Why Am I So Indecisive?

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Six steps to overcome indecision, and the reasons you might be indecisive. This video walks you through key points to making good decisions, and explains how difficult decisions usually involve value conflicts as well as suboptimal choices.
00:00 Introduction
00:38 Categories of why you are indecisive
03:50 Tool for making decisions about small issues
05:37 Looking for a perfect outcome?
06:35 Are you being pressured to make a decision
09:03 Difficulty with major decisions
10:37 6 Steps to Overcome Indecision
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@BarbaraHeffernan 2 жыл бұрын

Which category do you fall into?

@feleciao2303 2 жыл бұрын

@wavy6470 2 жыл бұрын

Number 1... And whatever decision I make, I keep overthinking it after and always regret. I have been diagnosed with OCD.

@ootenba5910 Жыл бұрын

Def 1. I was parentified, abused and was not allowed to chose, and when I did... mostly negative outcomes (or harsh judgement). Thank you for these tips 💛

@BarbaraHeffernan Жыл бұрын

So sorry to hear... and I do hope this is helpful!

@amandareicha5065 Ай бұрын

This helped me understand why I am indecisive about so many things that reflect on group decision making with my husband. A lightbulb came on when you mentioned being raised to think other people's decisions were more important than your own. My mother raised me to think that. I won't go into detail, but my childhood experience affected my adulthood in negative ways. Thank you for helping me discover why.

@zer0n9ne Жыл бұрын

This is so helpful. Thank you for this. I've been struggling so much the past month and have been procastinating making a big decision that my anxiety grew bigger.

@pamdavis3065 2 жыл бұрын

I hate the feeling when I am wrong, so then I will not ever feel wrong!

@abhatg9074 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Barbara, you have really condensed the wisdom of the ages into a very logical and usable tool. Bte, your video appearing just now is also a marvelous example of synchronicity. Just yesterday I heard a beautiful explanation about what that is!!

@BarbaraHeffernan 2 жыл бұрын

Awesome! Thank you for the compliment 😊 I appreciate it! I am glad you are here!

@marinaraikis5441 11 ай бұрын

Thank you , Barbara❤

@BodyLanguageAnalysisInterrogat Жыл бұрын

Awesome video! Thank you so much! I have all of these (ADHD, OCD, parental thing, codependency and not knowing myself well, as well as being talked out of my gut instinct.) Except big decisions, I have a harder time getting organized and get rid of stuff. I'll look and see if you have an videos on clutter.

@pamdavis3065 2 жыл бұрын

Loved this. Thank you for sharing it, I will be making some mind changes for the better! Optimism and Happiness is my goal in life😍

@BarbaraHeffernan 2 жыл бұрын

Wonderful!

@olgabarron7339 Жыл бұрын

Thank You so much for the clarity and thoroughful way You deliver on the subject!!! It helps me a lot!!! 🌹🌺🌷🌼🌹God bless You.

@BarbaraHeffernan Жыл бұрын

You are so welcome!

@sll110 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your unbelievable important information, you are saving my life... 🌷🌷🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻👏👏👏👏

@BarbaraHeffernan 2 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome, and I truly wish you all the best!!

@hanaamr3685 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much that was so helpful

@BarbaraHeffernan 2 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad!

@Timefairyjina 2 жыл бұрын

This video was recommended to me for a reason I guess. Subscribed. Hi ☺️

@DJSUELTO1 2 жыл бұрын

Super helpful!!!!

@BarbaraHeffernan 2 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad!

@vince8296 Жыл бұрын

Thank you this help me a lot.

@BarbaraHeffernan Жыл бұрын

You're welcome! Glad it was helpful!

@AddyW8800 Жыл бұрын

My main issue is being indecisive about games and movies. Ik it doesnt seem important but it makes it difficult to relax

@BarbaraHeffernan Жыл бұрын

Interesting! I wonder if it would help to experiment with thinking through "what is the worst that happens" and then flip a coin? If you try it, let us know!

@amyj.4992 Жыл бұрын

Most times, I know exactly what I want. However, people would project their desires and fears to pressure me what to choose when I've already declared my decision. So I realized that being decided, needed to be less about pleasing other people and standing firm in my choices without the concern of letting others down. I know what I'm capable of, and I'm happy with the decisions I make when I'm okay with risking the consequence of disappointing others. I pray and meditate on my choices, as well. My personal decisions, also do not include betraying myself either. People, truly hate that. I'm confident with the decisions I make, after I have further investigated what I'm investing in. And I have figured out, I am polygamist lol. It's not about options, it's about a healthy community for me. That's how I optimize, on MY decision. People shame me and hate on my decisions, most times result in me gladly ignoring them because they choose to vicariously live through me and they end are disappointed. Oh well, that's what they get for not minding their own business and betraying themselves 🤷🏾‍♀️ I am decided, on who has access to my body. All decisions, have consequences: negative or positive. Plus I'm not at all a cheater, if they already know about each other and even better if they have a connection established together. I don't adhere to these politically adverse heteronormative standards.🥰

@irektaflinski5449 2 жыл бұрын

I’m totally like that!!!

@BarbaraHeffernan 2 жыл бұрын

Hope this helps!!

@kwc7391 Жыл бұрын

The only Indecision I have been having is my past relationship. I broke up, and went back with her several times. I wanted more than she was willing to give. She said the last time I was indecisive about our relationship, and to be honest, I was. It would drive me nuts as I would always be the last on her list to be with. Everything else was more important. I was back and forth leaving and coming back, needing a break to calm down.

@davidwalker5054 11 ай бұрын

it took me a while to make my mind up about watching this video. I have a problem making decisions after watching it I think it might have helped me but I'm not sure how

@fuenstock 2 жыл бұрын

I struggle with indecision for almost all things small and large It’s to the point I feel a prisoner to my thoughts. It’s frustrating beyond belief!

@BarbaraHeffernan 2 жыл бұрын

Yes, feeling prisoner to your thoughts is a good way to describe it. I hope this video helps, and I also have ones on rumination and cognitive reframing that might help

@pamdavis3065 2 жыл бұрын

I totally agree I hate making wrong decisions because they make me feel so awful! I usually handover decisions to others and accept their decision so I have someone else to blame! I am so fragile!

@nathananderson8720 7 ай бұрын

This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my KZfaq channel 9 months ago about self development. Now I have 1,703 subs and > 1k hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.

@veetee4826 Жыл бұрын

I found it hard to follow through. The step 1. For me my situation, I have options on what to do with my life.. and that's creating so much stress, because there are endless options.but also I have mental illness, so it's also hard to predict what im capable of .. and at the moment I see myself against all the odds. I could make a small decision, to get myself out of a rut, but I wont do it because a voice in me tells me to live the most of my 20's , party n live a life u can remember (thru college, cos my college offers the ultimate life I want) .. but I dont like the course of my uni