Never go back unless they show you 100% they changed without you putting in anything. You need to see who they are and what they’re capable of without you giving anything.
@joeousley7748 Жыл бұрын
Wife and I have separated after 12 year marriage. She moved out after I caught in an emotional affair and wants to focus on her career. Our 12 year old son and I are in the house, getting through it day by day. I am 43. Started working out everyday. Started a new job making good money. Have an excellent relationship with our son. Stopped drinking and consuming sugar. I am now at a point where I can see clearly. I say this for you young ones beating yourselves up. IF THEY DON'T WANT YOU IN THEIR LIFE, YOU DON'T NEED THEM IN YOURS.
@bjornmkwananzi2084 Жыл бұрын
I needed this. Just broke up after 6 years n three beautiful souls. Lost beyond belief. What dyu mean you gave up sugar
@joeousley7748 Жыл бұрын
@@bjornmkwananzi2084 stopped eating sugar, soda, being mindful of what you put in your body helps your thought process.
@Bobess22 Жыл бұрын
That’s a good message ❤
@LaportiaRisingupnow Жыл бұрын
❤❤❤❤
@andziagreen4922 Жыл бұрын
Well said and congratulations for changing your lifestyle😊👏👏👏you don't know or maybe you know now on how attractive for mature women is a man who instead of hitting the ground he changes his lifestyle to healthy one, deals with his addictions etc. after a break up. This is what I admire so good luck. This is the proper way after separation, it doesn't matter it was long or short relationship. Always focus on improving yourself and getting over the person who hurt you and heal your traumas to be able to love again someday😊🤗
@sylviathomas14757 ай бұрын
Never go back , remember why you left
@patrik-vw4ek6 ай бұрын
Someone who dumps you is doing you a favour in the long run.
@vernondelancy62815 ай бұрын
Love yourself more than you love them . Respect yourself more than you respect them . With that being said move on and become a better version of yourself.
@elle96332 жыл бұрын
Great suggestion! Never go back to someone who broke you. Anyhow, you would have put your pieces back together and you are not the same person they dated. You are better than that. Value yourself . ♥️
@WeavToldMe2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely! Appreciate the love. Thanks for watching!
@michaellamont26052 жыл бұрын
PTSD again 😆 nope
@lemskully30945 ай бұрын
😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
@morpheus31909 ай бұрын
I think about my ex a lot, but I don’t think I could trust her if she ever came back. I couldn’t deal with the situation if she left me a second time. There is no way I could ever let her back in after what she did to me. Trust is forever lost.
@WeavToldMe9 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching
@jarrelljones148310 ай бұрын
My EX popped up in my DMs after a year just when I found another girl that treats me so well and all about me I was tempted to write her back but I thought about all the mess she put me through and all the lies and what she said about me to friends that was far from the truth so I just erased the message and left it on read I’m good
@WeavToldMe10 ай бұрын
💯💯
@IslandGurl85 Жыл бұрын
When they leave you shame on them but if you give them a second chance it fails then it’s shame on you because that was the choice you made
@DarthVeach8 ай бұрын
They can come back but be VERY careful what you wish for!! We were together 8 years then broke up and stayed apart for 3. We kept in touch during the breakup and stayed civil, and never spoke about our personal lives. We never figured we would get back together. Then after just making small talk for 3 years, finally she messaged about seeing me and we started up again. Everything seemed different in a good way. She was more open and relaxed, it felt like we moved on from so many of our past problems. Then about a year in, the old "her" started creeping back in. Hiding her phone, being cryptic and secretive about who she was spending time with. Outright lying, Lots of excuses for not wanting to spend time with me. About another 6 months go by, and she dumps me again thru a Facebook message. She could never do the hard stuff face to face. And now she is with someone new already. I doubt she will ever come back a 3rd time, but if she does I have to be ready to say absolutely not. I love her but don't want to go thru losing her ever again.
@williamjarbo3650 Жыл бұрын
Married 30 years and she ghosted me and blocked me. I knew something was going on and I confronted her and she just sat there and wouldn’t talk at all. So I think the hardest part is that I didn’t get anything no explanation or anything. I was the guy who was going crazy wondering what was the truth. So, a couple days ago I started doing research on the situation. Well I was in shock that I was married to a narcissist and didn’t know. All of the traits of a narcissist were exactly what she had the same traits. So, now I have the truth and I’ve been able to get her out of my head and heart. Time to do me
@williamjarbo3650 Жыл бұрын
Y
@1LuckyGirl1975 Жыл бұрын
When he realised it I'm the one who had zero fucks left to give. Anytime someone thinks a moment is better than longevity you'll always be on the losing side of the equation. When you have to explain to someone how to treat you? Treat yourself to the nearest exit and leave the bullshit stew behind for the next victim.
@WeavToldMe Жыл бұрын
💯💯
@michaeljonas7604 Жыл бұрын
Going back would be like stepping in dog poop,washing it off then purposely going back and stepping in the same pile again .INSANITY stay in your peace
@WeavToldMe Жыл бұрын
💪🏾💯
@michaeljonas7604 Жыл бұрын
Thanks weav your message is genuine and to the point , lov it need it
@lsls-lb7qv Жыл бұрын
It is all about them again when their highesty decided to come back just when they left you it was also about them. Never about you
@Blessingsmwa10 ай бұрын
Never fall in love with 😢😢a same person twice self love is the answer until God give you kingdom spouse have patience
@ladyvirgo01311 ай бұрын
Never taking my soon ex husband back, I was just an option to him! Hes been shacked up with the secretary from his work ever since he left. Gross Cowards 😈 She thinks she won my husband but she got a Covert Narcissist 😂 Good Luck with that habitual liar, cheater
@WeavToldMe11 ай бұрын
🙌🏾🙌🏾
@ericawhite9430 Жыл бұрын
I'm over it,I will not be putting myself out there again, these men got me so messed up,that I have fear and anxiety, when men approach me, because I know they will never love me,and all they want to do is hurt me,I'm good right by my myself period not letting any men get close to me,they switch up way to much,,,focusing on me,
@WeavToldMe Жыл бұрын
Keep healing one day at a time!
@LaportiaRisingupnow Жыл бұрын
😢Me too your not alone Queen
@GoaWay4Sanity2 жыл бұрын
*DMX has resurrected lol*
@elle96332 жыл бұрын
Getting back with my avoidant ex, who chose to leave, is putting myself through double jeopardy. I love myself too much for that. #next #upwardandonward #levelUP
@WeavToldMe2 жыл бұрын
💯💯💯
@tayshawn8054 Жыл бұрын
Never put your life on hold unless it for your kids
@reginaldbassette34443 жыл бұрын
great advice.. going back never worked for me after we breakup.
@WeavToldMe3 жыл бұрын
Appreciate the love!
@peeboseesmo22753 жыл бұрын
I would want to know why you should even entertain the idea in the first place?? An ex is an ex for a reason and it should stay that way!
@WeavToldMe3 жыл бұрын
Appreciate the love and the comment! Thanks for watching!
@ablespeaks71523 жыл бұрын
💯
@MMA-wj1jzАй бұрын
Facts at never works. Don’t take them back
@antoinettebulatao22995 ай бұрын
Wonderful video . You are truly right and you are truly on point of how I am feeling. All of it on this video is exactly how I’ve been feeling and moving on yes I do feel that it gets better every day of the break up. I don’t talk to him. I blocked him and not looking back so I’m glad there is no reaching out. There is no communication and I am strong in that department. Thank God for that if any reaching out it would be him, but I highly doubt it because he has a new supplier in the house. As soon as I moved out, the new supplier moved in. good riddance thank you for the wonderful video again and helping me guide me to heal
@WeavToldMe5 ай бұрын
Thank you for watching and following along. Stay inspired and keep healing! 🙌🏾🌱
@antoinettebulatao22995 ай бұрын
Thank you.
@gilbertsmith28267 ай бұрын
Brother I appreciate your videos keep up the good work.
@WeavToldMe7 ай бұрын
Thank you!🫡
@orvelorten55862 күн бұрын
She had 8 years of my love, devotion and money. Enough was enough...imma do me for once.
@cynthiareynolds2017 Жыл бұрын
He's contacted me constantly recently. Now he's cold. So when he calls. So now I'm putting him on the back burner. He can't have me back. He's in a rebound what touched him. I'll never touch him again. No way. I'm waiting on someone better. I felt I had moved forward. I don't feel the intense hurt as I once did in the beginning. Yes, it's scary to start with someone new after a four year term with him. But not ready to date.
@WeavToldMe Жыл бұрын
Stay strong!
@cynthiareynolds2017 Жыл бұрын
Thank you, I am strong and will continue to be strong.
@amyw59242 жыл бұрын
My Lord, do you have a rocking chair on my shoulder watching everything? On point.
@WeavToldMe2 жыл бұрын
Possibly haha. Thank you for checking out the video!
@catnip925317 сағат бұрын
2:30 -2:58 my mantra since I went no contact more than a year ago. Even have similar on my phone and elsewhere to break cognitive dissonance whenever the trauma bond or nostalgia kicks in. It helps.
@dovelove3989 ай бұрын
I invested a lot in a relationship only to go NC and block him. Months later he sent me an exquisite bracket through a friend. He wanted a chance to apologize for hurting me. I unblocked him and listened. I decided it was best to leave the trinkets in the bag in my closet and move on.
@WeavToldMe9 ай бұрын
Live and learn with the experience! 🏁🌱
@carlosrios89202 жыл бұрын
Weav~ you hit all key factors that I experienced, such as Lack of sleep, checking phone, heartache, etc. Life is beautiful and one should never never try to convince, pressure or force that "person" to LOVE you. One gets emotionally + physically drained. Happy Holidays Weav!
@WeavToldMe2 жыл бұрын
Yes it takes a lot out of you! Thank you for checking out the video! Appreciate it! 💯
@sameernelson96846 ай бұрын
I like what your talking about, your helping ppl.
@LiliCramer11 ай бұрын
If the other relationship worked out who would be the one on the outside? Me. So know no matter how much i love you and the situation hurts.
@JMulvy Жыл бұрын
OK, I have to admit... when the breakup first happened I watched a few of your videos and man, were they difficult to stomach. So I avoided your channel for a while. Now almost 2 months later I think i am ready because you are speaking absolute truth and facts. Yeah, at times it can be difficult to accept still, but nothing worth doing is ever easy, and it has gotten easier for me. Subbed. Personally, I am a big believer that people can change and that people deserve a second chance to prove they have changed or are willing to change. After the 2nd chance, the onus is upon your shoulders and no one else's. I want to give her that second chance but she has to reach out to me first. I am still working on myself and if she hasn't been working on herself I will be asking her how she intends to. If she thinks she is god's gift to men and perfect exactly the way she is... there will be no second chance. However, I have a long way to go so her contacting me is pretty far from my mind right now.
@RaoulDukeSr5 ай бұрын
That strikes me as an incredibly healthy attitude..good for you bro. I'm in a very similar situation almost to a T. Here's hoping those that need hardwork and healthy change embrace it and grow, life is too short 🙏💞🙏
@kerrymone8590 Жыл бұрын
I appreciate your authenticity. This is an older video but it will always ring true.
@WeavToldMe Жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching. Appreciate the love!
@NickRivers-bk2ni6 ай бұрын
I enjoy weaves short videos. Right to the point
@WeavToldMe6 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching
@brandy3073 ай бұрын
Yeah that ex might come back, but now they are like Gaige coming back from Pet Semetary. Because you see them for the walking dead they are. Leave what’s dead and buried, move on to the life that’s meant for you.
@roszettaoliver55522 күн бұрын
😂😂😂 funny but you're right
@tayshawn8054 Жыл бұрын
Your right I took my ex back after she had me blocked for 8 months because she was with her ex and when she came back it was horrible it last 90 days she wanted me back because of comfort because her ex dogged her out and used her and her job was stressing her out
@WeavToldMe Жыл бұрын
Yup. Live and learn from the experience, right? Thanks for checking out the video!
@margretdawson1011 Жыл бұрын
Weav what an unusual name way cute!... I agree with you one hundred and you do help alot of pple heal and you teach them how to adjust!....
@sadiehaws17913 жыл бұрын
You always drop videos that are super relevant to my life.
@WeavToldMe3 жыл бұрын
The emails and coaching sessions always inspire the videos! Thank you for watching! Truly appreciate the love 💯
@LoveLife-ry5mm3 жыл бұрын
Don't give up on life and the universe I know of a great man who helped you me fix my broken hear beat relationship and everything was restored to pormal in days without delay
@LoveLife-ry5mm3 жыл бұрын
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@LoveLife-ry5mm3 жыл бұрын
massage him on WhatsApp
@dzoni51132 жыл бұрын
best thing youtube recommended me just in the time of need ! got dumped a month and a half ago,luckily for me im feeling a lot better,but taking it day by day
@WeavToldMe2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching! 💯
@tawnyasterling58754 ай бұрын
I needed to see this today, although it was posted years ago. So true.. reality check - not going back.. looking ahead for something/someone Real. Im stepping out of my comfort zone for me, my peace, self love and no more toxicity, no matter when thoughts of him tend to try to creep in and stay in my mind. I got control of this. Thank you, Weave
@WeavToldMe4 ай бұрын
💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
@memorablywonderful3 ай бұрын
Lovely advice, very careful and loving. No harsh words, just feeling someone who is going through rough times❤
@boldcityccАй бұрын
This guy is incredibly insightful
@WeavToldMeАй бұрын
🙏🏾
@tamikascott8269 Жыл бұрын
Yes the freedom it was hard but I'm healing and I actually have more then I did 15 years ago
@WeavToldMe Жыл бұрын
One day at a time! 🙏🏾
@judithhaven882011 ай бұрын
Thank you soooooooooo very much Weav!! You keep me strong when I am weak!!
@WeavToldMe11 ай бұрын
Stay inspired! 🙏🏾🙏🏾
@leratoseretsi5603 Жыл бұрын
I genuinely appreciate you coach 🙏
@WeavToldMe Жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching! 🙏🏾
@stevenharrison9032 Жыл бұрын
Great words of wisdom. God bless you my brother. Keep up the good work!!!
@WeavToldMe Жыл бұрын
Thank you. Appreciate the love! 💯
@ericaminio3003 жыл бұрын
FR coming back around being extra nosey trying to get you back 🙄
@WeavToldMe3 жыл бұрын
Haha thats the way it goes sometimes! Thanks for watching!
@alib5074 Жыл бұрын
He finally left in April now he calling and texting folk about me. He's blocked. Lol I told you I was done now you want to be friends access denied. Now I'm doing it all by myself for myself. I'm happy plus free from your bullspit and now you calling lol access DENIED. We were married almost 20 years but I'm done and your access ex hubby is DENIED. You, your, family, and your friends. Access DENIED and I NEVER felt better. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@WeavToldMe Жыл бұрын
💯🏁
@ms.traycee2947 Жыл бұрын
Hi I'm new to your channel I'm plugged in now!!! 👀👀😳
@WeavToldMe Жыл бұрын
Thank you for becoming a part of the squad. 🙏🏾
@MissSarahGM Жыл бұрын
He has reached out several times, but got nowhere. For me now, he would need to come back with insights on his avoidant attachment, and how he is enmeshed with his family, to be worth revisiting. I was a loving girlfriend and put up with his volatility. So only if he said something significant, I would respond. The vague nostalgic messages or being curious how I am doing are not worth a response at this stage. After 16 months of sporadic contact. Even if he is insecure and afraid of rejection, he can't message me casually to see if I will respond.
@katrinasanchez60333 жыл бұрын
He keeps popping back up in my life idk why I cant let his ass go 🥴😩
@WeavToldMe3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching! Its always a process!
@ntrasmr873 жыл бұрын
He knows your leaving the door cracked for him to come back in whenever he wants . When you get tired of catching that drift you will keep it closed ! 😉 These videos help me stay focused
@algrande28412 жыл бұрын
Well spoken
@WeavToldMe2 жыл бұрын
Thank you! 💯
@bridgettebianca23184 ай бұрын
I’m my Chris Tucker Voice (Smokey) Don’t you ever, never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, never, come back around here!!😂😂 Don’t call me, I’ll call you!
@juliegalea772011 ай бұрын
Love this ❤ thank you
@WeavToldMe11 ай бұрын
Thank you. Stay inspired!
@michelleglover2045 Жыл бұрын
On point!!! Thank you!!!
@WeavToldMe Жыл бұрын
Thank you
@lucywoolcot1159 Жыл бұрын
Truth😌❤
@WeavToldMe Жыл бұрын
🙌🏾🙌🏾
@9parasqn6569 ай бұрын
Wise words yet again. Thank you.
@WeavToldMe9 ай бұрын
🙏🏾🙏🏾
@anastasiasharidaali8217 Жыл бұрын
So true... 💯
@WeavToldMe Жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching
@imthebest72902 жыл бұрын
I caught myself talking to her then immediately started ignoring her texts and deleted her #
@WeavToldMe2 жыл бұрын
Everything ends for a reason! Keep it moving! Thanks for watching!
@marycampeau93782 ай бұрын
he regrets it almost three years later and i don't give a f*ck
@lb26962 жыл бұрын
Thanks, man.
@WeavToldMe2 жыл бұрын
Thank you! Appreciate the love! 💯
@melissabelluci82426 ай бұрын
At that point I do not care anymore iam out …
@billjeanmard11612 жыл бұрын
Thank you.
@WeavToldMe2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for checking out the video!
@smohammed28218 ай бұрын
He popped up to Harass me and then he attacked me and then I found out. His married illegally. He wiped house clean. And new wife and him took everything of mine.... suppose😢 to be 50/50 in divorce.... but wasnt😢
@WeavToldMe8 ай бұрын
🙏🏾🙏🏾
@drewjohnston78273 жыл бұрын
New subbie
@WeavToldMe3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for joining the squad! Appreciate the love!
@BreannaPalmer-fm3lv9 ай бұрын
Facts ❤
@WeavToldMe9 ай бұрын
🙏🏾
@SamanthaHall-dk7wpАй бұрын
what if they left you with a baby? lol
@WeavToldMeАй бұрын
Handle ya handle solo
@kadenpackard13452 жыл бұрын
My ex and I broke up a couple of weeks ago and I begged for about 2 days than dipped. She saw me go to the gym with another girl a couple days ago. She’s been acting really happy and went to a party with one of her new friends and would not stop talking about me being “all over this new girl” and that she researched who it was and all that at the party she went to. My friend was also at that party and told me how happy she was trying to be but how jealous she was acting towards me hanging with this girl. Any thoughts?
@WeavToldMe2 жыл бұрын
My only thought is depending on how it ended, never go back to what broke you. If you pleaded your case and she said nah? Keep it moving and don’t trip over what’s behind you! 💯
@kadenpackard13452 жыл бұрын
@@WeavToldMe I indeed begged and pleaded for a couple of days, around 3 but after that I told her I’m not waiting for her and that i was gonna better myself and move on.
@darlenescott1969 Жыл бұрын
I would never ever go back to my Narcisse ex he set out to destroy me him and others, if he was on Fire 🔥 and I had a full 🪣 of water shit, Burn baby 🔥 Burn,y go back to that.
@Claudiappatterson3 жыл бұрын
🎯💡❤️
@WeavToldMe3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching!
@shanearnett9579 Жыл бұрын
How do you move on 😢😢😢 when you have a baby otw with no contact from my baby mamma? Idk what to do?.
@WeavToldMe Жыл бұрын
You need vital contact for the sake of your child. Stay strong!
@adamstein77623 жыл бұрын
🙌🙌
@WeavToldMe3 жыл бұрын
Appreciate the love!
@zoesmith61278 ай бұрын
❤❤❤❤
@WeavToldMe8 ай бұрын
🙌🏾🙌🏾
@addybop89083 жыл бұрын
Weav i sent you an email
@WeavToldMe3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching! I’ll take a look!
@rclark78079 ай бұрын
Great video message here! Ive see the evidence of 'seemingly' benign things on my ex's SM which clearly indicate [she] cannot stand that she can NO LONGER make contact with me without making herself look week! I will NOT be drawn into that crap.....and that just drives her nuts....i see the evidence in those subtle phrases and/or a post if hers. .....but it frustrates [them] even more as [they] begin to realize that you're NEVER going to open that door for them again, EVER! .... It's like fishing and you can see the fish circling your hook and bait, but you can't force those fuckers to put their mouth onto the hook! 🤣😂🤣 Great video message brother!!