Freedom from a narcissist is like openning the curtains to a sunny day.

After years of not hearing from him, I got a call from an ex. He said he acknowledged he had been a lousy husband and father, praised my handling of raising our son on my own, and apologized for not having been there for my son and me. I had a feeling I knew what he was up to so I just listened and answered any questions with as little information as possible. Not long after, I read on his FB that he had broken up with his girlfriend and was moving in with a friend. Yeah, I dodged a bullet with that phone call.

If someone is trying to control you in a relationship that is not love it is just someone trying to control your life because they have no life of their own to control

They hurt you physically, mentally, and emotionally... Get out... Run!!!

Spot On! No one knows unless they've experienced the darkness.

When I divorced my ex I got physical custody of my sons..it was difficult to say the least..but we survived. I went from having everything to having nothing...I had to downsize.... No TV...No daily papers or magazines. I cut out any unnecessary things.. We had no entertainment fund... I received a pittance in child support..waited 4 months for the first payment and was never reimbursed..we rode bikes and collected aluminum cans..we went to the library and read books..checked out movies and videos..played games..I told the boys we were a team and they had to help while I worked. It was an education for me and them ...I had to learn to be handyman..plumber.. .mechanic..electrician and nurse..my kids are grown and married..they know how to survive and not to expect someone to take care of them ..they are self-sufficient and able to make it on their own.. .....I spent 10 years raising my children before remarrying...and I have never spent one second regretting it..

Make a plan to escape, but do so quietly. Don't give any indication you are planning something. Take your time and do what is best for you. Simply fade away. Keeps you safe and keeps you in control.

They also try to convince you they have memory problems so when they say something mean to you or do something horrible and you call them out on it then they can say “I don’t remember saying that or doing that.” True story.

I left my narc without plans. I did it on the spur of the moment. Never went back!!!

Everything this woman is saying is true. Narcissists are evil, evil people. I know, I was once married to a narcissist. It was Hell and Horrible to get away but I was able to break away so I could get my life together and start living a normal life.

You right they good actors in front of people they act like angel's but behind closed doors man they real evil

Once you are away, don't put anyone else on a pedestal. 🚩 That's what got you into trouble. Observe, and don't compromise even a little. Small compromises add up! Keep your boundaries.

Sometimes you got a fool the fool who think they fooling you 💯

I can sum this up in one sentence after 17 years of experience. "All hell breaks loose"👈👌 From Love Bombing one minute to Gaslighting 5 minutes later then narcissistic rage 2 minutes after that or until they get sympathy from their smear campaign and then simply pick A, B, or C rinse and repeat 😂

Smear campaign/ triangulation, harrassment and stalking, burglery... wash, rinse, repeat

I've been cussed out by many people, during my youth, for DISAGREEING with them. I don't know if they were narcissists or not, but these people would often spit out any kind of verbal insults or shaming tactics toward me for disagreeing with them, not doing what they asked me to do, or not going along with the group if I point out that they were doing something that would get us all into trouble. In spite of all the insults/shaming, I still stayed true to my values and the values taught to me by my parents. That's why I have few friends today.

That's exactly what he did to me....called my family/friends/people at church....turned our teenage children against me....told them huge lies behind my back, and he was doing a smear campaign for most of our 20 year relationship. You are exactly right about our children....and 22 years after I divorced him, my Adult Children still behave abusive to me with their Dad. For most of the past 22 years, I've done all kinds of kind, caring things for my daughter/her family....and she will run to her Dad and lie about me. She infact, is very Covert like her Dad is, and she returns Evil for all the good I do for her. She is 36 years old and she recently made up a new Rule for me: The Mother has to do what the kids tell her to do. I divorced her dad and remarried 12 years later to a very kind caring, considerate man. They are furious over that. We've been married 12 years, and my Daughter/Son and Ex...try to get between me and my husband. We bought a house and property on a mountain 800 miles from them. They are furious and don't want us to own this place. They've done every thing in the book to convince us, it's a bad idea. i tell her we love it here....and she gets so angry if I love anyone or anything that is not about her. My Son does Overt abuse....he's like a shark, you can see his fins, and he's destructive as can be....to a point where he will get so angry he destroys his own property also. 42 years of the Narc's abuse....NOW, I'M DONE. I don't know or care if I see my adult kids again. They are too much like their Narc Dad. Loving them is setting myself up for abuse....it only enables them.

My ex is a malignant covert narcissist. Six years after break up and no contact, he and his new supply that he married, right away, moved into my neighborhood that I’ve lived in for 27 years then they proceeded to tell her son who my son is at school so he could start targeting him. He’s a year older. Then he started showing up at our bus stop and that’s how I knew they moved into our neighborhood. I called the school and made them aware and they had the boys sign a no contact contract. One more move from them, and I’m putting a restraining order on them.

Oh my God! When they can't control you they will try to change other people's perception of you!! Wow so true. I have been thru this So Many times!! Even with my Own Father who is now 96. I do not let my son see him. I truly hope we as a society can help prevent narcissistic behavior by nurturing youth and teaching them young good relationship ways.

My mother always told me to sit back and observe 🙌

I wish I had heard this 2.5 years ago. I was dating a narcissist for 5 years and I couldn't imagine why everything was miserable. He told me almost everything Kim said verbatim. The only reason he doesn't contact me now is because I changed my number. I also called the police on him, so he knows I'll do it again. But what a detailed explanation of narcissistic behavior. God bless you Kim Saeed. 🙏

They own your entire life....and if you say "No"....they punish you for it. I've owned homes....and they decide they own it, and I don't.

I am a survivor of 6 years of narsistic abuse. It was not until I told my ex I no longer love him or want to be with him that he made his friends see me as the badguy before nearly beating me to death. If u know in ure heart u don't want to be with them make sure u leave before confronting them. I was on the road with my bags and battle wounds could not walk or do much for 3 weeks. Please if u are dealing with a narsisist get out of there. I watch the man who claimed he loved me try to kill me with a crowbar and hammer. I disconnected myself from him and everyone he knows traumatized by what he did to me and my life I have no friends damn near lost my whole family I had to nurse myself all alone 😢 and I'm a good person. To go through that kind of abuse and live through it shows u how strong u truly are and if I can survive it so can u. I'm learning to be happy again and to love myself. But k can't say it's easy but the power of will is amazing. I know I can't put myself in that situation ever again. Because there was no help for me. I had to help me.

Everything you say I believe totally. They steal lie and yell and mock you and smear your good name. Fear is the worst. Terrorizing you is their forte.

Oh brother, my son is a Narcissist and you described him to a “T” and he’s such a Fantastic “Actor”! NOBODY would believe he’s so Nasty, Manipulative and a Control Freak behind Closed Doors!! I’m So Grateful to have found you! Thank you for Clearly describing his Ugly, Fake relationship with me! Everyone thinks he’s So Fabulous yet he treats me with Utter Disrespect!😢😡

Everything you said she has recording devices in my houses tracking devices on my car called my pastor and told lies. A month ago she said she is going to ruin me She has threatened to call my HR department to let them know who works for them. It’s crazy!!!! Fortunately we have two houses in different states I’m in one and she is in the other. I put an order of protection against her here where I am staying. This seems to have slowed her garbage down. We have one son together and he is 20 and in Florida at college. I stuck this marriage out until my son left the house. She gets worse with age and blame everything on me. So freeing being away from this mentally Ill person.

I’m so grateful to have left the his nightmare situation. I was fortunate enough to not have had children with him. Make no mistake tho, I was completely wrecked after this experience: manipulated, exhausted, hurt, abused etc … One fine day, (after a reprehensible event), I calmly got up & exited/fled. I had hit the wall. What scares me (in hindsight) is I could have easily stayed (b/c I did not understand narcissism and many times believed he was doing his best). I was wildly mistaken. In that moment (when exiting) I did not believe he would ever change. That was the catalyst that propelled me out of there. It was the best decision of my life. I hope others find what they need to make their own best choice/s for themselves💙

Kim You are the best narcissistic coach that I've listened to!! I've learned a lot from watching your KZfaq channel because I experienced a narcissistic relationship that was tumultuous to say the least!!! To all your subscribers, take it from me and listen to Kim, You do not want to go back again!! I did the second time and it was the worst mistake of my life!! Move on to someone that values you and vice versa! The best experience that comes from a narcisstic relationship or any bad experience is a lesson well learned!! Like the old saying: Fool my once, shame on you!! Fool my twice, shame on me!!!

It's my one-year anniversary broken free from the narc, this video is accurate and it's amazing to me that I used to be in the middle of all that crap, feels like a lifetime ago. Thanks for the reminder of where I was and will never be again.

The best part of realizing the worst one, my eyes opened up and saw there were others in my life. Cutting the first 1 off made it easier to leave the others quietly.

This is spot on, don't be their emotional punching bag, observe don't absorb, make a plan to escape, stay grounded, they will try gas lighting you to try to make you think you're going crazy like I didn't do or say that, stay strong minded,if you half to write the things down, once you know you go you get out and you stay out 🙏🦋❤️

A narcissist will stay with one main supply, if that supply allows all the other things to go on. They prefer a main supply, with many side dishes.

I was on the receiving end on a female covert narcissist and the discard felt like experiencing the death of a loved one. I have been depressed, sad, sorrowful and whatever through different relationships I have been through. But the trauma bond and breakup and such is the worst agonizing emotional pain I have been through. Total and all encompassing sadness that is like a heavy blanket that was thrown over my entire daily experience day in and day out. It is simply some serious sick f'ing shite. My ruminating mind is awful, after they completely disengaged with me, I was the one who has felt OCD over them, but I am leaving them alone..

Sadly, this is my story word by word with my ex husband. I've struggled a lot trying to understand those ''soulless'' creatures but being a normal human being I couldn't. When I love, I love and if I don't I am out of there so just to think about all those mind games and character assassinations and my ex sending his ''flying monkeys'' after me was inconceivable to me... I know that narcissists never change and that helped me in aboundening that ship, Although I am an empathic and I can put myself in anyone shoes - I can not fathom being in the shoes of pure evil, that consciously goes around hurting people...I am free now but the scars I have from the narcissist will never heal...

God Bless all of you who are freeing yourselves from a narcissist. They were never good or kind enough to see what they had in you 🙏🏻

Your talking about my family, they are rotten to the core and now I'm on to all of them, so no they can never come back into my life..THANK YOU

This is insane, I’m living this right now. Thank you for defining things so clearly.

I am guilty of that Kim. I remember how charming and sweet he was to me. Those are the things that I remember the most about him. I just can't understand how someone can go from loving you as they claim to completely hating you. It hurts so badly and it really messes with your mind. (I started putting cameras around my house.) Thank you Kim for this video.

Great advice and wish I had known this stuff years ago. Now I have lost connection with my adult children as a result of the trauma of being abused by my ex over too many years. I have struggled with feeling a failure and have to work hard to keep from giving up. He said I would never win and no one would believe me over him. He silenced me and I was afraid to open up and tell my kids about the abuse. I felt he would tell them I was sick and deluded. He threatened to have me sectioned and it was deeply scary as he is in the medical world and had such power. I still keep silent out of fear. It’s a rotten way to live but I am safe now but still in pain over my kids and how they have suffered over the years too. Please listen to your instincts and if you feel someone is not giving you truth let them go. It’s not worth the pain.

They will hate with all of their forces and look for some way to harm you - without their name being ventilated, obviously. Can be one it more bad things they will do. They don’t know but they are evil and don’t accept to lose anything because they live competing with every one. Be extremely careful. Cut all ties.

I escaped my x in 2014-15 (finalized) He cried and lied to my family… it has put a wedge between me and my family because he manipulated his way into their minds. He is evil… I just want to left alone! And shame on my family for disrespecting ME!!! Anyways, how do these narcissistic people get this way? I don’t get it! Is this a curse passed down? Is it a childhood learned behavior? Both? I cried and pleaded with my family, if they actually cared about me they would honor what I want… I am happily re married and he has stood by my side… but I never understood where or how people got like my X…

Friends spouse did everything you have said before divorce, while spouse was in a new relationship! What’s interesting people around friend are noticing, and the lies are coming out, be patient, go no contact, if children involved be patient, and consistent, use only app for the communication, they are lying all the time, children don’t understand, keep everything simple, but truthful, and have a great support system! They can’t stand it when you grow strong!

More than three years after my ex left me and our boys, I visited my parents and my mother was still singing my ex’s praises. I had to tell her that the person she remembered no longer exists. I understand her point of view because it had been mine, but I learned his whole life is an act.

I thought I was an indentured servant. That's how I felt when married.

Every single thing you said is exactly what I am going through. I have been with this man for 47 years. I finally woke up thanks to a very smart doctor. I have been experimenting with information that I have learned from doctors as well as a book I am studying. After all these years I am finally gaining the upper hand. Thank you for validating the reasons for my actions. It’s quite rewarding after all these years. My health was starting to take the hit so I got help.

Yeah, my direct manager and one of my colleagues are like that. They r so nice in front of all ppl, but when they are with me alone, they are the opposite...

Wow, the example you used is 100% correct for as court cases and fake apologies. Yet I can say even though my lawyer was wack, she caught that and advocated parenting agreement first. Assets took over a year to settle. I took all debts because I couldn't pay the lawyer. and continue the fight. Yet he stop working through the process , to stop child support. He told my mother " I wouldn't make it without him". Honestly, she acted like she didnt even care " he said it " even though I struggled and continue too. I wish I had created an " exit plan" because he did a 360 when we were divorcing. I am raising my kids in a state where I had no family , it was hard when they were younger but I am making it through. Kim , your video's really educated me because I didnt know what that man was until I start watching your videos- 7 years ago. :) Much respect Shalom

It's difficult when children are involve and you are not financially independent things get tough. Thanks for your advice I'm always grateful to come across you on KZfaq because anytime I feel like there's no more strength to carry on your video pops up on my screen, you are my angel much love 💖🤩 Kim

Wow! When you said a relationship is reciprocal affection and support and the narcissist see's it as servitude that just rang home so true. I'm still trying to determine if my ex is in fact a narcissist but this was a big tick.Thank you.

Spot on! He first apologized then this week emailed me repeatedly flipping events around completely. He then started calling me names because I told him he needs to pay all the money he stole from my family.

This is all so true. My ex alienated my kids as he couldn’t control me anymore. They are quite evil. Everything is about them not healthy relationships. They are extremely spiteful individuals

Thank you! 23 years and 4 children later I left the husband/narcissist. He is now 67 and still sees his world through 14 years old eyes. We still see each other for birthdays and holidays to play “happy family”. We finally have pretty good boundaries. I’ve been in therapy off and on for many years to become independent. Best to those of you who are tolerating relationships with a narcissist.

Thank you for the videos ! It reminds me how important it is to stay away from my ex narcissist . He definitely tried to control all aspects of my life and almost crushed me financially! He contacted all of my friends and family to try and sabotage me . It has taken years of counselling and my counsellor having to remind me regularly that I was abused by him and that he is a narcissist. The counsellor also always reminds me that my ex cannot be in a healthy relationship. I gave and gave and to my ex whatever I did , wasn’t enough . It’s been a long road to recovery and healing and I know I will never have another relationship as I’m so scared that I will bring another narcissist into my home , life and family and that cannot happen . I won’t live through the abuse again

Mine escalated to attempted murder after l left him , while still in the relationship he cut locked gate and let my horses out on to motorway and busy traffic, then quietly sat at dinner eating what l had made for him , as if nothing had happened, he did this twice , to try to hurt me . As well as trying to run me over and while out hill climbing said you could fall off here no one would know , everything you said about them is so true , thanks for such a great video, Gabrielle

They discard and get rid of you right away

This is very real,they are sick, I am applying gray rock,towards my manager and it's working but they are super nasty. Very real video. She's now acting like the victim 😂😂I hope she finds new supply. The drama and smear campaigns are crazy. But I am finding my strength.just praying for a new job to move on while I am still safe.

I left a narcissist after 29 years. Three weeks later he hung him self. In those 3 weeks before he died he went to everyone that knew us and accused me of things that were total lies. Plus he constantly called me and threatened to put me in jail.

MOST NARCISSISTS IN MY LIFE ARE ELDER RELATIVES

It's crazy how uniform the behavior of most narcissists is when it comes to this stuff.

They rob your house when you quit giving them money and they stalk you

I have to make decisions about contact with a child narcissistic tendencies as grandchildren are involved. As much as I would miss them dearly, I may have to take care of me first

Everything you shared, I went through 15 years of it. Separated 2 years now and healing. Thank you, for sharing.

How does a man that has finally broke free from years of this abuse, find a new relationship that will be real, and not let this happen to him again? How do you really know you can trust someone? That's the million dollar question for me now! (Metaphorically speaking).

Yes, that is what my narcissist ex did. He came to my house and took purposely set of vase and ashtray my mom bought for me when we shopped together before my wedding. It has a sentimental value for me and he knows. 😢

This is SO TRUE! My father is a vulnerable narcissist. When I came to this realization and I slowly started to distance myself from him. He launched a smear campaign with any member of the family who will listen to him 😢

He has never hoovered or attempted to contact me after his discards. Sure he's been smearing me. It's done and over. Has a lot of narcissistic tendencies but may or may not be a full narcissist! He's still very toxic & I experienced narc abuse and everything else. I no longer care. Am trying to move on with my life.

100% my experience having recently divorced my ex. Every bit of it. They are truly the worst kind of people

The ex narc did most of the things you mentioned. We were about to go to court and after ghosting me and being disrespectful towards me, he started communicating again and even sent me a small amount of money towards what he owed me. He most likely thought that I would drop the case. I played along with him, but I went to court. He didn’t show up and I won, but he hasn’t paid another cent back to me. He’s also tried to ruin my reputation and vandalized my car.

This is a great video! My sister is a narcissist. To long a story for here but she is very calculating and manipulative! Other people think she sweet! 🤣 She also uses intimidation and fear on me. Thanks to therapy and many videos like Kim’s I am better equipped with how to respond or not respond and she is getting worse! Thanks to this video I know why! Thank you Kim! I will stay strong! Hope this helps others! 👍🏼

My break-up with my ex was actually really peaceful considering I was expecting the worst. Even though it was peaceful, I watched him go through a really bizarre meltdown at the end. There were some things he'd said to me months earlier and insisted at the time that he wasn't joking. All of the sudden he was apologizing for what he said and saying he was only kidding. I'd never even brought it up as an issue since I'd been planning my escape for two years by that point. He said he'd help me move out but on moving day he sat there being all surly. When I said something about it he insisted I never told him what date I was moving out even though I mentioned it several times. He swore up and down that he'd never date anyone again (I didn't care) but he married someone else not even a year later (we were together 15 years and never married). I'm glad we didn't have children together.

Nothing is your fault nothing at all they been doing it before and going to be doing it after you it's all a game 🎯 to them that's why they have their family and friends watching this is the new victim 💯

my narc kept coming to my door or calling to talk for hours (I only did to disarm the situation) crying his crocodile eyes out, only to return home to his mistress to talk about when they were going to get married--this went on for MONTHS--more than half a year. there are too many of these evil ones!!

I was raised by two narcs...I grew up so helpless and looked for somebody to save me from them but no one showed up...Even my father didn't protect me from them...I suspect my grandmother was also a narc....

Enlightening content from the first word to the last! Thank you so much for helping us to think through the narcissist’s bag of devastating tricks so we can defend ourselves against these highly toxic people. Looks like we basically shouldn't have high hopes for being happy in a romantic relationship or in a marriage. Failure and misery seem inevitable as these narcissistic types seem to be everywhere.

Before I left our home he took my financials and special docs, including the key to the home. He uses our children against me....even now with money and inheritance. I cant compete so I dont. I will eventually be left alone which was what he wants....but its not what I will do

That's not just partnerships but also in family relationships......I'm dealing with this with my siblings for years!!! And now they are cut off forever!!!

Thanks for the Educational podcast on Narcissism and Narcissistic Abuse Manipulation Mind Games and tactics used by Narcissists I have set boundaries and I was Married to a Covert Narcissist and worked for a Malignant Grandios Narcissistic Construction Company and was wrongfully terminated and went through a Divorce at the same time and my retirement plan was the same amount as our current credit card debt and I am retired from the Construction industry and their is no contact with anyone including my daughters I have texted my daughters information on Narcissism and Narcissistic Abuse Manipulation Mind Games and tactics and they are old enough to make choices and understand what's going on and I have been through the smear campaign and I am educated now on how to deal with Narcissists and I wasn't before I didn't know anything about Narcissism until I went through everything basically Isolated from everyone and that's okay with me they are all Narcissists and my daughters will have to make decisions on their own they are adults now I have to remain single and independent and decide what I am going to for my future. GOD-BLESS.

What's weird is narcissists are always trying to hold on to their "relationships". Nobody in this thread has said "the narcissist put me out or left". Not suggesting anyone stay in a warped situation in order to find out; but narcissism sounds like a symptom of child hood trauma--maybe abandonment

When you recommend therapy for children or people dealing with narcissists please don't forget to mention that the therapist they choose NEEDS TO fully understand and be fully aware of whatever kind of narcissistic personality disorder that the person they're dealing with has. For example, are they covert? This is completely different. Recommending counseling without this is only going to cause more problems, since the therapist most likely will have no idea on how these people operate, the games, the sadistic behavior etc. And it will only cause more harm. Please make sure to tell people this every single time that you mention this. Most covert narcissists look at therapy as a good thing, because they can hide behind the mask they first used to win you over and most likely you'll end up looking like the one with a problem.

@Kim Saeed THANK YOU for this video. You have shone a light into the darkness & I can't imagine anyone not being helped by your insights. Bless you & all you do. One:LOVE.

The less they and their enablers know about you the better. Decrease your attackable surfaces and bolster your defenses both physically and mentally.

Don't have any friends he never allowed me to have friends

I was so blinded by a married man. Who was a gas lighter and liar! I found him out and called the police, he was stalking me. God pity his next woman! He was a complete waste of time!!

Oh yep…. Hoovered… and pillaged, discarded, all the tricks I learnt post abuse. Some other poor lady is now living the same dream. Danger and evil is behind the mask 💔

Thank you so much! YOU explain everything to clear, calm & you gave me strength. I have SO much to say, you are AWESOME I understood so much. God bless you & your family

Great content. Thanks for providing more clarity about what I experienced for years. When my ex-wife (a Covert Narcissist) left me in 2018, she exited by way of a very brutal smear campaign. Left me isolated and alone. It has taken 5 years to get my head to clear up after doing some serious recovering and healing work on my part. It’s still baffling that I got so entangled with a two tornadoes for 32 years (her & her toxic narcissistic mother). Her smear campaign did some serious damage to all of my relationships; I had to grieve the loss of all of my friendships that turned out to be fake; apparently, all of the flying monkeys took her side. This was a difficult journey to heal from; she tried to wipe me out financially in every way. She made sure our 3 adult children supported her. I have not seen them for 5 years. It turns out that she started grooming them when they were young to see me as a father who did not love or care for them. Sucks! I did my best to take care of them. They saw her in action during their childhood years, yet they see me as the pariah. I found out that she would do counter-parenting every time I parented our children properly. Made life difficult for them, since I tried to guide them and teach them properly. She encouraged them to do things that did not make sense, such as drinking alcohol underage (she let them drink when I was not around), she encouraged them to engaging in underage sexual behavior, and other things. This left me being the heavy weight all the time, since I sought to correct their misbehavior. She seemed not to care about the damage she caused to each child. Yet, they seem to support her and see her as a “good” mother. *******

Kim the advice you give can also be applied to probate situations, especially where the Narc becomes the Executor. So everyone remain aware! And thank you so much for your information!

‘Friends’ too…..

You are so spot on. My twin brother was a N.He would come into my house while I was at work and take things. He had to be always in control of me.

I do wonder if a poltergeist is a Narcissist that's died .

This was my ex-husband. He used manipulation & control tactics to divide/separate me from family & friends. Lied to everyone about me saying things about me when he was actually the one doing them. I took the fall for him soooo many times throughout the years, I’ve lost count. It was his idea to get a divorce to “get a clean start over” but told everyone it was me who wanted a divorce. The day after our divorce on a Monday, he asked me for $5,000 for a truck down payment because, after all, we’re getting back together… and his current truck is falling apart. I like a fool, believed him because we’d already been together 36 years & married 32 years & wanted to believe him that we were “starting over”. He made plans to meet the next day on Tuesday to get the $5000 & then to go to a dinner date on Thursday to start our new life. Well Thursday morning he called to say he decided he was going to keep his girlfriend instead. 🤢😳😡 I was stunned. I’d been told for a long time about his affairs & dalliances but didn’t want to believe them - including my friends & and my really young granddaughter who’d been with him overnight with him at his girlfriend’s house. But his first admittance to me was when he came to visit me before our divorce & brought an overnight bag for the weekend. I asked if he was still sleeping with that woman. His answer “Yes. After all I’m just a man. Why do you have a problem that I have a wife & a girlfriend?” To this date, he hasn’t abided by the divorce decree: still hasn’t split his 401K, didn’t pay the credit cards that were his responsibility, pay our son’s school loan. I didn’t even know our house was on the market much less sold until the title company called telling me they needed my signature. When I refused because I didn’t know anything about anything about any of it, within a few minute, one of daughters called me to say “If you don’t sign those documents & give dad all the money, you’ll never see your grandkids again.” Being bullied by not only my husband, but now being bullied by my children too, I signed the documents. 😵‍💫😩😭 Since then even still, I saw a post on Facebook about how excited my kids were about their dad writing & self-publishing a book on Amazon. I thought “What?” Sure enough, it was MY book that I gathered all the stories & testimonials on, he & I discussed the title & who we might ask for their testimonies. But it was ME who DID ALL THE WORK!!!!’ And when I found the book, he had take my name off of it plus taken my own testimonies out of my book. And then claimed the book as his. He’s a major liar, cheater, thief, master manipulator, player. He looks & acts like boy next door. But he set me up to stab me in the back every single chance he got! The first 10 or so years were very very good. But after our oldest child got about 10, our private behind closed doors life became anything but.

He constantly changed what ever he could change.A different car or if we move he could be happy.He was always chasing happiness but never getting there.I could not let him know if I had friends.The worse he called my boss and asked him if he could help with getting me into a facility as I had mental health issues.If I left him he would hurt anyone who helped me.So with a three yr old and 7yr old we were in a shelter.I was lucky I had a good job as I was going to need it just try to get money from him.This was 35 yrs ago and I have a good husband and life.But some thing set me off as I had terrible night mares running scared and trying to get to my husband for safety.It lasted for two yrs and just like it stated it stopped.Why did I end up with a mentally abusive person.It was the way my family treated me.So it was familiar.

Description of my neighbors to a tee. After my family figured out what they were doing now we are dealing with malicious attacks on our property and actually having a hacker living with them to try and to make our life hell. Police know and we are working on getting their old butts thrown in prison. I'm so over them

My babymother ran off with my daughter 5 years ago. She turned her against me I had to blocked them both, gotta protect my peace it was driving me insane

Exactly exactly! Word by word ! Is horrible situations with a Narcissistic personality!

Mine started getting physically abusive pushing and shoving. I'm 5'1". He was 6'2"

Miss Saeed, thank you for all you do for others who have been affected by this disorder. I was the scapegoated blacksheep. I have many narc tendencies. Always a work in progress. God bless you, your channel, and all of your wonderful subscribers. I am now one. Hope everyone reading this is happy, loved, and thriving today. Happy Memorial Day weekend. Also...Thank you and God bless EVERY woman and man who serves/served our once-great nation. Including those that put on a uniform and/or badge and lay their lives on the line for the rest of us and the communities we reside in. Sorry I rambled. Love you ALL💜☺🙏👍

Kim you are beautiful inside and out. Your videos have helped me so much over 2years. Its truly helped me understand what the mother of my children actually is. I'm slowly taking my life back and thank you for all the information you've put out. Keep it up plz

Thank you....your Video is very helpful.

You most definitely right