A man will show you how he feels about you by how the way he treats you.

Women please please stop letting men move in with you!!! That dynamic is off! Only move in with your husband.

When I was a child my grandmother would say... "Men are incredibly jealous of Women. Which fuels their hate of us." I remember a guy downplayed my years of military service....a accomplishment and sacrifice that I'm incredibly proud of. My response: "Ummm, but you couldn't even make it past basic training, right?" The silence was epic. Needless to say we never spoke again.

or they are GAY and don't know it yet.

My ex husband *HATED ME,* and hated himself. He tried to extinguish my inner light. He had no clue I would actually leave him, but I did!! 😂❤ It was so strange to be married to someone who _said_ they "loved me" but treated me like absolute 💩💩💩💩!! 6 years out from 14 years of a living hell on earth and I am SO happy!! I'm remarried to a man who truly, fully, authentically loves me and it's incredible! Don't stay with men who hate you. It's not worth it.

The sad part is never knowing the man you're with because he's an actor the whole time. That's so scary.

Some dude tried to downplay my Masters degree also....I blocked him with a quickness!😅😂😂🤣🤣🤣

The birthday and even holidays will definitely show you how they feel about you

Some men can’t stand successful women. They call us masculine because we make money. My parents didn’t raise me to bum sir.. 😂

Imagine the man that wants to isolate you, destroy your self-esteem, calls you fat, calls you stupid, and keeps you financially dependent on him is your father. This is why I'm single.

Honestly I wish I never let my ex into my life. I deeply regret that

Bros don't even care If she mentally checks out. They normally don't even notice.

When I bought my first car and everyone congratulated me, he said “I could never get into that small car, none of my ex ever drove that Chinese brand”🙃 Whole time he was okay with me using taxis… That’s when I knew it’s time to leave.

Downplaying of accomplishments seems to be a common one. I get so sick of that crap.

Always listen and analyze what a man is saying when he’s angry at you. Some men just truly hate all women, and you can’t change that.

My hubby left me the night before I graduated with my associates. The kids spent the day super sad and down. I felt upset and pissed. Right before I walked the stage, like seconds before. he was texting me if we’re going to the court that day to figure out child support, like yes I’ll meet you there with my cap and gown on 🙄 I almost did too to rub it in his face. But stayed with fam to celebrate. He said he realized when I picked my cap and gown that I was going places and he wasn’t 🤦🏽‍♀️

sis at the 10 minute mark helped me realize these situations have one thing in common: they take the time to study you to figure out how to harm you. Then they try it at different degrees until they ruin the relationship. Ig thats why my relationships last a year at minimum. I take forever to open up, so when i do and you use the info to hurt me? Logic tells me it’s on purpose

I'm single because of men like this. Everyone thought I would be miserable. To my pleasant surprise, I'm truly living my best life! I am flourishing! Society casts me out because I'm a single mom but yet I feel very blessed with everything I've been given. So if single moms are supposed to be "bad people" why does our God keep blessing my family and I? 🤔 Exactly!

I work in retail/customer service and my ex came to my job to break up with me halfway through my shift. I was so pissed because he literally could have waited 3 hours to tell me. What a loser

They will literally dispise you but they refuse to leave. I dont understand it.

Some men are in competition with their women. They have an entitled inflated ego in general and always feel competitive with anyone that's better in certain aspects.

Most men like variety. They’re nice to see how much they can get out of you. Male nature is violent. No more acting shocked

Then when you leave them they will still try to get with you.🤣🤣

My ex stopped taking me around his friends because they complimented me, listened to me, supported my dreams, and made me feel good about myself. I had to ask to come to his friend’s wedding instead of being invited. When I came over, we did absolutely nothing, but when I was away, he went on all kinds of fun outings and never invited me.

The lady whose ex was mean to her for no reason on her birthday and now she is married to her husband I am glad she is in a loving relationship now. She is so right don't waste your time with a man who don't respect or love you.

Yes, I realized too late that if you have to tell someone something important to you twice, they don’t care. “If he wanted to, he would”

You all are giving me strength. After 8 years, I am ready to leave. Almost a decade of my life wasted. Never again

He only liked the idea of you

I had an associate of mine’s flat out told me a long time ago that though he likes sleeping with Women he doesn’t particularly like Women.. I literally heard it from the horses mouth..

They not giving out Masters cause its not in your tax bracket...YEEEESSSS SIS. 😂😂😂

Please someone send this video to the girl who was pleading with her man to buy her a Walmart ring. 🤦🏿‍♀️😞

My cousins girlfriend was discussing their relationship and he told her "Imma do you worse than I did (First baby momma) cause wtf you leaving me for?" Now we trynna save her 😢

The lady in the bed w the glasses on read my entire life😂😂outsmarted him badd

15:23 What’s worse is when those people are your “family” members.

Luke 6:22 says, "Blessed are you when people hate you, when they exclude you and insult you and reject your name as evil, because of the Son of Man". However, Luke 6:27-28 also says, "But I say to you who hear: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, and pray for those who spitefully use you".

All of these women are gorgeous & speaking from the heart.

It's very hard for most women to understand how deeply a man can hate, be jealous, not like you, etc and still be married to you or in a relationship. And that's because most women will not stay. The only time we come close is for our children. And that has an expiration date.

17:51 this woman is 💯. The man that breaks up on your birthday or holiday or other important wants to see you suffer and hurt your celebration-hates you

""YOU WANT TO BE THAT EX THAT HE TALKS TRASH ABOUT TO EVERYBODY! 😂💃💃💃💃💃💃""

I started a job 7/31/23 and was promoted a month later. He picks me up for lunch and I’m telling him the great news. Him: How’s your day? Me: I’m having a great day; y supervisor just recommended me for a promotion. Him: That would make anybody’s day great. No smile. No congratulations. No “wow, already?!” Just straight faced and like, duh. Accused me needing validation. When he was the most validating seeking person I’d ever met.

My expiry date for a relationship is 6 months. After 6 months I take a mental assessment of all the aggravating things I feel in the relationship. If they’re more than the positive things I end the relationship bam💥 … & it don’t matter if I feel love for the person. As long as I feel he’s not fighting for me I’m DONE. Life is too short to waste.

My ex repeatedly tried to cheat on me after a whole year of dating. After a year of building him up, he got entitled (what's funny is that he never actually got any, haha). I finally broke up with him after SIX MONTHS of giving him chances and tolerating his treatment and, when a mutual friend and I started getting close, he pitched the biggest hissy fit. He was so mad that I almost immediately found someone better than him and it was a mutual friend of all people. A mutual friend who ditched him as well. Avoid ANYONE who just wants to see you miserable, y'all. Like. The. Plague.

I have nobody in my life like this. Its a blessing i cant relate to this anymore

It's biblical y'all...if u believed and u just truly didn't know why understand that in the Bible it talks about how a man can lay with u and give u children but absolutely hate u...when u start looking at life and reference the scripture im telling u u will learn from the fables that is there that is what they are....Leah and Rachel look it up 🙏🏽 but it's okay be strong 💪🏽keep going forward

When I started my business my ex would do little things to ruin my work. I would ask him for help with smaller things I would ask him to load the car he would leave some of the most important things. I started to realize I did a much better job alone than with help. That’s when I chose to leave. He wanted me to fail. He wanted me to just go to work be miserable and come back home to clean up after him. He hated that my business took my time. I would have never started my business if he had started one. I would have helped him with his. But he had no ambition. Always late on rent. Always playing his damn video games while I worked my ass off to go 50/50 😅. It was never 50/50. Maybe on the bills but never the labor at home.

Here's my experience. I wasn't dating the guy, but once I stopped giving him access to me, he started stalking and harassing me. He hacked into my phone and email. He was bashing me online with other people. He put my pictures on dating sites, pretending to be me. He even sent stuff to my address whenever he signed me up for something. He had people helping him stalk and harass me. All because i didnt want him in my life anymore.

45 seconds in I realized it’s not me he hates, it’s himself 😮‍💨

TheFirst Lady with the glasses, read us the new Declaration of Independence

U gone know when they hate u cause they ain't going to hide it

Word of advice: if he hates his mother or has an unhealthy relationship with her = he will also hate you/ or have an unhealthy relationship with you also

My ex use to bring up my achievement too. I got a summa cum laude bachelor's degree and had to hear about how I think I am better than everyone else. 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

I am in medical school and I just go into a Doctorate in Public Health program. I remember I got invited to celebrate my acceptance and a guy knowing i'm going to this celebration wanted to go out and I told him I couldn't because of the celebration and he literally told me, "its not like you're Oprah. continues to berate me." Then when I curse him out, he tells me, "you misunderstood me" when I tell you, the way I told this man his mom's greatest mistake was not swallowing him. Never talked to that man again

This would be even better if they showed pics of what the ex who hated them looked like, resume and social media posts so we can get a better sense of these type of men.

4:07 why grown women call women the "B" word? Yuuuk!!

I knew my ex hated me when we were friends with someone that was deleted. The deleted person's bf wrote this really heartfelt social media post about her. I asked him if that ever happened to me, what would you do. He said nothing. I'd would go to your memorial just because but don't expect anything else, no fb memorial, no picture collage. At that point, I was done 😒

Yeah. He do hate me. Ladies the only thing you can do yourself a favour is leave him.

I started a job 7/31/23 and was promoted a month later. He picks me up for lunch and I’m telling him the great news. Him: How’s your day? Me: I’m having a great day; y supervisor just recommended me for a promotion. Him: That would make anybody’s day great. No smile. No congratulations. No “wow, already?!” Just straight faced and like, duh. Never paid me any compliments. It was horrible because he never tried to hide it. And this was a guy a turned down for a date at least half a dozen times. I guess he showed me.

I never understood negging but I always saw it with couples so I figured it was a form of endearment. Glad to know that it didn’t sit right with me for a reason. That sarcasm is a passive aggressive means to insult the other person.

different guys .... same behavior .....note taken

Girly, I had a guy who ghosted me 3 years ago after a 2.5y relationship. He called me out of the blue last month because he was in my town, and wanted someone to hang out with. I was like, nah, boy 😅

Possessive. My x I just broke up with, may very well hate me for having boundaries. I had at least one x who flat out said he hates women over the dumbest triggers. For curmstances that could be in a man's life. Another one who displayed jealousy over a pretty woman who had a expensive bag going into a restaurant that he called cheap. Men may respect difficult women because they know. My recent guy tried to offer lots of help but turned around to complain about what he volunteered to do because I had nice nails. The same nails I had when we MET. YEP He disrespected me for asking questions like a normal person. Implied I sounded stupid. Didnt want to give a genuine apology. So I kindly left. He tried to offer to 'hang out' Issa Hell no for me.

13:06 "my type to the T" ... he didn't financially provide for u, but he took your time by staying on the phone for hours. 😢

I had an ex that held the biggest grudge for not meeting his (uninvited) dad & family on my birthday because my friends came over to my house to cheer me up from a medical issue I was having (allergic reaction). But I was the bad guy for not coming to speak while looking tore up 🙃🙃🙃 I told him he could go to he||.

I the 60s women used to go to each others houses to say how unhappy they were with marriage and other unfair things because of their sex. It was called an awareness group. So women who thought it was just them gas lighted told to put up shit up realised it was a universal issue and it started the 70s feminist activism of things like child support. unfair pay gap. And expectations in relationships marriage motherhood . These podcast are doing the same for women internationally , making women girls more aware more empowered snd want better in the now and future.

My dad has never liked my mom and I saw that since I was 9 years old. He would always down her. Yet use her. She worked double shifts to pay the bills for years. He was unemployed for a whole decade. Till this shes still married to him smh

Baby I had two of them like that. One told everyone he paid for a lot more than what he was paying for. He tried to ruin my bachelors degree graduation party and he was mad I didn’t give him credit for me finishing school. But he didn’t support me any of the way with it. The other was jealous when I got a promotion, when I got a new car and a new apartment. It was so weird.

Block + Delete! Why do you feel a need to keep any open lines of communication with abusive or narc exes?🤔🤔🤔

My ex came back a hater,well he was good the whole 3 years but when he came back and he saw hiw i fixed my house he came back hating me and tried to come back a 3rd time talking about having a baby and once i said i will still put him out belly and all,he left that baby shit alone and sadly we was so in love meaning,when we kissed we would get that rush,that shit was better than sex but his hate grew so strong for me that his love turned to hate cause he didn't have NOTHING but being with me he coukd of got anything he wanted,i wasn't buying it but im blessed so if you in my circle your gonna be blessed too cause in this house we get what we want and i thank god for that

I thank God for ALL of you. The strength that it’s took for you all to be honest in the truth is heroic. These are the things we have to face, it’s humbling hopefully 🤞 it’s an awakening because Everyone you date DOESNT ALWAYS CARE OR LIKE YOU. Every woman no matter what race or creed needs to know this. Thank you 🙏 for having the courage. You are definitely loved and appreciated ❤ thank you again ❤🙏

My thing is a man getting comfortable with just getting by. I choose to always want to better myself. I want a partner with that same mentality!

Girl this b so crazy must of them be DL ❤ healing..

The woman speaking at the start of the 15 minute mark, I can relate. I had a "best" friend during secondary school/college. We fell out many times - mainly because of her, for silly reasons but then I drew the line. When I finally turned my back on her toxic friendship, she used a mutual friend at the time, to pry for information about how well (or not) I was doing. Thankfully the mutual friend told me or I would never have known. Saw her in a completely different light after that.

My ex was extremely jealous of me he couldn't stand for his family members to compliment me and say nice things about me. He took a whole bunch of pride in seeing me depressed and struggling I grew tired and left his miserable ass ! Why should I want to be with a man who doesn't want to see me happy and successful nope not wasting my energy on dusties and lames anymore I'm done with that I deserve better ❤

18:38 More than likely she didn’t do anything, he just wanted to watch her hurt.

This is crazy my son‘s father offered to take our son for the summer so I can get a little more money possibly go to school and do a one week vacation to Alaska and this Wednesday. He called me claiming a mental health scare and to get our son by the time I’ve got my kid he mentioned leaving the states maybe going to Maine or Alaska and he don’t know if he’s ever coming back. Not to mention my cruise to Alaska is next month .Our son is 10 and the past five years. I’ve been fighting depression and anxiety, trying hard to get back to my natural state of mind and now he doesn’t want to be a parent anymore. He’s not on child support and I don’t keep our kid from him. and cuss me and my mom out yesterday. SMH I’m so unbothered all I can do is pray for the best and be the best I can for our kid. Because I don’t have time to argue or the energy to start one.

Even though I was shown (from the beginning) how my ex really felt about me, I ignored ALL of the flashing, red signs. But...one day...I asked GOD to help me see to clearly and for the strength to handle what I saw...and...HE gave me the backbone to walk away without any regrets.

Name and draw amino acids😂😂😂😂.

Yall are doing the Lord's work! Never stop speaking the truth! These games must stop with men bc real lives are being taken and affected.

I'm not friends with any exes and my last exes mom can't stand me because both of them couldnt control me 😂😂😂

But you know this is why I love the song green eyes, by Erykah Badu because it expresses the scope of emotions that comes with heartbreak, but she says "you can't be what I need you to, and I don't know why I f*** with you" like fr because after the guy locked me out on his birthday and all that he likes sweet talk to me and you know I was younger so I was like dumb like he was actually able to sweet talk me into hanging out with him after the way he was acting that day

I literally jst chuckled everytime I hear women talk about wat men are like because I’m like, ‘your ain’t got it, yet?

The lady at 3 -5 minutes 😂😂😂😂💀💀😭😭😅😅💀💀 😂😂

I’ve had exes that tried to call/text to ruin my healing but I changed the number. 😂 😜

U can't get the real love u need it's better to be single at least u can enjoy your life, your family and your children if u have them without having someone else control that...live be free if u need to because u only live once YOLO... 🤗

My ex-husband made a comment about the Tesla I got as a rental when I came back into town so my daughter could see her grandmother. Had the nerve to saw ‘Naaaw, I would NEVER get a Tesla, tuh, I’ll stick to MY truck!!’ Bruh, you’ve lived with your enabling mother since I put you out 10 years ago. Literally, Called me ‘big money’ when I took her to DR when she was 7….dude, go somewhere away from me😒

My kids dad waited until I gave birth to our oldest daughter to tell me he had a gf and they are about to move in together. I was literally breast feeding, it only had been 8 hours after delivery.

the girl in blue is right some people who are married long term is offen time is not very happy with each other but still married just because of the children or just scared for some reason to leave

So many gems in this video!! Sadly, I’ve experienced some of these situations

Omg listening to all this it’s like some of these ninjas need to just leave women alone & date each other 😂.

Yup. He hates me because he could not keep me broken and keep me and my kids available for his use and abuse. this is why hes using his position as a cop now trying to fucking take my kids from me right now!

The more a woman heals, the better quality men will approach them..... When you love yourself, men who are healed and ready to love you will be the ones who come to you and the ones you pick. The quality of men you attract and what you will even entertain changes drastically (speaking from experience ❤).

I cared for someone so much, and on my birthday I was invited to where this guy would be aka (a home/studio) This man made sure to have loud intercourse on my birthday for absolutely no reason. The most hurtful thing. Til this day, months later it still hurts. This is after escaping a dv relationship, only to meet a man who wants to humble me cause he saw I overcame that deadly obstacle. I’m no longer lying to myself about someone’s feelings towards me. Some men really get off on causing you some kind of anguish this same guy actually said he likes stealing women’s serenity

Another sign that he doesn't like you is when he starts throwing your insecurities in your face as a insult. I had an ex who started talking s*** about the way I looked physically the things he knew that made me so self conscious . He did this Infront of his whole family too

Protection Please 🧿🧿🧿🧿🧿

I've got the Queen at 2:36 on repeat!! Thank you so much💜🇨🇦

Very wise words from you at the end of the video. Thank you. Have a blessed day !

That woman at 1:37 is so right. When you have a man who is a good person and treats you right, that's when you truly see and understand the extent of shit all your previous experiences have been. I regret every man that has crossed my path on my way to my current partner. I wish I'd been wise enough to not even look their way. The way you heal when you are with a good man is truly remarkable. I wish that for all women.

Thank you for sharing your story!!! That’s so brave and I pray for your healing you are loved! ❤️ I just found your channel and I’m subscribing right now!

I am so sorry that you went through that I am so glad you're okay and that your guardian angels stay with you... That's so scary What scares me the most about the situation is that his family was there; any reminds me of what my ex-best friend was going through with her baby daddy, and like I'm glad she had a kid and children are blessings but before she got pregnant by him I told her about him- but he would hit her in front of the baby and in front of his family and his family would make excuses for him... I literally told her before we all the way fell out like they're the type of family that would help him hide your body like you need to stop looking at it like because that's his mom and grandma and sister on their girls like they're supposed to be on your side sure they're supposed to be but they're not And it's crazy because this story is probably supposed to be on the "when did you know your best friend hated you" but I remember I had a situationship with this guy when me and my best friend live together; but at that time she was engaged to a female. And this dude was like 6'5 or 6'6 he was so big but he was like trying to manhandle me in in the car, and I sat on his lap and I like punched him a few times in his face and then I jumped out the car ran up the stairs to the apartment so fast... And her fiance at the time thought it was so funny and it's like she always just took things the same way as her fiance, but try to act like nonchalant or like she was in the middle about it. When it comes to her baby daddy how much I protested about her talking to him and sleeping with him I think made her feel awkward about having a kid with him, also she's younger than me so it's like she had a kid and I didn't so she was kind of subtly like trying to play it off like I was jealous of her... But her favorite thing about her baby daddy before she had a baby was that "he had good hair" In her words and that itself irritated me very much like really his hair?

🥰💘💗 THANK YOU FOR SHARING ...TO ALL THE LADIES...