THANK YOU COACH LEE I HAVE BEEN LISTENING AMD LEARNING FROM YOU THIS PAST 3 MONTHS. MY EX TEXTED ME THIS MORNING STATING SHE LOVES ME AND WE WILL BE WORKING ON GETTING BACK TOGETHER
@RealCoachLee11 ай бұрын
Wonderful news Edwin! Would you mind emailing me at myexbackcoach@gmail.com with your story? I won’t ever share your real name or anything but it can be used to encourage others.
@OffTheFlapp10 ай бұрын
I need this bro 😭
@dm90410 ай бұрын
Update ?
@JonThompson-bt8rw10 ай бұрын
Sir......this is your warning. There is AT LEAST a 75% chance you ex left you for another man that she cheated on you with. The only reason she is coming back is because that relationship,at least for now has failed or is failing,and you are simply her next best option. If you take her back,there is a VERY HIGH probability that she will leave you again. She just doesn't want to be alone. She is not on your team. Leave her alone,and go permanent NO CONTACT. Have some self respect.
@OM-111110 ай бұрын
This is encouraging. Were you in no contact for 3 months or longer?
@itchman2 Жыл бұрын
I've found this little ditty helps. "If your absence doesn't bother them, your presence never meant anything to them"
@RealCoachLee Жыл бұрын
That’s the truth!
@greymatter20483 жыл бұрын
“The two most powerful warriors are patience and time” - Leo Tolstoy
@sueywang6902 Жыл бұрын
thanks for the quotation
@brucealmighty7288 Жыл бұрын
That is a great quotes
@TexasToastSam Жыл бұрын
Truer words never spoken.
@jamesmilka91742 ай бұрын
I will remember this. It's a great line. Thanks. I have never heard this before .
@KenRFoxNashvilleSEO3 жыл бұрын
Great part is knowing when they realize they regret losing you it still doesn't make you want them back.
@juliemcdaniel4993 жыл бұрын
Exactly. I want 2 see a video about What 2 do if the ex wants u back but your not sure if you want them back. Some breakups left 2 much damage and getting back 2gether is 2 much work 2 fix.
@antilaw99113 жыл бұрын
Because they broke your trust
@stevenfrazer29293 жыл бұрын
it's interesting when they're in denial and you start catching them in lies while you're talking to them and they're not realizing that and at that point when you realize it it's like the coin flipped to the proper side that you want to see which is heads instead of tails. Stick to Coach Lee this is amazing stuff you actually realize that you have the power to control what you perceive and what you want you just have to be patient and learn the new way because the old way didn't work
@juliemcdaniel4993 жыл бұрын
@@antilaw9911 that's exactly it and they don't even consider that. THEY WANT YOU back but don't think about the damage they did. And if u get back with them u should take the high road and suppose 2 let go of all that. Yeah the coin might flip and u end up in a position of power but ur stuck with alot of work 2 create a healthy & trustworthy relationship again. Some people don't see how arrogant that is. It can be a bit 2 much.
@emilyl67463 жыл бұрын
Then stop feeling sorry for yourself and take advantage of the fact that you're a man with no pressure of having a biological clock. Arent men supposed to want to be free and explore their options? There are so many women out there!
@ah25523 жыл бұрын
If they dumped you when you been nothing but good to them, keep walking. You don't want to deal with such a flaky person throughout your life. If they did it once they will do it again.
@danrickchambers41342 жыл бұрын
Mannnn so true...in and out
@captainswan30792 жыл бұрын
Yes
@davidcoppotelli39572 жыл бұрын
YUP
@conejita71mx2 жыл бұрын
That's a fact. My ex did it to me 3 times already...😢
@alangodfrey35982 жыл бұрын
Yup 💯 she did it twice she begged me last year to take her back after she left me because she was scared because I was hanging out that I would give her covid and she would pass it on to her elderly dad one year later she left and got her own place because she didn't want to make the necessary adjustments in the relationship now NC got her chasing me but I'm with someone new foh
@olganova653 жыл бұрын
My ex left me for another woman month later he keeps calling begging me back but now I don’t want him I deserve better then a man who will leave me for another woman know your worth people
@B1GK1NG3 жыл бұрын
Totally agree. Know your worth
@whitewolf67303 жыл бұрын
I agree. If he or she is that stupid to leave a solid, great, living, tough, woman or man, they deserve what they got for themselves.
@tanyasean30003 жыл бұрын
Right now I am going through the same he left me for another woman..
@kisigma10113 жыл бұрын
Facts 💯
@thesciencerapshow3 жыл бұрын
I don't want my ex back. Good riddance. I deserve better and so do you. If your ex is emotionally stunted and/or emotionally immature like mine was, it's better to say goodbye, and move on to someone better!
@AD-wb5eg3 жыл бұрын
In a relationship I don't take no chances. If they said they loved me than it doesn't make sense why the hell they left me. So I move on. Life is too short to be a second choice!
@jrv27083 жыл бұрын
Exactly my ex dumped me 4 days before my bday and my father was on his death bed. Guess what... tables turned I’m dating a super hot chic now
@TvrkishOutlaw3 жыл бұрын
@@jrv2708 hell yea bro
@TheBlanco9513 жыл бұрын
fucking aye! bravo!!
@Csi8073 жыл бұрын
Lol. Mine said I will always be the love of his life.. go figure..
@gracepatrick6473 жыл бұрын
@@TheBlanco951 mmmmh i love u
@Alex-wt4lf3 жыл бұрын
I really do not know what I would do without this man. Made my breakup 20x easier
@riq4713 Жыл бұрын
💯
@whiterobin013 жыл бұрын
Listening to Coach Lee, I got my ex back in 63 days. I followed what he said exactly and it really, really works. He knows his stuff peeps. I was the chaser in the situation, now the tables have turned. No contact is how you learn how to take back your personal power. It's a psychological journey that is SO valuable. Now all I have to figure out how to proceed with caution and take things very slowly.
@jasminethaye6893 жыл бұрын
Wow 63 days. I better find a another man.i won't have the courage to wait. Already 15 days passed.
@jasminethaye6893 жыл бұрын
@@mikejohn2913 thank you but i am great with Coach Lee. I followed him finally i alao realised that i don't want him anymore. He is not a great man who i can trust.
@gurmeetginni37423 жыл бұрын
K mv MN nmkmnnk
@edwinasword82853 жыл бұрын
Congrats to you. Its been 7 days and will follow thru and wait and see. But again it always is.
@craiggoltz58933 жыл бұрын
it doesnt work if you ex is a stubborn narcisst
@hamza15173 жыл бұрын
The ex should make 100% of calling, texting and pursuing.
@hamza15173 жыл бұрын
@@matthewmassie6479 Yeah, btw he is a legend.
@hamza15173 жыл бұрын
@@matthewmassie6479 and that music intro give me the vibe that everything is gonna be okay.
@honza71303 жыл бұрын
The ex will never do that, just move on
@benhartart94873 жыл бұрын
Women chase Men lead 🤟🏻
@NomadUrpagi3 жыл бұрын
@@benhartart9487 yep thats how it should be
@ralph43703 жыл бұрын
People that love ya,don't leave ya. People who want to be in your life will fight to be in it. If it was easy to leave, they may do it again.
@suecole55433 жыл бұрын
Yes true
@yamimngomezulu84023 жыл бұрын
Sometimes you leave a person because they are abusive
@edwinasword82853 жыл бұрын
You have said a true statement. After NC for a week now am thinking maybe they said they loved you but actually didnt. They were just using you or was high off their mind like my ex.
@jahleelx92703 жыл бұрын
@@yamimngomezulu8402 excluding abuse or cheating.
@robertandel78023 жыл бұрын
My girlfriend and I was doing good I thought we couldn't get much better then out of the blue she gave me the marriage ultimatum said marry me now or she is leaving so I left I don't want to be pressured into anything!!! It's been 45 days and we still haven't talked!!!
@EinFreundOderNicht2 жыл бұрын
No Contact is no joke! It’s not just no contact, you have to energetically leave the building. That is key. You have to literally be completely moved on. Sad but true. It worked for me, but by the time they reached out I had already mourned them and moved on.
@OnderHassan7 ай бұрын
That’s what makes it beautiful. Nature makes it easy to get them to work on rekindling things. You won’t be faking it as you’ve genuinely moved on emotionally.
@betherealdeal3 жыл бұрын
It’s actually in there the parable of the prodigal son. When he came back to his senses he begged to be taken back by his dad... Luke 15: 11-32 It’s interesting to note 2 things: 1 the dad did NOT beg the son to stay. He knew that doing so would not have been successful. When one has made up their mind to leave...let them go. He was prepared to never see his son alive again. That is HARD. 2. The dad did NOT send a search party or a well being search party. As much as he was hurt, he stayed BACK. The son however came back to his sense and returned to his dad.... begging to be taken as one of his dad’s hired hand. The dad overjoyed threw a welcome party. This son of mine was DEAD but now he is ALIVE. Learn from this. God does not play games.
@stringjazz29373 жыл бұрын
This is very interesting. Thank you for sharing.
@kewl800i3 жыл бұрын
That is very deep, my brother. Thank you for this incite.
@lt54173 жыл бұрын
I read your comment and took my Bible to read this story... And in the same chapter I found something interesting too 🙂. The Parable of the Lost Sheep and The Parable of Lost Coin. The feeling of loss can be so strong! Even if you have 99 sheep it makes you go after the one which is lost.The same is with the coins.
@kewl800i3 жыл бұрын
@anna Fowler scam
@betherealdeal3 жыл бұрын
@@lt5417 you are correct. Even the dad in the parable of the prodigal son was searching per say how? He saw his son from a long way off. However he did not interfere in the planning of his son however evil. The salon considered his father dead by the mere fact that he demanded the portion of his inheritance. This story is unique within itself from the other ones. He I believe put all his trust in God. That if it was God’s will for him to see his son again it would happen. This is a higher calling. It shows deep trust in God. King David did the exact same thing when his own son declared himself King. He left the kingdom with ris one reasoning... If what he is doing is from God there is nothing he could do to stop it. On the same time if what his son was doing was NOT from God his endeavor would fail. The end result was that his son failed. Read the book A tale of 3 Kings. I for one was married 26 yrs. My wife left and divorced me. As I read my Bible a divorce does NOT end a marriage ONLY death of a partner. It has been a roller coaster ride of pain and agony. When one leaves a marriage, it’s equivalent to death even worse because at least with death there is a final point. So, I know I unloaded a bunch but I believe that if what has happened is from God there is nothing I can do to change anything. On the same time If it’s not, we will get back together. Meantime I need to STAND. Trust God and NOT take matters into my own hands. Trust God in prayers. I hope you understand now. God bless Cheers
@pknyryan3 жыл бұрын
When she gives you the gift of a breakup - give her the gift of no contact. Go hang out with friends, take some trips, date other women. When you move on and live your life - she will be back like the Terminator
@cintasfreshpoint51953 жыл бұрын
Not true
@maryrestaino28722 жыл бұрын
😂
@Connor4x42 жыл бұрын
No man. My ex dumped me for something I didn't even do and then made fun of me on snapchat saying how I did things I never did. She's not coming back lol
@dansnyder91022 жыл бұрын
TRUTH!!!
@edwinhernandez55812 жыл бұрын
FUCKEN FUNNY. I'LL BE BACK.
@Godschild90003 жыл бұрын
Almost 9 months no contact! I’m finally starting to not care about the discard, smearing, lies & betrayal! Figured out she’s a extreme narcissist!
@95awesomenes3 жыл бұрын
Same dude, same.
@herwire3 жыл бұрын
Mine is almost 7 months. He's a narcissist. Exactly the same thing. Constant lies & betrayal. Started dating other girls a week after.
@ASJacob3 жыл бұрын
It's like a punch to the gutt, right..the pain is excruciating!
@ACEDIAMOND6663 жыл бұрын
I ended it with her 2 and a half years ago......only a couple weeks ago did she finally understand that I don't want her crazy bitch ass in my life. That took way too long.
@skaftias3 жыл бұрын
Same here bro 12 months and i feel exacty the same
@Jack-sv5ei3 жыл бұрын
A-fucking-men, dealing with a break up and honestly I’m done feeling sad and crying. She will regret leaving me but it’s time for me to better myself and grow.
@sunjay253 жыл бұрын
It’s ok to be sad... but never ever cry. Crying is for weak minded people and you will be hurt again. The hell with her...make her beg for you to come back... and at the end, tell her that you deserve better and you no longer find her interesting. Good luck.
@user-sh7ic4kt7d3 жыл бұрын
I feel the same about the guy who dumped me out of the blue! Someday someone will love us the way we loved them. I was so sad for so many days and it still crosses my mind.
@Jack-sv5ei3 жыл бұрын
@@user-sh7ic4kt7d At times it still happens to me, it comes to my mind but through time things get better
@user-sh7ic4kt7d3 жыл бұрын
@@Jack-sv5ei How did you mend your broken heart? I honestly don’t know what to do because I was so used to being with the person everyday me changed my ways. Now, I’m lost and not sure what to do. My 2 friends are busy & one is distance. And my family isn’t really around. Any advice?
@Jack-sv5ei3 жыл бұрын
@@user-sh7ic4kt7d My advice would be to keep yourself busy, do things that you love to do, learn a new skill or gain a new hobby. I started getting more into music and personally it helped me. What I would do is spend your free time doing things you enjoy rather than sitting down and replaying your memories. Maybe work out, draw, paint, write, whatever it may be stay occupied; overthinking is never good, but I believe that you've got this!
@cnrailproductions89573 жыл бұрын
No contact day 3. I’m hurting having panic attacks. But I’m keeping my head up and hope she comes back.
@trevorharding37833 жыл бұрын
Stay strong!!! Don't give in. I know the pain you're feeling, just stay strong, stay away, and let them reach out to you.
@petrosk77893 жыл бұрын
Some times no contact doesn't work... Think about it...
@itstashapointo3 жыл бұрын
It will get better. Be tough.
@fayclark55693 жыл бұрын
It gets easier. It almost becomes a challenge that you congratulate yourself for after a week or 2. Distract yourself by working on yourself, it really is amazing to do it! And... it really really does work 😊
@stephanienelly903 жыл бұрын
Stay strong! I cry randomly, it’s been 4 days for me.
@cozzihoffmaann2 жыл бұрын
The no contact duration should be 25 years to life. Let them go and move on. Never give someone a second chance to degrade you
@peacejimoh62792 жыл бұрын
Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,l got help from a great man who brought us back together...
@janfarman7629 Жыл бұрын
Cannot begin to tell you how much your videos have helped me. He came back to me. You helped me get through such a terrible time. Bless you
@RealCoachLee Жыл бұрын
Jan, it makes my day to know that! I'm happy for you! Would you please email your story to myexbackcoach at gmail.com (insert the @) so that we can use your story to encourage others (without using your name of course)?
@madlife7274 Жыл бұрын
how long did it take ??
@adaptercrash Жыл бұрын
They just blame you for it, hey I go over here and they say its the best a solo trip and decided it was over. Move back here for a lease, I was like hey I never actively broke up with you, they are upset but I guess want to move over here and reverse their biology. OK, I have to move over there and get ran over.
@JeffKnows1 Жыл бұрын
What if I made mistakes but am now working on how to NEVER make them again?
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
@JefftheChosen i recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you. It has EVERYTHING in it including strategies for every situation myexbackcoach.com/ebk
@cynthiar62873 жыл бұрын
It's so annoying how they have to figure it out themselves even when during the breakup you're saying I think this is a mistake.
@Wouterlambregts3 жыл бұрын
This... She even said herself that she is really scared it will be a mistake, it's impossible to talk to these people, just let them go and whatever happens happens
@mrjjthor3 жыл бұрын
Sometimes people really have to experience it for themselves in order to look back and say I made a mistake.
@heidiarmstrong54643 жыл бұрын
My ex had to go through the actually separation from me. He had to feel the breakup that I felt for three months. We were living together. When we both finally left the apartment, it took him twenty minutes to understand how I felt for three months. He texted me and said he felt like everything is foreign, and that he made a mistake. I told him many times he was making a mistake. I knew he would be back. I had to suffer through. Don’t give up. If you truly had a good relationship....they’ll be back. Listen to Coach Lee. He knows what he is talking about. (He is now my boyfriend again)
@stevenrobla60923 жыл бұрын
20 minutes?
@heidiarmstrong54643 жыл бұрын
@@stevenrobla6092 yes. He got to the place he moved into after we left the apartment we lived in...and I wasn’t there, it felt wrong to him. He texted me and we talked....it went from there.
@hugokarma6995 Жыл бұрын
My wife left me after 25 years. So I’m watching every single video so I can learn how to get her back. At this point I feel like I need divine intervention.Wish me luck
@johnlivingstone17494 ай бұрын
Update?
@stilljocelyn41663 жыл бұрын
I remember watching your videos actually this time last year... going no contact and being no contact was the best self love act I could’ve ever done for myself. He texted once about some BS trying to see me and stalking my IG stories, but thank you so much Coach Lee for everything. So glad I listened to you thru the tears. 💞
@aliciamngur3 жыл бұрын
Mine is stalking my IG historys its been 3 months since he break up with me,he tried to stop for 2 days and the starter stalking me again....whats that can mean?
@annatorrez81352 жыл бұрын
What is IG?
@starryeyedgirl64292 жыл бұрын
@@aliciamngur hi! You're being stalked via your phone and other devices. Factory reset doesn't always erase it. Get rid of it or have professional clean it, and an old device can infect a new one via Bluetooth. Be safe and get rid of them and check your belongings for Air Trackers! Tiny GPS buttons. Stalkers are disturbed. Fly free!
@lucia4836 Жыл бұрын
Did you keep them as q contact on social media during NC? And did you keep photos of you on your profile or did you delete them?
@kernalmasta3 жыл бұрын
She will figure it out. She blamed me for everything when we broke up. She has no friends for a reason. She will realize what the 6 years together meant and how much I did try in comparison to most.
@petrosk77893 жыл бұрын
good luck
@ppv17803 жыл бұрын
Agreed, I know some people never liked the fact that I was with her but people aren’t perfect and I think you should consider that too. I do think they will figure it out sooner or later.
@aroojaziz3 жыл бұрын
I’m sorry to know that. All the best for future.
@NomadUrpagi3 жыл бұрын
I would love for that to happen. It is such a sweet revenge when self-absorbed and egoed women realise the fault is WITHIN them and are miserable. I just love when life and people make such women realise they don't deserve special treatment.
@ACEDIAMOND6663 жыл бұрын
Don't hold your breath, bud.... I've been through it to.... She clearly doesn't give a shit about anyone but herself. That will eventually come back to haunt her in time. Either way, that's her fucking problem.....NOT yours!
@runer0073 жыл бұрын
I have a little heartache, so I am binging Coach Lee. I recommend you do the same if you have a heartache, he seems to be the best on KZfaq to relieve the pain.
@kennethjohnson94462 жыл бұрын
6 months later me and my ex are dating again. Coach Lee knows!
@whitesu83312 жыл бұрын
Was it 6 months no contact?
@lilasian20782 жыл бұрын
What did you do under those 6months befor dating?
@kennethjohnson94462 жыл бұрын
Yes, no contact! It was hard in the beginning. But later I simply strove to be the best man I could. Listened to Coach Lee and a few other coaches as well to work on dating knowledge.
@Count_Jacula2 жыл бұрын
@@kennethjohnson9446 Hey im 1 month into NC after she broke up with me after 2 years i feel like she will never reach out honestly she is in a rebound i think well i heard rumours but I've not looked into it. But I'm just curious to ask did you ever feel like they wouldn't come back i just need to know I'm not like feeling crazy here i will work on myself an ihave been but man its soo hard soo soo hard. Just don't think my ex would be the type to reach out.
@kennethjohnson94462 жыл бұрын
@@Count_Jacula Honestly I had given up! I prayed a d told the Lord I'm done unless He shows me different
@barron47552 жыл бұрын
She contacted me after 30 Days - Now that her Honeymoon is over, I'm important again - Not a chance. Sorry my Dear. Go try your Luck with someone else. I will never again put myself in a situation where I live with the Fear that she could walk out at any moment. It will drive you Nuts. Move on and find someone who appreciates you. They left once - They will leave again - and next time it will be easier for them to do.
@Acnologia2 жыл бұрын
5 days after my ex broke up she sent me a message saying how she regretted her decision. We're now trying to fix our relationship. Thank you Coach Lee, for giving me courage to do NC!
@CREDMANSR8 ай бұрын
Can someone really be sure that they made a mistake in 5 days? Could be too soon to take her back...🤔🤔🤔🤷🏾♂️🤷🏾♂️
@Paul-pj5sz7 ай бұрын
@@CREDMANSR5 days without someone you apparently loved at one point is enough time to be an eye opener. This is why spending every day together isn’t great for a relationship, absence makes the heart fonder. If they cheated though I’d never go back.
@elenafiebig97996 ай бұрын
She will leave again. 5 days not enough.
@gianmariamalmesi4133 Жыл бұрын
Nobody that dumped you should ever even think it can have a chance to get you back if they change their mind. Move on guys, what has been will never come back; there's plenty of people available, nobody is necessary in this life; every time I got dumped I've learned a great lesson that helped me expand my horizons and grow, hard to believe but I've always ended up feeling much better about myself as a person after a period of introspection.
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
gianmariamalm Great point! I've been on BOTH sides in my lifetime, seen a LOT and been thru a LOT. When I was dumped, my ex told me he made a mistake, but I lost trust. Take care of yourself We're here for you anytime! ❤
@hpm75433 жыл бұрын
I just wanted to say thank you for the videos man . I started watching them about a week after my breakup and we got back together about a month after the breakup . In that time I used your advice , I was mainly focusing on myself and I got so much more healthier and achieved more then I thought I could . From the bottom of my heart thank you and whether the relationship works this time or not , I am happy that I know I can be single and happy .
@daughterofheavenlyfather35093 жыл бұрын
What you did?
@hpm75433 жыл бұрын
@@daughterofheavenlyfather3509 I focused on myself . By that I mean analysing my flaws and taking small steps everyday to improve them . On top of that , I used the no contact method and followed a lot of his advice . Unfortunately , after we got back together , we did break up again . However , now I believe we just weren’t meant to be together and I’m happy being single . A lot of what he preaches will either gain you this person back or help you thrive without them, so I’d really recommend it.
@vertigoamc79163 жыл бұрын
For anyone out there going through this, keep your head up. I was in the military for 5 years. I met my highschool sweetheart and we hit it off really well. I made the mistake of leaving her and went off to the service. For 5 years, we were apart. 2 years overseas and 2 1/2 years on homeland ground. We stuck through it and were in love. All I could think of and all we talked about was coming home and being together. Well I finally came home. And we were together. Everything was perfect. For about a month. 10 days ago, she told me she had begun loosing feelings over the last couple of months. My world was shattered (and still is). There’s nothing more I want than to be with her and to give her everything she could ever deserve. All I want is to hold her. But she asked for time and a break. Saying that it’s not me, it’s her. Cliche response, I know that. It hurts more so to understand that I was her first everything. (Yes, first everything lol). But the ocean, seeing a shooting star, the city of Rome, snowboarding, there were so many things we experienced together for the first time. I was her first love. Those feelings and memories DONT just go away. Y’all need to know that others are going through this too. You aren’t alone. People feel this pain. All you can do is trust this. Coach lee, You’re badass. I’m trusting your advice whole heartedly. I’m 9 days into no contact. She hasn’t said anything to me, and I haven’t said anything to her. It hurts and there are days I feel like caving in. I’m sticking to it though. Everything you say makes perfect sense once you sit back, calm down, and think it through. If I hadn’t stumbled across your videos on accident amongst my grief filled KZfaq binge, I would’ve continued begging and being sad and miserable to her directly. I’ve backed off, I’m giving her the space she needs, and letting her feel the reality of the break she wants. Take it one day at a time y’all
@tracysanchez21393 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your kind words
@vertigoamc79163 жыл бұрын
Update: day 71 she reached out let’s go
@larryclay88752 жыл бұрын
@@vertigoamc7916 I'm glad! How did it go right now? Back together?
@Borninit3842 жыл бұрын
@@vertigoamc7916 That’s great, any new updates?
@savead66282 жыл бұрын
Update?
@heidiarmstrong54643 жыл бұрын
Get the Emergency Break-up Kit. It got me through three months of hell. I got my man back because he realized he had made a mistake. In the meantime I made myself a better version of me. Thank you Coach Lee!
@gamegirl89453 жыл бұрын
Hey, what happened with this? Did you contact them or did they contact you? I’m glad things worked out between you two!
@cnrailproductions89573 жыл бұрын
Congratulations I wanna get the kit but for free. I hope these videos are saying the same thing as the kit
@heidiarmstrong54643 жыл бұрын
@@gamegirl8945 he contacted me. 20 minutes after we said goodbye and parted ways, because we lived together. He went home and on the way he broke down crying in the car. He arrived at his home and he realized he was wanting me back because he didn’t know that he would feel the loss he did. He felt like things were foreign and empty without me.
@gamegirl89453 жыл бұрын
@@heidiarmstrong5464 ah nice I’m glad things worked out for you! 😊 I really hope my ex will come back as he has been initiating contact and we have met up a couple of times and both have went well but he still hasn’t said about getting back together, we have been broken up for nearly two months
@heidiarmstrong54643 жыл бұрын
@@gamegirl8945 just keep doing what your doing and have a life outside of him that makes him wonder, like Coach Lee says. My guy was always worried about what I was doing when we were living together broken up. So when you get together, talk about things you did, places you went, people you saw etc.
@boricua9973 жыл бұрын
Guys listen to Coach Lee. My situation is playing out exactly as he describes it. It is unbelievable. It's like I have a crystal ball. Thank you Coach Lee for your guidance and wisdom.
@heidiarmstrong54643 жыл бұрын
I agree 100%. I got the kit and just listening to him was like having a counselor help me through it. My ex did EVERYTHING Lee said he would. I got him back.
@rockytopsebrights67973 жыл бұрын
The only time they realize it was a mistake is when the new guy/girl cheats or does something really stupid
@lizzi71283 жыл бұрын
Literally this happening to me rn!
@ppv17803 жыл бұрын
Not really, they can also compare being single to being together and realize they don’t want it .
@misslucky933 жыл бұрын
Current situation
@channa19553 жыл бұрын
One can only hope.
@cipryan963 жыл бұрын
@@ppv1780 you never throw away your only pair of shoes 😉
@mikepaul23722 жыл бұрын
It wasn't a mistake it was the best thing that happened to you. Run away and never go back. People, please never live in the past. Never! They had their time in your life and they taught you something. Good or bad. Take that forward.
@fabiusmaximus23563 жыл бұрын
Day 48... The hopes for her comeback are slowly fading...
@benh21563 жыл бұрын
Hope you made physical, financial and mental progress during that time. It gets easier Fabius. I know the struggle i'm right there with you. Lost 48 pounds in a 8 month period and am getting looks from women I literally never thought would give me the time of day. It's so weird lol. Good luck everyone I wish you all the best
@marcbloch19633 жыл бұрын
Stay strong......focus on yourself
@genericnpc083 жыл бұрын
Don't count the days man. Just assume won't come back. Counting makes you dwell on the break up.. trust me I've been there.
@BonjourBijou4453 жыл бұрын
Stop counting the days. I know... easier said than done. I was there once, too, but what I can tell you is that it’s just going to drive you crazy. You’ll keep thinking... it’s been X days since my ex reached out, and then, if and when they do reach out, you’ll be wondering how it took them X days to finally bother with you. It’ll just make you feel worthless and again... drive you crazy. Just stop. Please.
@Ashtonishing18123 жыл бұрын
Hopes for YOUR comeback are increasing...
@aleksshenesq2 жыл бұрын
What I like about Lee is that he says "it does not always happen." He does not sell you bull. He also tells you that you shouldn't want sick people. So many hacks out there would sell "I can definitely get your ex back!"
@viditpanwar98876 ай бұрын
Yes thats the thing he is genuine and i like him
@hamza15173 жыл бұрын
The purpose of no contact is to walk away and mean it! If they reach out, u should assume they wanna see u, make a definite date. Remember no need to chitchat.
@user-pq9jv5xu4h3 жыл бұрын
I went nc after a little beg unfortunately, 2 months in she breaks it and we engage for couple days. I asked to meet and got wish washed around. Went back into NC 2 weeks later she suggests meeting and talking if im open to it. So I agreed We meet just so she can tell me wanted me in her life as a friend. Couldn't believe it
@hamza15173 жыл бұрын
@@user-pq9jv5xu4h she is trying to friendzone you from different angles. Next time when she reaches out say to her: hi I love u, i adore you but if we will meet like friends that doesn't work for me. Call me if you are interest in something romantic. Don't cave or Change your opinion. Any news write me here.
@0rloN1PaiN3 жыл бұрын
@@user-pq9jv5xu4h i feel you bro, stay strong. Don't agree to her friendship tell her straight up you want something romantic or nothing at all. If she doesn't want it, give her the gift of NC. She will either reach out or not but in the mean time work on yourself. It gets better and you'll probably find someone better if she doesn't come back. Good luck bro keep us updated
@billy46433 жыл бұрын
I don’t know if this was planned but : I ended up crossing paths with my ex narc who discarded me, I wasn’t expecting it, I just looked at her and kept walking. I’ve been seeing a friend we have in common, and on this exact day his girlfriend (which is my ex’s best friend) was ok with finally meeting with us (which I found weird since we never seen each other after I got discarded 4 months ago.) she chose a bar right next to the parc where my ex trains her clients, and they decided we go there afterwards. It all seems planned, they told me my ex knew we were meeting up but supposedly they didn’t tell her in which park. However the couple knew she would be there training
@DRaven-of2lv3 жыл бұрын
Bruh, your vids have made what should have been my hardest breakup the easiest one.
@rowenaderbyshire95013 жыл бұрын
Always be moving forward and learn the lessons from the experience of the relationship. Can't turn back time.
@Sarah-jl2kg3 жыл бұрын
Your videos have given me so much hope. I am 2 months post break-up and only day 3 no contact after a 12 year relationship. The struggle has been real, but I feel empowered from your videos and believe that I can do this. Thank you!!
@SJ-nw1ym3 жыл бұрын
Hey, how are you doing?
@jebunny59912 жыл бұрын
Hi! Any updates?
@ConceptHut2 жыл бұрын
Update?
@sabrinaperry2107 Жыл бұрын
How did it work out for you in the end. I'm curious. I hope you please answer
@SunilSingh_Shivaay Жыл бұрын
Did u get him back
@DL-vibes3 жыл бұрын
I don’t know what’s worse. Someone who regrets losing you or someone who didn’t want you at all :(
@bristyshurtradharpuja35313 жыл бұрын
Someone who doesn't want you at all 😭
@libbynovotny99793 жыл бұрын
I do know I cared more for the guy than he did for me
@melissarogers13173 жыл бұрын
Whatspp him
@melissarogers13173 жыл бұрын
+2348118748171
@williamdietz6944 Жыл бұрын
I'M THE OTHER HALF OF WILLIAM WHO WAS LEFT FOR SOMEONE ELSE. THANK COACH LEE FOR UNDERSTANDING THE PAIN , ANXIETY, AND DESPAIR WE GO THROUGH. YOU NEED TO KNOW JUST HOW MUCH YOU HELP. GOD BLESS YOU COACH LEE
@RealCoachLee Жыл бұрын
Thank you William. I wish you the best.
@shkrsimpson443 жыл бұрын
Guys I have great news. I've officially gotten my ex back !!. The love of my life. It was v tough but I did it. Thorough persistence, some calculated effort, and short spurts of the " No contact rule", until she contacted me. You also have to show them although b you them, that you're capable of letting go. It was alot but I'm so happy we're back together and working on things TOGETHER. I wish all of you success in getting yours back as well, if they're truly worth it and things can be made right. Last but not least I would be remiss if I didn't thank coach Lee for his insight and wisdom on this subject. His videos helped me so much and allowed me to see certain things differently and understand what I was doing wrong in certain areas. I didn't follow everything he said 100% but I did mix it in. Thank you coach lee.
@gamegirl89453 жыл бұрын
Hey man I’m happy to hear that! How long was it between you breaking up and getting back together?
@shkrsimpson443 жыл бұрын
@@gamegirl8945 thank you. Things got rocky in November and we broke up early December. From them on it was an uphill battle. I'm taking things with her slowly, a day at a time and improving in areas.
@gamegirl89453 жыл бұрын
@@shkrsimpson44 ah nice I’m glad it worked it well for you, I’m really hoping my ex will come back to me as he broke up with me in early January but has been initiating contact with me since then for the most part and we have met up at least once after the break up to hang out not including getting my things and we should be meeting up again soon
@shkrsimpson443 жыл бұрын
@@gamegirl8945 thank you so much. I do hope you too reconnect and get back together too. Know your value first and he's bound to realize he shouldn't let you go. In the mean time, do what you can to improve yourself and make yourself happy. It will work itself out.
@gamegirl89453 жыл бұрын
@@shkrsimpson44 thank you so much! I really hope so as I’m really worried it won’t work out 😞
@shirleymadiva68863 жыл бұрын
It’s DONE!!! Will NEVER take him back!! I’m so at peace without him!! Move On!
@shirleymadiva68863 жыл бұрын
@@johnlie225 l guessing lf my finance left me it would affect things a bit!! 🤯. John LIE!
@shirleymadiva68863 жыл бұрын
@@johnlie225 NOT INTERESTED!!! Thanks!
@caoskin3 жыл бұрын
6:25 this is really what happens most of the time. Dumpers are testing the waters when you do no contact for some time. Responding to their messages politely doesn’t break the no contact rule. Most of the time, dumpers will be casual like asking how are you doing. Ignoring them makes them fall back again and you will be stuck again in the waiting game. All you have to do is respond casually too. No serious replies not unless your ex admits everything. Dont forget they are the ones who dumped you. 15:02 this is also true. A lot of times, the reason they are reaching out to you because they are in their down times. Just be chill on your replies, do them casually not unless your ex makes a grand gesture of admitting the fault and wants to compromise and wants you back.
@jimihendriixx3 жыл бұрын
Na G, if she leaves it’s her loss. Never give them the time of day. Cause when they left they were not thinking about how you would feel. Move on, next !!
@sophiastuart43573 жыл бұрын
Yes that’s the way it goes. I’m on second stage no contact as the video explains the need to not worry about time but concentrate on staying in NC and self-improvement. I guess in time my ex will resurface in the meantime will continue improving on me until the narrative is revealed.
@carinemaastricht3 жыл бұрын
@@sophiastuart4357 So he reached out? How long agoo? Are you going to stay in no contact till he reaches out again? Even if that means months?
@bestbigbros11022 жыл бұрын
@@sophiastuart4357 any updates on your situation? Just curious
@sophiastuart43572 жыл бұрын
@@carinemaastricht he reached out after 5 months, we exchanged text messages & he revealed he missed me & eventually started going cold again. So I’m back in NC 2 months now.
@foreignlovedreams Жыл бұрын
It's true, when they leave you, you feel insecure and worse. But the feeling of superiority comes when your ex wants you back. And here comes all the toxicity and a little sense of revenge. You act like you don't care. It's always a bad idea to go back to your ex after a bad breakup. ALWAYS!"
@JohnnyYuma4053 жыл бұрын
Never take your ex back. As time goes on you’ll be better off.
@BambiOnIce193 жыл бұрын
Thanks for everything, Coach Lee. I really tried following all your advice regarding NC. In the end, I reached out to him and we got together briefly, but then he decided that to him, it wasn’t worth getting back together with me. He didn’t want to go back there again. Still, it was worth a try because I loved him so very much. But now it’s really time for me to move on and meet someone to whom I’ll be worth their time and effort. I want to be with a man who values me as a woman and a human being. My ex never valued me. I think I was more like a distraction from his ex-wife. Time for me to move on and find someone who will treat me right. So thanks again!😊
@davidcoppotelli39572 жыл бұрын
Certainly his LOSS. For Sure. Don't forget it.
@crystopher-aaronricafrente1103 Жыл бұрын
I’ll treat you right lol
@jellythelang25583 жыл бұрын
You help me be sane in times I want to breakdown.
@antiyanna5373 жыл бұрын
Literally. When there is nothing else to turn to..
@rebeccav74203 жыл бұрын
Hang in there! :)
@aroojaziz3 жыл бұрын
When they come back, even if you don’t want them back, show your best behaviour. Even if it’s a NO, it should be said in best manner. It’s the best way to make them regret for the rest of their life, making them wonder what they have lost.
@bluesmoke88263 жыл бұрын
You are right. When I see my ex I'm always chill. No need to be a jerk that will certainly not make things right
@ppv17803 жыл бұрын
That’s the thing, my ex hasn’t come back and if I’m being honest I think my situation is pretty good. We had a long really committed relationship (almost 3 years) and my response to the breakup was not the best but pretty good. I’m planning to reach out after 2-3 months of strict NC.
@aroojaziz3 жыл бұрын
@@bluesmoke8826 Thats great attitude!
@aroojaziz3 жыл бұрын
@@ppv1780 All the best!
@jimihendriixx3 жыл бұрын
@@ppv1780 You broke up with her ?
@JB-gf7zn2 жыл бұрын
Before, I frequently thought of taking My life because of this pain. But right now, through many videos on KZfaq, it feels like I am getting used to being alone again, though it hurts from time to time. Following no contact rule I guess is the way of acceptance and it's just a bonus if ever we have our ex back to us. Coach lee thank you ☺️
@ewardbach8955 Жыл бұрын
Stay alive, never quit your life by yourself. You are loved!
@oye_hoye_mickey Жыл бұрын
We all are here with you. Club of broken hearts. Stay strong. If you feel like chatting we cn catch on ig.
@benjamin-papa Жыл бұрын
if anybody else is thinking similar thoughts then you should know nobody should hold that much power over you. I know it's like swimming in an ocean of pain but one day you will claw yourself up and onto the shore but you have to believe in yourself and stay strong. You can do it.
@h2oboi5313 жыл бұрын
Nothing to take away from Coach Lee’s good points, but if someone disrespects you as a less of a priority while devaluating your presence, refuse to be a back up when their main option fails. Regardless, kudos to Coach Lee changing lives to a positive
@mikod.wilson16053 жыл бұрын
Narcists set the stage for a break up to go forth with their true intentions. True intentions is to have an affair after gaslighting the significant other. After a breakup, two to three days later they're with the new significant other.
@mikod.wilson16053 жыл бұрын
@@peterjohuson6654 Thanks, I'll get over It, l do not want my ex back...Betrayal and dishonesty may have rubbed my spirit to broken hearted, but I'll heal eventually.
@Ladyjojo6953 жыл бұрын
Yep so true. X
@ridesharetrixter52063 жыл бұрын
This is your BEST Video that I have seen yet. 100% on point.
@sambraham46772 жыл бұрын
You're understanding of both sides is incredible and very accurate coach Lee. I've watched so many videos from other channels but yours is the most realistic. I was so nervous and didn't know how to reach back to my ex after I initiated the breakup, trying to be careful as much as possible. I'm hope my ex would give me any respond as ignoring the message makes it look like they've moved on. I will take your advice and text them one more time that I'm sorry and want them back. I will respect their decision after all this time and accept that they have moved on.
@ceruleandrago18033 жыл бұрын
I’ve started doing no contact and feeling happy on my own, he stopped looking at my posts after I was dumped and now two weeks later he’s stalking my stories and liking my posts, It’s just starting to work! Thank you for all the advice!!!
@aliciamngur3 жыл бұрын
Whats thr stalking means??
@gladyskerubo38312 жыл бұрын
These narcs are really enjoy drama about so long as they hurt others they are never happy themselves mine is now using other people to pretend and call me after smart no contact for 2wks only I guess he is sleepless
@cubanito284082 жыл бұрын
“People don’t leave what the want, they leave what they were using!”🤷🏼♂️
@Guerda83832 жыл бұрын
Well Put, I Agree.
@MoparGuy16252 жыл бұрын
Pretty much. My “gf” of 10 months got what she needed and then my so called friend started talking to her behind my back and they are now together.
@jasondorymeade84192 жыл бұрын
Best quote...😁
@preciousgem7042 жыл бұрын
Well,I agree.
@nikhilhiran6091 Жыл бұрын
@@MoparGuy1625 just like mine
@benhartart94873 жыл бұрын
6months single after 12 years with her, I’m Good 🙂 doing heaps of new exciting, challenging things, self improving too and working on areas that I got complacent in over the last decade hehe, we are going to the beach one night next week.... watch this space guys
@aamadmi16569 ай бұрын
Coach Lee, you're a real life savior. I have been doomed, cried, plead but then i saw your videos. Oh my God, you talked so much sense, and it was an hour to hour moving. And now its been exactly two months, and yesterday she texted me asking how have i been. I replied after couple of hours, and trust.me.i wasnt playing at all. Its just that i dont wait for her texts anymore. Always remember, she can only run away when you're chasing her. When you don't chase them, they also halt. I have no words to thank you for your service to sensitive people like me. I will keep on watching your videos regardless of what my ex is planning to do. ❤❤❤
@lolxd46889 ай бұрын
I’m happy for you
@TheBlanco9513 жыл бұрын
the moment when they realize and they spew their feelings and I laugh out loud because i know that i will never take them back. period.
@davidgreslj91993 жыл бұрын
I can recommend you to someone powerful who was able to bring back my ex wife and it works very fast and I believe he can solve your relationship problems 🙏🙏🙏
@davidgreslj91993 жыл бұрын
Text him on what'Sapp 🙏
@davidgreslj91993 жыл бұрын
+2348077751695
@magpie40433 жыл бұрын
@@davidgreslj9199 I can offer a much cheaper service, all I need is some duct tape and rope
@randymullins7652 жыл бұрын
We was married over 33 years and it's been 32 days since she left without any contact and things are really starting to change more than I ever expected, it's really hard after that many years but things change
@roxycrisandjuno3 жыл бұрын
Wow my LDR ex came back. No contact really helped me be a happier version of myself. Now he's asking I still have feelings for him and if we can try again. A lot to think about!
@gaoang33913 жыл бұрын
For how long was the NC?🥲🥲
@roxycrisandjuno3 жыл бұрын
@@gaoang3391 he kept breaking NC, so flat out me never replying to him..2 months? But I only never replied then because my anxiety was always too high. I wanted to be emotionally okay first before anything else
@georginabrigs18913 жыл бұрын
good for you. Have you already met in person? How long was your relationship with him?
@gaoang33913 жыл бұрын
@@roxycrisandjuno unlike mine never reached out after 10 days lol we were in real
@roxycrisandjuno3 жыл бұрын
@@georginabrigs1891 actually I don't know if this is good! Hahha only because borders are still closed so no chance of seeing each other in person asap. It's hard to trust things will be different when you don't see each other face to face, so a lot to think about. Yes we met at a friend's wedding last year and he visited my country soon after and 8 months together
@ReviewGuysOfficial2 жыл бұрын
My ex finally broke up with me after we took a break. She said that’s where she thinks we’re at. I told her ok if that’s where we’re at that’s where we’re at. I also mentioned I thought we were better together and I didn’t want the breakup. We hung up and I texted her and said if she changes her mind to let me know. She said can you be specific and I said the breakup. She said ok I’m finally in no contact. She mentioned she wanted to keep lines of communication still open while she broke up with me. I ignored the offer. She can’t have her cake and eat it too I’m more important than that. She will miss the great impact I had on her life.
@jacqui83922 жыл бұрын
How you getting on now?
@ReviewGuysOfficial2 жыл бұрын
@@jacqui8392 I am doing really well! I have grown a lot through this. Last month she came by to drop off some things for my new cat. It was a brief visit and I tried to give her a kiss at the end of it. She told me no kiss and left and then after that she pulled away more and then she texted me and told me that she was going to delete me on Snapchat but if I wanted to text her or had to text her to get a hold of her that I could. It’s been a month and I haven’t texted her. I have learned not to chase women anymore. She’s the one that broke it off if she wants to get me back that’s on her. How are you doing?
@sobreezy2456 Жыл бұрын
Nooo bro u were supposed to answer her back casually while moving on
@johnheflin1255 Жыл бұрын
I hope my ex made a mistake of this breakup with me because I poured my heart and soul into the relationship, night/evening job, getting home at 12 to 1 am, getting up at 7 am and take my daughter to school, get her home from school, then to work, that's dedication
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
John, since she left you, go NC
@evasuchanova82763 жыл бұрын
I am 5 months in "no contact"☺️.....he is in shock🙁 that I stoped writing and supporting him.....insted of I love myself❤️❤️❤️great feeling.....thank you coach Lee🙂
@thanosforever Жыл бұрын
1.5 months of no contact from me, cried a little the first day or two, and then straight cold turkey. All she does these days is see my stories as soon as they’re posted and loves them or any post I post, nothing about her, just my life and how I’m enjoying little things. Yep, it’s clear she wants my attention, but NOPE. I won’t give it to her. Coach Lee taught me better. These are breadcrumbs. I won’t take ‘em. Funny, she liked a story a few days ago at 5am, I slept; then woke up to see she had unliked it and liked it again at 11am. (It said liked 3 minutes ago) haha, ah. I’m strong and I’m confident. She’ll have to do better than that to get my attention. Thank you Coach lee for being there when I was just balling my eyes and staying strong in NC after the 2nd day of the break up.
@TraceyBettencourt-it9th Жыл бұрын
I’m just starting the process of staying away from my ex. I picked my things up yesterday. It’s been 2’weeks since he actually broke it off. I’d been going through everything over and over in my mind. He didn’t want to do it, but did not know how to get through to me. In other words, my horrible past kept me from just diving in to move in with him. He’s not mean to me, but got frustrated and wouldn’t calmly communicate with me. Here I am with a crushed heart, feeling I was completely wrong, your videos have kept me , for the time I’m listening to them, sane.
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
Tracy Bettencourt, Tracey, let me recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you. It's awesome! It has strategies for every situation. myexbackcoach.com/ebk
@Revolution-tl5wo2 жыл бұрын
@Coach Lee: The problem is that all of my exes are either Dismissive Avoidant or Fearful Avoidant attachment styles, pathological narcissists, or both- and the abject cruelty of the way they end the relationship is an absolute dealbreaker to my ever letting them into my life again, no matter how good the rest of it might have been or how sorry they may claim to be. My second problem with this type of coaching is that it constantly tells the discarded partner to suppress their own needs to express our justified hurt and anger at the way we were dumped; along with our justified demand for amends and reparations for harms done. Every one of your videos that I've listened to keeps telling the dumpee to shove that all under the rug, then when the ex comes back, "don't act mad at them because they might have a feeling they don't like and go away again." Um, what right does that person have to comfort or convenience after what they did? Why should it be considered normal for them not to have to suffer pain or face any consequences for their actions, and why should we not get to require that they make it right? It's been very useful listening to these and going No Contact, because as I've done so I've realized what I'm simply not going to put up with, and if getting an ex back means having to accept the treatment I got on their way out and act like it never happened, no ex is worth that.
@B-londoner2 жыл бұрын
With narcissistic individuals the best way of interaction is the grey stone method as they prey on any intense emotions.
@marcinbenedek7892 жыл бұрын
Your comment touches on several issues. The key one being the suppression of emotions. I would say that Coach Lees & Coach C Kenneth would point you towards not "unloading you emotions" while being anxious. You may lose in the eyes of your ex if in a state of anxiety you express your feelings by being either begging in desperation or angry and vengeful. You may make this mistake either just after the breakup or when meeting them later. However your hurt and your critique may be communicated to your ex in a mature way later, you might find that the best way to express it is just to show reserve to them, as that is the best conclusion and certainly Coach Lee advises to be reserved and not eager when ex reaches out, that's the best way to process your hurt and display it, not by coming back to old things and being fixated on the past. Just show the reserve and see if you can spend good time together, if you want them back.
@marcinbenedek7892 жыл бұрын
PS. I got dumped by an Avoidant. I am curious about what you mean when you mention the bad behaviour at the breakup. My avoidant ex... I just read the book "Attached" and concluded that she was a textbook case. In the quiz in the book they even asked, did your partner say they want to go on a yearlong trip abroad. That's exactly what happened to me. While in relation she said she want to go on such a trip. Not saying what it means for the relationship. Then when asked, switched between that it would be a breakup and that it should not be a problem if we are a strong couple :) finally did not go, but dumped me, then hooked up with me several times... Messy like hell. Or suddenly meet with me for some days a lot, only to tell me she goes to meet with her EX to clear up sth, then before leaving say she loves me. Hard to wrap my mind around it still :)
@stevenk32212 жыл бұрын
Because hes talking about NORMAL people. I'm a narc survivor myself! No game, tactic, or strategy can work. You cannot out game TRAUMA. Unrequited love and dealing with someone who has NPD hurts like HELL. They cannot change!!!
@abileneelise3074 Жыл бұрын
Everything Coach Lee says is true, I am astonished to say the least. My shorttime BF broke up with me after five months. He reappeared after two months and faded away again. After another four month I got e text long as a theater curtain, apologies, missing me etc, heat emojis, all that. I went into NC immediately without much hope but keeping my pride. Thankfully I found Lees Vids and followed to the T.... Now I will be kind and slow and see if its real. But still..... WOW!!!!!
@thewolfslair32123 жыл бұрын
The legend is back..🙂
@welovee16803 жыл бұрын
Coach Lee you are so inspiring to so many people. I’m back with mine and it has not been easy all that I have gone through, but it does take a lot of patience and does not happen overnight! Anytime I have ever felt a breaking point I always come back to your videos. They help me so much. ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
@gamegirl89453 жыл бұрын
I’m glad everything worked out for you, where you in no contact for long and how long did it take to get them back?
@lucybee33612 жыл бұрын
Coach Lee is right. My ex dumped me and went back to his ex fiancee. They got engaged within 5 weeks, but week 8 he was telling me that ship had sailed. Lol so I asked you have some one else why are you contacting me. He blocked me. Rollon 4 months he connects with regret he wasn't happy couldn't decide who he wanted. Oh OK why not focus on your fiancee. Right now they are still engaged going to marriage counselling. I am single and staying in my lane. One Year later he is still trying to message and get me to go hiking with him. No game playing just quiet and not discussing my life and how much better it is without him. The coach is so right.
@tanboem3 жыл бұрын
Coach Lee is the best relationship coach I've ever listened!
@holagirl2 ай бұрын
Sticking to no contact and felt courageous about this. I know my ex will realize this one day that this would happen. Got teary eyed while watching this, I'm feeling courageous while on the other side, if he come back or not I know I'm processing my emotions on the right way and let this flowed until I'm fully healed. One thing I am sure, sticking to no contact keeps me on the right track, it doesnt seem like I'm gaining anything but atleast doesnt put my attraction low/myself. No contact (a weapon against manipulation)!
@DavidHernandez-us2hd2 жыл бұрын
My ex reached out to me 48 days into no contact. “Hey how have you been?” I responded but kept it light and controlled but wanted to create an element of reservation. I’ve gone back into no contact, it’s been 6 days now. It would be interesting to get a video about phase 2 and what to expect/next steps. Thanks for everything you do.
@DigDugDubbs2 жыл бұрын
Just give them more time, they are likely thinking about your response. I think Coach Lee has something about this where he says they are struggling with the time they spent making the decision to breakup and the fact that they may be doubting it with reaching out. Your in the 45-60 day range where they start to feel separation anxiety at it’s peak. Focus on patience and fortitude. Remain calm through the passing time with strength to keep up the silence they abhor. The silence is what made her reach out don’t forget, they will ease into it.
@exhorter-78072 жыл бұрын
Dude good on you... Must be hard not to reach out?
@HANZELVANDERLAAY2 жыл бұрын
There is NO phase two!!! There mentally ill.....do NOT...respond ..ever..stay away..ur life depends on it....99.99 they cannot be helped.. Gluck!!
@rhaenyra6786 Жыл бұрын
@david update? what happend?
@kRaf76 Жыл бұрын
Update brotha?
@ForgottenDawn Жыл бұрын
Just work on yourself and move on. No point in chasing anyone, period, and especially if they can't be bothered to see you grow and change into the person you are now.
@lahitman2 жыл бұрын
You have very direct honest advice. You go further into what happens with your ex and and the psychology. I won't lie no contact is sometimes the hardest thing to do but it is the most effective. A girl I was talking to things were really good then poof she disappeared. I went into no contact. 5 months later she contacted me and ask me "what are we to each other, are we going to be happy again?" I am being polite but I am not saying yes taking slow.
@Crownedballer Жыл бұрын
Damn bro. Kinda had the same thing happened and I kinda blew it but now we went no contact again and she just started making contact again from blocking me and only emailing me to now texting me. So I’m going slow
@thetransparentjerseygirl3 жыл бұрын
I got to the point of if US the dumpee's are the ones 9/10 working on ourselves after the break up and our exes arent working to better themselves..why would we want them back anyway 🤷🏽♀️ ...noones perfect everyone could improve themselves in some way ❤❤❤❤..we get them back then what???? Same ol them & better versions of US 🙄 lol..nope i will take this better version of myself and move on 🤗❤
@cruzyrecordstv10413 жыл бұрын
Good point, and damn you fine 😏
@mrjjthor3 жыл бұрын
If that's the case then you probably realized that you are no longer interested in him. Taking him back will only result in a break up down the road unless you see potential in him. Women can be great at building up a man and if you do you'll probably make a good man out of him. The question is do you want to take that chance?
@thetransparentjerseygirl3 жыл бұрын
@@cruzyrecordstv1041 Thanks...so are you 😉
@MissStarstruckTiara13 жыл бұрын
Oh snap I see some sparks flying! 👀 lol jk
@giginury58723 жыл бұрын
@@thetransparentjerseygirl NEVER build up a man
@BoiledOctopus Жыл бұрын
All your videos are good, but this one is just SUPERB! An absolute must watch for those who's ex is approaching them, knowing they have possibly made a massive mistake. Shows you how to take back control. Just brilliant.
@lindop35233 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Coach. My ex is back and loves me more now. Thank you for the advice 🌻
@gamegirl89453 жыл бұрын
I’m glad to hear it worked out! How long did it take and where you in no contact??
@lindop35233 жыл бұрын
@@gamegirl8945 It took Four months and I was in No contact for three months. Everything worked out, he confessed that he never stopped loving and missing me however we fixed our relationship and ever since then we never had issues. I guess the distance taught us so much
@gamegirl89453 жыл бұрын
@@lindop3523 that’s brilliant! I’m pleased for you, did you both meet up at any point during this time or was it just no contact with them initiating?
@lindop35233 жыл бұрын
@@gamegirl8945 I did the no contact rule and he could only see my social media and WhatsApp status cos I never blocked his number. We had no contact until he finally broke the silence and confessed about how he misses me and how life has been so difficult the past four months and ...... etc. From then it only took us a day to get our things back to normal and ever since then we have been so happy and all I can say is that the distance taught us so much hey
@gamegirl89453 жыл бұрын
@@lindop3523 ah nice one! I’m glad things worked out, I’m nearly 3 months post break up with my ex and he has been initiating contact with me each week since the breakup and we have met up a few times which have went well but he still hasn’t asked to get back together yet. Albeit I have broken no contact a few times to speak to him but no I’ve been in full no contact for three weeks and he has been contacting me each week since I have done this at least two to three times
@marlecmarine53933 жыл бұрын
Really excellent video, Coach Lee is absolutely right, the power of time is on your side. In my case my long time Girlfriend of 5 years dumped me and then went to work in Australia. After about 2 months of no contact she sent me a text, l made the mistake of ignoring her before l watched Coach Lee advice, then thought, ok l have probably blown it. One year later she contacted me again and asked if we could get back together and "be like we used to be", she even apologised, l was so shocked. I will never underestimate the power of time again.
@TanBron_4 ай бұрын
I moved over here for her. Left my family behind. Went through a year long distance. Have heart issues when I used to be healthier than ever at 25. 27 now. Been struggling very much mentally. Just left after 3 years because things got tough. Im moving 3 hours away. Don't think no contact will do anything for me. I'm having to move out in a month. She has her toxic friends and mom in her ear. Her therapist. Also of them who truly don't know who I am. All Ive done for this person. Over the years she's done everything. More than anyone else has for me. I have nothing bad to say about her. She was my support when family wasn't there. She was everything. This all could've been fixed with communication and minor effort that would've gone a long way. She's turned cold as if I did her so wrong and I didnt. This last winter I struggled with the worst depression of my life. I never sought help. I just became a zombie and that separated us slowly. I am now seeing help. I just can't believe this is real. As a person who struggles with anxiety and depression herself, she has always told me we didnt come this far just to come this far. Now she is gone.
@aamadmi16569 ай бұрын
Update on my previous text thatmy ex contacted me exactly after two months. So Now she is playing hot and cold. Like today we met for a short while and she was sitting quite at a distance and was asking for some gifts which i denied. Guys, trust me, no contact works like magic. It gives you back your freedom. Now if she texts or not, doesnt matter anymore. I was as doomed as anyone, would cry to bits, not talking to anyone, but listening to Coach Lee videos made me stronger day by day. Please go strict no contact and prioritize your own self, make yourself less available. Be mysterious, be charming, be happy. Thats the Key. Love you all
@chilloften3 жыл бұрын
So precise, I feel my heart soothing. I’m out here broken hearted, indeed. My guy, he calls, but never mentions togetherness, so I don’t either. But I do love him. It’s hard to get over him because of my position in these times we are in, ugh.
@Skywalker293 жыл бұрын
Your new haircut is amazing. And thank you for the videos
@danieltrottier85993 жыл бұрын
You helped me change my life at 53. Thanks 😊
@Mr_LeviathanEnvy Жыл бұрын
"Time is on your side" - Rod Stewart
@bondjamesbond16643 жыл бұрын
Her mistake was disrespecting me and thinking I wouldn't walk away.
@juliemcdaniel4993 жыл бұрын
Need a video about WHEN EX WANTS YOU BACK - Is It Sincere (Heart) or Not Sincere (Shame/Ego). How can someone decipher the difference?
@humanistology Жыл бұрын
Never go back to abuse…you deserve someone who stays…you are not an option!
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
dc_sloma, NEVER SETTLE FOR ABUSE. ANY FORM OF ABUSE.
@dhananjay-singh Жыл бұрын
Very pleasantly surprised & found this to be brilliant, balanced, respectful, dignified conversation presented by Coach Lee ! - Many KZfaq coaches sound strategic, competitive… which is not real life …. Life / relationship is a collaboration…. & The number of times don’t matter… if both want to come together… Else, Don’t try at all…. & Respect oneself & also the other…. But no brutality / mean - rude approach ! Cheers … from a fellow coach !
@robertjohnson6663 Жыл бұрын
I would NEVER take an ex back that broke up with me. She did it once she would most likely would do it again. I have more value than that to myself and deserve someone who never gave me away in the first place.
@lionroot4073 Жыл бұрын
Thnx coach lee u helped me a lot u are genous i gave my ex girlfriend really breakup i went with no contact the same when she dumped me . Now she came back with respect and she told me wht she went through no contact Guys no contact work try to work on your self and be better person
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
lionroot4073, Congrats. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.
@Jeff-kq9vg Жыл бұрын
Damn, I'm so glad I moved on quickly and see my own value. Love needs to flow naturally, not by protocols or other stuff like that. Shrinks need to do that for DA's. Wishing y'all the best!
@DaSoto21500 Жыл бұрын
Glad I never bought into the 30 day no contact rule, today marks the first month of no contact, I have moments of wanting to break but I’m staying strong, knowing that either she’ll come back or I’ll move on and find something better
@mirriammubanga8708 Жыл бұрын
It's the hardest thing to do especially if you are used to talking to each other,I pray to God to strengthen me as I begin the no contact rule.
@toonblastsart86553 жыл бұрын
When a person breaks up with me especially when they refuse to communicate that there's issues in the relationship that's their one and only chance. I always make it too clear to them if they're going to leave in that fashion where I feel blindsided that I'm not going to be here I'm going to move on to someone else Life is about choices and I'm not going to be someone's second choice or fifth choice just because they refuse to communicate like an adult
@aroojaziz3 жыл бұрын
Nailed it! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
@snowshoe1573 жыл бұрын
Agreed
@TheArgella3 жыл бұрын
good this works for you. but why are you watching this video then?
@dudleylandsberg17472 жыл бұрын
Dude. Your like the best free therapist ever.
@ParsclickTV3 жыл бұрын
Your wise words makes me so calm. You know everything. Feels like you have been me.
@terricklee62683 жыл бұрын
I'm going through absolute hell. I get on my knees and pray every night for guidance and to let the pain stop so I can heal.
@emnamtm34213 жыл бұрын
I went through this too day 55 of no contact my ex created a fake account ans is almost chasing me time will let you heal if you stay away. Stay strong. I begged for 2 months. Im done. I never thaught I ll get over it.
@terricklee62683 жыл бұрын
@@emnamtm3421 thank you so much for your comments. I really appreciate it
@os36882 жыл бұрын
Hey bro going thru the same shit. On day 32 of no contact and the pain comes and goes it is hard. I pray she comes back everyday. We had a great relationship up until the last 3 weeks i showed signs of jealousy and turned her off a bit. I got too comfortable and took her love for granted. She loved me so much and really showed it too. I messed up big time. I begged and broke contact twice in the first two weeks but now holding 32 days strong NC.