What Are You So Afraid Of? | Self-Help and NXIVM
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Күн бұрынThe Self-Help industry has existed for over a century and seems to be selling the same product in slightly different packaging. What shaped this industry and what happens when you take it too far?
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Books
Don't Call It a Cult: The Shocking Story of Keith Raniere and the Women of NXIVM (2021) by Sarah Berman
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Unlimited Power : The New Science Of Personal Achievement (1986) by Tony Robbins
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The Power of Positive Thinking: A Practical Guide to Mastering the Problems of Everyday Living (1992) by Norman Vincent Peale
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Get Out of Your Head: Stopping the Spiral of Toxic Thoughts (2020) by Jennie Allen
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0:00 Intro
1:07 Module 1 Self-Help
6:56 Module 2 Tony Robbins
17:11 Module 3 Keith Raniere
28:27 Module 4 NXIVM
45:53 Module 5 Dominus Obsequious Sororium
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@KnowingBetter 2 жыл бұрын
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@PassportReasons 2 жыл бұрын
Bro, you still black.
@luci1st43 2 жыл бұрын
Well I guess a good sleep for tomorrow's interview has been postponed
@evaneiscool 2 жыл бұрын
Where'd you get that notebook?
@racing-with-ryan-gamer 2 жыл бұрын
Ok
@justins8802 2 жыл бұрын
No more Nebula? :-( Edit: So I see the video is sponsored by Nebula, so it’s in the picture, but I don’t see this video on Nebula yet.
@randomizer1666 2 жыл бұрын
"If you're reading it in a book written by someone else, that's not self-help. That's help." ~George Carlin
@alaalfa8839 2 жыл бұрын
What is the opposite of self-help?....Self-help finished?....finally improved, graduated?
@Praisethesunson 2 жыл бұрын
@@alaalfa8839 The opposite of self help is society
@hicknopunk 2 жыл бұрын
Lol, great quote
@Baronello 2 жыл бұрын
That's the author which self helping not you.
@ibruceeasily1728 2 жыл бұрын
Georgie
@fedos 2 жыл бұрын
Rather impressive that Keith Raniere taught himself quantum physics 9 years before he taught himself the math needed to understand it.
@grayisgood Жыл бұрын
He's special.
@gray3589 Жыл бұрын
👀
@tomlxyz Жыл бұрын
He's so intelligent he doesn't need math to understand it
@sponge1234ify Жыл бұрын
I mean, reading this very, *very* charitably, which is 500km from what it deserves and 500km more, it could mean that he noticed the duality of wave-particle in the subatomic level and intuitively derived *everything* of Quantum Physics out of that. And him "learning" College math could just be "oh this is the description of X" Again, *very* charitable reading of him as a non-physician software engineer, but an interesting alternate history idea IMO. What *if* we found the waveness of particles first, instead of it's pointness? What if an alien civilization did?
@jessehunter362 Жыл бұрын
@@sponge1234ify the real problem with this is that the math is what quantum physics is. It’s like gravity- everyone knew that it existed before, things obviously fell down, but because newton mathematically described it he gets to “invent” it. I have a very basic intuition of quantum mechanics, the basic rules without the maths, but anyone can get that really easily- it’s the understanding the math and the actual nitty-gritty of it that matters.
@garthmarenghi9040 2 жыл бұрын
Nothing says "I'm trustworthy" quite like saying "abuse is just a social construct".
@MrZauberelefant 2 жыл бұрын
and talking about how the age of consent is illiberal etc.
@oxnard_audit9923 2 жыл бұрын
Abuse IS a social construct . Crying 😢is a social construct. Prison is a social construct. It's a social construct because we are social creatures and know abuse is bad because of our social construct.
@julannelly 2 жыл бұрын
@@oxnard_audit9923 crying is not a social construct? It's a natural reaction to pain and spans across numerous lifeforms. Regardless, did you watch the video? This "social construct" statement was used to confuse consent and assumes consent by default at a certain age, which is completely incorrect. Age plays a part in being able to make an informed decision, but you should never assume consent at any age.
@Waspinmymind 2 жыл бұрын
@@oxnard_audit9923 that’s not how social constructs work. We know abuse is bad from the the way it affects people. This is stuff we measure with tools too. Not just emotional because abuse changes the way the brain works. Prison is a system made by humans. They drum up that justice stuff for money. The history of it is far to vast to go through in a comment. But trying to boil everything down to a social constructs is kind of just drinking the coolaod.
@IronFreakV 2 жыл бұрын
How much the term "social construct" can be thrown around like this is a testament to how misunderstood and kinda vague the concept actually is
@theKRB93 2 жыл бұрын
Whoever wrote the captions for this video and included "obnoxiously upbeat yet bland instrumental music" for the transition music, you are a legend
@michaelgoldstein8516 Жыл бұрын
One of my favorite captions is during one episode of The Handmaid’s Tale where the caption says [Pretentious Classical Music plays]
@abraxasjinx5207 Жыл бұрын
@@michaelgoldstein8516 everything about that show is pretentious, and I say that as a huge fan of Margaret Atwood and also a viewer of the series. Elizabeth Moss has kind of been pigeonholed into that type of role, and I try to not hold it against her - she is great in other works.
@P-nk-m-na Жыл бұрын
@@michaelgoldstein8516 _[SADLY GO-KARTS]_
@ReinaDido 10 ай бұрын
"música instrumental desagradablemente optimista pero insulsa" en español :D
@cyrus6186 5 ай бұрын
LOL
@neurotransmissions 2 жыл бұрын
As a mental health therapist, I want to clarify that if you do want to have the confidence to ask that girl out, work on your career goals, or just tidy up around the house, you can do that with a therapist, too. And insurance will actually cover it. :)
@Alexander-mr4yw 2 жыл бұрын
*Might cover some of it, if you have insurance before, during, and after the billing cycle, if the therapist is in network, exists near enough for you to reach them, will take you as a patient, and will schedule you during your non-work hours.
@BirdThatEatsPrometheussLiver 2 жыл бұрын
@@neurotransmissions But isn't tele-therapy typically less effective? Mind you, I'm unsure, but that's what I've been informed.
@neurotransmissions 2 жыл бұрын
@@BirdThatEatsPrometheussLiver Surprisingly, it is not! It’s just as effective as face-to-face therapy and most folks find it easier to attend their sessions due to the convenience. That said, it’s not perfect for everyone. It’s not ideal for super high-risk clients if there are safety concerns and some people prefer that in-person experience. But in terms of treatment effectiveness, it’s equivalent.
@adamhill1419 2 жыл бұрын
"And insurance will actually cover it" ::cries in Marketplace insurance plan::
@tombkings6279 2 жыл бұрын
Lol I'm too ugly to have a girlfriend
@Jacob-yg7lz 2 жыл бұрын
18:45 >"Learned Quantum physics by age four" >"Taught himself college math at 13" That's a bit "sus" as the kids say. Edit: For some reason this post said "57:05" before.
@gamermapper 2 жыл бұрын
Amogus
@blu_nades 2 жыл бұрын
Sussy baka
@peltimies2469 2 жыл бұрын
@@blu_nades Bussy saka?
@wonder_9315 2 жыл бұрын
He clearly never learned order of operations
@podyjr101 2 жыл бұрын
I wonder how KB feels reading this reply chain
@fntthesmth423 2 жыл бұрын
The way this dude was able to keep the lie of being celibate while having almost 10 girlfriends at one time, all of whom believed they were his only girlfriend, is a despicably admirable level of either logistical juggling or psychological manipulation
@Saibellus Жыл бұрын
i guess if all you do is have sex with and abuse them it's much easier than having an actual affair. i imagine a lot of his communications with the group were designed to be interpretable as secret messages "just for meee", the way bands song about some anonymous man or woman and then insane fans believe its about them.
@adrianaslund8605 Жыл бұрын
The key to happiness: just be a psychopath.
@randomboy3m98 Жыл бұрын
Not admirable at all. I’d use the word impressive, not admirable.
@EmiStar070 Жыл бұрын
It can be both. He's very good at being an absolutely horrible person
@crescentfreshbret Жыл бұрын
I wouldn’t even be able to do that with just TWO women, let alone 10!
@Iudicatio 2 жыл бұрын
Wait....how did Keith Rainere teach himself quantum physics when he was 4 but not learn college math until he was 13?? I study physics and you definitely need college math to learn quantum physics, it's kind of a prerequisite.
@minderbart1 2 жыл бұрын
oh that's easy... he lied
@pepi7404 2 жыл бұрын
He had such an understanding of the space time continuum, that he could learn topics in non-chronological order.
@christianwolff7229 2 жыл бұрын
I guess his parents got him a cat, which may or may not have survived his care. But serisouly: I had a good chuckle when I heard that, too. If anything it proves how little he understands of physics. It's beautiful.
@carlossaraiva8213 2 жыл бұрын
Oh maybe, i dont know, he lied, perhaps?
@pepi7404 2 жыл бұрын
@@carlossaraiva8213 Whaaat? Noooo, he wouldn't.
@Erythromycin-16 2 жыл бұрын
“Often times the screaming of abuse is abuse itself, it’s a made up human concept” This Keith guy really said if you report rape or domestic abuse that you’re an abusive person
@KnowingBetter 2 жыл бұрын
It's worse. He claims that if you tell a child they were abused, YOU are the abuser. The child didn't think they were a victim until you came along.
@belurso5179 2 жыл бұрын
@@KnowingBetter It's bizarre how the more you learn about him the more you become aware of how abusive he was. Bizarre as in "you already knew he was a POS, but somehow he is SHITTIER than last you checked."
@niedersacksen 2 жыл бұрын
@@KnowingBetter I wouldnt mind to be in one room with the guy to teach him what abuse is, in my country the age of consent is 12, but in my eyes bloody disgusting, in the past it was 16 but yeah islam happend 🤮
@nbewarwe 2 жыл бұрын
bait is obvious^
@ttp513 2 жыл бұрын
I would use that logic to continually rabbit punch him. Since I don't see it as an attack, if he were to say I'm attacking him, he would actually be the one attacking me, making him my attacker. And if that were so, I'd have no choice but to defend myself against his attacks, by jumping on his ass like a spider monkey. To stop his attacks.
@Zaria_Dobbs 2 жыл бұрын
....Suddenly you realize that you, too, are one of Keith's girlfriends
@Nolaris3 2 жыл бұрын
Sounds like something JK Rowling would tweet
@Nolaris3 2 жыл бұрын
@@loturzelrestaurant Referring to the top comment, not yours
@MultiNumenor 2 жыл бұрын
Even if your are male
@notNajimi 2 жыл бұрын
I feel like there’s a psychological horror short story to be written here
@The-Plaguefellow 2 жыл бұрын
Even the men *We are Legion!*
@KeithBallardA 2 жыл бұрын
I am NOT used to hearing my name this frequently. EDIT: oh no every context was bad
@maximgun3833 2 жыл бұрын
RIP
@cerberus50caldawg 2 жыл бұрын
Now you know how Karen feels.
@brandongurley8361 2 жыл бұрын
Imagine having my name right now...
@randomstranger623 2 жыл бұрын
@@cerberus50caldawg She really needs to find that manager.
@notorioustori 2 жыл бұрын
@@brandongurley8361 LET'S GO....YOU! 😄
@SleepyMatt-zzz Жыл бұрын
My big beef with the idea of Self-help is the underlining assumption that people's problems aren't outside of their control. An example base on anecdotal experience: I was extreamly depressed for most of my life, starting when I was around 7 unto my late 20s. I am Autistic, and the first time I became self-aware enough to understand what that entailed was when my older brother would constantly mock me for being disabled. That along with the constant physical abuse, he always made me feel really helpless and alone. Ironically he and my mom later found out that he was also Autistic when he entered his 20s. My parents were very overbearing people who had unrealistic expectations that were never stated, so navigating life in the same space as them was always like walking on eggshells. Least to say my family was constantly punching down at me, like my disability was something I could just "overcome" and that I simply "wasn't trying hard enough". Between that, an education system that could not sufficiantly support me, and no social circles to help let off some steam, life was really stressful. To the point where I started developing a large grey patch of hair on the back of my head. Theres more to that, like how my step dad made life almost inhospitable after he converted to being a jehovah's witness, but I'll leave that out to prevent over-complicating this comment. Now nearing the present, I met a woman at University who is now my wife. She is one of the most empathetic and intelligent people I have ever met, the only person who really "gets me". She is the only person I have ever felt confortable around. We moved in together shortly after meeting, and around 6 months after she points out that the grey patch on the back of my head disappeared, as soon as she mentioned that it all clicked. My lack of self-confidence, the depression, the stress, it was all caused by the enviornment I was raised in. I was living through it for so long that I didn't have the tools to identify the core problem, it was my family. All of this wasn't a problem I could of just rationalized away like the Self-Help industry advertises by thinking self-affirming thoughts, it was an issue directly related to my enviornment, and the relationships I had. As soon as I distanced myself from them, I became far happier.
@stephj9378 Жыл бұрын
I absolutely love your story. But remember it took positive steps to get you where you are .On your own steam. That's what self help material is trying to do. But all approaches don't help everyone.
@DimaRakesah Жыл бұрын
This really points out how a lot of what people need is *the appropriate supports* to better their lives. So many people in difficult situations are there because of the circumstances they grew up in, and the only way to lift people out of those is to offer supports that help people out of those situations so they can begin healing. We have so many social problems that are ruining people's lives yet our society tends to act as though failure is the fault of the individual, despite it being blatantly obvious that we are not in a meritocracy.
@mordcore Жыл бұрын
yeah self-help doesn't do jack shit for trauma, just keeps you blaming yourself for everything
@GwyndolinOwO Жыл бұрын
I also think a lot of the issue with self-help as books is that they have a hard time with context (which i mean, makes sense, a book writer can't write for every kind of situation ever). I don't necessarily disagree with what a lot of those books say but because they are so non-specific I have a hard time trusting them. The things they say COULD be useful but I was also in a situation where making huge life choices mattered a lot than trying to meditate, or think optimistically. I'm already a somewhat optimistic person but i also struggle with depression- which feels like a contradiction but if people or situations in your life suck real bad it drags you down a lot. And obviously I think people should do what works for them. Stuff that does and doesn't work for me isn't going to be the same as everyone else. But I also think self-help as a media and industry does pray on the idea a bit, that if you just read one more book you would just be a bit happier, or would just be a bit of a better person- which I think people with mental health issues can almost treat like an addiction. I forgot the title of the video but there's another video on KZfaq explaining that a common problem people have with self-help media is that its really easy to read a book or watch a video, so some people fall into this loop where the media makes them feel fantastic, but life changes are hard- especially with a lack of support, so it feels like they are stuck. Its at least something to be aware of. I don't think every self-help book is pure evil but there's a chance that some know that people NOT getting better means they stick around buying more books. I'll also point out that just because advice sounds nice doesn't mean that its what you need to hear. This is super tricky because people like to point out what works for them, and the idea is that you try it and if it doesn't work you can move on. But when books make themselves seem like they know a lot more than you do (intentionally or unintentionally), it starts to feel less like some advice from some stranger and more like advice that really "should" be working, and if it doesn't work YOU did something wrong. I wouldn't say this is ALWAYS the book writers fault but its something that can happen if you sell yourself as someone that knows a lot about something. intentionally or not, you make your words matter a lot more, for better or worse. im still in contact with my family but i would 100% say that moving away did a lot more than anything else really did. But the idea of doing that wasn't really something i read from many online places, usually it was boiled down to "be positive" which is fine on paper, but i can only focus on my mental health so much when something around it is hurting it. Its like digging a hole while someone shovels dirt back in. You still have a hole, but you're also not getting anywhere. Do what works for you but also be careful.
@mordcore Жыл бұрын
@@GwyndolinOwO i have some vague thoughts about the being an optimist with depression and "be positive"... something something toxic positivity and trying to force your emotions to be what you think they should be instead of living in the present reality. something that i definitely still struggle with because of how i was raised.
@doggedout 2 жыл бұрын
1859 book "Self Help". "If you own slaves ...free them now. Trust me." "If you are a slave...run like hell. Preferably to the north. Trust me."
@stephen2101 2 жыл бұрын
“Preferably past the north and into Canada. Trust me.”
@Revco7 2 жыл бұрын
Until you realize the north is one of the most racist places in modern times. Look up upper peninsula and you’ll see what I mean.
@hunterra217 2 жыл бұрын
@@Revco7 The UP is the south of the north, and historically, and into the present, the northern states are STILL much less racist, although you are right that America as a whole is still pretty damn racist overall.
@chlorine5795 2 жыл бұрын
@@Revco7 Michigan upper peninsula ?
@chlorine5795 2 жыл бұрын
@@stephen2101 Preferably even further than that and go beyond the wall where the free folks live.
@Lazero580 2 жыл бұрын
Honey wake up, new knowing better post
@SeidenFisk 2 жыл бұрын
I agree with this comment, if I had a honey I'd wake them up.
@zunky5850 2 жыл бұрын
I agree with this comment. If my honey watched this channel I would wake her up
@racing-with-ryan-gamer 2 жыл бұрын
These two replies are very....similar🤔🤔
@soyevquirsefron990 2 жыл бұрын
Why post so late at night, I'm already too drunk to concentrate. Maybe a little warning next time? I'll Comment now, rehydrate in the morning, watch after coffee.
@derekhenschel3191 2 жыл бұрын
Plot twist, she died of cancer while waiting for the next video and you are actually having a mental break down in an insane asylum
@maggie264 2 жыл бұрын
Hey I'm a mental health professional. I just wanted to point out that at 14:50 you talk about how not everyone needs to see a psychiatrist and life coaches may work for them. There are a lot of people trained in mental health that do not have MDs or even PhDs. Social workers, family and marriage therapists, and professional counselors are just a few of the many licensed professionals out there who can provide therapy sans medication if the client so pleases. Frankly, they would be worth more in time and money, and many work at sliding scale clinics.
@rhythmandblues_alibi Жыл бұрын
Hard agree! My mental health has improved so much seeing my long-term counsellor than I ever did seeing psychologists over the years. The psychs were more interested in diagnosing without necessarily giving me practical suggestions that would actually help me. I'm sure it was fun for them to diagnose and explain that diagnosis to me logically but it didn't help me much.
@blammela 11 ай бұрын
A LOT of people just need someone to talk thru stuff at
@BaronVonQuiply 8 ай бұрын
Life Coach has the ring of "I couldn't get licensed as a therapist" to it Alt text: Therapist is to Life Coach as Doctor is to Healiologist.
@daintycaked 8 ай бұрын
@@rhythmandblues_alibi that’s what psychiatrists do. They’re mds and typically not therapists
@rhythmandblues_alibi 8 ай бұрын
@@daintycaked I should have clarified and said psychologists.
@jackspade5316 2 жыл бұрын
My psych teacher showed us that "What the Bleep Do We Know?" video in class. I grew up in a fairly wealthy city. My parents got pulled into a "prosperity gospel" cult when I was three or four, and we didn't leave until I was eighteen. This is all uncomfortably familiar.
@cryin_1ion Жыл бұрын
I'm really sorry that happened to you. People don't realize what a mind f*ck that kind of twistedness is and how lasting the effects are.
@rhythmandblues_alibi Жыл бұрын
Oh dear 😓 I remember my dad was super into "What the bleep do we know?" And tried to get me to watch it. I remember it being weird and making no sense and I got bored and fell asleep 😅
@kevinmerlos409 2 жыл бұрын
Ah yes, the next installment of the Knowing Better Cinematic Universe
@NicolaiDufva 2 жыл бұрын
Has anyone made the Knowing Better Timeline article on Wikipedia yet?
@nevergivingup3434 2 жыл бұрын
from my knowledge kb isn't even on wikipedia.
@warlordofbritannia 2 жыл бұрын
“The one where we all become KB’s alternate future timeline girlfriends”
@SlashinatorZ 2 жыл бұрын
Dont understand why everyone thinks KB is the worst human alive
@spudsbuchlaw 2 жыл бұрын
@@SlashinatorZ who the fuck is everyone? A small minority may think that, not anywhere close to "everyone"
@zikkthegreat 2 жыл бұрын
*crying with joy at hearing KB say fuck*
@ernestoacosta7918 2 жыл бұрын
After he robbed us of his “wat-da-fuck!” Moment in the immigration video, when he has mad 1/3 of citizens don’t know what the legislative branch is made of
@GPWfiles 2 жыл бұрын
Hearing that dealt massive psychic damage to me
@alexanderblatt8653 2 жыл бұрын
I don't know what says about me but, I didn't even notice until he pointed it out that he said fuck... I wonder how other people were also unfazed...
@Charli_Anne 2 жыл бұрын
It completely broke my thought pattern like he said 😅
@zeusmnl 2 жыл бұрын
For me it was more like "that's new, isn't it? Carry on"
@rydencyborg5396 2 жыл бұрын
I went through a pretty bad depressed period back in highschool. My parents forced me to watch and read a lot of self help programs to help me but everyone boiled down to "believing in yourself". If you get something out it then I'm genuinely happy for you but that pretty much soured my opinion on self help from then on.
@theoldhermit2601 2 жыл бұрын
I hope you're feeling better now my friend. I didn't have my parents show me self help stuff, but when I was depressed at age 14-16 I really looked up to Jordan Peterson, Ben Shapiro, Steven Crowder, etc as moral figures and people to base my goals on. Which while i disagree with them now I don't judge people who like them, but it was harmful for me to look up to these online figures as sort of mentors.
@Angelica-sq9lh 2 жыл бұрын
Ah yes, I discovered my depression when I was entering highschool. My father used to not believe in mental illness. One time, he bought a me a lot of self-help books to teenagers. Most of them said how having depression was selfish, how you were trying to get attention and how much you needed to mature. To this day, I don't know if he was trying to help me or if it was his intention to make me feel worse.
@chrilin5107 2 жыл бұрын
@@Angelica-sq9lh I'm very sorry to hear that, when you're depressed you often put yourself down enough, so no need to ontop be told you're selfish, think positive and snap out of it🤯 Hope you've been able to find better help since then. All the best🍀
@Chriscraft-ug3sz 2 жыл бұрын
@@Angelica-sq9lh he was trying to help you why would he knowingly try to harm you by getting you self help books. As for the contents of which I doubt he read the books beforehand
@Angelica-sq9lh 2 жыл бұрын
@@Chriscraft-ug3sz We two had and still have... a pretty rocky relationship. And as said beforehand, he didn't believe in mental illness when I discovered my depression. However, we are in a much better ground now and I can see were you are coming from. I also believe he tried to help my in his way.
@pepi7404 2 жыл бұрын
"Boys have to yield to adults, women and girls." Did he ... intend to draw a distinction between adults and women?
@pepi7404 2 жыл бұрын
@fkujakedmyname No, they don't. Name one who said that.
@thecoolaxolotlnova8523 2 жыл бұрын
@@pepi7404 a lot of radical feminists do downplay female on male violence, but generalizing with "feminists always do that" is vastly overstating how much it actually happens. Basically; yes it does happen, no it's not all feminists only extremists, and your opinions are the results of staying in "echo chambers" or only talking to people who share your opinions on things.
@pepi7404 2 жыл бұрын
@@thecoolaxolotlnova8523 Ok, but ... like ... who? I always hear "a lot of radical feminists say that" or "a lot of radical feminists do that" and, when confronted, people utterly fail to name a single one or they show me a tweet made by a man.
@thecoolaxolotlnova8523 2 жыл бұрын
@@pepi7404 men can be radical feminists, also I can't name any because I haven't been part of the antifeminist movement in a while and it's not really my focus anymore but it's relatively rare.
@thecoolaxolotlnova8523 2 жыл бұрын
@@pepi7404 oh also, most radical feminists aren't really household name celebrities, more like toxic women or sometimes men on Twitter who sort of have their own mini bubble.
@zanews23 2 жыл бұрын
This is honestly the wildest episode of KB yet. This shit is weirder than Scientology, Objectivism, or the standard MLMs. Saying “Keith Raniere is one strange dude” is such a monumental understatement, it’s crazy. Thanks for covering this topic that I knew absolutely nothing about before.
@nathancarter8239 2 жыл бұрын
Wow, I hadn't even considered that this was based so heavily on previous topics. That's either incredible forethought or excellent improvisation.
@zanews23 2 жыл бұрын
@@nathancarter8239 He also mentioned the Stanford Prison Experiment and, I think, a couple of other things that he’s done whole videos (or devoted large sections of videos) about. This episode certainly builds upon concepts he’s already covered in-depth in several others, so if you haven’t seen all his previous videos yet, they help so much with context. And you should watch them anyway because Knowing Better just makes such great content. I would donate to his Patreon if I weren’t the archetypical broke college student.
@jessicadayla 2 жыл бұрын
Not to mention the weird feeling you get when you realize your parents were consuming the media those cults were putting out... glad they never got any deeper...
@onetwothreefour3957 2 жыл бұрын
the only strange thing about objectivism is how so few people like it eventhough so many (at least americans and older people who like to read best selling novels) were exposed to it. funnily enough, i've never heard of those weirdos from the video in my objectivist community.
@zhaoshenzhu6610 2 жыл бұрын
The shriller fear coming out of this video is the fact that this is just being developed Out of Scientology. Which means that any day by now we could expected another such excessive control freaks coming up with the same idea and refine the practices…..
@theyoutubeanalyst3731 2 жыл бұрын
I think the idea behind "anyone could fall for this" means actually that anyone could fall for a scam, but the scam you could fall for varies from person to person. Some people are attracted to promises of money, some, to promises of acceptance, others want to have the promise of the afterlife, etc. What would make you get scammed varies wildly from person to person, but every person has a weakness, and that's dangerous.
@timothymclean Жыл бұрын
I think the idea is that people who fall for cults aren't, like, innately stupid people who fall for things that are obvious traps to "good people". Which is something I think KB would agree with, if it wasn't phrased the way it was.
@alzahir Жыл бұрын
Absolutely! I like to think that I'm very aware of scams and can identify them quickly. But recently I got a call from my daughter crying her eyes out because she had "ran over a girl." She could hardly breath or talk as I tried to get answers from her. She was in sheer panic, and I began to feel as much. While trying to make sense of the situation, some guy who identified himself as police, took the phone from her and started asking me questions, and then... They got her name wrong... I said "who? This is a wrong number," hung up and called my daughter. She was fine at home... As relieved as I was, that f**ked me up really bad for the rest of that day. These were scammers that somehow managed to get her voice replicated. I wonder, hadn't they gotten the name wrong, how far into the scam they'd have managed to manipulate me? It's scary to think.
@erzsebetkovacs2527 Жыл бұрын
@@alzahir somehow = AI (most probably)
@kevinsundelin8639 Жыл бұрын
@@erzsebetkovacs2527 Not at all, I don't think her voice was as similar as they remember
@blossomi.2824 Жыл бұрын
@@kevinsundelin8639 no a news organization did a segment on this with an ethical hacker. It’s totally possible and the voice is spot on.
@bennemann 2 жыл бұрын
The part about how the use of the Vanguard title and the silly sashes are actually a strategy to drive out the sensible people is the same strategy used by e-mail scammers. You've probably gotten an e-mail from a Nigerian prince saying you're his long-lost heir and will receive a $50 million inheritance and thought "why do they make these stories so hard to believe? They would get more people if they made the story a little more credible". But it's unbelieveable like that on purpose: they want to filter out anyone who would waste their time in long conversation chains and ultimately not wire them any money. They want to fish in only the extremely gullible and foolish ones, because those are the least likely to waste their time.
@connyfucks 5 ай бұрын
Porn ads work the same way. If you write copy for internet porn ads you are specifically coached to include absurdly blatant spelling and grammar errors
@suorastas1 2 жыл бұрын
Every time a new woman was mentioned I thought “Surely she cannot be another one of Keith’s girlfriends”
@Praisethesunson 2 жыл бұрын
Only if she was hot.
@SidheKnight 2 жыл бұрын
@Даня Терехов DOS? What do computers have to do with all of this?
@Lord.Kiltridge 2 жыл бұрын
"God never gives you more than you can handle." Said no Holocaust victim ever. Survivorship bias is not just real. It's common.
@paxshmitz2665 2 жыл бұрын
Plus the millions of Chinese, Russians, Africans and aboriginals in se Asia.
@myself2noone 2 жыл бұрын
Well... Not none. Viktor Frankl wrote a book about this. Famously saying "When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves."
@agrandcanyonoffucksgiven2776 2 жыл бұрын
My mother uses that line all the time. Its an inside joke between my wife and I now because of her.
@blade7506 2 жыл бұрын
that verse is referring to temptations btw
@awkwardukulele6077 2 жыл бұрын
@@blade7506 It’s generally used for hardships/bad luck in my experience. Though I wouldn’t be surprised if it’s been taken out of context by the people who use it that way.
@blane2472 2 жыл бұрын
Keith: Women aren't inherently loyal Also Keith: Has dozens of secret girlfriends
@Praisethesunson 2 жыл бұрын
Keith's ain't loyal.
@morganseppy5180 2 жыл бұрын
That's just typical red pill negging. say something bad about all women, so insecure women will try SUPER HARD to show how they aren't that. Secure women would know that's bullshit, and leave the class, but insecure women will want to prove their loyalty.
@briannyob7799 2 жыл бұрын
I dunno, I gotta hand it to the guy as he isn't overly attractive yet he had quite the success with women. Not condoning anything.
@Praisethesunson 2 жыл бұрын
@@briannyob7799 It's a numbers game. For every woman you successfully turn into a cult slave. There are thousands who weren't suckered into it.
@bensoncheung2801 2 жыл бұрын
Ghost reply!
@victoriablack355 Жыл бұрын
This made me remember the old stoic greentext meme. >walking home at night >pass a group of youths >one of them tells me I dropped my gay card >I look down for it and realize I’ve been the victim of a practical joke > I am unmoved, I tell the youth that his provocations are futile because I am a stoic >he bursts out laughing and says it’s pronounced stow-ic, not stoike >break down and cry in the street
@haidengeary8277 2 жыл бұрын
I love hearing that someone learned something by an early age, when those who have studied it for decades still do not understand it.
@johnnyb175 2 жыл бұрын
That f bomb had exactly the desired effect. I perked up and listened very closely for the next 10 seconds
@racing-with-ryan-gamer 2 жыл бұрын
Same
@zanews23 2 жыл бұрын
Me too, but for me, it also had the side effect of absolutely cracking me up for some reason. “A fuckin’ swear word” is just too funny, probably unintentionally.
@Virjunior01 2 жыл бұрын
I actually used to use that at my crummy retail job. People would listen when I said a product was "shit," and dropped it on the floor.
@seamusmckeon9109 2 жыл бұрын
Wow
@drksideofthewal 2 жыл бұрын
Me too, I came to the comments to see if anyone else did
@Christopher-md7tf 2 жыл бұрын
As someone who consumed a lot of self-help in his 20s (most of it garbage), the module animations with the super-generic "uplifting" music are absolute gold 😆👍
@carols-corner 2 жыл бұрын
Seriously, that music is disturbingly PERFECT 😂
@scusachannel1682 2 жыл бұрын
It sounds like a Tantacrul parody
@dericmederos1514 2 жыл бұрын
I think most of the self help books taught me I was fine, its just that i was poor and my job sucked
@appropriate-channelname3049 2 жыл бұрын
Most of it is pretty good I think. Most people just don't have the patience or the motivation to follow through. People fall into old habits and don't stick with the routines that most authors suggest. That's why people like Jordan Peterson are really good for self help because instead of just reading one book you also can watch through his catalog of videos and his constant stream of fresh lectures etc...
@lyrainealei7848 2 жыл бұрын
the closed captions are gold - Obnoxious Generic Upbeat Music
@JRowan180 2 жыл бұрын
I have a career in sales so I'm constantly bombarded by the toxic aspects of "self help". I fully believe in the importance of self development and invest a fair amount of time into dimensions of wellness, EQ, study of philosophy, and behaviourial development in addition to participating in CBT based counseling. I promise though that no matter how many workshops or seminars you attend, how many books you read, how many podcasts you listen to, or how many videos you watch there is no one size fits all answer, there's no magical inherent truth to the universe, and most of the "self help" industry shares similar thought processes to Scientology, MLM's, and conspiracy theory nuts, that is to say, absolutely riddled with cognitive distortions, cognitive bias, cognitive dissonance, and logical fallacies.
@mastercaon5209 2 жыл бұрын
My father constantly reads self help books and watchs their videos then presses them on others, getting offended when you turn him down. You can literally tell when he found a new one because his philosophy, conversation subjects, and mantras all change. Near as I can tell it's on about a 3 month cycle.
@Levacque 11 ай бұрын
Was he raised in a religion, by any chance? I have theorized for years that people who turn away from an organization can't shake faith-based living, so they simply find a new source to have blind faith in.
@JustcallmeShogi 2 жыл бұрын
"Do you really need a pillow that says live, laugh, and love?" "Yes" "The answer is no"
@warlordofbritannia 2 жыл бұрын
You actually need to become Keith’s girlfriend!
@KingoftheJuice18 2 жыл бұрын
I love that commercial!
@peteryost6770 2 жыл бұрын
My dad was really wrapped up in Landmark. He got to the point where he couldn't hold a conversation anymore without trying to "recruit". When I was around 12 years old I attended a meeting once with him. They blocked the doors with the registration table, not allowing us to leave or even go to the bath room without talking to atleast three people. I was eventually pressured into doing the "Childrens Forum" which was, just, terrible... They withheld food and water for hours until someone had a "break through", which was usually a kid, sitting up on stage while being berated by the lecturer until they broke down into tears. I remember smelling the buffet at the other side of the room just hoping for tears. Thank you so much for this video. It really put a lot in perspective for me.
@elliott8175 2 жыл бұрын
Which "Landmark" is that, btw? Is it "Landmark Worldwide"? I was also brought up in an extremely cultish environment. 'Was taken out of school, and for 6 years instead of lessons I had "self-help" with Jerry Clarke and other idiots from Neways/Modere (an MLM). However, I don't remember Landmark being _that_ extreme. It was definitely cultish, but out of all the idiot crap I had to endure as a kid I thought that Landmark seemed to have some merit - if you didn't take it too far (definitely no locked doors for me).
@bonniea8189 2 жыл бұрын
Wow. Thank goodness the only MLMs my dad got into involved selling products. He probably consumes some of this media, but at least he knows better than to try to foist it on the rest of us.
@KingRevvi 2 жыл бұрын
sorry you had that experience! I guess mine was somewhat similar, but I don’t look back on it bitterly. My whole family was really involved in it for a couple years (just moderately, they eventually all got over jt) and I did the children’s seminar when I was a kid. I remember crying telling my mom I was so bored and didn’t want to stay. I couldn’t stay awake, so at one point the lecturer had me talk to people in the back about if I wanted to be there. I said I did because I didn’t want to cause a scene. But still… I think I gained from it. The whole bit they do about “if everyone was shy, nothing would get done” impacted me. Also, the “if you have something to say, say it or write a letter” thing has really helped me in my life. I don’t remember their specific lingo for that stuff, but idk I did “get something” out of it. No showy “breakthroughs”, but something. For sure, the recruiting is creepy and they suck at handling kids.
@amylovemyart 2 жыл бұрын
Forcing people to stay in that shit by blocking exit that alone feels illegal.
@brian8152 2 жыл бұрын
@@amylovemyart Right, how is that not kidnapping? I feel it is legally, but maybe nobody reported it? idk
@xwing2417 2 жыл бұрын
My dad really bought into NLP and tried making a career of it. Honestly, as shitty as the following divorce and bankruptcy were (I enlisted with the Navy that year), I think it's better that he's back working as an Engineer again. I had no idea how shady NLP's background was.
@AaronLitz 2 жыл бұрын
"Self-Help & Sex-Cults" sounds like the weirdest roleplaying game ever.
@DrWhack 2 жыл бұрын
The “Unlimited Power” with the Palpatine cover… that was great 😂
@twothreebravo 2 жыл бұрын
Wait, you mean that wasn't the real cover? Lame. ;)
@ravencorvus7903 2 жыл бұрын
Yeah that made my day
@HenryCasillas 2 жыл бұрын
🍪
@anna-flora999 2 жыл бұрын
Wait, when did that happen?
@overtlybiased 2 жыл бұрын
"Some little children are perfectly happy with it" A person who says this should be arrested on the spot.
@TheKing-qz9wd 2 жыл бұрын
What if the "it" was bionicle? Just saying, man.
@Ou_phrontis 2 жыл бұрын
Along with saying anything like “she’s really an old soul” BS
@jamesyeung3286 2 жыл бұрын
she's actually an 1000 sextillion years old!!!! 😡😡😡🤬
@GumSkyloard 2 жыл бұрын
B-b-b-but she's a 6000 year old neko witch!!!!!
@OtseisRagnarok 2 жыл бұрын
@@TheKing-qz9wd then they should get the wall. ;p
@MijinLaw 2 жыл бұрын
One of the most pernicious things about self-help is something which looks benign, or even positive, which is the black-and-white thinking. In most cases the message is "You're a loser now, you just need to do X, then you'll be a winner". It's a message which sells X very effectively, but is extremely counter-productive in practice; at the first setback you'll consider yourself a "loser" again, and start hunting for some other magic fix. But you're not a loser; look at things you're already doing well and can build on. And there is no magic wand to improve any particular area of your life, it usually takes sustained effort, adaptability and pushing through setbacks.
@peka2478 2 жыл бұрын
I first saw Tony Robbins in a TED Talk (online) and was amazed by how strong his "say aye" - "aye" was, working even on me, through the screen... Thanks for explaining the mechanism!
@TheGreg6466 2 жыл бұрын
the amount of times you said "and was one of keith's girlfriends" was disturbing and hilarious at the same time.
@Praisethesunson 2 жыл бұрын
Why even be a cult leader if you can't also be a sex pest?
@cerberus50caldawg 2 жыл бұрын
@@Praisethesunson Right??? It probably also helped he was a concert level penis from an early age apparently.
@timothymclean 2 жыл бұрын
I would have suggested making a drinking game out of it, but I'm afraid people would give themselves permanent liver damage.
@scottthewaterwarrior Жыл бұрын
@@timothymclean I'd pass out after the second shot so think I'd be safe there.
@vasilisnalbantis 2 жыл бұрын
The "obnoxiously upbeat yet bland instrumental music" in closed captions, perfectly puts into words what i always felt about this type of music. Thanks KB!
@Jotari 2 жыл бұрын
It's amazing how it managed to just make me tune out entirely. I had to mentally remind myself that it was a KnowingBetter video and to actually pay attention instead of filtering bullshit. It's like I've been programmed to not trust stuff like that...which is a bit disconcerting knowing that I've been conditioned at all.
@noliverk 2 жыл бұрын
I was surprised by my visceral reaction to it.
@CF-bg3jd 2 жыл бұрын
It’s like a real estate video for a McMansion.
@stephenscribbles 2 жыл бұрын
15:55 that was so perfectly executed, this is why I love this channel
@Nesperimus 2 жыл бұрын
I used to see that guy's ads all over social medias, today I already forget his name.
@bankuei 2 жыл бұрын
It's funny how many of these things tie right into the gamification principle - "Look you can get to the next level, then after that, 3 more stripes, you unlock new modules/class feats/ninja powers, you want those, don't you?" That said, part of the allure of these programs/religions/whatever is a clear path with clear directions of how to get there, which is something the real world often lacks.
@harmonierainbow7559 2 жыл бұрын
The Tony Robbins ad preceding this video is just… *chef’s kiss
@ahumanofthisrealm4230 2 жыл бұрын
Who?
@twothreebravo 2 жыл бұрын
The Stuff I miss with KZfaq Premium/AdBlockers.
@BrightBlueJim 2 жыл бұрын
Wow, I didn't get that one, but that is indeed *mwah*.
@vladie19 2 жыл бұрын
This is the first Knowing Better I've had to wait for after blasting through every video on this channel two weeks ago.
@lucyla9947 2 жыл бұрын
Welcome new Knowing Better fan, welcome to the community
@rodrigodelcidq 2 жыл бұрын
I'm pretty sure we all met him like that lol
@lucyla9947 2 жыл бұрын
@@rodrigodelcidq yep, so did I
@themoochman3867 2 жыл бұрын
@@lucyla9947 yeah lol me too
@muhamadsarhad6566 2 жыл бұрын
Welcome to the club pal
@c0mput3r80y 2 жыл бұрын
The fact that KB kept a consistent canon of the time travel incident.
@miguelmackay4851 Жыл бұрын
I really apreciate how you dress up and get some background props on the theme of each video, it really shows your personality and that you really care to make quality content
@ernststravoblofeld 2 жыл бұрын
If the trends continue, by 2030, every person in America, adults and children, will be a life coach.
@noobist85 2 жыл бұрын
Or a social media influencer.
@PokefreakMaster333 2 жыл бұрын
I hope so tbh. We should all gather together to make sure our lives are all functioning normally.
@discdoggie 2 жыл бұрын
or one of keith’s girlfriends
@euansmith3699 2 жыл бұрын
And they shall all be a version of Knowing Better.
@jimmym3352 2 жыл бұрын
That's it. I'm going to be a life coach who teaches people how to feel crappy about their lives and watch youtube videos all day. I should make millions.
@djspacewhale 2 жыл бұрын
my biological father's a (failed) motivational speaker, and when i was little he made my brother and i watch a bunch of material by Werner Earhardt and Tony Robbins, so watching this is honestly really surreal for me - idk if that's in a good or bad way, but i appreciate u making this regardless
@goldenhide 2 жыл бұрын
That "Unlimited Power" cover just had me spittake all over the inside of my car. Worth it lol!
@ikarabout 2 жыл бұрын
"Keith was not polyamorous. He was just a cheater." THANK YOU!!!! Thank you so much for properly framing polyamory ❤
@garykelley9027 2 жыл бұрын
Second this. Was happy to hear him use the term and properly.
@ikarabout 2 жыл бұрын
@@rwilson1197 This is true! Cheating also happens in poly relationships.
@choobs8511 2 жыл бұрын
Much like consent, of course, whats important is awareness in a poly relationship, anyone in the relationship that is unaware of any other members is essentially being cheated on.
@SeekerGoldstone 2 жыл бұрын
@@ikarabout As an asexual monogamy-idealist, I feel like cheating ALWAYS happens in polyamory... the difference is in the presentation. A punch is a punch in or out of the boxing ring. A scoop and a spoon are the same item with arbitrary distinctions. There is such a wide gap between your values and my own that I have a very difficult time accepting that you don't just desire to cheat without risk of unpleasant consequences. Some people use the words interchangeably to subtly communicate that they believe that the concept of polyamory is an infidelitous manipulation. The only reason that Keith isnt polyamorous is because he didnt announce his intention to cheat before doing so.
@qrangejuice8225 2 жыл бұрын
@@SeekerGoldstone Perhaps you're using too rigid a definition of cheating? The word itself implies some dishonesty or intent to violate the rules of some arrangement. I'm probably not gonna shift your worldview by any degree, but perhaps consider that, if it's deliberated on by consenting adults, there's no real rules violation. Human relationships have always been fluid and nebulous.
@Bronzite 2 жыл бұрын
Holy cow, that F-bomb was the most elegant autological example I have ever seen. I'm going to sign up for your Patreon right now.
@pbdparkbiz602 2 жыл бұрын
Ask Jim to sign up too! I think he might enjoy the content
@cerberus50caldawg 2 жыл бұрын
FUCK! I just don't have it. I never, I mean never have had that kind of impact. ...FUCK!!! nope.
@robertdascoli949 2 жыл бұрын
Oh my God. I saw "What the Bleep do we know" There was a scene where indigenous people off the west indies "couldn't see" Columbus' ships that were approaching because they never saw ships like that before. But one smart guy could see the ripples the ships made, and by looking at the ripples he could then see the ships. And once he saw the ships, he could point out the ships to the other people. It was kindergarten logic. Later in the film some woman became engulfed by some great spirt of knowledge and started talking in a fake voice. It's insane.
@PaulGaither 2 жыл бұрын
I watched it for the laughs when it was new. The disgusting part was how they used nuggets of truth to sucker you in with so many lies and BS.
@huttj509 2 жыл бұрын
@@PaulGaither I watched it with my father, a nuclear physicist with a strong knowledge of quantum mechanics. Most pissed I think I ever saw him. Note that this was when the movie first came out, and we didn't know the BS it was going to be. It had a lot of good "quantum mechanics is weird" stuff, then hard served into the bull. He was NOT happy.
@papusman 2 жыл бұрын
Yes! My first exposure to that movie was a short clip of one of the more "normal" quantum physics sections I found online. I shared it to my MySpace... I eventually saw the whole movie and was HORRIFIED that I had shared something from it. It was such insane nonsense.
@cerberus50caldawg 2 жыл бұрын
That is exactly the part I can never forget about that movie. It was so fundamentally wrong. When I first saw that movie I was like who the hell believes this BS for an instant. Don't insult a kindergartners intelligence like that. LOL Even they know when they are physically seeing something regardless of whether they can understand what it is or not. hmmm... I think I see... is there something over there??? Nah. I don't think I can comprehend what my eyes are seeing. Never saw nothing like it before. Therefor... nope That's so stupid. LOL
@FarremShamist 2 жыл бұрын
I literally, just as I read this, heard him start talking about it. That is utterly insane timing and I am now very scared.
@mgmchenry 2 жыл бұрын
"Here in my garage" is far and ahead one of the best sponsor segments I've ever seen. But I'm a sucker for satire. :) Thanks, KB
@ThePinkStarsGirl 2 жыл бұрын
You probably receive several of these comments every day, but I play your videos on the background regularly because they have an entertaining rythm, and your voice is just soothing. Greetings from Argentina
@KaDaJxClonE 2 жыл бұрын
56:23 KB just cannonized his intent to move to a better house/apartment/film location.
@KnowingBetter 2 жыл бұрын
I moved while making this one. I didn't have a fireplace or garage in that apartment.
@Jablicek 2 жыл бұрын
@@KnowingBetter Does that mean the timeline is broken and you're free?
@agrandcanyonoffucksgiven2776 2 жыл бұрын
@@KnowingBetter Queue up the "Movin on up" music.
@mrewan6221 2 жыл бұрын
@@KnowingBetter Which explains why the garage was soooooo empty.
@soundlyawake 2 жыл бұрын
my Interpersonal Communication professor showed us What The Bleep Do We Know in class 🥴
@castalejandra 2 жыл бұрын
Really?
@fraserfuite8816 2 жыл бұрын
It was also shown in an otherwise rather good philosophy class, in my high school :(
@dakunssd 2 жыл бұрын
What's their actual qualification/degree? Interpersonal Communication sounds like it should be run by someone with a cog psych degree, but weasily enough to park a professor with a unrelated degree like law or business or art history. I'm asking because our Prof. in Personnel Management is a doctor of law, and she gave us an offbrand version of the Myers-Briggs type indicator to explain personality structures and how to select for hiring. I got to do a whole presentation on personality types because I interjected in class and it turned out she just didn't know anything about personality psychology. Unfortunately, having a Chair doesn't mean you won't just "fake it till you make it".
@CEOofAutism 2 жыл бұрын
@@dakunssd damn dude that sucks
@emkultra2349 2 жыл бұрын
I cringe remembering suggesting my MS physical science teacher put it on during a movie day
@garrettkraniak3020 2 жыл бұрын
I was in a cult growing up. It's been excessively difficult to move on from it. The core manipulation tactic they used was everyone's basic understanding of exorcism. Typically that's a priest helping a victim overcome their demons. In our case they used 3 parties. The priest, the victim, and a third person who hosted the problem demon/spirit/entity. This made the victim feel more involved since they could confront the problem and, as you might can imagine, led to abuses. Later on, using the idea of hosting, one of the leaders played Host to the spirit of God and had sex with most of the females. He was married and most of them weren't single. But no one cared, it was God after all. Kids as young as 2 were taught to use firearms, drank beer, and did drugs. I was caught running away from home and the leaders of the group had me stand against a wall and took turns throwing rocks at me to symbolize an old testament stoning. I was 15. They warned me it would be worse if I continued to be rebellious. They engaged in animal sacrifice, and when the kids who raised the animals cried they were told it made the sacrifice more meaningful to God. Cults suck.
@VAWM. 2 жыл бұрын
Yeesh, that sounds horrible. I'm sorry you had to experience that growing up. What was the name of the organization? Did the government ever bust them?
@garrettkraniak3020 2 жыл бұрын
@@VAWM. I'm not sure they ever settled on an official name. The leader thought he was the descendent of King David, though. As if that's original.
@garrettkraniak3020 2 жыл бұрын
@@VAWM. And no, they were never busted for anything they did. The group just fell apart when the leader suddenly died.
@zaclegoattack 2 жыл бұрын
Hey Knowing Better! I have been a subscriber since 4 years ago (when I was a freshman in high school), and I am now a freshman in college studying Aerospace. Thanks for all the videos you have provided.. trust me when I say they have helped me (even if it is a bit parasocial)
@IONATVS 2 жыл бұрын
To elaborate “Dominus Obsequious Sororium” is very poorly-written Latin, roughly meaning “Master (Masculine word, Literally meaning “Lord”) of Compliant Sisters” with obsequious (compliant) using the English spelling, not the actual Latin word “obsequiosus” from which it derives and declined to describe the LORD/Master as compliant, not the sisters. So simultaneously incredibly creepy and incredibly dumb.
@tompatterson1548 2 жыл бұрын
And isn’t sororium an adjective?
@tompatterson1548 2 жыл бұрын
Compliant lord
@IONATVS 2 жыл бұрын
@@tompatterson1548 Nope. A genitive (like possessive, but different word order) plural noun. Soror/Sororis is a 3rd declension feminine noun, not the more well-known 1st declension feminine. Would’ve been hilarious, but that part’s actually right
@TurtleMarcus 2 жыл бұрын
With proper Latin it would be Dominus Obsequiosarum Sororium, or preferably with tha adjective after the noun, Dominus Sororium Obsequiosarum. If they really wanted some flair, it could have been something like "Ordo Sororium Domini Obsequiosarum", the Order of the Master's Compliant Sisters.
@tombkings6279 2 жыл бұрын
Incredibilis
@toadstooltadd3843 2 жыл бұрын
You did not just make a “Here in my garage” joke in 2021! That’s hilarious dude!
@jliller 2 жыл бұрын
Obviously a greenscreen. No real garage is that empty.
@amandalybbert14 2 жыл бұрын
Seriously that unlocked a part of my brain I didn't even remember existed
@clashsupreme9394 2 жыл бұрын
how old is the original video? cuz it feels like yesterday
@luiscarlosarenas9370 2 жыл бұрын
KNAWLEDGE
@Revanaught 2 жыл бұрын
These videos are so freaking good. It is both totally understandable and very sad they release infrequently.
@phoenixwa_2419 2 жыл бұрын
Therapy/Counseling and specifically Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, are extremely important if u want to overcome anxiety. dont be afraid to try a counselor or two out and see what fits.
@blindedbliss 2 жыл бұрын
15:55 - Psychologists are generally recommended to have one of their own, to discuss issues which might arise from seeing clients. This is what the Norwegian government recommends it's public mental health care workers.
@Praisethesunson 2 жыл бұрын
Life coach is to psychologist like a piece of drift wood is to life guards.
@tiansili 2 жыл бұрын
Not from the same firm/cult/mlm
@camiblack1 2 жыл бұрын
the bigger difference is that you probably don't have a down line of psychs who trained the psych who's their client.
@KimTaura 2 жыл бұрын
Me thinking "Why hasn't Scientology sued them?" then KB says it.
@bucherregaldomi9084 2 жыл бұрын
KGB?
@jaymevosburgh3660 2 жыл бұрын
@@bucherregaldomi9084 KB = Knowing Better
@WallebyDamned 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the Stewart Smalley moment, I always think of him when I see self help books/blogs.
@Deece5 Жыл бұрын
You always do a good job fitting the theme of your video, your ads are the only ones I watch because they’re not over-the-top and they aren’t boring, keep up the fantastic work man
@vlr4631 2 жыл бұрын
"obnoxiously upbeat yet bland instrumental music" god I love not automatic subtitles
@92alpha13 2 жыл бұрын
The sponsor promo was, as always, legit hilarious! As soon as I saw the garage and the glasses I spit my coffee out LOL.
@Davete 2 жыл бұрын
He is too great at these 😭😭
@eileene.5870 2 жыл бұрын
I absolutely LOVE the Stuart Smalley reference at 4:03 Stuart Smalley Saves His Family is absolutely HILARIOUS, and the SNL skit was always great!!
@beckymasson1262 2 жыл бұрын
I attended a few life coaching intensive sessions a few years ago. It was quite intense, expensive, and the slightest bit secretive, but they lacked red flags like keeping you sleep deprived (actually postponed sessions the next day if it ran late one day so you could get sleep) and having lots of higher tiers that you had to spend years working through. It felt like several years of therapy all at once, and though it was definitely a turn off for some people, I learned a lot and I feel like a better person for it.
@RenegadeContext 11 ай бұрын
I imagine if you intention is to help people then you can create a course using positive psychology that genuinely helps people
@fabbymarmol766 2 жыл бұрын
I believe that, although he has touched on religion and politics, this is going to be his most controversial video just for stating that IQ is bullshit.
@UberMenschNowFilms 2 жыл бұрын
It's been a idea that's been gaining traction, especially on the political left. Because there are racists that misuse and misrepresent the science of IQ, they conclude that any use of IQ testing is worthless. In the context of KB's statement, the guy was using his IQ score as a dick measuring contest. Also a misuse of IQ testing. Thing is, any psychometrician will tell you that IQ is an extremely limited measure. However, it's the best or only applicable tool to test certain hypotheses. If IQ testing's limitations are properly accounted for, it not "bullshit". It's bullshit when lay people try to use it. Dunning-kruger in action.
@btat16 2 жыл бұрын
@@UberMenschNowFilms Such an elegantly concise way of saying it.
@TheTariqibnziyad 2 жыл бұрын
@@UberMenschNowFilms exactly, i won't say it's bullshit because it does correlate strongly with high income people and experts in their fields, but yea any racist who is using it to make himself feel better is showing really low IQ too.
@JewTube001 2 жыл бұрын
it's not super controversial these days. and i don't think he'll ever be able to beat that "4k television is bullshit" video.
@someeggplant 2 жыл бұрын
It's not that "sometimes IQ is misused." It's current existence is misused from it's original purpose, which was just to figure out which students needed more help in school. IQ was never intended to be a static value or mean anything besides how much attention students need to help learn (for any causal reasons). It's just wrong (as it currently exists).
@xjg685 2 жыл бұрын
maybe the real treasure was the girlfriends we made along the way
@notatheist 2 жыл бұрын
"If you jumped high enough, could you touch the moon? Well, yes. Otherwise, you didn't jump high enough." This is the deceptive premise format that drives self help, MLM "opportunities," and other success programs. It appears to be substantive and profound, but anything more than fleeting consideration exposes just how useless it really is. "If you believe and work hard enough, could you become successful? Well, yes. Otherwise, you didn't believe and work hard enough." It's a tautology. The answer is written into the question, and it's completely useless. The questions that are actually useful and relevant are "What does it take to be successful and do I have that requisite level of capability, competence, work ethic, knowledge, experience, resources, and opportunity to succeed?"
@EchoIndigoEcho 2 жыл бұрын
Hey my mom was all into landmark. She made me go to one of them when I was a young teen. Was basically just group therapy with like 200 people listening to a guy talking through a microphone and occasionally talking 1on1 with other people attending. Was a waste of time. They kept me from going inside because I was like 5 minutes late because we guessed wrong at where the right stop was and had to walk extra in a city I had never been to before. They kept repeating "what could you have done to have prevented this" for like 10 minutes until they got an answer they liked and let me actually go inside"
@chrish7508 2 жыл бұрын
I used to own a pub in London and Landmark would hold their seminar things in the building across the road, so we'd get a bunch of them piling in after each session. Odd people. Perfectly lovely but... odd.
@JMM33RanMA 2 жыл бұрын
I was reminded of my father's problematic experiences with one of the early betterment groups that still exists though they weren't mentioned specifically in the video. My father came back from WW II with a Purple Heart, five major battle stars and a major case of PTSD as he had been the last man standing in his unit, but kept on fighting in the Battle of the Bulge. PTSD, a.k.a shellshock, wasn't well understood and was not effectively treated. They convinced him to join AA, which has a dismal record. The problem with AA was their Protestant preaching, and my father and his buddies who joined were all Catholic. So they shrugged off the alien Protestant preachments and went out drinking after the AA meeting. On the positive side, he was trying to self-medicate with alcohol, but never once got violent with me or my mother. I hop the US military and the VA handle it better now, and don't just turn sufferers over to sketchy a sectarian outfit.
@anonymousmouse4124 Жыл бұрын
They just medicate now
@cryin_1ion Жыл бұрын
I was an alcoholic for decades and haven't had a drink in 25 years. I was encouraged to go to AA but chose not to for a number of reasons. Chief among those reasons was the continuing relationship to and focus on ones relationship to alcohol, even if it was through abstinence. I also suffer from PTSD albeit from a different reason. He might not have been the easiest man to live with but the depth of his suffering and what it must've taken to spare you and your mom of what could have been so much worse showed the enormity of his love for you both.
@JMM33RanMA Жыл бұрын
@@cryin_1ion It also showed his self control and untarnished core humanity. Thanks for your replies. Best wishes.
@sharongillesp 2 жыл бұрын
Some time ago I walked into B&N’s towards the self-help section for the umpteenth time when I noticed the section getting larger. With all this self-help going on - shouldn’t the section be gettin - smaller? The stuff works ONLY when you work for it by discovering how it works for you. And that’s simply self examination.
@Levacque 11 ай бұрын
I work in a chain bookstore and self-help is one of the only sections that doesn't get reduced during the slow season. It's depressing to see all the fiction and non-fiction with an empty bottom shelf, but self-help is still bursting at any given time.
@Bruddas44 2 жыл бұрын
Have been following your channel for years and it keeps getting better. I even find myself rewatching your vids, seriously great stuff. Thank you
@caseyw.6550 2 жыл бұрын
Munecat did a great series on Tony Robbins showing that he's actually the worst. Good stuff. Highly recommend watching if you're interested! ALSO 31:15 👀 Was this a pep talk during a roller derby intermission? Also ALSO, I'm *very* disappointed the male version of Jness wasn't call Pness.
@sabaducia 2 жыл бұрын
Yes! It is so good 🐱
@dabutchaistoxic 2 жыл бұрын
I would but, the words “toxic masculinity,” in the thumbnail is usually a clear sign that a video is going to be a bunch of feminist bull.
@caseyw.6550 2 жыл бұрын
@@dabutchaistoxic Yeah, it's probably not for you then. ✌
@naeshelle 2 жыл бұрын
@@dabutchaistoxic Imagine determining the merit & ideological basis of a video based on two words in a thumbnail. That’s ignorant as hell.
@dabutchaistoxic 2 жыл бұрын
@@naeshelle The point of editing words into a thumbnail, is to interest people into clicking on it. Are you trying to tell me that the video is clickbait?
@Reczack 2 жыл бұрын
"Gonna have to remake all my best videos." Absolutely love that attitude. The last few have been my favourites, so I'm down for a Golden Age. Keep it up, KB!
@sackharrell 2 жыл бұрын
these long format videos are phenomenal. I will gladly wait longer between videos for a deeper dive into these topics.
@benjaminbutler1792 2 жыл бұрын
I saw you in the garage with glasses and immediately got the reference and knew the commercial was coming. Good work. Laughed hard on that.
@augustosani 2 жыл бұрын
Internet historian and knowing better upload on the same day back to back at the exact time I wanted to sleep.
@sominboy2757 2 жыл бұрын
All we need now is oversimplified
@spicyleaves8876 2 жыл бұрын
Internet historian didnt upload though?
@augustosani 2 жыл бұрын
@@spicyleaves8876 second channel which is basically the main channel
@spicyleaves8876 2 жыл бұрын
@@augustosani Ah.
@harrisonzima3460 2 жыл бұрын
This is the kind of long-term storytelling is something I did not expect, but greatly enjoy.
@Nokaflai 2 жыл бұрын
What is your profile picture from?
@oppaloopa3698 5 ай бұрын
I’ve almost gotten involved in two MLMs while trying to find a remote job and had friends on a few different occasions that tried to get me involved in cults. I am literally the target demographic for MLMs and cults. I’m disenfranchised from society and my family, I have mental illness, I have incurable physical disabilities, I’m open to “new age” ideas. But I didn’t get involved. The idea of “anyone can join a cult” is just a way to take the blame of the many perpetrators within cults and makes the leader seem like a totally normal occurrence. People in cults do bad things. But they didn’t if it wasn’t their fault for joining up! People in cults made active decisions to violate the boundaries and feelings of those around them. But they didn’t if it wasn’t their fault for joining up! These cult leaders are not/we’re not normal. They’re over the top, weird, pushy, egotistical. Everyone but very specific people can see through that. It’s not “anyone”. It’s “some people make bad choices”.
@Cypherwraith001 11 ай бұрын
I love the bit where Keith says that he's looking for Independent thinkers in front of a nodding, glassy-eyed audience.
@yaldabaoth2 8 ай бұрын
That's what ALL people who appeal to "independent" thinkers do. They all want to preach to the choir, not hear criticism or answer questions.
@HistoryScienceTheater 2 жыл бұрын
I like the time travel narrative you've kept going, I thought it was going to for just the one video but its cool to see a cohesive background narrative built through multiple videos. I've wanted to do something similar but I've only barely started out and I feel like I should establish I can make good, informative videos before I start making them weirder and more fun. Also love the goggles.
@kyyuhl 2 жыл бұрын
i watched a few of your vids and enjoy them and learnt some quite interesting stuff, give it a shot!
@smileyp4535 2 жыл бұрын
Subscribed!
@TSZatoichi 2 жыл бұрын
Cody over at Some More News has been doing the same multiverse type thing for a while now, the concept can work great if done right.
@HistoryScienceTheater 2 жыл бұрын
@@kyyuhl Thank you so much!
@HistoryScienceTheater 2 жыл бұрын
@@smileyp4535 Thank you! I'm working on more content right now I hope to get out in a week or so, I hope you enjoy it!
@danielcherng2226 2 жыл бұрын
I’ve done Landmark’s programs and I’d say they helped me get more confidence and pursue my goals but it’s definitely not the cure all they claim it to be.
@MrManlify 2 жыл бұрын
same. I did enjoy it at some point. But am no longer involved.
@brigham2150 2 жыл бұрын
That segue into the sponsored bit was MAGNIFICENT! Sure is one way to get people to remember your ad. I applaud you!
@rgnszeb123 2 жыл бұрын
Great video and I love how long and in-depth these videos are
@arturocevallossoto5203 2 жыл бұрын
Oh my god! I remember NXIVM. They were a thing in Monterrey, Mexico. I lived next to this very prestigious university, so they were apparently targeting it for recruitment. A mate was still in school and told me a pretty girl started talking to him and invited him to a "meeting" during the weekend. Of course, the meeting was all their "get control of your life stuff". He said he noped the hell out after it ended but saw other people paying substantial money for the next ones. As we know, it all came crashing down and severely affected the political career of some high-society people. There was a student group when I was enrolled in this university that I can swear was connected to them because the sex-scandal allegations and rumors I overheard.
@albertonavarro8904 2 жыл бұрын
Nmms, de casualidad fué en el Tec?
@arturocevallossoto5203 2 жыл бұрын
@@albertonavarro8904 Claro. En un depa que rente había stickers pegados de esta gente y ese camarada los vió y se sacó de pedo. Me empezó a decir que no me metiera con esos locos y otras cosas. Yo no sabía quiénes eran hasta ese entonces.
@gamermapper 2 жыл бұрын
Lol I thought Mexico would be better than this. Doing the same things as the US... And I thought that Mexico was a beacon of culture and knowledge in the dark horrible country that is the US (I'm French BTW)
@OnixFilms 2 жыл бұрын
El primer TEDx en Mexico en San Miguel de Allende tuvo una plática del hijo de Carlos Salinas de Gortari, repitiendo esencialmente lo que le decían en NXIVM. Cuando explotó el escándalo de NXIVM también el salió como uno de los miembros.
@andresacosta4832 2 жыл бұрын
I'm curious where the In Lak'Ech hand shake came from, because I swear I've seen that thing before and the language looks familiar (unless it's jibberish)
@spiritualanarchist8162 2 жыл бұрын
'Keith combined the work of Ayn Rand and Ron L Hubbard'. What could possibly go wrong ?
@dk3062 2 жыл бұрын
The live laugh love pillow in the background is actually an important medallion in National Society of Karens. You also cut your hair to less than 6 inches and streak it with the color of your choice
@sonole3 2 жыл бұрын
These videos have slowly went from quirky videos to show to a class to ways to trick people into thinking they’re high in class. I love it though, keep up the great work, I never stop being intrigued
@gregfrohwein5579 2 жыл бұрын
his intro shows just how unfocused his channel is when it comes to topics, but it also shows just how smart he is that he can handle them all the exact same way and explain them all as if they were the exact same topic.
@joeottsoulbikes415 2 жыл бұрын
A couple of years ago I worked with a guy who to the public seemed really together, happy, successful and going places. In truth he was a giant mess. He was constantly going to Toni Roberts shows and others like him. He was always buying into the latest pyramid shame and his family was starting to close him out because of the way his failures and internal anger was making him treat them.
@galleryofrogues 2 жыл бұрын
Dude I just discovered your channel but it’s quickly becoming one of my favorites. I’ve already learned so much, keep up the great work!