The key is to slow down. Housework, hygiene, health, none of it has a time limit. If you slow down everything will get done. It goes so much faster than you can possibly imagine. Remember that there will come a time when you'll miss nursing and pooping at the same time and you will miss even the most intense tears and screams that come from your beautiful baby. They cling to you for such a short time. Embrace it. It's such a special time. Just go slow and prioritize everything. Nothing is more important than this time. I have 5 kids ages 10, 8, 6, 2, and 1 month. A decade has blown by and many regrets and guilty feelings have come and vanished. I teach my kids that when you make mistakes you can't dwell in that space. You have to let go to make room for something new to come in, and when you let go of that mistake you will learn a lesson from it. And when we learn better, we do better the next time we face a similar situation. Parenting is go with the flow. Don't force your child into your world, learn to blend and flow with one another.

I had my first baby at 35. Before that I had a successful career. Let me tell you; being a mother is by far the hardest thing I have ever done. I look back and wonder how I managed it especially the first couple of years X

Great talk! I feel that the concept of the “village” has been forgotten! The reason people are so anxious and find themselves isolated and thinking negative thoughts is because there is no village anymore and people are raising their babies/children alone which was never meant to be the way for centuries/millennia, humans have raised their children together. It’s very helpful and the way we are doing things is leading to more post partum depression and overwhelmed parents.

This brought tears to my eyes because she hit the nail right on the head for me. I have a 10 month old and 7 year old, and life has been soo overwhelming, being a working mum and a wife. My husband works 6 days a week and long hours, so is hardly around. I feel alone and stressed most of the time, and on top of that I am exhausted, and feel inadequate. I also feel like no one understands, but this video made me realise I am not alone and it's a relief. Thank you for this!

I think that if you worry about being a good parent means that you are already on your way to being a great parent. We hold ourselves sometimes to a unattainable standard which can prevent you from a realization of achievement and success in being the foundation of a growing and thriving little human. My 5cents worth as a Dad

She hit the nail on the head.. 4 months pp and she precisely described my experiences.. and happy to know I'm not the only one experiencing these.. Love for this tribe of women..

I noticed that since I picked up hobbies and mommy friends I’m so much happier. She was pretty hard on me the first year but my love for her got us through. Her hugs are the most amazing thing in the world but sometimes I need a break to refill my mommy gas tank.

I have a son who's 2,5 months old and I can relate to everything she described. This talk was so comforting. Thank you.

I did 8 years of Sales before I had my baby. Before being a mum my whole week was about KPIs. It was stressful but when you hit your KPI it was super satisfactory. You can calculate the incentives by the amount of work you put in. My whole life was dominated by numbers. So when I had baby, guess what No quantitative measurement of the effort I am putting. No ROI. It drive me crazy. I was confused all the time. I kept having this anxiety that I was doing something wrong. I made an excel chart to track my babies feeding and pooping. Lol My mum told me to relax. She said that if they cry than that means they are either hungry or wet or sometimes they just want to cry. Hold them love them and forget the rest. I was scared that if I hold him too much he will get used to it, but my mum said that this moment will pass so soon and I will regret that I didn’t hold him enough. And it was so true.

I'm noticing a lot of mothers questioning their parenthood or what they did while pregnant. Ladies YOU CAN ONLY DO SO MUCH. We are all looking for guidance just like our babies are looking for it. You never know what's right for your baby because all babies are different. I ended having to experiment different methods of sleep training because my child would take a while to fall asleep and would only sleep 45 minutes to an hour most the time. It takes time and effort, my sister told me and it does. It's not easy. No one said it would be. Eventually your baby adapts to your routine and it gets more and more better for you both but do not expect the first 3 months to be easy because within that time they are learning how to sleep and when to sleep and how to put themselves to sleep. Don't feel guilty. It's not worth the time. Sometimes you will feel like an awful mother but the only thing that would make you an awful mother is if you gave up and abandoned your baby. Be proud. As women we work hard to do these things. If anything instead of being mean to ourselves, just give yourself a pat on the back for making it through the day.

Great talk! I went through the exact same thing. Everyhing you do is interrupted...absolutely true

I'm only 8 weeks pregnant and already feel overwhelmed and anxious about this whole process and wondering if I'll be able to be a good mom when I know I'll be so tired and sleep deprived. So thank you for somehow rationalizing this absolutely crazy time

I'm already 22 weeks pregnant. Right now I am anxious about how to take care of the future little creature. Her experience brings tears to my eyes and also encourages me to embrace my boy and become a good mother. Thank you very much!

As a first time parent, this is so helpful and reassuring. Thank you. And the comment section is so thoughtful and useful too. great video and community section.

I relate to this so much. The first 6 months were the hardest adaptation period I've ever experienced. To become a mother is almost to go through metamorphosis. My son was "high needs" also. He was born looking around, blue eyes wide open, taking in everything. The nurses called him "bright eyes" which is coincidentally something my husband called me in our very early days 🤍 You want an alert baby...my son met all of his milestones early and at 16 months old is the happiest, cuddliest, and smartest baby I've ever known. He plays independently. He can problem solve. He amazes me. And he's still just as alert lol 🤣 he literally doesn't stop moving until he sleeps, his energy gives me energy!

This really made me feel good. She got right into the heart of it all.

Amazing tips. First time mom, mother of triplets here 😉

Woman you make me cry that's exactly how I feel thank you very much at at least somebody understand

Based on recent brain research, I would add an extra T to the GIFT acronym - Talk! Language develop occurs through the social interactions between parent-caregiver and the child. It is through language that children build more brain connections leading to stronger thinking skills, problem solving skills, and social/emotional skills.

Fantastic talk! I have run into a very frustrating rut with my toddler recently, and we need to reboot our schedule so that we are both happier. Thank you for this information.

Moral of the story: no ones ever ready.

This is incredibly helpful at the moment, and perhaps forever. We're currently enduring the newborn phase (3 weeks) and he's ultra fussy. We find ourselves constantly reaching for solutions and reassurance and this video/talk gives me hope and catharsis with a fresh perspective.

I have twins in initial days it was very hard to manage every thing and I feel depressed about everything but after few days I realized that it's all in my head and as you said it's all about ourselves your advice really helped me thanks a lot.

Parenting is the most challenging task. It grows you as well along with your kids. there will always be contradictions between parents and kids. as a parent you may fail and feel like giving up many times. I will recommend reading a book " Mom Dollar Money" by angela Reuss, its the best parenting book i have read so far.

Awesome video! Thanks for sharing. Really needed to hear this.

Such a nice speech. Thanks a lot for sharing your experience and the G.I.F.T.😍🙏

Wonderful, sensible and inspiring little talk. It comes as a timely g.i.f.t. to my wife and myself, less than two weeks into parenthood :)

BTW I am not a western mom and I can relate to every word of this. I was disappointed when the video ended after 12 minutes. I wish it lasted longer!

Amazing thoughts🙏🏻indeed truly said crawl away, walk away n fly away.. fly away is my saddest part.💞

I loved your talk. I didn't want your talk to finish. I want to hear you more.

Useful. So needed to new parents. This needs to be told to all “to be” parents.

Here after a week as a new parent. This was really helpful

Great start of the talk. So real and practical words...

@5:00-10:00 Hearing this portion, I looked to see possibly how old the video was. Such a difference in the perception and state of being women present now from 7-10 years ago.

Sounds like my younger son, no3 child. Even as a 3rd time new parent, so resonate with this.

Needed this! Thank you

This was so beautiful and I’m glad I watched💛

she is right!! i have an 8 year old and 1 year old and i learned with my 2nd baby

I really appreciated this

Amazing talk!!! You described exactly how I feel!🙌🏻

Very well said.

What a child will remember is whether or not you cared. My mother feels guilty about "mistakes" she made with me decades ago. I don't even remember the stuff she is so stressed over and feels so guilty about.

I just had a baby 2 weeks ago and I really needed to hear this. I’m most definitely giving him the G.I.F.T.

I'm 7 months pregnant and freaking out about this. But this helped. I realise it will be hard and different. But I will find a way to get through this.

Thank you

I'm so glad i heard about high needs babies pretty soon after having my girl... i thought i was taking crazy pills...I'd never seen a baby like this! I was so happy to know it was a "thing" so i wouldn't have to wallow in thinking I was doing something wrong. She is fabulous... but a high needs baby will show you what youre NOT going to do!

Thank you ♥️

Thank you so much for this. Baby has been going through a sleep regression and hasn't been moulding to what we think he should he doing. I ended up frustrated, exhausted and sending him by my in laws (I'm also dealing with mild ppd). He's on his way back to me now and I promise to try giving him the GIFT and letting him just be a baby

What u spoke is exactly what happened with me. Same lifestyle that u had, i had. Same like you, no experience with babies. N same pain n screwed up after my first!!! No guidance. Totaly with our self.

This was so helpful ❤️❤️❤️

Thank you, that was very interesting, true...and funny! 😊 (...dying to plug my eyebrows😊)

This was my exact experience as a new mom.

Just wow!

thank u so much

I was really able to connect with everything he was saying!

that's a wonderful speech very soothing voice it inspired me

Beautiful! Great video as I'm going through week one as a father. Thank you for this awesome collection of your thoughts and experiences 🧡

I needed this right now ❤

9 months pregnant and already crying and feeling guilty....did I talk to my baby enough? Does he feel loved, did my stress affect him to much? I keep forgetting to take my vitamin...I am already a terrible mom, I feel guilty for being tired of being pregnant.

Nice video. Many parents are not aware of the importance of touch to early brain development.

Amazing, great ted!

We had the same and we got a sling and started baby carrying, we started co-sleeping and last but not least, lowered our expectations!

Great tips! 👶🏻👏🏼 The one things I hate the most is sleep training. Parents don't realise that babies are born 9 months early which means that once they are here, the beginning is like another stage of pregnancy. Touching them and making them feel safe will prevent an anxiety in the future. We just want to control too much.

I so needed this. I am expecting my first child and I'm nervous how I will be. My hubby works all day until late at night, six days a week... so I worry that I will feel like a single mom. I already feel the pressure of high expectations for myself and know my role probably won't be appreciated like I was as a career woman. I am going to shift my focus to GIFT and let myself go with the flow.

All I can is I love you diana thank you so much for your amazing talk :) I really needed this perfect timing what you said it described my beautiful daughter I'm a new mom with no support no help shes with me as you said 24 hours I feel I give her all of me but back of my head I still feel guilty that it's not enough I feel that way because shes gifted after trying to get pregnant fo so many years weeks before doing ivf I found out I'm pregnant then I felt the world is mine shes my world I'll do more of what you suggested g.i.f.t. God bless you ♡

beautiful 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

The problem is that parents dont invest enough time with their babies, a baby is two full time jobs

Up at 5 am after the 3rd blowout from my baby. Really needed to hear this, thank you ❤

This is so interesting

5:40 SO TRUEEEEE

Truth!

one must think a whole lot before removing their birth control or deciding to forgo it. think long and hard .

This is great, especially go. It is so true. Babies need to Goooo. Although I do think F should be Fresh air. Whenever I bring my unsettled baby out into fresh air outside, they always seem to feel peaceful. Watching the world around them. Or when my kids got hurt and they are crying hysterical. I step out side hot or cold, rainy too. And they just shut it down. Its amazing.

After 9th minute speech becomes meaningful

Hope I listened to this talk two years ago

I talk to my baby a lot from the start,she spoke early and I wasn't as stressed. BUT I try only to say positive things to her,"no" was Okay but not negative comments.

This is building

A new mommy of a beautiful babygirl here 😃

Glad Ialready treated my baby's like this

I am a new dad of a baby that is 5 days old. And yesterday I started counting the number of sucks to measure the efficiency of feeding :)

Check out the book by Dr. Ted Nugent, "Your baby is speaking to you. Ninety (90%) percent of human communication is non-verbal in both directions." It is why I do what I do, teach "Baby Whispering." I have three courses that help those first couple of years. Sign Language, watching their body language un understanding combine with Infant Massage (healthy touch that releases oxytocin in both the baby and the parent) dramatically supports the bonding and connection. I just love her talk!

I am still my 19 month old son's teddy bear when he wants to sleep.

Currently feeding my 6wk old

While 3months pregnant I do for the most part consider myself pretty much prepared for baby pretty soon:-) This preparedness is not based on my lawyer’s career, but on 15years of active preparation/reading and practical experience with kids! It shocks me to see that this lady and all my colleagues think they are prepared for baby BECAUSE they’ve had a successful career for ten years, a husband and a car!!!??? That just goes to show how UNprepared they are, because the more control and effectiveness they have in life the harder the baby years will become. I wonder, would they prepare for a pilot exam by flying airplanes or by getting married?

Anyting . example immunization, planned family, breastfeeding, et cetera

I LOVE youtube!

Our room is 2 king size mattresses in the bedroom and our baby and toddler sleep with us otherwise we would get no sleep.

Separation Anxiety

Turns out it was all about me hohoho

I didn’t care about people’s opinion. I knew my baby and myself and I co-slept. You think back in the day cavewomen left their babies to sleep alone in their own cave?!! No! They co-slept!!!

Parenting is terrifying.. maybe because I study psychology and early childhood education! I'm truly debating if I want children. We're overpopulated and not having children sounds selfish to society. However, having kids also sounds selfish since none of us asked to be here. I'm a teacher, maybe I should stick with my career. I have the opportunity to see children grow and learn without them being mine.

“Gift” en Danish means “poison” or “married”:)

09:10

... "in developed countties?"... Why?

I do not agree with the distinction between developed and undeveloped countries, it is the same no matter the country

For someone who brags about working in education!... I wonder what is the difference with the parents in developing and developed countries?!!.. They are human beings too arent they?!.. She talks about technology and material advantages those dont have anything to do with raising a baby.. Raising a baby is a strictly related to human interaction.. This woman had a perfect material life before having a baby.. Guess what having a child is beyond that and anything we could think so dont make a difference in between ppl in one part of the world thatn the other we are all the same and the work of raising a baby and the feelings we experience are the same for all parents... She should educate herself on being a human being

Would have been really helpful if the video was titled, "What every new mother should know"? That's fine, videos for mums are great and it would save dads time when they are looking for relevant info for themselves.

easy solution: attachment parenting.

waste of time, thought there would be more applicable tips

Well I hope that like any healthy spirited mother you would be proud of her even if she did not have children. If she had told you that she wants to focus on her career, travel, date or live her life to the fullest without kids I do hope you would've been proud also. As a mother. Because as long as you are fertile, making babies is easy. Raising them is another story. Women tend to live in a fairytale world posting about their kids on FB flaubting it just like the Watts did and look what behind closed doors happened. You cannot assume life is perfect by looking at what people post. Of course they only post the good stuff. Women are free now. We are not baby making machines. We can adopt. Take our own decisions and still be strong and hard working. This world is insane. Tons of kids need to be adopted. We don't need to make more babies. It's selfish.