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@cynthiaesther5227 Жыл бұрын
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@user-uj1en3gm7p4 ай бұрын
Beautiful and quite eye opening🙏🏾
@UnderTheSameSun693Ай бұрын
I disagree with this advice.
@ziggypip2938 Жыл бұрын
If the son is torn, it’s his mom’s fault!!! As a mother I taught my son to put his wife first!!
@sugarhiccup258410 ай бұрын
No..put your mom first your wife can betray you but ur mom can never
@erinnreed76978 ай бұрын
Men have a right to keep their moms first if they choose… They just don’t need to be married. Those same men wouldn’t want to play second fiddle their father-in-laws. They want their needs met, and rightfully so. However, they should be willing to meet their wife’s needs. Everyone has a place, both moms and wives. The problem occurs when someone is not in their place.
@Suzidhoom7 ай бұрын
@Ziggypip2938 If I had a Mother-in-law like You, I'd make sure my husband put You first and then Me!💐💖💞
@MrDedvalson5 ай бұрын
Nope. If the husband is confused he is responsible for his own behavior.
@faceless_blogger5 ай бұрын
Wife will certainly betray you, if you keep putting your mother first !!
@vesselfit2use Жыл бұрын
It's toxic how is always the mother of the son. But never the mother of the daughter. It's an unnatural relationship that the mother has some weird obsession with her son. It's disgusting and weird.
@CaToRi-10 ай бұрын
@vesselfit -in latin culture is a big problem the way moms get attached to their sons.
@jessicahicks81089 ай бұрын
So true!
@22Too8 ай бұрын
#JewishMothers oy!
@erinnreed76978 ай бұрын
Very true! It very well can be moms and daughters or fathers and daughters. Anytime there’s enmeshment, it’s a problem.
@Suzidhoom7 ай бұрын
Same with Indian MIL's. If you think there's No1 is this World Better for you than your Son, Would you like to Marry Him and have Children? 🤮 I'm not sure how Educated you are about biology, but If you want Grandchildren, Your Precious Son has to marry a woman.. There's no 2 Ways about it! Your Daughter married another Man, and her MIL is Ruining her life and caused her Miscarriages and Domestic n Verbal abuse which made u adopt your Son-in-law into your Own home and Treat Him Like a King, and you Still Cry every night coz of all the atrocities Your own daughter endured.. How can you be so Ruthless and Toxic to another Woman's daughter and expect her to endure the same Pain your and your Daughters MIL put you both Through? A Woman is a Woman's Worst Enemy, it's not the Men!
@happyinparis7 ай бұрын
It is because mothers of sons often have a hard time letting go. I once had a mother-in-law from hell. It was shockingly bad. It destroyed the marriage. I promised myself that I would be different. I told myself that if I didn't like my son's choice for his wife, no one would ever know. I was blessed. When my son married, I was so happy for him. He married a lovely girl who was a single mom to a beautiful little boy. The "father" had abandoned them. I love her very much. This young lady apologized to me for not waiting for my son. That made me cry. I told her she never needed to apologize for having a beautiful baby. I told her that blood means nothing to me. I said I wanted to be his grandmother if she was okay with that. He was my first grandson, and he has a very special place in my heart. I remember one time when my son and daughter-in-law got into an argument, my son came crying to me. I told him to go buy her some flowers and go home and work it out. I also said, "I know you. You probably owe her an apology." He smiled, nodded, and went home to his wife where he belonged. A few years later, I met a wonderful man who had a wonderful mother. She was a jewel. My husband and I were married for 33 years. He passed away 3 years ago. He loved my son like his own, and he loved our daughter-in-law and grandchildren. If you want to fill your life with happiness and love, treat your daughter-in-laws with respect, love, and know your boundaries!
@ziggypip29384 ай бұрын
Yes!!
@augustacookeygam55794 ай бұрын
Beautiful
@fruitypopwhickle68063 ай бұрын
You sound like a beautiful human being!🌸🌸🌸
@Manusiabidadari2 ай бұрын
I REALLY NEEDED THIS AND I REALLY HOPE YOU ARE MY MOTHER IN LAW 😢😢😢, i am exhausted 😩 lately i had a fight with my mother in law, actually i am a very silence person, talk when needed, but yeah sometimes i pretty chit-chatting you know when woman meet woman. I do not know who spinning and made up the stories in the in-law’s family but i guess i spoke too much with my younger brother’s wife, my mistakes because i trust her but then yeah i overly speak about something related to “in-law” but we are exchanging stories because she does that as well which is talking about our in-law, so i thought it is fair for us exhanging stories but then one day she spinning the stories and she told my in law that i feel jelous with the baby which is from the other younger brother’s baby 😢😢 and that make me sad. I know i can’t give grandchildren to my in law for almost 5 years but that does not make me wanted and necessarily have to jelous for someone’s baby. That’s nonsense. So my in-law believed her and blaming me why i am jelous etc and at first i try to be calm as possible but u know since 5 years i try to be nice with in law then after that suddenly i’m exploded because everything they said all wrong about me. But they do not want to listen to me and keep on making me looks guilty more and more. So i said to them i do not want to see them until my broken heart healed and recovered and maybe until one of them make an apology. Now already a month. Pray for me the best please. I need someone to cheer me up. 😢😢😢
@fruitypopwhickle68062 ай бұрын
@@Manusiabidadari You deserve love and respect too.❤️ Stepping away from toxic people is hard, especially when it's family, but it's necessary. You can't have good things when you stay in bad places. All the best to you.
@cwayzums Жыл бұрын
My story is that my husband is an inly child and when we got married, the in-laws offered for us to live with them. I said no. Fast forward and we get our own house and she reminds him of his promise (before we even got together) that he would have her live with him whenever he had his own place. I always stood my ground and said no. Now as a mother of boys, and as a future mother-in-law someday, I am raising my sons to do chores, pick up after themselves and help out around the house. Their spouses are not going to be doing everything.
@Bunny1134424 күн бұрын
You made the right choice nothing worst than having to take care of your MIL, like no.
@bubblesbubble52642 жыл бұрын
Please do not let in laws live with you. All happy at first then they show their true side and jealousy comes out and kitchen wars and pettiness and wickedness . Ugh. In laws can move in with other in laws and annoy each other 24 hours a day. Leave the young married couples alone. Married young couples need to save money have their own apartment. No need to live with mommy and daddy with their ears glued to your bedroom door.
@bint3asal597 Жыл бұрын
Very true I live with inlaws and mother controls everythng in ur life am sick of it
@bint3asal597 Жыл бұрын
I can't stand her I wish I never got married my life is not happy and contented
@Mike-01234 Жыл бұрын
This is nothing new I grew up in the 1970's and my Grandmother has passed on years ago now my mother is in her 80's and almost turned into my grandmother who my mother used to complain about just like you are. I catch my mother saying the exact things my mother used to complain my grandmother used to say. She lived with us for about 2 years after she lost most of her retirement in an investment scam and lost her BF of 20 years. My wife couldn't take it anymore hardest thing for me was ask my mother to find somewhere else to live I had to find an apartment about mile from us. Then she found a great house during the market crash she had saved enough money from a house sale didn't end up in that fraud to buy this home back in 2012. Really saved her situation because apartment rents are high now.
@emanfarrukh1892 Жыл бұрын
Totally side you in that
@commercefinds7635 Жыл бұрын
Exactly
@cindyramos5957 Жыл бұрын
Don't even get married if you have a problematic mother in law
@user-lu7zz7gf7l5 ай бұрын
How
@tinaibarra31362 ай бұрын
My mother in law didn’t show her claws until we got married. She completely shifted once her son moved out and married me. I wish she would’ve showed her true colors before hand.
@cindyramos59572 ай бұрын
@tinaibarra3136 In my case I only met her once before marrying and she seemed nice. Big mistake on my part.
@WillowT442Ай бұрын
My ex mil did not show her true colors until after we married. Her behaviors ramped up even more after my children were born. Unfortunately because how I was raised, it never occurred to me to get divorced because of his mom.
@picklepirateАй бұрын
I don’t think that’s correct. Every family is going to have challenges. It’s a lonely life to act like there are perfect families
@nioxa5421 Жыл бұрын
Some moms think their sons are their emotional husbands. In my life, my husband wants my MIL to live with us. She isn’t old (in her 40s) and doesn’t want to work. MIL comes with 2 kids under 10 years old. I told him, if they move into our 1 bedroom apt…. He can pull the load. I won’t be working to take care of a whole extra family and “our” family is struggling.
@ziggypip2938 Жыл бұрын
Harrrrddd noooo
@sd-ud6iq Жыл бұрын
Exactly.they want son to fill gaps left by husband.i mean needs should be met
@isabellopes8906 ай бұрын
Wow. Well said. The MIL is still young.
@vcj80964 ай бұрын
@@sd-ud6iqafter some have killed their husband's with their trouble.
@sbaby-np5hy2 ай бұрын
My mother-in-law was always naive and a little bit on the needy side but now with the passing of my father-in-law she is getting too close and to in the face and space of my family and her son my husband it's too much.
@ginajam64394 ай бұрын
If the mother in law is a problem is because your husband is lame and won't set boundaries
@picklepirateАй бұрын
no, mine is a wonderful mother and hasn’t taken her claws out until our engagement. She’s a human with very real fears. My fiance tries to set boundaries and makes it worse. As his future wife, I’m helping support him to learn what to say to set those boundaries. He’s just a human that doesn’t always have the answers on how to communicate.
@ginajam6439Ай бұрын
@@picklepirate that's what I'm saying. If he doesn't set boundaries, then he is the problem. Obviously, your husband is trying, so my statement doesn't apply to him.
@positivesoul.94903 жыл бұрын
Have you ever been afraid of getting into engagement because of your fiancé 's mom? I can testify...it's extremely a depressing fear.
@shazmeenbank16303 жыл бұрын
You have to make sure you voice this loud and clear to your partner now and see how you both can handle that from now. He has to stand by you so that she knows from now you can't be bullied.
@positivesoul.94903 жыл бұрын
@@shazmeenbank1630 thanks for your quick reply. You re all right and i agree with you. Though, since his mom went on to threaten my mom at her workplace claiming that she will never let her son marry me and better she kills him! that was the most awkward situation for our R/ship, at the extend that i got pressured from my people to break up because both families couldn't seat together someday for our union...i decided to break up. Her narcissistic character is soo unbearable. ( excuse my English, i m an french speaker).
@scottbeard76723 жыл бұрын
@@shazmeenbank1630 You give such great advice sister not just on the show but when replying to others comments. As I said recently in an email you truly have a great gift when it comes to connecting with others and what they are dealing with. You can really see it from their point of view and give the best advice on how to handle it. I support you always in everything you do. God bless you sister 🙏 with lots of hugs and love ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@positivesoul.94902 жыл бұрын
@@remoteworkinghacks we split.
@sanamo86 Жыл бұрын
I would avoid getting married. Whatever fear you have of your MIL will get worse. If she gives you fear, then she will terrify you after marriage and most likely terrorise you, trust me your partner no matter how much they love you they wont be able to do shit about the situation
@melaninchocolate6552 Жыл бұрын
It's weird that women look forward to their sons taking care of them in old age as if they are widows or was a perfect parent, now feeling entitled to their adult children's lives who are now stressed out working full time jobs raising families in this economy....why aren't these mother in laws having husbands taking care of them in old age? ! Weird. So the husbands are uselss and the sons abandon their wives and children to put the needs of his mommy first 😂😂😂 this is beyond disgusting
@ziggypip29384 ай бұрын
Agree!
@mahoganyshanae61162 ай бұрын
Yes! The father is emotional unavailable to his wife so now the mother is emeshed with her son.
@kaurg57532 ай бұрын
Yes thats happening
@christinadukes69277 ай бұрын
You don’t have to deal with her! I’m no contact with mine and very happy. We are cordial. But I don’t have to have many interactions with her. I don’t hate her, I just create big distance because she is rude and toxic. That’s my boundary. ❤
@faceless_blogger5 ай бұрын
Trying to set that boundary with my MIL but she just doesn’t get the msg and insists on calling me. Fake concern - no thank you !!! I just don’t want to engage with her level of pettiness !
@christinadukes69275 ай бұрын
@@faceless_bloggeranswer the phone less. Get a new hobby, get busy. It’s easy. Difficult at first. But focus on your relationship. She’ll get the hint.
@faceless_blogger5 ай бұрын
@@christinadukes6927 Thank you!!! I’m already so busy. It is difficult in Indian context, because as per her, daughters-in-law shouldn’t work. So that they become powerless and can be bullied into being her slaves.
@faceless_blogger5 ай бұрын
@@christinadukes6927haven’t answered her calls in 2 years !!
@christinadukes69275 ай бұрын
@@faceless_blogger You got this hunny and good for you to change the narrative! You are so right how people want you to be powerless so they can run all over you! Keep pushing! And don’t let them tell you about culture. Because I bet they have cell phones! lol! People in the 1800s didn’t have cell phones so the culture thing is bs! Do you hunny! So proud of you!!!!!
@melaninchocolate6552 Жыл бұрын
This is weird!!! Like do these women not have husbands of their own??!! So weird to be jealous of your daughter in law when you have a whole husband of your own. My guess is the mothers are not getting their emotional and physical needs met by their husbands so they make their sons their husbands 🤮🤢🤢🤢 sick enmeshment..gross
@dtraveler3080 Жыл бұрын
And some are just liars anyway. Widowed and at least ten years younger. The birth story my mil tells about ‘giving birth’ is beyond the pale. “The doctor dropped him?” Wow, really? Tell me more. He refuses to say anything but he’s most likely the product of his dads first marriage.😂 None of this will ever come out, so I just laugh at it. The old lady thinks she’s fooling someone .
@melaninchocolate65523 ай бұрын
@@dtraveler3080omg! Please! Not the baby /birthing stories! 😭😞😩
@Bunny1134424 күн бұрын
Nothings worst than a widow
@user-fs6ou3fk9p7 ай бұрын
I started off soft and kind. I've learned, after 43 years, that I had to set boundaries. She's so much worse because of this, but it's necessary. I'm still kind, but firm. She wants private information and then gossips with others in the family or formulates an inaccurate opinion and tells me about it. I still don't share our private info, and she is so difficult, but I don’t give in. She always had a nanny or housekeeper, and this wasn't known by my husband. When I pointed out all the yard help, childcare help, and cleaning help his mother had and I had nothing nor did my mother, he would litterally wave it off. I tried to work it out with my husband but he and the whole clan are bullies.
@22Too8 ай бұрын
The mother must wish for each of her children a happy, loving marriage.
@nizhonichica20057 ай бұрын
in a nutshell imo....people need to grow up, quit running to parents and siblings etc. put up boundaries. put your family first.
@janethuseyin90559 ай бұрын
This women lives in a fairy tale world, there is no way to deal with a toxic narcissist mother in law and a son that always listens to
@vcj80964 ай бұрын
Only God with prayer, and distance can deal with them.
@melaninchocolate65523 ай бұрын
Thank you!!!! She's delusional!!
@gopal108b53 ай бұрын
My ex and i were a perfect match but ended up breaking because of his mum. He was already divorced before we met because of her. Shes twice divorced herself and wants my ex single so he takes care of her. We had fights over it, its been a year and hes still mommys boy. He turns 50 next year and thinks everybody else is the problem but not his narcissistic mother 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
@Mayhem121 Жыл бұрын
The mother in laws behaviour rubbing me up the wrong way has back fired. I have not spoken to her for 1 year and I do not have any plans to speak to her again. I don’t need toxic people in my life no matter who u think u are. And now she barely see’s her son, I’ve told him some home truths about his mother and it’s fact and I feel it’s got him thinking and now he seems to have distanced from her. Maybe even lost respect for her. But she now not making the effort has put her out the picture. Her loss my gain all because of her bad heart.
@bigpeezyweezy Жыл бұрын
I desperately need help my fiance left because of problems with my mom 😢
@Mayhem121 Жыл бұрын
@@bigpeezyweezy no matter what happens if u and ur partner have positive aspects outside of that issue (not a toxic relationship) then give him space and time and he will come back. But allow space and wait for emotions to calm down and express genuine support and understanding from HIS point of view. Then actually make a promised plan to allocate the issue so u can provide a solution to the issue. U have to stand together on this. U will need to speak to your mom and even if the initial plan is not ideal give it time be patient things will work out if it’s meant to be, stress will not help. X
@bigpeezyweezy Жыл бұрын
@@Mayhem121 thanks for reply Zahra. I am the man if the relationship. But my mother and my fiance are totally at war with each other. My mother controls all aspects of my life throughout my entire life. She just worries that my fiance will marry then take half and leave. This will be my second relationship. I was previously married and she also left because of mom. Sigh. I want to man up and start my own life but it is very difficult since my mother is so controlling and very wealthy . I just want the both of them to get along but im not seeing this happen very soon as my fiance and mom are both very “hot headed” people. She has taken my 2 year old child out of the country and now wont talk to me normally.
@Mayhem121 Жыл бұрын
@@bigpeezyweezy ok. If they both love u they will want to either get along or leave each other alone so that u have peace. But your mom being very successful also comes with significant responsibility so I do somewhat understand her challenge to take a step back, she understands there is a lot to lose. But maybe if ur mother has a faith she can lean more into that and let God lead her not temporary wealth control her. The richer u are the harder it is to enter the kingdom of heaven because as your blessings increase so do your battles. Money comes with a lot of risk to ur character and soul! Understand not just how to make money but it’s power and influence especially on yourself the one who has the wealth. If your child is involved you have to all you can do to get ur child back. But the value of ur child comes with also great responsibility, u have to be patient and do the right thing even when the outcome is not as you had hoped. Leave your battles to God he has blessed you with wealth but u are not above him! So turn to him only the Lord has all the answers
@Mayhem121 Жыл бұрын
Ur moms right there is a risk of losing half but u have to choose love or ur money. That’s a risk we all take for love our heart our time and any other investment. But now a child’s involved ur child if u can come to terms of the possibility of her taking half at least u share a child together. Maybe that helps soften the potential blow. If u can understand how u feel and explain this to ur mom even if she does not agree if she can at least understand what u are doing and why then maybe she will calm down. U don’t want to not have a family and be alone forever jus to protect ur money maybe, that’s a decision only u can make for ur own life
@vcj80964 ай бұрын
When a mother inlaw dines with satan. Only God with prayer, and distance can deal with them.
@shimariaportee8504 Жыл бұрын
I've done all of this!!! And it's not working. I officially have a Mama's boy clearly I come last I'm all out of options! 😢 I'm just going to pray about it 🙏🏾
@TheMoonkelly8 ай бұрын
If your MIL is a covert narc, it is near impossible to make things work long term especially if there is probable childhood abuse involved with the son.
@777ALCHEMY8 ай бұрын
I wish I knew what my partners mother was like before we had a baby. I probably wouldn’t be with him today. He puts her above everyone else, I want a partner who isn’t in a weirdly close relationship with his mom too 😅
@Zkhan318 ай бұрын
What to do if a MIL tells a son to divorce/kick out/ calls her mental and curses his wife? You can't be all nice and put all you said practically, just because she is obsessed over her son and she won't let go and won't accept the son giving his wife attention. What to do then?
@nevlieslu21552 жыл бұрын
I’m laughing so hard at this because of the excuses and because if no woman in this world hasn’t already tried
@jacqueruiz61714 ай бұрын
Doesn’t matter the age or era of where the mother in law is from…I don’t have that kind of time to be a parent to a parent. I will not challenge myself to change for someone who doesn’t respect my boundaries or control me. I will gracefully back down. Especially, if my husband finds it hard to stand up for me….sorry not sorry…
@DrUnegbu Жыл бұрын
Some of the advice is good. If you're dealing with a narcissistic extended family system of a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law that wield a lot of power over the family's perception of you, it's a mighty uphill battle. Hence why I tend to try to keep my interactions civil but extremely minimal. After having my son, my MIL was often harsh toward me and rarely helped with anything...she always wanted to be waited on and driven to every church event with little consideration that my husband and I work and at the time had our 3 children who were all under the age of 6. Nowadays I keep my distance and only talk to her when I have to.
@Onalenna_Thobega2 жыл бұрын
This was sooooooo wholesome. And an entirely whole new perspective.
@colletmkc86653 жыл бұрын
Wow Mrs Bank is so sweet and very professional I could listen to her all day. Thanks for sharing I've learnt alot.
@shazmeenbank16303 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much 💓
@kaurg57532 ай бұрын
My mil she never cared about my husband before marriage, the day i got married then she trying to show more love to my husband in front of me
@isaacasare1818 Жыл бұрын
You can’t change everybody or anybody , you can be in control of how you react Key note
@user-zv5fq9ik1e2 ай бұрын
All great advice! Unfortunately, that would work if you’re dealing with MIL who are stable. I talked to mine about boundaries and she ended up turning her family against my husband and I. We found out through another family member who reached out and asked us what happens. They confined in us everything she had been luring about. Now 4 month and we’ve haven’t reached out. It’s sad but, we have so much peace with her at a distance.
@user-fs6ou3fk9p7 ай бұрын
When a mother in law is demanding, that's wrong. When we married we started a new family. I wanted to start our own traditions with our children, but my husband demanded we go to his mother and fathers house for holidays and vacation. He was a coward even though I was straightforward about this.
@christinalopez6610Ай бұрын
Yes! A coward and a traitor. I’m so over it with my husband.
@mfatimah9427Ай бұрын
Often my husband would say, no my mum isn't doing that , saying that, stop blaming her? What can wife do then?
@KryptoNite-nu9sd9 ай бұрын
Shes talking lime everything is so easy.. I dont think she knows anything in real
@shaunald3295 Жыл бұрын
What about the sister in law who thinks her brother is her husband
@user-lx8gq7xg9m3 ай бұрын
I am from Costa Rica, and this was just amsising, I am speeshless!! Thank you!!
@SwitchTVKenya3 ай бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it!
@colorguardmadeeasy47394 ай бұрын
Your husband will adore you more if you get along w/ his Mom! That’s his world & hes loyal to his parents! Be kind!
@CatWalk2 Жыл бұрын
This was a beautiful interview. Thank you!
@rosejacks866211 ай бұрын
I would love to talk to you in person about my mother in law. 44 year’s of a controlling, racist and mean behavior. Don’t give excuses for the husband’s mother. What really matters is the husband and wife, my husband had to take my side after 30 year’s. His mother put him in that situation. It was a battle for many years but I won the war.
@PersianDollTarot4 ай бұрын
I am so happy and grateful that my husband has very strong boundaries with his mother he told her not to ever show up to our house unannounced again and he even protect me from her toxic alcoholic self if I have to put up with her for some reason the last time we had dinner at her house I felt so disrespected we both got up and left I’m so happy and grateful he doesn’t put me through unnecessary trauma from his side of the family he even pays for that woman’s Home
@jefftube58 Жыл бұрын
Although in many cases it is the husband's mother that is the problem, in the majority of cases it is the wife's mother who is the problem. Potential in-law problems can only be fixed in the very beginning, before marriage. Set the soon to be bride's mother straight on boundaries and on what you both will accept and not accept, including the future MIL insulting the soon to be husband or bride. Hammer the woman down on her first attempt. Promise her (and live it out) a second time will not be allowed. If she's stupid enough to try another time, cut all ties of all kinds with her and move away - do not tell her r anyone else where you're moving to and change your phone number. If she finds you and shows up at your place, call the cops and have her charged with trespassing.
@emanfarrukh1892 Жыл бұрын
But you know the problem is that even if you know that you did not get married to your husband to make the in laws happy, you still cant get over the fact that they will always expect you to make them happy because you are living and eating food with them ....thats why I personally feel its best if the son starts living apart from his parents once he gets married because that way he is saving relationships...otherwise there will be conflict no matter how many strategies he and his spouse apply...in laws will always make issues if you live with them....I personally don't like joint family system.....There is so much dramas going on that for a new girl it becomes like a pain in the ass If you want peace and harmony with your in laws, empower yourself with education and career and move out...dont live with them...its not worth it. I am not going to lie over here, but my own mother in law she has been serving her own in laws for 30 years and still has got no respect in the family for all the cooking and management she has done throughout her life. Still dont get how she is living like this with them
@melaninchocolate65523 ай бұрын
Exactly!!! He needs to already be an adult living on his own!! He needs to be financially free from his parents as well!! I want a free man, with no money ties to his parents, he has his own stuff!! Very important to have this so the parents have no control or say on your lives!! I made sure of this and we are living free adult life!!
@elyse44311 ай бұрын
I have a son and he’s not my boyfriend.😂 really with the excuses?
@ahaha82 жыл бұрын
I call mine "old chimpanzee" 😜
@elijahandnylatv Жыл бұрын
Mine is cruella de vil
@tamertesera86482 ай бұрын
That tells who you are. I hope your husband doesn’t call your father “an old chimpanzee”
@Bunny1134424 күн бұрын
Bhahahaha mine looks like one
@funlovers53 ай бұрын
I understood her completely and understand the generational trauma and let my husband be her son first then be anything later I prioritised her day and night thinking that my kindness will make them believe I'm not here to take your son away from you but NO! they're blind about your respect and kindness and the gifts you shower them with... 12 years of trying I would suggest don't waste your energy on pleasing your MIL unless it's done 2 ways unless she considers you as her son's loving wife and tries to make you happy in return. Nop!
@marymcloughlin7136 ай бұрын
This is all good advice, but i do feel like all of the responsibility and accountability falls on the DIL. I feel like that’s just not fair.
@Bunny1134424 күн бұрын
Exactly but eff them try to distance yourself from them if not cut your interactions short, hide in ur room if you have to
@emmad.176 Жыл бұрын
This has been very helpful. Thank you ♡
@justinamusyoka49863 жыл бұрын
Its hard for women to cope well in family set ups,they talk alot and in the process hurt one another. Its always good to keep distance,stay safe. I could've issues with my husband and when i start a conversation with my mum arbitrating,she takes my husband side leaving me stranded.
@shazmeenbank16303 жыл бұрын
It's how you learn to slowly pull her on your side
@peacepractice7779 Жыл бұрын
This is so helpful and healthy! Thank you
@palesaradinne53562 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for this
@tink268 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!!! This video taught me a lot❤
@arthurbalcita48519 ай бұрын
How do you deal with mother in-law who wished her son’s wife to die during childbirth and even called her names like DEVIL? By Amelia
@cindyramos5957 Жыл бұрын
It was great seeing it from the mother in laws point of view
@user-gt8vt1vp5g2 ай бұрын
Yes but if it’s constant then the thank u but no thank u becomes mentally exhausting
@mustardseed123 Жыл бұрын
There comes a point where the mother needs to realise that her son is an adult and to be happy for him that he has found a life partner.
@tatianaallen9136 ай бұрын
Mine lives in Europa but every time she comes is just negativity
@Yasminsunrise2 ай бұрын
This is disgusting why is the mother in law using her son as a husband? This is so wrong
@Rey_N_FranАй бұрын
If she is worried and care it’s NOT about the Wife…ITS ONLY about her son
@rrobles94536 ай бұрын
I just found this video. Thank you
@user-kr9zb2ng8i29 күн бұрын
While the husband's mother is often the problem, many, many new marriages are damaged by the Bride's mother. There can be incalculable damage done when the daughter, the new bride, does not establish boundaries and standards for the mother, and if violated, the mother must have to experience the consequences.
@user-ww2lt5je5f9 ай бұрын
My husband doesn’t want to go to therapy so ima just show him this video 😭
@msm9430Ай бұрын
Would be interesting to see how the advice changes when these women become MILs.
@eunicemaringah44013 жыл бұрын
You haven’t dealt with okuyu MIL🔥
@cynthiamwende88342 жыл бұрын
The worst
@icedollar13913 ай бұрын
My mother in law hate my husband but my build two houses in one compand she actually hate him because of me,always war in our home makes my hubby to think a lot how can I help him
@tash41224 ай бұрын
Nah don’t agree . My mil used our boundaries as target practice.
@augustacookeygam55794 ай бұрын
I am extremely lucky, in my case my mother was the problem and my mother in law is a gentle and kind woman.
@brendasakase18373 жыл бұрын
Very educative
@shazmeenbank16303 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@picklepirateАй бұрын
Thank you so much for this video
@lydiafomuso7168 Жыл бұрын
23:12 I think this is a critical point she made here. We’re all just humans trying to make it
@infinitytrippyvideos16623 жыл бұрын
Why do you think husbands don't take initiative in these situations?
@shazmeenbank16303 жыл бұрын
Sometimes they just don't know how to
@shazmeenbank16303 жыл бұрын
@@bellafantousi6480 not always hunny. Yes sometimes they just won't solve the problem and make its so hard for the woman. But some men once to bring it to their attention a couple of times they don't want to lose their wives and they will work with me to balance this. I feel your frustration hunny.
@sheilamarangu Жыл бұрын
@@shazmeenbank1630 hi.
@christinalopez6610Ай бұрын
They’re cowards.
@infinitytrippyvideos1662Ай бұрын
@@christinalopez6610 well said
@user-eq6to1rg7c2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for Sharing 👏👏👏
@Jaycollection_bry27 күн бұрын
Mine is about church telling me to force my husband to go to there family church and she said I'm doing my duty as a wife she really making me angry she really want to control the son and she can't now she putting it on me
@ilovekandii214Ай бұрын
I don’t feel like her advice was culturally appropriate for Americans. This might work in her culture, but I disagree and believe some of the things she is saying are ridiculous.
@goodnessngwenya98726 күн бұрын
I am old mother I married for 35 years bt won't for get my in- law's. The way their trite me.
@Tarron_Innovative_WorldАй бұрын
My own problem is my mother does not respect our privacy right from day one of our marriage my mother inlaw always comes tp our room to watch movies and leaves around 10pm or more and it became a problem for us and ee had fights yet she doesn't listen. And up till now i have not been able to conceive. What should i do?
@naomiveoo3970 Жыл бұрын
Thank you 🙏
@Ihid-ve2whАй бұрын
In laws are in laws, they are not your friends. The advice at the end of the video about going for coffees with you MIL... Definitely not! She should find her own friends. My mother in law can ask over 10 questions in 1 minute, and if I try to avoid the answer, she keeps asking the same question, she even asks questions about things I know she knows the answer, it is very annoying cause I realise I end up oversharering, and a lot of the questions are about finance, and she shares this information with her whole family, auncles, aunties, etc... Everytime after being with her I get anxiety and my partner won't let me set boundaries and stand my ground, the questions happen in my house and her house, so it is hard to be direct cause it feels disrespectful each time, so I have distanced myself from her, but that means I spend less time with my partner because of that. I am at the end of my tether I am afraid, and next time she will get a direct answer, i hope I can be assertive so I dont have it with my partner, but enough is enough.
@tamertesera86482 ай бұрын
The problem is, woman in general are entitled. Both the wife and the mother think they are entitled. The wife doesn’t see how attached she is to her mother or father but yet be upset about how attached her husband is to his family. Love your mother in law because without her your husband won’t have existed in this world.
@Bunny1134424 күн бұрын
No
@AVVVV7773 күн бұрын
This advice is so terrible! The husband needs to tell his mom that she needs to focus on her own marriage and her own life and leave their life to them, to run as they see fit. It's not the son's or daughter-in-law's duty to emotionally placate this fragile and pathetic mother-in-law . And if the Mother-in-law was so interested in the so-called Journey as this woman states in the video, then she would know that part of her son's journey is to move on get a girlfriend or wife and have children of their own which means that part of the journey, means that she has to back off completely period,end of story.
@rehemaachiko50613 жыл бұрын
I usually love this lady
@kukubebo5 күн бұрын
My father in law is a bigger problem
@shimariaportee8504 Жыл бұрын
Both of my parents are in Heaven and I don't associate with NONE of my family maybe there's others like me???
@2991nikita2 жыл бұрын
What if husband only saying i will not talk to my parents and i will not say them anything Then when wife says i cannot listen more now n i will not be able to talk daily i need time to which he said now no time its either this side or that side thats it
@shristigahatraj5170 Жыл бұрын
I had passed through this situation for this you need to be patient ,and make a strong bond with your husband .
@lilianouma74353 жыл бұрын
Wow, make sense
@shazmeenbank16303 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@mpendakiswahili30533 жыл бұрын
No it's not always the mother in law's fault ...some women want to change men...
@shazmeenbank16303 жыл бұрын
I agree
@happinesslugiko2150 Жыл бұрын
True
@elyse44311 ай бұрын
He’s not a man if he needs his mommy to protect him from his wife 😂
@irenekavishe21139 ай бұрын
No woman wants to change any man!!Its the mother’s in laws who wants the things they dd in their entire life to continue after her son is married!!Which is impossible!They have started their family and not joint a family
@tamertesera86482 ай бұрын
@@irenekavishe2113 Yes, there are so many woman who wants to change a man. Make them their slave. Yes, a mother will be there to defend her son. I hope your husband won’t hate your father (as a father in law).
@shimariaportee8504 Жыл бұрын
And we have no children
@bankergill83405 ай бұрын
Lekin meri sans to apni beti ko bhagwan manti h meri nnd itni ameer h Or hm dono yha berozgaar h abhi fr bhi wo apni beti ko yha se itna deti h meri nand bhi lalchi h mujhe nhi pta mujhe bura kyu lgta h wo unki beti h dene do but fr bhi mujhe lgta h ki ye glt h pta nhi kya shi h kya glt mujhe to Meri nnd ameer hone ka ghmnd dikhata h mujhe ki mere pas to itne kpde h ye h wo h Or yha apni maa se le jati h itne sare suit vgra Kya kru m M glt hu kya??
@staceyportnoy17033 ай бұрын
Why is it always the Mom. Maybe the DIL is jealous of the relationship and you shouldn't abandon your parents just because you get married.
@heenagupta95772 жыл бұрын
Wow
@victoriatitus6581 Жыл бұрын
This sounds like fairy tales for African mil especially the yoruba mil
@22Too8 ай бұрын
Blah, blah, blah.
@JM-gh1oz3 жыл бұрын
Whats her facebook page?
@shazmeenbank16303 жыл бұрын
Instagram @beingrealnow. Hardly post on facebook
@JM-gh1oz3 жыл бұрын
@@shazmeenbank1630 Thanks!
@1025gfab Жыл бұрын
Totally unrealistic. The wife or daughter either chooses you and only you..... or He / She is OUT FOREVER. DIVORCE. BYE BYE.
@juliallorente2719 Жыл бұрын
❤
@silent.e Жыл бұрын
In-laws are interesting. Some people have amazing in-laws, some have bad luck. What's something nice your in-laws have done for you? kzfaq.info/get/bejne/ithdm8uHtqetgGQ.html