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What do you do if you're stuck in an unhappy marriage? Watch Paul gives you tips to make your marriage happy again.
Hopefully, I'm going to be able to give you some insight today that is going to give you guidance that is not just practical but helps you move towards a state of happiness because we get married in order to be happy. We don't get married to be stuck. We don't get married to suffer and your spouse also had the same attention. When you got married the height of your life, the wedding day, the party all of the thrills of being newly married and what happened.
Why should you be stuck in an unhappy marriage?
If you think about it it really doesn't make any sense until you start seeing what I see and here's what I see. The biggest problem is that people get married without realizing that it's just like anything else that you get that is new. If you buy a new house, you don't imagine that everything is going to just remain hunky-dory. You're going to have to trim the hedges, mow the lawn, wash the windows, sweep the floors -- you have to do things. You don't just get a house and move in and everything is cool and it's the same way with marriage but people don't think about it in those terms. They think, "Okay, we're married." They don't have a list of to-do's. They don't even have an idea that anything has to be done.
What happens just like that house or even if you get a car and you don't change the oil, things start deteriorating and then you go, "Oh my God. I'm stuck with this car that won't even start. I'm stuck with this house that is a shambles. it's filthy in here." No, you don't do that in a house because you're keeping it clean you know you have to but the biggest promised people get married and they don't realize that there's things they actually have to do. They have to maintain that marriage but more than that it's better than that if you're approaching it in the right way as marriage is something that begins when you get married and it's living and you got married to be happy.
Let's keep that in mind so what you should have been doing -- think of it as a plant, you
get a beautiful plant again. You don't not fertilize it. You don't feed it, you water it. You make sure it's getting the proper care and maintenance and what does it do. It grows and it bears fruit -- marriage too. You feed it with what, you feed it with. What makes you happy is love.
Why did you get married out of love?
To be happy but you didn't feed it. You didn't treat your spouse with the same level of respect for instance that when you were dating you did or with the support, the kind
words, the acknowledgments, the special treats -- you didn't do that so your marriage deteriorated.
Why am I talking about this in this way?
Because I want you to recognize that you're not stuck in a marriage that somehow you ended up in this is your marriage. Only two of you are in this marriage.
How could you possibly get stuck in something that only two of you are responsible for?
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