Register for AevyTV FREE LIVE Webinar - zoom.us/webinar/register/3216999497826/WN_HfcLS8IXTreeXt-uJezjBg

One other effect of social media is that a lot of people have forgotten how to have a face-to-face conversation, especially a wholesome conversation. It has been almost 8 years I have deleted almost all my social media accounts (except KZfaq and Whatsapp if you count KZfaq as social media). When I try to converse with someone close to my age (i'm 28) face to face it's as if they just want to end the conversation as soon as possible and go back to their phones

Loneliness has followed me my whole life. Everywhere. In bars, in cars, sidewalks, stores, everywhere. There's no escape. I'm God's lonely man.

Well - I am surprised to see an Indian channel addressing this. THANKS A TON Achina & Team Aevy!

01:46 Loneliness is becoming an epidemic worldwide. 03:30 Loneliness in Indian men due to migration and social media 06:24 Seeking attention on social media is not a substitute for real connection. 08:04 Building offline friendships is important, but many people lack the energy or time to make friends. 09:43 The world is becoming more tribal, impacting our social relationships and leading to loneliness. 12:23 Loneliness is a significant issue in India with over 40% of Indians estimated to be suffering from loneliness. 13:57 15% of men today don't have a close male friend 15:29 Building face-to-face relationships is essential to combat loneliness in the digital age. Crafted by Merlin AI.

My teacher once said:- "Computers are most useful invention while smartphones are most useless invention."

Maturity is when you realise you don’t need to share everything on social media but instead share it with people when you actually meet them. In fact, talking about something to someone will always make you happier than just counting likes and comments, especially if it’s not a business. What has happened is people just get some sort of pseudo-satisfaction by posting their moments online. Live in the moment!Memories were never meant to be publicised or be applauded for…it’s your memory, why would you expect a stranger to react to that? Much needed video❤

Feeling lonely when you live alone or have no friends is still understandable but feeling lonely even while surrounded by family/friends is the real danger 🤕!

Sometimes I Used To Think You All Are From Europe 😂😂

The key to a genuine connection is a sort of understanding. You are free to act how you want, say what you want, without fear of judgement or backlash. You have this understanding that even if you end up offending the other person, they will see it as a simple mistake and not a character trait. Of course there are nuances to it with people being toxic, not respecting boundaries and what not, but at the heart, you should feel safe in being your authentic real self while knowing that the other person became your friend for that very thing. Not for your money, status, or one particular behaviour or interest of yours.

I always hated COVID. It felt good initially as a break from everything but I soon realised that it is the worst thing that happened to us.

Hats off to Aevy team to address this issue ❤️ lots of love guys

I recently came across your video addressing the challenges of loneliness, and I must express my gratitude for the insightful content you provided. Your video holds immense value, particularly for those who may be grappling with feelings of isolation without fully understanding their emotional state. As social beings, genuine connections are integral to our well-being, and your message resonated deeply. I sincerely request you to consider creating more content tailored to the modern era, focusing on the younger generation and mental health. Your current video stands out as one of the finest on the internet concerning this crucial topic, and I believe that your continued efforts in this direction would be highly appreciated. Thank you for your dedication to fostering understanding and awareness around mental health issues. I look forward to more enlightening content from you. Love From Pakistan!!

The real problem is the trade-off between friendship and work. I guess you can work with friends, but how realistic is it? You can get them to work with you but you can't focus with them around, and when everyone wants to pull off a way to avoid being spoon-fed by robots working for you, you can't waste time. Checking KZfaq takes no commitment, 20 minutes and you can decide to work anytime you want since you're still in your working space. Going out with your friends is guaranteed a lot of time. It's a big commitment.

Besides my family, I only have 3 friends, but that's where it ends. I have been friends with 2 of them for 5+ years. I love spending time with myself and those few people who are my 'tribe'. Social Media has taken away abilities to converse in real life for many, I like to spend 6 months off social media and 6 months on it to create a balance but every time I leave it, I feel like never coming back. A life without social media is much more peaceful and productive for me.

This is just a so incredible video about loneliness with the perfect solution. The problem, the causes every thing has been perfectly aligned and stated in the video. Thank you Aevy team!

"Social animal to Social Media Bots" Man I'm preparing for civil services and I can use plenty of example from this video in essay in short the content is that good. Great work... Good topic and actually good easy explanation.

Don't know about being Lonely. Everytime Aevy Tv's notification pops up, i know for a fact, it's going to both Educational and fun.

Tbh I like being alone, i don't care what people think about me, apne kaam se kaam rakho that's my motto. A person can enjoy life even if he/she is alone.

I'd say that many parts of the video were relatable with the kind of person I've become with my screen time. Thanks for shedding light on everything loneliness, Aevy TV team!

As an introvert, I can confirm that I don't feel lonely at all even if I stay at home everyday 🗿💪🏻💪🏻 Edit: Damn, so many likes

There is no solution; the older you get, the worse it becomes. While you can attempt to address this problem, success is elusive because capitalism has deeply impacted everyone for the sake of greed, either making money or printing it. Successful men and women are those who prepare for their worst times during their happier days.

When you focus on your career, you want to have a bright and better future, you must need to be lonely, you gotta walk on your own path alone by eliminating all distraction and pursue your passion. The World and India has been through a lot of changes.

"We don't understand the difference between connection and attention". This statement really changed my mind. When I get involved in a chain of comments under a meme or a post, I feel like surrounded by like minded people, friends, but it is not connection at all. As soon as the dust settles they are gone. It was only temporary attention.

I felt pretty lonely back in 11th and 12th grade cuz of a new school. I consider myself as introverted (kinda) but my social life took a hard hit. It started from no friends to bad grades and isolation from family and the people who I had little contact with just seemed to disappear. It sometimes physically hurt and IDK the science behind it, but it does. I felt invisible even when I was in the middle of a group. Three years later, I'm still trying to make friends and interact and socialize more but its not that easy as it is shown in movies and shows. I'm better and still trying and I think that makes a difference. Thank you so much for making a video on this topic. P.S. you guys should make more videos on topics which affect the human personality, like this one. Just a suggestion. Godspeed!!!

Much needed topic for today's society!! Thanks a lot for shedding light on this.

It took me so long to remember how to conversate with normal people... I couldn't even maintain eye contact. Due to my low-self esteem(which became worse when I got called weird), I wasn't confident in talking to people... people thought I was weird. I guess online bullying is another major issue, anyone can be a 'someone' nowadays, and abuse anyone else. I'm a young teenager and the people I am referring to are teenagers(about 14). I can already see the future of the country.

Great case study! I myself have suffered from loneliness during covid times and during jee preparation. But I don't think that playing games with someone or joining communities do really help people. According to me, you need to put efforts and time both to make a friendship. The faster these temporary things start, the faster they diminish. If possible go frequently to your home, find your old college and school friends to talk. Quality matters!

Thank you for reminding people that they are lonely through this video. Loneliness, no friends is a pandemic today. There was a time when there was no internet, no social media, no mobile phones. People were forced to socialize, engage with each other. But now we live in a time where neibours dont know each other.

Happy you guys made a video to address this issue, I recall my days when there were no screens back then and was easy to tackle social media by meeting up in person. "It's true technology is a curse to humanity at times" I repeat at times !

Even when I was small I struggled to make some genuine connections with my social groups, I felt I was par & ahead of my peer's mindset & still this continues today. It is okay to keep yourself different if you do not fit into any group or so. I see people are so desperate to be part of any group or to belong somewhere, especially girls. If I had made some connections then they would have left me because of some circumstances so I felt unlucky at times. I realized that the quality of friendship is much more important than any superficial relationship & it shall be cherished if you get some. In today's generation, it even gets harder. My advice is to Let it be Natural & go with the flow, prioritize Quality over Quantity at 1st, then go for Quantity later. Sometimes even ignore other's imperfections to keep the connections in place. (In my opinion we are built to survive in any given circumstance we are not at all weak)

While watching this I realised there was a boom in covid when everyone started talking very actively about mental health... And now that people have gotten into work from office model, the discussions and thoughts have decreased significantly. We are more considerate than before but have gone back to being reluctant about these conversations

i have been dealing with this for months now. although in my case i didnt leave my house but i came back to it. i dont certainly feel lonely but i miss my friends and my college days which i recently graduated from. this is because i dont have any friends in my hometown. now making friends as an adult is not easy. with social media and constant validation in our hand 24 7 even worse. but i faced this during the lockdown as well and when i went for my graduation everything seemed fine. not once have i felt lonely when i was there. its a real issue and it can be solved but as you mentioned it really needs some effort. i hope everyone figures it out.

hi aveyTV, Its exactly me u r talking about. extremly lonely getting suicidal thoughts every single. not able to found a group that i can fit in. i am earning enough amount of money but not getting a social connection not even a single person i can spent time with.... i got seviourly bullied in my childhood and toxic house environment... so i locked myself in room and narrow down mind to only focus on my career may be with that i will be able to attention from people ... i earned money but i am still a fearful child inside me.... who is always feeling suppresed by the whole world in my mind ..... I FEEL EXTREMELY left out I Cry out loud inside my car in a silent room and getting suicidal thoughts everyday doing this comment from my anonmyus account because i feel anxious if i do it from i real account ;)

It is incredible to see this many people sharing their experiences & opening up. Too good to be true. More power to you for speaking on issues like this.

The topic they have picked up they deserve a huge round of applause for this. This topic should be bought in front and discussed. There is a need that this topic should be discussed with our youth

starting act was mad lol

I can totally relate to it. The pain that i go through in loneliness is immense. After working on floor for 10 yes in industry I switched to to remote since then I started facing the heat

It is a very good video! Informative, motivating and overall helpful!

additionally its not only smartphones and social media but there are cases of "gen z" as they call themselves dont relate to the mindset of their older generation people i.e includes parents relatives etc and yea stuff happens where you uk slowly lose ur presence within that very family or u itself distance urself due to them not being able to understand ur "genz' mindset in this case as well people choose to be lonely not because of choice at times they have developed such a mindset where they feel like until they get the right person who supports them in whatever they do good or bad they gonna stay lonely and either enjoy or suffer. (idk what i said in the above para if u get offended i am sorry )

Now a days friendship for majority means a way to exploit money & kindness of others for their selfish needs..so it is common for the victims to retreat into themselves for their own sake.. Also a wise man qouted:-" if you feel lonely when you are alone that means you are in a bad company"..i believe all you need in your life is confidence and believe in yourself and don't ever seek validation from others. And most importantly learn to control our emotions even if it is happy or sad it should be under our control..

In my opinion Meditation is really great for decreasing loneliness, it is like 1 of the best tools that can help get out of loneliness

you explain things so well, I commend you guys for your amazing work, and brilliant effort

Mai to poora pagal ho gya hu , kya voice hai , kya khoobsurat hai ❤❤❤❤

Thanks a ton guys at Aevy for addressing such a big issue. Here's a suggestion from my side as well...one can join gym..I think this is the easiest way to interact with new people.

The most detailed and very well explained video.

So greatly explained!!! This was must needed content! Thank you for sharing 🙌

You put all my thoughts and experiences into this wonderfully well presented video! I too struggled with loneliness and the dreaded pit in the stomach when you are part of a group and yet feel that you arent part of a conversation, which made me even more secluded and unwilling to talk to other people Then at the lowest point in my life, due to few close male friends who supported me in my harsh times, i realized how valued i was to a very few group of people. And then it struck me. It didnt matter whether people accepted me or not, there will always be one or two people who will like me for my personality and characteristics. This realization was the catalyst that made me break out of my shell and made me open up more to people and get to know them better as many people have their own experiences and unique stories to tell! This made me more friends and new close friends too! However, i never let go of my old close friends and even to this day, even though we cant physically meet often, i put effort into speaking to them once in a while and catching up with them Once you decide to make your conversations with people real and offline, you realize how much there is in the world and that most people are friendly and not hate driven and selective like social media has led us to believe. I stopped spending time on social media especially instagram, as it gives a fake outlook of a good life while in fact, a good life is one with both ups and downs. So in the end, try to open up to people and be honest and real with them, as they may teach you valuable life lessons, and building connections is generally good in your future prospects and endeavours. That said, always keep you core moral values and principles firm so that you arent influenced easily by mob mentality and are a unique person amongst the crowd. Also wven if you make many friends, always put effort into maintaining personal relationships with your closest friends as even though many people would like a good talk from time to time, its the closest friends who truly value your presence and make you feel comfortable and truly care about your well being!

the solutions which you shared is the most realistic solution ever i have heard from anyone because i was huge introvert once, but doing the same things which you said i made so many friends and willing to make more in my college and i am also socializing myself more i feel. great video by the way

Loneliness is a global problem, not just in india. I think it started with social media and smartphones. I mitigate this with forcing myself to meet friends atleast once or twice a week. Just hangout, drink, race, sports, whatever, as long as it's social.

Good job Aevy team on the content and efforts taken. Wish you tons of success!

kudos to aevy tv for making it and saying it out loud!!!

Aevy tv is the best thing that has happened to the Indian internet since AIB and TVF.

Damn as someone who's living alone tens of thousands of miles away from parents for survival and ensuring they're able to lead a happy and comfortable life, this hit home.

Loved the video, felt like a part of me was addressed, the solutions you gave are indeed something to look into, noted them, this video felt more emotional and different, and would love to see more such sensitive topics addressed.

This is surprisingly good. On the point and quite thorough. I love that instead of offering alternatives, we have come to acknowledge the real problem and try to solve it despite it has an initial inertia. Obviously we cannot keep running away and make do with stupid alternatives. We have got to do what our biology asks us to do. Go out, make friends. Stupid Phones have been traumatizing this generation for their bottom line. Thanks for this wonderful video.

These are *not* the only reason for loneliness, for example a person not getting the job due to recession, because they are now only hiring experienced candidates while his friends have job and are now having 2 years of experience. The person would not be able to talk to friends out of the insecurity *not* because of the social media. Another example - let's suppose someone tried for government job for 3years and was unsuccessful, now his friends have 3years of experience and are earning well in private sector, the guy would then shy away and restrict himself from any socialization. *My point is, the loneliness root cause is insecurity and inferiority complex. It's true that social media and online work facilitate it but they are not the reason for it*

I'm rn 17th studying in class 12th PCM . I would be taking a drop year to prepare for Jee Mains I also have 0 friends / person whom i can share my day to day life issues , after doing all the work studies at the end of day there is no one whom I can talk with it feel too much empty Most of my school mates go on short trip nearby hill station by contributing 1000-1500 . They never ask me to come with themselves because i belong from lower middle class family and Yes 1000rs isn't small amount No one wants to be alone by choice 😢

This needed some attention, Aevy pulled it off.

thank you for sharing this beautiful piece of message. your work may be blessed!

When I was working in Mumbai I had really friendly roommates and some colleagues but after lockdown I settled in my hometown and I had some friends in my society but they were too mean to me and I always encouraged them to go out on a tour together but always rejected so I stopped meeting them and I'm an introvert so can't make new friends too. Also I'm a gamer, so any free time I play games as it's an escape from reality. Now only chances of the end of loneliness is arranged marriage and not too lucky with that too.

When you are living a country like India loneliness is a bless

This video hits deep, good work AvyTv. Eye opener

Kudos to Aevy Tv for addressing such a important issue publicly! Very few people knows about this problem. Aevy is a Vibe! ❤

As a JEE aspirant studying online. I constlantly feel FOMO and loneliness as i have no friend to talk now i always stay at home always. I dont have friends always ready to listen me uplike i had in regular school. Cant talk with parents much about my prep my mental health and all

I am living away from my home since 3 years. Here i have people, but i feel loneliness because they don't get into conversation with me. I told it to my mom but she never get that. Its great that you guys have made this video. I am definitely going to show it to my mom.

Deng I have been smoking 16 packets of cigarettes a day for more than 10 years now... That's legendary level, no?

It's so true. In my case, I moved to a new city and had no friends or relatives there. Wherever I went alone, I would find people in groups or couples and that hurt so much that going out itself felt sad. Staying at home watching stupid series every day and ordering junk food worsens it more. Being shy tops it all. Unfortunately, neither I have the courage to overcome this nor do I like this feeling.

i think for me joining the gym helped... i think it increase your self esteem..and also it's easier to make friends there.. i mean there will be always someone who will be needing spot for either bench or squat... your are forced to talk to people there either for asking for weights or for doing a workout alternately in a machine..

I love loneliness. It makes you come closer to yourself OR it can break you. Choice is yours. Also, i love a place where nobody knows you.

The skit deserves a Oscar for sure

Brilliant piece of content. I’m an observer of this phenomena and also a victim. Our generation needs genuine relationships and friendships to be happy and joyful like previous generations. Now that big families are not a thing in most big city’s, we need to find other ways of building relationships and communities.

Whosoever wrote the script needs to be applauded. Good work and nicely selected words to explain the crux of the matter. Thank you, it may not have added to improve ones skill but it surely has helped people to identify what and why of their current behaviour and things they unconsciously do in day to day lives that's harming their mental psyche.

I was also going through the this recently and maybe still I am. This is because of My new college, where everyone is a stranger and it's seems kind of difficult to approach people and due to this I was going through a long period of stress and depression. Cuz there was No One to talk to, and I mean real talk heart to heart kinda. But thankfully Our college provide student counselling, where I get the chance to open myself. And Nowadays I feel pretty nice compared to my previous self, although I still doesn't have that heart to heart though. But I think I will find that too...hehehehe😁

Awesome and much needed content in recent times!! I appreciate much your team for putting up this effort!! Hats Off !!!👌👌✨✨✨

there are people who are fine alone but feel extremely lonely while people are around them.

3:00 me on my way to smoke 10 packs and make friends with tapri wala, for health reasons ofc

Honestly, loneliness can also be caused due to extreme commitment to something else like career, and it’s a fact that work-life balance doesnt exists if you want to excel exceptionally, there is no cure to such problem if we prioritise something else.

I wanna take time and appreciate you guys for posting such thoughtful content, Every video that you guys post educates me in someway or another, a big thnx for posting content on social well-being.

Excellently presented and adddressed. Your intent is visible clearly, Keep going❤

5:00 I can relate to all of them. I had moved to Vellore for BTech and was instantly isolated pro max. I made some friends on similar tastes in art (anime, music, etc) but it faded soon. It didn't help that Vellore was going through a racist period where Dravidian politics was worst. Teachers continually abused children for speaking their mother tongues and even Muslims who spoke Urdu refused to speak to Hindus in Urdu as it would "pollute their Urdu with Hindi words". The loneliness was so bad that I gained 20kgs in 3 months!!! I think it's worse for men because of a lack of Masculinism as a movement. Women have Feminism. It is highly pushed institutionally. Most women see other women and see each other as a "class for itself" and are able to form tribes around that fact. They can bond with each other over "women only issues" and with media and art constantly reinforcing their issues they need little to no context to relate to one another. Men, on the other hand, don't have these perks, and society sometimes actively dissuades them from discussing their issues as well. There is no way men can "form a tribe" simply via their gender identity alone. We are forced into individualism while women have the advantage to choose collectivism as a protection shield. I would never shame any 18-19 year old to use their identity as a safety net, but we need to push society towards stronger bonds which are constructive and beyond the surface level. Religion is one way to do it. But there has to be a deeper connection, an emphasis on commonality, etc. same with Gender wrt men. Our issues should be discussed more openly. Thankfully, I see things changing now. It makes me happy. I hope one day we can look back at this moment the same way feminists look back at 100 years ago. I also hope we are able to surpass the gender identity as a whole and embrace androgynity in society wrt family and personality quirks. We are not the same; yet, we are all human. We can all learn from each other. Men can learn from women just as much as women can learn from men. I just wish men were allowed to do better by society. That's all.

I think there's relatively less loneliness in india, if we compare to west or Japan, where there is much less of a "human" culture. I dont know really, ive heard this from relatives, but still, its definitely not something to be ignored

Such an important topic you have raised. I wish more popular influencers like you would raise this awareness amongst the youngsters on our country. And its very much a bigger problem amongst the male , whatever are the reasons. The only way out they see is to go in a pub and drink.

Things don’t kills you only makes you stronger

as introvert i dont feel loneliness in my life

I never had problems making friends. I never had problem getting girls. In fact, I was the one who had to say no to girls many times. But I choose to be alone. It's better than being with the wrong people and dealing with their BS. One has got to be mentally strong to live alone. Have few genuine friends in your life and focus on your dreams. Socializing will just mess you up mentally. Stay isolated and happy.

i've just started to watch this and like wow man!! keep going🔥

So nice videos you make!!!

This is great that you guys are acknowledging the problems but plssss also give solutions if possible in your videos!

Thank you once again for discussing an important issue. Huge respect to the whole team. The comedy part at the start of the video alone summarised the whole video. It shows that a lot of thought has been put in the comedy part. How we started and how we strayed from social contact and the temporary high and the eventual low making him to realise old fashioned way is the best one. Cherry on the cake is how you showed junk food(chips) has taken over this generation as compared to healthy food besides the phone and social media. Please continue making such LONG DURATION VIDEOS about Relevant topics.

This so called career chase, career growth, leaves you actually lonely and unhappy. Growth and money can happen with happiness and patience, with brotherhood

Good video, Achina! 👍🏼 Just a little long! ☺️

Actually no one cares, creators are just making videos on trending topics.

It's not just social media but family structure and according to my observation when you we do over correction to break off from the curse of old patriarchal toxic suffocating family structure (the middle class trap with suffocating moral values, forcefully imposed religious views and virtue signalling, etc) we end up choosing the other side of the spectrum which is individuality to the point it's lonely. So there's this new over correction of choosing friends as family (because of poor family dynamics) which is also alarming cause at the end of the day your friends will leave you for having a family of their own and it's true. All in all, it's not just social media but it's freedom because of money and an upgradation in lifestyle that we very much want but also many downsides to it.

Tbh i feel really relaxed and peaceful when there's no people but the problem starts coming whenever i have to deal with people

Strictly staying away from so called connectivity apps.. These are all unreal friends.. Where very rarely we get honest friends. Thank you guys for making this video and guiding along❤

Age: 30 Status: Alone, No friends, no GF, Never had one. Numbers of demons inside my brain: Infinite. Are you in a similar situation?

I just have to say that I was concerned with the same thing and address it to people who I see. Its just few of them who constantly try to build a meaningful relationship via social media. Being an ambivert, I struggle more on the side to be along an active meaningful community despite me being with a friendly nature. The situation has made people be influenced to mind their own business in every aspect and be very less open.Still figuring out ways to make people come along.I know everyone isn't like me but being a person who love to be around people it strikes me hard when things like this happen.(Being genuinely busy with work/family/exploring solo is definitely fine and required but making them just excuses to face people and collaborate is when things take a turn and hit oneself). As she states clearly in this video, just go out there and try to make meaningful relations..There should always be a start and trust me don't wait for the other person to come and talk to you..If that thought arises ask yourself who the fuck you are and just go initiate the conversation by saying a simple Hi.

Just discovered your channel today. I like the way you present very serious topics. Thanks! ❤

AevyTV is the new Dhruv Rathee ❤❤❤