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Beautiful and quite eye opening🙏🏾

I disagree with this advice.

No..put your mom first your wife can betray you but ur mom can never

Men have a right to keep their moms first if they choose… They just don’t need to be married. Those same men wouldn’t want to play second fiddle their father-in-laws. They want their needs met, and rightfully so. However, they should be willing to meet their wife’s needs. Everyone has a place, both moms and wives. The problem occurs when someone is not in their place.

@Ziggypip2938 If I had a Mother-in-law like You, I'd make sure my husband put You first and then Me!💐💖💞

Nope. If the husband is confused he is responsible for his own behavior.

Wife will certainly betray you, if you keep putting your mother first !!

@vesselfit -in latin culture is a big problem the way moms get attached to their sons.

So true!

#JewishMothers oy!

Very true! It very well can be moms and daughters or fathers and daughters. Anytime there’s enmeshment, it’s a problem.

Same with Indian MIL's. If you think there's No1 is this World Better for you than your Son, Would you like to Marry Him and have Children? 🤮 I'm not sure how Educated you are about biology, but If you want Grandchildren, Your Precious Son has to marry a woman.. There's no 2 Ways about it! Your Daughter married another Man, and her MIL is Ruining her life and caused her Miscarriages and Domestic n Verbal abuse which made u adopt your Son-in-law into your Own home and Treat Him Like a King, and you Still Cry every night coz of all the atrocities Your own daughter endured.. How can you be so Ruthless and Toxic to another Woman's daughter and expect her to endure the same Pain your and your Daughters MIL put you both Through? A Woman is a Woman's Worst Enemy, it's not the Men!

Yes!!

Beautiful

You sound like a beautiful human being!🌸🌸🌸

I REALLY NEEDED THIS AND I REALLY HOPE YOU ARE MY MOTHER IN LAW 😢😢😢, i am exhausted 😩 lately i had a fight with my mother in law, actually i am a very silence person, talk when needed, but yeah sometimes i pretty chit-chatting you know when woman meet woman. I do not know who spinning and made up the stories in the in-law’s family but i guess i spoke too much with my younger brother’s wife, my mistakes because i trust her but then yeah i overly speak about something related to “in-law” but we are exchanging stories because she does that as well which is talking about our in-law, so i thought it is fair for us exhanging stories but then one day she spinning the stories and she told my in law that i feel jelous with the baby which is from the other younger brother’s baby 😢😢 and that make me sad. I know i can’t give grandchildren to my in law for almost 5 years but that does not make me wanted and necessarily have to jelous for someone’s baby. That’s nonsense. So my in-law believed her and blaming me why i am jelous etc and at first i try to be calm as possible but u know since 5 years i try to be nice with in law then after that suddenly i’m exploded because everything they said all wrong about me. But they do not want to listen to me and keep on making me looks guilty more and more. So i said to them i do not want to see them until my broken heart healed and recovered and maybe until one of them make an apology. Now already a month. Pray for me the best please. I need someone to cheer me up. 😢😢😢

@@Manusiabidadari You deserve love and respect too.❤️ Stepping away from toxic people is hard, especially when it's family, but it's necessary. You can't have good things when you stay in bad places. All the best to you.

You made the right choice nothing worst than having to take care of your MIL, like no.

Very true I live with inlaws and mother controls everythng in ur life am sick of it

I can't stand her I wish I never got married my life is not happy and contented

This is nothing new I grew up in the 1970's and my Grandmother has passed on years ago now my mother is in her 80's and almost turned into my grandmother who my mother used to complain about just like you are. I catch my mother saying the exact things my mother used to complain my grandmother used to say. She lived with us for about 2 years after she lost most of her retirement in an investment scam and lost her BF of 20 years. My wife couldn't take it anymore hardest thing for me was ask my mother to find somewhere else to live I had to find an apartment about mile from us. Then she found a great house during the market crash she had saved enough money from a house sale didn't end up in that fraud to buy this home back in 2012. Really saved her situation because apartment rents are high now.

Totally side you in that

Exactly

How

My mother in law didn’t show her claws until we got married. She completely shifted once her son moved out and married me. I wish she would’ve showed her true colors before hand.

@tinaibarra3136 In my case I only met her once before marrying and she seemed nice. Big mistake on my part.

My ex mil did not show her true colors until after we married. Her behaviors ramped up even more after my children were born. Unfortunately because how I was raised, it never occurred to me to get divorced because of his mom.

I don’t think that’s correct. Every family is going to have challenges. It’s a lonely life to act like there are perfect families

Harrrrddd noooo

Exactly.they want son to fill gaps left by husband.i mean needs should be met

Wow. Well said. The MIL is still young.

​@@sd-ud6iqafter some have killed their husband's with their trouble.

My mother-in-law was always naive and a little bit on the needy side but now with the passing of my father-in-law she is getting too close and to in the face and space of my family and her son my husband it's too much.

no, mine is a wonderful mother and hasn’t taken her claws out until our engagement. She’s a human with very real fears. My fiance tries to set boundaries and makes it worse. As his future wife, I’m helping support him to learn what to say to set those boundaries. He’s just a human that doesn’t always have the answers on how to communicate.

@@picklepirate that's what I'm saying. If he doesn't set boundaries, then he is the problem. Obviously, your husband is trying, so my statement doesn't apply to him.

You have to make sure you voice this loud and clear to your partner now and see how you both can handle that from now. He has to stand by you so that she knows from now you can't be bullied.

@@shazmeenbank1630 thanks for your quick reply. You re all right and i agree with you. Though, since his mom went on to threaten my mom at her workplace claiming that she will never let her son marry me and better she kills him! that was the most awkward situation for our R/ship, at the extend that i got pressured from my people to break up because both families couldn't seat together someday for our union...i decided to break up. Her narcissistic character is soo unbearable. ( excuse my English, i m an french speaker).

@@shazmeenbank1630 You give such great advice sister not just on the show but when replying to others comments. As I said recently in an email you truly have a great gift when it comes to connecting with others and what they are dealing with. You can really see it from their point of view and give the best advice on how to handle it. I support you always in everything you do. God bless you sister 🙏 with lots of hugs and love ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

@@remoteworkinghacks we split.

I would avoid getting married. Whatever fear you have of your MIL will get worse. If she gives you fear, then she will terrify you after marriage and most likely terrorise you, trust me your partner no matter how much they love you they wont be able to do shit about the situation

Agree!

Yes! The father is emotional unavailable to his wife so now the mother is emeshed with her son.

Yes thats happening

Trying to set that boundary with my MIL but she just doesn’t get the msg and insists on calling me. Fake concern - no thank you !!! I just don’t want to engage with her level of pettiness !

@@faceless_bloggeranswer the phone less. Get a new hobby, get busy. It’s easy. Difficult at first. But focus on your relationship. She’ll get the hint.

@@christinadukes6927 Thank you!!! I’m already so busy. It is difficult in Indian context, because as per her, daughters-in-law shouldn’t work. So that they become powerless and can be bullied into being her slaves.

@@christinadukes6927haven’t answered her calls in 2 years !!

@@faceless_blogger You got this hunny and good for you to change the narrative! You are so right how people want you to be powerless so they can run all over you! Keep pushing! And don’t let them tell you about culture. Because I bet they have cell phones! lol! People in the 1800s didn’t have cell phones so the culture thing is bs! Do you hunny! So proud of you!!!!!

And some are just liars anyway. Widowed and at least ten years younger. The birth story my mil tells about ‘giving birth’ is beyond the pale. “The doctor dropped him?” Wow, really? Tell me more. He refuses to say anything but he’s most likely the product of his dads first marriage.😂 None of this will ever come out, so I just laugh at it. The old lady thinks she’s fooling someone .

​​@@dtraveler3080omg! Please! Not the baby /birthing stories! 😭😞😩

Nothings worst than a widow

Only God with prayer, and distance can deal with them.

Thank you!!!! She's delusional!!

I desperately need help my fiance left because of problems with my mom 😢

@@bigpeezyweezy no matter what happens if u and ur partner have positive aspects outside of that issue (not a toxic relationship) then give him space and time and he will come back. But allow space and wait for emotions to calm down and express genuine support and understanding from HIS point of view. Then actually make a promised plan to allocate the issue so u can provide a solution to the issue. U have to stand together on this. U will need to speak to your mom and even if the initial plan is not ideal give it time be patient things will work out if it’s meant to be, stress will not help. X

@@Mayhem121 thanks for reply Zahra. I am the man if the relationship. But my mother and my fiance are totally at war with each other. My mother controls all aspects of my life throughout my entire life. She just worries that my fiance will marry then take half and leave. This will be my second relationship. I was previously married and she also left because of mom. Sigh. I want to man up and start my own life but it is very difficult since my mother is so controlling and very wealthy . I just want the both of them to get along but im not seeing this happen very soon as my fiance and mom are both very “hot headed” people. She has taken my 2 year old child out of the country and now wont talk to me normally.

@@bigpeezyweezy ok. If they both love u they will want to either get along or leave each other alone so that u have peace. But your mom being very successful also comes with significant responsibility so I do somewhat understand her challenge to take a step back, she understands there is a lot to lose. But maybe if ur mother has a faith she can lean more into that and let God lead her not temporary wealth control her. The richer u are the harder it is to enter the kingdom of heaven because as your blessings increase so do your battles. Money comes with a lot of risk to ur character and soul! Understand not just how to make money but it’s power and influence especially on yourself the one who has the wealth. If your child is involved you have to all you can do to get ur child back. But the value of ur child comes with also great responsibility, u have to be patient and do the right thing even when the outcome is not as you had hoped. Leave your battles to God he has blessed you with wealth but u are not above him! So turn to him only the Lord has all the answers

Ur moms right there is a risk of losing half but u have to choose love or ur money. That’s a risk we all take for love our heart our time and any other investment. But now a child’s involved ur child if u can come to terms of the possibility of her taking half at least u share a child together. Maybe that helps soften the potential blow. If u can understand how u feel and explain this to ur mom even if she does not agree if she can at least understand what u are doing and why then maybe she will calm down. U don’t want to not have a family and be alone forever jus to protect ur money maybe, that’s a decision only u can make for ur own life

Thank you so much 💓

Yes! A coward and a traitor. I’m so over it with my husband.

Glad you enjoyed it!

Exactly!!! He needs to already be an adult living on his own!! He needs to be financially free from his parents as well!! I want a free man, with no money ties to his parents, he has his own stuff!! Very important to have this so the parents have no control or say on your lives!! I made sure of this and we are living free adult life!!

Mine is cruella de vil

That tells who you are. I hope your husband doesn’t call your father “an old chimpanzee”

Bhahahaha mine looks like one

Exactly but eff them try to distance yourself from them if not cut your interactions short, hide in ur room if you have to

It's how you learn to slowly pull her on your side

The worst

Thank you

Sometimes they just don't know how to

@@bellafantousi6480 not always hunny. Yes sometimes they just won't solve the problem and make its so hard for the woman. But some men once to bring it to their attention a couple of times they don't want to lose their wives and they will work with me to balance this. I feel your frustration hunny.

@@shazmeenbank1630 hi.

They’re cowards.

@@christinalopez6610 well said

No

I had passed through this situation for this you need to be patient ,and make a strong bond with your husband .

Thank you

I agree

True

He’s not a man if he needs his mommy to protect him from his wife 😂

No woman wants to change any man!!Its the mother’s in laws who wants the things they dd in their entire life to continue after her son is married!!Which is impossible!They have started their family and not joint a family

@@irenekavishe2113 Yes, there are so many woman who wants to change a man. Make them their slave. Yes, a mother will be there to defend her son. I hope your husband won’t hate your father (as a father in law).

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@@shazmeenbank1630 Thanks!

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