Call it what you want .. I don’t have to talk to anyone I don’t want too

Holding a grudge affects your relationship with others as well.

Forgiveness does not always mean reconciling or letting that person who has wronged us back into our lives at some point either. There is such a thing as forgiveness without trying to re establish a relationship with the person, as it all depends on the person and the situation and how you guys got there in the first place.

I just lost the love of my life because of a grudge.

I don't carry grudges. I know how to let "IT" and "YOU" go.

Im forgiving because mercy is beautiful. People who hold grudges who low self confidence. After meeting people who hold grudges over pity stuff, i have gained better understanding of the hurt they infect others, its very cruel because you expect perfection from others. We are only humans we make mistakes.

Something are just unforgivable

Holding a grudge is like drinking the poison and waiting for the other person to die!

Just Preaching but no solutions. People who hold grudges intellectually know all of that and wish they could let go, but there is no button to turn it off. You can do all the self-talk and meditation in the world, but when you don’t wanna think of a pink elephant, all you can think of is the pink elephant. Wanting something/ needing something is different than being able to make it happen. If there is a pill for that, I’ll take it tomorrow. I honestly yearn for a day when people treat our brains like our spines. We have certain thoughts in your brain because there is a biological/revolutionary reason for this trait to exist, not a moral failure or a character flaw. A day when we stop using the word evil to describe people but instead use the word "sick". Not justifications but understanding without overly glorifying mental illness as artistic expressions or "unique" if it harm society or prevents the person from living their best life. I have to constantly remind myself of human fragility to be able to forgive, reading evolution psychology books or even imagining them naked or babies, but it’s a constant process.

That is the absolute truth. My sister n law keeps holding grudges against me. She is not letting my only brother see me, as a way to hurt me. My brother also thinks similar to her beliefs, and holds grudges against me. The thing is, I never intentionally did anything to them. They expect people to do and say things their way, or they are wrong. I have helped them tremendously. Well I decided to love them from a distance and let them be who they are. I love, and forgive them. We all have made some mistakes. I dont need to keep begging for their forgiveness. I will keep them in prayer.

One thing I've learned is, not to pressure yourself to forgive someone immediately, if you need space from someone for however long THAT IS OKAY!! & probably needed. If you " forgiven" someone ( but not really) and probably not really and still interact with that person, you'll probably cause more damage to yourself or the other person. I wish in a previous friendship, I would have said something like " I need more time, I don't know when I will get back to you, I don't know if or how, but right now I need space and I will process this anger and hurt towards you that I have right now, with God and with myself and even if we do reconnect, boundaries will have to be put in place from now on. But for now, I release you to God".

It is hard forgiveness because my family and the school culture affect my childhood.

The person who keeps the grudge harming themselves it’s like a like slow poison

No matter how hard I try, I couldn't let it go right away. It takes a long time for me to do it. My mind tells me that I want payback for what the person did to me.

I had kept so many grudges against everyone after what they did to me

No matter how hard I try. My emotions don’t let me let go and I hate that shit about myself

I hold many grudges against every enemy I have, and I’m still fine. Besides, it’s their fault I’m filled with so much anger and resentment against them.

What I don't understand is why some people hold grudges over petty BS. If anything, holding grudges and plotting revenge are signs of immaturity. It's like one kid saying to another, "You broke my toy, so I'm now going to break yours!"

Some people are just so awful and toxic that they don't deserve our forgiveness

I hold massive grudges lol seems fine to me

I have question, i am starting to think that holding a grudge and Narcissism are closely knit because holding a grudge gives us a sense of control and power over an issue. So we exercise the silent treatment to retain control.

Thank you 🙏 This is it

Analogy: know how with some video games, you can enter codes that, for instance, give your character infinite energy, infinite ammo in their weapons, etc.? Pretty much makes it impossible not to beat it? Well, imagine doing the opposite. Imagine entering codes that make the game impossible, or almost impossible to win, then playing it. Who would do that? Play a game one knows they cannot win?

In order to forgive someone, they have to say sorry and acknowledge they did something wrong…

It is so difficult to let go when the toxic person who has been hurting (mentally) you for 10+ years lives in the same small house with you and you cannot leave. I hate my mom.

It does not mean that you need to continue to see them or interact with them. If they are going to CONTINUE TO MAKE PROMISES AND FN LIE...THEN I DON'T NEED THEM! SHIT.

I dont like to be around people who hold grudges for petty things. I understand abuse sexual or emotional. Sometimes there are misunderstandings or people lie. I do forgive and yes I have been terribly hurt by family. I have forgiven and it is very hard to forget. I love my family and that wins for me.

I wanted to give thanks for all the inconsiderate and short sighted videos and viewpoints surrounding this topic, i really do. Cause you see...What this philosophy of “letting go” probably says about you, is that you are a gutless and fairly hypocrite person. In a heavily industrialized world, where you need to keep close connections, and keep a close watch on the impression you are making, it is no surprise that represing and denying perfectly sane and natural emotions will be expected of you. The truth is that emotions that cause conflict, like sadness or rage, are not considerate productive, and that’s the real reason they are overlooked, since they focus on your past. And yes, it will cost you a certain amount of suffering along the way, but you know what? I wouldn’t have it any other way. That’s why i give thanks. Because all these videos have done, is help me own my grudges. Even wear them proudly. Because i’ll rather learn from the emotions of my past, as painful as it may be, before rolling over and keep on going blindly, as if nothing happened. As if I was devoid of memory. You can’t stand the suffering? Good for you. Just don’t come near me with you high road, cause for me, denying “negative” emotions doesn’t really make you more healthy or sane as a person. It just turns you into an empty smile. And it also makes you a pussy.

“They’ve been hurt & they wanna hurt to other person, but is that who you really wanna be?” Yes. “Is that who you want to be in reaction?” Yes.

Another lecture that should be titled. Dear victim, you are guilty and wrong for not wanting to let the person that hurt you get away with that.

Partner? Fuck that. I don't have a damn Partner! What if someone - a someone that you thought was a friend- upset you.

I get that holding grudges is unhealthy and conceivably "wrong," but it definitely isn't unnatural. I don't think we should reduce people's character because of grudge holding, or make it _their_ problem. The circumstances could make it fair enough. Take me for example. I know a woman (let's call her Helen) who was very thoughtless toward my feelings. I work dining services at a university, and she temporarily came to work in 2022 summer. We did not get off to a good start, and it's my fault. I _stupidly_ started a sensitive topic (I don't want to say it). She proposed a transition in topic, and she was right. I don't remember our moments so well since then (I don't think we really interacted too much anyway), but I remember this one particular bad day. I was chatting with a girl while waiting for her desserts for a service to be ready, and Helen came in and said, "Harassing the baker, John?" I said, "And why do you assume that?" and she said, "Because you're John." That hurt me enough to sit far away from her and another coworker during a lunch break. She said, "Wow, John, you must really not like us, and I gave a facial expression that basically said, "Yeah, well..." The other coworker was like, "Oh, John," and I passive-aggressively said, "You're fine [name]." I think Helen got the message. But what's funny is she never seemed to have connected the clues _why_ I was upset with her. I mean, I heard from a coworker that Helen knew I was upset with her (they spoke). So, she knew something was wrong, but not what, and also hesitated to come to me about it. And that's the third line she crossed. First, was accusing me of harassing the girl. Second, was willingly answering my question with a "John-bashing" answer when I *clearly* showed *offense* in said question. Three, not seeing what was wrong and that her answer was insensitive. Sometimes, if a person does something wrong, it's extra wrong to require an explanation to get it; they should be able to get it on their own. Helen should've just realized how she undermined me. I feel very bad if I hurt her feelings and for the bad first impression. That's my fault. But she didn't have to insult my personality. And we'll probably never solve it, unless we talk about it. And anyway, I'm disgusted she never understood. You gotta be a real jerk to undermine someone and not get it.

Very Good!

Not holding any grudges but tired of being pushed over, taken forgranted, been walked allover, been backstabbed, treated like crap, been stolen from, been cheated, people holding no accountiblity for what they've done.

Depends on what the grudge is even for.

1:19 I don’t care? Life sucks but if you take it out on me you will get back that same hurt, deal with your issues in a healthy way don’t take it out on someone who doesn’t deserve it

I want to stop holding grudges. but it is so Hard to Stop and Forgive. my had not only done me wrong. but I used to think that I could make my own Family feel Bad for me. and their still a problem to me now. I Literally pray to Stop.

I forgive because I am surrendering everything to God for his will to be done. I cut off unhealthy relationships and move on.

I hold grudges

What if someone was a family member that upset you

And this why am turning mean on purpose

So their holding on to anger...

125 thumps up is all.this has got in 1- 2 yrs since it aired. How very sad

wrong holding grudges is the best feeling ever it will always remind you that that person did you wrong so don't talk to them at all it's the same thing with liar ... onec a liar always a liar .

she looks like Amy Adams

Oh well 😂🤗

Dose everyone hold a grudge

Kat's very first sentence was an incorrect assumption...and then every thing was based on that

Partner? Shit. What about someone that is like a friend? Or a coach? Or someone you don't live with? How about that? Shit.

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Sad when one holds a grudge for years when 5 minutes of talking would have solved it

LIfe is far too short to hold grudges and the person you are angry are getting on with their life and dont care qbout your bad mood

God forgives. I dont.

I ant holing no gruges i tired of being call rasal i am the light tier of bing called a lier

It doesn’t do any good holding onto a bag of poo plus God don’t want this for us . We are to forgive all others as we want forgiveness.

Nah fuck that

Ill let any grudge go once i get even 😁

No i knoq how iam u know how you are

No forgiveness is for weak ppl

Holding a grudge is pretty weak. If you don't like what they did to you, tell them. Walking out of someone's life and expecting them to hurt from your absence is a shitty thing to do. Edit: Especially if it's someone that cares about you