It's so sad when you love them have been there for them and they kill the relationship o don't ever want to meet another Dismissive avodent.

My DA stopped contacting me cold turkey after I admitted deeper feelings and needs on my side. I said he was free to do/not do whatever he wanted. I stated my needs and he said "thank you for bringing clarity to this conversation" and haven't heard from him since (3 weeks) . I am not going to contact him, I didn't do anything wrong. I know it likely triggered him. But it does feel unfair to wait. At this point I'm treating it like an ending (no answer is an answer and a choice) but it didn't end "badly". Could the feelings be lost? Possibly. Only time - and his own self-awareness - will tell. It has been a huge learning curve but I do have empathy for his shortcomings. Just not enough to deny my own needs.

He left when I needed him the most. He didn‘t call, didn‘t message me. He even didn‘t answer my calls or messages. After 6 weeks he came and he was mad because I didn‘t call him enough?! And I didn’t want to speek with him at the moment he wanted to speek with me. We are married for 6 years! I‘m done. If he wants this to work, he should fight for it. Loving an DA is the hardest thing to do.

you describe the law of attraction quite well for someone who doesn't believe in it haha. it's not mystical. change your perception. switch your perspective. shift your reality.

It's either I'm dumb or that's the most inconvenient way to write the title for this topic.

Excuses me if I missed it, but I don't think you actually covered the title subject of this video: What makes an avoidant regret breaking up with you.

whats killing me now is not knowing if she even had deep feelings for me. i think she did, ive never felt closeness and affection like i did with her, it was the closest connection i've ever been in. this sux

If you are in love with an avoidant maybe you are also avoid something.

Wow thank you for sharing that. It’s almost a pattern resembling PTSD that is a lifelong condition

Alexis I would love to see a video about how the relationship goes when the DA has done some work and is healing / learning new ways of relating. Do they still struggle with avoidant tendencies, does communication get easier? Do they still feel overwhelmed by closeness? Do they still deactivate? I think you are probably the best person to answer these questions; although I get that you may prefer to keep this part of your life private.

I can’t fix him or heal him.. Todd has to heal Todd.. I am watching these videos to understand more.. I am not his therapist..

So good! 🙏I love your explanations to everything 😊

Hi Alexis please can you do more content on avoidant rebound relationships please

Even if they dont mean to, they are manipulative. Behind every Dismissive is a trail of broken hearts and dreams.

Some will engage in casual sex as well to “dull” it

How does someone create new internal working models? Is talking therapy enough? I am seeing a therapist but I wonder how much it is going to help me become more secure, and how just talking about things is going to change me if that makes sense!

What is a typical way for an avoidant to reach out? Wishing happy birthday?

😂😂stop watching my videos. Thank you for your videos, I learn a lot. 🙂

Hello Alexis, est-ce que cette réaction s’applique également si c’est nous qui les quittons?

Does this apply to fearful avoidants?

There is something I don't really understand, I'm like 100% sure my ex is an avoidant. Heavily traumatised as well. After the guy that gave her the trauma reached out to her she started to self-sabotage our entire relationship and in the end left me for a guy who is exactly like the inital guy. Same nationality and probably as messed up as he is. She also said that none if it was my fault. I somehow still love her and I'm hoping that she comes back. It's been almost 3 months of no contact.

Take her shoe shopping

2 days before the break up my avoidant ex gf said she don't knows the way towards the college so she requested me if we can go together but only if I don't go with my friends to college she didn't wanted to come with me if I had friends with me on the way to college because she gets awkward and also privacy reasons but i was too late to reply as I was busy then when I approached from here and told her ohk we will go together instead she said "leave it now I have told my friends now you are too late to reply ". After that i told her in an assertive way meet me tomorrow in college and she agreed but asked whether you want to meet in front of friends, without them or just staring? I replied in whatever way you are comfortable she said ohk then the next day when I met her she had friends there with her and she texted me I feel awkward meeting in front of friends but i was already there in front of her her friends were sitting on the bench and we then talked but she was so nervous and saying we have some classes together see you later my friends are calling! It little bit triggered her then the next day my friend and his other friend whom I didn't know went there in the crowd in front of my ex screaming my name in front of her Amaan Amaan and asked her Amaan wants to talk to you she nodded her head saying no and ran away I didn't told my friend my friend to go there he just went without my permission it was too awkward for her in the crowd. Then we had argument even though I agreed to my mistake we broke up it got ruined then after about three weeks I contacted her again this time she said doesn't want to get close again like that and she can't trust people back easily. She said it's hard for her to detach herself from me but it's something for her to do! We talked regularly second time but hot and cold but regularly having streaks and heart on Snapchat meaning regularly she saved my snaps but I brought the conflict again I told her to start being like that close again instead of trust issues trust me back again fully. She said I don't want to get too close and said our aims don't align this time so I should let you go this time and told me no one u derstands and listens to me and Iike you do but I have to let you go this time and out of self respect I told her then I leave you for God's sake if has written us for each other again she said I don't love you but used to ask for romantic letters for me, meetups, birthday gifts we talked daily for 2 years. Will she comeback? This time she removed me from Instagram, Snapchat but didn't blocked me and on telegram the profile is still there of my gift that I had gifted to her(Her name frame).

I have been married for 26 years and have known my wife for 29 years. The last 8 months have been pretty tough She does not like to talk about her feelings. She told me she wanted to divorce but she still lives at home and we are getting along as friends not sure what to do? We have 3 kids

I would like to talk with you

I'm not fearing abandonment or being alone as I was alone for many years by choice. But how can I help him feel comfortable & safe to hang out again. We've been taking again for 2 months but he's taking me it's not a good idea anytime soon. How do I help him feel safe that it is ok?

Even months later?

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