What Submission in Marriage is NOT! What if the Husbands are not loving?

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Submission in marriage is one of the most controversial topics ever and I invited Sara Nsubuga to share with us what treu submission is from a biblical perspective and why women struggle with the concept.
0:00 - Intro
1:35 - The hardest thing about being a woman
2:39 - What is submission
4:35 - Is submission honor?
5:30 - Why do women struggle and hate submission
11:32 - Are older women teaching the young wives?
12:30 - Relationship between submission and God
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@user-nn1hr6lc3r 9 ай бұрын

When I say God is building his army and the gates of hell shall not prevail this is one of the biggest ways he does it!! Ladies and Gentlemen watch and learn!! Thank you Sarah and Lisa so proud of you!!!

@LisaKusiima 9 ай бұрын

Thank you so much

@berylbii2600 9 ай бұрын

With love from Kenya, I am learning and implementing alot from your channel Lisa, you are a blessing for this generation!

@LisaKusiima 9 ай бұрын

You are so welcome! 🤗 Thank you

@nyaradzomavodza5004 9 ай бұрын

Thank you for this episode, as a stay at home mom , I sometimes feel like i have lost my purpose, a career lost but this episode brought some warmth to my heart that it is well. Please share how we can join the Bible study fellowship

@kihumuronash951 9 ай бұрын

The guest is so right. The grace is for the man to rule over the woman. It's hard truth but that's the word of God

@LisaKusiima 9 ай бұрын

It’s the word of God!🔥

@ainembabazipeaceous1364 9 ай бұрын

I love this, thank you Lisa

@pamelaatukunda2122 9 ай бұрын

Pick up points from today. 1. Submission and control are not the same and should be distinguished. 2. Submission is not a natural thing and we all struggle so ask God for help. 3. Be careful when choosing your partner!!!!!!!!

@LisaKusiima 9 ай бұрын

Yaaass👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 great take homes

@user-lr6bo4tr2d 4 ай бұрын

Sara is full of wisdom ❤

@oursankolediocese6182 8 ай бұрын

Thank you Lisa and Sarah for this topic, I am really struggling with distinguishing between submission and controlling. I feel Iam being controlled in the name of submission. He always brings it to my face that I have Ego, am not submissive. I have left almost all my friends, I dont have a social life, in the name of submission. I feel I am no longer my self. How can I be helped?

@LisaKusiima 8 ай бұрын

Please see a counselor 🙏🏽 they can help. Call Mona on 0759 699 108

@Misterious_Bresh 6 ай бұрын

Wow! Thank you Lisa for such great topics you share with us! In just a short time have gotten to watch your videos here. Trust me, my perspective on marriage has changed. I broke up with my boyfriend after 7 years of courtship and since then I promised myself never to date again. I am still single now for 2 years but I had vowed never again. I think need to join Bible study fellowship! I came across your channel recently, but trust me my attitude towards marriage has changed for better. Thank you Lisa may God bless you!

@LisaKusiima 6 ай бұрын

Awww this is so amazing to hear! God is good. BSF is a game changer

@rachellorna5109 8 ай бұрын

"Do it in obedience to God." What gems! Sarah oozes godly wisdom! The conversation ended so soon! Thank you Lisa for this 👏! I love your effortless sense of humor too 😁😁

@LisaKusiima 8 ай бұрын

Aww thank you for watching

@carolbagonza4295 9 ай бұрын

Thank you so much Lisa, I needed this urgently thank you

@LisaKusiima 9 ай бұрын

🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳

@glambusiness 9 ай бұрын

This is one of the best videos if not the actual best on your channel.❤

@LisaKusiima 9 ай бұрын

Oh wooow thank you so much

@nakamatte.brenda.blessed 9 ай бұрын

Not yet there but in the phase of learning thanks ladies for sharing 👏👏

@gladysnkuusayiga9093 8 ай бұрын

So blessed, thank you Lisa and Sarah

@nakittohellen3934 9 ай бұрын

Thanks lisa

@DailybreadwithJoan 7 ай бұрын

My husband has the grace to lead! He has authority to rule over me! Kuguma is not submission😂 Submission is for my own good! Submission to God teaches me submission to my husband!

@margaretmbabazi1221 9 күн бұрын

🎉

@Pauline_Dorys 9 ай бұрын

I have watched this like 6 times very very nice! Thank u Sarah, this is so gentle and true, you really put it well! Thank u Lisa!

@LisaKusiima 9 ай бұрын

Wow thank you so much

@Doreen.k.segawa 9 ай бұрын

Thank you Lisa! I'm learning

@LisaKusiima 9 ай бұрын

Wonderful!

@kyakaningajoan1844 9 ай бұрын

You are here to inspire indeed...Thank you Lisa

@LisaKusiima 9 ай бұрын

Awww

@oliviamugaba4150 9 ай бұрын

Thank you, my little sister Sarah. You and Lisa have expounded on submission in such a relatable way. Thank you!!!

@LisaKusiima 9 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching

@emmakakai95 8 ай бұрын

Wow this is one of me best episodes Lisa. Truth is when we freely submit, a great burden is lifted off us. I can testify to that.

@LisaKusiima 8 ай бұрын

Amazing thanks for watching

@MarieCassidy-zd8sc 23 күн бұрын

Yes, submission must be voluntary. A woman should submit voluntarily and not coercively. If a man loves and honours his wife then submission comes naturally

@who_me4321 9 ай бұрын

This is one wholesome lady. Thank you, Sarah. You are very, very wise n godly❤❤❤

@lmil9604 9 ай бұрын

Thank you Sarah. you said the truth. Read the word and pray. many people down play this. but as you read so many things open up for you individually. It is amazing

@LisaKusiima 9 ай бұрын

Well said!

@cordeliaakahirwa6249 9 ай бұрын

Love you Sarah..: thank you Lisa for Bringing her to the Channels ❤❤. Now let’s watch and learn😊❤

@LisaKusiima 9 ай бұрын

Yaaay

@bulyaoliveritah5792 9 ай бұрын

Yeeey thanks for bringing Mrs Sarah Nsubuga . Thank you lisa😊

@LisaKusiima 9 ай бұрын

Our pleasure!

@kemigisavictoria7285 9 ай бұрын

Glowing Ladies.Thank you for this knowledge

@LisaKusiima 9 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching!

@bridgetnabagereka7426 8 ай бұрын

This video needs to be pinned. I almost like didn't listen in thinking it's the same old explanations to submission, this explanation was given with much love, wisdom and grace. I submit

@LisaKusiima 8 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching

@kyomuhendomartha1762 9 ай бұрын

Thank you Lisa, now let me watch

@LisaKusiima 9 ай бұрын

🥳

@nyakatoviolet860 9 ай бұрын

The ladies skins are glowing 😘😘, thanks Lisa and Sarah ❤️❤️ this is profound 😊.

@LisaKusiima 9 ай бұрын

Hahah thank you

@doriskampiire5852 8 ай бұрын

Thank Lisa for bringing Sarah onboard ,she was my teaching leader in bsf,she is very good and i have really learnt alot on the topic of submission especially as a single lady,that i have to choose someone whom i wil be ready to submit to.

@LisaKusiima 8 ай бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

@nambaziiraroyce2200 9 ай бұрын

Thank you❤. I have learnt alot

@LisaKusiima 9 ай бұрын

I am so glad

@geraldinemukesha7068 9 ай бұрын

Such a rich conversation. Thank you so much for sharing all this wisdom. It is very edifying.

@LisaKusiima 9 ай бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it!

@assibiayaama6818 8 ай бұрын

God bless you so much my marriage is at the point of distraction thanks to God I watch u today now I know I was the cos of my own problem 😢😢 how I wish I can say sorry to my housban fro all that we pass throug I am so sad now

@LisaKusiima 8 ай бұрын

Ohhh yes you can say sorry! Yes you can start afresh ! 🩷

@nabukwasijoanitah1950 4 ай бұрын

Oooh God i really needed this 😢😢... Thank you alot Sarah and Lisa

@LisaKusiima 4 ай бұрын

You are welcome

@maggieshaka 9 ай бұрын

I take submission from the point of God leading you through another man, I think because I love God so much and I trust him more than I trust myself

@LisaKusiima 9 ай бұрын

Thank you Maggie for sharing

@lydiasemambo9743 8 ай бұрын

Wow. This is a good topic. I completely relate. I am a firstborn and my husband is the last born and only boy.

@LisaKusiima 8 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing!!

@midevaquinter117 8 ай бұрын

Wooow what a beautiful wisdom- filled conversation. I have been truly blessed. Thank you Lisa for bringing Sarah🙂

@LisaKusiima 8 ай бұрын

Thank you bambi. Be blessed

@phionahuweera8931 9 ай бұрын

Thank you ladies. We have to understand the Grace on men banange it is so powerful.❤❤

@LisaKusiima 9 ай бұрын

Absolutely!!

@ritankatha1059 8 ай бұрын

Loving this conversation from Kenya. Great learning as well

@LisaKusiima 8 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching

@maggieKazibwe Ай бұрын

I like her! So much wisdom! Thank you Ladies 🙏🏼

@LisaKusiima Ай бұрын

Thank you

@mvera_grace 4 ай бұрын

Wisdom in its entirety ❤. I love the direction this conversation took. Lisa, your ministry is impacting nations🎉. Love from Kenya❤

@LisaKusiima 4 ай бұрын

Love my Kenyan community. Thank you

@namataflavia5988 9 ай бұрын

Lisa i wish i had this before. I separated with the father of my child because he was a non believer and I am was born again.He used to stop me from going for over nights and i used not to hear or submit. I struggled with submission may be because I grew up with a single mum. We are now separated but i have learnt the hard way.

@LisaKusiima 9 ай бұрын

Ohh strength to you. Now we know better

@ruththatcher577 9 ай бұрын

Lisa share your skin care routine. You are glowing. Love from Kenya

@LisaKusiima 9 ай бұрын

Hi Ruth🩷 I have a skin care highlight on my Instagram page. Please check it out

@priscatukahirwa2930 8 ай бұрын

Hmm. I thought am the only one whose husband doesn’t listen to me but will listen to another man with the same advise. Thanks for the advise ladies😂

@LisaKusiima 8 ай бұрын

Men will be men

@kandisphere8828 8 ай бұрын

Does a man ruling over a woman mean if he says you handover your entire salary and properties to him to manage, you go ahead and do it, so that he can manage them as the head of the family? I was looking to hear practical examples, because being led or leadership can mean different things. If my husband asks me to take a loan, do I just do it, because he is my leader? I wish you could give real life examples of submission when dealing with property and wealth management.

@LisaKusiima 8 ай бұрын

Hi there! Thanks for asking. Like we mentioned in the video, we are not able to talk about all possible scenarios of what submission looks like. But I think we mentioned the key principles to guide and also emphasized the need for prayer, to seek help from trusted elders , friends or seek counseling. May God guide you 🩷🙏🏽

@rogath_silayo 8 ай бұрын

Most of the things you have written are things you should discuss how to handle them. That is the importance of communication. If submission is not leading you to God that is not submission, its just obedience. You can submit without obeying some things especially which are leading you to sin. Submission means you submit your mission and goals to your husband's mission and goals which are substantial to the family growth. Things like income, property etc are things to discuss, but suppose your husband tells you go and steal or don't go to church will you accept??? If you accept it's you have obeyed not submitted.

@MarieCassidy-zd8sc 23 күн бұрын

Does it imply sexual submission

@mwebazechristy5063 8 ай бұрын

Keep your mind from thinking a certain way of your husband......think on what is true, noble, praise worthy about Him ...its only a matter of time before you act out what you think of him...or speak it (through intonation)....you can kneel today but what you think of him will eventually come out...#genuine submission....they can tell😅😂😂😂🎉

@LisaKusiima 8 ай бұрын

So true

@musiimentarosemary2851 8 ай бұрын

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

@mwebazechristy5063 8 ай бұрын

Lisa....in Genesis ....We (Male and Female) were given dominion over the earth.....dadadaaaa.....NOW with the Fall.....Man was given to rule over Woman too.....Anti we talked to the snake😂....nwe.....we are naturally made to rule with Man....Naye kati that is part of our punishment.....so submission is actually not natural for women...but God helps us on every phase of submission required

@MarieCassidy-zd8sc 23 күн бұрын

I know that happened after the fall in the garden of Eden but was that not redressed after the crucifixion. However I believe if you are with someone you love but most importantly trust submission becomes easy. It becomes natural then.

@justinekissiti6489 9 ай бұрын

Knowing that with submission am still houring God . Was key. How do I join bible study

@LisaKusiima 9 ай бұрын

Check out bsf online - Bible study fellowship

@justinekissiti6489 9 ай бұрын

Alright. Thank you

@doriskampiire5852 8 ай бұрын

BSF is really good, personally am doing it online coz I cant access a physical class,but you really learn alot,thank you Lisa for a call for people to join BSF,its worth it honestly.

@karibunisafari9827 9 ай бұрын

💓💗💕💞💯✔️

@TheSonOfGodWorshipsTheFather 5 ай бұрын

1 Corinthians 11:3

@natukwasalollyn2215 9 ай бұрын

Thank you Lisa and Sarah . Being a stay home mom how have you been able to handle depression as a stay home mom and what are those challenges we should look out for

@LisaKusiima 9 ай бұрын

Let me call her to respond

@joantumuhairwe3505 9 ай бұрын

🙋🏽‍♀️Joining the waiting gang.

@sarahnsubuga9724 9 ай бұрын

For me, time in fellowship and studying God’s Word has helped me fight off depression. It refocuses me on the Lord and who He is in light of my circumstances. I have gone through depression a few times - especially postpartum depression. Please speak with a professional counselor for support if you are battling depression. But also, as a stay home mum you should try to find something that you can do that is apart from home which allows you to interact with other people (if that’s your thing) or which allows you some time to reflect and be introspective. In other words find something that you enjoy doing outside the home and schedule it. Also if you can afford it, get help at home so that as you look after the children you have someone to help you with chores. That frees you a bit and allows you pockets of time to breathe. The challenges to look out for - feeling overwhelmed and not wanting to admit it. We all need help now and then. Ask for it. Another challenge could be focusing so much on the children and forgetting that you are also a wife. Your husband needs you too. So having help at home allows you time to rest and have some energy left for him. Sometimes choosing to stay home could affect your family income. Make sure that you are ready for this and that your husband is in agreement with your decision to stay at home so that you have the support that you need even when things get financially hard. Always remember why you are doing it so that when the going gets tough, you have your clear ‘Why’.

@anonnona6433 9 ай бұрын

Hello dear. How did you become a stay at home mom? Was it your decision, were you forced by circumstances, were you forced by your spouse? Because I believe this is where it may start. 2. Please remember that once the children grow up and are more independent eg if the last born is 10yrs, you can start where you left off or start a different thing altogether. In the meantime, if you have the resources, you could look for simple online courses that teach some skills or learn a new language. Or keep up-to-date in your field of study. 3. You could get involved in your local church or if your children are going to school, you could get involved in the PTA, to get another sense of purpose. 4. Ofcourse I don't know your full story but my last point is make peace with this season of your life knowing well that it will end. Whatever you can do for your home as a stay at home mom, do it cheerfully so that when you look back, you give yourself a pat on the shoulder for bonding with your children and creating countless memories. 5. I hope you have the help and resources to occasionally take breaks, spend some time pampering yourself because you cannot pour from an empty cup. Wishing you well dear ❤❤

@kamaholoesther3186 9 ай бұрын

Hi Lisa, I plizz need help , I was dating a guy who I admit he was a good one, but as tym went on , I felt I felt I couldn't fully submit to this person, due to the fact that he was caring and loving , I tried pushing it for more months but still failed lisa . I had to be open and told this guy that I couldn't continue in the relationship where I couldn't submit to my husband, but now the guy is claiming all that he spent on me without fail, lisa I have nothing what should I do ?

@LisaKusiima 9 ай бұрын

Hi Esther You know in your heart that you won’t be able to submit. Better a broken relationship than a broken marriage. Ask God for wisdom but don’t be manipulated to stay just because he thinks he spent on you. You also were giving something in the relationship even if it wasn’t financial. Only you know best the motive and state of your heart. Make the decision with guidance from God and walk away the confidence in that decision

@kamaholoesther3186 9 ай бұрын

@@LisaKusiima wow thanks so much Lisa God richly bless you

@kamaholoesther3186 9 ай бұрын

Am just afraid of this guy attacking me at work or else where cos he is really on me.but thank you dear

@twaniedithgrace 8 ай бұрын

How about if you're not married like introduced or wed but a baby comes into the picture unfortunately everything changes. Start feeling like ya suffocated in d relationship,d guy is controlling even from afar yet its evident he's loving, caring n trying to make d relationship work. Honestly I feel like am in prison n nolonger independent. Everything happened so fast as I was still healing from a relationship n boom i got pregnant. Well they say women can grow to love naye am really struggling feel like leaving d relationship but d dad insists he doesn't want his child to grow with a single parent n i know he really loves his child n fear he could take her away incase we separated

@nshongitours6675 4 ай бұрын

A motivational speaker (born again) said submission is one of those things that were specific to the jews🤔

@LisaKusiima 4 ай бұрын

Imagine! Lies

@victorianabulwala5897 9 ай бұрын

Can u submit to aman you fear?

@LisaKusiima 9 ай бұрын

Why do you fear?

@AyebareKagina 9 ай бұрын

true, men listen to other men hehehehee

@KNB7172 9 ай бұрын

Lisa looking beautiful everyday. Lisa you promised to give us the number where you bought waist strainer. Still waiting patiently. Thank you.

@LisaKusiima 9 ай бұрын

Did share in the video but here it is call +256 701 610 811

@SA-vw4ny 9 ай бұрын

Research on the impact waist trainers can have on your organs please.

@KNB7172 9 ай бұрын

@@LisaKusiima Thank you so much

@KNB7172 9 ай бұрын

@@SA-vw4ny Alright thank you

@mwebazechristy5063 8 ай бұрын

Lisa....have you noticed men respect each other easily...😂....Naye do women respect each other Lisa...na na naaah.... Nwe....its natural for women to be lovey dovey with fellow women.... Submission is simple.....The devil is your enemy.....not your husband........Submit UNTO GOD....its about the kingdom ....not Us😝 Thanks for this message ..The Husband has a grace to Lead💃🏽

@MarieCassidy-zd8sc 23 күн бұрын

If he is a Christian