I want to emphasize respect in this video is equated to seeing and treating people as an equal. I know there are several definitions of respect but i use what is basically the bare minimum in this video.

People are so programmed, I was raised to think I was just wrong all the time, hushed up and sent to my room. Disrespect is how it's done, like we all live in a psychological prison and all you have is street cred and the tough guy act. Take care.

There is a harsh reality of life you must understand: most people are not going to respect you no matter what you do. The world doesn't care. Use this as fuel to better yourself. I speak from experience and a life of suffering. Don't worry I don't need your pity or want it--just trying to help.

It often ties into lack of self respect

Ive been bullied for 20 years im still trying to get over it 💛💛💛💛💛💛

After being raised to be well-mannered and respectful of others, I realized that alot of people were not taught to do that same or abandoned that way of thinking along time ago. I started to notice that I had developed a predictable nature and people would often knowingly use it against me to take advantage of my kindness. When that happens to you for the first time you start to see that the reason why people close to disrespect you is because it's all a game to them and your good nature usually means you're guaranteed to forgive them in the end no matter what they do. You'll start to realize that the reason why people ask you to do favours is because they know you are good-willed and will most likely end up helping them, often with little to no expense or effort on their part. Those are just a few examples I can think of but the nice guy/good guy/ persona is a nightmare to be caught up in. Once you have a reputation as a "good person" it will be very difficult to reclaim your self-respect. People will call you crazy and say you've snapped or possibly under the influence if you ever say no to them, try to set new boundaries or stand up and protect yourself.

People very often “disrespect” someone for extremely arbitrary reasons, to do with things out of their control, usually like how they look. This isn’t the person not respecting themselves (as to why others disrespect them), it’s something beyond their control and often something they are even oblivious too until others point it out.

The moment you learn to respect yourself, people automatically change the way they engage with you. And i don't think it stays in just that. Goes deeper, and i think it comes to how reality actually is. You can change things outside actually, by changing them internaly first. Reality is absolutely malleable.

24 year old guy here and I‘m just learning to stand up for myself and respect myself, it’s never too late people

I love content like this. Key things ... - Live in the present, don't rely on the future or past. - Don't rely on external validation, internal (your) own validation is what matters. - Don't put people on a pedestal, value yourself first and foremost. Thanks for the vid 👌

Damn this is real asf, i think u need to love yourself to being respected, if You don love You u gonna let the people being disrespectful with you, person whos reading this You are amazing, love yourself u are Unique in this world, be the better versión of You ❤

People won't respect you if you're mentally fickle and passive. Like it or not, people WILL always test your composure and sense of self-respect. One of the things I had to learn the hard way is separating someone respecting you and someone who likes you. When I was in early 20s I fought and knocked out one of my former coworkers outside of work, because he was constantly playing power games with me and kept poking me with slick remarks. He thought we were cool because there were times where I would banter back, but there was a underline sense that he didn't respect me and it was hindering my job performance. I told him multiple times to stop playing with me, and he found out why after work. I'm a bit older and wiser now, where my sense of wanting to be be liked/loved has been replaced with a idgaf if you don't like me, talk about me behind my back, or ruined my chance of climbing up the social ladder, I will be that party pooper and lame who'll shut down any slick remarks or disrespect.

I had the inverted problem growing up. I was treated as too much of an equal growing up; adults had waaay too high expectations of me. I was under a lot of pressure to work hard growing up, to the detriment of my childhood. As a result, I’ve kinda never learnt to say no; since expectations of me have always been high, and I’ve always fought hard to meet them, when someone asks me to do something (even if it’s not my responsibility) I tend to do it to my own detriment. The upside is that almost everyone I know (at least to my face) respects me a lot and treats me really well, but I’m in terminal fear of not meeting someone’s expectations. I worry that if I let one or two people down I’ll lose the respect and good treatment but still have the rather high expectations imposed on me, giving me the worst of both worlds. Honestly though, I just don’t know how long I can keep up with the ever-rising expectations of me. Every time it feels like I “made it” and reached what was expected of me, the bar feels like it moves higher, and I never get a moment of rest. And, unfortunately, I’m in an academic and career path where reputation and respect amongst peers really decide how successful you are.

I can really resonate with everything you're saying right now. I've been living like that for years and it got to the point where I don't even react anymore or even make fun of myself as a way to cope with it.

just because you were allowed to fail don't mean you have one less person in poverty, is an admirable achievement

just wanted to drop this comment and laud you for just how fucking real you are and how much this video spoke to me and my experiences. everything you say about coming to grips with and claiming your self worth for yourself and not taking shit from no one is something i've been going through in recent months so naturally what you've said is stuff i've already thought through before and agree with, but just seeing someone else express those sentiments so authentically in such a heartfelt manner made me (and definitely many others watching) feel completely seen and validated in their growth as people, and i wanna let you know how fucking awesome you are for that. keep being real like this, you'll be goin far yknow lol

Ngl i avoid negative people

I love the video it's giving 2000s aesthetic ❤❤❤

This channel has soo big potential keep it up❤

I just ghost those people who don’t respect me. It wasn’t my parents mistreating me but my own cousins.

Respect is correlated with how well you make sense, which leads to success, which people want.

Respect is earned. You want respect you have to build it. Social status, influence, wealth, and control. Your power must be absolute then you will be respected. But you don't need the respect of others to live your life. Just respect yourself.

you're fantastic this is something I really needed to process and think about

I was talkative as a kid as well then I got put in my place and now I don’t even like speaking to people like that when they ignore or disregard your voice.

i dont want respect if i havent earnt it

Thank you for this video it made me feel 100x better💜

This explains quite a bit of things that had happened in my life and still do to some extend, whichever may be yours, i want to thank you for it helps to have some guidense since i am 15 and autistic Holy cow I just hit gold with your channel, am gonna checkout how much of your vids may help and also thank you for making this type of stuff okay byeeeeeeee :D

28 here and it always feels like no one really respects me as a person. From time to time, I feel like I've always been treated like I'm the laughingstock of the entire world by almost everyone. It's like I've always been misunderstood. I am so screwed up that it makes others look good. Part of the reason is I sometimes say, do or think things out loud that put me in unpleasant situations. Always been friendless and never had a romantic partner in my life. I did almost everything they've ever asked and I've done it well. Guess I'll never know what it is people really wanted. They never seem to deal with me as a child and can't stand the sight of me as an adult. Seriously, what is it that galls people so? Is it because I'm not like them or that I just might be better? At this point, I just don't or can't understand people at all. Might as well be alone.

I bet you suffered a lot, and you got so many traumas as a child, like me, congratulations for making it as this far, even so i need to tell my self this first, i just dom't feel that working on myself, but i really liked your way of talking and everything, i enjoyed your video, try to sleep it is very important, i knew that you were deprived just from your eyes, looking from you more content, thanks for the riminder leilani❤

First of all I appreciate you and everything you said and I do feel like you in a lot of ways, and it feels bad like hell sometimes even just feeling alive but I’ve learned and adapted to it for forever now and now I feel the ick when I get confidence and I feel the confidence is too much and too big and I don’t want to put that on other people so I’ve always been a background player who never really tries to put anything on anybody and I don’t know how to get over that because it kinda works for me in a weird way, I don’t know what my true self is anymore honestly

This was a great video, I hope you are having a great day!!!

you're right on certain parts but wrong on others. ngl I see it consistently with your other videos too. also your understanding and personal growth is similar to mine, however from my view it is too optimistic. won't deny that the messages are good, it will help normal people.

I know how you feel on being the black sheep

This is the best video I have watched in a long time. I will carry this new knowledge into 9th grade once summer ends. I transferred to a high school that is not in my district so that I wouldn’t be surrounded by my bullies any longer. I’ll start putting your advice about self-image and perspective into practice so I will walk into my new school knowing I won’t be treated like trash anymore. You don’t realize how much this will save my life. Thank you.

Although brass knuckles are banned in most states, you can take a large locking carabiner and either use a file or a grinder to make gaps and pointed edges on the side. You should then be able to fit all 4 fingers in the carabiner and have the long (pointed) edge protecting your knuckles and inflicting more damage to your opponent (Whoops I think I commented on the wrong video. Or maybe not...)

Those two bang-strands make Sis look like she goin' thru it for real :D It's very cool: Video feels very authentic :) One thing not mentioned (in this video) that will be appreciated, is that some people simply NEED to disrespect (a certain) someone. For example: Two different people may view the same person as inferior in a certain way (this person's status, job, personality or whatever it may be)... one of these two people will see this person as inferior and just treat them like shit (think of the people who go to a restaurant and treat their waiter like a sub-human) while the other will see something about this person as objectively inferior, but they will follow this realization up with a rationalization ("They are working at McD's while I'm working as a stock broker, but I don't know where they've come from and what they've been thru") for this person's circumstances. What's the difference? Misery. Sounds corny, but some people are loving and others are the opposite. A person who cannot respect someone as a human being no matter what is miserable and cannot feel love. This is a very unpleasant sort of person to be. Do not let others disrespect you and they won't. They only succeed in disrespecting you when you allow it, and the first and only step is to respect yourself like Sis says in this video.

I'm getting very sick and tired of this world and what people respect versus what they don't and what women want versus what they don't I'm going joker here I'm starting to legitimately lose it.

This is a vicious cycle in childhood brought on by the school system (which facilitates the bullying for control over the masses). The bullies are just as insecure, if not more, than the bullied. They are just more successful. They are more successful sometimes for being stronger or more popular. But also simply because the bullied refuse to participate in the abuse of others. Kids don't have the experience to know what's going on or even know this paradigm is what they are set in. All they know is abusing each other for dominance. Many are prepared early by their parents to dominate and bully the other kids for "advantage". Those parents also had an inferiority complex and pass it on to their children, perpetuating this vicious cycle.

It sadly happens. Some people will disrespect you, and find something to bully you for. Thats why you need to bite their hands off if they lay em upon you, no matter the consequences. Never give in and never back down.

Love is kind. Simple kindness and gentleness are in very short supply these days. When we first set up the operation we found this was real problem: we had to teach people how to treat one another with courtesy and consideration kindness is not just going around with a goofy smile on your face: rather it is the exercises of the imagination God gave you to see how others are feeling and to work out what they are likely to need. People often come up to me after a meeting and ask how they can get further into the spiritual life. One method is by memorising scripture get steeped in the word of god. Another is by having good, close fellowship and talking matter over. Such fellowship means among other thing giving freely, being quick to apologise, for getting righteous indignation. If difficulties arise between you and another Christian the keep your mind on the primacy of love and unity if a major matter of morality or spiritual principle is involved, then love and unity are all the more necessary. This is one area of life where we do need brainwashing love, love, love, all the way. Love is my aim. I know that I need many other gifts in my Christian life, but my primary goal is love. Thank you god bless you

4:30 i never saw it that way, it's really good to check it out. I usually do the excercise of "flipping the roles around" but i guess i didn't do it socially. 9:45 pls get some sleep, that kinda deprivation fucks up every aspect in life. motivation, life expectancy, anxiety problems, etc. 10:51 well, that's new! there's a lot of things that i didn't know about in here, and i'm for it. 11:29 i kinda disagree, but if you mean in emotions, yeah, sure. But i do perceive myself better that murderers, rapists, etc.

I hope you can see yourself as you truely are and never again allow anyone to treat you poorly. See past the filter. You have everything to offer. Never allow for anyone to hurt you - ever again. Intelligent, beautiful. I wish the very best!

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I’m pretty much subhuman but at the same time I wanna have some level of respect so It doesn’t go so far.

I respect myself but I don't know when, why or how I disrespect myself.

yea lifes hard its even worse when the world is saying on thing but u feel the other way. and then there is some people ho make it loook easy.

As an autistic adhd individual I have managed to escape the narcissistic parental jail only 3 years ago and begin realizing what I have been gone through just recently. I just wanted to say: I love you. I feel you. I sympathise with you. You are not alone. Moreover, what happened has happened, I forgive everyone. I just want to move on… I have reverted to Islam a year ago and Allah has given all of the things that I have desired for my whole life in this last one year. InshaAllah you would be able to find this peace as well. May Allah guide you. May peace be upon you.

Hello~ i just want to say that you're really pretty, you don't have to hide your face with your hair, i just can't help but think you'll also look pretty with your hair tied up and showing your face clearly, have a good day ✨

Dude, how did i not sub after your "communication" video, im all in for this type of vids😆🙏🏼

Have you ever looked into your Human Design composition? I wonder if Gate 23.2 is active in you: "The need to abandon tolerance, when survival and individual expression is threatened."

Everybody deserves respect but respect needs to be earned! It’s not like you give it away like you give away candy!

You’d think it’d go away in adulthood but nah to be fair i get why some people earn respect and some don’t but there’s times where first impressions count so much it’s hard to make that up.

Messaged my ex again. Met up turns out everything was a misunderstanding in both ends. We allegedly make up but it’s over hasn’t responded to me in 2 days. Had a friend I haven’t spoken to in months and he replied to me within the hour. Yeah I love my ex and I deserve to burn because of it but in the end I’m not crazy and I’m done with that person no blocking simply done. No hatred just pure frustration of being treated 2nd class.

10:53 is EXACTLY how i was/how ive been for a while lately oh my god

The title made me chuckle a bit

The only persons respect you need in this world is your own, everyone else's is irrelevant. People's perception of you will always be fickle. Also you're mad cute.

Good lord my dear, you're absolutely stunning

I learned in grade school punches speaker louder than words 😂

1:24 exactly “ah bro You can’t take X insult that I know is pretty personal you’re sensitive brah!!!” People love shitting on you then when you snap You’re crazy,boring,or have no sense of humor.

I don't want respect from others nor do I want to respect others. Screw the world. My life belongs to me. I can do what I want when I want and if anyone wants to get in my way then they're gonna have a hell of a bad time.

The problem is that I'm forced to work with people who feel this way towards me. Who don't treat me with respect, yet I have no choice but to be around them. It's either I make $150k a year or leave this job and make $60k a year. So I don't want to just leave this job, I have to put up with it. :(

Sounds like you suffered from the looking glass self. So many people mistreat you that you think you deserve it. But it takes one or two people to treat you better to reset your baseline in life and say “I deserve better”. Now I don’t put up with any disrespect at all, I know everyone is on their learning phase but if someone needs to learn to treat people right that is not my problem.

I can’t defend myself, I’m in my late 20s and I’m broken. Every time I would get angry as a child my dad would beat me. Im now scared to stand up for myself, people can tell and I get taken advantage of. I cant keep a job as I keep getting burned out from all this I’ve been physically abused at jobs and I just freeze up, I can’t/don’t stand up for myself

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Well on the other hand who needs their disrespect? Fr

amazing video

Why do society and the people around witnessing the wrongdoing of others just get conniving or simply turn a blind eye? I blame society for disrespectful behavior of single individuals's antisocial behavior.

The whole general cosmos. The special Earth. The whole general Earth. The Earth's wealth of open liquid water. All that water. The special water cycle. The water cycle. Biological life. General biological life. Animal life. General animal life. Human life. General human beings. Woman. I personally got this from Genesis 1-2. But, I would say its in reality anyway.

Honestly people don’t respect people who don’t allow them to maintain the illusion of their identity. Masculine men respect you for making them feel strong, people fighting for authority seek to feel a source of truth, people want to feel they are normal by seeing you mirror their own actions. You’re a thinker, you seem honest rather than a show runner and that exposes reality to people who have no intrest in it. It’s rare for anyone to say the words think you need to hear in order to grow. They are more likely to judge others untill it’s time to inflict verbal harm. Idk you seem really cool. I’d love to see you succeed lady

My hops They wanna see me gone 'cause of my hops Shot in the dome 'cause of my hops And ballin' no more 'cause of my hops My hops They wanna see me sprayed 'cause of my hops And sleepin' in a grave 'cause of my hops And not getting paid 'cause of my hops Ballers know the deal when they see me in the place Follow up, two-hand dunk, nuts in ya face See, you was under the goal Where the big boys play, so now you know I'm 6'2" with crazy hops From that two-hand in my video, I'm still gettin' props Light feet, I wear a size ten That's why I'm gettin' up time and time again Boys look like they wanna squab when they see me snowbird 'Cause they know they gonna get a two-hand-reverse Or I might just do a self alley And hang on the rim 'til your posse wanna blast me Yeah, that's how I do On this hoop court, I'm a fool And I'm still getting up To get the whole place crunk My hops They wanna see me gone 'cause of my hops Shot in the dome 'cause of my hops And ballin' no more 'cause of my hops My hops They wanna see me sprayed 'cause of my hops And sleeping in a grave 'cause of my hops And not getting paid 'cause of my hops I'm paid, I gives a fuck about a win I'm trying to get me a nasty bam in A loss I don't bar I leave the court and get freaked by three stars That's the life of a G My hoop shorts too long to ever see a knee White or black T-shirt, that's a bet And I'm always dry, 'cause real ballers never sweat Damn, a thug got game I could've hooped in the pros but mothafuck a plane And boys know where I be Marian, ballin', is where to find me Hooping on a Thursday night Rising to the occasion, and taking time flight And oh yeah, I got that thang with me Under the bleachers you'll do a 360 My hops They wanna see me gone 'cause of my hops Shot in the dome 'cause of my hops And ballin' no more 'cause of my hops My hops They wanna see me sprayed 'cause of my hops And sleeping in a grave cause of my hops And not getting paid 'cause of my hops My hops They wanna see me gone 'cause of my hops Shot in the dome 'cause of my hops And ballin' no more 'cause of my hops My hops They wanna see me sprayed 'cause of my hops And sleeping in a grave cause of my hops And not getting paid 'cause of my hops My hops

woah, ur an actual genius 😍

What if everyone treats you as less than human?

9:10 It might seem odd, but there is an easy answer to that. Do you REALLY want the respect of the people that are nasty enough to exhibit such behaviours? I am not sure there is a direct equivalent in English but in my language there is a word "μεγαλόφρων" that means "a person with a higher level of behaviour/ethics". Those are the kind of people you'd like to respect you. The petty people that would deliberately aim to denigrate someone else so that they could finally feel like they are worth a damn? Why would you care what they even think? So why bother defending yourself? It is an honour for you that petty people like them dislike you. While the years pass you will realise that the dislike/distaste of some people is the best badge of "you are doing something right in life" that you can earn. 11:08 Friends do not need to be your equal. Be a friend to them and they will be a friend to you. That's all that is needed. No need to "measure" each other or even count pennies about who contributes the most to the "friendship". It is not a business contract, friendship. 14:04 You are basing a lot of things on "worth" and it should be a good video to try to define what/how you measure it. In your example, the person in the car is immaterial. Since they are driving a car, they are "worth" more on the highway. Think of it this way. You are a passenger on a plane. The pilot might be a totally bad person, a criminal even, but at the moment the pilot is worth all your lives, because if the pilot fails you all perish. The personal worth of the pilot is immaterial. What the pilot is doing/driving defines the pilot's worth at the moment.

I can tell whats going on with you. The reason people do that to you is because they’re telegraphing their inferiority complex. You bring that out in them. Just listening to you try to get a handle on it, I can feel that old rage rising to the surface. You’ll survive it. Use it. I know exactly what youre going through. You’re right and they’re wrong.

I like the way you think. Sweet dreams :3

I trurly don't know what to say for today's input... just don't obssess over this topic, it's not boring or anything, but any kind of obssession is bad.

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3:54 do you mean below the respect level or something if not then please explain that 😅

Senhores, me apaixonei novamente por uma mulher que mora longe e nem sabe que eu existo

I'm sorry. I imagine you as a stuffed animal named grumpy bear, but out of respect for you I still refer to you as Leilani. You see in my mind I see you as a black stuffed bear with a heart stitched on it's stomach, it has a melancholy demeanor and helps me by explaining life advice in an animated fashion... I know you're a person though, and I respect that despite how cute grumpy bear is. It's not that I don't take grumpy bear seriously per se, I just know others might not. Out of respect for you I'll refrain from posting "thanks grumpy bear, I needed that today" after every video. I digress, another thing. What's helped me in respecting myself and thus finding respect from others was building something and developing skills other than the realization other's really arent just inherently better. This creates a much stronger sense of self almost subconsciously, armored against the abysmal behavior of others. Food for thought, Leilani. Nice vid.

Serious vocal fry !!!

Ali G has a great short speech about this

I didn’t expect to be so called out lol , but it was the painful truth i needed to hear.

bold of the title to assume that, but hey, the riches lie in risking :)

Great video

What is your body count?

respect is so weird to me I feel like its unnecessary

That I feed the beggar, that I forgive an insult, that I love my enemy in the name of Christ-all these are undoubtedly great virtues. What I do unto the least of my brethren, that I do unto Christ. But what if I should discover that the least amongst them all, the poorest of all beggars, the most impudent of all offenders yea the very fiend himself-that these are within me, and that I myself stand in need of the alms of my own kindness, that I myself am the enemy who must be loved-what then?

No Juniper today 😔

Ayn rand gets a lot of shit for saying some people are better than others and you need to recognize where you stand on a hierarchy. She's just going more in depth with the story of the three little pigs and it shows no one actually gets it. No, I'm not going to let my brother think it's ok to build his house out of hay or sticks. It will hurt his feelings and he'll have to eat his pride and live with me in the brick house but at least he'll be alive. Equality is the war cry of the unjustifiably indignant.

but i don't want to be certain way for people to like me by being someone that i'm not i love being my real true self i don't like most of us get label we don't respect ourselves all because i'm shy i think there is nothing wrong with being shy, weird and difference i think it's ok good natural thing it's not bad thing to me if some of us are shy, weird, weak and difference that's what makes us unique but the only thing i do agree what you said that we are equal nobody is better than anyone ele i do agree most say the reason why most treat some of us that love to be too nice friendly because they are not happy with there life, jeaoulsy and inecurities bring us down so they can feel better about themselves sometimes i do stand up for myself to my family and most of the majority of people i do get fed up with how the way most people treat me called them out they label is a bad just for standing up for myself to them but i do it all the time because i think i don't deserve to be treat it like trash the reason why i don't stand up for myself everyday because i fear my family almost kick me out and they will get a beating get in trouble i think that's why i don't stand up for myself everyday i only do it sometimes when i actually really get fed up and i agree that i am my own best friend

I Love Leilani She’s Beautiful in The Video My First Time Watching Her Video I Have 2 Roommates they Kinda Soft they Cool the One is Like a Bully they Respect Me I Respect them Too the Fullest of My Heart lol this is the Video that I Needed lol 💙💙💙

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OMG your beautiful ❤

I love you

Did you go to Harvard? Some call it better than Community College.

I didnt understand anyshit the kind of life that women and men have is very different. Anyway good vid

Jesus Christ are we in 2008?

I think this is bs. Unless you also treated others with less respect. I always hear this but I never treated other who maybe had low self esteem as lesser so I think ppl who do are just scumbags

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