I am watching Andrew’s videos over and over. I am still getting lightbulb moments! Revelation to all of the behavior perpetrated on me in my past two marriages. I realize this is going to take some time to journal and heal. I am so grateful I found the channel and Andrew you are a diamond! A precious one of a kind empath! Thank you so much for the wisdom ❤️

I exposed the narcissist in court today. It is a victory for me and the community 🎉🎉

Double standard. They are THIEVES OF YOUR TIME, SOUL, MONEY, BALANCE, AND JOY.

they know what they are doing

when you see or a red flag over and over no matter how much you desire that person LEAVE!!!

Barely made it thru the “pandemic”…. then his rage fits were beyond worse, swearing in my face & the kids … spending money into oblivion. I had to call the cops …. Then I escaped in the middle of the night & my kids came with me. Thank God, barely made it & the journey healing. But I did it, we made it. 🙏🏻🛡️💪🏻

When I refused to buy him an electric bicycle..he said, "I wont be texting you anymore"...never heard from him again.😅

Tribe, let's just be grateful we got out, are solo and safe. Sweet dreams.❣️

As long as I don't become like them. I don't want to hurt people.

How do you make a narcissist suffer forever? You need to destroy narcissist ego and pride. You need to bring them back to reality. And there is a way you can do that. Without harming them directly. And that is by working on yourself. And going back to being the person you were before you got involved with the narcissist. The person that they were attracted to. And then becoming a better version of yourself. If you do that and let them see it, but you reject their hoover attempts. It will destroy their ego. Because they can't deal with rejection. They can't deal with being ignored. Especially if it's from something that they believe they should have. Narcissists find pleasure in breaking you down. They find pleasure in your pain. It gives them satisfaction. So the last thing they want to see is you building yourself up. You being happy. Because what really destroys their ego is when they see that you're not affected by their attempts to destroy you. You're still able to do what you need to do. You're still able to live the life that you want to live. You're still able to laugh and smile. Which means that their efforts have gone to waste. Their plan has failed. They didn't get the result that they were intending for. Because now you're even more successful. You look better than you ever did before. You're in better condition than when they first met you. Which destroys them. Because they remember how good things were back then. That's why they lovebombed you. And they would love to have that again. But if they can't, it will crush them. So you don't need to get revenge on the narcissist. You don't need to do anything to them. Just focus on yourself. Focus on your own life. Focus on building yourself up. Making your life better. And don't let them partake in it. Don't let them be a part of it. That is how you do it. ✌🏾

When I questioned them why do they treat other people so much better than they do me? And immediately, like a viper strike, it was all my fault. My fault for noticing, my fault for speaking up, and apparently I make everything about me and they're the Golden One that I should bow down to. And it was like a light went on and I felt very distinctly that this is not right. The narcissist or toxic person will not ever care about you, and they cannot self reflect on their own behavior. It will always be about them, their life, and their everything. You can never say anything. You keep your mouth shut, your feelings are wrong, and you are the bad one. That's how it is with these kinds of people.

My final boundary crossed was when my narcissist father was mocking me over my old car while he had a grin on his face, then he found out I bought a newer car and his grin turned into a frown. He looked all crazy and hateful in his eyes like he wanted to murder me all because he was bothered with me being mildly successful in life. I was already using Grey Rock Method on him and he was doubling down on his insults for narcissistic supply. After a while he started to ghost me and I used that to go no contact. I was 35 years old when I bought my first used car. It took me 10 years to save up for it because I'm a disabled veteran and had to work a low wage security guard job at night to pay my bills. That 6-year-old used car was the first sign in 10 years of my success in life.

The indifference part is key. The less you care, the better. Any interaction with a narcissist is an exchange of energy and all they really want is to endless feed their egos off you. If you give them nothing, good or bad, you are no longer a supply. Grey Rock.

Coercive Control, they know exactly what they're doing,,the winning move is to make a plan to Exit,⏩❤️❤️

Began to verbally abuse our teenage children. That was the boundary breaker for me. Triaged by DA services and police and got a non molestation order. Took 5 years to get financially free, lots of coercion......it’s been the hardest time for us but finally I can concentrate on healing and supporting our children to recover fully. Blessings to everyone xxx

Calling me 2 days before my major surgery and her not caring about my needs only hers

They are a lost soul. They are pitiful. Bless their cold heart. Let us rise above. 🌟

Proof that he was cheating, and learn he had been cheating two decades! Never again.❣️

Learned that he was cheating and using me to watch his mother with dementia -while he went out and cheated with an ex who refused to help with his mother..these birds are so cray cray..I’m now 10 months narc feee and avoided 3 Hoovers ✌🏽

After 2 months of NC... She showed up at my doorstep last night!!!! I hated it. I hid. She left my shirt I didn't know was with her, on my motorcycle.. waited outside wanting to talk. I never went out

We were divorced 20 years ago, and he tried to come and take my house from me quite recently. I inherited it from my parents 10 years after our divorce and yet somehow he believes I didn't earn it and don't deserve it....but somehow he does??? That is when it "clicked" for me. He threatened to have me committed and all other manner of threats. I said NO....the most powerful word in the English language. He destroyed my property and fled before I realized the damage done. As a final insult, he destroyed my Bible. EVIL to the core.

Publicly running a smear campaign on her Instagram stories a few days after we had a private 3hr long phone conversation about ending things. That was THE FINAL STRAW. There is no coming back from that.

Im DEFENITLY relocating and going with no contact too.

For me the final straw was her going into a Malignant Narcissistic rage over misplaced car keys. And going completely bezerk. Destroyed my home. Broke doors pulled a butcher knife out. Just nuts. Now she's facing 6 felony charges this fall, including attacking and tryn t9. " disarm/ discharge officers weapon. That's a bad felony by itself

I couldn’t put my finger on it, but all of a sudden he had a very dark aura all around him. I’d never felt it before and I knew something was very wrong. We split up six months later. He was having his second midlife crisis at 50- first one at 40 and I got sick of it. 10 years later, he passed away from his addictions and vices. Broke and homeless and addicted to Xanax and alcohol. So glad I was able to get out and be free and succeed. I really dodged a disaster. He could not take advantage of me as I protected myself, but took loans out in our college daughter’s name without her knowledge. Absolute EVIL!

The final straw for me was his refusal to get a job and putting his hands on me. I knew I had to get rid of him and I did.

I needed emotional support dealing with chemo and radiation....no support at all! Now my car is broken down and still no help at all! Im not doing what that person wants so I am on my own!! And its FAMILY😢

Thirty years plus invested in a man, my narcissistic husband. When he arrived home from work, 3 son's, dog, cat and me, disappeared. Always angry over issues he conjured up. My BOUNDRY was broken when he ran toward me (physical appearance of a demon) quickly stopped and said, "Do you want me to strangle you?" He was arrested for domestic violence and served divorce papers.

Im sick of "being thrown away"

Emailing me a receipt to a baseball game, his favourite team, me saying I’m so excited I can’t wait! He said “shame I don’t have someone to go with, either sell one ticket or take my Mom”. That was it for me. This came at the end of a roller coaster, up down, turn around never know what’s happening, had me recently blocked (sure there was new supply, no interruptions) he had purposely caused arguments. So the discard with the game tickets hurt, that really hurt. I realised what a snake he was, what an empty soul he was to hurt someone who only ever treated him good. That was it. I told him goodbye and well played, well done. Enjoy the new supply. I went no contact. He’s emailed me since, but they of course go ignored. I have no respect for someone who’s in his sixties and still playing games, it’s absolutely pathetic.

During the pandemic , thousands dying every day , everything was upside down . It was one more quip , one more nasty jab too far , nothing major , but it seemed to be the slight tap that collapsed the deck of cards . Suddenly I realised it was real , not in my head ! They were doing what my gut instinct told me all along !! Today I celebrate , just like every other day , that I was lucky enough to finally see the light and walk away ! Thankyou so much , Andrew , for all your support through your truly enlightening and empowering content , Namaste ! 🙏😎❤️

Him becoming enraged and throwing everything off of my kitchen counters bc I had a few questions about the proposed house consolidation loan he apparently thought we needed..........called two days later to get process of divorce started. This was just last week.....and after 30 years of a complete shitshow. Done. Thank you Andrew.

The final boundary was when I stood up for myself, again and again. The two siblings had a bunch of their supply pass away during Covid. I was supposed to be weak after my husband passed, a wildfire burned 180,000 acres around my house, six days of evacuation, massive monsoons flooded around my house, and my Mom passed away. They thought I'd be weak. Instead, I was a truthful and authentic person who had only gotten stronger after really rough April 1, 2021 to March 26, 2022. Which was worse, 2021-2022. Or, the two siblings in 2022-2023. The two siblings were worse. It is good to be free of them in 2024. Truth is worth standing up for when necessary.

Its heart warming to listen to authentic honest people❤

My ex husband was diagnosed a malignant narcissist. Married for 37 years with four kids and a stay at home mom. I went to school to be a CNA because I was tired. My push was when he drove our daughter high.

My ex narc was a covert narc and he had what i now know as silent rage and silent judgments. It is something you can feel very clearly. Because coverts don't talk much as opposed to a classic narc. But i could see in his body language that he was mad as hell and ruminating inside. And that is dangerous. The narc can harm you. Mine never laid a hand on me but i could have happened for people who are still around narcs, be aware of this please. Have a great evening everyone 😚🙌💜

I caught another women texting him "I love you" His answer "We're just friends". Also overheard an employee telling him "I love you". His response "She tells everyone that...sorry you don't have friends that say they love you". Sad thing is, I wanted to believe him. I set a few respectful boundaries and yep, got crumbled up and thrown out...

There were so many boundaries crossed throughout the relationship that I have reflected on after what I have learned…but the final boundary crossed was financial…after I set boundaries with him…

The final boundary violation happened when I said to her “you no longer have control of me”. She went into a narcissistic rage and became violent.

When the narctriss wouldnt answer her phn for a couple days, after asking me to check on her, i asked some police friends to do a simple no worrys welfare check. Why that route ? Because i was conditioned to not just show up unannounced. Why was that ? The other caurosel riders of course. So after that, when i called out the triangulation. Then she called the cops on me with implications i was suicidal. I was not. I repeat i was not. That there was my final determination to go zero contact with a Dark Tetrad. Now a couple years ago, but light years of awareness earned. Never let your want, outweigh reality.

The narcissist is a con man and will make you pay in every way, but when they have your money they feel they won. So learn from mistakes and try to say no and try to have nothing left to give.

I was so sick with pain and breathing difficulties. The bastard was hired to help clean out boxes I wasnt strong enough to cut up, he wanted to know what was going to happen to my brand new gorgeous bedroom suite when I died..... Then he sat on the 250 year old velvet diningroom chair, tilted it and started to rock it back and forth ..to break it...and then he'd say oops, with a gleeful grin. I didn't allow it, and sick as I was, I screamed bloody murder at him and told him to get out a n d go HOME. On the way out he said I owed him MORE money than we agreed on, because" the work was extra hard"....yes, I gave him the extra because I didn't want an escalation to physical harm. This is a part of what happened because I took the hoover.... That day was the discard. Didnt hear again till Easter...."Im sorry I didnt call for Christmas, but I was sick...."....my mind said DROP DEAD...I kept this voicemail so I never forget..EVER That was the last scenario and the second hoover attempt....

Final boundary: started on the kids. Final straw, Christmas 2019, all 4 kids home, exchanging presents, the youngest age 16 gave his present to my (not- soon enough-to-be) ex-wife, who said in front of everyone: "Take this back, and get me something more thoughtful." Destroyed him. And she calls herself a Christian. Church leadership doesn't know what to do if there's no physical abuse.

I hsve only 3 weeks left till my final court hearing with the narc ex gf . After that I really can forget her and flourish 🙏🏻

2023-Mar, I was rushed to the hospital, very low anemia, 5 blood transfusions. I had stopped caring for me. I was in there a month, he visited 2x, when he saw my son and swore at him in the room. I decided, I had enough disrespect. I had to leave all my things at my home, he is still evading divorce papers, so they are in the process of getting the judge to intervene. This is after 20 years of red flags, but I stayed. I will never have another relationship. Thank you Andrew, you are the best.

When she drove my child out of my home

When i asked him to help me w credit card bill he complained from then on i watched him for a whole year didnt trust him anymore ... left him a year after

I think if any of us are around narcissists we will have the same menu

I had no boundaries regarding how I was treated, but I spoke up and pushed back when I saw other people being hurt. The narcissist didn’t like that very much.

He Almost killed me , it took me some months About 4 to 6 months some attempts failed But then I Got the Money About 5 years ago this happened, because he controlled everything thing I fled the uk in a Train with my Cat and Dog and was pregnant, Now Me And my child are Safe in Denmark my birth country and he cant NOT Come here because uk it’s not in Europa! And he will never find us ! I’m Soo blessed Today I reprogram my Subconscious Mind and I Love my Son soo Much soo sweet and Loving we are safe and my Animals are safe and Now I’m Working on getting totally financially free Millions of Thank you God I’m Soo Grateful you Safe me And Protected me Now WE are Safe Happy And Sooo Grateful For Life then ever before , Pray for You All that Goo Through This Love You All ❤ Millions of Thank you for this Information ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤you are The best to Explain This Behavior ❤

When her bad behavior drove me out of the third house I provided for her, that was the end.

It was when I finally found out about his infidelities. He actually told me he was on a business conference in a city 2.5 hours from us when in truth he took $4000 out of our savings and met some woman in CA. I found phone calls made from his cell to this woman. I contacted her and she was lied to as well. He had other women onLine while he was seeing her. The whole thing was so humiliating was well as all the other behaviors Andrew talked about in this video and others. I am so glad to be rid of him. 30 years of abuse I did not understand. I am very educated now about narcissism. These people are evil maybe not human honestly. Demonic! Thank you Andrew!

Constantly inciting conflict is bad enough, but when they decide they want to discard you...watch out.

Oh,,, the other last straw?? His not showing up, as promised to drive me to the clinic for my FOOT SURGERY. JUST ,,, not show up. I drove myself, had to find a way home. Barely got there in time for the surgery. Was in another county. Was a very hard time,,, no ride, can’t drive,, can barely walk. Did he appologize? lol. Not once. 😮

The last boundary was Fidelity. She was and always will be an adulterer and I will never see her the same. For many years I lived with a stranger and my intuition was not wrong about my suspicion.

When he went to alcohol treatment, but really had five other addictions as well and called me on Christmas Day and told me that he had been getting hand jobs at massage parlors in Phoenix and Seattle for the last year and a half, and without skipping a beat, taking a breath or the merest of apologies, said that we had a little couples repair work to do. 😂

Andrew you are a valuable gem. 💎 Your efforts and dedication are changing so many peoples lives for the better.

Brother 1yr older looking fo housing supply. That was the last straw, it broke this ole camels back. I've been sober a long time and I don't smoke. Mostly got sober because of him and how nice and serene it was without him. ALL those years I was told and thought it was me. My family made narc abuse very normal and rewarded.

When I found out he was cheating, I yelled you could have given me AIDS, in a low calm voice, he says aww we could have aids together. I still have no words for how I felt that day. We have kids , but when he calls he still wants to talk to me, and he just can’t understand, why I choose not to. It’s so very draining.

Anthony ,, the “ ONION” peeling description,, is so spot on. It was exactly that way. I think I’m Still not over it.

THEY DO NOT KNOW WHAT JOY IS!! 😂this is why they Love to upset your Beautiful Apple Cart!! They LOVE to make everything Rotten!! Keep shining your BEAUTIFUL LIFE & be grateful you made it!! 🇫🇷🙏💯🌞🌱🌱🌿🌿

I did run for the hills! Thank goodness 😅

The main boundary violation is that the many narcissists I knew would assault me with requests for help and then behind my back they told people that they were giving me something to do with my time, as if I don't have very intense obligations all my own. They made me look like an idiot, because it was the only way they know to make themselves look good. This year I finally escaped from all my narcissists and now I live in a different town. Thanks to Andrew for drilling it into my stubborn head that I had to do that.

He Would Scream and Yell While l Was Doing Homework With Our Kid's at The Table " He'd Loom Over' glaring Down at Us..Realized He Doesn't Care about Any Thing, Not His Kid's Or Their Education Can't Live Like This "So l Didn't.

His whole energy changed and became so heavy, weighing me down. He had life saving surgery and when he got on his feet, he no longer needed me. The devaluation began and he started disappearing, thinking I would beg him. I kept telling him let me call you right back, and never did, now he's enjoying the Block Party. 🎉❤😂

I love your words of encouragement, I am out of the relationship and got away clean and with all of my things...He was cold, had no feelings, wanted all the attention, and did not care for me. In the beginning, he laid the trap and I fell for it. He kept buying me things like a donkey with a big carrot on a string.

Mine left for a secret vacay with his secret girlfriend days after my mother died. I realized there was no way I was ever loved. I put his stuff in storage and never looked back. My mom was a narc too so I was suddenly free of the two of them.

Well that is a long and disturbing story BUT the short answer is BLATANT triangulation .. which led me down a whole path of realizations involving unethical and illegal activities ..

Someone commented about feeling lonely I may have over analyzed this but after a lifetime of drama the peace can be a little scary sometimes and since the behaviors between them is so similar sometimes can be triggered by strangers another reason to slow our minds down from a lifetime of hyper-vigilance and it's humbling because it doesn't happen overnight. Even most churches don't focus on these real-time life issues. I appreciate all the comments and thanks again to you Andrew!

Great video Andrew!! Telling the truth always lead to rage fits, her abusive paybacks, and a discard. Wishing everyone clarity and peace.. 🙏

They drained me dry and then discarded me! Its my own fault though for always being there for them!!

The final boundary: She could devalue me all she wanted.. I became stoic. She would try to start arguments she could no longer get supply from me. It just rolled off my back. She knelt beside me, I removed my headphones to hear what she had to say. She spoke about her duaghter... how strong she is. Her daughter might be a narc. Then she spoke about my daughter, an empath like me. She made it sound like she was "concerned" for my daughter's kindness, that she could be taken advantage of. She spoke of my daughter as weak... like a lion would describe its prey. I knew she was trying to provoke an argument.. anything good or bad to get my attention. I smiled, and said, "OK." as I put my headphones back on diverting my attention back to ytube. She remained kneeling beside me for several minutes thoroughly confused about what had just happened. They very next morning I told her to call her daughter to come pick her up. Her daughter didn't want mom living with her and her boyfriend, so she dropped mom off at an extended stay motel. That must have been quite the narcissistic injury because, not only did she not have supply lined up, she was in a new town three hours away. She didn't know anybody. I looked at her tiktoks for a while, just to see if she was OK (I didn't know anything about narcs back then.) Her public videos showed an aging narcissist who did not have supply, and were desperate for attention. Though she tried to put on a smiley face, I knew her better than anybody in this world... it seemed like she might have had a nervous breakdown. Well, she did it to herself talking smack about my daughter. That was the straw that broke the camel's back but I doubt she even remembers this. She probably has no clue why I so abruptly asked her to leave ending our 12 year relationship in (from her perspective) the blink of an eye. In reality, this had been building up for years.

Thank you for this! Your description is an exact parallel do what I went through in my 10-year relationship. I was so naive! I trusted everything, but I didn't know that the other part of it was that I needed to VERIFY in addition to trusting. I should have reassessed the relationship when talking to others about my narcissist, and many times I got silence and eye rolling from them. I wish they had told me what I didn't know about my narcissist, but I think they were afraid to infuriate the narc. There were many things I didn't know until it was too late and the narc discarded me. Thank you Andrew for giving me the tools to carry on and find some joy in myself once again. I am slowly - very slowly - working myself back to the person I used to be. With your help, Andrew, I'll make it all the way back one day. 🙏

Your demeanor is very soothing and calming today. 😊💜✨️

Thank you Andrew ! Good Luck new supply ! I'm so happy not to be in the narc's loop anymore😊

He left his messenger account open to a smear campaign with a friend of mine. I couldn't believe my eyes, but I found his true feelings about me in the sick conversation. Clicked into another conversation with yet another friend of mine and it was worse. Not sorry!

My x-boss, narc , Wanted me available 24/7 : before work hours, after work hours, on my lunch break, and on weekends , and even if I was home sick.

2 years after my dad died, sending me pics of my dad , talking about reading the Coran on his grave so he can go to heaven so because he does good to him , i need to send money to help ''familly'' taking about my dad grave, my dad was a narc and all his family and i didn't knew anything about it went other side of the world to bring back a bag of money to make a business with my '' family '' now i have immigrate and cut all relationship after that

I got out in time before he got any more of me.

So many truths yet again, thank you Andrew and community. When they can't get affirmation/ positive supply, they will create DRAMA!

Many thanks Andrew for great reminders. So many details buried under time. I couldn't imagine what the woman went through for 8 years who was finally beat to death by her mate apparently with just his hands. Her blood all over him when he was pulled over by the police before they figured out what happened. This was an extreme case but like you said every one of those punches was like the insults and mental abuse we went through you just can't see the bruises and by God's grace we are still here. As far as I'm concerned each and every one of those people are just as dangerous as the man who extinguished that poor woman's life. Thank you for reminding us just how dangerous and serious these people are the validation is like a healing balm. Priceless!

I come from two families full of narcs. My mother pulled me away from my paternal side when I was very young due to the gossip, extreme alcoholism and physical violence that takes place every time they get together. But my mothers side was a complete shock that they're the same family as my paternal side just behind closed doors. (With fhr exception of the physical violence and alcoholism) its the belittling cold passive agressive behind your back type. Major gaslighting and guilt tripping with a bit of stalking. What really made me realize that my maternal side was narc mess (i didnt discover narcissism until 2022) was in 2020 when my grandfather was hospitalized for severe gangrene in his right foot. He ended up having his lower leg up to the knee amputated. No one could visit because of covid so my uncle sent me pictures of him in the hospital and I noticed he had a DNR tag on his wrist. And it hit me that he was perfectly comfortable dying with our family in shambles and with that he had not seen or talked to me in 2 years prior to this. (We had been slowly pulling away from my maternal side because they "didn't want to deal with" my depression after my parents divorce 7 years prior. The patriarch of the family was cool with dying with his family being estranged from one another and not speaking. That was a huge tipping point for me. I haven't talked to any of them since. Its been hard moving on as the mask they wear is that we're just a wonderful, loving "Christian" family - at least when it comes to the 3 golden grandchildren while the other 3 reject grandkids are belittled and ignored unless we do something worth bragging about. No one in my small town wants to see or believe the truth about a "local famous family." Its not all sunshine and rainbows. That's enough for now. Thanks for reading! ❤

Absolute TRUTH ! Thank you ❤Andrew. God bless you abundantly for all your time & go all your knowledge & wisdom. Thank you 🙏 ❤🎉

Thank you! Love to us all! Wherever we are in the healing process! ❤

To anyone who's recently going through this, don't be discouraged, don't go back to toxicity just because it's familiar. You deserve better. You are the true source of all the good you were fooled into believing comes from the people who are in fact toxic. Put your fears and doubts aside, focus on moving forward, and you'll get to a better place. The best steel goes through the fire. You're more resilient than you know.

Betrayal on a grand scale....how naive was I ?? I'm healing now, well down that beautiful path 🙏💜

The enemy comes to STEAL, KILL AND DESTROY

After the narcissist had extracted everything she could she took out a restraining order against me because i blocked her . 1.5 years later she contacted me to spew her trauma on me , i blocked her so she sent flying monkeys to try and steal my dog . 😂 hilarious 😂

Although I didn't expect her to do anything, it would have been nice if she came to the hospital when I had the heart attack - that hurt, and the disgard 2 days before Christmas...Straw that broke the camels back... Have a good day.. 🙏☮️✨🐬

I'm grateful that you talk about Hoovering. I have experienced hoovering twice. Great video.

I had suffered a heart attack at 49. The week after I came home from the hospital and the bills, follow up doctor appointments and the medication needs started, he said quite genuinely “ My life would have been easier if you had just died. “

IF NOT NOW WHEN⁉️

The final boundary crossed was her blaming me for her physically abusing me! Yeah I know, unbelievable eh? I went straight from the kitchen to the living room and filed for divorce.

Endurance = Wisdom 🙌

Thanks 👍 ANDREW seriously though 5 years literally obstained, and I tryed My best as Always ✅💯, Even being nothing but Human, The past Four years alone going through this sad period of 😢 Time of the worlds biggest struggle and worse humanity has been challenging, and then Being deceived again BYE a clever well educated person I'm Like 🤔 WTF,... people really do Both GENDERS need to wake up,grow up and mo e on, there's always Been a reason the windshield always been bigger than the rear view mirror attached to it OMG spot on❤🙏💯✅🌺

The final straw was just as you expected. She was trying to pick a fight with me over the phone and I told her I would no longer entertain this negativity and I’m done with the unbalance in this relationship. I put in much more effort than you ever have. She texted me and said it was over after the call ended. 5 months later I’m the happiest I’ve been in my adult life and Andrew helped me heal from these confusing and painful times.

My final boundary crossed was, he destroyed my relationship with son! When that wasn’t enough for him, he tried to destroy my career again! I had to leave one job because he sent the owner a email saying I was stealing! It was proven I wasn’t but I was never looked at with a level of respect that I worked hard to achieve. When he found my new job, he was calling there looking for me. I knew it was only a matter of time before he tried to explode that one too!

Going No Contact No response to hoovers Remove all narcs and toxicity from your life Live in the moment Focus on self care and improvement These are things Andrew has spoken about and are key to taking your power back, healing and recovery from narc abuse.

Thank you for this video, Andrew, about why the final relationship discard happens when it does. It helps me to understand better what happened. Namaste 🙏 ❤️

I gave him 16 years of second chances, but the final boundary was about 7 months ago. Over the course of those 16 years I kept repeating "The opposite of love is not hate, but indifference" So whenever we fought, regardless of why, I would convince myself "If he didn't love me, he wouldn't be fighting me, so he must still love me" ... what broke me was I told him some very personal stories while we were dating because I wanted to start our life with transparency and I trusted him. While dating, he appeared to understand the significance of letting him in and how rare it was. But 7 mo. ago, during a fight, he just threw it in my face and told me I deserved it, knowing how much that would hurt me. But I didn't get angry, I got numb. I no longer felt the need to fight anymore. I became indifferent to his emotions and wants regardless of whether he was raging or not. I no longer got a rise out of his opinions and assaults. That's when I knew he crossed the last boundary and since he continued to fight and I had no community ties, I called the cops and he was arrested for DV and resisting. During the required 72 hours of no contact, I realized I didn't worry, care or empathize with him in those 72 hours; ultimately I filed for divorce for that very saying that the opposite of love was indifference which must mean I fell out of love with him and it was time to quit. He could never unsay that and I can never unhear it.... I just remained broken and numb.