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I work in HR/recruiting and you should absolutely take route #2. I’ve had candidates decline their offers after accepting many times. It isn’t a big deal to us, comes with the territory when you’re hiring and we usually have other candidates to fall back on. You HAVE to do what’s right for you. DO NOT factor an employer’s feelings into any of your major life decisions.

After 47 years of working, there is one truth that took me too long to understand. My old me would have stuck with the first company because I gave them my word. The new me who has many years of employment has learned over the years is that companies do not care about their employees. Take the best opportunity for you.

… companies don’t care about you. If the company came across an opportunity to higher some one better than you for less money they would not hesitate to fire you. Take the job that you really want. Opportunities don’t always come back around

Option #3 is that you realize there is no dream job. Just the one that pays your bills and lets you live your life.

There is no "burning bridges" it's just business. Employers are not your friends, it is purely a transaction and you are just a number to them so don't be afraid to do what's right for YOU.

Bear in mind that the "dream job" might just disappoint. When my son was applying to college, we were told, dance with the one that takes you. In other words, don't turn down acceptance for a wait list. If the job you took is reasonably good, stick with it.

Why do i have to be extremely nice and polite to any company when they literally GHOST YOU instead of sending a simple rejection notice?? 😂 They dont deserve it lol

Something like that happened to me: I applied for a teacher's position at 2 schools and had just accepted at school 1 when the school I really liked (judging from their pedagogic concept and the job interview) called me back to hire me. I opted for option 1 and declined school 2 while my friend started there. I was really torn about this. Turns out, it was the best decision I ever made because school 2 only looked good on paper and my friend left in frustration after a year while school 1 - despite all of its problems - had a great team of teachers that made me feel welcome and supported.

Don't tell dream job about the other job. And make sure you get the dream offer in writing and completed before leaving the other job. And don't tell other job about offer until it's in place.

Option #2. If you burn bridges because of this circumstance then the first company wasn't a company I would want to work for anyways. Win win.

A dream job only goes as far as the workplace culture. You can be doing the most fun, rewarding work but if your coworkers and managers make your life hell, it doesn't matter what you're doing.

How to prevent this: if you haven't heard from dream company in a while you can follow up saying "I'm very interested in working with you but I've just received another offer so i wanted to check in and see if i was still being considered for this role". You can do this even if there is no other offer yet! But if you do recieve another offer from a company lower in your list, you can use the same script!

I’m in this EXACT position right now and I’ve been really stressed about the whole situation. Idk how the algorithm knew, but thank you for the insightful video!

This is what happened with my husband two years ago. The first was a small company and they offered a pretty great salary. The second increased the salary and is a bigger yet not too big of a company. He had to tell #1 that he had an offer he couldn’t turn down and ultimately burned that bridge. But in the end, we are glad he chose that. He’s had two raises in two years, at least 3 bonuses and is about to get a huge promotion. Go with your gut!!! Even if it’s hard and uncomfortable!

When I just got out of college after 3 days at my first job ever I got an offer at a significantly better and bigger company with significantly better pay and benefits. I called up my boss and said I'm sorry but I must take this opportunity I know this is not ideal. I didn't even give any notice since it had only been three days. It was well worth it I was at that job for 8 years.

Take option #2. Life is too short to worry about that kind of shit

Definitely had this situation! I went to work for another industry but still in marketing. When my dream job finally got back to me 2 weeks after I accepted, I had to let the company know that my dream job gave me an offer I couldn’t refuse. I was very clear during the dream job interview process also that I just accepted a job but this is the company I’ve always wanted to join.

I’ve done this. I got a better offer from another company after I had accepted a good offer from a good company. I wouldn’t call either a dream job but both were good offers and good jobs with opportunities to grow, good pay and benefits. I took the second offer because I felt a better vibe from that second company, like my personality would fit better. It was an easy process to apply and interview. The first company hadn’t even advertised that job. I got that job through a lot of networking and effort, which I had never done before or ever after. During the interview, the guy said that he might not ever be able to pronounce my name. So, I just emailed them back and profusely apologized and rescinded my acceptance of their offer. They thanked me for letting them know. It’s definitely an awkward situation.

take the dream job, its worth it you might regret not

A company who knew you for one month will forget you in twenty years, but you’ll never forget your dream.

I’ll go with the 2nd option because I do not care about companies 🤷🏼‍♀️

I feel it’s also important to realize that if the other company got or gets a better option they will likely let you go. So it’s fair to approach the problem in the same way you feel they would. Remember we are all technically small businesspeople selling our labor. Do what’s right for you, like any other company will.

I got so scared when she turned to me and said “what do I do Erin?”, MY NAME IS ERIN

Burning bridges sounds like there are limited amount of companies you can work for which is not the case for most workforce. You not burning anything, they will forget you ever existed the moment you told them you won't be part of their team

REMEMBER: you are your own career coach/ advocate! Take the job that pays more/ dream job… but do not make a habit of it. At the end of the day the company is looking out themselves and you must do the same. I’ve seen job seekers accept jobs and later have offers retracted because they found someone “more qualified” it’s rare but I imagine getting a dream job is also rare

"You do what you have to, so you can do what you want to." -Denzel Washington

There's only 2 options. You go for your dream job or you don't.

Definitely do the second one. If you do the first one, YOU might not burn any bridges, but when you ask them about the job in a few weeks theyll pretend they dont know you. Companies are ruthless, take everything you can

Never apologize. They wouldn't if they fired you

Option three is accept job number two with the starting date a month or two in the future. Work for job 1 for a month and “resign” due to personal hardship.

Always take your dream job. Your job does not care about you as much as you care about them. There are some people now who are just going from better offer to better offer. Really ramped up since COVID professionally neo's. Never making it out of the 90 day probationary period. Whatever makes you happy and pays your bills!

Honestly if its taken a company too long to get back to you that's a red flag in my book, it's a sign that they are slow in their decision making process which in certain roles will be detrimental to doing your job.

Take option 2. I've hired a lot of people over the years and this happens all the time. It's annoying but that's business. Your first priority is to do what's right for you and your family. Don't lose sight of that.

Friend of mine Had that happen once boss was really chill about it. It wasn't some big mega corp more so just a chain of about 10-15 stores. He was one of the few that valued someone working at a place that people would be happy working at. They actually became decent friends

I use to be afraid to burn bridges. Take the dream job. Your employer won't hesitate to lay you off if the need arises.

Option 2 is always the correct choice.

Option 3: ghost them the same way employers ghost applicants :)

That’s crazy, I feel like something like this could happen to me in the future and I was contemplating what I would do! Thank you for making this video!

This is called a happy problem

You work to support YOU. Your loyalty should always and only be to YOU. If you've come across your "dream" job, take it. Working in a place you thoroughly enjoy will reduce your stress tremendously. You may not necessarily burn a bridge with the first company if you maintain professionalism. Let them know that you would be happy to maintain an open line of communication. If that first job really wants you onboard, they may attempt to renegotiate the terms of your contract to conform to your standards.

This happened to me 8 years ago . I turned down higher pay to take the title I wanted . Now I’m much better off with the experience I’ve gained

This happened to me. I called the first and told them I got my dream job and had to reneg on my acceptance. My honesty was honored and they were sad to see me go, but happy I found a dream job! It was one of the scariest conversations I’ve had, but I DID IT, and my dream job has served me so well since!

That moment when both companies backpedal and say actually we went with some other candidates and you're forced to work at a job you hate because you're hungry.

Fascinating. In my line of work there's a general acceptance of "if a better offer comes along" shuffle for like 3 months during the recruitment period where people can change their minds or rake another offer - no hard feelings. It's only when it's like December (so a month before we start) that if you bail out you burn bridges.

Never pass up your dream job. Normal HR people understand that this happens and always have backup.

“Dream company” I never thought two words could be so depressing.

Same goes for internships. I am definitely currently burning a bridge down. The feeling isn't great but I know I don't want to get back there either since the place was bad and definitely put way too much responsibility on me. Way too soon as well. 8 months passing, without a better company in sight, I finally got a great new offer right out of the blue and am leaving them behind. I tried multiple things at this point. Compromise between the final work dates. push back the final 4 weeks and stuff. Instead I got a terrible, boundary crossing, rude talk where my boss sat his girlfriend beside me and him infront. This alone was a big old red flag for such a talk but the things he said oh boy no. They were the final drops if water that made the entire bucket spill. Funnily, at first they tried to tear down coworkers and build me up (while also guilt tripping me) to keep me with them. Saying they can only ever start work when I am there. I am so important and much better than so and so and most importantly without me the store would go down in shambles. Though it ended with an "please reconsider and no I won't definitely let you go on good terms between the both of us." towards me and from me towards them "Well, I'll ask the same from you." After another no, I worked out a good date to start with my new company and put my resignation letter infront of my boss after he didn't want to talk to me. He proceeded to tell me I couldn't do that and we would need to have a talk once I am back from my days off. That talk didn't came yet and I will leave on my last day as if it was nothing, leave my keys behind and won't come back. I am tired of reminding him of all his stuff. I am done I don't need another talk. That is his responsibility and frankly it wouldn't change a thing anymore. This day comes in 4 days and though I am scared as heck, I am equally thrilled to leave my old boss' shit behind. At the new place I will actually lern something about the field I am wishing to study and I might be able to get some money out of it. The new boss will be awesome and nice and appreciative of whatever I'll help her with.

This literally happened with me. Got an offer for company 1, signed, and was starting in two weeks. Then company 2, a much bigger, nicer company, offered me a position. Yeah.. don’t ever feel guilty about accepting something and then turning them down for something better. Companies do that to employees all the time, and everyone deserves to live well.

Option 1 you burn the bridge with your dream job. They won’t wait around on you, they will move on.

It’s possible to not burn a bridge with the first company. This exact situation happened to me a few years ago. I went to my supervisor and explained the situation. She told me that she understood and that if she were in my shoes it would have been a tough decision but she would have done the same thing. She told me that if that job fell through to be sure to come back to them, they would love to have me back.

“What do I do Erin?” Me who’s name is Erin: well I don’t know 🤷🏽‍♀️

Just had this exact scenario 2 months ago. 1 job had offered. I signed that morning at 11 am. By 2 oclock the same day,I had an interview booked with my absolute dream job and company for the next morning. I went in, smashed the interview and was offered the position the following afternoon, which was a friday. On Monday, I called the first company and let them know, thanked them for the opportunity and haven't looked back.

This happened to me 3 months ago funny enough. I wouldn’t say it was my dream job but it was the job I was most interested as it has presented the most potential growth opportunity. So I gave my apologies to the first company, and I thanked them but ultimately went with the second offer. I’m extremely thankful to God for this opportunity.

Thank you for the never heard advice. This is really something new 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Actually had this situation with my recent job change: I walked away from the first offer to accept a job in analysing and working with professional video gamers, now another perk was: the second job offered me about 3x as much as the first company did hourly, so I didn’t exactly burn any bridges with the first company as they were understanding that sometimes when you’re a gamer, and you get offered to work with the video game industry, you can’t say no, and they couldn’t offer me the same hourly pay so

Option 3, ask if your start date can be deferred a bit at dream company so you can give 2 weeks notice?

In my experience if it’s in the same industry all of your managers have switched between multiple companies and understand the pros and cons of every one. Just be honest as soon as you can, let them know that it was your dream job and unexpected like she said , and hecking do it! You will burn no bridges and get work experience that will make you valuable to the same company that you passed up should you decide to move on. It’s literally not a big deal lol.

Wow, great advice, such foresight, I could never have thought of those 2 things

We had this happen to us and we were not the dream company. She chose the leave a sticky note on the bosses desk after everyone leaves on Friday saying you quit that no one will see until Monday morning because you got a better job offer. It was great because we showed up on Monday and had no front desk at a medical office…

Had this situation. Company one rescinded my offer before I could rescind my acceptance. Turns out they were going through an org change. Went to dream job instead. All worked out

If someone apologized and informed me about their dream job, instead of just not showing up one day, I would hire them back. Integrity goes a long way.

This was honestly always my fear when going on back to back interviews

My mom did option 2 and fir a week or so went back and forth because both companies desperately wanted her to pick them and kept adding anything they could. In that week she got 2 promotions and went from 70k+ to 140k+ Be a good worker, put in your 2 weeks when finding a new job. If you were great, they may want to keep you. If you have a reputation of being great, the other company may desperately want you.

#2 all day long. I'm a manager and I understand that we're all in business for ourselves. I'd make at point of letting the candidate know that the door is open if #1 doesn't work out. It's a small world....

Quit bruh

This just happened to my younger sister! Thank-you for the help!

Thank you, Erin!

Hahaha just pick one! Over thinking the shit out of it....

Option 3: see which company has better pay and paid leave or bonuses and choose that one Also maybe which company will look better on your resume and last: where you think you’ll feel the best working there

Love the wisdom of “don’t burn bridges”

Honestly, speaking as an employer... I never remember people who back out of an offer, even on the day they are showing up. Now those who ghost a job after they start, those I remember. So no bridge burned and if it was the other way around the company would and totally has backed out of an offer to get the best candidate.

I prefer happiness than the approval of one company

Thank you so much for your video and your wonderful explanation! This will help me in the future for my interviewing time. Also, this is a fantastic video to showcase what to do in a tricky case of ethics.

This legit happened to me and I went with option 1 because I had already started working, and I thought putting a two weeks notice for a job I started 3 days ago would look terrible. Worst part is that I ended up hating the job I worked at so... Really sucks.

Is it just me or is this no so much a helpful tip and more so just being polite

I’ve chosen option #2 before and I made sure to emphasize that it was entirely dependent on the fact that I was not able to pass up on the offer, and they were understanding!

I love it when this happens. It has happened a few times to me. Yes, I may have burned a bridge at the "short term" job...whatever, if it's your dream job and PAYS then you go for it! But yeah, try NOT to burn bridges.

I’ve also had friends who signed initial paperwork with a job that then rescinded the offer. You’re right it’s a hard call!

Exactly the video I needed now😅

I've burned so many bridges that I learned to just swim.

"Innocent until proven guilty" will be that much more important for us to sear into our brains.

This was me. It was so awkward. Luckily, I'm old enough to be selfishly wise so I knew the right decision even though it felt bad doing it. It's always option 2 unless the second offer isn't your dream company. Make sure it's better...now that I think about it, this has happened to me twice...

Having been in this position, absolutely choose option #2. Company #1 will get over it.

My mom is a supervisor and works with hiring people, she says this happens all the time and as long as you at last say something, it doesn't matter. It happens all the time in the business worlds and the likelihood of burning that bridge is low.

At least the con for option #2 isn't always guaranteed either

Having this kind of problems is a luxury =)

Option 2 all the time - always put yourself first

I think most people would be understanding if oyu have that dream job and want to go with it. Thing is just being honest and kind abourt it all too

I'm always late at these shorts ffs. I had to make this choice last week😂😂

Always go after your dreams! Option 2 all the way ❤

I know someone who this happened to. They went with the "dream job" and gave their 1st company notice..... Only for the dream job to back out and try to change the terms. (Eg less money and start in 6 months). So they stayed at the first place. Luckily the 1st place thought they were just trying to get a raise so gave them a bit more money but it made things really awkward and they would have been fired if they weren't the best one on the team.

I went with option 2, one of the best choices I’ve ever made. Felt awful making that apologetic phone call to rescind my initial acceptance of their offer, but it had to be done.

Recently, I did option #2 and it was one of the greatest decisions I made 🙂.

As long as I believe the other options was indeed too good to pass up and you are honest about it, I understand. Might not like it, but understand it :)

I have been watching her videos since a while now and I can't believe that not even a single comment is acknowledging her beauty!!!! Erin, you are literally gorgeous, you go gurlll 😻

It’s your life, you gotta do what is best for you! Dream job makes you happier and you can still pay the bills? GO FOR IT!!

This exact scenario happened to me and I immediately did option 2

Play them off against each other in a battle of one-upmanship

That literally happened to me. This came after a massive lay off. I was looking for work and finally got offered a position after 6 months. However I still had interviews set up so I went to them. I received another offer for my dream position and dream pay. I couldn't turn it down. I basically emailed them what she stated in option 2. Three years later I have no regrets and the position is better could be expected. So happy 😊