Why I'm a vegan CHEF

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13 күн бұрын

Why I’m a vegan chef has everything to do with practicing compassion.
I could maybe teach cooking and plant based specific cooking because it’s all I know.
I can talk about my experience of loss and journey through multitudes of grief, but only from my experience.
I can share my creative process, routines, and methods in the kitchen because i do them everyday.
This doesn’t make me the best chef in the world, but it does allow me to be the master of my meals.
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@TheBurpGirl 11 күн бұрын

One day I was speaking with a woman who lost her son to brain cancer. I asked her, what is something I can say to someone who is going through grief instead of saying “sorry for your loss” and she said “ I want people to ask what he was like, People always thing I don’t want to talk about him but I love talking about him” Now, each time I ask someone “What was their name and what kinds of things were they interested in?” It’s been amazing. People light up and share about their loved ones. “ He loved to fish” “She loved to grow giant pumpkin’s!” Maybe more of us can try this.

@lauratempestini5719 10 күн бұрын

Thank you for this Very good advice! I’ll take it!!!

@StarTraveler7 8 күн бұрын

Beautiful! As an ex Hospice Nurse and full time caregiver I became so overwhelmed by death and dying it's taken me 8 years to get on the other side of trying to find my own life. My mom died suddenly while scuba diving her 1st dive after training. It was a very stormy time in my life and now my five kids are grown it's time for me. I've found magical wonderful new ways but the more I press into the light I guess I'm at that all the moths are responding time frame of pushing thru to higher dimensions. Right now I stayed in bed all day yesterday to process a family gathering misunderstanding s yup about me... I'm sick of the stigma of grief when people even ones in the mental health care are so knowledgeable they don't really see it hear either. It made me very sad to realize they really don't get IT or ME & IT JUST MADE ME SAD TO REALIZE THEIR NIT MY TRIBE RIGHT NOW. We've been thru alot and you love your kids & want to be around them. It's hard to think of stepping away a bit.. I need to be with people who are accepting that my path doesn't have to look like they think it should. I never fit that mold anyway. Just kinda sad😢

@lathakk4711 8 күн бұрын

Healing. Will keep this in my thoughts what you said It's been 5 years since my Mother left. The tears never stop but now I can smile through my tears.

@CJoyArt 6 күн бұрын

In the last couple of years I have been asking "What was your favorite thing about them?"

@JF-se5ef 5 күн бұрын

I also experience deep grief. It never really leaves you, but you learn to live with it. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and your motivations. For me it is food for tnought.

@dee4435 11 күн бұрын

Please do not underestimate the compassionate energy you bring to the world. Your connection to Amanda's spirit is beautiful and vibrant.

@jaithevegan 11 күн бұрын

So beautifully stated ❤

@karryd62 11 күн бұрын

Beautifully said and so true! ❤

@VEGGIEIB 9 күн бұрын

Wow! Thankyou Derek for Sharing. Frankie is so beautiful and loved!

@user-vb6cx1vh8u 8 күн бұрын

Lovely comment.❤

@timwalsh7186 11 күн бұрын

Nothing needs to suffer or die for me to lead a happy successful life.....a great sentiment.

@tamiddlemas 11 күн бұрын

You’re changing the world one person at a time by speaking about this. I just quit a 30 year career in Tech to become a certified End of Life Doula to help normalize death, and embrace talking about loss openly. No one should have to be alone in their grief because the people in their lives don’t know how to support them (no judgement - it’s endemic in our society). You are a beautiful soul, Derek. Thank you for this video. It’s my favorite to date. ❤

@sharonb537 11 күн бұрын

Congratulations on hopefully a very gratifying transition out of binary 0s and 1s.

@TheNovemberRose 9 күн бұрын

❤

@TheNovemberRose 9 күн бұрын

❤@@sharonb537

@michelegangaware5250 6 күн бұрын

How are you feeling about being a doula? I did an introductory session, I feel it calling to me in some ways but not sure.

@karensimon876 11 күн бұрын

Lost my partner 11 years ago in a car accident, also not his fault. I chose to forgive the other driver and I found peace.

@lynnemanning9553 11 күн бұрын

💟💟💟 Very wise person...

@pdblouin 11 күн бұрын

I wish I could live somewhere without traffic violence but the entire planet is infested with cars.

@LoveYourself-my9nz 4 күн бұрын

You don't need to forgive the driver to live in peace. Being overkind to wrong people only increase the crimes. Just remember that you didn't do it and your partner must had wanted you to live your life happily. You can feel sad time to time because it's natural but don't let it to overpower your whole life.

@eileenoreilly1979 11 күн бұрын

An Irish prayer that helps me when I am missing those I love on the other side "Death is nothing at all I have only slipped away to the next room- I am I, and you are you. Whatever we were to each other, That, we still are" I believe with all my being they are still with us. Guiding. Watching. Protecting.

@sn232 9 күн бұрын

That is beautifully true

@kilodeltawhisky1504 7 күн бұрын

They are with Jesus! There is no greater love and joy.

@esthermitchell7131 6 күн бұрын

Beautiful prayer thank you for sharing 🙏

@mgeeees460 Күн бұрын

Amen

@tree3po 11 күн бұрын

Brother, I can tell your Frankie is a savior to you. She is a gift from above.

@nizahe2731 9 күн бұрын

Why are you people saying things like that, I don't get it... there is no "above".

@tree3po 9 күн бұрын

@@nizahe2731 It's a state of mind, bud. Please feel free to move along if you don't want to believe that, it's not up for debate.

@CATSFOREVER308 9 күн бұрын

@@nizahe2731How do you know?Stop telling others what to believe,you are entitled to your belief,have the courtesy and decency to let others have theirs and it's irritating when negative nelly s like you come here and spoil it for the rest of us.

@terredee 8 күн бұрын

@@CATSFOREVER308 I had a near death experience when I was eight yo. My first realization was that I was above the scene (about 10 feet up), my body laying on the ground and surrounded by worried friends and family (all kids around my age). Me wondering how I could see without eyeballs. Seriously! That was my first thought up there. Hovering above is very common in NDEs. If you read more you’ll see that, when returned to the body after the literally wonderful experience* people often tell witnesses what they said and did, and the listeners are shocked because they are correct (because it actually happened). This includes many people who had flatlined in hospital. In my case, they were mad at me because they thought I faked laying there and not breathing for several minutes. *All NDEs have commonalities, like the hovering, but the heart of the experience is different for most. In my case, I traveled around a planet in a stream of souls that looked like points of light, then ended up in an oak tree who could feel all the life in branches, bark and and roots. I was that oak tree. It’s no wonder people named the other side Heaven, Jannah, Shamayim, etc. and built marvelous myths around it.

@terredee 8 күн бұрын

@@nizahe2731 I had a near death experience when I was eight yo. My first realization was that I was above the scene (about 10 feet up), my body laying on the ground and surrounded by worried friends and family (all kids around my age). Me wondering how I could see without eyeballs. Seriously! That was my first thought up there. Hovering above is very common in NDEs. If you read more you’ll see that, when returned to the body after the literally wonderful experience* people often tell witnesses what they said and did, and the listeners are shocked because they are correct (because it actually happened). This includes many people who had flatlined in hospital. In my case, they were mad at me because they thought I faked laying there and not breathing for several minutes. *All NDEs have commonalities, like the hovering, but the heart of the experience is different for most. In my case, I traveled around a planet in a stream of souls that looked like points of light, then ended up in an oak tree who could feel all the life in branches, bark and and roots. I was that oak tree. It’s no wonder people named the other side Heaven, Jannah, Shamayim, etc. and built marvelous myths around it.

@lstevie7 11 күн бұрын

Thanks for sharing this powerful, albeit painful story. This honors her. May her memory be forever for a blessing.❤

@dianafalletta2635 11 күн бұрын

Ok Yuu want to know the truth extreme doesn’t work

@LeighChism 11 күн бұрын

When I received the alert that you had posted this video, I was sitting in the dark and crying after having received my final divorce papers. My heart immediately went to you and your struggle. The strength you developed on your journey is inspiring. Thank you for the perspective. 💚

@barbarar.7665 11 күн бұрын

I am so sorry. Praying for you. I know how difficult that is. Blessings and hugs

@barbiec4312 11 күн бұрын

So sorry. ❤

@sandrae5609 11 күн бұрын

From experience, you too will find your strength. A good friend gave me this advice: you must do something for yourself to help you move forward. What have you always wanted to learn or accomplished. Once you take that step, a whole new world will open itself to you.

@leisurelyuplift1399 10 күн бұрын

Namo Amituofo. Good blessings to U. May U be well and happy.

@kilodeltawhisky1504 7 күн бұрын

Divorce is literally ripping what has become one, in two. Divorce has been destroying lives for decades. Not just the married, but their children feel and live this destruction. I'm so sorry my dear! Jesus Christ was the only one to mend my heart, heal it, return it to whole and able to feel joy. He was my LAST hope. He did not disappoint, and I live in amazement of His Grace. I MUST SHARE because nothing else comes close to the love of God. May God bless you.

@jeremyhorne81 11 күн бұрын

May all beings have happiness and the causes of happiness. May all beings be free from suffering and the causes of suffering. May all beings rejoice in the well-being of others. May all beings live in peace, free from greed and hatred.

@GordonPavilion 11 күн бұрын

❤

@MichellePatterson-fx6iw Күн бұрын

Yes!

@christineschonmayr5954 11 күн бұрын

I am so grateful for you making this video! As a doctor who works in oncology I often have to deal with people loosing their loved ones. Sadly our culture has los many of the rituals and wisdom of dealing with death. Many people think they just have to get on with life and lose themselves in the process. You are such a strong person, dealing with the loss of Amanda and turning towards love and compassion instead of cynicism and bitterness. Please know that you are one truly precious human being who teaches so many of us how to show compassion!!

@marisahernandez4257 11 күн бұрын

This is a beautiful tribute to Amanda.

@kellbell60 11 күн бұрын

Sorry for your loss. Love how you’ve turned grief into compassion for all living things. Thank you for sharing how Amanda lives on through your work.

@linzertube 11 күн бұрын

Amanda made a big difference in your life, while she lived and when she passed. What a life to honour. Thank you for sharing your life with Amanda, as well as, your experience with dealing with tragic loss. This was lovely, Derek. I’m so glad you have Frankie…she is a little love bug.❤❤❤

@tubaphantom 11 күн бұрын

Nearly four years ago, my husband and I lost our 24-year-old daughter to her self-negating mental illness. By telling your story of loss and grief you've provided help with healing for many, including me. My husband doesn't talk much about losing our girl, but I talk all the time. He digs into the dirt and has created beautiful gardens around our home. Reminds me of you preparing food. I strongly believe that, in healing, we may discover who we were meant to be. I am counting on that and I firmly believe that the love we have for our lost ones grows and grows over time. It is a blessing. The love just IS. Thank you.

@speckledpup617 11 күн бұрын

I lost my husband 2 years ago. So very hard. I am learning how to move forward WITH him instead of moving on. He is always a part of me.

@silvsilvsilv 11 күн бұрын

"Nobody asked me how I felt *_about it._* " I lost my dad when I was 16, and my mom when I was 32, and this little phrase made me reflect a lot. Plenty of people will ask you how you feel, but nobody asks how you feel specifically about that loss.

@Truologye 9 күн бұрын

People don't know asking questions help us heal our souls❤

@Brockstar 11 күн бұрын

I can't imagine how difficult it must've been to make this video. The fact you decided to share this with your audience exemplifies your compassion and desire to help others, whether it be through delicious, non-harmful recipes, or sharing life experiences. Thank you Derek! ☮️

@user-ch3co1rv3e 9 күн бұрын

Non harmful how? If you care about animal lives then you surely would be concerned about the pesticides that kill animals who try to eat the plants. No such thing as harmless 😂.

@fairwearth690 8 күн бұрын

@@user-ch3co1rv3e Unless you grow your own organic vegetables.

@marcianapolitano7375 11 күн бұрын

I've been following your videos for a few months now, but this one stopped me in my tracks. 26 years ago, at the tender age of 2, my son KNEW that eating animal products was just wrong. He lived virtually meat free and was way ahead of his time. He was taken from me 6 years ago and every single one of your words resonates with me... From dealing with friends to dealing with the self.... it's HARD. Finding that purpose and reason to get out of bed every day is so important. I send you all the white light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing with all of us, Derek 💜

@lillybrooks7662 11 күн бұрын

I’m so terribly sorry for your unthinkable loss… sending you so much love…

@craftlover9702 11 күн бұрын

Very sorry for your loss....

@SovrinWealth 11 күн бұрын

Wow - that's some sucker punch....

@Deb_BG 9 күн бұрын

I'm so sorry for your loss.

@Truologye 9 күн бұрын

The suffering is never ending. Finding new ways to support our hearts is crucial to not just survival but thriving in the face of the worst pain we ever know. Bless you and your family. Your son is blessed for his beautifully crafted family❤

@LLJerseyGirl 11 күн бұрын

The tears fell for this video. It’s 18 months since my love ended his life. When I met him 12 years ago, I knew he wouldn’t be around long…deep in my being, it sounds crazy. I did everything I could to help him and it wasn’t enough. I was sending texts and being all normal rambling on and he was already gone. 😢 I lost my mom 17 years ago…just 4 days after she was diagnosed with ovarian cancer. Again, I knew long before and couldn’t get her physicians to listen and she refused second opinions because she didn’t want to offend them. 💔 Thank you for all you do, Derek. You definitely add value and enhance my passion for cooking. Your continued vulnerability and love for all is an inspiration. I wanted to become a death doula because I want the stigma around death and grief to be broken…maybe one day. It’s conversations like your video that will continue to reach those that need it. Much love to you and Frankie. “Grief is just love with no where to go.”

@tereclemmer7923 11 күн бұрын

This was one of the most beautiful videos I have ever seen. It honors you and your loved one. Thank you for sharing.

@MotionFriend 11 күн бұрын

I love you Derek. What you share with plant foods is helping me tremendously. Thank you for existing with such grace and compassion.

@anisoto248 11 күн бұрын

Dearest Derek, wow, tears shedding here. I just only found you a few days ago, loving your style and food, amazing flavors, prescribed and purchased your book. I felt something was missing and sadness you held deep in your heart, now , I see the missing puzzle piece , your jewel , Amanda. My heart deeply goes out to you , so beautiful the way you love her. I love that you looked into her book and saw the meaning, the peace in your yard and Francesca who keep you company, your energy you put into cooking and giving us your precious gift, Thank YOU , 🙏🏻

@eileencorcoran127 11 күн бұрын

You are beautiful Derek. Through my losses…I have discovered that if you truly love another…you will be OK. You will be OK…because love can never die. Keep loving Amanda and you will sprinkle her beauty throughout every moment of your wonderful life. I now know why your food is so beautiful.

@artemisiaby 11 күн бұрын

What you put into your recipes is the beauty of your soul.

@tracyoconnell1317 11 күн бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story. I am also grieving and I recently stopped drinking because I need to sit in my emotions and just feel it all. I think our busy lives have everyone numb and mindless which makes it all so much harder but everyday it’s worth it. July is also my more sensitive month. I will be thinking of you and your love for Amanda. Thanks for all you do and share with us!❤❤

@Jessie-ev2th 11 күн бұрын

Was 15 years in June. Sometimes I think there's something wrong with me as it feels all other people are able to move on. Thank you for acknowledging that it is normal. And people grief differently. Also being single ever since. No one can measure up to him.

@craigleadley2472 11 күн бұрын

I knew nothing about your story. Thank you for sharing this beautiful video which moved me to tears.

@manasigadgil8525 10 күн бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story, Derek. I'm a 23-year-old woman and you've inspired me to eat better and be more compassionate 💗 Hope you know that you're carrying on Amanda's legacy by inspiring millions of us to be more empathetic. The world needs more people like you :)

@normawingo5116 11 күн бұрын

Thank you Derek, my beloved husband lost his 11 year battle with pancreatic cancer 2 years ago. It is so overwhelming. You said several things that gave me a new perspective. I’m probably going to watch this a few more times. If nothing else death does make us feel everything.

@VeganSquirrel 11 күн бұрын

I lost my partner a little over a year ago. Your story is truly inspiring. Thank you for sharing your gift and baring your soul. 🙏❤

@EvelynBaron 11 күн бұрын

I have a similar story. I launched into a retelling and then thought it's obvious others share that deep feeling. Tx for your comment. Derek a good man indeed.

@kair7369 11 күн бұрын

She would be proud of what you have accomplished and the messages & cooking you share with the world.

@TenguMonk 11 күн бұрын

I want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart. I lost my little girl in 2014. I'm still in the throws of her death. This connects with me on such a profound level. I can't thank you enough.

@PacifierMusic 11 күн бұрын

Your history is devastating and beautiful. What an incredible journey to reach the point where you discovered every living thing is precious. Thank you

@denisewallace48 11 күн бұрын

Thanks for sharing. My husband of 9 years passed away unexpectedly in April. The language of grief and death is not part of the American vocabulary. So it’s hard for people to understand if they haven’t experienced it.

@awanderingdream2093 11 күн бұрын

The man that changed my life, rocked my world, made me be a better person and who finally helped me feel like I belonged somewhere on this path went to work and never came home. He went Home. I had to make the decision to remove life support and this September its 3 yrs. My whole world crashed and burned. So much instability followed that crushing. I truly believe it was his soul’s journey and mine to experience it. I am coming out of the fog now and I hear his voice urging me to not only live but to thrive! To me the lesson is not the loss, the lesson is that we loved each unconditionally and accepted each other as we were. He gave me the gift of helping him transition Home. It wasn’t about my journey at the time, it never is. It was about his journey. Its always about those departing this path’s journey. I am stronger. I am courageous. He is my messenger and showed me a new way of life. A life full of service, compassion, and not ‘I’ll do it someday. I’ll be happy when…’ my happiness is NOW. Be in the NOW. LOVE IN THE NOW. Its for certain all we have. Embrace it. Thanks for listening. Derek, sending you and anyone reading this love✌🏻

@Terika- 11 күн бұрын

Derek , thank you for showing your authentic side through your vulnerability in this video . May Peace be with you ✨️ 🙏 ❤

@TheShadowMan. 11 күн бұрын

I deeply miss all of my dogs that have passed on. Truly grieve for them, talk to them, and keep their ashes.

@mizzounyc 11 күн бұрын

Damn....what a beautiful tribute to Amanda. Thank you, for sharing your love for her and also your journey to healing. I send hugs to you.

@spike6036 11 күн бұрын

Thank you for sharing such a deeply personal and painful story. It was meaningful to hear. 🙏🙏🙏

@FullyRawKristina 6 күн бұрын

You are amazing my friend. This was so brave of you to share. Thank you for all that you share with the world. 🙏🏽

@lindacarol122 11 күн бұрын

Wow, thank you for this video, Derek. I appreciate your vulnerability and authenticity - both of which are difficult to cultivate in our current times. I adopted a vegan lifestyle over 20 years ago for ethical reasons and I love your channel and recipes - thank you again...hug Frankie. ❤

@davidtrevino9473 11 күн бұрын

You are an inspiration Derek. Thank you for sharing this video 🙏

@louisea966 11 күн бұрын

love, hugs and peace to you Derek

@mybizzykitchen 11 күн бұрын

I had to remember after my husband died almost 10 years ago that life is for the living. I had to let go of our dreams of us buying a lake house in Wisconsin. He would fish, I would cook the fish, I wouldn't eat the fish. 😂 I think he would be proud of the life I created after he left though - and that brings me joy. Sending hugs to you during this difficult month.

@MrChecknate 11 күн бұрын

God bless you, my friend 🙏. You might not see it, but your passion for the changes made in your life has affected a group of folks. You can tell that Amanda's spirit moves on through you. Many blessings.

@jenniferhopetinker4783 11 күн бұрын

Thank you for sharing. Grief ebbs and flows and healing isn’t linear. Your presence and vulnerability is a gift to others. Sending you so much compassion. 🙏

@Christy_D 11 күн бұрын

I lost my amazing husband to cancer in 2011. He was 52. Amazingly HE was my strength not the other way around. It has been a tough road since ( but with lots of animals) and i so appreciate your commentary about grief!

@myjewelry4u 11 күн бұрын

I watched this video with my hand over my mouth. My husband and I divorced after 25 years and raising a family. We always wanted to be friends again, we didn’t have that chance.

@dianeleirer9878 11 күн бұрын

“You are not your thoughts.” Thank you for that reminder and for sharing your feelings. I personally feel the emotion of grief is by far the hardest-there’s no road map.💚

@sanditurner8387 11 күн бұрын

This was absolutely beautiful! We all suffer from something in life, a loss, abuse etc you have showed us that we can go on. Thank you for sharing Amanda with us. Blessings to you and Frankie.

@kfitz192 11 күн бұрын

I am so so sorry for your loss. My hubby died almost 10 years ago from cancer. I miss him everyday. For me, the best way to honor the dead, is by living a rich, beautiful life filled with love and laughter. Being happy doing the things you love and having compassion for all living beings. I'd love it if talking about death was more normalized. I'm so glad you shared today. It was beautiful. You are brave. Sending love and light.🕯️🕯️🕯️

@markrohit 11 күн бұрын

I admire your love and commitment to Amanda. I admire your willingness to change and become your best at helping and serving others. This was a raw, soul-bearing video, but it was worth the struggle to put it out. What are we all here for if not to show who we are deep inside and embrace one another with the deepest respect and empathy? God bless you, Derek! You have touched many lives and are fulfilling your life's mission!

@Hobanne 11 күн бұрын

May you find peace and grace. Amanda's legacy is apparent in all you say and do, you honor her well.

@tessobrien8364 11 күн бұрын

Im so sorry for your loss... I completely understand... My husband took himself off the planet 30 yrs ago im still struggling 😢

@LivelyLibrarian 11 күн бұрын

Thank you for sharing her memory with us, and your journey.

@KayWg 10 күн бұрын

“Grief is an opportunity to find Meaning in life. A lesson about compassion.” Thank you for sharing with us 🙏🏻💚

@genxvoice342 11 күн бұрын

Beautiful. 🙏🏼 thank you. Sending you 10,000 blessings (and 10k blessings for Frankie, too)

@grand-merev.1104 11 күн бұрын

Since becoming plant based 14 years ago my cooking style has evolved. I cook for myself and others every day. My internal mantra is “I serve”. Meditation has also assisted on my journey in unimaginable ways. Thanks to you and your generous time and incredible recipes. I’ve been able to cook outside the box, I mean, they are wow! You are a tofu genius!! Also. Thank you so much for opening your heart and sharing your love, and grief Derek.

@dmckenzie9281 11 күн бұрын

Wow! Thank you for everything that you do. You do make a difference. I am sorry for the loss of your partner and the grief that you have experienced. Much love and respect.

@TheMarkRich 11 күн бұрын

Loss is hard. I have lost much and many and it's never something previous experiences help with. I feel your pain. I'm not your acquaintance. I don't know you beyond the videos but please accept my hugs and thank you for the food suggestions and there is a community of people here who care.

@summerStill 11 күн бұрын

I am so sorry for your loss. I have lost many family members. Grief is hard to explain. I haven't had any foods that harm animals or use chemicals that harm the earth in 30 years. I try to save animals daily that need help. You have been an inspiration & helped me upgrade my cooking. Thank you for being who you are.

@galebecker3487 11 күн бұрын

Derek, my heart feels bruised, hearing about Amanda. Time does heal the wounds, but the scars always remain. So to look at the scars and trace their story with love and light, the journey will continue as you live your life with compassion and caring. ❤. Dearest Frankie, with a heart and spirit of pure gold will be by your side to help you along your daily life. I'm so grateful to have found your channel and you light up my day with your chats, recipes and gentle way with a hint of chilli. Take care and hugs to Frankie with her golden eyes. Gale x

@kerryjordan2525 11 күн бұрын

I had wondered how you came to be you. Thank you for sharing your beautiful story of Amanda, her passing and your own life now dedicated to harming no-body. We are all earth beings, deserving to live full lives.

@RashomiSilva 11 күн бұрын

I am so sorry to hear about your loss, Amanda was a beautiful human being both inside and out. I clicked on this video, thinking it would be another recipe video, but this was.. I don't have words to describe this, This is a sad but beautiful story, about love, compassion, redemption, and self-discovery, I don't know what to say except that I wish you and Frankie good health and happiness.

@Psysium 11 күн бұрын

Grief followed me for 11 years and I couldn't figure it out. It occupied half of all my thoughts every single day. I figured I should be over it after a decade and was too embarrassed to bring it up. It wasn't until last month when I told a friend it was the anniversary of her leaving and that it hit especially hard. He asked if memories were intrusive and I said yes. And he told me, amongst other things, that I could be experiencing trauma. Chronic grief is a trauma. Just naming the thing that had been haunting me for years, allowing it to be seen, having it also validated by my therapist, allowed me to let it go. Things I knew in my heart-of-hearts clicked into place after that. The grief no longer feels like a burden, but a visitation - a bird instead of an iron anchor. I think I needed to learn a lot of lessons to get to this point, I had to build the bridge before I could walk across it. Years of therapy, lots of journaling and reading and introspection. Everybody's bridges are different, and everyone grieves differently. Thank you for sharing your grief, Derek. It allows us to love you more.

@clairrook9854 11 күн бұрын

This is beautiful 🫶 Love and light to you xxx

@planthungry 11 күн бұрын

Thank you for sharing this. Grief is hard. I'm thankful you are here to share your recipes and your wisdom, Derek.

@christinedegrazio7730 11 күн бұрын

Thank you. My life is richer for having listened to your story.

@laurawinger4339 11 күн бұрын

Your words are so beautiful and moved me to tear up a bit. Amanda sounds like an amazing human. Thank you for sharing her, and your story. Peace and light to you and Miss Frankie.

@baypony50 11 күн бұрын

Derek, much love and peace to you at this time. Your loss of Amanda and how you honor her is beautiful. Her spirit will be with you always. Your journey of healing has also changed thousands of lives and how we can eat compassionately and deliciously. Thank you, and take good care.🙏🌟

@beverlyperry663 11 күн бұрын

So very sorry for your loss. Thank you for showing us what compassion really looks like and honoring your Fiance. God bless you!

@cathyphegley7848 11 күн бұрын

Thank you for your testimony. We all need to hear and share each other’s pain. To have compassion for each other’s struggles. Losing someone…..a lover, a mother, a father, a child……an animal ( losing my Sophie brought me to my knees in agony)….cuts through all the other bullshit and reduces us down to our basic humanity. You inspire and delight me. 🙏

@Erin_Wilson_Studios 11 күн бұрын

Holding you in the light. Us too.

@colsylvester639 11 күн бұрын

Thank you for sharing the light in your life that is Amanda, even when things feel dark.

@sundancita 11 күн бұрын

Thank you for opening up and sharing your grief and your love for Amanda. I am so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you. Thank you for sharing how you cope with grief and how she continues to inform your life and path.

@jaithevegan 11 күн бұрын

Such a beautiful honor to your dear Amanda. I am so grateful for your generosity and understand why Frankie is so important to you. All beings deserve love, honor, and a good life. Sending compassion to your heart.

@Ag45727 11 күн бұрын

The last few days I’ve been recovering from surgery and binge watching your content. I love your world outlook and calm/loving spirit. Thank you for making this video. This was obviously difficult for you, but please know that you are touching all of our hearts with your positive impact and we appreciate you ❤

@ymb6987 11 күн бұрын

Derek, thank you for sharing your story of loss and how you honor Amanda. Grateful for you and all the good you put out into the world!

@irishthumb 11 күн бұрын

You not only share your soul with your talents and gifts, but share Amanda’s soul with us, as well. We are grateful for you.

@fcdl5688 11 күн бұрын

Thank you. The hardest part of life can be realising that we can no longer be with our loved ones, for many reasons. It can spiral us down to the path of pain and loss, but stories like this always give me hope because I am estranged from my loved one who is still around in the world but nothing I could do could fix things. So I always just thank the Universe for keeping them safe wherever they are and carry on with my own life. It has been peaceful to accept I can love from a place of surrender and simply want the best for those I love, be it my family, friends or anyone else, instead of trying to control their way of being with my ego.

@createwithbarbbl4125 11 күн бұрын

Thank you Derek for this lovely tribute to Amanda. Being vegan has lost me 'friends' and I have been abused for it too, but when something is right, and you feel the pain of all living creatures, it's the only way to go. Francesca soaks up a lot of love, what a dear sweet doggo she is.

@ajharl562 8 күн бұрын

Plants cry too

@jcoterhals 11 күн бұрын

Beautifully said, Derek. I lost my father a few months ago, and he was an old man - not like your loss. Still, your words hit me hard. Much love to both you and Frankie.

@maryleary3308 11 күн бұрын

Thank you for sharing. You are a beautiful person.

@KandyLovesGreen 11 күн бұрын

Thank you for being so open! Your story brought tears to my eye as it reminded me of my past pain that brought me to my own self awakening. We need to acknowledge our feelings but not let them take control. The beautiful Amanda is so proud of you and is watching over you always to get you through the hard times. Big hugs to you and the beautiful Miss Frankie! 💚

@ArrowheadGarage 11 күн бұрын

Derek, I feel for your loss. Your videos have inspired me in my kitchen! Thank you for sharing!

@rebelvgan4579 11 күн бұрын

That was beautiful Derek. It takes a very brave person to face these things and show the rest of us your true feelings. I completely empathize as I have walked that lonely path of grief myself. I am glad you are with us, sharing your wonderful food and love of all sentient beings. Big kiss to Ms Frankie too 🥲❤🙏

@Mee-mi 11 күн бұрын

My love for you grows with every video you make. You truly are an amazing human being.Thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing your heart.❤❤❤

@growingplaces 11 күн бұрын

When I was 28 I lost my love to a car accident as well. Yes, grief is individual. I love how you have chosen to live your life. Thank you so much for sharing it with me. I'm so grateful.

@tamcon72 11 күн бұрын

I've lost a lot of loved ones. My heart goes out to you, and also my great respect for finding your own unique means of pressing on in this physical realm as a different person from who you planned to be. I wish you peace at this time, and thank you for posting, Derek.

@ellenwhidbey 11 күн бұрын

I’m confident you will walk down that isle together, in heaven, when you join her there. Much love and peace to you….and Frankie.

@JG-ll5pg 11 күн бұрын

The amount of grief we have felt shows the amount of love we have for that person.

@1204kapi 11 күн бұрын

You give such hope and example of what it is to take care of your heart, no matter the depth of pain it has experienced. It's a gift. Thanks brother 🙏

@liz2969 11 күн бұрын

It’s so beautiful how you honor her memory. It does feel lonely even though you have family there for you. You lose part of your identity. That is how I have felt since my mom’s passing. Thank you for sharing something so personal and for all that you share with us.

@lino629 11 күн бұрын

I think Amanda would be pleased that your grief of her brought you to being who you are today. Maybe that was her purpose. Its a treasured gift. May I say, you look so much better--healthier, younger, brighter--than you did before. Everything will be ok, even when its not at a moment.

@susankara7520 10 күн бұрын

I was hesitant to post the same sentiment as it might be interpreted incorrectly. Possibly Amanda gave her life so that Derek would become a true authentic self. She saw he wasn't happy and created a path for him to find his true self. Certainly a selfless person she was. ❤❤❤

@isabellegrenier194 11 күн бұрын

I lost my 16 year old daughter 18 years ago and even though I grieved her, I can’t get to the core of my grief. I tried therapy but didn’t find a therapist that could bring me there and make me feel safe doing so. I have put a wall around me to protect my heart and have become hyperactive, finding it hard to stop doing for fear of feeling what’s inside of me. As I’m writing this, the tears are flowing, so, I know what I’m saying is real and at the surface. Visiting a monestary is something I want to do in the coming years when I retire. Hoping this will help me release the pain and find peace. Thanks for sharing. I really enjoy your videos and recipes.

@TaylorWilliamMillar 11 күн бұрын

Derek, you are such an inspiration in so many ways. Thank you so much for sharing your story and your food with the world.

@merryworld4776 11 күн бұрын

🌿🌷🌿 Derek, Thank you for sharing your heart.. I am thousands of miles away, yet, I feel your sentiment. ❤ My Mother is 102 years of age.. I shared with my younger sister that I have been missing her for several years..as she is not the same person (mentally or physically) we knew growing up. She was an artist, chef, seamstress, banker, peacekeeper, pet wrangler, chauffeur, housekeeper, social networker, comedian, singer, personal shopper for 6, teacher, dancer, family provider..and more... all rolled into one person. 🌻We appreciate & love her dearly & realize we are grieving her even though she is alive & right down the hallway. 🌻Thank you for reminding us that loss & grieving need to be included in the conversations about life & living. 🍀🌹🍀 ..Best Wishes to All.

@jeanmorris6601 11 күн бұрын

Thank you for sharing, grief never goes away. My husband died aged 42, in 2001, and nearly 23 years later I’m still so sad about his passing. I cry in the shower for him every day… 💚🌱

@clairrook9854 11 күн бұрын

Oh Jean, your comment has me in tears….love to you, lots and lots of love ❤️❤️❤️

@susannguyen1194 10 күн бұрын

Sending so much love your way you Jean💛💛I hope you have a beautiful day today and every day💜💜