That sounds typical. Watch my video on Limerence at m.kzfaq.info/get/bejne/q96kd6WYyJ-op6c.html to understand the withdrawal that you are going through.

@@RealCoachLee little confused about your comment. Neither on of us is in a relationship.

You feel the withdrawal from Limerence. That’s why it’s so difficult. That doesn’t mean you don’t love her, but it explains some of the pain. I hope you watched the video all the way through.

Oh I see what you mean now. I had to go back and watch it again.

Literally same. Just when i thought i was doing better it all came crashing down this week

I stalked me ex Facebook and she deleted all our photos. :-( your right it hurts. I'm gonna take break from Facebook from now on.

Black Vortex it’s been 2 months and my ex still has a picture of us on her FB and still follows me on IG. Sometimes I wish she had unfollowed me and did all the typical post break up stuff when everything was fresh. If she blocks me sometime down the line I’m sure it’ll reopen some wounds.

Couch Lee. What do you do when my ex new girlfriend reached out to me on fb to throw my ex under the bus. Apparently, they broke up for a week or so, so she reached out to me. Please help!! I don't know if someone of you had experienced this before, but that was a surprise for me. I got caught up in a conversation with her on messenger. I was trying to bring a little light to someone I thought was hurting, but all she did was opening my old wounds, just to let me know, that she went back to him! How stupid I am thinking that she was hurting 😢

It does if you not string enough emotionally

Try having their picture randomly pop up on a dating app and knowing that they are very attractive and are definitely talking to other people. That's pain.

This is so true

I blocked my ex. Best decision I ever made. It was only then I was able to start healing. Before, it was a constant roller coaster of emotions, set off whenever I saw his face on social media, so any progress I had made in getting over him had been set back.

I'm on buproprion. Cause of my ex. Almost hung myself early dec

@@percytwatwinkle3431 oh God PLEASE don't

That’s me. I’m actually wanted to commit suicide, but I’m here cuz of this man. And I’m fine :)

Ehhh, made that mistake.

@ArnelV same here made that mistake too. But that’s where I cut it off and I won’t let them waste my time a third time.

@@baggergurl16 Right on 🤘🏻

Julie, WAY TO GO, GIRL!! 👍

Facts.

For real that's real talk

Yes that is never stopping Sometimes I Just can't get my head around that she broke up even though I know and understand why.

me too. im only on day 5 of NC and it's been really hard. How's your progress?

wow 118 likes lol. Im still 7 months post break up of my 3 and a half year relationship and 2 years of living together. Im still in that cycle 😂 sometimes im okay, sometimes im not, dreams about her and flashbacks are coming back even though I dont think about her or doing something to keep me busy memories would just keep on popping up in my head. She texted a week ago but its nonsense (a statement intended to not be replied to) she was just giving me an info of something thats its not worth replying as per advice of the dating guy and the love chat as to not go for breadcrumbs plus I dont have credits to be able to reply to her (since im not using my phone for texts cause I technically dont have to text anyone, we have the internet for messenger 😂, only for youtube) and dont want to waste money to reply to a text that I know I wont get a reply back so its not worth replying to.

@@angel-pp5gj who are you asking ?

Cy Colburn Love This! 👍

Munar Esen How do you mean your ex loves your silence? What is she doing to love it so much?

Munar Esen You’re doing well to be rid of her. 👍

@Munar Esen For now...then she will miss you... Coach Lee knows what he is talking about. You are showing confidence by ignoring her.

Cy Colburn yesss !!!

You are not alone. I’ve been 2 months of no contact. It’s hurts to think they don’t care. But.. they will realize how they left things some day. You are not alone with the pain. I have been very up and down, crying often. Stay strong.

Throneless, I totally get it. I was with MY PERSON, her words for nearly 7 years. I was certainly not perfect but she led me to believe that WE were as close to perfect as anyone could be. Out of nowhere she dumped me in Sept. 2021. I reacted poorly and let her know how much she meant to me. Probably feeling sorry for me, she relented and came back to me. Actually knocked on my door to get the meeting started. We got back together for 2 months and of course she did it again, with the ole excuse of just feeling too much pressure. I could go on and on but it comes down to the fact now that I am beginning to feel as though I dont want her back. Like she says, it would be too much pressure! But this time I would be feeling the pressure as much as her!!!!

Thanks for your words of encouragement. I'm only into the 2nd week post breakup and it's killing me. I've never felt such emotional pain in my life. I'm glad you feel better and have taken it so well. Any updates you like to share since it's been a month from this post?

@@billyself9333 Omg that's exactly that happened to me. She broke up around 3 months ago and we ended up together again after a few days. Just before Xmas we got so close she decided to move in with me. By New Years Eve she broke up with me and moved out again. We were together for over 3 years and during that time there wasn't a day we didn't talk to each other. I've been trying the no contact strategy but it hurts so much :(

@@XKobe hey there! First of all, I’m very sorry for the grief you’re experiencing, I know you’re hurting. Has it only been a month? It feels like much more time has passed. Update, he has reached out… several times. He is still my ex. And I feel even better now than I did when I posted my original comment. Healing is not linear, it’s not a straight or paved road. I’ve still had to deal with hard days and I know there are more to come. BUT, I’m at peace. The one thing that helped me most was taking all that pent up love I was storing for him and give it to myself. Prioritize yourself. Set goals, crush them. Stay busy improving yourself. Evolve. I am so in love with who I am becoming and so excited to realize my goals and dreams. Keep moving forward, and you will get there too.

Thank you for this reminder! I have been struggling with this exact thing every day... My ego is screaming at me terrible things about what she thinks or feels about me. I honestly don't know that no contact will work in my case, she said after 1 year together that she wasn't ready for commitment suddenly and left... I'm trying to keep it together and focus on NC and on myself.

Bless you, very helpful, day 6 of NC. It was something great and would love to see it reignite🙏

They don't change there mind, especially when they have someone else..

I'd really hope this is true. 10 months no contact and I feel worthless again. . . She's probably not gonna reach out.

Ceesar Joust 10 months holy shit

Yup so true. I honestly want to find a nerd at a church & be with her forever.

@@nalveyna I would like something like that ...

Easy come. Easy go.

@@weeeone me to! Love shouldn't be painful it should be beautiful x

I agree completely. Very well said. Social media and dating apps have ruined old fashion traditional dating. It’s horrible. People are with 500 likes rather than a face to face to conversation

Drew, it's sad, but it happens a lot! People who have been together for years have lost attraction to the other, and it is hard when one is so much in love, and the other fades. Take care of yourself, and don't ever give up on love. ❤️💙

Easy to understand. Welcome to females. Concentrate on your self betterment.

Hurt people… hurt people.

I am at the point of falling into the void of darkness... normally I never get depression but when I met my exgf, we naturally clicked, she said I was her type and we called each other soulmates. When we are together time flies unnoticed. Even our dearest friends supported our relationship and thought it was cute and cool. No one opposed, not even our parents. I never had depression, but once she left me six weeks ago and a week after she started dating a new guy she met on Facebook, I have struggled with my Faith in God, and have had depressive thoughts of losing her forever. It got so bad, I actually got sick for a day or two and that has never happened to me before. In the past year and a half, my life has looked like the Book of Job in the Bible. I have felt I am being tested on my faith, I have lost friends, a few betrayed me, and lost my soulmate. Everything feels wrong...😢 Please pray for me, been in no contact. Thanks

It ​@@FurryLove215it sure sounds like you went through a type of borderline narcissistic relationship AND behaviors. Stay Educated AND Dedicated...💪

Hugs 🤗 sometimes I cry sometimes I smile but I always remember to pray and ask god for closure , my partner broke up with me because of trust issues we being together for 14 years he thinks I’m cheating now but I can honestly say I’m not doing it , I’m going through nc right now , just hoping for the best

@@selenaG57 aww 14 years! Hope you’re okay. Gotta be strong! I admire the strength it took just to write your comment. Virtual hug! Wish you healing and strength! 🙏🏼

Literally, same here. Wishing you all the best, hope you feel happier and more healed than ever ❤️

You are not alone I left 6 yours ago

Its a lot! NC is mostly 1 month.

Van Paul word💥

I've seen some exes few years later and ZERO attraction

What it means

I think this is true. But too hard to do in the early stages of break up 🙁

@@vanpaul147 😂😂😂😂

I feel the same way. Unfortunately I want him to hurt the way he hurt me. I want a woman to come into his life, treat him like a precious gem, he fall in love with her, then she tells him she wants to date other people and his heart falls out of his chest. Then he can call me and continue to apologize because he now knows how I feel. My "break up" is very new from a short relationship but it stings.

I feel the same way cuz they just laughing and talking and eating shiting like normal

I don't understand too. it's worst like than an enemy 😭

Wow!!!

@@edeal9251 I'm going thru same thing how r u I read your msg it's very painful I'm so sorry

Bart, give it TIME. TIME is a fantastic healer. God bless you..♥️⚘️

No one really talks about the grief, I think it's the absolute worse part of all of this. 💔

I started seeing someone too soon after my spouse died. I think I was still in shock and PTSD, trying to hang on to sanity. Being with him was a distraction from the pain of losing my spouse, and now I feel the full loss of my spouse as well as the loss of what the new person and I shared, which was what helped get me through that awful time. Well, I'm not through the grief, it's like I'm starting over- but now it's worse because this guy leaving me was a choice, not a tragedy.

Bart, how are you feeling now? 💛

So true.....that's the way I explained the pain to my daughter when my wife left me 2 months ago for a twice divorced man.....only the death of my mother was the worst heart break . Good luck to you and any other person reading this.

What if they found some else already. My was with me for almost 2 years. He wanted to propose, I said No yet...no ready...I was honest. He swore He loved me and I had his heart....really? Hr He moved to fast and he they been together for 2 months. However, I love your positive actitud and message. I took a screenshot of it, to read it everytime I am negative :(

This is horrible advice

Law of attraction

Srimayavan Ganeshan why would you encourage someone to get back with someone if they don’t deserve it ? If they were good people they would still be together ..

Srimayavan Ganeshan is

You tell yourself that lol. Women move on faster than men.

@@mclarencroft2501 Everyone is different and those tend to be rebound relationships that end up failing more often than not. Just because they suppress their emotions and tell themselves they've moved on, doesn't mean they did. And those feelings are going to surface at some point down the line. Unless of course they're a psychopath, in which case, who needs them?

@@mclarencroft2501 if a quality women has attracted and great intimacy for a person during a year of relationship. And if they break up. Are they willing to move on fast with someone else? What do you think if she is a quality person with some ethics.

Good now they are someone else's problem, look at it that way. Go get some ass if you need too.

@@mclarencroft2501 happy rebounds. Lol!

Love the AB pic lol but hope your doing well

Did the ex reached out to you at so e point?

@@GRDiplomat No, because I broke no contact several times, even stalked him kinda? He eventually told me to go away and now he knows I'm in a new relationship so he never reached out.

Facts

AfricaN FuFu facts🔥🔥

Especially a narcissist

Yes yes. I always forget that..

Amen 🙏 🙌

Mine too. But she goes to my gym haha

@@theaveragejoe6854 damn find a new gym

Did you move on from her?

@@theaveragejoe6854 request for for

Yep!! Nothing like having a great “revenge body” lol 💯👌👏🏅👍

I think that is better to not make the first step If you have tried everything before. I understand what you say, but It doesn't make much sense to reach out at the point you are describing.

Did he ever come back?

Way to go Kat. I've done the same...feels great doesn't it!

Kat G So happy ur thriving!

You are an inspiration to me, thank you

Great job, in the same position 9 month NC and I think she just forgot about me and moved on. She was a bit mess up in the head due to her last relationship. But, like you been upgrading myself bit by bit. Good story hopefully we can move on and stay strong.

Found out that my ex cheated on me 4 weeks ago she dumped me 3 weeks ago went into NC 2 weeks ago she texted me a week ago with a work issue I replied with an answer, nothing since, what do I do now

Dont know if everyone gets reply.or how long it takes.i cant find where my question went

I feel the same. Without listening to Coach Lee's videos I would be a mess. I gain a lot of strength and perspective my listening to him.

100%

i got coach lee on prlly 5 hours a day lol it helps a lot

How are you doing now?

Hey basil, are you guys together ?

If it's any comfort my ex didn't lose it with me - but I lost it with myself and so she left.

Same here..@@petecoventry6858

Johnny Flow amen

C'est la vie c'est la vie. Whatever will be will be.

Plain, simple, straight to the point. God damn all these word salads from coaches.

Hell yeah, exactly! 💪💯

I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

Her name is Maurice Gleti, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

God will heal you sir.. put it on God's hands 🙏

It did for me too but I was in no contact for 3 months and 22days and he reached out but it was casual he called 3 times and left a voicemail but I waited a few days and reached back out but idk I'm lost I love him and I want him back but he hasn't responded

@@jasminemiller5843 buy Coach Lee's emergency breakup kit!!! he explains steps on how to approach the situation!!!!

@@yk8301 thank you so much I really appreciate your help ❤

So happy for you Y K!!!!!

So happy for you

It's been a year and 4 mos. I'm still not over him. We were married for 35yrs. I've tried NC but I always have something to say so I email him and he doesn't respond. I wish I could be strong.

Rocky Waters 35yrs is wayy too much attachment that is why you’re still hurting but it’s still not too late to get over it .. it’s possible

This is the best i read so far 👍. Mostly important is to not use other people to distract ur pain and sadness

Did they ever contact you back? I feel like it’s soo hard but I know I need to move on

Ericka T you know what, some people believe after treating others so bad that if they just remove a person from their life that they never have to apologize or change their behavior. They didn’t contact me but they didn’t delete me on social media either. Weird. They’re the last thing on my mind and it feels good 🙏🏾

cyberaga20, let me recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which will help you immensely. It has EVERYTHING in it including strategies for every situation including yours myexbackcoach.com/ebk

You definitely deserve better

I’m sorry but the last sentence cracked me up 😂😂😂

Don't say dat...i hav asthma and i started smokin b cuz i am sooo stressed out wit my breakup...dat is y i felt d need 2 smoke. We get angry and frustrated and blame d opposite gender...but we r all in dis together. I am female and s'times i tink all men r d same. But who knows. Maybe God wil make my life better som day and show me dat i cud find a decent man who loves me 4me.

River Smith lmfaooooo

😂😂I feel attacked,I'm asthmatic but few puffs make me relax,I ain't like your ex though 😂😂

Bud Bub think tho so are they more than likely

here also don't overthink too much that would make you feel better

1week🤦‍♂️

Bud Bub use this time to work on yourself... if you get back together you want things to improve, not be the same... true change of growth can take a while it’s just as high maintenance as a relationship Bc it’s a relationship with yourself. The most important one of all

April 21st it was supposed to be our 4 years Annivesary but he broke up with me. It all came in so sudden, totally devastated and shattered. He has blocked my no, blocked me in WhatsApp but he accepted my request my on fb. I don't understand what to think of it?.

How are you dear

Yes, I'm doing great haven't backslide still no contact. I'm now a homeowner doing things all on my own and it feels good. I'm not dating i don't know how to just working on me. I discovered for the first time my favorite color is orange or in that tone. I went back to being creative drawing and painting. It's funny when I hear people say I didn't know you could do so and so...yeah I just didn't have the motivation because my light was dimmed. I went to France earlier this year, then to the alps where I tried skiing for the first time. Celebrated my bday with close friends. I planted some vegetables in my garden which I was able to cook with😂😂 now I'm planning my trip for next year to Korea, and Japan. I'm also going back to the Alps, and a few more escapes. I must say I'm blessed. Thank you for checking up on me.

Kat M I'm in the same boat my dear.

African king sorry to hear... this sucks pretty bad. Despite all the work I’m trying to do on myself some days are just HARD. But keeping patient and hoping for the best outcome. At the end of the day we don’t want to be with someone who can’t wholeheartedly care for us how we can for them. They do say people can only meet you as deep as they meet themeselves so... wishing my ex luck on their journey of self discovery and hoping we can continue to grow together but if we can’t then peaceeee

Same few days away from 1 month :( and this quarantine also yes, you cant go out.. I want to go. To the gym, go cut my hair buy some. Nice clothes.. Baaah.. I kinda hope she comes around, but i know that she doesnt see her mistakes, she is allways right, allways putting guilt on me, i adapt she doesnt.. But i love her idk :( i also made some Mistakes, i could kiss here some more ahhh, i keep kicking my head that its all my faulth, but it isnt :/ But it makes you think, " what if they think i should reach out bcs they think that it was my mistake?

I’m in the same boat too, almost been a month and although quarantine sucks... it’s also a blessing too. Think about it. You’re facing yourself you got no one but yourself to work on and honestly you know he or she isn’t gonna do anything either but build them self up. Take a perspective on it. Stay strong guys we’re all in it together. If you go out go clubbing keep yourself busy you’re literally only hiding the pain inside whereas now YOU CAN FACE IT!

@@Kausleek i dont see it as a blessing bcs if they dont miss you now they wont even after they start going out.. I think mine waas cheating on me.. And its probably a guy from her area, so not a blessing at all..

Hehehehe 😆

Oh really 🤣😂

😂😂😂😂👌👌👠

😂😂

Hahaha he is...lets try the no contact on him🤣956-***-****

John McCarty ... It is very very hard but try stay busy and try not overthink! You are stronger than you think!

Feel the same,, seeing future with him and now seems like no tomorrow 😭

I feel you.

@@merceditatorreon9020 I think all of us who had a long steady relationship, go through this when we end it

I feel like they is no tomorrow again 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭🔪

I would have happily moved on and was trying and then lockdown happened.. I'd made plans, going back to college and corny yes but Joining a gym with a specialist trainer.. I was getting in a good place, plus u can't date cause of the situation.. very frustrating..

@@misslanapford9169 I’m ok

LMAO!!!

So funny, sorry to say🤭. Hang in there

Thank you coach Lee .You are the one I go to all day everyday .I am not giving up hope .You give me hope everyday ❤️

Mine said that too, i looked at him smiled and said oh well I'm glad you will be the one who will come and beg sweetheart.

Mine said that too and she’s following me and my girlfriend of 6 years from a fake page. 😂

Patricia Ann Batis girl my ex was like that LMFAOO I was the exception I didn’t beg for him nor looked for him I’m still hurting but it’s okay

Yes my ex said the same. Exes chase him. Me never so he chased me instead. But haven't heard from him for one month now . Let's see who will be crying again

Narcissist !!! I also dated a bloody bastard narcissist He used to cachinate when I sobbed !!! 😠😡😤🤬🤬🤬

@@tedkartoffel it’s funny now that I remember I wrote this I’m almost embarrassed because I don’t care at all 🤷🏻‍♂️ 😂 plenary of fish in the sea 🌊

I can totally relate with this.

@@robertbeckham3091 amazing update bro. glad you're better. however i'm in the same space you were in 2 years ago.

Robert, almost the same thing happened to me with the ex girlfriend… I just got out of a divorce in 2018 had to sell the house 50/50 split walk away with a good chunk of money… bought another house...I knew my ex gf years ago finallyhooked up with her we hit it off really good exercise together and a great dancer … I told her am not ready to get married again maybe in the future after awhile she was looking for excuse to dump me … she found iI know she has another boyfriend I told her am happy for her, but I am not, but no contact is what I am doing now… when one door closes, many will open up her loss… The last thing I told her I love you, set her free 😃.

I'm there with you bro

Same situation for me, I loved her so much, but she got scared, didn’t feel as much as me....

@@vksander1412 give her time and try to keep no contact rule and try to learn life without her this time :)

Already since 10 December no contact man!

Since 7 November she broke it off, 2/3 month relationship.

Thank you for this story, it gives me hope

Wow great Back together?

I wish I could bring that karma to me! Pray for me

This made me laugh. I hope we back back together :)

Sweetie I feel your pain 4 days for me. We can do this

mine was 7 years, i finally find out , he has a wife. He said he couldn’t leave his daughters, and he’d live in misery. he’s got me blocked everywhere with his wife, she found about me. it been since April, i’ll never come back, He had left on my iphone his address. i told home to delete it, but he won’t,🤣

@@heidi1354 what happened.?

Hug

This comment has a snowballs chance in hell

True, sometimes you think back on the fun times. Then you get sideswiped by the horrible memories. There were more horrible times for sure. Really horrible.

True!

@@sophierobert7941 ... Still in no contact. Nothing has changed. It's been 150 days since my last contact and I feel alot better for it.

Find something funny to focus on, singing will also help you feel better. Try to remain positive.

@ Coach Lee Spam

@@nexttytreporter2598 I d/l'd an app for singing. I love to sing. We are back together now without the label, taking things skowly. Thank you so much for your comment. I hope things work out well for you, too. Oh, and I'm pregnant with his baby. I am so thankful for where my life is at and exculited for our future together!

@@barbiearnett136 congratulations for u :’)

@@marshmellow4855 Not for long. Trust me 🤦

exactly the same situation 😓

Same here

DONT DO IT!!especially on vday ...vday is for people in active relationships... wait it out ..he’s probably expecting it

Shawna T ur right thank u for the support

I do the same. Stay no contact.

Darius, you are the man!

yeah same here this guy is legendary i'm still on day 5 with the no contact but i can tell that he knows what he's talking about i can't afford the breakup kit so i'll just listen to his videos instead i'll text my ex after a month and a half but for now staying away as coach lee says is the best

Keep going Im in a breakup since Thursday,shitty time of year for it to happen

True

How it's going now?

We have the feeling that the dumper doesn't even care about the dumped