Thank you for defining the difference. I’m an Empath and I hate it. I absorb everyone’s energy and feel the need to jump in and solve their problems. I’m exhausted and won’t do it anymore. To accomplish this, I isolate myself from people. Thankfully, through videos such as this, I can work on this co-dependency.

I use to be an empath. After suffering severe narcissistic abuse, I was able to identify the source of my empathy. I was raised by narcissistic parents and was taught that other's needs were more important than my own. I am no longer a co dependent. I have stop associating with toxic people in my life. I was so exhausted from being an empath. It has taken me a while to recover. I have started a new life and I'm never going back.

Becoming an empath was a survival skill, and helped me cope with narcissistic parents and a toxic narc abusive husband. It no longer serves me. It’s exhausting and maladaptive. The only cure for me was to discard toxic people from my life, allow a loving safe partner, and found ways to help others in a healthy way (such as volunteering, etc) No more codependency. I’m still special with great intuition & empathy, without the toxicity of absorbing others! Hang in there empaths! Listen to this video 3-4 times! It’s a hard truth, but will set you free!

Well said. "Empath" ~ those who are delusional & believe they're special but are actually very damaged insecure & emotionally immature people.

This dude too legit, hit the nail on the head. I discovered narcissism a few years back and its been a revelation. I actually developed teeth to bite people back! Before I was the door mat and cared way too much what people thought! NOW I AM STRONG AND TO BE RESPECTED!!!!

I am an Empath and I completely agree with you. It's exhausting. I have been an Empath since I was a child. There are so many short comings. I love being an Empath and I have finally learned to be better to me and not lose myself in others and the emotions and feelings. I deserve to be happy and have successful life. There is also a lot of guilt that is given to them.

I am an empath and I'd like to thank you for this video. I've been slowly realizing how toxic being an empath truly is and this just put it into such an understandable concept for me. Thank you.

This is why I like you. You're honest with compassion, but you don't allow that compassion to compromise your honesty. Thank you for being here. I appreciate you so much Kenny 💙

6:28 “What makes us weak is the avoidance of truth!” Wow I love this quote. Thanks so much for your videos, I find them deeply helpful.

'Empath' became a buzzword to redefine co-dependency and neuroticism.

This reminds me how my therapist said how I would make a good therapist because of the complex way I work on emotions when I told her I would never consider because I wouldn't know how to regulate the emotions I am taking from the other person. I never saw it as this gift others tried to tell me it always just feels like a burden.

I'm floored. This is extremely eye opening. I have empathy and i'm an empath. And I do admit my co-dependency issues. Thank you for this eye opener!!

So well said, Kenny. You never offend me since i recognize my traumatic childhood, narc/alcoholic parents and how I've become an empath/ co-dependent. Hopefully others will be able to face these realities in order to move forward.

I already figured this one out. Empath is someone with very little personal boundaries with others.

This is what I've been doing all of my years. Thank you for the light. I long to be real, but am so filled with shame. Now, I can start the journey to healing that shame.

I've dealt with what has been classified as Chronic Fatigue Syndrome for 40 years.This explains a lot.

I used to think I was an empath, but then a counselor told me about "mirror neurons." When you're being abused, you mirror the emotions of your abuser. It made sense.

this make me cry, I found I already lost ability to cry.... my whole life unbelievable miserable and living in the hell because of this horrible Empathy, all because I am scapegoat of huge Narcissists family

I spent four months to seek for answers why all my relationships and cooperations turn bad, why all people use me, and why I always end up as a victim ... I am so kind to all people, help them, etc. This is the second video I watched on your channel, and I feel like I am close to see the bigger picture :). Thank you! ❤

Id argue not all all who identify at empaths get some thrill out of the other persons pain. I think its more they have been so hurt that they get an emotional release of their own hurts thru helping and delving into another persons pain, because a) they know how it feels. B) some cant stand to think of another person in as much emotional pain as they themselves have endured. (Truly humanitarian) and c) they feel called to help others navigate emotions because they live in the emotional world. They feel sense and breathe emotions. For me im part native american north and south and i use to be even more sensitive to peoples emotions, but now i mainly feel a calling to serve others. Its possible empaths r unhealed for the moment but i do think all people who have been thru trauma are also people with gifts and abilities as well. Youd b surprised. Its not everyones experience, but you can br screwed up by your past and also be incrrdibly courageous, brave, selfless, empathic, and yet have a strong enuf sense of survival instinct that u remain striving even in brokenness, and can truly help others in their emotional darkness. I think some of the best healers for deeper darker pain r those who have been hurt themselves. U probably have one type down but i think empath and highly sensitive persons is more a reclaiming of ability, than mischief to control others, thats the opposite of a true empath and sounds more like a covert sociopath, and who doesnt even want u to recover in the first place.

I get it, I see your point BUT, AS WE HEAL & REALIZE WHAT we are,we can become EMPOWERED and learn how to OBSERVE instead of ABSORB!!!

Like a canary in the coal mine, an empath has little emotional filter for good or bad emotional energy. It takes great effort to differentiate oneself from the environment.

Wow, I wish I had seen this years ago. I am a severe codependent and I need to restore my sense of self. Actually I’ve never had that. Thank you for making this

Wow! This makes so much sense to me! And I do feel that rage under the “kindness” that I feel I must provide to everyone. Thank you for this. 💕

Balancing being empathic and having empathy is hard in any case and relationship. Family, romantic, friendship, work and society. It's draining... I'm working hard on healing from codependency. But I'm moving forward... Balance and boundaries ❤️ Great advice! Thank you!

I understand being an empath is a toxic trait that’s not normal! Many coming on these utube narcissist videos feel special because talkers are passing on that we are normal better people than the narcissist just to keep us coming back, but we are NOT!! It’s our own tragic childhood at work causing us to attract narcissists. I need to share this video with the masses on narcissism videos!

Very powerful video. It made me cry. Thank you. It really hurts, but underneath all of my kindness I have the deepest pit inside of me that holds all of my shame. I tried so hard to get my dad to love me, but it was never enough. Despite all of my dad's physical and verbal abuse I always wanted him to approve of me. In Highschool, and College I suffered from severe panic attacks. I had no boundaries, and I struggled with deep depression. Now I am in my 40's, and I have a better sense of self. I still struggle with anxiety and depression even though my dad is dead now. I will never understand why I was such a huge disappointment to him, but I don't need his approval. It's important to deal with that deep pit of shame, and not put a mask on it.

Kenny. Holy moly. I've been researching and looking for this info about being "good" from my teen years on, almost a lifetime... 71 now, and still surprised by finding myself "in the wrong place again"... I needed this key to unlock the door to my next lessons. I appreciate you, Kenny. This is not the first time you have enlightened me. Knowing I am responsible for myself was the easy part. Knowing what to do to heal? Not so easy to figure out. You are a diamond, sir. Your personal sharing and attention to detail are of incredible value. I'm off now to learn how to conquer guilt and shame, and discover everything else I can glean in the process. 🌟

So true my life has been narcissistically abusive relationships teaching me why "empath" is just the other side of the same coin. It hasn't been easy but starting to break through over the past few years. Your book "Your Journey to Success" is really giving me another push along the road. Thank you!

Yes, I was an empath bc of narcissistic abusive parents. I have had to work through this trauma and become myself. I have less triggers now and more boundaries and I’m much happier. So grateful.

You have upset me…by telling me the truth lol Seriously though, for the last few years I’ve considered myself an empath and over those few years unbeknownst to me I have been taking the steps to undo that by healing from my past childhood traumas. So I’m very pleasantly thankful to hear your thoughts and perspectives on me lol I have a lot of work to do and I’m very happy and excited to know I’ve been doing the work to heal. I’ve watched many of your videos and I cannot thank you enough for helping me understand what I mess I was and still am and now knowing I’m on the right path to a better me. I truly hated me and strived to find the memory of the happy I enjoyed before it all went wrong and I started down the road to self destruction. I’m 16 years sober. I few years in I realized why and what caused it all. My life up until I was seven was a happy life until my whole world changed forever with my parents divorce. Everything I knew was gone in an instant. All my friends, family, home and room were gone and I was literally on my own. Once I realized that traumatic event was the start I started working to fix me. I will always be a work in progress but I’m a peaceful and happy work in progress now 😊

I'm an empath and had to learn about boundaries. From a very good counselor .Where I start and others end.Still at times get a bit lost especially with destructive people like narcissists. But I'm very much better than I used to be. I had my boundaries destroyed as a child.

I’m an empath for myself now. Tuning into me, self-care, and self-love is where I choose to expend my energy.

And I never have one bit of a problem sticking around anyone toxic or that is a rotten person, or bad company. I'd think twice about never seeing someone again.

I'm 35 and have always felt very different and often think I'm just incredibly kind and loving with everyone, and often feel too moved from others, and this video was very eye opening. Our society makes it sound like it's always positive being an "Empath" but it's feel so exhausting feeling SO much all the time. I'll probably wind up listening to this more then once.

This might be the best video on empaths and the direct relation to narcissism. Ppl got to stop putting titles on themselves permanently. Puts your mind in a box and your soul in a jail cell

Thank you so much, it's very important to hear this. I'm an empath. It's very difficult, it's like living without a skin. I'm on a way of healing and I started with realizing the problem first.

The lies we believe and the truth that sets us free Love your understanding and process thank you! I'll probably have to listen a few times and make notes wow so wonderful to get to the root of things!

Awesome video Kenny! There's no mysticism or metaphysics to being an empath, it is Codependency pure and simple. It's actually very scary to think that instead of substances like alcohol, meth, or fentanyl Codependency uses other people to regulate. And I have certainly chosen to be around extremely dangerous people and situations because I felt so out of control. I love others enough to let them fail and hit rock bottom. My rock bottom is that they were letting me slowly die from substances, depression, panic attacks as long as I was helpful to them... until I cared about myself! I'll never loan Self ever again.

I thought I was cursed to be a beacon of light. now, I just feel "cursed"

Well said! I’m a energy healer and a empath. The strong points has helped me in my healing work to help others but from the point of having empathy for their situation. So the truth will set one free. I have vowed to not continue to be a wounded healer. And help from an empowered place. Love your videos. 🌺🥰🙏🏽

What an interesting analysis! I've never heard the term empath defined this way. For many of us, this description of our childhood trauma is pure truth. Thank you so much for your input and insight.

Thank you so much. This video is so enlightening. I’ve always known myself to be an empath. I attracted narcissists my whole life, which only made me trust less and isolate more. I’ve gone no contact with the narcissists, but I thought I was just stuck being an empath and always alone. How incredibly hopeful to know I can evolve past it. It’s true what you said in another video, that it’s a form of narcissism, in that it keeps me feeling superior to others (“I feel more than others”).I want to be equal with others, in healthy relationships, empathetic but not an empath. So grateful for your videos. God bless you

it is the hardest way to live. I used to be exhausted at work all the time because I couldn't say no to helping others, I took over and fixed all the issues all the time. I am retired now, and I feel so much better. I did it while raising the kids too. I spoiled them. Made sure they always had the next big thing, the cars, clothes etc. I spoil my husband; he is used to me doing everything. Now I set boundaries more, say no most times to ppl and I do not take any crap from anyone. As soon as I feel put upon, I halt everything and verbalize my feelings or walk away. I have cut off some relationships from my past that were not healthy, and I feel a lot better but not completely healed from this. Dad was abusive he hit, he terrorized when he was home, he had out of control rage. Mom was enabler and empath but a sweet sweet soul. I miss her very much. I think without her I would have run away younger instead of waiting till I was 16. I am caring for my narc parent in their old age....what does that tell you? With God's help, I'll get through this too. Life is good and you have to create the world you want and that is best for you. Blessings for sharing your knowledge.

At LAST! Someone speaking the truth. Codependency is rife on here. Perpetuation of the myth that being an empath is a gift when it’s actually a tag for dysfunctional behaviour. I salute you for addressing this issue.

One of your best videos! I've been told I just dont have the resources to help people and that's why i dont help people. Totally ridiculous! I just choose not to make other people's problems my own.

Kindness is not the problem, lack of boundaries, enabling toxic behavior, and not being genuine is the problem.

A true empath is a lot like a telepath just "feeling" the emotions being radiated. They do not absorb the emotions. If the emotions are very strong it can be telepathic and they can hear the thoughts. It is NOT becoming the other. Crowds are tiring because of the barrage or "noise". Maybe some people are just whatever you think empaths are.

This is exactly what people who identify as empaths need to hear. It's not some hero-like, wise state of being that you tell people about proudly. It's painful and awful and like you said, it's dysfunctional. I recently realised I may have been an empath as a child due to childhood trauma. I would take on all of my parents' moods, and that of others around me which was toxic and unhealthy for me as a child. You hit the nail on the head when you said you were hyperaware. That was me all my life. I felt like this growing up and I was unable to shut out a lot of the noise. Luckily I got some help a few years ago, it's taken years (diagnosed with depression and anxiety as well) but I'm on medication that works for me now and I will be off them soon. I still feel aware of others and situations and I still need time alone away from people, but it's improved a lot.

This was my grandmother and mother and also me. There is a disgusting energy in this. The last time I was in a relationship, I became my ex. I got worse and worse. I wished life hadn't been like this, that this had been me. I disappear. I become the other. But I've been working on myself for a long time now. To be in myself. Even when energies strike. Have I stayed in myself. But this I started with as a little girl. Play along so I don't have to be exposed to violence. But started to get a hold of myself. Because when the energy came, I met myself. My little self. Didn't enter the other. But there is hard work behind it. Get to know me now.

Uf! What a great video, I needed to hear this. Helps me a lot in being in touch with reality. I haven't heard this before and it gives me another perspective.

Thank you for showing the difference! While growing up I used to be an empath but lately noticed losing it. This is so useful!

I’m grateful to run across you. In order for me to define what was going on with me, I did label myself as an empath. My mood would shift even as I passed an unknown car on the road. I could get on any horse and know immediately what kind of ride I was in for. I could feel a chaotic person walk into the room even when my back was turned. I’d feel it and look around to see where it was coming from and I knew this person was chaotic from past behavior so I know that I am an empath. And it’s very useful when it doesn’t take over. I hate being chaotic or angry just because a carrier entered the room. I want to be who I am. So I do the cognitive work and I do the EMDR and I work on my boundaries. The EMDR has smoothed down the instantaneous triggers that destroyed my ability to be sane, make eye contact, talk in my normal voice. 5 years of EMDR, mixed with cognitive learning. I also have a job as a caregiver to the elderly. The policies of the company have really made a difference in my ability to make and keep boundaries. I can let the company be my backbone and I can be nice about it. I just have to remember not to mix any of my own desire to do more than I’m supposed to because that’s an invite to be exploited. I’ve done a lot of work. I can be a leader and I’ve noticed that the people around me are different. I have power over the narcissists just by diverting the conversation, or by leaving if I sense that anything I say will only make it worse. That’s where being an empath comes in handy. I walk in the room and immediately turn around and leave, I get on a horse and immediately get off. But then I laugh when I see the narcissists avoiding me. I find it much easier to be honest without divulging what’s going on inside me. I got my highly codependent neighbor to quit trying to infect me with her cynicism and taking over my decisions when she went into caregiver mode. It is funny to watch people shift. I shift as I walk down the hall between clients because I want to give them what they need, but when I leave, they stay there and I go home and be myself. At least I know who I am now AND that I can choose who I want to be. That’s a big AND. Power I didn’t have before. I just wish it hadn’t taken me so long to be ready to shove off the oppression. But I guess it takes damn near dying from the constant terror and it’s effects on my body. I’m 62 now. I was finally ready at 57. And I was like 50 before I knew my dad’s eyes are blue. But now I can laugh at him to his face when he gets stupid towards me because he’s not able to trigger me anymore. But there is one more evil than that, who scared even my dad, who I’m not sure I can ever be strong enough to speak to ever again. He can manipulate whole groups of people and they can’t even see it.

THIS IS TRUE,,,severely dysfunctional,,,think about it how can feeling someone's emotions not be dysfunctional..Look for the practitioner not the theorist.I truly believe the most fit therapist to help you is someone who has gone through the same trauma that you have.

I needed to hear this. Thank you. Having read codependent no more this year and feeling completely lost in what to do about realizing my codependency and deep shame, I will check out the books you mentioned. Thank you!

I thought I was nice because i don’t want others to ever hurt the way I’ve been

Great video! Flipped some switches on for me. I’ve never identified as “an empath” but I have identified as “empathic”. But it’s been a blurry line for me honestly. I can see how I’ve not had as-solid of a sense of self as needed in my own relations that led to narcissistic abuse. Thanks for the wisdom. 🙏🏼

Your explanation on being an empath is a real eye opener, out of watching many videos on this subject yours reaches the spot, it resonates to the core like no other. Thank you.

Coercive and manipulative. Sadistic. Right on❤Empathy was a disability and codependency is incredibly dysfunctional. Isolate. Devastating.

One of your videos about narcissists helped me a lot: I realised how I willingly gave up my good habits and blamed the other person (narc). Time to take responsibility for my own life.

Thank you! You are right. Under this kindness is surviving skill from childhood. And living with no right to say "no!" to others, its absolute draining. Then you get the passive agressive rage inside. I cant take it! Im tired fulfilling others willings and beeing nice to them while they use it, it is so convinient to let others to do what I dont want. So youre right this lifestyle is devastating.

Boy I was actually taking notes on this video! It hits home and I don’t want to be an empath with shame anymore. I know that I will never have another narcissist around me, but I don’t want someone to have to tolerate my emotional problems either! Yikes! I am isolating because I don’t trust myself anymore. I get overwhelmed by other peoples motives with me and the friendship doesn’t seem right.

The kindness is there to cover up the desire to act out, which would bring on shame. Best explanation ever! I was a saint of a child. Sweetest girl ever. When I was only a child, I vowed that I will devote my life to saving my mother from her pain. By the time I was 13, I wore all black and listened to death metal. Makes sense now. Still love the music by the way. I feel deep relief each time I listen to it. (Death’s “Lack of Comprehension” not only safely expressed my inner rage through music but also the lyrics are absolutely profound and on point).

As an empath. You are 100% right about all of it. I actually hate how I am.

Why this is by far the best video the most descriptive one that I have watched. You have just put it in such a perfect way. Thank you.

Thank you for the clarification. An empath is a severe codependent and it's not healthy. I'm happy to begin my healing journey to be able to demonstrate empathy with proper boundaries!

I'm doing a letter to my dad. He died about 14 years ago and I have not missed him nor shed a tear for him since his funeral. Today doing the letter I started crying immediately. I haven't finished the letter but what I am finding is that I miss my dad. I actually miss him and have loving feelings for him. He was a victim and now I can see that every relationship I have had, or most of them, I have been the victim. So sad. I know he was terribly hurt as a child and into adulthood. He had to quit school to help put his siblings through school. He was in the fields working at 7 years old. I don't know when he had to quit school. My dad felt that he was the black sheep of the family all his life. I guess that is the way I have felt too. I saw myself as the black sheep and scape goat, the unloved one. It is good to realize these things and learn how to give up the victim mentality. --- and away we go...

I no longer trust people who tell me they are an empath. They are always selfish, blind, horrible people who think they deserve special treatment

I am a codependent in recovery. It took me all of my twenties to realize it. I had to walk away from an extremely disordered person to realize what was unhealthy about me. I'd been carrying pain around within me for years. I didn't start off with empath qualities I realized, my personality was a trauma response. I had actually been an extrovert to be frank. The healthier I get the more extroverted I become.

This is the 2nd video I watch that shocks me with facts that are so mindblowing they shake my existance😂my jaw drops because of how personally your topics affect my life.Thank you very much for making those videos accessible for people who need them.Especially that video about explaining narcissists.

WOW! Thank-You! I had just shared a post on the facebook about being an empath and added my 2 cents. Just yesterday and stumbled across your video today. You explained it so well and I can see it in myself...yes there is much rage in me and it used to make me feel ashamed....but there was so much emotional abuse. Bio father alcoholic, mother major major co-dependent enabler, covert narc...don't get me started on the EX, or the bobfather, step dad! My whole life giving to the bottomless pits! "Can't complain about people sucking the life out of you, if you keep giving them the straw!" I ain't giving them the straw no more! I am learning to tune into my own feelings and emotions more than I tune into others. Actually, I now look at it as invading their privacy! Thanks again! Much Love Big Heart Hugs Thank-You for being you and helping to educate and empower others too!

God driven Empaths 🙏 Rock. Decernment from God is the KEY 🔑 🙏 You may absorb but YOU choose whether to keep it or let go. Depend on others if needed but Codependant on no one but God. There are Healthy healed Empaths and those who are not, yet healed.

Thank you for this insight. Yep, people do wear that empath label as a badge of honor and courage. IN MY OWN EXPERIENCE, it is usually "announced" - as if someone gave them a treasured title "my daughter is an empath" or "people tell me all the time that i'm an empath". After my initial internal shudder, I just ignore it. But it's as if the folks who find it necessary to tell me this expect to be told how wonderfully selfless, helpless, and buffeted they are against the world's cruelty. And that it's OKAY; a privilege even. I learned long ago - before I had even heard the word 'empath' that i was excruciatingly hyper-aware of everything going on around me; even across the room; and even while I was involved in something else. That is crippling because it completely removed my ability to experience my own present moments. I can say with certainty that you are allowing yourself to be robbed of living and feeling your own life. It's hideous; not some red badge of courage. I have worked hard to block out "what isn't mine" because that is the only way to know yourself and live your life on your own terms. You are so right; we cannot know our true selves when we are are absorbing others' selves. Nowadays, when someone tells me they believe I am an empath, I state plainly: "no i'm not." These days I work toward being a compassionate human instead.

Thank you, Sir. I am severely sadistic and manipulative towards people to hide my own shame. I keep justifying it endlessly and hopelessly. U put me out of my misery. I have kept every single person who insulted me in the loop to torment them with kindness. Hopefully I can start my life now. Thank you again. Your talk made sense to me only because I am at a point where I was pondering why I am unable to live my life. My whole life revolved around killing the jealous people who made me feel shame with kindness. I am ready to accept it and move on and letting them win. Can’t thank you enough for the awakening.

It seems to me claiming the identity of an empath is both a defense (the constant gauging of emotional states of others in order to form a possible defense, as in "kindness" response) and also dissociative, if I am understanding it aright. I am overcome with grief for the child I was who was so traumatized that this is part of the persona I took on. It is hard to accept that I will be recovering from this the rest of my life. Yet the alternative is ineffably untenable.

I consider myself an empath… I absorb other peoples pain, anger, joy, etc. I grew up in a very dysfunctional family & I’m married to a narcissist. I get triggered very easily, therefore, avoid being in a crowd & prefer one on one interactions. I can lose my temper with one simple comment that I disagree with. I’ve been trying to curb the impulse to react & have seen some improvement. Your explanation of why it’s bad being an empath did hurt a little but I can see your point of view, in fact, I immediately identified with your explanation of how we develop into this character as a means of survival. I find it very sad to know just how flawed a human being I am. Learning this makes me even more embarrassed about myself.

You clearly point out the need for a new term to replace the word, Empath. Being nice in order to hurt someone, isn’t being nice. It’s a form of Gaslighting.

I almost broke a couple of people’s heads for telling me I am overly caring and giving. I was like, yea, How to overcome the bloody dysfunction? Thanks for blatantly telling my subconscious evil nature. People around me where educating me with co dependence and how I was validate myself by giving power to others. I was like, yes, I am dysfunctional help me with that. Heart in heart I knew I was being evil in a stealthy way but couldn’t tell why. People telling we all make mistakes didn’t help me in facing shame. Calling me evil does.

Finally, somebody offers some real truth. Thank you so much. No one was ever going to tell me any of this.

We live in a world where almost everyone has lost his ability to feel empathy. Telling people to not being an "Empath" is really weird. I understand the danger of getting overwhelmed by empathic feelings - but that's not the central problem. The LACK of empathy is the problem!

When you listed the characteristics of an empath, I was recognising myself in some of them, but I am NOT an empath, but I actually am codependent! Luckily I know, and I am recommitting to doing the program (Al-anon) to heal. Phew, everytime I meet a person claiming to be an empath or "especially sensitive" I always felt alarmed and sensed that the person was not in a healthy path...

I'm so glad to finally hear somebody pointing this out

Kenny thank you very much . I am an empath and I am suffering years because of this . I really want to change my life

The best part is treating anyone that just can't deal to absence.This is Kindness for all involved.

wow never even seen those two words next to each other... amazing

Sir, you are a God send! Thank you so much for your information and sharing your life experiences for us! You've earned your spot in paradise with the rest of us who are waking up and actually wanting to work on ourselves, no matter what we have going on. I'm adding your knowledge as one of the key pieces to my puzzle! We never stop learning, even after this life. Thank you for restoring my hope in myself 🙏

Thank you, I came across your channel and I like how you're being direct. I don't call myself an empath but in my journey I notice for a long time that I have the neorotic drive to being nice and helpful while I actually a lot of the time don't wanna do it. I "defined" myself more like a high sensitive person but it's almost the same only maybe you tune in even more to provide the rejection or conflict. Thank you again for a clear explanation 😄👋🏼

Thank you very much for this valuable information. I am and empath and now I finally understand what an empath really is and think of how I can become completely independent. I think you help a lot of people with your videos. Keep up the good work!😊

Thank you so much for your helpful videos Kenny. I’ve been an empath all my life as well, but after hearing your psychological explanations, I now realize why I’ve always attracted the wrong type of man into my life. I have now learned it all stems from my childhood and learning from my parents’ dysfunctions who did the best they could with what they knew. I’m a work in progress to get rid of the “empath” title. Good Bless!

Thank you for saying it different, I'm in tears as u say exactly what I go thru daily! OMG 😭 I can't go shopping!!! If I didn't please my dad I felt wrong & empty. He'd be at my competitions where I was Captain & always the lead bcuz he sat there unrealized by others but if I messed up I got the evil eye like ur my daughter?! Your not if you're not the best. If you've seen Michael Jackson's father when they practiced he went thru this. Then time to release me he wouldn't let go... I know now that people are only human not born parents but this has followed me he's gone & I attract narcissist people, stalkers everything & I can not drop this, I'm severely now suffering w/alcohol & I never drank before, I need to make everyone happy, feel guilty at cash registers if not paying, have to run away, go to car & if not I pick up emotions from everyone. It's horrible. If I don't have my main source w/me I'll have to rush bad shopping as everyone becomes plugged in to me! I'm in tears, I thank u for your truth. Sure, it comes from trying to be good, but it's terrible 😞. I have other gifts bcuz of it but I have to make everyone including dogs & stalkers happy before myself!!!

You had me in tears as you mentioned the impulse to be cruel. It is really there. I have even said it out loud recently to my brother and my mother. I have an urge to cause damage although I am not acting on it to others. I got out of a narcissistic relationship and I have been trying to accept myself more as I came out of it. I've been trying to be present with my feelings and the main feelings I have are shame and rage. Being present with them is not fun at all, but at least seems sincere. I guess it's the beginning of the process for me.

I watched so many videos on both issues and nobody linked these as this guy here. They really are the same, but I needed someone to tell this truth. One can be so blind for her own shadows. I always felt like I was compelled to stay kind, like a sort of mask I had to wear. As a child, I had no choice. I had to bury my feeling inside, to dispose of them, started to second guess myself to adjust to others opinions, became a people pleaser and got praises how calm and kind I was. Now, at 50, I still have trouble feeling anger and expressing it. As a child I was laughed at and ridiculed or beaten if I got angry, so there is a wall of shame before I get there. I so often wonder where the people get the entitlement from to get angry with others. Cause nobody could display anger if they won't feel entitled to.

In psychology, i was told by an expert and author on narcissism, exists a category for people who are called hyper sensitives (somr others would call them super empaths) and are that by nature, regardless of being abused or not. It is their true nature, and so they can use it for being healers, mediums, psychics, etc..They too are hypersensitove to all energy around them, but not necessarily enter into any codependence. They are different from people who are empathic, they are much more empathic, but not in a toxic way. Which doesnt mean that none of them would/could enter into codependence, some do, but it is not the usual case, because they also perceive/sense/feel red flags straight off, for example the body reacts with nausea even to the presence of a narcissist.

This really affected me. I am very grateful for what you do. This is the first time I heard what I knew but didn't know how to define. Thank you. I hope I will change this way of being because it is really hard and draining. Wish you all the best

Brilliantly worded Kenny, I so understand what you are saying about empaths, so different to my interpretation!! Just learnt a little bit more of myself, thank you. The hard work begins!

Wow this opened my eyes . , my childhood trauma was my Dad , as much as I loved him he could affect my day . He had half a stomach due to an accident so he ate little and often . This meant he got hungry very quickly which made him a bear with a sore arse . So he would shout and ball at my siblings like it was our fault . How do you explain to a kid that it’s not their fault . He could be very impatient and if you didn’t grasp what he wanted you to do he would look at you stupid or shout at you . I was scared of him and he made me nervous so I didn’t understand what he wanted . He said if there was a wrong way to do something I would find it . I grew up nervous , anxious and eager to please . I got into business with narcissists and between them I had left one trauma for another . They both emotionally drained me . They are both dead now , I am 60 and live with my partner. I take a day at a time because I am struggling to accept that I can put me first and have a good life . I am getting there slowing but he’s right I do have a lot of anger , frustration and negativity bubbling under the surface . He just might be the answer to get it out .

This man is preaching. So spot on.

Needed to hear this AGAIN! Thank you! ❤

It's such a relief to have someone tell the truth.

FINALLY SOMEONE SAID IT RIGHT!!!!!! sorry, it is pure codepency, and it is NOT healthy for the person. When absorbing the emotions of others, we are psychologically taking on the burden of other people's emotions when unnecessary to do so; which leads to a plethora of issues regarding personal boundaries! Great job Kenny, really puts things into prospective, and it is remarkably easy to think, yea I have those qualities (the opposite of narcissist, that's a great thing!!! Sort of creates magical thinking) in reality, it's very physically and emotionally unhealthy.