*TIMESTAMPS* Question 1 (1:13) I was wondering if a therapist would know if their patient isn't feeling that great or something's bothering them or their anxiety is a bit high? ... Question 2 (11:24) Are therapists faking themselves in sessions? ... Question 3 (25:12) Can you please talk about why it's physically so hard to talk about trauma? ... Question 4 (30:06) Can you talk about chronic loneliness and what it is? ... Question 5 (39:31) I was wondering what inspired you to become a therapist? ... Question 6 (47:07) I'm always so distracted by what my therapist is typing or writing when I'm speaking ... Question 7 (56:56) Do you have any tips on how to force yourself to do the work? ... Question 8 (1:02:16) There have been a few times my therapist has overstepped in our relationship but instead of bringing these things up with her ... Question 9 (1:10:51) Is it possible to dissociate for extended periods? ... Question 10 (1:14:56) Can mental illnesses ever be a choice? ...

Hello everyone :) Hope the day is going well for you so far !!

5 minutes after listening to this I finally gained the courage to text my therapist and tell her that I feel I can't talk when she is taking notes, as I have to wait for her to finish. Thank you.

Katie: "I don't want to get into the nerdy weeds about it" me, the kind of person that logics my way through everything: noooooooo

Kati, would like to thank you for gently calling me out on my shit at 16:36. I listened to your response a couple of times to try to let it sink in. I never thought of my response to my therapists’ compassion as transference but it does makes sense. Will try to use bridge statements to be less dismissive of her compassion in the hopes that maybe I’ll one day feel it for myself too.

About therapist notes, I have at times of my silliness, wondered if she's taking notes like, 'can't believe this guy, so weird, I need to remember what he said so I can tell everyone at the therapist's convention'. Or maybe she's just making her shopping list. Anyway, thanks for the reassurance Kati!

Thank you Kati! I was in tears after Question 10. Even though I don't struggle with a diagnosed ED, I have struggled with whether my primary diagnosis (Trauma related) was a just a choice and whether I deserve the treatment I am seeking. I really appreciated hearing this today! I am going to keep trying and not give up on seeking the treatment that should help.

I was thinking about this today. Talking about trauma is like physically being contaminated by a wall.

I would guess black and white thinking is something a lot of people are "drawn to" because it helps us with efficiency to identify, categorize, and determine a response/a way to package and file complex phenomena. It gets us in trouble when we oversimplify or presume things and form opinions on those presumptions without verifying if the presumptions are facts, but so many things in life are extremely complex and it would be overwhelming, unhelpful, and inefficient if we couldn't label things to help us form an understanding of or understand what to do with a variety of things in life.

The trauma graph is genius as I have started to do a grief graph and it's actually very eye-opening....

your book baby looks so beautiful! I love the cover already and I'm convinced, the book itself is going to be great as well. I can notice that you have a way with words in every one of your videos and you have so much knowledge of trauma! So, check your facts and try to dissprove the negative thoughts about your work, it's going to be awesome, I'm sure about that. ❤️❤️👍😉

For #2 my therapist said she talks louder and with more energy because she is trying to get me to talk more, as I tend to be very quite and not say much.

I don’t remember what question you brought this up on but it made me laugh when you said why would someone care about you that much. I know you didn’t mean it like that but it got a hearty chuckle out of me

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Hi Kati, congratulations on your new book. Great presentation.. I'm sure everyone who reads it will appreciate the material and you will see how worth all the hard work that went it.

After doing one of those Gp mental health quotas, it came back that I had extreme depression stress and anxiety. So got sent to see a therapist, First thing he said to me "well your not catatonic so you cant be that bad" knew right then I wasn't going to get the help I needed.

Yeah I started to cry when I was talking about my problems

Kati Morton! You introduced me to Christina P! I commented when you were on her channel because there was a hilarious situation! I want to go back and think what I thought when I first watched. I know I remember I thought how strange it was to have something called your mom's house, and the them was like bongs and stuff, but I thought, this Christina P goes any where, I love it! And you two had such good chemistry I remained engaged.

Interested in the video about things to know about a therapist

I love listening to your voice! It is so calming. The way you explain information is so easy to understand (atleast for me and I see others have said that as well). This video has been so helpful, and it's very kind of you to pass along so much of your knowledge to us about so many different topics. Thank you for videos!

Thank you for doing everything you do! 🙂

Thank you Kati for all you do for us. Always informative & always helpful. 😊

It's actually funny because you have a video with the title you said (5 Easy Steps to Build Your Self Confidence) from way back in 2014, but the one that you actually were describing from December 2020 was called 4 Tips to Boost Your Confidence. Just sharing here so that people can find the video you were referring to more easily or perhaps watch both 😊

Hey Kati, thanks for this video, i look forward to Thursday’s now (every time I say Thursday I think of Joey from friends saying “just remember Thursday the THIRD DAY!) - I look forward to this podcast every week! Thank you!

I'm at the point where I smoke weed everyday just so I can feel something anything enough to cry my eyes out emotional purge and then just relax on the sedation of the high. It's a messed up coping strategy and emotional release mechanism, I know some people do it with alcohol too but therapy seems hard to find and expensive when unemployed in UK :/. Emotional dysregulation sucks :(

I had to choose paying for school over starting therapy. I really need therapy and maybe medication for my anxiety (generalized and social anxiety)because it’s becoming debilitating and I am becoming very dysfunctional. Also you talked about the difference between loneliness and social anxiety and I think that I have both and the loneliness has caused depression and I feel like now my loneliness is causes a little bit of the social anxiety. I am terrible at gaining mastery. The only thing I can stand doing bc of my anxiety and depression is writing but I’m really bad at it and it doesn’t get better even if I practice it.

I’m in therapy now 2023. And multiple times my therapist has said let’s keep this session 45mins I’ve had a long day. So me having adhd makes my mind race and I feel like I can’t express what I really want and just stay on the surface of subjects. So weird .

In a way I wish I had become a therapist or counsellor, because to me bring able to help others would be super fulfilling. I have always loved my jobs where I've worked helping others (I worked in disability and aged care in the past).

Everybody's personalities CHANGE LIKE A BOAT/SHIP UP s & down events. Like a roller skates. Etc.

What I sometimes do if I feel like I need to do something, but not able to do anything about it at the time (or want to), I just make a quick note of it in my phone...like literally just a sentence. In terms of self care, I am one of those who needs lots of time to do the self care. Maybe it's the introvert side of me, and some of it may be learning disability related. Like, I hate the thought of just allowing myself to have ten minutes to have a cup of coffee or tea before I have to be back up and busting my butt to get back out the door (although I know that's a reality in the mornings when getting ready for work). I really wish that people were actually able to slow down to really take that time to take care of their mental health needs, and not just limit it to a short time period.

Amazing video. Thank you so much!

For the neurological effects of ketogenic diets, all or nothing is the right approach. If you get your liver to spit out ketones, they'll calm your nerves down. If you're even a couple grams of carbohydrate above the cutoff, you don't get that benefit, and you might as well do something much less restrictive. We're not nearly as screwed as mice with respect to nutritional ketosis, but this is still a time when almost-there gets you exactly no points.

Found this extremely helpful.

14:00 thank you ❤

How do you work through transference when it's not to your therapist and you aren't in therapy? You can't really admit and be open and talk about it with the person when it's your boss or advisor. It's way too embarrassing to talk about in general, even though I feel like people can tell. It's not like it's not helpful (it makes me want to work hard to get their validation) but I know it's not healthy and I know it will probably hurt me later when we part ways.

Hi! ... I was watching ep 70 and something stuck in my head... When you were talking about dissociation you said something like ... This can cause us to want to dissociate ... or something in these lines So I am someone who deals with depression and social anxiety and I experience dissociation a lot. So my question is: is dissociation something the we can consciously choose? Ps: sorry if I misunderstood what you were saying. English is not my native language. Thx for everything that you share and put out for us!

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Eating disorders aren't a choice. I know because I did something phenomenally stupid and intentionally woke up the voice that wants to be anorexia in myself, and it stayed confined to its little box, didn't damage my physical health, and went back to sleep when I didn't want it anymore. You have to be in a vulnerable state for phenomenal stupidity like mine to actually hurt you.

What if we can't stop talking about it? 😆 I seem to want to blab to anyone I feel a connection with.

Hi Kati, I have a question 🙋‍♀️. I want to know how a therapist gets a client to dig deep an spill their feelings? Mine is doing this and it is driving me crazy. I told him that I need to be in control. I have been doing EMDR. He told me that I am not supposed to feel comfortable. I like to feel comfortable. When I told him that he is too pushy,he just laughs! He’s trying so hard to get me to just open up. Why he hasn’t abandoned me,I don’t know,but I am thankful 🥲. Last week,my mother who is dead,came into the session (I physically felt her presence and I started crying when we were doing EMDR. It was a powerful session but I always have to disassociate while driving home. This week, he got me again to talk about being raped and sexual times during my 20’s. I looked out the office window the entire session. I am afraid that I am going to become so hysterical that I need to be in control. I told him that I was all over the place. How come I am ok at one session and not ok the next?

Kati, where did you get that awesome blue and black camo looking top? I love it! P.S. you rule!

Where do I ask questions?

I didn't know that therapists are humans... What about teachers? :)

Because talking about trauma retraumatizes the victim. I think that needs rethinking. Why do “therapists” think that “talking” about the trauma purges the trauma. That’s ridiculous. I don’t know where that thinking came from.

You actually can't do things you don't want to do, unless there's involuntary muscle movements or a dissociative disorder involved. You can do things you wish you didn't have to do, or things you don't enjoy doing, but the force of will that moves your muscles comes from a desire.

I just wanna know where Kati got thar sweater lol I've been searching for it online for days now

Kati, I'm hurting very bad and life is not looking good for me, please help? Not right now I can't help you financially, many thanks for your videos, but please? Rochelle, aka Mumma aka Rocky...

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One internship didn't pay, and the other was at an eating disorder treatment center, and I thought "a lady's gotta eat!"

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Is it too early for time stamps 👀