I’ve been told this recently as well on my videos. PragerU is a bit much, just, all of the time.

The fact that she just keeps misgendering me and other trans guys basically in the whole video just makes me feel so uncomfortable- she says she is worried about us but she's just trying to hurt us lmao

"Gender dysphoria only existed in boys." Me, a woman with autism: why does that sound familiar?

The thing is when I came out as bi, my mother said “you’ve never been interested in women before”. I HAD been interested in women before, but I had never said anything because I thought it was wrong or weird. My gender identity is the same. I haven’t talked about it because I don’t want to be disowned or thrown out. I love my family, but they can be very conservative.

“You teenager is just a teenager” No, your teenager is just a person with ideas, thoughts, opinions, needs, and basic human rights 🤠 please treat them as such

"Remember that a teenager is still JUST a teenager." Ah, yes. Time to engage in Gaslighting 101.

As someone who graduated high school nearly a decade ago, I can confirm that she is 100% lying about no one knowing any trans kids in high school back then.

I can tell me being transgender isn’t a phase Because you know why? No matter how many times I try to suppress it and move on or try to convince myself I’m not trans, The feelings and dysphoria always come back.

this ad screams, “I’ve never talked to a trans person."

Alright so, hear me out: I had a cat-and I know this is a weird way to start the anecdote-who we always thought was a female cat. We had it since it was a kitten, we adored it. We thought the cat was female since it was a kitten when we adopted it, because no one in the house knew how to tell the difference. That cat was the queen of the house and everybody loved it. Then, one day, we discovered it was a male cat instead. My mom was shocked and mildly horrified, my grandma didn't much care about it anyway, but my stepfather had the worst reaction of all. Poor thing passed from being his favorite cat on earth to being worse than dirt and the punchline of every joke because it was male and it had "deceived him" its whole life or something stupid like that. He even got physical with it when it tried to snuggle with him at first until it learned better. The worst part is: the poor cat couldn't understand why everybody but me treated it differently now. _It was still the exact same cat, it had always been male,_ it's just that no one was able to see it until it grew up enough to be able to show them better. Now, since they reacted this way towards my cat… if I'd come out as transmasculine, or in my case nonbinary, what do you think would've been their reaction to _me?_ Seriously, why do people think "girls want to become boys because they're told it solves all their problems and it's easier" is _even slightly_ a reasonable argument to make?! Being trans is *_not_* an "easy fix" at all. It usually makes your life harder. You don't come out because it's *_"easier"_* you come out _to be able _*_to be yourself._*

It’s terrible that she says gender transition won’t help these “girls”. My trans son had terrible anxiety, depression, an eating disorder and basically a terrible time. He is now presenting as male and in T and eating properly and being mostly happy. It’s not that everything is perfect but the improvement is so noticeable.

You know what also gives anxiety and depression.. feeling completely alone because you can’t find anyone in real life who relates to you that’s why social media is so popular

"Let's not listen to doctors" that is literally how the pandemic started.

as a cis girl with anxiety, not once in my life have I thought: "Hey, you know what would make all my problems go away? Cutting my boobs off and grow a beard!!"

the "but there were never any signs!!" reaction is always so funny to me because it's always just parents in denial. i'm ftm and that was my mom's reaction when i came out to her. me, a huge tomboy my entire life, hated wearing dresses and skirts so much that when i was forced to wear a skirt for church it was an ankle-length one so i could wear jeans underneath it, she thought _that_ child never showed any signs of being trans. the "rapid onset" perception is and has always been parents ignoring what's right in front of them.

Your patience with this stuff is frankly astounding. I’m cis, but I can’t listen to her blatant manipulation, fake concern and intellectual dishonesty for more than a few seconds without the urge to throw my iPad. Thank you for always providing a reasoned, well-sourced rebuttal to harmful nonsense like hers.

i love that their caricature of a scary trans person thats turning all the "normal girls" trans has blue-green hair and multiple facial piercings. like thats me lmao

My very conservative mother’s best friend was like, “so when girls go through puberty they get more insecure, and when guys go through puberty they get more confident, so that’s why girls want to transition and go on testosterone, to become more confident.” Mmmmm so I had to be like “kids don’t just come out and immediately get in hormones, you do not know what you’re talking about.” It’s so frustrating.

I love how she is treating transitioning like weed. It just reminds me of the anti-drug commercials. The idea that anyone would even hint that transitioning is easier than not doing it is absolutely insane, I'm a cis woman and even I know that.

I got a Trevor project ad while watching this and started tearing up- Just a random reminder that there are a lot of good people in the world, even if a lot of others aren’t the best

That "be the adult in the relationship" line just screams "force something on another human being under the guise of them being stupider than you."

PragerU: 10 years ago there were no trans-men Jamie (trans man who began transitioning 10 years ago): Well...

“Is being trans a fad? We asked cisgendered transphobic parents!” Is it really so hard to just ask lgbt+ people what it’s like being who they are? We don’t bite and we have cake and cookies.

"Social media give you depression and anxiety and will make you sad and alone" I litterally feels accepted and love by being the way i am like I've never been before

"A four year old is too young to know they're trans." most parents at their babies: dress them in shit like "i'm gonna break all the girls hearts when im a teen" "i'm gonna bring all the boys home to daddy"

Transphobes: Girls don't have beards. Transmen: *Have beards* Transphobes: You're a girl.

My mom didn't think I had any symptoms of dysphoria in my early childhood when I came out as a trans man. I...did. I just...like, didn't tell her about it? Cause I thought it was illogical and I didn't know trans men were a thing, and I got shit about making mountains out of molehills all the time. It was only when puberty hit and I had my breasts grow and I though, huh, maybe I just think they should be bigger, that's why I'm uncomfortable with them, and then my period hit, and I remember laying in bed that night staring at the ceiling and realizing at that moment that I didn't want to become a woman anymore. I didn't understand it, but I just knew I didn't like what was happening and I preferred it before. I wanted to go back. I remember wishing desperately, holding a plush, with my eyes closed tight, still sore from crying that day from panic attacks cause things got really wild when my period hit, and wishing that time would go back to that morning when I woke up, except it would be the same, without the period thing. Or, as my alternative to the universe, I wanted to just not wake up please. My mom saw a change in my behavior hitting puberty, she just didn't know wtf it was. I never told her about the time when I was a kid and I would think about how I hated being called a "girly girl" and wanted to be called a "tomboy" even though I knew I didn't fit that role all that much, and how I started trying to amplify and speak out about my more masculine interests to try and get people to go along with my wishes. I didn't know why I felt that way, but it was on and off my mind for like most of my early childhood. I told my mom at the age of 16-17 that I had thought those things, and she never fuckin' knew. Just cause parents don't see shit doesn't mean it's not fuckin' happening. I hate that bullshit concept. Like, I know that she's a dumb and just spreading propaganda about anti-trans shit, but it fuckin' pisses me off that she uses that wording, that, oh no, the parents hadn't seen any symptoms, yeah, no shit. That happens sometimes??? Especially when you're raised AFAB and you acting out or feeling odd is dismissed all the time and you're told not to be "overdramatic" around every corner??? Not all trans masc folk behave the same as children, hell, I wasn't super masculine, I was more androgynous femme-leaning in my interests. Why? Cause even now, I present androgynously, it's just how I am. But I am a man. A dude. I've literally been on HRT for a year and known I was trans for about 7 years now. Been out for about 6-7 years now. My mom and pediatrician can attest that the change in my behavior and mood and anxiety and depression and all that shit was IMMENSE. Like, my pediatrician has told me, point blank, that I'm one of the most like clear cases of how much HRT can help someone's mental health, in ways you might not even expect. She has said the general feeling I gave off before was just like a cat latched onto the ceiling, and now I'm a lot more calm, I have a lot less daily anxiety, I walk into a room with my shoulders actually straight instead of curled in like a little tortoise shell of protection, and I just overall seem more like..myself. Like comfortable with life. She hadn't even expected this significant of a change, and I suspect she probably uses me as an example of the more extreme side of like how HRT can drastically help mental health, and how being trans can impact more than just general mood or depression.

I wish you would do a video specifically for scared parents that breaks down their fears and explains it for them. You've done a lot of research and can see through the bs in a way that's is logical and helpful. I wish there was a single video that I could share to a couple people to help them see past Propaganda like this

The fact that she thinks that transitioning is a “quick fix” or the easy way out confuses and disgusts me. Pretty sure it is neither easy or quick to transition.

She kept saying "she" and I thought for the longest time she was talking about trans woman but no she was just misgendering trans men

16:30 'just a teenager'. I saw something that said 'why are teens so angry? Because they are treated like kids and expected to behave like adults.' That's what we're talking about. Also, re: how the video says that social media is influencing people to be LGBTQIA+, in my personal experience, it just told me what it was. I recently found out I'm asexual, and I kind of always knew it, but k didn't know that asexuality was an actual thing. A random youtube video was reccomended to me about asexuality, and since I was trying to learn as much as I can about everyone in the LGBTQIA+ community i decided to check it out. Then I realized "oh wait... this is me. I'm actually a thing? There are people like me?" and it was wonderful 🖤💜🤍 So social media isn't making people LGBTQIA+, just spreading awareness and information about it, and helping people realize that there's a community for them ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

Jammie’s channel is a safe space in the chaotic depths of KZfaq

Child: finds out they're trans Parents: shame them into hiding it because they're too young Child: represses their emotions Parents: what do you mean, you're trans? There weren't any signs!

“WHY DONT THEY REALIZE IT SOONER” “THEYRE TOO YOUNG” ???? transphobes are weird 😭

I swear this ad would be absolute nightmare fuel if my mom watched it and didn’t research the statistics being mentioned because my mom is homophobic and transphobic and has untreated schizophrenia, also we live in Oregon so she would be pretty quick to believe the stuff said about Oregon

My mom claimed I transitioned as a social contagion. I was homeschooled. I DID have online homeschool classes, but every class talked about how trans people were not real, a plight on the world, and going to hell. Would have been kicked out of school, actually, if I told them. And, I fully believed it. Social contagion. I read a medical article on the internet. I love being a man, now, as an adult. It's perfect for me. Mom still says it's a social contagion. She says it was rapid onset gender dysphoria of the internet, because I didn't call myself a word until I learned the word.

7:22 is just like "To know how deers felt about being killed in their natural habitat, we asked hunters"

California demigirl here. That “kindergarten trans stuff” is literally just teaching kids how to address people you don’t know the gender of. My friend is a teacher (2nd grade currently) and that’s basically it for the “transing of education.” Telling kids that there are trans people in the world, and also that you should be kind and respectful to everyone? Oh, the horror! 🙃

"your teenager is just a teenager' also them "fetuses are human beings and deserve rights"

Being called 'her' just kills me inside...I know what I am feeling, and if it doesn't affect you, leave it be.

I love how she said that "there was 0 research on trans men" then later basically said "something weird is happening cause theres a lot more trans men now"

"OMG they're just teenagers 😤 they're not mature enough to know their gender!" So you're telling me a teenager is not old enough to know their gender... But is old enough to know exactly what career they want to pursue....? Excuse me what.

I've run into so many people who don't believe young trans people should be allowed to transition, and yet fully support nonconsensual cosmetic surgery on intersex kids' genitals. I can't imagine the mental gymnastics that takes.

What’s frustrating is that most of this ad is covering about the teenage girls, almost feeling like “oh, trans women are acceptable and common but trans men are totally not real”

prageru: "these medical facilities rush these teens towards 'a solution'" me, a trans man still waiting for 4+ years for the entry appointment at the gender clinic:

Also as a troubled cis teenage girl with trans friends not once did I think “I must be trans then” because that’s NOT WHY PEOPLE COME OUT AS TRANS THEY COME OUT AS TRANS BECAUSE THEYRE TRANS L I S A

My mom was always very open with me about LGBT identities, as much as a child could understand of course. We had a trans neighbor, who came out as a trans dude and got kicked out, so we let him stay with us until he got a place to live. I was about 8. That was our buddy Kev! I loved Kev! Cool guy! Like a big brother to me! At that age, he didn't influence me to become trans. In fact, I never even connected the dots that he was our old neighbor [deadname] until like 3 years ago because nobody ever made a big fuss about him being trans or anything. However that openness to things like that is what helped me feel comfortable in exploring and eventually finding out "oh.. I'm trans. Weird. Makes sense what I was feeling as a kid though, I guess." I'm so thankful to my mother for that, even if she was less than stellar in literally every other area of parenting. I wish my father was more like that. My choices of having any parental relationship are druggy, bisexual mom or stable, transphobic dad. 🙄😭

“If you’re a middles school girl, it’s possible you may know someone who identifies as transgender” Me: “of course I know her, she’s me.”

Jamie’s videos: Wholesome trans content KZfaq Algorithm: trAnSpHoBiA

KZfaq: "Were trying to fight against misinformation " Also KZfaq: "Ads like this are fine because money."

“A quick fix” Ah yes, because transitioning was quick and easy, I’ve been working towards transitioning for 4 years, and just started estrogen in January

i like how she said it was 'rushed'. it took me ~12 years to realize i wasn't female, and 2 years later to figure out i was demiboy and aroace. it's taken a long time to get my parents to accept me, and my mom's finally starting to :) baby steps i plan on getting my first binder soon, so that's great :D

"I'm Abigail Schrieir, author of irreversible damage..." She's right, you know. Not in the way she thinks, but she did cause a lot of damage.

I"m near on 50 and went to school with a trans person. She was unhappy and confused in herself, I think, for a very long time. She only came out in her late 30s early 40s. I wish she had had the internet trans community to help her understand herself sooner.

I had a cousin transition and our family flipped out. Several of my cousins were never surprised when this happened. We all knew as kids that my cousin was a boy. He has a happy family life now. I know it was a long, difficult journey for him. I truly hope people could keep an open mind. Everyone deserves to be happy within their own bodies.

As a trans person who has a lot of trans friends. Rapid onset gender dysphoria is not real. We all figured it out together and realized because as children we were not taught about trans people. I'm really pissed watching things that make rapid onset seem real. 😒 it's disgusting and disappointing

PragerU: Internet is a place that is gonna make teens feel sad, depressed and alone. *PragerU proceeds to make videos emphasizing that teens should be left sad, depressed and alone*

DeCadE aGo ThErE wAs No TrAnSgEnDeR kIdS iN ScHooLs. OH MY, I WONDER WHYYY. Pretty sure not because people were more scared to coming out.

That woman gives me physical symptoms of anger. Seriously. ‘Why do girls become boys?’ Before we’ve even started. If these so-called girls ‘become’ boys, they are boys and have been boys all their lives. It takes until teenage year to figure it out because that’s just when we start to question what our parents tell us. Literally F*ing stop calling men and boys girls. And then there’s ‘teenagers are still just teenagers. Their best thing you can do is be an adult.’ 🤮 Is this my mother talking? Insert gaslighting comments. ‘Your brain is unraveling and you don’t know how to think. It’s a perfectly normal teenage phase and I’m tired of your obsession with that lifestyle choice.’ Right. I don’t know how to think. Of course, you know my gender better than I do. ‘Gender is fluid in teenage years.’ Mother, i identify as a form of genderfluid, i know my gender is fluid, that’s what I’m trying to tell you. Then we have the ‘irreversible changes and life changing choices.’ Yes, I’m trying to make ‘life changing choices, I want my life to change.’ When I say I’m gender fluid my mum be like “oh good, so you’ll go back to being a girl right?” No. No, mother, no. That’s not how it works. Visible irritation. The woman in this video is so infuriating tho. GIRLS want to make their life have an easy fix. No. They. Are. Not. Girls. And. Being. Transgender. Is. Not. Easy. F*. You. You. Stupid. Woman. Ok, rant over. :)

I'm finally at the point where I can send this to my mom and expect her to listen to it. Thank you, Jamie, for creating wonderful, easily-accessible, educational content.

“16 year olds are able to get top surgery without even a therapist’s note.” Me: 🧐 a 40 year old who has to have a therapist’s note before I can get top surgery.

I have a trans-man cousin whose life got measurably WORSE after coming out, to the point where his familly kept constantly trying to guilt and Hell-fear him back into becoming "our true little girl again". Transitioning makes your life easier? HA!

There is a trans Male in my class and even tho we aren't friends I still feel bad if I accidentally misgender them because I know its horrible to be dead named and misgendered the one time I did misgender them I pratically died inside because I felt so bad. - Jayden if you are reading this have a good day :)

Gee, I wonder if those "girls" DID display ev8dence of gender dysphoria sooner, but were punished for it and quickly learned what everyone raised female does--sometimes the cost of self expression is very high

"Quick fix." Really. Years of therapy, doctors, referrals, legal document changes, misgendering, erasure, bullying, harassment, threats of violence, DO I REALLY NEED TO KEEP GOING.

that she said the process is "rushed" was so funny to me. it took me 13 years to figure out and accept myself, 2 years to actually come out to everyone, 1 year to get T and now more than 2 years to get top surgery. Like, honey. I wish it was rushed so I didn't waste like half my life, geez...

"A decade ago" kids were terrified to tell anyone. You knew trans men, and women, they were just invisible because they were afraid to tell anyone. 😔 I know. I transitioned in 1993. -weezi-

people like Abigail are the reason my mum wasn’t supportive when i came out, and still isn’t. I’m starting testosterone in a month (hopefully) but because of my mum, i haven’t been able to start it sooner than this. This is why i ended up in hospital for several suicide attempts, because i never believed i would be able to be happy because my mum was actively denying me happiness and would rather that i was dead than transgender. If you didn’t already assume this, i definitely don’t live with my mum and have no contact with her anymore :)

Me, genderfliud: (finally comes out) Mean kid at school: (trys to misgender me on purpose) Me, accepting all pronouns: *jokes on you im into that sht* Edit: oh crap yall we trans Edit 2: im out now Edit 3: dealing with bullies well still! Not my fault u got a 2nd grade knowledge of gender

“youve created a permanent medical patient” EVERY HUMAN EVER IS A PERMANENT MEDICAL PATIENT

I was asserting my transness from age 4, but nobody listened, or they laughed and warned me not to keep talking about it lest I be "locked in the nuthouse." These horrible people are ignoring my existence, my pain, my traumatic history, and the same of many other transmen How about historical transmen whose voices exist in their writings? The only reason transmen seem invisible is because of the patriarchy's general suppression of all AFAB or feminine persons. Instead of beating me to death and hanging me on a fence, they suppressed me with shouts of "crazy" and threats of institutional violence. I'm 59, transitioned, and still having to deal with my dead name and transphobic attitudes. The cruelty is overwhelming and a lot of transmen die unheard of violence or self erasure at an early age.

My youngest cousin is transgender and came out at 13 and all my older relatives are like "oh it's so sudden!" Like does no one remember this kid screaming bloody murder when we put him in an angel dress for his first Halloween at age 4? Or when he was 6 and begged for a short haircut and pouted for like a week when it was just trimmed? I noticed. Just because both boys and girls wear pants, have interests in cars, TMNT and more stereotypically *masc* things, the cues aren't as noticeable to folks who aren't aware. I was a tomboy with a bob cut growing up, I can kind of get the confusion, but I was also vaguely aware the kid might be trans when he was like 9.

"But if you graduated high school over a decade ago chances are you didn't know any." 2006, my school had an LGBT Alliance, the principal was out as a lesbian, many of my friends were bi and dated accordingly, and one of my close friends was non-binary.

The impression I get from this woman is that she sees parents as the ultimate, all-knowing authority in their children’s lives, which I find weird for someone who doesn’t have kids.

14:45: she literally called being trans a trend - the audacity. I’m not trans myself but I do have trans friends- I think being trans is not something people can do for fun. This is a major decision in their lives and now people are more accepting and understanding is a great thing, since it lets people be more comfortable and confident at how they feel. I have a friend who identify themselves as trans and received a lot of hate from it, and some even told others they’re an attention seeker, but she still stood her ground. I have genuine respect for her then and now I’m happy for her since more and more people accepts her for who she is.

I’ve heard everything she said at 11:12 about the whole “they’re not ready to make that decision for themselves yet” from my mom thousands of times. What’s worse about it is that every time she says that, she turns around and says that she’s not trying to invalidate me. That’s literally exactly what you’re saying is that I’m not ready to make this decision for myself. Nope. Gender dysphoria kicking me in the a** for 6 years now doesn’t make me able to make the decision to go with the solution I found after 2 years that actually works (mostly, though I have yet to try body modification or binding, so that might end up helping more).

With the whole 2% statistic, it reminds me of something. Teachers in schools used to forbid children from writing with their left hands, and even discipline them for doing so. It’s hard to be accurate, but it’s estimated that about 1% of children in that time period were left-handed. Once that practice stopped, the rate began to increase. It is estimated that 10% of people are left-handed today. Gosh, I wonder if the increased support of the LGBTQ community has anything to do with an increase of children and teens being educated about gender identity who feel safe and accepted enough to come out. /s

I love how one of the scares they tried to list was “infertility” and I bet that a bunch of tokophobes like myself just leaned back in their seats and went “you tried. And you failed”.

It’s not only teenagers that are finding out they can transition, some are finding out in their 40s thanks to social media! Thanks! 😊

I just woke up. I went into youtube, saw a picture of you on the thumbnail and freaked out bc I slept in my binder accidentally

Can we appreciate that the "friend's suggestion" is coming from a character of ambiguous gender, with unnatural colored hair, and facial piercings? I just love stereotyping and "subtle" visuals that demonize people that are "different". 😠

When I came out as enby to my mom, she basically said “no you’re not” then sent me to a therapist to be told that I’m not valid and that enby people don’t exist (edit: so apparently a lot of people are confused, my therapist is the one who told me that enbies don’t exist, not my mom (shes supportive of enbies?? but still refuses to believe that I am one??)) (edit 2: I’m going by he/they now haha, now I’m even more scared)

just wanna say: your voice is so calming and it just makes me relax even when a video is about horrible anti-lgbt people lol.

Dude, if peer pressure could make someone trans, there would be no trans people! People who supported me being trans during my school years: -3 online friends max. People who opposed me being trans: -3 bullies that targeted me for god knows what reasons every day -a dozen of teachers who didn't support or at least didn't understand me being trans -my parents, who threatened me for wearing makeup And man, I wish I could get hormones or surgery "without even a doctors note". Three years therapy and not even hormone blockers are anywhere in sight! How about we focus our efforts on fixing actual issues? For example, most people in my class had alcohol and some even drugs by their 16's. I will forever remember this one thing I overheard one of my bullies say: "When I grow up, I want to try all sorts of drugs. Meth, pills, coke, I wanna try them all". But yeah, me not getting uncomfortable just from every mention of me is the issue, sure.

I tried explaining that I am non-binary to my 8 year old sister and she was like wait wait wait.. you people can turn invisible?!?! She thought I said translucent not transgender 😆

I got outed as trans. It’s definitely not a “quick fix” with parents like that let me tell you

Can people not be transphobic for 5 minutes??? 💀💀💀

"The most loving thing you can do is to ignore your kid's needs and feelings completely." .... thank you for this valuable lesson... -.- *facepalm*

trans people talking to children: "i'm a boy born in a girls body" kids: "oh that's cool! i think im a girl in a girls body" no confusion whatsoever. teach kids about gender so that they don't suffer.

This woman gives me severe anxiety, and whenever Jamie comes on screen, he calms me.

It's always amazing how you can scrape and ad like this off of the bottom of your shoe and then come up with a hopeful, positive and educational response. Thank you for making the world a better place. You are awesome.

“Irreversible Damage” sounds like it should be the title of her biography

I am a cis girl who has consumed hours upon hours of content made by trans creators, has multiple trans friends, and has done lots of research on trans individuals and look, I’m still cis, I just disproved Pr🅰️gerU’s entire argument 😂 2022 update: this aged very poorly 😅

They're always talking about us but they won't even do proper research.

As a demigirl who's danced around the transgender side of youtube, I've never had the desire to transition. Even though I watch a lot of transgender (FTM & MTF) KZfaqrs.

Social Media isn't perfect and all that, but tbh I feel sad, ugly and alone irl more than I do online lmao

She did not seriously suggest that people treat their children like prisoners to keep them from transitioning. "Limit their exposure" no honey, that's gonna cause more problems when the kid gets upset because of all the pointless rules in the house.

As a transgender boy, I was put into therapy because of other reasons, a year later I came out to my mum, she wasn't that supportive, then a few months later, I came out to my dad, he was hella supportive, but within those few months my mum learned more and grew to really supportive. and now I got my first binder last week and most of my mum's family knows. Just thought I should share some good news! (and my therapist is a literal queen tho, she was the reason I came out to dad) Edit: I have finally looked back on this old comment. A lot of things of changed sadly, I now use They/Them, My mom is still supportive as always but my dad isn't so much. Also thank you to everyone so much! Thank you for 700 likes, like wow-

I'm a cis straight person and this lady is driving me insane. My best friend came out to me as gender fluid(she/they) and they think these people are ridiculous. She also said the reason trans/gender fluid people sometimes hang out is because they either like the same things or they can relate to each other. So the whole "they get influenced by others" is dumb

When I was 12, my younger sister and I saw an interview with Caroline Cossey, the trans woman who had recently been outed by the Sun after appearing in a Bond film. She had also done a number of print ads for Smirnoff vodka (most famous probably being one showing her waterskiing in a bikini being towed by the Loch Ness Monster) among a variety of other modelling and presenting job. This was the first time we’d really come across a trans person talking about being trans. For months after that my sister pestered me to transition, she would prefer an older sister than older brother, I think it was the idea of an expanded wardrobe to raid. Surely if the claims of peer pressure leading to rapid onset gender dysphoria were true then months of sustained pressure would mean I would have transitioned by now? I haven’t transitioned, it’s been nearly 40 years.