Black Weirdo they don’t see you as a trophy. They see you as nothing

For sure

Yes extra income then claim they can’t work anymore and always have a new excuse!

Lol, I had a proposal once, very early in a relationship. I asked why? And the reply was that he did in fact need help with the housekeeping. That did not age well.

OMG PREACH

Daaaamn ...

Ofcourse.. They behave like that only.. My close one was married a Paranoid and got physical abuse..then she got another marriage..but after that she knew that he was a Narcissistic.. No Adjustment, No Hope, No Empathy, No Changes in married life..

So so true

Couldn't have said it better myself! Narcissists are the ultimate hypocrites. If you're their "spouse," you're their possession, but they'll never belong to you.

Seriously !!!!

Amen

Also, just because you want to marry someone doesn't mean it's a good idea. I'm happy my relationship with one particular secretive and unstable creature went nowhere.

Periodt

I was able to dodge that bullet from a narcissist who kept on singing in my ear about marriage after he had screwed up too many things, too many times

This is facts!

Absolutely spot on, BRAVO

So true

FACTS

❤😂 yes

It is the Analysis and observation

It’s the old cake adage.

💯💯💯

Accurate

Agreed, It’s from deep rooted fear of abandonment and invalidation, marriage is a their choice to feel safe.

😬 you're absolutely right.

Or a cancerous tumor

Exactly

Garlic!

but they cause a LOT of damage to others 😪

Praying for you Kelsey.

One foot in front other good luck and God bless

Keep going…

I'm praying dear xx

All the best

The only thing I will say here is that I have had these same horrible experiences. My Prince Charming kept it up for 4 years and turned into another creature overnight. However, there are good men who are good human beings. Please don’t lose hope or become bitter. Right now i also cannot imagine ever being married or in a relationship, but I’ve been listening to Dr. Ramani now for a year. I’ve been on a healing retreat. Let yourself be healed and trust in God. People can fail you, but God never will.

It was very cruel for him to push you on the morning of your mother's funeral, he was obviously a very very sick individual please don't give up on love because of him sis. there are good men out there.

Unfortunately there are women like this. I'm female and I'm trying to get past a recent break up with a female narcissist. She is evil and actually even admitted while drunk recently that she can't feel love and doesn't know what it is.

Be strong Honey soround you self with loving females or kids. :)

I am so sorry to find out what you had done through. I was in a similar situation. From outside my ex was very affected, but he abused me emotionally and verbally, made me think I am not good at anything.

It's partly due to the lack of ability to self-reflect. Once you truly understand how they think/feel, what they are and aren't capable of, it all falls into place.

Excatly like that . He has done so many horiffic things and God knows how many times said to my face that he doesn't care about me BUT now we are going through divorce and he is so "wonderfull" to me ,repeating constatly that this was a wrong move ,he is now a "great" husband ,"great" father ,he keeps me like a "princess",thank God and Dr Ramani that thaught me that this iş just his tactic called "LOVE BOMBİNG" and i can see more clearly that divorce is the right decision .

Hope you find strength to leave him he won't change he will get worse.

SOOO TRUE. They blame you and anything else. They claim they want to stay married to you and how you’re tearing up the family but do NOTHING they are supposed to do to be tolerable!!!

They push your love away and you, so they are left a lone in end which they hate.

To hide behind 'I have a family'.

So true

Very accurate

shilpa patil I feel like the maid of the house. Like I’m more of a “mom” than a partner. Very lonely

@@mnikaluza4 Sending you ✝️🙏❤

wow, that's so cruel to me, you just had your baby and you were experiencing something extremely difficult and traumatic. I hope you and your child are safe and well.

😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮

Lemme guess ge was a fire fighter or police officer emt ? Real-estate agent?

Cher Johnson,hope you are not with a narcissist!

Okay 👍

Good point Dr. Ramini! 👍

Amen

@@lioydwilliams1850 No but I tink I am

My pending husband said no rings for us unless you buy them yrself🥴😬

So I did..later yrs after 2 children and leaving life of crazy my mum said shouldn't have married him....ooops I was in love ..what a laugh

Bingo. First physical strike was the day after we got home from the honeymoon.

That's EXACTLY what happened to me! We dated for 6 years! He kept up a pretense of being a gentle, kind and caring man. I didn't know what happened when he "changed ", and am ashamed of how much time I wasted trying to get him to change back. I left 8 years ago and these you tube videos have allowed me to finally name what's wrong with him, and realize that it never would have gotten any better. I'm healing and enjoying my new life!

@@teresedoyle9300 RUN

Tell me more. How did you survive with him all those years or time?

I can't wait when mine dies and all of her victims are at last free.

Hope your doing well Michele… enjoy your life!!

Congratulations merry widow!

Right so they can get sex, money, attention and to have someone to boss around.

RIght, In fact, My ex-wifes mother is married to a Pastor from Bainbridge Island, is married into a trap.

Yup... Never again .

Mine was pressuring me to marry her Our brothers and sisters are married I was going to marry her but I wanted to make it right Make sure We was having heated debates arguments about me put a ring on her finger Which I was but I want to do it my wayWe fell outShe immediately started seeing somebody else But I put the ring on her finger She started disappearing on me Was little disrespectful earlier in relationshipI He would blow my phone up but if I do it but her phone up she would get mad at meSo Sunday February 21st broke it off because in the face time video I didn't see the ring on her fingers and I know she was out with aSo Sunday February 21st broke it off because in the face time video I didn't see the ring on her fingers and I know she was out with another doSo Sunday February 21st broke it off because in the face time video I didn't see the ring on her fingers and I know she was out with another Guy So I had to walk away it hurtsThinking about changing my numberWe were together for 4 years 2017 to 2021

Marriage only benefits the narccisst.

Right, like an obedient pet.

They see marriage as the norm, they want to be married but live a single life.

Couldn't have said it better! This is so true!

Wendy Hannan you nailed on this comment.

So true !!

OMG! I was my (now ex obviously!) narcissist's baby mama number 3 and thank God he never married me! I broke up with him because I realized he was a narcissist after 1,5 years of the so called relationship!!! So happy! Saved myself so much precious time for healing and focusing on my kids, work, myself, and watching Dr. Ramani's vids to make sure I will never fall into a narc's trap ever again!!!

Wow, these soul sucking leeches don't deserve our love, and your ex is a perfect example. Narcissists should marry each other and leave us empaths to each other who know how to love. Sending you healing energy 🙏❤️

Ha ha. Yep. Ask them what your good qualities are and watch the spluttering.

😮

Awful to you, my heart goes out to you but they have no empathy, assholes

The only direction after a narcissist is "better."

Unless you then hook up with a serial killer or child molester, anything else other than a narcissist is a step up.

@@dianaburkley1267 Not at all. In my mind all of that are the same level of low.

I don't feel grateful. He destroyed my life 😪😪😪😪

@@hannasalo3463 same here I destroyed mine's as well but I'm working on building it back up

Goldilocks Well said.

I understand all to well 🤢🤢🤢

They are opportunists.

@@sunshinegirl4715 lol 👍

Very true.

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🤣😂🤣 She started to get comfortable showing her colors as you drew closer to the BIG DAY and never thought you’d cancel the wedding. She would’ve only gotten worst…TRUST! She probably 💩 her pants when you called everything off because of the embarrassment and humiliation of getting dumped. Most narcs are already shamed-based as it is. I’m happy that you had the courage to cut ties before everything became official instead of saving face for her, and possibly other people. ~ BEST WISHES!!! 👍🏾

Thanks God you didnt marry her you would be damaged for life

Or a pet like I was

Yep. Like a barely tolerated border in your own home. Always being shown how unnecessary you are to them:/

that's how i feel now, just an employee. he wishes he could fire me but then who would care for the kids? his new girlfriend? nope she works for him. (he even denied it was him in the surveillance video groping his new girl at the rest- like how does this shit even come out of their mouths seriously? ) if he promotes her to full time girlfriend where shes caring for the house and kids, then who will he have his affair with? just someone else. all i am is someone who cares for the kids and someone he can say "my wife" to his many admires who say what a nice guy he is and how i am so lucky to have him. now when i do come around his restaurant- which isnt very often- and they say those things to me, i roll my eyes and/or tell them little stories of how he calls me "lazy"- just one ex of what he says to me- Mind you, i work a full time corp job for 13 yrs with commuting, and care for 2 kids- one with a sever disability, a dog, which was a "gift" from him i never wanted, and the sole person who cares for the house and its responsibilities, my kids social lives, nursing for my son, medicare and etc..... Yet he calls me lazy, but only to my family and his family, never his customers. to his customers, I'm, " the most caring, supportive wife a man could have", " the way she cares for our son and works a full time job and deals with me and this restaurant, im so lucky to have her". i wanna throw up. sorry for the rant

I felt like a defective employee

My husband has never loved me. Im trash to him.

Yeah for me it's 25 years and maybe just maybe he'll go soon. It's been hell with him.

Mine too, after 23 yrs. I am so enjoying the peace. People ask me when I’m going to start dating, it’s been almost 3 yrs now. I ask them if they are crazy, not happening!! Lol

I will die before him he is so carefull with is health!!!!!!!!!

Why did you stay with him so long?

I think we should all examine ourselves and why we attract them and continue to stay...waiting on someone’s death seems unbearable even unthinkable

Agreed

So true .my ex . these ij and our last daughter and she was a hellish child and he showed her everyday and laugh a tt her tw o.o sisters and put me down she is 26yrs now still dont talk to me or her sisters and she is handed big money from the Narc father to gain wealth through opening her own hair business ..I still dont have any contact .nothing we feel like she disappeared no contact for yrs 😭😭 she was helped to ..by the father to disconnect at 15 yrst and half made out I was a bad mum...its like a death ..for us..shs makes sure we don't get to be able to talk is where she lives no contact..she was told 2yrs ago she is a aunty all she said to her sister was F......off 🤢 but we see on her business FB..she got married but never is ever kind anyway to us only people who don't really know her🤕😶

This very true! He enjoys being the victim. He treats everyone very differently than me. To me he is very dismissive and belittling. He will also try to take credit for novelty things I do. Even after he had a lack of support for my idea to begin with.

That’s so true 👍

They need a slave to control every day

ResoluteBelle thank you... my husband BEGGED me to marry him for 2 years and then when I was convinced it must be from God, all he ever fought for was to keep me at home to take care of him! My marriage was an episode of the “Twilight Zone!” I kept wondering “who am I?!” because that’s NOT what I signed up for! He always confused me between “rescuing” me and “discarding” me.... while ALL ALONG he was running off having sexual adventures with other women. I was so void of any self-worth that the thought that bothered me the most wasn’t his infidelity, it was WHY wouldn’t he want to do all those things with ME??!!!. Thank you for shedding light on this. It’s going to take a TRUCKLOAD of affirmations for me to become the REAL ME again 👑 but I suppose it’s the only life I have and so the only work worth investing into is in myself! With the help of GOD, I will not surrender 🙏❤️🔥

Yes... I told my ex you'r not looking for a wife you are looking for a mother ! Next...Lol I left him. It lasted less than 2 year's. It was awful !

And for hitting up their in-laws for ungodly sums of money for their business adventures that never worked.

@@vivianahernandez1143 I have been through what you are going through & I am on the other side of it. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. I promise. You will find your life is SO much better without these demonically influenced people. Forgive yourself for missing the red flags and move on toward the true happiness that awaits you. Now that you know the warning signs, look for them. Like Dr. Ramani said, kick the tires. God bless you on your journey to healing.

And to make them look good and upstanding members of he community.

That is a good way to put it. You are home base while they go out and do whatever.

I pray for you.

Same here ..

I have a dear friend that is going through this also. I am adding you to my prayer list. Peace and love from Tulsa. ☮️✝️♥️

praying for you with God help u can make it. Remember the bible says I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me Phili. 4:13

Praying for you. Stay safe. 🌺

On a the grand scale of things , where did you fit in ? Why , the bottom of course.

So so true 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

True

And when they can't eg. Lack of finances, they get emotionally abusive

Me too I be like why would you want to be with somebody like that lol

Mine said in response to the question why are you still here if I am such a liability. His response I have to stay because I have to do everything for you because you are so hopeless.

@@mstep4553 that's exactly what my spouse says too.🤦‍♀️ He won't ever sign divorce papers. I feel cornered and trapped.😓

@@alba7165 talk to a lawyer that specializes in narc divorces! They are around

Exactly 💯💯💯 i do the same thing .. Agree then ask why

How are u now?

@@missc2091 much better healthier

​​@@decorativedeluxeHey darling, can you please explain what do you mean by feeling like a "beard" in your comment above? Is it a phrase, an idiom? Sorry, I don't know, English is not my first language.

Hope u hold onto that as you heal. I remember praying he would just leave because it would be so much easier than the pain of having to cut him out of my life. It would have been a mercy

I wish

I felt sudden released from the burden put on my shoulder right after he get married to his ex w/o gave me closure & promised to marry me the whole 3 yrs relationship. All the future faking, cheating, depression, always broke, silent trmt etc were very overwhelmed and drained our energy

I am preparing for the day.

I told my ×-vamprie whew I'm GLAD you left... Next thing while rebuilding myself, I noted her stalking me... Doing drive-bys late @ night... During the day using our child as a pawn... But your the one who left... Conclusion: that experience was a lesson... Not a blessing... It taught me a major lesson on ppl & mostly myself... 👀

Exactly sleeping with your ennemie

Exactly.

They lure their prey in. Then capture and abuse them.

Yes but just to clarify, the "supply" is not a person it's the way a person "feeds" them. Never define yourself as the "supply". Instead choose to "starve" them with SILENCE from the first date then a narcissist will discard you for the RIGHT reason.

So true 👍

Exactly. My life in a paragraph. Now after 40 years his behavior is even more entrenched, more distilled. At least my child is an adult (recently she told me she didn’t think her dad really cared about her at all). I’ve known he didn’t care about me but he’s always put on a good show with her usually getting her to side with him re: me. (I’m not capable of driving a car...to which she agreed, enough that I stopped the car & got out to let her drive). This past year I learned the vocabulary re: why I’ve been diminished, discarded, demeaned my entire married life. After crying a lot this year & getting it out of my system I now refuse to care or acknowledge his behavior. He’s always said things to provoke me. No longer. I refuse to play the game. I’ve basically always lived alone (he goes on vacation & takes trips with his buds, I’m home alone) so nothing has really changed. We inhabit the same residence.

Omg...yes, so true.

You just wrote my life. Glad it is my past life now.

@Lawn Mower First marriage was this way my second marriage too. I felt stupid when I figured out why a Narcissist picked me. They want to be you, they have no emotion or empathy so they mimic. Need this narcy to leave but am cautious, he has threatened to kill me. He is just a big coward.

The minute I started complaining she went into narcissistic rage.

Agree 💯 percent

exactly a legal slave.

So true I have a couple in my family like this. The wife is narc and husband an empath. I think he realises this but is very patient and loves her so much, he’s willing to bear it.

There's a huge difference between being an empath and simply a person who doesn't know how to set boundaries.

BINGO

Bingo!

Agree on all counts . You are there to cook, clean and wash Then perform in bed and look pretty when going out. Sickening

They are very sick individuals. I married into a whole freak show of narcissists

This sounds like bosses who hire and fire people on a whim after using them to generate money while they sit on their comfortable chair and make the big decisions to maximise productivity, results and personal profit. Marriage is like a business to narcissists, nothing personal, merely a method for them to enter a contract to meet their needs and maximise personal gain. You are an interchangeable object who can easily be discarded and replaced.

Yes! I clearly dodged a bullet

Think about all these at once!.. The silly part about disgard is they are enjoying starting all over again,.. unlike normal people!

yes, they are 'networking' ...

Particularly if you have assets or a single child with inheritance !!

Yes! I have this way.

Funny to hear you put it that way. When my ex left, my eldest son said that everything about his father was like a business transaction which is why he treats people as being disposable. At the time, it made me cringe, but now I’m happy to see that his own children have learnt to keep a distance from their toxic father.

Sounds like a Barbie World life style aka fantasy. 😂😂😂

All smoke and mirrors

Facts

👍

Exactly what my spouse said on a hoover..you are my trophy...made it easy for me to leave..iim a human being .not an object

That includes Blaming too, which is called Scapegoats!!

YES! Alcohol, porn, attention seeking, lying, acting, power trips. The list is endless, they are never satisfied.

Endless porn jst amongst one

@@briana14333 even drugs

Aint that the truth..my ex is a compulsive liar...his whole life is one big lie.

I tried reaching out to my ex’s fiancé on her KZfaq channel to warn her about the abuse he inflicted on me. She responded by blocking me. They are now married with a baby and I don’t feel sorry for her and the choices she made. She deserved all the misery she signed up for.

@Cali Girl I haven't remarried either. I'm very careful now when it comes to men. I'd rather be single then make another mistake

I was my husband's 2nd wife/ex wife... And I made the same rule!!!!! A first divorce was understandable... It was believable that his first ex was crazy... But if someone can't learn from and heal from their traumas between a first and second marriage... Clearer still, if someone can't take their time discerning between a first and second marriage, causing that 2nd marriage to end too... Then they are likely a type B personality and I don't need that shit!

@@harleyquinn5774 remember that she is just as much victim as you were and you should pity her because she is about to have it worse than you now. Remember the narcissist probably lied to her and said you were the crazy ex obsessed with him and she is too blinded by his love bombing to even see the truth. When chit hits the fan she may reach out to you or not.

Yea I doubt that

John Hooper: Sad but so so true!! 🙁

True

Self made psychological prison

It sure was !

Oh yes, it’s all a cover up for their NASTY behaviour! Once the kids are all grown up & it’s time to heal themselves they find other supply within their circle (family) cause doing the inner work is so hard for them. Or they decide to live their lives with their husband but not happily. Stay away from these sick ass people!

Yep!! My dad is married to exactly that and has filled his dutiful role blindly

They do only what pleases them, making a big show of it, and leaving you responsible for everything else. Even worse, they will sabotage what you do to keep things neat and orderly. Worse still, you become overwhelmed, give up, and turn into a slob like them. It's like living with a perpetual 14 year old.

Ok, where is the hidden camera? You obviously have been watching my marriage! Lol!

We only work when you are around so it looks like we are busy and we go slow

You’ve met my husband I see.

Narcissists rarely if ever change themselves. The narcissist is quick to change diet trends, moods, fashion and spouses.

@Corina..SAME (34 years) exact scenario...waiting ..editing ‘life passages’ in vain for a protracted change and growth. Not apparent. nor happening up until now, Absolutely petrified at the reality of his imminent retirement in two years. I hope to find your courage and start exit plans in earnest,,You are my “spirit animal” along with Dr. Romani!!

good that good , i did the same with my ex ,.

I’m 23 years into my relationship and slowly starting to realize how blind I was to the emotional abuse...I see it not getting better but worse also & at the end of my rope!

Marcie Fiedler It will be 24 years for on 8/10/2020. Left on two separate occasions, but came back due to the "Love Bombing" and my religious convictions. Now that I've been on therapy, and studied the word it relates to Gods view on Narcissism, and how it's impossible for these people to honor their Vows, or you, I'm free to leave, and never look back. I've been preparing for 3 years now, and my breakthrough came forth 2 weeks ago. Moving out w/out him knowing in 2 weeks. Game over. Headed to my peace. Game over. This kind of demon will slowly kill you. Get out! 🙏🙏🙏

Christina N. Horn, you look stunning

Christina N. Horn,you don't deserve to be with a narc 😈!

💯% resonance!

So true

Exactly! Never acting like they are married

I felt more alone around a narcissist, then being by myself.

Ms M, you don't deserve to be with a narc 😈!

So true

i agree ive been gone a month now and Ive never felt better they completely cloud your judgment its unbelievable

Yessss

thats why its good to say no sometimes....see how they respond

They have their demons at the start with the motives to kill steal and destroy you by any means necessary. They hide their real self short term until they feel they've have you in the palm of their hand to crush you. Steal the life right out of you and destroy you.

This is really interesting. I am learning so much from this channel and people sharing experience and knowledge!!

Wow I tink this vid was made 4 me😧

I decided to have a little freak out, to see if the love was real. I was sick of him talking to me like a child or as though he'd just met me on Tinder (after two years of dating - I felt like he was still keeping me at arm's length and I wasn't in his heart truly - No true intimacy) and as I was at a point in my life I needed true emotional support I wanted to see if he would reach out and do this and stop calling me sweetoe for once, and like really be there, you know? So I showed more authentic expression of myself about where I was at in life, not about us, but just my feelings and personal thoughts about the world, and then....! That marked the end really, it was finally over. Reasons? He said he'd never seen me angry before and it freaked him out. But in a real relationship right, you stick it out? And he wanted me to move countries, etc. And he was not interested in knowing about my feeling or insecuritites - It was like, 'done'for him. It was like he never contacted me hardly after that. So much love bombing? until that moment. Because I thought, I need to see if he'll really be there for me, so I'm going to stop acting as it's unhealthy to feel so seperated in a relationship, I want to feel like 'one'with him. And he was so not interested! I've known him for half of my life. Now I'm back to single again and feeling damaged. And he went back to his ex! Again! Yes, I gave him a second chance. 💔

Your experience sounds like mine. Mine died a year ago after 45 years of marriage. Not until he was gone, did I become familiar with narcissism and grey rock. But, I detached in our final years. This is a time of healing and understanding for me.

And the truly diabolical ones are so expertly subtle and just chip away at you little by little. And when you leave act surprised, like they are awesome and you are just evil and try to convince everyone else you are too. Glad to say my step kids caught on and love me all the more.

You just described my narcissist husband stone cold user and Manipulator

That's exactly what I am to my Narcissist husband

....and a woman narcissist wants a maintenence man.....someone to serve them and take them out to dinner or buy them jewlery.....take them on a cruz and carry the bags and of course....income.

Absolutely right Jessie Dixon. Add one more to the list. They also get married to get sex for free. My ex treated me like one . And even after I filed for divorce he would say that you are legally still my wife and thus I have a right to have sex with you anytime I want. It was very disrespectful for me.

True

Not me...my ex and I were still married when his secret double life caught him charges. He will be in prison til the day he dies for violating another woman and taking her life during a narc rage. I am for all intensive purposes a widow with an exhusband who is a dead man walking. I am sorry for her, but glad that he is locked up and totally powerless.

I am living my best life after divorcing my narcissistic ex, and once I found out that he was a narcissist, I gave him a taste of his own medicine

I totally agree, with you! The light just came on for me, in the last year or so! Of course, in the beginning I never thought of him being a narcissist. But my eyes are wide open now! And it, sucks!

@@sharonfrezghi1530 AMEN

What’s sick is that I wanted the traditional vows at our marriage, I feel like a disgrace for doing so...

The verbal & physical abuse by the narc has lasting effects on their victims, even years later they suffer ptsd and depression

True

Good one....

I need this on a t shirt....

My husband did not want children... he actually took me to get an abortion when I got pregnant! I’m so done with him... I woke up!

Mu86ni my narc also made me get an abortion

Thank you. Keep saying they are fundamentally insane so it becomes my mantra. I'm sorry you went through this. I'm close to my exit. Thankfully he lied about wanting to marry me.

Omg, my narc ex husband told me the same!

Yeah they can’t keep that mask on after they get what they want out of you.

@@olyguy9918 Very true

You can't rationalize with the irrational. They never listen anyway, so all our efforts are in vain. Avoid them is the best prescription.

On point and it is so draining you end up getting stressed

OMG! My boyfriend has all this behavior 😱

I hope you can find your strength to get out. You know there's a lot of help out there. I wish you well

C J sounds like my fist marriage The day after our marriage he blew up on the freeway on our honeymoon and kicked me out of the car alone on the freeway with no moeny no phone. Nothing. He just left me emotionally after the ceremony.

C J please make videos about it!?

I hope you find yourself again CJ, it took me ten years but I made it. sending love💕

@CJRichard Same happened to me

so true, evils and liars

Exactly!

I was 64 before I realised that he was a narc ... I felt bad because I thought it was my fault he was like this. It's too late for me but I beg anyone in the same situation to get out now and never look back

Yes!!!

@@lynneparker4136 do you have any advice on how to get out of a marriage? I’ve been married for 23 years I still have kids at home I don’t make enough money to support us and I would lose our house without his income? I don’t know what to do I can’t afford an attorney but I also don’t want to be married anyone everyday is just a nightmare

If you raise your children well they will not accept any mistreating in relationships. It is usually the scapegoats or golden children to attract and marry a narc. When you know your value you will not let anybody invalidate you. So not just tell them not to marry a narc but teach them that they are valuable and ok the way they are and if somebody wants to change them than it is not the right person for a relationship.

@Irina Ivanova so you agreed that you were not raised well. You got limited information about relationships and your role in it. :-) "My mom only taught me what boys like in a girl." That is very bad approach: A) Your mom does not know what boys like in girls B) it should be about you and how to be happy in relationship, how to find a good guy

@Irina Ivanova many narcissists are wolves in sheep skin, it takes a very strong young adult to be able to notice red-flags and able to withstand hidden psychological abuse! Thanks for sharing your story!

Yep and they carry on punishing you after the divorce.... 10 years on and he still makes my life difficult

Thats tricky because the narcissist might brainwash your child into thinking you are the problem. Tread carefully!

After you get over the splitting headache

@@MJ-qb5ph Got to love that!

Love, love, love your comment!!! So true!

Wow...but that sums it all up!

Right not marriage material I remember him telling me that his not . So I kept that in mind, ppl asked 23 years why y’all didn’t get married. My reply marry for what ! He doesn’t want to provide , want to use and list goes on and on. It’s been eight months no contact already engage with a new supply gave her my old ring . Lol 😝 smh

Hell on earth sounds about right

Tangerine there have ALWAYS been narcissist it’s just the field of psychology hasn’t caught up back in old days.

@Cali Girl I'm so sorry. How disappointing it must have been for you. Glad you can laugh now. Lol💗

@@chynadoll77cyn59 Oh my. Most likely he will do the same exact thing to his new supply.

Well done for quitting the horror show!

You can be proud that you made it out before it was too late. I wish you well.

“Commodity.” Even before I knew what narcissism was, I felt I was a commodity to my husband. The worst part about it was at the end of the 20+ year relationship, I had started to think of myself as a commodity and one that was particularly lacking. A narcissist is very rough on a person’s self concept.

Yassss!!!

How were you able to quit? I am really happy for you that you stopped taking abuse you didn’t deserve. Also, I seem to have found myself in a strangely similar play...

Vanna Marie good for you👏🏻👍

Suraya Lalloo thank you, means alot to me 🙏🏻

why do you feel bad?

Nice...

Yeah, when a narc discards you or you discard them, you will feel like you made a huge mistake, maybe even for years and even more if you see them jumping into a relationship or marriage soon after you break up, but you have to realize you were strong enough and lucky enough to get out. If they ever get into anything long term after you, you should feel sorry for that person because, as much as our brains will tell us and as much as they may post all the "good" moments in their new relationship, the new supply was/is too deep to get out. The narc hasn't changed at all.

Michele Lewis - how did you get him to hasten the discard?

Please tell us how you hesten the discard

Good for you!

Good for you! Hopefully he didn't scar your family too much.

LOL

And pay every single thing

That is so true 😭

My twenty year marriage summed up. What a waste 😩 basically a twenty year sentence. Not only for me but children

Shilpa, Brilliant!!!!

James R. Please stay single no matter what. Keep your life.

Yes VERY intelligent !

Never married here... 40 years of dating Narcs...lol

That’s your preference and it’s fine.... but it has nothing to do with narcissism.... there are a lot of folks who married that are not narcs and are intelligent.....

"Being strong - with excellent instincts and loyalty and smarts - does not inoculate a person against abuse."