What do you see in the mirror, Scarra?

What do you see in the mirror, Scarra? | Dr. K Interviews

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▼ Timestamps ▼
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00:00:00 Intro
00:00:27 Content Creator Issues
00:09:30 Working on Empathy and Chasing Happiness
00:22:21 Logic vs Empathy
00:30:02 Low Self-Worth
00:42:53 Physical Appearance
00:54:38 Logical Defense Mechanisms
01:07:03 Motivational Interviewing: Romantic Relationships
01:53:53 Cognitive Bias
01:59:25 Meditation
Be sure to check out Scarra's stream and thank him for coming on: / scarra
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@warren3910 3 жыл бұрын

Everytime Scarra smiles, a flower blooms somewhere.

@lauryn2868 3 жыл бұрын

I agree completely

@sviestassviestuotas5081 3 жыл бұрын

true

@jensargh 3 жыл бұрын

Scarra's smile is so contagious

@sunayoru 3 жыл бұрын

yes!!!

@eltjeau 3 жыл бұрын

If for everytime scarra had a glimpse of a smile and i would have a pentakill... I..

@otaldomatheush 3 жыл бұрын

When Scarra said that he felt his younger version was smarter than his current self that hit really hard. Sometimes when I see old photos of myself I just feel like apologizing to that kid. Scarra's fucking awesome btw.

@eltjeau 3 жыл бұрын

There is alot of healing in that thought. Your young beeing didn't see what was coming. Tell the young version of 'you' not to be to hard on the older 'you' and you may be able to heal and be softer to the person you are today

@otaldomatheush 3 жыл бұрын

@@eltjeau Never thought of looking at it that way. Thanks for this! Literally tearing up at work LMAO

@eltjeau 3 жыл бұрын

It's something i learned in therapy.. it can become more thorough to the mind if you go back to old memories and really are aware of the child that experienced what you remember nowadays. It's a therapy called exposure.. so helpfull when you need to come loose of the child in you that had bad experiences in the past

@bobbywhite5319 3 жыл бұрын

Woah, time experiences are weird. I still feel like the same person as I did in my childhood. Interesting to know that some people feel different. In my case the feeling is held together by a bitterness/wariness of others. Or maybe it’s that I lack a sense of self

@juninhoplay5380 3 жыл бұрын

salve

@Dudebaker420 3 жыл бұрын

I have never shouted "Get Him!" More than this. I love Scarra and he needed this so badly.

@misterpgallagher 3 жыл бұрын

Me too. Scarra is so awesome!

@andersnielsen3217 3 жыл бұрын

That's a wonderful comment🙂

@EtherTheReal 3 жыл бұрын

@@andersnielsen3217 no u

@JoeNovacks 3 жыл бұрын

who is Scarra?this guy who talk with Dr?K come one guys this guy is wonderful briliant serious and so true the way he speaking he makes you to trust him at once!i like this guy!Hey you AWESOME and never forget!Hello there Scarra !

@izio1111 2 жыл бұрын

I know right he needed real talk and guidance so much

@arcadistorias3202 3 жыл бұрын

Scarra is definitely someone that should have additional sessions recorded. Not only is he beloved by so many people, but because he has so many walls up. Also shout outs to the "idk if imma make it to 40" crowd lmao.

@eyo8766 3 жыл бұрын

WOOOOOOOOO

@theotherdavid8727 3 жыл бұрын

Wooo fuckn 25 is a stretch for me brother

@MetroTechGamer 3 жыл бұрын

@@theotherdavid8727 same

@RalphelValentine 3 жыл бұрын

True even when twitch had the tier list for best streamers to least. Most streamers put scarra pretty high even people that don't normally interact with him

@SomeoneNr9 3 жыл бұрын

@@theotherdavid8727 well, I didn't think i would go past 20, now I'm 25... Although truth be told, while I did originally intend to make this comment uplifting, I can't say, that I have particularly enjoyed, or feel proud of having made it, so yeah... That's probably a bit of a downer. Nevertheless, I wish you and everyone who relates to this the best and I hope you find whatever you need to be able to carry on until you can make things turn around for you.

@enmemoriamedia4957 3 жыл бұрын

Skara "I´m gonna die before im 40" Dr K. "even darker" Skara "I´m gonna die before im 39?"

@Sam_Ares 3 жыл бұрын

I think the answer he was looking for was for Scarra to say he hated himself. But it really doesn't seem like he does which kinda surprised Dr. K at 46:20

@ohjajaja 3 жыл бұрын

@@Sam_Ares not really looking for but certainly was ready for it to come. He was probably targeting something like with just being unhappy with his state or feeling disappointed. That's why Dr. K. often seems very vague with his questioning. He doesn't want to push out answers, just so his logical mind can satisfy the question with an answer some would just expect to come up. This could lead to very complicated situations. He doesn't expect him to say "I hate myself" because I think it's an unhealthy way of assuming the wildest things without certainty. Be free of superstition

@NorroTaku 3 жыл бұрын

@@Sam_Ares i felt that way too I thought he was going to ask about death and self harm but I think he didnt ask it on purpose and not out loud as to not bring it up and skara didnt pick up on it so he probably either didnt have the thoughts or did not have them anymore

@quAdxify Жыл бұрын

@@Sam_Ares No the answer he was expecting (if any particular) would be "I'm gonna die alone" especially since that subconsciously matches Scarra's unhealthy lifestyle. No dying alone, if you die young, where your friends are still around.

@lelelew2735 5 ай бұрын

Maybe not himself but the hand he was dealt from genetics.

@tylerkim1163 3 жыл бұрын

1:10:14 Scarra: Life would be easier as a robot Dr. K: You’ve tried really hard to be a robot Scarra: Beep Boop (sad robot noises)

@kajiko88 3 жыл бұрын

I got Captain Holt vibes from this clip

@Vexiad 3 жыл бұрын

That part made me laugh so hard

@jcnot9712 2 ай бұрын

Petition to get Scarra to voice Marvin from _Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy._

@nanabanana44 3 жыл бұрын

I'm a simple man, i see don scarra i click

@eltjeau 3 жыл бұрын

You see scarra, or you don

@SaulBedMan 3 жыл бұрын

paying my respects to the don

@SumriseHD 3 жыл бұрын

It's just like with Anthony from LTT

@FunkVT 3 жыл бұрын

@@SumriseHD yessirrr

@getithxney 3 жыл бұрын

same

@dropthekorpi 3 жыл бұрын

This was the most helpful interview for me so far. I have the same problems of rationalizing and a constant need for self-improvement rooted in negative self image. Seeing him gradually move away from logic and closer to facing emotion was eye-opening as well. Thank you Scarra and Dr. K!

@eltjeau 3 жыл бұрын

I feel the same.. rationalizing stuff to death, dont get your emotins involved..

@sollertia_ 3 жыл бұрын

ironically, I see rationalization as an emotional escape mechanism disguising itself and tricking the "logic" part of one's mind

@MzSoulll 3 жыл бұрын

I have the same problem...exhausting.

@Jeppe_P 3 жыл бұрын

Same honestly. This was really helpfull

@moonfrog9878 2 жыл бұрын

It’s easier not to feel cos it hurts, but it’s what we need to grow, otherwise like he says, we essentially rationalise everything like it’s all okay because it makes us feel content, but sometimes we need to know it may not be okay and we should do something about it and then feel improvement when we do, some people feel an overwhelming amount of emotion alone, but I think a lot do swing to the other side and go for solely logic

@rogpigamedev 3 жыл бұрын

Is cool seeing Dr K. work, cuz when he finds something like: "Ahh, this could be it" he grins and you can see how much fun he's having. That's passion man. So nice

@aniyilator 3 жыл бұрын

Ikr? He's such an inspiration

@toastybowl 2 жыл бұрын

Gamer moment

@alimay967 11 ай бұрын

Absolutely 👍👍👍

@tolutoluhi7252 6 ай бұрын

Honestly I love this, especially as a therapist in training lol

@Miguelplaysgaming 3 жыл бұрын

“People call friends family to avoid feeling romantic feelings for their friends” Mikasa: he’s family

@WanderTheNomad 3 жыл бұрын

"He's like a brother to me."

@breathingstill 3 жыл бұрын

why did this hit closer to home than I expected

@_unseenhunter_5093 3 жыл бұрын

@@WanderTheNomad yeah, a brother from Alabama

@anshi5098 3 жыл бұрын

noooooooooooooooooo how does this fit so well

@izio1111 2 жыл бұрын

LMAOOOOASDassdaaSD

@thewildhealer541 3 жыл бұрын

Scarra is an amazing and loveable person

@AnonymousuomynonA 3 жыл бұрын

*persona

@vinh_em 3 жыл бұрын

@@AnonymousuomynonA William Jimmy Li, known as Scarra, is an amazing and loveable person

@ouwle6618 3 жыл бұрын

"As i become the rational part fo you, what do you become?" "Worried"

@uhwaykin 3 жыл бұрын

I think Scarra's defense mechanisms are there as much to hold in pain as they are to protect him from pain being inflicted.

@uav2246 3 жыл бұрын

That's how it works for me I think. As a man, I've been taught to hold it all in a hidden room and use the knowledge of that pain to avoid more. :( Love scarra.

@cjpe2265 3 жыл бұрын

@@uav2246 i feel this ❤

@OhSoSnake 3 жыл бұрын

this is how all defense mechanisms (which are a part of ego) work universally, i think.

@jacepayne8883 3 жыл бұрын

I think you're right, and have great taste in music..R.I.P. DOOM

@varasatoshi3961 3 жыл бұрын

I think a lot of us forget how smart and successful, and all around badass Scarra is. Not only is he really funny, but he was the organizer and creator of one of the largest online content brands to grace KZfaq and twitch.

@wildfire9280 Жыл бұрын

Ohhh that’s what that “Osu” thing on r/paint was. I literally had no idea what it was until now 💀

@torres1461 3 жыл бұрын

Scarra is the most genuine sweetheart out there and I’ll simp for him till the day i die

@empiricus2211 3 жыл бұрын

same

@whoshotya117 3 жыл бұрын

Man thats like your mom saying she would date you. It's worthless and cringe and makes the person feel even more pathetic.

@torres1461 3 жыл бұрын

@@whoshotya117 damn that’s crazy :|

@YuketsuGaming 3 жыл бұрын

@@whoshotya117 wth

@icannottakeitanymore2287 3 жыл бұрын

@@whoshotya117 sounds like your projecting,but with that said that is pretty true.

@2000barna 3 жыл бұрын

when scarra said "beep boop" I really felt that..

@matheuswohl 3 жыл бұрын

same

@couchman-sw6jy 2 жыл бұрын

😔

@coolfiretire12 Жыл бұрын

beep .. boop.... 😔

@jonginisholy 3 жыл бұрын

Every time he asks "What do you see when you look in the mirror?" hits harder than it has to.

@foggyvhs8790 3 жыл бұрын

I'm frustrated that I definitely have issues with how I look, but I can't understand what I see looking in the mirror

@naderayad3228 3 жыл бұрын

it is something like in good will hunting saying it is not your fault and every time it hits stronger

@ohjajaja 3 жыл бұрын

@@foggyvhs8790 Most people would probably start thinking a lot and maybe point out inperfections in their look when doing this. Keep in mind though that this is supposed to be a meditation. Be aware, but stop analyzing. Just scan yourself. It does not matter if you just look yourself into the eyes for minutes or scan your whole body. You just have to recognize you are there, and be in that moment with yourself. It is more about the feeling of "meeting yourself". Just throwing thoughts here.

@foggyvhs8790 3 жыл бұрын

@@ohjajaja still hard to understand, also hard to understand what being present is. Kinda learned what it’s meant /not/ to be present. Dunno if I’m getting it wrong but in terms of acceptance I guess I can say maybe I am ugly but so what. Making progress in some ways but honestly don’t think I’ve made any in loving myself, it feels impossible without becoming another person entirely

@DodInTheSky Жыл бұрын

Scarra has a really thick shield of logic defending his feelings. He knows logically knows what to feel and do but doesn’t feel it emotionally. Kudos to Dr. K for recognising that as quickly as he did.

@trulyinfamous16 3 жыл бұрын

I hope Scarra sees the amount of love being shown for him in the comment section. He really is a good dude On another note, I feel like we are so close to getting a Toast session. Slowly but surely we are working our way through the OTV gang and having on Toast on here will the Endgame like event.

@easyluckable 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, Toast would be the endgame

@IMTSin 3 жыл бұрын

I am pretty sure that he said he wouldn't do it.

@sakurab0t 3 жыл бұрын

That would be cool, but I think toast said he wouldn’t do it

@ramseshinojosa6155 3 жыл бұрын

He really said that? Damn man, I was hoping to see him sometime soon

@trulyinfamous16 3 жыл бұрын

@@IMTSin he has progressively updated this answer. Now it’s “Dr. K’s team has been aggressively contacting me and... i don’t know. I feel like I would cry”

@callmebird8798 3 жыл бұрын

"Catch yourself before you dodge" I watched this 4 months ago and took what u guys said to heart. Ive moved out and got myself a full-time job. Thank you for getting me out of my zombie state of mind. EDIT: 3/2/2022 I'm now a Explosive Expert in Training getting paid and got myself a place to live. I need to put in extra hours into a apartment building I put a down payment on but I think its gonna be worth it. It was a hard bit of work but as long as I catch myself before I make a excuse of why I cant do something. I and all of you can do anything.

@samueluzcategui7567 3 жыл бұрын

Congrats!

@D_Jilla 3 жыл бұрын

That's amazing friend! Keep up the good work!

@OMIMreacts 2 жыл бұрын

🙏🙏🙏 this should be the top comment! well done!

@LOLmisscrazy 2 жыл бұрын

Love that for you!!! Wishing you all the best!

@jeanieologie 2 жыл бұрын

I hope you're doing well even if what was happening didn't work out. I'm mid-interview now and praying something will click for me. For real. I have shit I wanna do, I wanna be happy, and if it's right for us I want to get the LOML back. I really need this help :(

@klaxxon450 3 жыл бұрын

Holy shit, this was like looking at my own reflection. I couldn't stop crying, wtf....how can it be so relatable!!??

@goneforever2618 3 жыл бұрын

“You think your pain and your heartbreak are unprecedented in the history of the world, but then you read. It was books that taught me that the things that tormented me most were the very things that connected me with all the people who were alive, who had ever been alive.” ― James Baldwin

@fox5352 3 жыл бұрын

I feel you I was born with off centre jaw

@Angel-oj4zs 3 жыл бұрын

I hope you are feeling better and are feeling motivated!

@klaxxon450 3 жыл бұрын

@@Angel-oj4zs Thanks for checking up, I am doing a lot better since I started watching Dr. K's vids.

@OMIMreacts 2 жыл бұрын

@@klaxxon450 letsgooo! happy to hear that you are having insights about yourself!

@BacchusGames 3 жыл бұрын

I love Scarra and this interview, but damn watching Dr.K in this session is the most I've felt like I'm watching a master at his craft. Going back to the question "What do you see in the mirror" in different connotations is something I don't think I would have ever come up with, and it feels so impactful.

@sareatonin 3 жыл бұрын

I agree!! Like the tension in the air was thick but it’s all a learning curve and a chance to improve. I love them both, it was very interesting to watch

@sugalofe4131 3 жыл бұрын

You can also see him key in on the topic in the first interaction. It was wildly impressive to see him hone in on it, and then slowly work around to getting into it. Deconstructing answers and questions with insane precision.

@disbkris2923 3 жыл бұрын

Dude I feel him on the first part sooooo much he's thinking hard about what he's saying to not say anything wrong. He's not actually saying what's on his mind he's just thinking about a good answer to the question, I do this a lot.

@hmongguyful 3 жыл бұрын

I really felt for scarra here when he started saying that his friends don't truly understand or know him and how he has a sense of low self worth. And how he's been handling that feeling is the understanding that he will never be perfect which isn't solving anything

@ciudateluLcuUmor Жыл бұрын

The clown of the class When going home

@revaamritkar7281 3 жыл бұрын

Totally wasn't expecting this but what a welcome surprise! Dr. K's really going to cycle through all of OfflineTV & Friends and I'm here for it.

@reviera634 3 жыл бұрын

Maybe Sykkuno too

@jey1834 3 жыл бұрын

@@suaviduds toast already said he wasn't coming on

@imperialbagel Жыл бұрын

@@jey1834 I’ve got news for you!

@jey1834 Жыл бұрын

@@imperialbagel i wasn't wrong? he said he only did it cuz he felt forced lmao

@Wetzelsucks 3 жыл бұрын

thank you for putting these on youtube and not loading them with midroll ads. i try to watch the vods on twitch when i miss them, but i get a pair of ads every 5 minutes :(

@sarapocorn 3 жыл бұрын

I have not known Scarra before, but now 44mins in I have to say that he seems like an authentically kind person and I do genuinely find him attractive. I hope he will feel that way about himself someday as well.

@sarapocorn 3 жыл бұрын

checking back in after finishing: I am 26 years old and have found that the number one thing, emotionally, that I have had issues with partners with was emotional connection. The level of reflection needed to ‚see‘ another person, see their layers, fears, motivations and meet them there. love them, not despite, but BECAUSE you have insight into their multilayered selves. It is so incredibly hard to learn, but I have found that even if everything else was right, they were organised, reliable, interesting, attractive to me, etc - if that form of intimacy is missing, I will not feel at home in a relationship and leave, sooner or later. Scarra, however, has that ability. And this is why I truly believe he makes a great partner. And anyone else in his position, no matter how you look and how much money you make, so do you.

@karole7345 3 жыл бұрын

Why use the word genuinely. Is it because he's rich?

@BebehCookieIcecream 3 жыл бұрын

@@karole7345 No, it's to dodge stupid questions like this that try to subvert someone's declaration of attraction. It's *genuine* attraction because of his earnest efforts to emotionally connect. Do you think genuine attraction is monetary? Because liking someone for money is not romantic attraction.

@sarapocorn 3 жыл бұрын

@@karole7345 no. I do not know anything about him outside of this video and do not know or care about his financial situation, though I am happy he is not struggling financially. And neither am I. I hold a master‘s and am a college professor in Switzerland, I have all my material needs more than covered myself. You are the person whose mind jumped straight to money, so maybe you‘d want to reflect on that. That‘s all I have to say to you and I hope you have a nice day :)

@weeknd7245 3 жыл бұрын

Then give him a sucky nuff said go on make a move

@shinkamui 3 жыл бұрын

At 1:38:20 when scarra asks dr K ''does that make sense'' YUP the reverse has taken hold. He's even adopting the language mannerism. Which is nothing short of fantastic lol. I know this is the tip of the iceberg for the emotional undercurrents that are going on, but what a beautiful tip.

@brumpbotungus8425 3 жыл бұрын

Scarra's so brave for opening up to so many people. I feel like that question of "What do you think when you look in the mirror?" is so scary. I can relate to him a lot with almost everything that he said.

@Sean.F 3 жыл бұрын

The Motivational Interviewing part was so fucking good!! 1:38:20 Scarra is just so receptive to it, and so used to being on the "other side", that it makes it look like Dr. K was using Jedi mind tricks. Love seeing the way he thinks and processes these things, and would love to see a follow-up interview! Scarra is such an awesome guy.

@yadsewnde8699 3 жыл бұрын

Ikr? I was mesmerized! Kept thinking of like card/top/animal fighting anime where you see a visual of a character trapped by another characters attack even if it's not actually hurting the other character (hope that makes sense. The gist is I was just really impressed)

@tfkrockhard 3 жыл бұрын

This will be so good to learn motivational interviewing as a social worker.

@loloioi 3 жыл бұрын

@28:45 Note that Dr.K made Scarra come to that conclusion himself without having to tell him. That's something incredibly important to pick up on. The rest just falls into place.

@curseyoux 3 жыл бұрын

"Look at yourself in the mirror and just notice." I instantly got extreme anxiety LOL maybe it's time for me to see a therapist...

@fungling7982 3 жыл бұрын

Yea, everyone can get lots of help from a therapist, humans are pathological in nature due to self-awareness. Even if we don't notice it.

@jameshercals9651 3 жыл бұрын

I recommend you do!

@Zenju__ 3 жыл бұрын

I really enjoyed this one, got some great moments of self-awareness, breaking down defenses and mutual appreciation here. Some highlights for me (which do require context): 1:37:42 Logical thinking can only go so far for our emotional lives. Also, lowering defenses means entering a living Hell 1:48:38 A door left unopened festered into a whole damn mansion 1:49:50 Scarra gives his honest, affectionate (juicy) praise 1:55:02 Dr. K strikes back with some honest praise of his own. Just take it! Scarra is a sweet man and I wish him all the best.

@Kvh47 3 жыл бұрын

I do the same as Scarra, as in I also plan ahead when meeting someone. I make sure I am fully rested so I am high energy, try to make sure that it is worth their time and sometimes I even make a list of things I should ask them about so I seem interested in what is going on in their lives. Problem is that when someone shows up unannounced I completly shut down. it also costs a lot of energy so when people leave I need to be alone for a bit to recharge.

@TheGrzB 3 жыл бұрын

It's sad to hear that. People shows up unannounced because the relation grows enough to feel like it's appropriate. I'm not sure if all that preparation does not backfire in the end because it's hard to keep that up when friendship advance.

@Kvh47 3 жыл бұрын

@@TheGrzB What do you mean with when friendship advance? someone is a friend or not right? there are no levels to it.

@TheGrzB 3 жыл бұрын

@@Kvh47 I see that differently but it's fine. I can be on different levels depending on activities with different friends. Let's say i have friend who is terrible with secrets and we both know about it i will not share them with him because it's bad for both of us but I can have other one who is great about. The other thing is I don't become someone friend instant it's progress when we both realize we appreciate each other company willing to accept flaws of each other. I'm older guy so maybe it's different approach, I want people to like me for who I am and for me preparation how You describe it is something I will not be able to keep up with so I will create image of myself impossible to keep up with time. I'm very open person and very easy fit into groups so probably that's why my views are so different.

@sunnyrandomz 3 жыл бұрын

The Don Scarra has taken the seat! Let's goooooo!

@easyluckable 3 жыл бұрын

Now, Toast is the only one left in OTV who hasn’t came to Dr. K session, really hope we can see him be here one day.

@samuelgiraudo8748 3 жыл бұрын

Well, there's also Sykkuno

@miguelbailon6581 3 жыл бұрын

@@samuelgiraudo8748 Sykkuno isn't an official member of OTV

@samuelgiraudo8748 3 жыл бұрын

@@miguelbailon6581 Ah, that makes sense. Thanks you for the clarification :)

@shirleyy2979 3 жыл бұрын

Toast has talked about it on stream before, he said he would talk to dr k privately if an interview ever happens. He feels it’s difficult to abandon his stream personality in public.

@momoshinigami 3 жыл бұрын

Sykkuno also said he preferred to talk something like this with his close friends~

@rrarrarr520 2 жыл бұрын

I used to be skeptical of this Dr. K fella. Now I listen to like 3 episodes a day.

@yuvrajsingh_4109 8 ай бұрын

Don't chain watch

@yuvrajsingh_4109 8 ай бұрын

Watch one a day

@factjuniorroll 2 ай бұрын

@@yuvrajsingh_4109 Too late, he watched it all already

@user-zj2kp7mm7x 3 жыл бұрын

definitely one of the more complicated and nuanced interviews out there. Scarra has a lot of depth to dig through

@elmataclachado 3 жыл бұрын

This one felt personal, I have the same self esteem issues than Scarra does. I also have always said Ill try dating once I lose weight, ill gain confidence to get friends once I start to like myself more. But I know that will never happen by itself regardless of my goals.

@user-xb7dk2qy1r 3 жыл бұрын

I feel the exact same way bro. I hope that both you and I end up getting there

@Datan1234 3 жыл бұрын

Just start. Literally all you need. Do 10 push-ups tonight and keep it goin, chat up the next best chick you come along. It’s really simple. Now I only gotta convince of that myself...btw six pack and all that stuff don’t do shit.

@LaNoireDetruit 2 жыл бұрын

How about turning the argument around? "I will have the courage and support I need to change things, once I have good friends"?

@ZvCkt 3 жыл бұрын

Dr K is just too damn good. That role reversal was some 9k IQ Imposter move. Played Scarra like a fiddle

@ezy5138 3 жыл бұрын

One of the first interviews I've watched the entirety of - super helpful. It was really interesting to see Scarra's thought processes and how they progressed over the course. Huge thanks to both Scarra and Dr. K !

@rawrara 3 жыл бұрын

God the journey and rollercoaster that Scarra has gone through during this talk is so exciting and brings a smile to my face everytime he understands things. Loved it so much. Thanks Dr.K and Scarra!

@hokiepokie 3 жыл бұрын

Dr. K has said time and time again: don't thank me, thank the person that is interviewed. After this interview I finally REALLY understand what he meant all this time. Holy shit Scarra, you're so insightful thank you so much for coming on an being so genuine and open, you've really helped me!

@ahawkone8850 3 жыл бұрын

Never heard of Scarra before but man I started crying at the end. Reminded me of my therapist a while ago. I’m glad they had this conversation and thanks to both of them for moving through it so elegantly.

@thetrustysidekick3013 3 жыл бұрын

I'm so happy scarra's on this show. He's a genuinely good person, and he really needed someone to tell him these things.

@cojocoolio 3 жыл бұрын

This may have been the most relatable one yet. I absolutely love these videos and the community you've created Dr. K

@sontath7102 3 жыл бұрын

This was an EXCELLENT interview. Thank you Scarra, you had some wonderful insights and I found it very helpful. Dr. K, thank you as well for guiding the conversation

@boomer4629 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the conversation i didn't know I needed, between two amazingly empathetic, thoughtful, and intelligent people

@kyuuketsukikun420 3 жыл бұрын

this has been so helpful. i also never knew how much i had in common with scarra as far as mindset and self esteem

@chloerene7858 3 жыл бұрын

I just always love hearing Dr K talk and watching how he interacts with people and tries to get to the core of issues. So interesting, it feels like I'm working through my own problems no matter who he is talking to. I wish I could find a therapist like him near me lol! He seems extremely knowledgeable.

@sofiaanimais 3 жыл бұрын

I relate so much to scarra's behavior towards his friends, this was rlly eye opening to me (Def talking abt it with my therapist this week lol). Made me admire both dr.k and scarra so much more too. Thank you so much for this video

@yadsewnde8699 3 жыл бұрын

This is one of my favorite episodes. I love Scarra so much and Dr.K is really good at what he does. What an insightful conversation. I learned so much!

@breezebee 3 жыл бұрын

Been watching scarra for a while now. I’ve never loved another streamers episode on Dr. K more than Scarra’s, truly a genuine guy who tries his best. His logical way of thinking is very relatable, and I understand his struggle with that. Hope nothing but the best for him

@tonjolley6422 3 жыл бұрын

I'm so happy we got to see this side of Scarra and that Dr. K could too. I hope Scarra starts to realize he is a very loveable and worthwhile person to have around, even in a relationship. He's not that bad on the eyes either. If he feels is weight holds him back, luckily it is very able to be changed. Thank you Scarra, and Dr. K.

@FrankusCrankus 3 жыл бұрын

Maybe my favorite interview so far. The topics were relatable for me, and they outlined how to identify some seemingly beneficial/logical lines of thinking that can result in negative consequences, especially when compounded. Much appreciation for everyone involved here and I hope to see more from Scarra and ofc Dr. K :)

@Traumareii Жыл бұрын

Gonna watch this before my OSHA 30 class tonight after work. Love watching scarra, and can’t wait to see the session. More of him please!

@baddabeer4862 3 жыл бұрын

This helped me. I really feel like I’ve adapted to the point of maladaptive. I’ve cut so much away that I am a shadow of that younger me that felt the pains.

@uh-ooooh Жыл бұрын

Damn. Dr.K went through a lot of those barriers so expertly that's insane. I know I shouldn't be surprised since you're an expert obviously but it was so well done how you navigated something that most people would find really difficult and rigid to

@toastybowl 2 жыл бұрын

This is so fucking wholesome. Big EXP%++ Just pure, empowering friendship energy on display. I'm definitely going to have to use that motivated interview idea as a journaling prompt

@Roxkis 3 жыл бұрын

This was a really good interview! I could relate to so many things in this video. Especially vocalizing my emotions. Good stuff. Thank you Dr. K

@oskargustafsson500 3 жыл бұрын

This was incredible. Your videos are amazing Dr. K

@madscot_ 3 жыл бұрын

I'm realising so much that I'm like Scarra. Same age, same struggles with feelings and dating, just love in general. Never feeling I'm good enough for girls I want to approach and I just step back. I feel like I've missed out on so many love stories because of that and I've missed my chance. I've cried multiple times through this because it felt like it was me talking. Dr K is an amazing dude and I'm gonna take on board some of the advice he's given here.

@jendi56 3 жыл бұрын

Okay I finished all of this. Scarra is an amazing human being and I hope this helped him in the long run! Great session Dr. K!

@jeremybond2 3 жыл бұрын

I want another talk!!!! Man this was great I'm going to watch this entire video again tomorrow! This was f***ng awesome!!!

@Sarasor 3 жыл бұрын

Man you are so good at switching sides. I love the way you suddenly and passionately started taking his defensive side. Great talk guys. Scarra seems like such an intelligent and genuinely good person that he would bring a lot of happiness into a lucky girl's life. Self worth can be scary sometimes

@ckv954 3 жыл бұрын

His dodges are so interesting to see, I hope he thinks more about how he does it in his own mind.

@izio1111 2 жыл бұрын

I love watching Dr. K and the JRE Podcast because I get to learn about a ton of people and the way they think. I love these! Thank you Dr. K :D

@2Hx 3 жыл бұрын

Good stuff, Scarra and Dr.K. This seemed difficult at times for Scarra, but this was very relatable and helpful for me. Scarra seems like a cool dude.

@wadalapichu4873 3 жыл бұрын

i like scarra so much, thanks dr k for having him :)

@DanielaRojas-tq3mo 3 жыл бұрын

The topics look interesting, I'm excited to listen to Scarra and Dr. K

@SashaFights 3 жыл бұрын

Yay! This interview needed to happen. Thank you!

@Cisshu 3 жыл бұрын

this is definitely my favorite interview dr.k. has done. i could relate to scarra's struggles a lot and i feel like i got a lot out of this and i hope he did too. scarra is such a wonderful and insightful human being!!

@substanceplayer2088 3 жыл бұрын

I've been a fan of Scarra for almost 10 years now. He was the first pro league player I ever saw and really drove my passion for video games further than it had ever went. He's an amazing person, player, and streamer and I want nothing but the best for him

@jletsgoo 3 жыл бұрын

1:01:27 sometimes ppl think of their friends as family bc they're afraid of what would happen if they had romantic feelings towards their friends... woah,. 1:05:00 like a dodge tank - trained yourself to dodge, so to willingly not move when its coming your way is no easy task 1:09:04 What are you really afraid of? (learning to vocalise how you feel) 1:13:34 Self fufilling prophecy: not feeling good enough 1:15:58 Can you ask them if you don't feel confident in yourself? 1:17:03 I want you to chase love bro!! 1:30:10 Are you the rational part of me now?

@jonformantes4910 3 жыл бұрын

15 min in or so and I LOVE this conversation. I relate so much to this.

@ISesseriI 3 жыл бұрын

POG I'm ready to listen to this video. Hope its great :)

@eltjeau 3 жыл бұрын

"not being good enough" cognitive changing to "for someone else".. you are great enough.. let your feelings come through scarra

@probablykasper 3 жыл бұрын

Wow, the motivational interviewing was so amazing to see

@Shawns_snapshots 3 жыл бұрын

This one hits so close too home, most helpful talk for me by far. Really interesting for me too, because ive followed scarra for about 10 years on and off.

@miut7995 Жыл бұрын

I’m so glad I found this channel. I love psychology and this interview frustrates me because I can see that we almost get to acknowledgment of the issue but it’s like getting close to the finish line in Mario Kart and then dies right before you cross the line. . 😢 Seems like a great guy. Too bad he has so many walls up. Hope he comes to the realization that he has all the power to change reality if he stops sabotaging himself by deflecting from absence of self-esteem by overcompensating with rationalizations and logic. Rooting for you to work through it! So many great guys out there stuck in their own head.

@nommable 3 жыл бұрын

This was an incredible interview. I don't watch streamers and don't know Scarra, but listening to this, I realized I'm in a very similar place, where I deflect my own negative emotions because they're 'unproductive'. I was journaling while listening to this and I had just the biggest breakthrough, where I was crying and facing emotions I have been trying but unable to access for quite a long time. Thanks Scarra for being vulnerable with us, and thanks Dr. K for your immeasurably valuable guidance.

@moralapostilion1761 2 жыл бұрын

Dunno if u will see this since it’s kinda late, but: Good job! I wish u the best on ur journey. Ur not alone. A lot of us are working on ourselves striving for the right path.

@noBoxKhan 3 жыл бұрын

37:30 Something about those words struck deep within me. I kind of felt that yellow light Scarra was mentioning earlier. Very insightful.

@ODDERBOTTER 10 ай бұрын

Dr. K's point about taking on negative traits as we grow finally put into words my struggle with changing as a person. There are bad qualities that I would like to shed, but I was fearing that I would be the type of person I dislike, but I'm realizing that it's necessary. Like for example, I want to be more social and I fear if I'm more outgoing, I might be "That annoying guy" if I approach people more, but to become more sociable, I have to understand that I may have to be that guy in some judgmental person's eyes if I want to get myself out there more

@Abrahammj135 3 жыл бұрын

I really like Scarra and this interview made me feel happy for him. Really Insideful. thank you both

@lunargraph 3 жыл бұрын

I hope scarra knows that a lot of people love and respect him and his work. He's such a delight to watch, I feel so drawn to his streams. Thank you so much to dr k for doing this for him and thank you to scarra for being this vunerable online. I sympathize with his struggles so much and i feel like this helped me a lot too, if that makes sense.

@resentfusion5634 3 жыл бұрын

damn once again finding gems in this vid love what you do what scarra said about loving that camaraderie and working towards a goal i chase that as well only reason i would play league what scarra said about being disingenuous vibes

@KikoKortado 2 жыл бұрын

This helped me and you scarra

@easyluckable 3 жыл бұрын

Honestly, Scarra was certainly not my favourite members in OTV before , but I’ve watched more Scarra recently, I’ve grown so much respect for him, such a cool dude.

@ToriKo_ 3 жыл бұрын

Watched it on stream, leaving a comment for the algorithm

@pal_2006 3 жыл бұрын

Actually watching this interview instead of just listening is so much better than the other interviews because watching doctor k interact with the chat with subtle winks and smiles is so funny when he and the chat knows what he's doing but not scarra

@Richie33404 2 жыл бұрын

I agree; I’ve been just listening to these but the facial and body language adds a lot!

@eadamic17 3 жыл бұрын

Big up this man, this psychologist and all the other people who are willing to have personal and potentially provocative discussions like this openly on the Internet. It is unbelievable how interesting and helpful it is to hear, even for someone like me who has not had anything to do with video games for 15 years.

@Revalence123 3 жыл бұрын

I hate how much I needed an episode like this. Thanks scarra

@raynac224 3 жыл бұрын

I like this :) I think one of the biggest steps logical minded people have to take is the realization that sometimes your logical ideas are illogical because they are not incorporating the effect that the idea will have on your own and other peoples emotions. Analyzing humans logically our brains are not set up well for logic, emotions generate much stronger reactions so they are a very important variables to consider when reviewing a scenario.

@TomTomDam 3 жыл бұрын

It's so interesting that one of our greatest tools as humans is logic, yet at the same time we somehow think so hard about things that we sometimes end up betraying our logic.

@MrBaumgratz 3 жыл бұрын

Dr. K is op, holy shit, what a good interview. I think a lot of people would benefit from this, I certainly did. Really happy for Scarra, I am 100% sure this helped him and he fucking deserves.

@camilletiongson871 3 жыл бұрын

This beautiful person 🥺 always thinking about his friends and their happiness 😭❤️❤️

@lostlameloop9923 3 жыл бұрын

I could relate to this one a lot, thank you Scarra for participating! I hope we see Toast next, even tho he doesn't want to due to other reasons. I think it could be helpful to many others especially, because he doesn't feel like it!

@vic_cresss 3 жыл бұрын

I TOTALLY relate with the lack of empathy thing, I still feel that way towards people, but I can also be very empathetic towards people too, it really just depends on my mood 🤷🏽‍♀️

@fromtheotherplace 3 жыл бұрын

one of my favorite talks you've had!

@unchatnoir 3 жыл бұрын

That was amazing. Thank you!

@MrJoshyyB 2 жыл бұрын

I dont know to much about scarra and his life but I can relate to most of what he said in this video. Self esteem for me has been a life long journey. I hope you’re making moves and if you ever need a virtual workout buddy I’m always up for the accountability!