when you don't feel like yourself: 20something

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4 жыл бұрын

I'm not sure if I'm qualified to give advice but here it is.
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@jepswashere 4 жыл бұрын

Exactly what i needed as a 22 year old who has no idea what shes doing in life. Thanks for your constant authenticity.

@Jenny-wn9dr 4 жыл бұрын

jesstbeauty same 🙏🏻🖤

@ElenaTaber 4 жыл бұрын

Damn I needed this. I'm holding onto that idea of magnetism and confidence!

@isabella76591 4 жыл бұрын

I can relate to this so much. I am 23, and I have been struggling with my confidence here recently. I moved to a new city where I didn't know anyone six months ago, and I haven't felt like myself since the move. I don't dress like me. I don't talk like me. I don't act like me. I feel like a shell of the fun, confident person I used to be. I have been going to therapy to help with it, and it has been helping a lot. Also, for body images issues, I recommend the book Beyond Beautiful. Saw it on Kat Blaque's bookshelf and picked it up. It is really good.

@clodaghsullivan 4 жыл бұрын

I can relate to you alot its scary! I'm also 23 moved to a different city were I know nobody and have been struggling with confidence and feeling like a shell of myself too since the move too! I wonder why that is though?

@juliejane1080 4 жыл бұрын

I am relating a lot, 23 and moved to another country for a study exchange, since my friends are gone my self confidence has been very low Hold on to yourselves

@isabella76591 4 жыл бұрын

@@clodaghsullivan I don't know about you, but, when one thing goes wrong, I tend to spiral. I just graduated from college and moved for work. I was having trouble with some of my male co-workers, and I didn't have any friends. Then, all these insecurities I have worked so hard over the last couple of years to get over start popping up again. Life transitions are hard, and sometimes you don't have the right skills to cope with them.

@isabella76591 4 жыл бұрын

@@clodaghsullivan I hope you get your confidence back and make new friends. ❤️

@isabella76591 4 жыл бұрын

@@juliejane1080 That's so brave to move to a whole other country. Be proud of yourself. Hope you make new friends and start feeling more like yourself again. ❤️

@madelineweale3390 4 жыл бұрын

you need to make a podcast ahhh!!!!!!!!!!

@natalieberry5695 4 жыл бұрын

Such a small thing, but I was so touched to hear you mention it: I’ve lived in the city for 8 months now, and I trip on subway stairs all the damn time. But I remember one night shortly after moving here I was coming home late and tripped going up the stairs at Union Square. My stuff went everywhere and nobody helped me. I felt so embarrassed and cried the rest of the way home. It broke me. Now, when I trip, it’s no big deal. It’s a tiny way of knowing that I’m becoming more resilient. I’m glad you also mentioned it.

@annabellegao 4 жыл бұрын

i loved this video, thank you, and also the cozy atmosphere is ✨🥰

@anniehagstrom2364 4 жыл бұрын

This is exactly what I needed tonight. Just a real discussion about being unsure sometimes...about life and everything that it entails. Thank you so much! You're not alone, and I feel better knowing I'm not alone.

@TeeshJay 4 жыл бұрын

damn so crazy to hear you have insecurities because you are definitely that Girl i look to as having that “magnetism” always so in awe of you and whenever i need inspo i watch your vids!!! i’m so happy to hear you can work through these emotions in such a productive and healthy way!!

@nico-ln4nr 4 жыл бұрын

yes!! let’s normalize not always being at our best! the path to happiness is not linear❤️ accepting the process helps you use it to your advantage

@florilegiasagrada 4 жыл бұрын

Sadly the world we live in is very competitive, in every way. If we are not competing on our grades at class we are doing it in our skills, works, aesthetic, body types, sports, etc. In order to live in peace we have to stop comparing ourselves with one another (or one self). Listening to what you are saying reminded me of Humberto Maturana, I recommend you to read him. Thank you for your honesty and I hope you continue to grow on your path in life and acquire peace, love and happiness. Hope you are well. Love and light for you.

@Androgynary 4 жыл бұрын

I love this idea of shifting your mindset from jealousy to appreciation. I’ve been struggling with feelings of comparing myself to my peers HARD this past year. Need to get over it cus it feels gross & icky 😔

@sinasophia2401 4 жыл бұрын

Everything you know about yourself is just a blief you have in your head. When you have insecurities and feelings that youre not enough in certain aspects I always find it really helpful to think about where this is coming from. Were not born with beliefs so there is a root for everything. You will often find that people or situations treated you a certain way and you took that treatment or mind set into yourself and keep repeating and thus realising it again over and over

@shannonbv13 4 жыл бұрын

Always bringing the content we need 💚 Hope you feel better soon.

@oliviapalomo2448 4 жыл бұрын

It’s crazy how much I related to this!! I had been feeling kind of meh lately which is weird because I’m generally confident and passionate in what I do, but for some reason anxiety and intimidation has been at the back of my mind. I’m thankful that you advised acknowledging what is wrong. I’ve been pushing it away instead of confronting these insecurities. I feel a change coming!!

@c_a_h_1_1 4 жыл бұрын

Jenny, you touched on a lot of feelings I’ve been having lately, especially the part about public speaking. Really appreciate you sharing, as always!

@lizaanderson7779 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for this! These are my favorite videos to watch on YT and probably the most underrated genre. I also have a ton of these angsty 20's thoughts/enlightening realizations. It's something I'm really into right now, just trying to observe myself and my thought patterns, and I love hearing other people's!

@ajoccasionally 4 жыл бұрын

I loooooove this video!!! I feel like I found your channel at the perfect time, when I was beginning to dive deeper into shifting my ways of thinking/perspective and being intentional with my time. Thanks so much for sharing!

@meghayman8211 4 жыл бұрын

really cool analogies about realising if you know yourself and know your shit that confidence will come naturally. love u Jenny x

@shelbycooper1555 4 жыл бұрын

this came at the perfect time, thank you jenny. right there with you on so much of this, thank you for your perspective!

@BiancaGregorio03 4 жыл бұрын

I can relate so much to the panel situation and feeling like everyone there with me is so much more accomplished and that I don't deserve to be up there with them so thank you for those words of comfort that I will definitely be keeping in mind to lessen my nerves whenever I get the chance to speak again :)

@bjarteylif9338 4 жыл бұрын

such a good video for the point im at in life, thank you jenny ♡

@brennahickman2513 4 жыл бұрын

You’re so wise beyond your years! Such a beautiful soul ♥️

@mealover4 4 жыл бұрын

jenny time of the week is the best time of the week! i've got a tea & dark chocolate to enjoy alongside this video. much love, jenny! xx

@MissMuffin446 4 жыл бұрын

this showed up in my recommended as if youtube knows i've been having a massive identity crisis the last couple of weeks. I love how you word the things that I've been feeling lately as well, and it's weird to find myself back in a place (confidence wise) that i thought i had left behind, feels like going backwards. But it's a relief to realise that probably all twenty somethings struggle with this.

@shielamariejara9087 4 жыл бұрын

Love this girl sm!

@saraybarra2017 4 жыл бұрын

Absolutely stunning, Jenny. Such a beautiful soul, from the inside out... so emotionally intelligent too! You word your thoughts and feelings in such an elegant manner! ♥️♥️♥️

@wernerpeyton 4 жыл бұрын

your hair looks so pretty always! love your vids💞

@oliviawinck723 4 жыл бұрын

I watch your vids religiously & this one is by far a new favorite. I am about to turn 20 and feel these swings of emotions all the time... you really help me through the tough times!! Thank you

@abg77654 4 жыл бұрын

I’m also sick (again)!! Ty for sharing, I love videos like these + hearing it from other ppl

@bee4524 4 жыл бұрын

4:09 Omg that is SUCH a good description! I felt like that for the last years. I always felt I was behaving differently depending on the people I was hanging out with.

@maritbuffington1186 4 жыл бұрын

exactly what I needed to hear🥺 you amaze me with your words and wisdom. love love love

@chelseajardon2619 4 жыл бұрын

Jenny!!! This video was so wonderful and made me feel so much calmer. You touched on so many little things I've been thinking about lately and this was just so helpful and makes me want to be kinder to myself.

@julyudron 4 жыл бұрын

so cozy! feel better soon Jenny!

@Sofiavilalva 4 жыл бұрын

This was very helpful to me! Also your skin is glowing and I'm rooting for you to grow and blossom!!

@jellorocks218 4 жыл бұрын

i am so thankful that you share this stuff jenny! you are a wonderful example. happy monday

@ClaudiaRabbitHeart 4 жыл бұрын

wow that presentation comparison made so much sense. ty for making this video.

@yforevah08 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for making this video. I relate to this a lot, especially when it comes to feeling like I’m not enough in all aspects of me. I used to be so much more confident in high school and now in college, I feel like I’m in a self-love slump. This helped a lot, and the knowledge of someone going through the same thing comforts me xoxo

@hereforever23598 4 жыл бұрын

I feel like so many of us are going through this right now and it feels so comforting to know that I’m not alone. Thank you

@meghendy 4 жыл бұрын

I feel like I need to rewatch this video and take actual notes!! you made so many good points that hit something in me x

@anikal5494 4 жыл бұрын

i feel so connected to you! thank you for this x

@luanmo865 4 жыл бұрын

I learn so much from you Jenny, and i feel like with this videos you are doing so much good and letting us know a bit of you

@Hannah-vz9pz 4 жыл бұрын

Going back on some of your videos that I've missed and yess so grateful for content like this

@ahenry7407 4 жыл бұрын

You videos are always so beautiful and helpful Jenny. I experience so much of what you were talking about and it feels really good to see someone on a powerful platform like youtube preaching about the things that we all go through in the day to day. And the things that we often feel ashamed to address and talk about. I love your channel!! Please never change who you are:)

@elissamirinda3351 4 жыл бұрын

I think this video came at such a perfect time for me, like most of your videos do honestly. Forever grateful for your honesty, openness and vulnerability when creating content like this. Thank you so much Jenny ✨💖

@alessiat2202 4 жыл бұрын

I've recently been struggling with the exact same notions, and I just found this video. I just want to say, from the moment you started speaking, you immediately sparked something in me. Your magnetism is inspiring so many people!

@lexihurdon501 4 жыл бұрын

Oh my lord the part about your inner ego thoughts resonates so much with me just what I needed to hear thankyou!!!

@i123456987654 4 жыл бұрын

we feel you jenny...i think that this is just a phase and this feeling will definitely pass...let's hang in there and live every day to the fullest...carpe diem jenny...carpe diem

@samtennant6681 4 жыл бұрын

purchased all three books from thriftbooks to read during these extraordinary times

@805HOTNESS 4 жыл бұрын

It couldn’t of been better explained! thank you Jenny! 💌

@Unklekrackerfan 4 жыл бұрын

The lighting is perfect

@Jenny-wn9dr 4 жыл бұрын

This so good! Thank you so much ❤️ Really needed this

@willa_clare_truby 4 жыл бұрын

thank you for your authenticity

@stephanieoduardo740 4 жыл бұрын

I love these talks

@free-palestine000 4 жыл бұрын

This was so helpful and exactly what I’ve been trying to work on with myself but haven’t been able to fully understand the reason why I’m like this or why I constantly compare myself. This really helped tysm. New subcriber!!!

@sophiamiso621 4 жыл бұрын

Jenny!!!! This was such a nice lil talk that I’ve been NEEDING to hear. Also so sorry you’re sick girl!!!! Thieves essential oil is a game changer when you’re sick. Literally rub on your feet or drink in a tea and you won’t be sick anymore. being sick for a long time suuuucks

@andrewheffelfinger3769 3 жыл бұрын

I love how real you are and open and honest. True healing comes when we’re vulnerable. Vulnerability is a strength. You have such beautiful character.

@Jenny-wn9dr 4 жыл бұрын

People who recommend books and podcasts are the best ❤️

@stephaniem4676 4 жыл бұрын

this is exactly what i needed! i was really lost & this video really helped me feel normal with these feelings. i would definitely love a screenshot of the notes on a blog post!

@yasminjohn6861 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video ❤️ it came exactly when I needed it

@rae3356 4 жыл бұрын

Love you! Just journaled while watching and listening to this

@kaylaperez862 4 жыл бұрын

I really needed this , thank you 💞

@alicecreed3987 4 жыл бұрын

Exactly what I needed to hear right at this moment

@lindaleonzini4851 4 жыл бұрын

this video helped me a whole lot, thank you for making it and wanting to share your view

@icecreamforawesome 4 жыл бұрын

i love you!

@sammmiii13 4 жыл бұрын

Love what you said re: feeling like an imposter in lieu of being asked to speak on the panel. My friend said to me (and it’s really started to resonate with me), “people don’t pick you to do something in the hopes that you’ll be able to do it, people pick you KNOWING that you’re capable of doing it” and that just totally shifted a lot for me! Love this content!

@TinyAcorn 4 жыл бұрын

Such a great video and loved all your points! ❤️

@maisyj6154 4 жыл бұрын

I needed this video. Thank you so much!

@AbigailChristina 4 жыл бұрын

this is such a cute set up! i love this :))

@theferneyes6722 4 жыл бұрын

this video is so helpful, thank u 🧡

@GLORIOUSGLORY_ 4 жыл бұрын

really needed this.

@lauramarazzi1012 4 жыл бұрын

Love this so much! Thanks for sharing!

@christineesparza5417 4 жыл бұрын

I love this so much. For all my beautiful 20 somethings, coming from a freshly new 30 year old i still continue to feel this way at times. Confidence is a rollercoaster.. sometimes you feel on your A game and some days i’m like fuck i need to get my shit together. Im starting to find the process beautiful. When i feel confident, its such an amazing feeling but when I’m feeling low and not so confident its typically during a transition/growing period in my life. I never want to fully have it together and that is totally okay to accept. So much love for all your girls taking the punch from this thing called life ❤️

@Notesofcitrus 4 жыл бұрын

what the heck Jenny!!! I swear to god i literally just booked a therapist appt to talk about getting my confidence back and then you post this!!!!! perfect timing aaaaahhhh

@isabella76591 4 жыл бұрын

I'm also going to therapy for this. Hope your appointment goes well. ❤️

@lauravillalobos6436 4 жыл бұрын

Words of wisdom! thank you for sharing this, wish you always the best x Ps: i loveeee the setting, i feel cozy

@blairdarrah7477 4 жыл бұрын

Yes please post the paper!!! Love you

@sofiayagues1061 4 жыл бұрын

Love how unique you are.

@juliachn635 4 жыл бұрын

I'M DRUNK AT 2:27PM EATING TOAST WITH BERRIES BANANAS NUTELLA AND PEANUT BUTTER, JENNY I NEED THIS , THANK YOIU.

@Cris-xf4pg 4 жыл бұрын

I have always struggled with confidence really, and I wanna work on it so I can feel more at peace with myself when I'm with people or when I'm doing or trying things. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts! Definitely advice I will follow (tho it'll be hard)

@apizza7332 4 жыл бұрын

You should do a podcast! Love listening to you x

@sofiat5966 4 жыл бұрын

I’ve been living in NYC for 4 years now and it’s crazy how living in the city has affected my anxiety. It almost is like you’re apart of the crowd of people rather than standing apart from it. You really realize how little of a shit people give, like when you see someone doing drag in the moving subway car in 7 inch heels, or the same guy walking his pig in the east village more times than you can count

@smilelike 4 жыл бұрын

Love this. Not sure if you've heard of this podcast: Unf*ck your brain. It touches on some of the points you made about reshaping your thoughts about social anxiety for public speaking and managing the need for validation, it's all about changing the way you think. Thoughts cause feelings!

@tonizad123 4 жыл бұрын

Love this!

@Caprese1212 4 жыл бұрын

Been going through a slump this winter too. I had a similar uptick in my late teens/early 20s in not caring so much about how I was being perceived and just generally being content in my choices and self. But now at 23 I've nosedived into being very unsure of myself, what I want and who I want to be, feeling that ground I had slowly and confidently built just completely fall away. It's reassuring that a lot of others, especially in a similar life stage as me (early 20s), are working through similar feelings. We will learn and we will see things anew.

@aggelinal6924 4 жыл бұрын

This is a mood.

@elenagall1493 4 жыл бұрын

just a piece of a puzzle - so important!!

@contentenough 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for posting this video. It really helped me because today I was really dealing with my self-confidence. I keep calling my self too dumb and stupid to even go to college if I could not even understand some material from Ap Biology. This is one of the biggest things I deal with constantly of not feeling smart enough and everyone around me is getting accepted to prestigious universities. It just adds up for me and this probably has a bunch of grammar errors but thanks for posting this video anyways.

@stephanyortegaferrrer229 4 жыл бұрын

I believe all our life , there will be moments when we won't feel as our selves or our better versions and that's OK . It's just a phase that help us find what moves us or what's is our purpose in life. Enjoy that too cause its part of the whole experience of living.

@cocobean3750 4 жыл бұрын

I’m sad but this is making me feel better thanks Jenny I can’t get out of this rut and idk what I’m going to do with myself :( but ily!

@christopherchristopher2795 4 жыл бұрын

Literally 24 seconds after you posted this lol, why do I feel like I just won

@Jenny-wn9dr 4 жыл бұрын

Christopher Christopher lol

@durimehoxha 4 жыл бұрын

I stopped the video at 2:22 just to say how nice it is to talk and express yourself....;) loveeee

@iratimartinez8430 4 жыл бұрын

Hello Jenny! I truly recomend you the StyleLikeYou KZfaq channel! It helped me a loooot with my self confidence! Love your channel btw, you are inspiring ☺️ regards from Madrid 👋🏼👋🏼

@ginapepitone6958 4 жыл бұрын

Jenny!! My friend lyla and I are obsessed with you

@soujanyageddam 4 жыл бұрын

God bless this channel 💕‼️🥰

@LandoftheIn-Between 4 жыл бұрын

The collective conscious...damn. Been having the same realizations. Thank you for sharing this 🙏🏼🤗👁

@anyadoan5469 4 жыл бұрын

Omg i love you so much thank you

@amyloucanning 4 жыл бұрын

this was exactly what i needed rn :(

@madisunflowerr 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you, my thoughts and experiences lately too

@user-jz3kn2yc2r 4 жыл бұрын

So good!

@franziskadodl6601 4 жыл бұрын

Ufff, 20s are tough aren't they? I'm close to 26 and I honestly thought I'd have my shit more figured out by now. Thanks for making me feel less alone in this.

@Mariam-eb8lh 4 жыл бұрын

I needed this so much so so much but still i can’t help but feel really really scared about what’s to come next.. I’m turning 18 soon and I’m also graduating and these are probably the hardest things i’ve done by myself :(( and my mind is like: if these things are hard for you and make u feel THIS anxious then what will happen when you move out of your house and go to university and grow up and and and.... soo i feel that this cycle of me not exactly overcoming hardships but losing it will never break and i’m gonna be miserable most of the time most of my life... and i really don’t want to be like that but i can’t help🙄 i know that it’s normal to feel like that but it’s so hard so so so so hard. i don’t know i wrote this but still... thank you for sharing your experience with us💖🙇‍♀️