As someone who loves a person with BPD traits, watching her destroy the relationship, then panic about it, and then force me to stop communicating, was heart wrenching in the extreme. I had no intention of abandoning her, the thought hadn't even crossed my mind.

My mom recently abandoned me just before my birthday and it’s been really hard. Thank you. I don’t have a family that loves me or cares about me.

I'm watching this with tears down my face. You get it. I was recently diagnosed with BPD and my fiancé and best friend (also mother figure) both left me within a year of each other. The last seven months have been hell. I had to go to the hospital in a psychiatric unit for two days because the abandonment from both people back to back was too much. Your video has really helped and is calming me. Thank you for understanding the chaos of having BPD and truly being abandoned. - Laura, 31 from New York City.

My loving bf of 6 yrs took out the trash Sunday morning, made me coffee, then got up and told me he was leaving. Left me alone in the house afraid for my future. So heartbroken. Both had bpd. One abandoned and the other was abandoned.

Abandonment from friends, lovers, constantly rejected. I give up

My mother left my brother and I at a homeless shelter when my brother was 9 months old and I was 11. We were taken by the state. 3 months later she died. I've had abandonment issues most of my life. I was with my ex-wife for 12 years and a majority of that time she was adulterous. I took that as abandonment, too. Since I divorced her, I've stayed in hermit mode the last 4 years. Yes, I was diagnosed with BPD but I'm tired of being hurt.

I don't really have a support system. My now ex-partner whom I love so dearly left me recently. I don't really have any friends anymore. My oldest daughter will check in when she can. My therapist went on sabbatical. I can not find a new one. Insurance sucks and cash is lean. I'm essentially alone. I'm barley holding my nose above the murky waters.

Congratulations on your new title! You’ve worked hard and contributed positively with each of your videos. Thanks for sharing yourself with us. 🎊 🎉😊

I just found your content, yesterday, and am really enjoying the way you present your information. You are so calm and well spoken, and have excellent communication skills! I also find your voice to be soothing, so that's a nice bonus, bc sometimes I find creators who present great information, but their voices grate on my nerves, for some reason, & then I can't make it through the videos.. 🤦‍♀️😬🤷‍♀️ Anyway, I mostly just wanted to comment that I really like how you explained which DBT skills to use, here, & in what general order. Thx for the clear, no nonsense approach!

Great video as always.🙂 Really glad you did a video on this topic right now. Since New Year , the topic has been affecting me very badly . I was exceptionally close with somebody, but they're no longer in my life. Falling apart in many ways not and going from internalising emotions isolating from friends to emotions seeping out and oversharing. I hope there's some light at the end of the tunnel, and maybe as you say it's just about letting yourself feel so get through it. It doesn't seem like there's an end right now and somone said " you should be over it by now" . I'm not ,but hopefully it'll work out somehow . So thanks for making the video anyway, it's helped a bit.🙂

I found your channel recently and have been watching a lot of the videos. They are incredibly helpful and relateable. I'm interested to know if you might consider doing a video relating to possessiveness/jealousy in romantic relationships?

A strong support system for someone with BPD is usually a bunch of enablers who keep their distance for the most part whilst feeding into the narrative when needed. I guess it does its job in terms of emotional regulation but it really just keeps the person with BPD from facing that they need to change in order to heal. I've had the unfortunate experience of witnessing all that and it disgusted me.

all my pain has come from real abandonment - being cheated on, left at random, etc. i don’t get triggered with friends so much - just romantic partners /men.

How do you politely let someone with BPD know that they aren't at all what you're looking for in a partner while making sure they know that they're still a worthwhile person? I'm finding it hard to convey that I'm only interested in one girl, and that girl isn't her. The thing is, I know it's just part of the BPD and that she doesn't actually want to be with me, because we're polar opposites in terms of what we want in life and a life partner. I've tried being her friend, but she doesn't seem to accept that. I really don't want to hurt feelings but I'm finding it incredibly hard to explain that.

How do I get a credible diagnosis? I have no idea if I actually have BPD or not, but maybe I do… 🤷‍♂️ My dad had it. The environment I grew up may have been a breeding ground for it. My ex wife just left me and I feel like it was/is my fault 🤦‍♂️ I’ve always had good relationships with people in general, but my ex wife is also my first and only official GF. I feel like I resonate more with the Quite BPD, like yourself. Lately other relationships have been strained though and it’s largely due to my poor ability at coping with the loss of my ex wife and me continually blaming myself.

It was IMAGINATION that did me in.

My boyfriend told me that tomorrow we would go out on a date night, the next day I got ghosted. For months. No explanation, nothing. He abandoned me for a screen, to become some pathetic streamer. All I ever tried to do was help him be a better person, fill him with Love, tell him I would never leave his side no matter what. And he said the same too, he lied to me. I found out he was being a degenerate on Twitter which he said he didn’t have. I feel so betrayed and hurt, I thought things were getting a little better. Then he does this? We were together for 3 years, and he threw me away, for a screen.

You move on with life like you normally would. It’s that easy and simple 💁🏻‍♀️

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My internal criticism is sounds like... "Useless & Worthless Waste of Human Flesh" or "I have had far better ideas then ____" yet due to a Frontal Lobe Collapse at 2 wasn't my fault yet this created a Primary Psychopathic INFJ-T. Psychological Abuse from my older brother from day 1. Emotional Abandonment from my 16 yo mom and finally the big dumb drunk animal (dad) started his severe physical abuse at 4 years old. I was 5 years old when he attacked me while I slept. Pier ostracizing in 3rd grade. On the 5th day of fourth grade the teacher brought me to a small room in the library effectively isolating me from every one. My dad started his drunk animal act every weekend sometimes every other weekend with yelling Life or Death and he ment it. 11 years old I was forced to love my hammer. 31 out of 42 years I have been isolating myself living in solitude. I know that I do not belong here and my only need is to go back home. Therefore I will patiently wait for my final moment alive. I hope nobody else has had a way better life than I have been surviving and I believe that it is best if I continue to live in solitude and celibate. I do understand that I am far beyond any healing. Plus can one miss anything they have never experienced? As I wander through the Stillness of the Vast Nothingness only to experience the Silent winds of time within the Void my Auratic Field creates shielding me against change. I accepted Father's request to become a Lost Soul. Enjoy your Eternal Journey. Ancient Magus Sommoner 5th Gatekeeper Cazer Int. Your imagination is your limits What you focus on happens Reality is what you create Blind Faith, anything is possible By activating all Chakras you will shine brighter than the Stars All Glory to Father, Lord Thy God