year of high school and then I had to drop out of collage from how bad my lifelong ADHD got. My depression unfortunately still extreme because I have yet to figure a lot of very vital things out, plus the trauma of being neurodivergent in the neurotypical world.
@burdeegirl Жыл бұрын
Same here! I didn't get diagnosed until I was 28 but I have had it as long as I can remember. College really highlighted my issues, along with some things at work.
@kitsterangel Жыл бұрын
I was diagnosed when I was 8 but it was never an issue grade-wise in elementary or high school, same as you, always in "gifted" programs, did IB, no issues. Get to university and I suddenly can't keep up even tho it was less work than IB, but it was hella less structured and I just didn't know how to organize or manage my time. Got an updated diagnosis so I could start meds and I mean I'm still struggling but I can actually sort of study now.
@darkstarr984 Жыл бұрын
I didn’t recognize it as a problem, I just thought I had to do all the things recommended for time management, constantly changing up the combination, then wind up rushing everything simultaneously, and wondered how the other people on the dean’s list managed to find enough time to work when they were active in way more clubs than me, while I barely managed to attend one because it happened to have meetings right between my morning classes.
@dreambrush7251 Жыл бұрын
I think people might benefit more if the tiktokers specify that this is their experience and may not directly be a symptom of ADHD. Example, I am autistic and I also have IBS, IBS apparently is common in autistic people, however, you can have IBS and not be autistic and vice versa. People always need to check the DSM for this stuff before they very least self diagnose or go to their doctor for referral. Also, I'm kinda confused on the weaponizing incompetence thing, how do you know that someone is doing it badly on purpose and they're not genuinely struggling with it? The most I can think of is the Gabbie Hanna situation from last year, eg. she would request a very special kind of food from her staff (while everything else is available to her) and the staff would work hard on the food, give it to her, but she wouldn't eat that, she would just eat something else and leave that special food to rot, to the annoyance of her staff. She actually blamed her ADHD on it when it's not the case. But other than that, it's extremely common for people with ADHD to procrastinate and not being able to do simple tasks due to their executive function, implying that they might avoid responsibility because they want to burden others is more dangerous imo than what's specified in the screenshot (which by the way, that article is not scientific evidence).
@lauralaforge5582 ай бұрын
I know my husband weaponizes incompetence because he acts clueless about laundry in front of me but manages to do laundry for his aging mother.
@greyscaleadavenАй бұрын
The only time anyone is weaponizing incompetence is with genuine malintent really IMO. If that doesn't exist, it's just actual incompetence and it isn't until someone is unwilling to change when told directly about a problem multiple times that it becomes weaponized. And I guess even then it could be viewed differently depending on the person. Also I totally agree with the first paragraph, I always try to use self-focused language when something is a personal experience for a reason. People have lost the ability to distinguish when an authoritative voice should and shouldn't be used. Mostly because the internet encourages us to all pretend to be experts on things because otherwise we're not credible and our points fall apart. Maybe that's a byproduct of all the cynical losers and debate lords who make their home here, but I digress.
@TheSpoegefugl Жыл бұрын
It's nice to hear this from more sources, finally. I sought out a therapist for other reasons than thinking I had som undiagnosed diagnosis, more for personal issues. At some point my therapist brought up that she has a feeling I might have ADHD. However, in the same breath, she mentioned I might have a depression, because the two share certain symptoms. And just to be clear, I still have no official diagnosis, by others due to the nature of my therapy, so I can't claim for certain that I do or don't have either a depression or adhd, but my therapist did make a comment sounding like adhd is quite likely, albeit a fairly mild one
@AnaPsychology Жыл бұрын
Exactly, even therapists take a long time to figure out if something is ADHD or not! Personally, I like to refer clients to get more comprehensive evaluations if they're seeking a clear-cut diagnosis because this one is such a tricky and important one.
@deecee7042 Жыл бұрын
@@AnaPsychology what does a comprehensive evaluation look like?
@joanna0988 Жыл бұрын
Here in BC, Canada you can get an ADHD diagnosis after a 15 minute consultation with a psychiatrist and prescribed meds right away.
@boinkadoinkk Жыл бұрын
@@joanna0988 that's kinda scary...
@ironiceilidh Жыл бұрын
@@joanna0988 I'm in Ontario and it costs 3 grand and 10 hours of assessment (often spread over several appts)... my parents just had my little brother assessed and insurance from both their jobs didn't even cover half of it and they have good jobs and benefits otherwise. I haven't been able to go through with assessment of my own because I do not have their benefits anymore since I have aged out, and I sure as hell can't afford 3 grand up front, especially when they might even tell me I'm fine by the end of it. I can't imaging going through all of that trouble just to be misdiagnosed or written off as being anxious and depressed.
@oliver-the-ghost3821 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video, this is great to talk about! I became extremely burnt out, unfocused, and unmotivated my senior year of college, around the same time as this trend if videos was getting bigger. I kept seeing videos saying "If you were called a 'gifted student' in elementary school but are burned out now... how's that undiagnosed ADHD treating you?" Which was terrifyingly relatable. But once I looked up the checklist of symptoms myself I realized that they didn't fit for me, it's just common to get burned out after 17 years of school :P
@SweetheartMorada11 ай бұрын
I think you’re on point about being careful to not pathologize normal human behavior. And while obviously there has to be a line drawn somewhere for diagnostic criteria, I do have mixed feelings about how clinicians sometimes interpret the need to have “impaired functioning” in order to be diagnosed. I had good grades and held down a job, but “normal” functioning was taking so so much of my mental and physical energy (e.g. consistently spending four hours on an assignment that should’ve taken one) that I didn’t have space for anything else in my life, like friends, hobbies, housework etc. It was incredibly stressful constantly teetering on the edge of “keeping it together” and having to hold on for dear life to keep everything from falling apart. Luckily my psychiatrist understood that it *was* negatively impacting my quality of life even though I was able to keep myself alive and employed. But too many clinicians are so misinformed that they won’t diagnose unless your life is already totally destroyed and only in terms of work or school, no matter how maladaptive your way of coping with symptoms might be. It’s a super complicated issue, I think whoever said it’s both incredibly over- AND under- diagnosed was totally on point.
@Kate2961 Жыл бұрын
So glad you brought this up! I was diagnosed with ADHD a few years ago and it has been a struggle - not funny or relatable? I have a good friend who takes these videos to heart, self-diagnoses and tries very hard to diagnose others as well with it; what a time we live in! 😂 But I find it almost insulting when she uses her self-diagnosed ADHD for things like her poor time management (showing up to things 20-40 minutes late). It’s just like how you shouldn’t just Google symptoms bc you’ll spiral - TikTok is not a doctor.
@Luci_loves_Bangtan Жыл бұрын
My biggest issue with all the ADHD TikToks, particularly the “self-diagnosed” ones, is that it makes me hesitant to mention to new acquaintances, potential employers, etc. that I have ADHD because it usually ends in “well, aren’t we all a little bit ADHD?” And it makes it difficult to properly convey that it legitimately affects my entire existence.
@ridingred27 Жыл бұрын
I see this 100%. I'm autistic and ADHD and no one knew what those really were before tiktok, now they know them as "quirky" symptoms like collecting paint swatches from the paint store. It frustrates me
@Luci_loves_Bangtan Жыл бұрын
@@ridingred27 exactly. My younger brother is autistic, and my oldest son is autistic and has ADHD, and having spent most of my life around it (and witnessing how frustrated they both become due to some of their individual “quirks” impacting their lives), a lot of these TikToks just make me cringe. I get that social media makes everyone want to be a special snowflake, but sometimes it feels like people *want* to have some type of disability, neurodivergence, mental disorder, etc. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not ashamed of my diagnosis, nor am I ashamed of my brother or my son, but it’s still something I cannot control and it does often affect my personal life, social life, work, etc. It’s not some quirky little trait of a manic pixie dream girl; it’s a disorder that requires a lot of time, effort, medication, and therapy to properly manage in order to live a relatively “normal” life.
@nowadventuring6780Ай бұрын
Not to invalidate your experience at all because that's really annoying, but i'm in my 30s and people have been using that phrase as far back as i can remember.
@lenewessel4984 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. I personally went on a spiral of “do I have ADHD do I have autism” because of tik toks and youtube and my therapist. I was really spiralling because I couldn’t stop thinking about it and watching videos and then I’d have bad anxiety. In the end I snapped myself out of it because I feel most strongly that I have anxiety.
@powerpuff4ever Жыл бұрын
I’ve discovered that the best way to combat this is to push past a lot of the shame that results from ADHD and go into high detail about how the symptoms manifests and hinder me DAILY
@zaida6930 Жыл бұрын
As someone who's diagnosed by a psychologist, it's not always rainbows and sunshine it's so hard living with adhd and people spreading miss information really gets me ,i wish i didn't have adhd and idk why people are so eager and self diagnosing themselves,makes me upset really. thank you soo much for this video love your channel,have a great day peeps
@agida6050 Жыл бұрын
It’s great to finally get this information from legitimate sources, my instagram feed was filled with adhd content and I just couldn’t understand why the algorithms were pushing that down my throat. I’ve noticed this trend of people trying to put a diagnosis on their bad qualities and quite frankly that is doing more harm than good. thanks Ana❤
@TanjaTHEAwesome Жыл бұрын
I was dignosed as a kid because I was hyperactive AF and was exactly the whole list you mentioned. Sadly I was told I would "grow out of it" and that was that. I didn't and it greatly effected my relationships, jobs and life because I didn't know a lot about ADHD. I did get good at masking by overcompensating and pushing myself hard. I would hyperfocus on tasks, set a million reminders, every single thing someone told me I would write down (helped me focus and stay present) and studied harder than my peers. Eventually I would just burn out on trying to focus so hard and shame myself or feel useless and broken when I did. I freelance because I can't sit down in an office and do a nine to five, my brain just won't do it. Working from home lets me setup an envrioment where I won't be distracted. In an office my brain is like looking at every sound, smell, color, ect. and not the task at hand... Anyways the happy ending is that a friend of mine told me more about ADHD and all the things I didn't know about it. I felt less weird and was able to just structure my life around it and kind of find a rythmn and stick to it. It's hard somedays but at least I know I'm awesome and not broken
@jclyntoledo Жыл бұрын
Omgosh yes! That's exactly how I felt at my last office job so much so that I felt like it was literally draining the life out of me. I made the mistake of quitting instead of getting fired so I'm still trying to fix my life from that.
@julieblair7472 Жыл бұрын
People lose sight of the word DISORDER in all this stuff. As in it causes problems. A big part of this trend is someone with a diagnosis attributes EVERY aspect of their personality to the diagnosis, and makes quirky tiktoks about it.
@peaches8864 Жыл бұрын
Omg yes, thank you for talking about this. I’m a psychologist myself and I never want to yuck anyone’s yum, but so much stuff I see online just isn’t adhd, and I have so many clients coming in based off of the TikTok’s they see and I have to explain often that they’re just describing the human experience and at times a lack of mindfulness
@daltonbyday6047 Жыл бұрын
My biggest issue- never tell someone not to self diagnose. Many people cannot afford therapy, and if self diagnosing and looking up how to deal with ADHD afterwards helps you deal with the symptoms, then good. I think it's more damaging to tell poor people they aren't allowed to have neurological disorders.
@ricegorm Жыл бұрын
You can look for ways to cope with symptoms without self dx. Not being able to afford therapy doest magically grant you a PhD to be able to dx yourself
@alexleg33 Жыл бұрын
Thank you, a lot of my friends that are wealthy have been diagnosed since childhood and been taken care very early so they are doing well, but for other people like me symptoms are just worsening with time and impossibility to access healthcare. At this point I don't care if it's PTSD, ADHD, autism, OCD or even schizophrenia, I just take what I can (Well, I mean I obviously have PTSD, but I also could have other things).
@thecrookedtrail6792 ай бұрын
Very refreshing to hear your perspective so eloquently expressed. It's a jungle out there.
@angelcantrell5994 Жыл бұрын
Thé diagnostic criteria is lacking for a lot of neurodivergent people. I wasn’t diagnosed until I was 22 because, to everyone else, my symptoms didn’t affect my life enough. My mom literally thought I was autistic but did nothing because I was doing fine in school. Ticktock helped me realize what I was struggling with so I could seek help.
@MostlyAnimatedSketches Жыл бұрын
It's complicated for me because I am technically undiagnosed, but when I was around 9 years old, I did get tested for ADHD (per request of my elementary school... I was doing really poorly) and according to my parents, there was a "50/50 chance" that I did have it, so I got prescribed some medication to test it out. However, my parents felt that we couldn't afford to do that because one of the side effects was a loss of appetite and I was already malnourished. So we just sort of forgot about it. Recently, because of the amount of people talking about ADHD online, I have been thinking about it and I think that I do experience some symptoms and I can definitely remember childhood experiences that seem like ADHD in hindsight (not being able to pay attention sometimes and then doing something wrong, forgetting to do classwork, taking longer than other kids to be aware of what we were doing at the moment, etc.), but I feel like my parents are really judgmental and still believe in the stigma around getting diagnosed, so I can't even get assessed now.
@admirbarucija2018 Жыл бұрын
The timing of this video is perfect. My brother the past few months has been constantly insisting he has ADHD because of videos he’s seen on Tik Tok
@AnaPsychology Жыл бұрын
I'm glad the timing worked out for you!! Hope your brother is able to get diagnostic clarification
@admirbarucija2018 Жыл бұрын
@@AnaPsychology i hope so!! I’ve been urging him to see a professional
@hashtagmate Жыл бұрын
If he actually looked up the symptoms definitions and actually understood them ok cool I might believe his self diagnosis but on the basis of such videos no no no sir not today (I am officially diagnosed but before that I was self diagnosed.... but I am a med student and actually informed myself really well and understood what the symptoms meant and where they come from- and I'm rambling sorry that's part of my adhd actually lol)
@67funkyfresh Жыл бұрын
I wish my statistics prof had explained construct validity to us using that telephone metaphor
@bestiesfortherestiesprods Жыл бұрын
I'm a woman who has struggled with ADHD all of her life. It took me awhile to get diagnosed because the way I presented myself was normal and I was a good student. However, what they didn't see was how much harder I had to work than the rest of the kids and how much energy it took out of me. It takes me so much longer to get things done than others and I always feel like I'm behind. I was persistent and stubborn and finally got a diagnosis when I was 17 by a great psychiatrist. I'm lucky that I knew myself well enough to know that it's a problem. A lot of girls have their ADHD symptoms dismissed until they are adults. I just don't like it when people act like ADHD is something that you can develop later in life and how everyone thinks they have it because they have a short attention span due to social media. It's not a cute and quirky disorder. It's very frustrating and sometimes debilitating. People see you and treat you like you're stupid or flighty. A lot of teachers make you feel like you're just a ditzy little girl when you have something difficult you're dealing with. I don't know, I just feel like a lot of people don't respect the disorder and thinks it's easily applicable to anyone. They don't do their research or talk to anyone they know who has it. A lot of people with ADHD feel unseen and ignored and I think this trend or whatever is making it worse.
@anonomus4598 Жыл бұрын
It was this trend that made me skeptical when I ended up getting my adhd and autism dx as an adult, literally every video and meme on the internet about neurodiversity focuses on normal human experiences. It wasn't until I got put on medication that I could accept it, as the enhanced focus literally improved my vision, reduced the prevalence of other mood difficulties I possess, and decreased my level of distress. While I think it is good that people are becoming more open about neurodiversity and mental illness and honestly I think educated self dx is fine (so long as you're not the one making videos about it tbh), trying to label every aspect of your health as a clinical issue can be really dangerous. The tik toc misinformation trend is actively harmful to people, especially young people.
@meowmeowmeowbarf Жыл бұрын
I watch your videos for the informational and timely topics, but I stay for the kitty ❤🐈⬛
@AnaPsychology Жыл бұрын
Omg your name and picture 😂
@colbykamilah Жыл бұрын
I thought I had ADD, but now I don’t think I do. I do think a lot of people have trouble focusing because we are in our heads a lot, or because we are distracted with smart phones and technology
@restlessdream8745 Жыл бұрын
Yes, but ADHD is much more than having trouble focusing, I wish more people were aware of it.
@nrmf Жыл бұрын
Im so glad you touched on topic because I remember diagnosing myself with adhd because of TikTok and after I deleted it I no longer worried about it. After watching your channel for a while I learned wether I had it or not, it doesn’t define me and I’ve learned to just focus on building good habits for studying, homework and just being focused and present in my life.
@MagnusPeccatori2 ай бұрын
I have all of the symptoms you've described. I've had breakdowns over doing homework and studying because it was so difficult to focus on anything, it got so bad that I ended up dropping out of college. But I'm still kinda afraid that I might just be self-diagnosing and maybe I'm just gaslighting myself into justifying my failures
@ronniebennet9413 Жыл бұрын
it scares me that people just happily and carelessly diagnose themselves just because they relate to things like ‘constant leg shaking.’ It ruined my life as a kid, even before I knew what IT was because I wasn’t diagnosed until adulthood. I was constantly told I needed to ‘try harder,’ and ‘care more,’ and ‘stop being lazy.’ It was pounded into my head so much that I was simply a bad kid that I believed it. I got held back in school. I kept asking and asking for help and never got it because people always believed I was making excuses. I masked for years and pretended I was fine. My brain was really trying to tell me something was wrong, because for so long I just believed it was only anxiety and depression that was also ruining my adult life, but then last year my mental health was at its worst, to the point that I almost considered being admitted to a hospital. Not only for SI, but because I simply could not function anymore. I saw no other choice but to seek therapy, where I discovered it was actually ADHD all along. So thank you for making this. I appreciate how much you point out that it HAS to cause IMPAIRMENT in your life and it’s not just some ‘cutesy personality trait.’ I don’t think people realize the level of impairment that it can cause some people. It’s not something you WANT to have.
@maddiesharpe7118 Жыл бұрын
People sometimes get a diagnosis and then blame every single annoyance in their lives on it. It's not fair and often leads to excuse making further on. These are just common quirks that many people experience. I have major depressive disorder, anxiety disorder, adhd, ptsd and (what was formerly known as) EDNOS. As someone who deals with these issues, it is important to distinguish quirks from actual mental illness symptoms, so you know if these are things that can actually be improved/ worked on.
@brandim6187 Жыл бұрын
My adhd was never flagged as a child because I was quiet a non disruptive but looking back my symptoms were glaringly obvious. Got diagnosed a year ago and again assessed because I wanted a second opinion. I speak to so many adults who confidently claim they have adhd and then I find out they were never assessed. Often they treat it like it’s a quirk/personality trait rather than an impairment. It makes me not want to talk about my diagnosis ever because I don’t want to be associated with those people.
@Applemangh Жыл бұрын
In order to truly solve this problem, we (as a society) NEED to invest heavily in mental health resources. The fact that so many people CAN'T get a proper diagnoses mean they basically have no choice but to figure themselves out on their own with the resources available to them. As long as people are careful and thoughtful with how they go about this, it should be harmless, for example: instead of saying "I totally have ADHD", an undiagnosed person might say "I think I might have ADHD" or "I relate to a lot of people who have ADHD". Those little adjustments in how we speak and think about our mental health could make a big difference.
@VworksArt19 күн бұрын
I appreciate you shedding light on this topic. I feel like self diagnosing has become more of a problem in general these days.
@Fernandanatac Жыл бұрын
It’s very weird for me… my first contact with the knowledge of the symptoms was a youtube video calmly explaining the symptoms. I related to lots of them but not all, and moved on with my life. When I started doing therapy, my therapist said that I had a big chance of having it (most of my struggles in life have to do with poor organization, poor time management, lack of focus on anything that requires mental effort, procrastination [even to do things that I actually like], difficulty prioritizing in general and being easily distracted by my own thoughts specially while working, studying or when by myself). Then I got diagnosed by a Psychiatrist after an almost 3hour long session. … I still have doubts if I actually have adhd. What gives me doubts is I don’t struggle talking to people or paying attention in conversations (if 1-to-1) and I never felt like my brain “runs too fast”, or like I have many mind voices talking at the same time. To me is more like… one thought interrupts the other, it’s difficult to finish one train of thought. But I can experience “silence” in my mind. I also don’t constantly loose things, never had. I can also finish a house chore if I start it. To me it feels like stopping one to begin the other is too much struggle. I do, however, get lost in many half chores at work, because it’s easier to do that in a PC. I can mask my struggles pretty well in my work, but I’m always afraid of getting more responsibilities and not being able to take care of them. Like, I want a promotion ofc, but at the same time I’m terrified of it. Same for getting a Post-graduation or doing freelancer jobs… I don’t do them not because I don’t want to, but because I’m terrified that I won’t be able to finish them. I don’t feel like my issues “destroyed my life”, but they’re really making me stagnate. :\ Overall it’s difficult to pinpoint where these struggles are normal things anybody can experience and when it’s a condition. I’m confused.
@rni406911 ай бұрын
psychiatrists aren’t always correct. i was misdiagnosed with anxiety at first. maybe that’s your problem may be.
@VintageSims Жыл бұрын
I didn’t realize I had been masking all of these problems for so long. I have struggled with almost every symptom of ADHD and always felt like there was something wrong with me because I couldn’t keep up, pay attention in class, listen to instructions without losing focus, etc. I’m trying to get diagnosed but I’m almost 30 and it’s difficult. I think it was overclouded by my depression, no one looked deeper and just I was lazy from my depression and was labeled a problem child who was wasting my potential. I’m honestly a bit grateful for ADHD tiktok pointing stuff out to me, but people definitely use ADHD and disabilities for clout 🥴
@gabbytriestomakethings Жыл бұрын
If you are having a hard time to get diagnosed, I recommend seeing a specialist who does just adhd. My general practitioner basically refused to discuss because she’s so used to people trying to just get drugs.
@birdiewolf3497 Жыл бұрын
@@gabbytriestomakethings It is hard to bring it up without these "professionals" looking at you like a junkie. Like I am just trying to function. I need to be able to do my fucking job. I would like to be able to cook, and do laundry and take showers. And go back to school for my graduate degree. It don't need to be adhd, if it is not adhd. I don't care about stimulants. I avoid drinking coffee because I never wanted to gain some sort of dependency on it. I am not chasing highs , but whatever is going on is disabling and I need help.
@nanetteisontheinternet Жыл бұрын
Haven’t finished the video yet but THANK YOU for speaking out on this. I’m so tired of the misinformation and it breaks my heart seeing people self-diagnose in the comments because I know I went through that. My mom and brother have fairly severe ADHD and I have a lot of problems processing and paying attention to information so I figured I had ADHD and went with that explanation for a long time. I finally got thoroughly tested and got the call from my mom saying I don’t have ADHD. And honestly, it was crushing, and it shouldn’t be, but I felt like I no longer had answers, I felt like I had lost an identity, and I felt like I had lied to people. I had a follow up appointment explaining that I just had severe depression (which I knew long ago) and a very slow processing speed, which wasn’t the most comforting thing. A long long time later I got diagnosed with OCD, PTSD, and chronic illness and everything started to make sense. I feel like it’s so easy to latch onto a diagnosis and forget other possibilities, even many healthcare providers make this mistake. I think we should have compassion for the people who self-misdiagnose because they’re often clinging to hope that there are answers.
@brigitteerrickson6875 Жыл бұрын
I'm really glad you're making an effort to help stop misinformation! I do wish you'd found some TikTok's that were less 'my experience with late dx AHDH has been this.' the way you are bringing up these things feels kind of dismissive of things an adult with ADHD may have formed as coping mechanisms. If you could have debunked instead blatant misinformation-- some of the people claiming that there is no difference between ADHD and ASD for example, I do think this could have been more helpful. Even in your TikTok reactions you are putting a lot of caveats 'this COULD be associated with ADHD, but it COULD be something else' Thank you again for helping keep people informed!
@celinepope Жыл бұрын
I WAS TALKING AVOUT THIS THIS MORNING! UGH. I have been diagnosed with ADHD and my coworkers who clearly don't struggle with any other symptoms keep claiming they have it and diminishing my struggle with it. Every. Single. Day. From the day I started school until a out 7th grade I would have MELTDOWNS. My anxiety levels were unbearable. I was diagnosed and medicated as a child, but didn't know how to cope.
@winxclubstellamusa Жыл бұрын
Exactly!!! It’s diminishes our very real, inescapable, and extremely isolating struggles due to our neurodivergence which is also a disability. It’s extremely unfair how no one understands it properly. It’s a humiliating slap to face.
@ashleyfowler1487 Жыл бұрын
Its the worst feeling, when you're sitting down trying to understand how everyone else has it so easy, How you're trying very hard to do the same things and failing. Then getting pulled aside and yelled at for your failings. Its even worse when you try and explain that its harder for you because you have adhd and they hit you with the "I have ADHD too and I don't have these problems."
@celinepope Жыл бұрын
@@ashleyfowler1487 yeah, clearly they don't have it. I mean, I understand not everyone can have the luxury of being diagnosed. But to just say it willy nilly because sometimes you struggle with inattentiveness or what not is NOT the same thing as having it. My everyday functioning is impaired. It's not just inconvenient, it took me years to get to where I am now. And even still it's a struggle.
@rainbownerladybounce Жыл бұрын
I'm curious what you think about careful self diagnosis, as a result of strained or no access to health-care? Example: person who struggles maintaining employment in a country like the US with no free medical care. /gen Just want to disclose I'm not in the US, and I have been professionally diagnosed with ADHD. Although I do highly suspect I also have ASD. Unfortunately the only option for adult assessment is private, and $$$. I am not personally willing to self diagnose with confidence, but I would bet a significant amount of money on it. Maybe then I'd have enough for a diagnosis lol. Sorry for the story, I just wanted to point out my biases :3
@foliofolio Жыл бұрын
the only real reasons you need diagnosis is to get a. sick leave b. commoditations c. treatment = therapy and or meds) not listed in any specific order. self diagnose cannot give you none of those, so why would you need to diagnose yourself ?
@anniexoxo1704 Жыл бұрын
@@foliofolio I'd imagine to be able to better understand yourself, perhaps to know which books to read and which strategies to implement/experiment with
@foliofolio Жыл бұрын
@@anniexoxo1704 but how you can indestand yourself better when you cannot be sure about the "diagnosis"
@oceanborne Жыл бұрын
@@foliofolio sometimes some symptoms from different causes can have the same / similar solutions, ive heard. so as an analogy, a sore throat can have different causes, but eating soup may still provide relief and help with that symptom itself. even if the diagnosis isn't official, it wouldn't hurt to try applying strategies that do fit that disorder if it turns out those strategies do benefit the person. if that makes sense anyways, lemme know if i explained it weird
@foliofolio Жыл бұрын
@@oceanborne i agree, but you still should not self diagnose. do it in your own head, but dont tell other people you have this and that if you dont have a real diagnosis. also you can hurt yourself even more with wrong kind of help, but only one suffering from that would be you, so go ahead try anything you want, but be carefull and listen to yourself and change things if you feel even a litlle bit that you are getting worse. and by "you" i dont mean specifically you.
@coyoteinthepool2 ай бұрын
It sounds like in the end you are advocating for more accessible diagnostics rather than people not sharing their own lived experiences anymore. If anyone relates to these, they should have access to professionals to rule in or out a real disorder.
@krupplet Жыл бұрын
I got clinically diagnosed when i was 9 and seeing all this stuff as a grown up, seeing people see these personal experiences and acting as if those are diagnostic traits- it honestly pisses me off. It feels like all of my struggles in life have been turned into the cool new trendy gimmick. Thank you for making this video! I really enjoyed how you thoroughly explained everything and the reasoning why ppl would jump to these labels and conclusions and why doing so is dangerous.
@SpitGoblin2 ай бұрын
the mental health tiktok issue is so 50/50 when it comes to good and bad because, if it weren't for tiktok, i wouldn't have gotten diagnosed with anything! but at the same time, self diagnosis has become such a big thing especially with the state of healthcare right now..
@24guitarkid24Ай бұрын
I've pretty much stopped talking to people about my struggles because all I get backs is positive toxicity. It feel like they didn't even listen to what I said.
@desotoadventurer6175 Жыл бұрын
something that irks me about this whole situation is how i feel the desire for community and identity downplays the genuine hardships and struggles ADHD can cause. for me, in my senior year, my ADHD got worse and my med dosage was no longer working for me. my grades went into the gutter and my depression was bad as a result. fortunately i was able to get my meds adjusted and cleaned it up before the end of term but i still feel like my ADHD acting up really screwed me from having an honest chance at getting into the top undergrad programs. i dunno when it’s functional i can appreciate my neurodivergence for how it makes me unique, but at its worst it can cause serious damage and i feel like that side isn’t talked about enough.
@asmrblizzz Жыл бұрын
Hi Ana! Great video and explanation. To me - seeing all these popular videos actually helped to become more aware. I definitely started noticing symptoms. And of course I scheduled a proper appointment with psychiatrist to be evaluated as I don’t want to self diagnose. So yes , those videos can point to a certain things but definitely it’s not a problem solving tool. Also, I liked how you mentioned that everyone jokes about adulting. It would be so great if you could do a video about it. Like what actually adult is? Maturity and etc. And I’m talking about not a parent part within us , but the actual adult. How to know that you are the one 😅 Thank you ❤
@goofball7206 Жыл бұрын
this actually really sucks to know that people are self diagnosing themselves to try to fit in. it's actually really damaging to us who are actually diagnosed w/ it and struggle to everyday life. for me it's about not being able to talk slower or not interrupt anyone else because i'm scared i'll lose my train of thoughts and i get easily overwhelmed over basic things like hanging out with family or work. it's not cute. it's actually difficult. thank you for making this video and pointing out the real symptoms with those with ADHD.
@lauras.9294 Жыл бұрын
The problem is that there are many undiagnosed people who are really struggling too who can't get a diagnosis because of several different reasons. I struggle with everyday life as well in many different ways and I show extreme symptoms of both ADHD and autism. I won't self-diagnose, so I'll just say that I'm "probably neurodivergent", but getting a diagnosis is impossible for me at the moment and possibly in the future as well, so while I am struggling with those things immensely, I have no way of actually getting help with those problems or learning how to deal with those...
@goofball7206 Жыл бұрын
@@lauras.9294 that's so much different than what those people on tiktok do, they just simply find any type of "symptom" of a diagnosis and make a quirk out of it. that's harmful to those who are diagnosed or undiagnosed because it's not true. if you do find yourself showing signs of autism/adhd but can't get help for it right now, that's fine. but please do not rely on social media especially tiktok and twitter for that. try to find a community that are helpful and have more knowledge in autism/adhd because of actual diagnosis. good luck! i really do hope you get the help you need one day ❤️
@SageStorm Жыл бұрын
A reminder, self diagnosis can be okay, many people dont have the ability toget a diagnosis. It can often take alot of time but as well alot of money. A lot of people research alot and talk to others with the condition they think they have. With mental disorders/disabilities, it can be very tricky to diagnose since it is not physical. I self diagnosed myself with autism, and i researched alot and brought it upto my therapist, from there i was financially able to go through with a diagnosis. Again, not everyone has that priveledge. Not only did it take alot of money, it also took two years of therapy for me to get doagnosed and medication for my adhd and autism. Again, there are the people who think neurodivergent is trendy and will make things up and say things, i completely agree with that, but we do have to realize an official diagnosis is a privilege.
@Julielikesyourmom Жыл бұрын
thank you for this. as a person with ADHD, I think these type of videos are helping neurotypical people a lot, because it is still very misunderstood and personally has brought me a lot of shame and has made me feel ostracized, so it makes me very defensive and angry to see people making funny quirky videos about it. I am a psychology student as well and it was very informative. I hope one day I'll help people that feel like I felt before being diagnosed and in the early stages of a very long recovery process. My psychiatrist also had ADHD so it was a very healing experience.
@shelbyschnoor9369 Жыл бұрын
This is a great video, thank you for making it. I am diagnosed with ADHD and I get upset that it’s trendy to claim you have ADHD, because for most of my life I’ve been ashamed of it, made fun of because of my behavior when I was younger, and have had a lifetime worth of struggles suffering/learning to cope/managing my disorder and learning to overcome the shame of being different- if I only knew how cool it was to be ADHD when I was crying from the difficulties in school and life or when I have been unable to sit still when required to sit still and feel I’m going to burst if I don’t get up and move around or when I’ve made impulsive decisions that I’m lucky didn’t end up worse. People are overstimulated these days because of smart phones and social media and constantly being bombarded with stimuli- so it’s understandable most people have a hard time focusing - but that’s very different than the all day every day struggle of trying to stay on task and getting half of your to do list done, have constant thoughts swirling in your head, struggling with low confidence from feeling you just can’t do it, and trying to fit into environments where you are just different….it’s not trendy, it’s not a quirky trait, it’s a life struggle if you have ADHD.
@deannasparling2 күн бұрын
as an autistic person the fact that i'm hearing autistic synptoms as symptoms for adhd is driving me insane
@ML-di8lt Жыл бұрын
I appreciate that you included TBI in your video! I often say that I have "ADHD" because explaining that I have a TBI that happens to act a hell of a lot like ADHD and the same medications that help ADHD help my TBI is a mouthful. So no, I didn't develop ADHD, but there was a sudden point in my life where my issues developed. For instance, I couldn't read following the accident - but not in an illiteracy way, in a 'there are too many scribbles/symbols on this page and I can't make sense of any of it'. I tried some medicine for ADHD (after about 15 years of struggling and making due) and *bam!* I could read!
@hallievanoutryve3109 Жыл бұрын
Your kitty is so cute!! Great video! I have seen so many ‘concerned’ videos on this toipic, and grateful to finally have someone with the proper background to speak on it. I think any videos with the ‘things I didn’t know were due to a mental illness. The videos always leave out the context- the difference between a symptomand the specific way that symptom manifests in their unique situation. And as you demonstrated, these videos ignore the universality of many of the claims, maybe due in part to the young age of most tic tockers; maybe they don’t realize how common these supposed signs are. Tictock’s short format really limits a creators ability to provide clear warnings, disclaimers and resources in a way that is easy to access for casual viewers.
@jastro. Жыл бұрын
THANK YOU. I was having a conversation with somebody (I’m clinically diagnosed btw) about adhd and they were like, “oh yeah my whole entire family has it my brother does I do too” (self diagnosed as you can guess) and man I was explaining something and they said, “Stop pretending please living with it isn’t even hard I have it you’re being a baby” and boy let me tell you how invalidating and just harmful that was to me and is to others. It invalidates my emotional breakdowns, my hours getting stuck on homework, every trouble as it’s not that hard everyone has it. ADHD has become too normalized in this society and for those with it it invalidates their experiences (I know I’m using invalidates a lot sorry lol my minds blanking on synonyms)
@jastro. Жыл бұрын
Also NO ADHD isn’t quirky and a cute character trait it is a DISORDER THAT IS HARD I wish people stopped making it seem like a cute thing that they’d want to identify with like 😑
@lo5t_numb2 ай бұрын
I can confirm that its very calming to put a tag or having an explanation for behavior, because i used to be quite sure i was neurodivergent (i was just looking for an explanation for my behavior)
@mamabear4728 Жыл бұрын
This is awesome. It's really encouraged me to get diagnosed. I have a brother who is diagnosed ADHD so I know what it looks like and I've always been worried that while I don't struggle like he does I definitely relate to some of his symptoms. They are things I legitimately struggle with and have been forced to find workarounds for in order to function. Things like picking a spot in each room where I store certain important items so I don't lose them, leaving for appointments half and hour before I need to then waiting in the parking lot so I'm not late (which sometimes goes wrong because I'll find something to do and end up being late anyways), packing everything I need for work the next day and leaving extras in my car or locker so I don't have to remember as many things and I won't get overly anxious when I feel Ive forgotten something, operating on a daily routine so I don't feel as overwhelmed by my to do list, eating microwave or toasted meals or wearing heat free hairstyles so I won't burn down the house by forgetting to turn off something when I know I have to go somewhere.. my solutions aren't perfect but they allow me to function as though I'm not struggling. Since I had kids it's become increasingly apparent to me that there are times I can not find a workaround the way I have in the past and I need a diagnosis so I know how to manage my symptoms. Everything you said was so very validating, my family has told me multiple times I can't have ADHD because I don't display the same symptoms my brother does but just because I have found ways to work around difficulties doesn't mean I'm not struggling to function "normally". Watching those "ADHD clips" has always caused me anxiety because while I know they're unreliable I relate to a lot of them so it was so nice to get a factual list of symptoms to watch for. Thanks for making me feel less crazy.
@properantagonist Жыл бұрын
Thank you for speaking up! We really need more accurate information on medical conditions and disorders now in the light of those tiktok trends. I'm bipolar and autistic and while on mania I relate to a lot of ADHD experiences. If I used tiktok instead of going to a professional, I could easily assume I have ADHD. It's also really annoying when people undermine how serious the symptoms have to be and that there have to be multiple of them present to actually qualify as a disorder, because people will jump to invalidate your struggle as soon as they hear that you're tired of something that they can slightly relate to.
@Tjnovakart Жыл бұрын
25:07 I’ve already seen “undiagnosed” people spreading misinformation like that on autism. It’s crazy, and it’s so frustrating to see something that’s an actual disability for me be commodified by others to seem more “cute” 😬 I guess this is the new version of Tumblr girls in the early 2010s claiming they were bipolar because they were “depressed but only sometimes”, aka a normal teenager’s experience with emotions.
@blueghost4769 Жыл бұрын
Honestly i hate it when people try to make autism seem cute for tiktok. It makes my life so much worse. My friend even said "autism wouldn't be considered a disorder if people were more accepting", which isn't true in my opinion, it would still make life a lot more difficult.
@LC-sp9ox Жыл бұрын
Phones social media and notifications-- have generally ruined the average person's attention span. The addicting nature of these new technologies is seriously affecting human minds.. It'd be interesting if you could do a literature review on new studies about effects of social media/ phones on the brain. I think a lot of people assume they had ADHD when really, it's very difficult to focus when we have an addicting, colorful fun metal brick attached to our hands.
@winxclubstellamusa Жыл бұрын
Real ADHD is a hyperactive mind that we are born with, so no. And nothing can ever cause a neurodivergence other than being born that way. Those posers don’t understand what it is, and neither do most doctors. Real ADHD is a hyperactive mind that does not shut up regardless of mood, that gets louder the more quiet the environment is, and a brain that is thoroughly mutated and causes us to have heightened senses and emotions, sensory processing disorder, severe executive functioning problems, social problems, very little working memory, and all of the symptoms of sensory and auditory processing disorders due to the combination of our heightened senses and hyperactive mind. ITS NOT BRAIN FOG like neurotypicals think! We are wired differently to the point where stimulants like coffee and adderall make us sleepy. And our eyes react differently to light and move significantly more than the eyes of a normal person due to all of the stimuli that we are taking in. We also must fidget and stim others we get anxious, while a neurotypical only fidgets when they are anxious. And that’s just the tip of the iceberg!!
@ptlovelight2971 Жыл бұрын
This is a interesting concept! I agree, I think most neurotypical people struggle because of the distractions by their phones, apps, and just general bad habits. That is not reason enough to believe they have ADHD...
@freddiebenson1064 Жыл бұрын
I genuinely wonder how many of them find relief from (what they perceive as) adhd symptoms if they start using their phone less or consuming less 'quick dopamine every 10 seconds' media. They sometimes say that smartphones are the new smoking and I have to admit, quitting cigarettes is 100x easier than quitting excessive phone use. I feel like an old person complaining about technology but I honestly feel it's damaging us somehow.
@winxclubstellamusa Жыл бұрын
@@freddiebenson1064 NO! Real ADHD is a hyperactive mind that does not shut up regardless of mood, that gets louder the more quiet the environment is, and a brain that is thoroughly mutated and causes us to have heightened senses and emotions, sensory processing disorder, severe executive functioning problems, social problems, very little working memory, and all of the symptoms of sensory and auditory processing disorders due to the combination of our heightened senses and hyperactive mind. ITS NOT BRAIN FOG like neurotypicals think! We are wired differently to the point where stimulants like coffee and adderall make us sleepy. Saying that is extremely insulting to us 2.8% of the adult population who have real adhd.
@tiredcatman7381 Жыл бұрын
As someone with adhd, I've found that I am a bit immune to some addictions because of my adhd. For example, I can't get addicted to weed because getting it is a lot of steps that I won't be able to execute and then I forget about it. And I can't get addicted to tik tok because I multi-task a lot (and tiktok can't be used as a podcast) and I also get frustrated when I don't instantly find the content I want to see (thing that tiktok does a lot to me).
@CatharticCurios20 күн бұрын
"or it could be nothing". Strikes me as an yellow flag because it conflates dsm5 diagnoses with the existence/ validity of a disorder.
@babys8640 Жыл бұрын
can you make a similar video about body dysmorphic disorder? because everyone on social media claims to have it now and i doubt that they all are diagnosed. i was diagnosed in 2016 and even though it’s way better now, i don’t think people understand how much this disorder can affect your life and that it’s not just feeling ugly. inliterally spend several HOURS everyday looking in the mirror/ taking pictures of myself because i was convinced something was wrong. not even just „ugly“ but rather „ugly“ because it grew in a way that it wasn’t supposed to grew like so it’s disfigured. sometimes i feel ugly too like everyone else but that is something completely different. also i sadly made the experience that even a lot of psychologist judge you for having it especially when you’re pretty (i am v pretty! i know that now but couldn’t see it for years. but i also got a nose job and some filler). people have no idea what it’s like and it’s kinda disrespectful using these terms like it’s a new way of saying i feel ugly/ not satisfied with my looks
@glory5110 Жыл бұрын
I had ADHD as a child. It got so much worse in my teens. My mom was against medicine. I ended up dropping out because I just.. couldn't do it. The only symptoms I had were daydreaming, constantly misplacing homework/pencils and, of course, inability to focus. I guess I still technically have it, but I still don't take medication and I am getting straight A's in college. Sometimes I wonder what my life would have been like if I had meds when I was little. I don't relate to these TikTok's at all...
@razzeling_dazzeling_Ай бұрын
Using it as a quirky little behavior really does something to boil my blood and completely devalues those who have a actual nightmare living.
@cathj5213 Жыл бұрын
I am so glad you have addressed this issue. Literally half of the people I know have now decided they have ADHD because of Tik Tok. The issue in the UK is that these same people are all trying to access the overstretched health service to get a formal diagnosis of something they’ve never really been worried about before, taking away precious resources from those who really need support. Some of the symptoms they give for ADHD border on the ridiculous, but humans do like to justify less ‘desirable’ behaviours such as being untidy or lack of concentration down to a clinical diagnosis. It worries me and I hope you continue to raise awareness, so that those who do need support are able to access it.
@halesbellss10 ай бұрын
Rewatching TV shows is very much not me. It can’t hold the attention to watch something I’ve already watched before.
@notherepim7 ай бұрын
Same
@shockwaves5921 күн бұрын
Dsm-5 yeah because that's legit and not outdated..
@Bedevere2 күн бұрын
As a 58 year old I was diagnosed and one of the things I figured out is that my hyperactivity (well documented as a child) had morphed into a sort of mental and social hyper activity and very undirected activities that appeared like hobbies and therefore socially acceptable. Video games, constant tooling about, joining clubs and activity groups (and leaving just as quickly), incessant socializing, etc.
@jjaa_joyjoyartistАй бұрын
Exactly. Everyone reaches their limit, and sometimes folks have bad days, and sometimes people function a bit differently, but that doesn't make someone neurodivergent, traumatized, mentally ill, etc. People's issues are still valid even if they don't have a fancy label
@JillofAllTrades224 күн бұрын
And guess what? The labels change. What labels will the DSM add next edition? All manmade constructs to make ourselves feel better/more in control.
@nicistephens95512 ай бұрын
"hearing what people say but not processing" is literally inattention...,
@daisymaygames2 ай бұрын
Doesn’t make it a disorder though. Everybody zones out sometimes.