I was thinking that too since it seems like people think this but are not sure how to say it

Yep! Statistically, your relationship with the person you’re warning will be ruined BY warning them.

Exactly, why warn someone who won’t listen and will attack you for doing so?

I was thinking this too. I warned my bestie about marrying her husband but she continued through with it. Now she is planning to divorce him and she asked me why nobody tried to stop her! 🤣😂🤣🤣🤣 Luckily we have a strong bond and a mutual respect for one another.

@@Angaloth19 Yep, happened to me. I was told to mind my own business. We were really good friends so I thought it was my place to say something. It caused hard feelings and resentment on my side at least, and our friendship deteriorated. We’re still friends but it’s not the same. And P.S. everything I warned her about from day one is what happened.

They notice but are trained to think this is normal and that men are the prize to dote on unlike any other species has done before.

It's brainwashing. After seeing years of the fairytale endings with prince charming or the male hero, you will think it's a small part of marriage and that romance is the larger part.

I noticed this at 8, which is why I'm single and childfree. For those that grew up w both parents and act like nobody warned them about marriage... What the hell were yall doing? I paid attention to everything 😂

They notice but learn selective sight.

They noticed, but you know they gotta save face!!! 😂

Was waiting for someone else to point that out. Thanks.

Is it women are bad at selecting? or Is it men are great at lying?

@@zanealexanderZA A little bit of both. We are fed lies how great men that obviously hate us are and that it's normal or we can fix them, build them up or whatever. Their love language is abuse and we should take one for the team. We're told to ignore our gut feelings and cOmMuNiCaTe that being a psychopath is no-no. Basically propaganda that he mistreats you because you're doing XYZ and not just because he feels like it. There's also poor selection, rarely do you meet a truly compatible man with similar values in any way, who sees partnership as teamwork and not who can "play" and fleece each other better and actually loves women as people not just lusts and despises. And even heavily vetted ones can drop the act randomly in the middle of pregnancy or when they feel they got you trapped good. A man is never 100% safe.

Exactly! Some women just get lucky that they happen to find a good man. Some of those women go around preaching like they did something special to deserve that. It's really just luck a lot of the time

​@zanealexander4181 Men are becoming better liars as women become more aware, its like the cheater who is given a second chance and learns how to hide it better.

How is it that your mom had no money of her own after all those years of being married and a stay at home wife. That makes no sense.

@@snaazir6099 bcoz she dont have job and completely depend on her husband for money. My dad stop giving money so now she is penniless.

I hope your mum divorced him and got out.

​@@snaazir6099it looks like she didn't save anything. Unfortunately.

@@snaazir6099 That's a pretty insensitive question. SAH wives generally rely on their spouse's income for bills and spending. They often don't earn their own income and might not have her own nest egg available, just in case. And putting myself in a SAH mom's shoes, unless someone warned me to do so, and I didn't know better, I can understand why someone wouldn't think to put away money. If I am happy in my marriage and am willing to forgo a career to instead devote my life to my family, why would I think about being prepared to leave, if I don't intend to?

Facts.. A lot of other commenters ask the very same question: “Why wasn’t it obvious?” Although I didn’t see my mother’s pain, I saw her NEVER smile, I felt her suffering through the way she was invisible to my father’s family, I felt my father’s absence, and heard the arguments. To add to that, there were no models of a decent marriage, as I used to sit around and watch her girlfriends compete in the “Depression Olympics”….. with all that, coupled with all the Lifetime movies about women getting azz beat or left for younger women , who needs a “warning “ ? …. LOL!

Yes, but a lot of us thought we’d never marry a guy like that. That’s when we marry someone who is actually pretending to be a great guy who would never treat us badly, but, after a few years, the mask comes off and they’re just as bad one way or another. In my case, while I didn’t marry a “bad man” because I’d never stay with someone who mistreated me physically or verbally, I ended up with a man who was interminably boring and not a good provider at all. He seemed so interesting and intelligent and open until I married him, and then, boom, he no longer wanted to do anything.

I hate the excuse "oh they were just young....". How much young? Definitely not 13-15 year olds. They were old enough to see women in marriages and how miserable those women were. Not everything in life is going to be learned through words, a lot of things you learn through observations. Were these women blind?

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​@kgs2280 You're describing the bullet I just dodged 2 months ago. Super intelligent, valedictorian, PhD in Data Science, Masters in Statistics, Software Engineer/Coder & Snr Data Scientist...he professional list goes on and on. Get to know him bts and you find an insecure orphan boy, dry as a cardboard, unromantic, narcissistic, manipulative, selfish, stingy, stubborn, liar, emotionally unintelligent. I mean everything that requires one to embody good character, he lacks.

This part!!!

Same here.

Facts

Exactly. Women really should use their mothers situation to determine if women should be with men. The percentage of single mothers and divorce rates are the percentage rates used to determine your success/ failure rate in those categories.

Exactly right! I knew when I was a child that marriage and children were NOT for me just by looking at how miserable my mom was, and how much she NEEDED to be with a man, and how poorly they treated her (and her three daughters). No thanks!

Said that you have to say “let’s be honest” bc it’s standard to lie. God I hate people…

Yes!

Absolutely

Immense truth.

Agree!!!

They are “looking down” on you because of the jealousy of your freedom and I’m willing to bet you look good overall. Not frumpy, you have a glow or a pep in your step.

I'm married. Love my husband but I miss being alone in my own apartment.

​@@oxytoxic7006 But these podcast bro's say being alone in our apartment should be our worst fear in life😂

@@omphilemoerane2569 Why? Men live alone in their apartments their WHOLE lives and everyone thinks that is the best lifestyle on Earth. It seems men just want to create bs reasons to keep women inslaved to them.

@@omphilemoerane2569 Projection, they fear their demons and drowning in their filth so think women are the same. Like they think we're "lucky" for excess opposite sex attention despite it bringing us hardships, risks and horrors.

This!

that make husband sound like an incompetent child tbh. that should be embarassing for him that he cant take care of himself at 47.

I had to explain this to my husband when I insisted that he take better care of his appearance. Nit wall around I'm grease stained shirts. Have decent (as in not falling apart) shoes. Niether of us plus that much work into our appearance both more laid back. But there are basic standards and I absolute will be blamed if he looks like a slob

@@sarahcover7248 and it SUCKS we get blamed. It's so automatic to scold the wife

@@sarahcover7248 but his appearance is HIS responsibility just like your is yours. I don't get the logic of it. What do you have to do with his appearance

"A broken man tends to break what he touches" A MFing word!!

Those males are killing women when they try to leave though.😂

My grandma advised me the same 😊 Miss her ❤

your comment is Golden. Thank you.

@@azureavocado5195 I don’t think so. There is a difference between loving someone and being possessive with someone. The ones who kill are possessive and that is not love. Even a cheater who is stingy and abusive and controlling can still very much be possessive. Of which that is the calibre of the ones who kill. 😂

Facts. I'm married with 3 kids. I wish my daughter never marries, and never have more than 1 kid

@@SRoseBlog Same if I had my girl and boy that's it , but I'm done with kids and men

Your mom is the goat, a rare gem. God bless her. That’s the only way to be forgiven of their sins lol

I know that was harsh...but She Was Right!!!! Don't even have kids for them because you are stuck and stressed out. While he's Free....dating a new chick as the winds blows in whatever direction he feels that day.

She did you well, you are so blessed to have a mother like her.

Same. Wasn’t rocket science.

Yep me too

I never saw that. In the Black community, your goal is to get a man, so that's what it was.

​@@maryfields877 Not in all black communities.

Same ,yet still others try to convince me that marriage is a great thing and ‘ give it the old college try’ because watching the systematic dysfunction, abuse, neglect and misery of the rest of married people in my life isn’t a good enough to have a solid opinion to never marry. Watching two people slowly come to despise each-other while being shacked together because divorce is expensive, yeah really never want to be in that situation. I’ll take living and dying alone over the misery of marriage. Some do work out and it’s lovely to see when it does. It’s also something of a unicorn I’ve never seen in my life.

Men remarry because they are choosing women to WORK for them for free, in exchange for FREE HOUSING. Women do not remarry, because they don't want to work for free for a man ever again, because they have alternative means of housing.

Nobody raised their daughter to be a “bad girl.” They raise “good girls,” and good girls get married. I never heard anyone ever say that women ever fought to not get married. I heard women fought to vote, get an education, and work, but it never computed that it was to not get married. I was told marriage would be horrible and possibly violent, and also it wasn’t an option, and divorce was a sin. Families and communities control the information young people get. Nobody in my generation wanted unmarried people running around. They couldn’t fathom what that would look like.

​@@redrock740even women couldn't own that home with amounts of free jobs they do in marriage

@@brandy4530 Well just because you haven’t heard of something doesn’t mean it didn’t happen. Women fought HARD for their rights. For a long time, women literally couldn’t get a job and the only chance they had was to get married and become a possession of their husbands and be taken care of by them. They literally had no choice. There are women today who are being married off at age 13. There are plenty of women now and in the past who fought to not have to get married.

@@brandy4530 *"Families and communities control the information young people get."* ^^THIS!!

I met a man over a summer job and we got into a relationship and I had plans to move to his state with him after the season was over. My boss heard it and told me “Don’t change your future for a man.” I was sooo defensive about it…but a few months later I broke up with him and moved back home. I’m so glad that I did. Her words still stick in my mind to this day.

When my grandpa died, my grandma said she'd give anything to have him back... but she also said she prefers living alone now and that if she could go back, she wouldn't have married in the first place.

@@foreverdreamwithinadream6871 lol one of my aunt's husbands is a now retired Sheriff & he told me to get background checks. He said he'd even run them for me :)

@@silververnallbells191 periodt!! Take advantage of that, pls.

I also believe motherhood is a huge scam

I stopped seeing a guy over this same thing! We had a conversation about gender roles. I told him that girls wouldn't have to be so "protected" if we trained young men to be responsible. That young men and young women are not trained the same way. He just shrugged like "That's just the way it is"... I realised that we didn't have the same values in raising children, that he would have a "boys will be boys" attitude. That was the end for me!

@@Life.Love.Locs. Hah! Boys will be boys by themselves! I'm in my 40s and I still have men my age and older trying to gaslight and manipulate me into becoming their caregivers and ego strokes. They get a rude awakening. "oh you can invite me over for dinner" No Sir you can take me out for a date. I don't even cook for myself like that anymore so why would I cook for you?! The audacity and the entitlement. I'm over it.

Girl! You hit the nail on the head!

A man is not capable of love it s à set up the ancients men know it but to survive they shut up the all thing. Thats why the effort is asked from only women and children ! The church is controled by men to fuck up your brain and keep you in state of heavy smoke

​@@Life.Love.Locs.😂😂😂🤣

Aww I'm so sorry 😞 * hugs*

Quran says that marriage is supposed to be a happy union between two individuals who have genuine devotion to one another and trust towards each other.

@@ilovehorses38yh but a lot of men seem to think otherwise. When they talk about marriage it is almost as if they are describing a detention centre with the man being the warden. It is all about how women not being smart enough, not being able to make our own decisions and cooking and cleaning - which is not even a requirement- they make everything seem difficult tbh.

Was just going to comment this! The Bible actually says that it is good to remain single, and that celibacy is a gift God gives some people. 1 Corinthians 7:7-8, 1 Corinthians 7:32, 1 Corinthians 7:34, 1 Corinthians 7:40

This is the way, I’ve also found living with them insufferable, the sex pestering, the mess, the noise. Men destabilize the energy of a home, I honestly think women and children should live together and men live separately, it’s unhealthy having a man in the home, they also start taking you for granted and treating you poorly once you live with them and they get “ used” to you. There would also be a lot less sexual and physical abuse towards women and children if there aren’t men living in the home.

​@@jenbodhi1133children raised by single mothers have the worst outcomes, men are messy and needy and horney but they're needed in the home

@@jenbodhi1133 Yep. Live with your sisters and all the kiddos. Dudes just lazy af.

Recently divorced mom here and I can't believe how much free time I have now that we are separated. I can go out with friends and/or sleep in when my son is with my ex. I didn't have this while married.

Im married and living together and although I love my man, I miss my single life. I wasn't even being a hoe I just had multiple friends (males & females) and now due to being married I barely hang with my male friends and relationship with female friends has dwindled. I don't recommend marriage especially if u have the means to take care of your own self

Same, I was just like "I don't want to be like ya'll" every where I looked was just toxic or the bar was super low for men

@@aaunyea4799 My Great Aunt's husband is a good provider, BUT they are ALWAYS Screaming at each other.

I think she meant like if the male you’re dating is already inconsiderate, abusive, inconsistent, cheating before marriage then after marriage he’s not gonna change. If anything those type of males get worse w time & after marriage. It’s like they feel you can’t an go nowhere since you’re now tied to them by law & have you shackled w a ring so they assume that’s gonna stop other men from wanting to approach you. A bad man can always get replaced though. & when you’re a good woman, you have a line of men waiting for a chance.💯 We just don’t act on those options while in a relationship out of respect to ourselves & our relationship but the line is there man. We are not running out of men. But we are running out of women wanting to be w men.😂😂 so the males better tighten up.😂😂

Well there are always signs but love,or rather list, literally clouds your judgement. That's why marriage should be treated as a mutually beneficially arrangement and women should make sure they get the most out of it and ignore men who activate their hormones.

I have see friends husband switch after they have the first kid is born

I was warned too, I’m 41 and never married, and I never will

As long as you know it is nothing but a wealth transfer. A business contract wrapped in a social construct. Get a prenup. If anti prenup pay for one hour or a free consultation with an attorney. Be clear about what you’re getting into. Trust me, I know

42 y.o, here. A lawyer to boot. No matter how side-eyes i got from my mother, i gonna vetted who gonna be husband and i am happy alone. Who knows the future, but not going to sell myself on discount either.

I was not warned but my parents weren't married so I knew something was fishy about it. I had to figure it out for myself. My ex thought he could treat me like his father treated his mother who was a stay-at-home mom..why he thought this I have no idea because in the 7.5 years we were together I always maintained my independence and I refused to let him impregnate me without a solid financial footing. We were still at the beginning of our careers. Well when his career started to pay more, he became unsupportive of me and it led me to have a mental breakdown. He literally switched to "his career was more important than mine" or anything else like spending time together. when I could no longer cook and clean for him or bring in a lot of money, he became abusive. I was doing voluntary work, working with employment services to find paid work, going to church, going to the gym, going to mental health appointments and this man had the audacity to accuse me of cheating ( like I had time to cheat) and using him for money after he spent 5 years living in my apartment and using my credit cards!! Then he physically assaulted me for the first and last time. I was done done. He was shocked when I left and didn't come back. My mother grew up without a father so she was always of the mindset that any man will do. No ma'am. I'm like my maternal grandmother, we don't put up with crap from men! Even my grandmother's last husband told him if he didn't straighten up and stop spending so much alone time with his female friends he would come home to find his things outside the door. I laughed when he told me that. He was a bit of a buffoon and a spendthrift but he would fix things in the house and he emotionally supported my grandmother. That's all she needed from him because when they married, all her kids were grown up already and she had her own money.

Plz explain

Meaning marriage can be full of pain like constantly being bitten.@@WeMustAllStandAsOne

I'm guessing it means it's painful 🫣

interesting, please explain, thank you

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Bless her ❤️🙏🏽

Same with my mom

It is my honest opinion that most women have largely been useless to other women, and only exist to serve the will of males. Sisterhood is a myth because it never really existed.

❤❤ merci beaucoup pour votre commentaire. J'ai fait la même remarque.

Yes, gurl!! Uve figured out their game plan😅

​@@solangesewavi722oui

If you have to do it all on your own then there is no point in being with a man. Women can't trust men because they can't be trusted. Which means you should stay away from them. Children don't say this about women because women are known to be trustworthy in general.

My Grandmother too

I learned that I couldn't even rely on my dad. I let him co-sign a car for me. When the registration arrived, I was confused that his name was on it. That's how I discovered that the car title would also have his name on it. I'm praying that God tells me what to do to get out of it. I don't want to be tied to my dad like that.

@@violet18 Family to that man is only a collection of tools for him to use, not the collective soul of love and care family truly is. Better to get out as you say and read him the manifesto. My dad was more of a friend than a father but he tried at the end before he left the world.

@@TheAnimaAnimal He was trying to talk me into letting him co-sign a house for me and my sister. I told him no and he kept going on about how I'm grown and can't live in a rental forever. That showed me that he didn't want to accept that I told him no. My gut is telling me that he's trying to tie himself to my sister and I since he's already 67. He probably wants to set us up with a home so that he can just move in when he's ready to stop working. That man would barely contact me 3 times a year when I was 10 years old. I want to be free from him.

I always had my own money and my own education but that's how all the women in my family were regardless of the dysfunctional buffoon men that they entertained!!

Facts

Exactly.. that deep desire to “do it the right way” only to find out that it really is rigged from the start.

Opposite for me!

@@daisylavender5275 Whatever your choices are, I hope you have a very happy life in all the ways that work best for you.

As a Gen x-er this is accurate for my sister's and I.😢

Totally agree!

Muslim girl here, 36 yrs old, and never married. 😊

@ilovehorses38 Wonderful. And you mean non practicing right. Little girls like Aisha say no to grown men. Peeps leaving that faith quick. It promotes peds and is not cool.

Everyone should be warned regardless if they listen. The people who do heed the warning would be harmed if no one said anything.

@biblethumper8088 I understand what you are saying, but no warning is going to sway a woman who is in lust with fairytales dancing through her head. I'm not wasting my time or energy on women who I know will NOT listen.

Exactly they don't want to hear in the honeymoon stage trust me lol

This comment hits home. 💯

🤣🤣🤣🤣maaaaan i said this before it was crickets

THEY KNOW BUT dont care dont you know men are selfish ? Rhey re the masterpiece gaslighters

I figure, give her another 5 years and she'll be singing a different tune. I just feel bad for all the women she is "helping" to date.

There aren’t enough great men around for all of us to get married to. Even before marriage existed (when we were living in caves in groups), two thirds of women procreated with one third of the men. Most of our ancestors are women. That’s why marriage was invented in the first place after the Neolithic Revolution: To ensure a womb for every mediocre dude.

Yeah, I don’t like that point of view bc it implies that if someone tricks you and treats you like crap, it’s your fault bc you should have known better. There are situations when there are signs and people ignore them, but a lot of the time, people pretend to be someone else and there aren’t any signs. Regardless, it’s unproductive to make it the victim’s fault.

Thank you. The man I was with changed completely after we had kids. He was wonderful up until that point, but once I was locked in with kids he let that mask fall away and I was stuck in hell. This is just another misogynistic narrative that puts all the responsibility on women to ensure relationships work. I hate it. How about telling men to be honest?!

@@stimela1000 Exactly. How about asking people to be better? Apparently that's a no go area because much of the world has decided that demanding honesty from men is a lost cause. Isn't it wonderful how misogyny creates different ways of saying the exact same thing? By completely ignoring the more effective measure of teaching and demanding men to be better, we're simply regurgitating the age old mantra of "boys will be boys"....so why bother? Its unfortunate. By the way, I'm sorry you had to go through all that and I applaud you for your strength.

People can be so mean by saying "pick better." But what I will say is that being raised by narcissistic parents will make you a target for abusive men. It's impossible to pick better unless you are aware of how much damage your upbringing did - that's the best way to pick better in my view. That's why therapy is so important to me, it helped me see my patterns more clearly and see the red flags for what they are.

hello darling...I am really tripping on the fact that your mom said, "Good, now you can suffer like the rest of us". Was she serious? I'm so curious, i'm 36, never been married or had kids, and for the last 2 years I have really been learning about men and who they are by nature. And it's so CRAZY...we've all been completely mind fucked. I honestly don't think i'd have the guts nor the rationale to legally tie myself to a man at this point. life partners, ok...because thats some mess you can walk away from. but signing up to legally belong to another human being...Naw i'm good. Somthing about that just doesn't sit right with me. I seen it back fire on my grandmother before she passed away. She needed an oxygen machine, and her husband was being a dick, and didn't help her get the money to fund one, he could have offered to put it on his credit card. Come to find out,if she hadn't been married she would have qualified for a free one. Her husband nor my uncle adequately helped her out like they should have during her last days. Thank GOD she had my mother. My uncle even moved a woman from Jamaica in her house, against her wishes (he was a passport bro, before that even was a thing). whats even more crazy, is even though my grandmother had a husband she didn't love, and who cheated on her, their entire marriage she still tried to encourage me to settle and get married. I'm glad I've followed my own path and didn't do it.

There is a lot of history behind our relationship. She was a narcissist and bi polar. She hated me from the day I was born. She loved to see me "suffer." @@thems.harrisshow2160

@@thems.harrisshow2160 Be careful as an unmarried partner cuz they may still have rights under "common law marriage" depending on the state like you if you live with someone (in some states 6mos, in others 10yrs) then in the eyes of the law you're as good as married.

@@silververnallbells191 I would never live with a man I wasn't married to without 1st getting a co-habitation agreement. It works just like a pre-nup, but it's for unmarried people who live together. "These agreements can offer both parties peace of mind. Such a legal document can establish expectations about financial support. If you break up, this contract can determine how shared property, like bank accounts or pets, will divide up. These contracts function like prenuptial agreements. They set forth how to handle money, property, debt, etc., during and even after the relationship ends. It may seem unromantic to ask your partner to make a contract with you. But, in the process, it will tell you a lot about yourself, your partner, and the maturity of your relationship".

I'm done picking. I checked the men that I grew up with and only 1 out of 10 were decent. The rest cheated, abandoned their children, overspent, could not provide financially or just straight up physically abusive. I'm convinced not that men don't like women and absolutely hate the fact that they need women for sex and to carry their children.

lol

Great advice from your father!

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A word 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

Correct. We are brainwashed and pressured into cohabiting with our natural predator.

Wow, that's a really good point.

We naturally born women are not animals.💯💯💯💯

You’re worried about divorce and not these husbands murdering TF out of their wives every other minute?😂

​@azureavocado5195 That plays a factor why women divorce

Truth!

yeah me then was blind and wanted love badly me now saids aww sh#t i fked up now I created storms and rain, fires, tornadoss, earthquakes, floods and trauma pain silent suffering dealing with my own truth and what i know which caused things I could of avoided for me and him we are both to blame really because two desperate people didnt know where else to turn except away from ourselves and those mirrors dang.Well only way from here is me

Disney was a 33rd grade freemasson now you know they fucked up our baby girls mind

my parents are exact example of marriage i dont want. their marriage was the warning

My parents', my grandparents' and two of my sisters' marriages is more than enough warning for me.

Yes, i took the wat I.saw of how my female relatives were treated as a warning and planned my life accordingly.

See my sisters marriage neither are happy, but the pretend- baby sisters relationship she takes care of her bf

I’m with you on this. I saw my mom, aunts, and cousins just seeming worn down and unhappy. I’ll admit that I thought marrying a man from my country (very conservative West African) was a bad idea, but I thought more liberal Western men might be kinder. I can see how women want to think that there are *some* good men and if we just wish hard enough our dreams will come true lol

Giving advice is just offering another perspective that the person may not have thought of. No one’s required to take advice just because they asked for your perspective. That being said: yes we must have boundaries about others taking you on their rollercoaster. Because I’m not doing it either; I have to protect my energy.

For real

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Yeah, she was kind of a delusional victim blamer. Seemed like a grifter trying to make money on other people's (impending) misfortune. 🤷🏾‍♀️

She is a pickmeisha

@@patriciaboateng9675 she was grifting on xy approval and views

I'd love to know how they think we are going to pick right when 9 out of the 10 men that we grew up with were trash!! Womanisers, Child abandoners, unemployed, spendthrifts and substance abusers and people always had negative things to say about women who refused to pick up one of the pieces of trash lying around. I'm glad that young women have more options. Let the men start their own communities by themselves and stay away from women and children.

Remember she was selling courses so of course she said that.

Same

Pouvez nous nous parler de ses conseils s'il vous plaît ?

This is solid advice

Yes, I remember my ex husband’s family talking about how he was a good guy, yet they were distant from him. 🙄

​@@kayabe856They knew something was wrong with him!

I take it she REALLY didn't care for her daughter-in-law of 30 years. Dang.

They lied.

It’s not! I made the mistake twice and it only got worse

It's a lie

Not an accomplishment at all. An adjustment, maybe. Could be even worth the trouble if it all goes well.

Hahaha hahaha! Pure jokes! The biggest scam.

What is the secret for a happy long lasting marriage? /

@@Neesha242right person . Right mindset . Right attitude.

Glad you found a good one!

Still warn them. It's important to always teach the truth regardless if people listen or not.

We literally are not obligated to warn women who are just gonna ignore the advice, call you a hater, and do it anyway. Some people do have to learn the hard way and you have to watch and let them make that mistake. ​@@biblethumper8088

And yes, there are single by choice woman at the church ( me included) because marriage it's a choice, no part in the bible forces everyone to marry

This church is rare, especially in the black community and fundamentalists community.

Exactly

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That's a very honest in law unlike the rest who act like their son/brother is perfect.

You are Nigerian

I don't believe it's just luck. Good marriages exist. But people are not willing or ready to learn how to date right and chose right and let alone that, how to be independent.

Good solid advice

Good solid advice

That sounds so peaceful! I want to find a kind man who doesn't want kids. It seems like a lot of men want to have kids.

May God continue to protect you and prosper you! You dodged a bullet sis.

Majority of men are n't responsible and they simply don't care about women. We can't always blame women for choosing wrong when more than 50%of men are whatever they are. It's not about choosing it's about staying away from men except for that few percentage of women lucky enough to have men who respect them.

if you did it for a "season " stay home raise the kids let him fully provide when the kids are school full time. Leave the relationship.

But y’all never say why divorce is hard. Can you explain? Bc I never wanted to get married or have kids but I’m w someone who’s the exception. Been w them for 7yrs now. They want to get married & I wanna marry them 2 but first they want to get rid of all their debt so that it won’t be tied to me when we get married which I appreciate. They show me the progress & they actually got in debt while they were w me bc they got a necessary lone for us 2 move out together w our newborn. It’s almost all paid off. Then propose but they want 2 get me a nice ring & then do the wedding. Basically we both wanna do things the right way. We spoke abt doing a pre-nup bcs if sht were to ever go left we’re not interested in tryna sabotage each other financially or in each other’s money bcs if we’re together what’s his is mine & what’s mine is mine too according to him if I work that’s just more money for me to treat myself.😂❤ which I love bc I’m a mom to our toddler & once you become a mom you tend to neglect yourself while taking care of everyone else. Thankfully they take care of me emotionally too like I do them. They pay all the bills, they help me clean & cook & wash dishes. They don’t view me as their slave. They do their own laundry on my bad days. Even on my good days they don’t expect me to do it. They understand it’s not my job.😂& they understand that when I’m hormonal, depressed or on my cycle that I can’t do much house work. We pick up each other’s weight whenever the other is down or not feeling like doing something. We’re constantly working on ourselves for each other, ourselves & our kid. Ect. It’s a healthy situation. We’ve put in so much work. We’re literally best friends & love each other so much. We actually like each other. We’ve took the time to get to know each other in different times good & bad. At this point our relationship only get’s better w time. What advice can you give a woman in my position? We’re definitely getting a pre-nup & I talked to them abt making a trust in me & our kid’s name in case something were to ever happen to them & they wants to & are going to do it. It’s the green flags 4 me honestly. What precautions should I take as a woman?

Exactly no thanks

Same separate accounts