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We suffer more often in imagination than in reality

When you worry, you suffer twice.

This reminded me of Mark Twain's quote "I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened." So very well put.

"My life has been full of terrible misfortunes. Most of which never occurred." - Montaigne

“Ghosts don't haunt people--their memories do.” ― Alexandra Bracken, Never Fade

So childhood is primary at all time. That's why I think some people should be licensed to have kids.

Is anyone else *scared* to be optimistic/not fear the worst?

I waste so much of my life worrying. Thanks for the content.

I am extremely insecure. I have fear in starting anything. The good thing is, as bad as it might seem, I take action towards improving myself every day. Making note of the little good things we do and the little advances we make is more important than dwelling on the bad things.

🌼 _"we can rebuild our lives in a new way elsewhere"_ 🌼

Such brilliant minds we have.. yet so fragile

Came across this video cause I can't sleep from worrying ohhhh the irony....

I worry about worrying so much.

These animations are... something

i was literally panicking about my thesis and this actually helped me calm down abit

I heard a good term, recently, which sums up my existence. “Analysis paralysis”. It helped me to realize that worry, and anxiety, are an exhausting, but fruitless, way to live. However, my lines are blurred between worry and anxiety.

I brought this video up with my therapist yesterday and it was such a fruitful session. Once I realized that some of my deep-seared worries have childhood antecedents, it became clearer that some of the things I fear are all in my head. Powerful material

I've been watching "School of Life" videos for awhile now, and I've come to really like them. I particularly dislike being lied to, or given a rosy picture in place of badly needed answers. School of Life does give me good to very good answers nearly every time. I really appreciate you guys.

This video has impeccable timing. My mother was just complaining to me about a lot of irrational fear. It's night time and she is working herself up instead of winding down.

"The catastrophe that we fear will happen, has already happened... Mourning for our past self" the next step is to learn the things that we didn't learn from our parents and other adults which other people already learned.... this is awesome. Thanks

All we truly have is right NOW! Yesterday is OVER and tomorrow may not come. Be in the moment and allow yourself to feel GOOD🙂💖

TSoL! You are just in time, as always!!!

I thought it was only me who worry all the time. This is enlightening! Thank you 💜💜💜

Another saying: "What's in the way, is the way." Learning to sit with the anxiety in meditation; sit with it, let it break into ordinary consciousness and feel it in the body without denying the discomfort...that sometimes helps it to process, transform, and move for me. Sometimes.

I worry 24/7. Unstoppable. You can imagine how exciting that is. Well, sad. Lol. Great animation.

Fantastic video. I wrote down parts of it and I am hanging the sheet on the wall of my bedroom as a daily reminder. Alain is seriously one of the wisest people alive

I saw my mom dead when I was a girl, so now I have this horrid, impending fear of my partner dying tragically. I get unwanted thoughts and feelings. It feels like I'm so alone and that there's nothing I can do to help myself.. I miss being young when I didn't worry about him that way. I wish I could talk to someone

That’s really true and it’s amazing how you posted this now! this month I grew better at understanding “ how to deal with daily worries” through therapy. And I found out that the best thing for me is to deal with the worst things I have been through in the past and that I just never talked about. It’s really tough because I somehow feel like going through the bad moments all over again but also having to be at peace with what happened, for example forgiving others, forgiving myself, acknowledging that not everything that happened was necessarily about me, and that I am not that big of deal to feel like everyone wanted to hurt me in the past or now.. and “moving on” is the biggest step that will allow us to be free and truly grow.

"Adult life doesn't have to be.. like our childhood."

Thank you so much for this. I am a full-time worrier, though I've been in therapy for the past 6 years in and out, and I've improved quite a bit. In some instances I have already identified what in my childhood caused me to be insecure, but I forget that it can be applied to so much more. I really needed this, especially in this moment where I've been through some tough issues for the past two weeks and have been feeling particularly insecure and frightened. Fortunately, I have my therapy session today. Thank you!

reminds me of what toph said to korra when she was trying to metalbend: "That fight is over; release the fear."

Worry is indeed something I struggle with. I fear making mistakes that hurt the people around me, like being too slow holding people up and causing them to get mad at me. I worry about getting hurt myself. I worry about the food I eat causing me to fall ill. I worry about becoming a terrible nuisance to my environment. I worry about how my family would get depressed because I ended up killing myself. I worry about my brain not working well enough to earn a living causing me to live in poverty and dying of starvation. I worry about not being able to retrain my brain to become a productive member of society. I worry about getting overwhelmed. But I have found it helpful to watch videos and read books to increase my intelligence. I've found it helpful to talk with my support workers about my issues. I've found it helpful to talk to my councilor. I've found the medication I'm taking, help me focus my attention for longer. I've found it helpful to plan things out, and remind myself of all the things I've managed to accomplish in the day. I've found it helpful to relax in the evening and play some games. Also doing some stretching and exercise in the morning seems to wake me up enough to have a better day. I have yet to learn not to kick myself in the but all the time. But I guess, if life was perfect, it might not be any fun.

I’m worried I will never succeed in life.

"I've had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened." -Mark Twain

5:03 this is fine

I don't know what I love more. The animations or the messages!?

It's normal to worry about the future or things beyond your control. But you can do better by focusing on what you can do, one thing at a time. Yes, you certainly can. :)

I'm forever grateful to my mother for giving me the tools to deal with all the crap life has thrown. I didn't know it then, but the older I get the more I appreciate it. I'll be sharing this video with all the worriers I know and love. Hopefully they will like it as much as I do. Thanks

I totally agree with this. I have experience the understanding, now I'm adult, and now I have the tool and more power to face my problems. unlike when I was a child. so grown ups, be happy! this is a good news. that we can do better!

I suffer from emotionally unstable personality disorder. Its constant. Its the way my brain works. These videos are my lifeline. I feel so soothed by listening to this guy. Thankyou so much. Xx

Omg, I love these videos so much. And the last seconds he always talks in such a compassionate way. Thank you The School of Life !

this particular video brought tears to my eyes. thanks for everyone behind this

I get chills every time a video of TSoL ends. Thanks for doing what you do

When something you worry about happens, the feelings isn't satisfactory, it's even more depressing. Begging the question "Why do we do it?"

This is very helpful , as a NDPH fighter there’s a shift in my nature and I worry. your video helps me understand that the worst has happened already and there’s no point worrying now - I am hopeful to recover from it instead of worrying about it. Many thanks 🙏🏻

Just came up as notification when I was lying down worrying about stuff. I won't say it helped a lot, because I am worried that it will come back when I exit this video. But it gave me joy when I heard that there's more people like me who worry, but stay on as functional adults. Thanks, SOL.

This one really hits home. My seemingly endless pattern of recurring thoughts with grief as the central theme can only end once these voices have been heard. I'm not sure why that hasn't been allowed, so far.

Fockin' mind. Blown. To pieces. This video is what I needed to get over my current road block. Thank you @The School of Life.

You have no idea how I much I needed this right now. I love you

This is amazing!!!

This video is exactly what I wanted to hear on so many different levels. Thank you so much. I'm grateful.

adorably put and delightfully animated!

This probably unrelated but I've spent the last year of my life actively trying to put myself in situations that force me to boil in my deepest fears. And I feel great!

You know; I hear this, and I accept and understand the logic… but translating that into healing… I’m still at a loss

Thank you for these videos. They really work and make a difference. I always feel calmer and more balanced after watching them.

Thank you, even though I commented negatively on one of past videos, this one left me with sense of hope and I really can see effort and wisdom put in.

This is exactly what i needed to hear right now.. thank you guys so much

Nice video. In life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. Be careful what you feed your mind. Feed trash and trash will come out. Avoid comparing yourself with others, avoid storing bottled up emotions, reduce watching negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. For a relaxed mind observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils and within the nostrils for 10-15 minutes or more. You can sit on a chair or lay down anywhere, be as still as possible, eyes closed but no deep breathing. Don’t fight your thoughts. Make it a lifetime habit to observe your breath before sleep, when travelling, when reading, at the workplace etc, if needed with eyes open. Best wishes--Counsellor.

oh you hit the spot today, just what I needed, thank you for making today just that little bit more optimistic.

Confidence is the Key!

The School Of Life has perfect timing everytime.

I really like the weekly reminders to breathe that you provide. All your videos are like breaths of fresh air to me.

I think this is seriously one of the best, if not the best, video you made. Thank you so much for your work!!!

So I've come to a point of rewatching some of TSoL's videos, and I have to say one of the most influential ways in which these seem to influence me immediately is I get to not feel so lonely in my now adult(ish) life. Thank you TSoL, you have already made my existence significantly easier & it's only been like 3 months since I've come across this channel

I once tried to worry when I wanted to do something fun because I wanted to feel like I was a hero just for overcoming it. Now I know being a hero is learning to mourn your past but not dwelling on your past regrets

finally!! A great Way in analyzing why I worry so damn much! Thank you

This was the perfect video at the perfect time, thanks.

There are so many worries in life. It is very important that how you are handling that particular situation and cope with that time.

I find this to be absolutely true. It helps enormously to equip oneself with knowledge to face our unique challenges.

Your Videos help me so much. Thank you. I had a terrible childhood with all kinds of abuse. Still today at age 78 I have to work on understanding what happened and remember that yesterday is not today.

The idea of making peace with your messed up and frightening childhood was amazing. And the quote was really stimulating: "The catastrophe that we fear will happen has actually already happened." Thanks for the video ♥

I never was a worrier until about 2 years ago after some bad events, I began to develop hypochondria. It’s been such a hard road but hopefully almost over.

Much needed video at this point. Can't thank you guys enough!

This vid healing my soul, thanks for making this.

I wanted to just give The School Of Life major props, I love philosophy and analysis yet do not find enough view points or perspectives. I am convinced that our culture does not value the concepts nor the wisdom brought with them simply because it is uncomfortable to admit fault in a society that aims to condemn anyone with faults(which is everyone) for being “weak”. I’ve followed your videos for awhile, and still find ways to elaborate and build on my own thoughts and perceptions thanks to your considerate interpretations. KZfaq needs more channels like this, and I greatly appreciate you guys making these videos

This was just what I needed in my life right now. Thank you.

Such a powerful video! Worry is everywhere and its something i am going to look at soon on my psychology youtube channel actually. Our perceptiuon of the future, of what might be, of what might come is in large, the catalyst of that worry (at least that is how i perceive it). I feel you highlight this at points in this video. Thank you so much!

thank you, every day.

the graphics were so refreshingly satisfying.

Really excellent timing you guys. I've been really worked up for the last few days and this video helped me to breathe again.

great timing! I need this so much and it is a great help. Thanks a bunch!

I love this channel so much

I worry everytime, and its all because of school & my future. I know I shouldn't, but I can not take my mind faw away from this...

But how do you NOT worry about the things that we can't control?

I needed this. Thank you

I've already been so fucked up by life that I only worry about one thing. When the day comes when I'm at the end of my strength... I hope it won't hurt.

In the night, your videos help me sometimes to calm down.

I am always terrified of the future. I constantly feel scared for a number of things:- 1. the whole world will become an absolute shithole by the time I grow up 2. I will probably never find the work I love and never earn enough to enjoy life fully 3. I won’t have a good family when I grow up. My children will resort to bad lifestyle choices, and my husband will cheat on me or leave me. (The stupidest one, I know) 4. I won’t be able to make any difference And a lot more, but I’d rather not list them all here. But I’d like to stop, breathe and enjoy life.

Wow I needed to hear this! I never thought about it this way, thank you!

I think the key that has helped me a little is control. Like say everyone really IS laughing at you. Say they hate you but are taking sadistic pleasure in keeping their hatred a secret as they smile to your face. What can YOU do about it? How is worrying about their opinion doing anything other than playing into the sick game you believe their playing? Do you believe the average person actually expends as much energy plotting against you as you do worrying that people are plotting against you? And when I ask these questions, I generally calm down. I realise that 1) I cant control other people's opinions and 2) life is too short to try.

This channel has been helping a lot.

Thank you so much for your great work

"What, me worry?" That phrase liberated me when I was pre teen.

Thanks, I used to worry all the time, lately I have been worrying less

This so gave me a new perspective on giving more attention to fears

Thank you for this, very timely for me.

One of the most empowering videos I've ever seen.

THIS. IS. GENIUS.

Well, this video was uploaded in the right time. I'm just turning 23 this month and I have some issues. I spend more time thinking about who I wanna be, what should I do, am I good enough, who will I marry with or will I marry someday, and so on and so forth. Basically it's all about career, relationship, and self knowledge. I've watched your videos since your subs less than a million, but look at you now, you have more than three millions! Congrats! Thanks for sharing and spreading knowledge. Thanks a lot. Thanks Alain ;)