What to Do If Your Child Questions Their Gender

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Are you a parent wondering, “How do I talk to my child about gender and sex?” If so, you’re not alone.
In today's culture, gender identity, sexual orientation and preferred pronouns are constantly debated and distorted-it's no wonder many parents feel overwhelmed with how to navigate these topics! But these are important conversations for parents to have WITH our children.
This week on The Fight for Female podcast, Christian and Lisa Bevere are joined by Dr. Katie McCoy PhD. to discuss how we can answer our childrens’ questions with confidence and compassion.
To dive deeper on this topic, grab a copy of Katie’s book on Amazon today:
To Be A Woman: The Confusion over Female Identity and How Christians Can Respond
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00:00 "A New Person" - The Transgender Struggle
00:55 Introducing Dr Katie J. McCoy
04:00 The Difference Between Biological Sex and Gender
08:34 Gender Gysphoria
09:19 Number of Women Identifying as Men Has Spiked
11:35 What Does Scripture Have to Say About Changing Your Gender
19:54 Only God Can Bring Healing to This Struggle
23:21 What Are the Consequences of Gender Transitioning
32:28 There's a Hidden Agenda
36:31 Backlash and Being Cultural Missionaries
38:53 Advice for Parents with Children Struggling with Gender Identity
46:46 The Biggest Way We Fight
49:50 Prayer For the Audience
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@CrossAndWindMinistries 17 күн бұрын

We must continue to share Truth… I grew up gender-confused, always saying, “I was born in the wrong body. Then in 2008, I was a gay-identified man, in a committed, monogamous same-sex relationship, active in an affirming church, where we called ourselves gay Christians. Then I found myself in an ICU where the medical team classified me clinically dead after a 22-minute flatline. I experienced death, judgement and hell. When I couldn’t take any more demonic torment, I cried out in repentance, “Jesus!” and I heard the Savior say, “I am here.” At that moment, I saw with my eyes the Wind of the Holy Spirit fill my ICU and with great power, He pick up Satan and the demonic and blew them out of the room. On that day, my life changed, the redemptive Blood of Jesus cleared my mind of perversion and completely healed and restored every failing organ. Glory to God!

@marisab7200 15 күн бұрын

GLORY TO GOD INDEED! Thank you for sharing this story of instantaneous RESCUE; That is MY Jesus!! 🙌 May God continue to bless and keep you ♥️

@CrossAndWindMinistries 15 күн бұрын

@@marisab7200 thank you very much for your encouragement in Christ Jesus.

@ileanainfante8874 12 күн бұрын

❤❤👏👏👏👏

@sandraferguson7993 12 күн бұрын

Wow, it’s amazing what He can do and does! All glory goes to God! ❤️

@christinestone7732 9 күн бұрын

Amen I pray this for my daughter Deitra I want the Holy Spirit will fill her form the inside out from the top of her head tonthe souls of her feet

@soraya1796 15 күн бұрын

I remember beeing confused about my gender as young as four years... I remember looking at my female body in the mirror and thinking: "This is not, what I actually am." I grew up in a very closed up, christian home and in my country it wasn't even a thing in the secular realm at that time. So I thought, I was the only one, who felt liked that. At the age of six, when I came in the first grade, I started to tell the kids around me, that I was actually a boy. They found it funny and so I stopped it. But this feeling didn't went away. When I turned 12, I knew, I had to make choice. Even at that age I didn't know anything about gender dysphoria, but I listened at school and at my parents and knew, that my body would know start to change into a woman, no matter what I think or feel. And so I made a deal with God. He was always my best friend and so I said to him: "You made me like this, you wanted me to be a girl/woman, so you have to make me happy with it." And as soon as I ended this prayer, I realised, that I made a decisison. The decision to become a woman, no matter, what my feelings would tell me. The interesting thing was, what my father told me years after this. He said, that my mother actually come to him, when she was pregnant with me and knew, that I would be a girl. And she told to him: "I don't want a girl. Because there are bitchy." I was the first girl in the family and I was a lot, but not bitchy. But when my father told me this, suddenly it all made sense. Today I'm happy to be a woman. I will probably never be the "classic" woman (whatever that is), but that's okay. I don't need to be like others. I just want to be, who He created me to be.

@christinestone7732 13 күн бұрын

This is happing to my daughter please pray for her. I pray for all parents out there and there children. I believe that's God will heal them mind body and spirit.

@ileanainfante8874 12 күн бұрын

🙏🙏❤️

@ari3lz3pp 11 күн бұрын

Do whatever you can to keep her off or get her off of puberty blockers. If she's old enough teach her about endochrine disruptors, look into diet and hygiene products etc. Soy and lavender and hair dye typically have soy and lavender....for example...and PEG...(I didn't get the vax because they all had some form of endochrine disruptor). Also polyester/microfiber, viscose/rayon/bamboo fabric, acrylic fabric....PVC/vinyl...all have phatlates and/or other endochrine disruptors. Prevalent in our lives. Just limit what you can. Start with replacing food and supplements then things like shampoo, and organic cotton underwear the scalp and privates are most susceptible to absorbtion), bedding....make your way to healthier lives and you mifht fubd with that and getting her a DBT or CBT book can helo a TON! ❤ Dialectical Behavioral Therapy is what they USED to do for kids that are confused. It's helpful for most people really. Anyone could use basic CBT. I use my kids CBT work books LOL. I pray that she will see the truth. But it's also our duty to guide them gently (with the fruit of the spirit), spare the rod is about not guiding them and just letting them do whatever, go wherever, be taught by whomever. You can do your best to be a good Christian example and having more Christian materials around them passively in your life. It's never too late. ❤ If you can get them into homeschool that's ideal, even with a good Christian co-op. I'm in CA yet we have co-ops with Christians that refuse to give in to this b.s. it's on their webpage that they don't put up with it. Homeschool can be free basically for most kids, up through middle school at least I have no experience with my own in h.s. yet but many I know also could donit for the price of Internet and either a small co-op fee or tutor fee. It's easier for homeschool groups to get funding. The districts are supposed to provide homeschool funding, but they try to fight you and will often hope your kid is enrolled in extra curriculum there which is not worth it to me. We had our child in free charter school, I was the main teacher for my severe special needs kid, they didn't hire many competent people (like the public schools also don't) but I'm glad I was involved, Bec they suggested puberty blockers the moment I mentioned "I'm not looking forward to puberty!😅" As a half joke as a parent !!!! 😡 Full homeschool has been the answer even academically. But Charter is better if the kids can be with trusted adults at least....and private schools also are an option, they have grants and scholarships for kids. If you feel it's too late or worry about removing them from public, pray on it. ❤ God tells us not to be afraid. To know risks and be wise but don't be fearful. (I know I need this too a lot). Much love to your child and your family.

@nicolcacola 19 күн бұрын

These kids over exposed to media and public school influenced.

@Bmercylove2342 18 күн бұрын

As someone who hates male attention, and I am heterosexual, so I like men, I just hate male attention and all the things a female has to deal with being single in this world. I see how it can be freeing at that age to choose to be non binary. It takes away the harsh spiritual energy. And also see the reasoning for choice as a female claiming male, it negates certain incoming energy they have to deal with and the required energy from them as female, meaning they aren't groomed for male attention by their loved ones or pursued by male energy, and they can assert theirselves with a more masculine energy that allows them to protect and care for themselves unlike how they are able to in a feminine existence. And male claiming female changes the type of energy required of them and how they put out energy, which is less testosterone and they are allowed to be softer. Do you get what I'm saying here. It isn't influence of the mind from brainwashing or some trend, it's a survival tactic. And it makes sense.

@lauzonfortier 18 күн бұрын

Absolutely

@donnabrink7035 18 күн бұрын

Sounds like to me you're making it very complicated! GOD does not create junk.HE does not create problems. Males are males, females are females.if you think any difference in yourself you are deceived.@@Bmercylove2342

@littlepony8571 17 күн бұрын

ONE HUNDRED PERCENT

@tracyzaganas3221 9 күн бұрын

As I was listening to this podcast you asked the question, “does God care about our bodies?” And as I was reading through my prayer cards I have written on index cards that I carry with me with scriptures I came across 1 Corinthians 6:12-13, “You say, ‘I am allowed to do anything’ - but not everything is good for you. And even though ‘I am allowed to do anything,’ I must not become a slave to anything. You say, ‘Food was made for the stomach, and stomach for food.’ (This is true, though someday God will do away with both of them.) But you can’t say that our bodies were made for sexual immorality. They were made for the Lord, and the Lord cares about our bodies.”

@piper_sss 18 күн бұрын

THIS happened to my child. Please pray for her. This is happening to parents daily. Counselors (main stream ones you see everywhere LPC / MSW / Psychs ) made it worse - they validate and steal your children from you.

@michellesanchez9 17 күн бұрын

I am so sorry that happened. I am a believer and I trust that God is fully in control of your daughter's life, and it may be hard but I just want to encourage you and remind you that there is no one too far from his control 🙏 I am a Sociology major and while my major does deal with dark things I do not agree with and want to get my MSW I know God is going to use me, and I will not adhere to what the world says. There is hope in Jesus !

@marisab7200 15 күн бұрын

I’m so happy to pray for you and your family!! He has you in His hands ♥️ Do not underestimate His power to redeem and HEAL! 🙏

@marisab7200 15 күн бұрын

@@michellesanchez9I got my MFT just prior to 2020.. best advice is to make sure your location (the state you live in) isn’t going to require you to forfeit or compromise your beliefs in order to provide counseling.. seek the organizations you want to work for and make sure their approach aligns with Gospel truths.. we NEED Christians in this fight! God Bless you!

@marywidener1409 14 күн бұрын

This is happening to my son right now!! It breaks my heart daily! He’s a young adult I pray steadfast for him constantly. Pray for this cult to be exposed!! 🙏

@JJ-gw9vs 12 күн бұрын

I understand the fustration of your situation and I will definitely be praying for your child. However, My sister is studying to be a counselor and she is a Christian. She is not making the problem worse. But she is not allowed to tell someone who they identify as is wrong in God's eyes. Even though she believes that herself. Her job is to help them identify their problems and help them through it. But just because she isn't telling them they're wrong doesn't mean she is confirming they are right. She instead prays for them before and after meetings. I say this to inform you that there are Christian's in those positions and they are praying for those like your daughter. God will use these type of counselors and social workers

@GloryToTheHighest 18 күн бұрын

This is a spirit. All they need is deliverance.

@Bmercylove2342 18 күн бұрын

@mysoulsayings7273 18 күн бұрын

EXACTLY!!! I'm tired of spineless Christians standing around acting like they are helpless and at the mercy of this evil! It's a spirit! So it's a spiritual battle that can ONLY be fought spiritually through prayer, with the authority of Yeshua Jesus Christ! If Yeshua Jesus is your Savior, then use the spiritual authority that He gave us!!! And these are strong-willed evil spirits, so stand your ground and do not be intimidated!

@albertascott99 17 күн бұрын

and what if they don't want anything to do with church or God? It's not as easy as you think.

@mysoulsayings7273 17 күн бұрын

@@albertascott99 I never said that it is or would be easy. It's a spiritual battle. Battles typically take at least some amount of time to fight and win. We just have to love our children enough to not give up, no matter how long the battle. But hope and positive thoughts alone do not win this spiritual battle, or any other. This battle MUST be fought in the spirit in order to be won. It the child lives with the parent, it's easier because the parent can enforce physical restrictions that help reduce evil influences, while the parent continues to use their spiritual authority over the evil coming against their child. But if the child does not live with the parent, then the parent does not have this advantage. Fighting the spiritual battle is definitely more challenging when the child is not in your home; however, it still is a spiritual battle so using our authority through Yeshua Jesus is how we win the battle for our children's soul, working with and guided by Holy Spirit, using the name and authority of Yeshua Jesus Christ. No one said that it would be easy. But it is worth it because our children are worth it!

@shannonallaround9490 17 күн бұрын

Amen!

@Tiff-is1qm 19 күн бұрын

Wow! This looks so good. Such a timely and needed conversation

@user-tv5vz2um3u 17 күн бұрын

Thank God for this beautiful medical warrior...

@HerSincereMind 18 күн бұрын

God bless you Lisa. What a better beautiful world we would have if we had more bold preachers like you. Praying to God for at least just a fraction of such boldness!

@tanyalayman1 18 күн бұрын

THANK YOU Lisa for doing an episode on this and speaking up. I follow you on IG and am encouraged by your boldness... not enough Christian leaders are speaking on this issue.

@candrawilliams6825 18 күн бұрын

We have to pray for love and understanding in this fallen world. From this generation to the next

@mysoulsayings7273 18 күн бұрын

This is a deliverance issue because it's evil spirits causing sexual confusion!!! I'm tired of spineless Christians standing around acting like they are helpless and at the mercy of this evil! It's a spirit! So it's a spiritual battle that can ONLY be fought spiritually through prayer, with the authority of Yeshua Jesus Christ! If Yeshua Jesus is your Savior, then use the spiritual authority that He gave us!!! And these are strong-willed evil spirits, so stand your ground and do not be intimidated! AMEN!!!

@salina2535 18 күн бұрын

This was SO good! One thing I keep coming back to is that love rejoices in truth. I need to get her book!

@nicoleburbano6414 6 күн бұрын

Wow this was so good! More people need to hear this truth and stop conforming to society

@christydodgin3712 17 күн бұрын

Great discussion and very informative . Loved and appreciate the prayer at the end. Our family is walking through this with a loved one and prayers are appreciated.

@sandraferguson7993 12 күн бұрын

🙏❤️

@nicoleburbano6414 6 күн бұрын

Thank you for sharing the hard truth

@lisar9396 13 күн бұрын

Thank you for your courage to share the truth ❤️

@simleemonalee 17 күн бұрын

Amen and Amen!

@Bookhoarder5 16 күн бұрын

Thank you so much! I’m off to find her book.

@britnyepeake7878 18 күн бұрын

This. Was. So. Good! Come Lord Jesus. Your kingdom come your will be done!

@ep2258 17 күн бұрын

AMEN

@ToliveisChristPhilippians121 11 күн бұрын

This is really good! Thank you all! This even helps me in seeking intimacy with God! God bless! 😁👍

@umsrum 8 күн бұрын

Do you know what? I finally started reading the Bible because I was seeing a lot of stuff that I knew was lies. And I was like I'm going to read the Bible I was like. Actually, this is the truth. That that that looks right. I decided that I would work less because I personally have a kid that would be susceptible to that and I could tell. And also the schooling is kind of pushing towards that. I feel very fortunate in my timing as a mother aunt being able to see it coming and dissect it and try to understand it. It's actually what has been going on is really the reason why I bought a Bible and I started to truly try to understand because I've always had thankfully guidance in my heart even with the struggles I grew up in. I think that now I'm really understanding and I really think that God gave me my questioning and my curiosity for a reason. Even before I started reading the Bible, what I have done was telling my kids that there is your body in the way you are and that's what you operate with you. Don't get to change that and if you do it'll cause you health problems. I did a lot of research into it because I kept on seeing all this information and then people getting mad at each other. I'm like this is bullshit obviously. So I looked into it and I realized the puberty blockers are especially terrible because estrogen and testosterone do have a function in both male and female when you're growing and they both have their special functions in your health. If you mess around with that to stay healthy is would be a struggle to say the least. Estrogen even for men heels their skin. You're going to get sick more. Those drugs in the situation with the cancer. Sure but or in the case of trying to make sure like prolong a puberty to start at a normal time. It is even then I'm still questioning but if you did have those problems then then you'd deal with it of course. I would like to talk about my experiences with acupuncture and actually a lot of my hormonal problems or any issues that come that way with being a woman I go there and she sets me up with certain herbs or certain diets and they actually are really great with that. If you need a little help and it's perfect and you'll feel it and you see colors when you close your eyes. At least I do. Apparently the history on the acupuncture was actually a message from God, so I think even if they didn't have the Bible as we know it, they that medicine is actually good for a lot of the struggles we encounter.

@stefsytfavs1 6 күн бұрын

This was so beautifully talked through, so full of grace. My heart is breaking right now because both my nieces are going by different pronouns and binding themselves. And at least one of them wants to do hormones. 😢

@winnieewilliams 17 күн бұрын

This is si good

@audreyras4012 17 күн бұрын

Im having to pay premiums for my hysterectomy and I have good insurance. My company wont give me a lot of time off for it either. Whereas if i was transitioning my company would give me paid compassionate leave and help cover all costs. But alas, since my surgery is for medical reasons (endometriosis) and not a gender concern its not handled the same at all.

@icebergrL 17 күн бұрын

Of course. Your medical reasons are not mental. Ridiculous.

@micheler5366 18 күн бұрын

Indeed Lisa, thank you for being brave enough to love enough to tell the truth! Bless all three of you!

@melissak9627 14 күн бұрын

Does anyone know if that law in Melbourne Australia is still standing or is it now moved to the parental rights to choose how they deal with it? I thought Lisa said that at the end but wasn't sure?

@bigviewsmallwindow8335 13 күн бұрын

Legislation is nothing more than morality applied on a societal level. The moral authority is in the word of God and the Spirit of God is in the Church. This is our fight on the front lines!

@marisab7200 15 күн бұрын

Gen 2! The language says that we COMPLIMENT each other! Male and female, TOVE (good or complete!)

@annumkhosla 14 күн бұрын

No! Straight answer is No. love your children and protect them from insanity

@christinamwingira3148 18 күн бұрын

That’s how the Holy Spirit come into play, It’s promised the Holy Spirit will convict us of our sins John 16:8-11. We should keep praying for the power of the Holy Spirit in the Church, some things are very hard without Holy Spirit. Thank you for this powerful message, God Bless you

@tonyayount4329 5 күн бұрын

My daughter is transgender. She is an adult. She says that she was born in the wrong body. When she had her breast's removed, I couldn't stop crying. It made me feel like she was a cutter. I took care of her incisions and helped her get around. She kept telling me that I didn't love her because I wouldn't call her by her new name and her chosen pronouns.

@cheritysowski2191 12 күн бұрын

This world needs Jesus 🙏❤️

@bethfeger8409 17 күн бұрын

There are also laws that prevent parents from helping their child get gender affirming care and they can also loss their children.

@deborahcatalano261 16 күн бұрын

There are parents who have lost kids to the medical gender transition system in CA and TX.

@bethfeger8409 16 күн бұрын

@@deborahcatalano261 Losing a child for any reason is tragic, I am sorry for all families who lose children for any reason.

@bethfeger8409 12 күн бұрын

@@deborahcatalano261 can you share the articles where you found this information?

@bethfeger8409 17 күн бұрын

when she's talking about the research on talking in the womb, those are averages. That means some male babies will talk more than some female babies.

@DoyinVoice 10 күн бұрын

Life is Spiritual. This is no battle for the naive. WAKE UP WORLD - Jesus is Lord

@LeslieDavis-sh8nr 9 күн бұрын

God also said that in the last days it would be like Sodom and Gomorrah again too.

@bethfeger8409 17 күн бұрын

If we have everything we need for life and godliness, then should we outlaw all people getting plastic surgery? or just transpeople?

@deborahcatalano261 16 күн бұрын

The issue here is children. Plastic surgery shouldn’t be an issue for kids unless they were in a car accident etc. please be respectful of the audience.

@bethfeger8409 16 күн бұрын

@@deborahcatalano261 what audience? Are folks here interested in learning about different perspectives and examining other information.

@bethfeger8409 16 күн бұрын

@@deborahcatalano261 so you support gender affirming plastic surgery for adults?

@Shelb13v 15 күн бұрын

Yes, because their preferred pronouns are what's true and whatever isn't cannot be preferred because it's a lie. Americans are truth people.

@LeslieDavis-sh8nr 9 күн бұрын

It's a crazy thought that is God never created a woman that Jesus never would have been able to even have been born... That's a wild thought.

@GodTellsLuciferNoDogtellsRefic 16 күн бұрын

Hearsay calls for firsthand personal testimony of another's personal firsthand testimony. None can give another ones firsthand personal testimony. Personal firsthand evidence inadmissable as hearsay. No name is named God such that God is not a name. God is a placeholder term for observable physical world of no perfect circles is imperfectly perfect so all the imperfect blossoms: they are all are perfect.. imperfectly.

@christinestone7732 9 күн бұрын

If these are all the side affects to trans why than are not warning young old people anyone who what's to trans it seems scary. I feel that therapy should be a must for one year. I feel that its all a money maker. Our child our people God's people need to have all the information ALL THE INFORMATION GOOD AND BAD. GOD DOES NOT MAKE MISTAKES.

@lmr1300 18 күн бұрын

LISA! PLEASE STOP INTERRUPTING PEOPLE!!! PLEASE.....😢

@deborahcatalano261 16 күн бұрын

The all caps means you are yelling.

@GodTellsLuciferNoDogtellsRefic 15 күн бұрын

You lying some more or just warming up for more lies?

@bethfeger8409 17 күн бұрын

intersectional justice is not in opposition to the family - I think your conspiracies are a little over the top and you are connecting phenomenon that are in no way related.