First you make 100 baseless assumptions, followed by telling us how to answer and ending with some hurtful judgment. Well done! If you're an a-hole. If you have something constructive to share, please do so. Otherwise, be quiet. In my case, I married someone who was sane and then as a result of changes in her body chemistry she no longer was. We dated for three years, waited 7 years following marriage to have our first child, and were married for 14 more before she went off the rails. Is that enough time or will you continue to judge?