“Meaning of life is to give life meaning” When I was 19 years of age, I was diagnosed with blood cancer which spread to my lungs from lymph nodes and my life turned upside now. The cancer treatment put me in remission, but the whole experience gave me immense trauma and fear, enough to take most of my 20s - due to dread of “it’ll return” & “why did this happen to me” - and countless similar thoughts. I’m a year older than 25 now, and in a better state relatively, biggest difference is that I now realise that there’s *NO PATTERN TO LIFE*; things happen randomly, and *LIFE OWES US NO EXPLANATION* - for the good or the bad - being religious allays a lot of these troubling thoughts (I’m not & in process of discovering what suits me best), but the way, the only way you can be at peace is by being like a *LOTUS*, which glows beautifully amidst the muck. This is probably a reason why early Buddhist for the first 100-200 years depicted Buddha as a lotus, when they eschewed idolatry. And the only way one can accomplish it by *“giving meaning to our life”*, the same way meaning of lotus’ life is being beautiful, unfettered by the muck it is growing in. Undetached effort everyday, however little it may be, to improve, while being accountable to the inner conscience and “good” would come eventually - have seen happening to people in real life and thus I believe in it. However, it is must to somehow make all of this enjoyable (even if little bit), life should not be something you have to suffer. This line of thought provides me succour, and bolsters self belief, but a regret I have is wasting so much of my precious youth to the anxieties which still plague me. I’m not perfect, but will put an effort to improve. Thank you for making this video , it reinforced my self belief. I wish I had a friend like you in person (I don’t), with whom I could talk freely about such matters and get wisdom to not get astrayed. I’m one of your early subscribers and love seeing you finally grow & reach more and more people.

"The meaning of life is to give life a meaning. You must not dare to ask life to give you what its meaning, you must answer that. You don't ask. You answer." This one hits really hard on me. Thank you for giving me great perpectives. You words is amazing as always. I am so grateful to find your videos!

The original is a Chinese Fable: Many years ago a wise peasant lived in China. He had a son who was the apple of his eye. He also was the proud owner of a fine white stallion (horse) which everyone admired. One day his horse escaped from his grounds and disappeared. The villagers came to him one by one and said: “You are such an unlucky man. It is such bad luck that your horse escaped.” The peasant responded: “ Who knows. Maybe it’s bad, maybe it’s good.” The next day the stallion returned followed by 12 wild horses. The neighbors visited him again and congratulated him on his luck. Again, he just said: “Who knows. Maybe it’s good, maybe it’s bad.” As it happened, the next day his son was attempting to train one of the wild horses when he fell down and broke his leg. Once more everyone came with their condolences: “It’s terrible.” Again, he replied: “Who knows. Maybe it’s good, maybe it’s bad.” A few days passed and his poor son was limping around the village with his broken leg, when the emperor’s army entered the village announcing that a war was starting and they were enrolling all the young men of the village. However, they left the peasant’s son since he had a broken leg. Everyone was extremely jealous of the peasant. They talked about his sheer good luck, while the old man just muttered: “Who knows. Maybe it’s good, maybe it’s bad.” Source : erraticus.co/2017/12/27/its-okay-we-never-know-whether-something-good-or-bad/ I have always respected religious people for that reason. They have found meaning, and they want to share that with others. Good video

Very Grateful & Appreciative, Thank you for inspiriing & reinforcing my prespective about self.

Amidst the noisiest world u whisper the wisest words🎉to keep the soul afloat i must listen to u..🎉

Just last week I typed this same thing in a different way to myself about how the value of a life is often made out as though it is predicated on the amount of pleasure/happiness experienced, when the truth is that even the most painful/sad life is worthy of being fully experienced - because all lives hold innate value, happy or not. The point is to be in it as fully as possible and integrate the lessons from it by remaining curious and open to recieve what we are given. The way we falsely equivocate ourselves and the world to our own thoughts and feelings in response to or about pain/bad and pleasure/good, is what causes suffering. If we had no resistance to what is happening inside and outside of us in accepting it for what it is, while still making the choices that we are drawn to make intuitively, we would always recognise that we are safe no matter what happens - in that we are not our thoughts, feelings, bodies, etcetera.

i'm very thankful that youtube recommended this to me. This changed my perspective

Thanks for your words of wisdom. They are simply clarifying pretty delicate "issues". Work like a "remedy" . Thanks for the recommendation to read V. Frankle. Such a great man & philosopher! ✨✨✨

I don't know how I stumbled onto this video , but I'm glad I did, this was amazing especially that story!

Thank you for this. I love how calm it is, like I am sitting next to you

Are you for real? I’ve been looking for an answer to this question for a long time. Today, you validated some points that I needed to hear. This was a gift from universe. Thank you!

4:49-5:11 I love the rock analogy. Imagine saying this every time it rains. It’s going to perplex listeners, but it’s wonderful to get us thinking about what we are placing emphasis on. Even judgements can be misplaced because of our own application of insight. Life needs to play out the motions, doesn’t it? Yet the very importance of our existence is to create our meaning. Living, existing can truly be an art form when we involve ourselves. If we watch the world, we miss our participation in all things, but it can be enjoyable once in a while for some, to indulge watching the world go by. Your discussion on the various forms is wonderful and thought provoking! 🙏

Thank you for making a video on this exact topic! This is something I discuss all the time & helps me reel my awareness back into my being. I used to have such a narrow view on things going on. Now viewing through an ‘everything is neutral’ lens has gifted me so much peace of mind. All experiences are just that, experiences for the consciousness to experience. Love the channel 🫶🏻💕

I was exactly thinking the same thing earlier and said to myself maybe I should be bad like them so I won’t be hurt… although it’s not in my nature or one of my principles I live by, I’d rather prefer to be hurt than hurting but anyway we are all human and human is known to be weak before his emotions, challenges, life etc

thank you for this , i was looking for an answer couple of days ago tryna figure out the spiritual or secret meaning to illnesses and misfortunes that happens around me to innocent people, to children!!! we just found out my mom has another brain tumor and her health hasn't been the best. as someone who's trying to be more grounded present and accepting, trusting. sometimes i find it hard to pray and to be at peace with that fact especially how nice of a person my mom, extremely gentle playful soul never in my life have i seen her complain or talk bad about anyone and i was just in a fuss yk it made me question everything i believe in .

Just be satisfied. One of the Islamic rule, it says that you should be satisfied for everything happens to you in your life, that is way Muslims people say “Alhamdulillau” (Thank good) at bad times before good times. You can learn more about this point from the Islamic view. + I enjoy watching your videos keep doing that 🙏🏼🤍.

Such a great delivery. Answering questions but at the same time making me ask more.

Great message thanks!!

i have vicktor frankle's small book on my shelf for a while, i will read it now that you have spoken about it so eloquently!

Very nice video. I don't know how long you've been making videos but if you keep this quality, you'll be sure to grow as a channel. I'll be reflecting on how the "good things happen to bad people" mentality connects with having meaning in life for the rest of the day!

Thank you for this awesome inspiring content and wisdom for a deep understanding of life and whats going on 😊

Choosing to learn instead of blame helps the approach you shared ❤

Loving these videos like your earlier ones! Thanks!

Amazing lesson, I’m gonna take this on board..

I agree: the question is provocative, because it is possible to happen good things to good people. My parents were religious and tried to give me heavenly babysitter, which punished if I was naughty boy. In reality the world is unfair. The heavenly dictator to keep justice is illusion. Thank you for video!

Thank you for this.

This is important. Thank you

Question is our innate bias towards negtive. We precive negative thing faster, and react to them, beacouse dangerous things could kill us. Today's media use that bias to keep us alert, without pause of reflection toward positivity.

I don’t understand tbh some people harm others innocent naive people and get so far in life . I was a good girl all my life and got bullied so bad abused and abandoned by my family, experienced homelessness my health got so bad for a while my bullies who hurt me in all kind of ways live an amazing life they bought cars houses at 26 while I’m starting from the scratch. It’s not fair and society keeps telling me to be a good person and that they’ll receive karma . Bad is when you inflict pain and take advantage of something and destroy in order to get better or feel better

So true. It's all in our perspective and detaching from the outcome. It is only through getting real with ourselves and diving into the debth of ourselves can we finally wake up to our true purpose. Otherwise, everything else is an illusion.

Good perspectives. 😊

Super life changing done

Many thanks from Berlin for this nice talk. I'm personally going through a very bad situation at work which has made me very depressed, but I decided not to quitt. Still, I'm not sure if it was the right decision?❤

I have never assumed that something bad couldn't happen to me, or to my children. I never believed that I or my precious children should be exempt. But to assign a 'meaning' to someone else's suffering is banal, even vulgar. If some people suffer and believe their suffering to have (spiritual) meaning then that's their personal truth, and it's to be respected. But making a dogma of our personal truths and applying it to the lives of others is not remotely respectful. In my experience there are multiple spiritual truths, and none of us has access to them all. My beloved daughter was murdered by her partner. I have never once thought, "Why her? Why me?" But that does not take away the agony. I understand that many people yearn for a profound reason that might explain the appalling things that happen on this beautiful planet. But there was no 'meaning' in my daughter's death, and there could be no 'good' outcome, such as that described in the story, which after all, involved thousands of other young men being killed in battle.

This is so beautiful. Wow

thanks for the video, please keep making more❤️

This arrived at the right time!

[Perhaps you dislike something which is good for you and like something which is bad for you. Allah knows and you do not know.] chapter 2 verse 216 quran

Great Video ❤❤

The universe owes us nothing. Instead of asking "Why did this have to happen to me?", ask "Why not"? See what answers you come up with. You realize it is irrational to believe that since you are a good person and try to do good things that bad things shouldn't happen to you. Humans have the gift of rational thought. Also, if you find yourself happy and content at any given moment, everything in your life prior to that moment had to happen the way it did to lead to that particular moment, so would you change anything?

I know what's bad. When a nine-year-old girl gets her legs blown off, and from her hospital bed, she vows to become a doctor one day to help other children like her. Within two days, the hospital is hit by a bomb and she is decapitated. That's bad. If they let you read this, that's not only good, it's utterly astonishing. It's time to be grownups now. Posts like this do not need to be sanitized for your protection.

Thank you. The story is depicted in the book “When you hear hoofbeats, think of a zebra”.

How do you know that the person who gave away his last piece of bread wasn't also the person who wailed and complained and was revolted by the injustice of his fate? I suspect they are often the same. I've seen a smaller version of it too often.

I'm happy I stumbled upon this movie

I disagree that such a question is a "narrow-minded" question. It is one of the most profound questions out there. Why? Because our parents, society, religions - all point us to believe that karma exists, even if they are using words other than karma. But if karma exists - why do good things happen to bad people and vice versa? It is a deep question and the right question to ask.

Ahh the silliness of solipsism

We must remember too, that of course, that there is good /bad in life. We must have morals. But it is a philosophical question. Yeah, the question is kind of flawed ,as you described--- as it applies to how you described. What feels bad at the time may be like the "blessing"(I know a religious idea, but it applies) in disguise, and vice versa. Can I make a request that you speak louder?. I had trouble following you without headphones.

Thank you for beeing here!

I dont know if I agree or disagree, trauma from my past has opened my eyes to humility nd compassion but some trauma like loss of a child/loved one to senseless violence or the fault of ppl.who r in power gives no meaning

Also perhaps it is a judgement in itself to label a persom as 'good" or "bad".

Nice dad pose

11:47 👌✨🫶 thank you

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Listening this was relieving, thanks for the video🤍

The bad guy gets thrown down the black hole and he screams forever ♾ I’m not a bad guy if you love your mum you definitely not a bad guy but there’s lots of things that will never make sense to me like reincarnation and how it’s even possible and infinite worlds thanks giordano bruno for opening people’s minds

I’m confused. I have such anger problems with my boyfriend. We broke up yesterday. I started throwing things and yelling and angry when with him. I knew I needed to work on myself so I did. I think he was a narcissist. It was so hard . So I should have stayed with him so I could grow within??????? I tried

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