lonely people don't tolerate fake people lonely people are the most genuine people

It’s because you haven’t met people you genuinely vibe with. We’re not gonna like or enjoy everyone’s company, but when you find the right people…you make and keep friends

This is such a black and white view. It also sounds like he’s projecting his experience.

"If you meet a loner, no matter what they tell you, it's not because they enjoy solitude. It's because they have tried to blend into the world before, and people continue to disappoint them." -Jodi Picoult

In my case totally the opposite man, I'm always producing value to others but never got it back, so I've got to a point where I just feel tired and that's why I have separated from everyone

This is not friendship. This is a bargain. My success = many fake friends. Ok, get it.

No, that’s not true. People with no friends normally don’t feel they are high valued but opposite! That’s how I feel at least…

Hate to say it but this guys advice isn't always the best.

People say "be yourself" but will look or talk down upon you when they don't know you and make you feel left out. This happened to me my whole life.

It's incredible how many narcissists I know who have wide communities of "friends," and they're terrible people and don't provide anything to anyone. So sad that this is what we've internalized, that your worth in your circles is transactional and performative. You have the right to show in friendships when you don't feel the best, and for people to show up for you.

Bro realised he's a bad person and then projected that onto everyone else

I think a lot of people don’t have friends because they don’t want fake friends. Anyone can have friends. It’s not hard to make a friend. It’s hard to find genuine people. People who care about you in return, people who don’t despitefully use you, but pour back into you in a reciprocal way, people who aren’t jealous of you, and people who don’t treat you like crap. Most people would rather cut folks off and be alone than to have to deal with those types of things. I think the love of many is waxing cold and that’s what makes it hard to have friends. What is a friendship without reciprocal love, or with someone using you, or with someone mistreating you, or with someone who wants to do you harm and is double hearted towards you. Lonely people care about the quality of friends they have. They care about their mental health, wellbeing, and peace of mind. Sure they want to be loved too, but not at the expense of those things. So, that’s why I think a lot of today’s lack having friends… because there’s a lack of loving, caring, and real friends.

The voice of inexperience. There can be so much more involved.

I would rather be lonely than change myself for others.

The cold hard truth is that people like this guy needs constant validation from other people. He isn’t capable of being alone because he is not enough for himself. People who choose to be alone are probably the most wholesome people because they know how to be with themselves without validation from other people. I get hurt a lot more when im with friends or family. When im alone I feel so free.

Nah bro...no company is better than bad company. I would rather be around 2 people who i know will never stab me on my back than having 100 people around me...

Having friends has nothing to do with how great you are There’s a lot of good lonely people out there and a lot of assholes with a big group of friends so yeah

This is terrible what h is saying. It’s not like this dear man. People are weird and don’t value genuine people. You need to raise your self esteem. You are worthy . You are good enough. Perhaps those peeps are not worthy or good enough for you! ❤

I’m lonely because I don’t want to be around people. All “friends” ever do is use you for their own entertainment. When you really need them they’re not around. I’ve lived my best life alone. Had so much time to learn things like being great at guitar, became amazing at my job and fit because of my work out regiment. Being lonely made me the best version of myself

The few genuine friends I had in this world either passed away, or moved away. At this point in my life, all I want is peace and quiet.

This message will lead you down a materialistic dead end. Be yourself, don't strive to please others because you will male friends that suck you dry and leave you worse off then you started.

You couldn't be so wrong. Being alone says alot about someone's inner confidence and self worth. Loners dont take bullshit, hang around fake ass people cooped up in these ridiculous social media expectations, and they don't have the energy for drama. As my grandfather said, its about 'high living, simple thinking'.

If people don't have the desire to actually want to have a friendship with you, then there is just no point. You could hang out with a group of people who invite you out and want to get to know you. You start exchanging numbers to keep in contact with each other or when the next hang out day will be. But when it boils down to actually wanting to be friends with them and wanting to have that friendship connection and nobody messages you ever again it just starts to fade and you become isolated and back to square 1 again. I am saying this from experience.

As an introvert, this doesn't hurt at all it clearly explains everything in a straightforward way

i’ve lost a lot of friends, my social life is almost close to nothing it sounds psychopathic but its a good thing because many of them r toxic or moved on, changed etc. i’s rather be alone sometimes than be with narcissistic-big mouthed liars 👍 i’d rather be myself/original/authentic than fit in w/ others & be a wannabe

Sometimes friends forget each other because life takes over, especially into your late 30s onwards. People have families or they start climbing the corporate ladder.

Yeah, that explains why people bully nerds, or people who aren’t football stars or prom queens. It’s all about how valuable and important you look to others. So I guess this guy is saying don’t be a nerd and be superficially what other people expect you to be for them no matter what your true values are. Good job Guy.

Even if you’re not that great you deserve love and a friend

Most of them talk about absolute garbage.... anyways .. so don't want that shit currently So less is better for now... Will found the quality ones as I goes on

If you're fun to be around with you'll get alot of people who want to be around you. Once you stop being fun, they'll leave you as you have explained. I'd rather have 1 loyal friend than 100 fake ones.

For me, I ended my friendship with about a dozen people because the group we were in was so toxic. Everyone would be making messed up jokes, threatening other friends, not being nice, and if you talked about something serious, they would make a joke out of it. I told them that they were messed up on many occasions and they said horrible and traumatizing things to me after I said that. These people can change but it’s only a matter of time they see the real world and is forced to change. I’ve cut contact with them and I have finally been happy again.

This isn’t true. I have lots of people who want to be my friend but they’re all shit and I’m done being a people pleaser.

Trust in God and he will give you a friend who will stick closer to you than a brother.

People who I come across are either introverts and dangerous backstabbers or drug addicts and vibing all day on drinks and smoke ups. I am a very happy person but I don’t get anyone who wants to be genuine. Tired of shady people. Just can’t trust anyone these days. I suggest rather focusing on finding a lover than a friend.

It is not like that people don't want to talk to me i myself maintain a distance w/ them. Because a vibe match is what introverts want

Na but you have to belive your great, the thing is if you keep believing your not great your not gonna have the confidence. Talking about socialising , there’s loads of people on the planet and you can always find someone to talk to. You have o believe your great, if you don’t believe your great yourself what do you expect others to think

So, I have to provide value to people that have little to no value in their lives… Nah I’m good

No, the problem is we live in a narcissistic world, and the genuine people are lonely

why change the way I am to other peoples standards? I'll just be faking my way through friendships.

Lonely people sometimes just can’t find others with similar values. They’re just as lonely with ‘you’ll do.’

I’ve always seen it as quality over quantity. I am a very approachable person and can make acquaintances easily, but I don’t just consider anyone a friend. For the most part, it takes time to open up and build trust, rapport, and a quality friendship with another human. I don’t just want any people around me. Besides, I like me and I don’t think being alone with myself means that I am lonely. I prefer it that way. Besides, as one gets older making friends becomes more challenging because so many people are either in a romantic relationship and/or have children and/or a full-time job that keeps their time limited. I’m fortunate to count on one hand the number of true friends that I have, but even then we do not hang around every week. Sometimes months will go by before we pick back up again.

It’s not about being great it’s about being yourself, genuine yet sometimes; people want phony. I don’t. There’s genuine people out there that are looking for good, nice people. Mean and phony is not worth it.

I'm an immigrant, I had to leave all my friends behind. And I find it hard to click with other people. Because I always feel judged as soon as I say that I think people assume illegally and I'm a sponge on the taxpayers etc. I'm scared I will offend them. I know how people feel about immigrants in the current climate. I'm also an ex fireman, and find it hard to share stories like other people. My humour as a result is also much darker, and I usually laugh at stuff other people don't. So your assumption is not correct. Sometimes life gets in the way. Like choosing a better life for your family over friendship. But it is lonely. Even though my family has a better future.

I had a group of friends that now stop hanging out with me and i see them walkung outside amd having fun without talking to me at all. I didnt need them. ALWAYS, invest in the people that care about you no matter what.

In a world where war criminals get Nobel prices and predators are protected I stopped blaming myself

It's not confidence that prevents me from making friends, I've had lots of friends over the course of my life and I don't have anxiety issues when talking to new people, I've been confident with talking to people for years. I lost my friends because I didn't want to stay in touch with them or I moved on to other pursuits or I just couldn't be bothered. I have more than enough confidence, I just can't be bothered to make new friends or reconcile old friendships, it could be that I'm lazy, but it's mostly because I don't have the interest anymore, I find people boring nowadays. Maybe I have an attitude problem.

It’s a really hard pill to swallow

'No one finds u great to be around' man those words were heart touching

if you don't have nothing to offer no one will be around!!! people just want something from someone

I have to disagree with that... a bigger circle doesn't determine your value because i am a different thinker compared to the 99% , the 99% doesn't think like me so I don't fit in so my circle is very small as it is rare to find people who think like you and can relate to so many things.

That is actually terrible advice. You don't make friends through the self improvement he describes. You make friends by going out more often to places where you can meet like minded people with similar interests so that you have subjects of discussion already so it's easier to connect. Most men today just go to work and come back home to spend all their free time alone, that's why they never make friends. That is because the internet gives them a false sense of connection. You have to make a conscious effort to put yourself out there and meet people. For that, you have to sacrifice some of your favorite solo hobbies to make more time for socializing and in return, you get great friends who have common interests.

True I ended up finding people who wanted to be around me and move me forward, that’s the type of friends you need not the ones who decide to not talk to you 👀

Its so hard to make new friends.

Well I was sick for five years and that affected friendships a lot. People don’t want to be around a sick person.

I lost about 40 friends over 10 years. And I didn't "lose" them,I walked away. They're all fake,or betrayed me,or envied me or were revealed to be terrible people. I enjoy my time now knowing that I'm better off avoiding people.

“The mind is sharper and keener in seclusion and uninterrupted solitude.” -Nikola Tesla

“Waste no more time arguing what a good man should be. Be one.” - Marcus Aurelius 1 Corinthians 13 read 📖

And that’s when people start having second thoughts about themselves and they say well I don’t have the value to live might as well die

People just suck man. Better to be by yourself. To find the ppl you could trust.... it'll be hard

So...there's only ONE reason why peoole may have zero friends??? We hurt ourselves when we are narrow minded and can only come up with one reason for something so complex. If you know you have good character, please don't believe this video's negative message about yourself. It doesn't apply to you. Good character is OFTEN under-valued, but it does NOT mean you have no value. PLEASE STAY STRONG AND KEEP HIGH STANDARDS UNTIL BETTER PEOPLE COME YOUR WAY WHO WILL APPRECIATE YOUR GOOD SELF! ❤️

I had a friend group who I cared about more than anything in the world. But they changed and we didn’t vibe no more. They became toxic and had a bad mindset when it came to friendship. So we grew apart, and after that I have spent 5 months not going out or being social. So to all of you out there before you lose your social life try and find people who shares your humor and vibe. Don’t stick around and wait to be betrayed

What you attract is a reflection of your state of mind. As above, so below.

I came here, wondering since I have noticed few things such as, When my cousins **(1st 2nd & 3rd That's the order of them according to their age, they are 3 years older than me, while 2nd & 3rd is Twin brothers, I'm 4th and, 5th cousin who lives just below me and also one of my closest cousin, regarding blood relation and a distant cousin 6th one who is not always here but he will be in this comment)** come over they just talk basic with me like, "oh hey how are you, how's college" that's it while to one of my other cousin (5th one) they just interact completely different, like they would invite him to their special hangout place, go night out, invite him to sleep over or share some secret or something like that, If I'm sitting next to them and my cousin is sitting a bit far they would ask me to swap places with him, When I'm around or like when all of us cousins are together they would talk secretively in each other's ears or try to say things like you won't get it that's why we are not telling you or **they don't even pay attention to what I'm saying until I'm made fun of** on the other side they would laugh like no tomorrow on the other Cousins jokes (1st 2nd & 3rd and that 5th one) , if my parents don't invite them on dinner they don't even give a shit or visit me, while they go to that **(5th )** cousins home without notice and stay there for as long as noon to evening, and my house is just above his and they won't even come to say "Hi". There is this another cousin (6th and youngest one), who lives like 50 to 60 Km away, when they come they call him personally to come meet them and even go out with him, while I'm just a floor above them and they don't even bother asking. Once we went to a restaurant since it was **(2nd & 3rd Twin Cousin's Birthday)**, so the whole family went otherwise, I might even not be invited, so at the restaurant they kept looking out for that cousin (5th one) like, are his orders served or not, or is he liking the food, serving him, while I'm not even getting asked until that (5th cousin) says he doesn't want any and now to finish it they need someone, so now they ask me and they even asked that cousin **(5th one)** that he didn't called them at 12am to wish and they said "we were expecting that you'd call". Another event I could recall is when they were about to leave in like 5 to 6 hours they were invited to this **(1st cousin's)** house and when they went there, they asked that cousin **(5th one)** to come over and have the feast along with them, while I was literally standing next to that cousin. Once they were invited to this same relative's home **(1st cousin, The oldest)** to sleep, and since it was their 2nd last day before leaving they invited that brother(5th one you guessed it right) for sleepover, well coincidentally they were invited at our house for dinner, so while having dinner he was telling his mom about the sleep over and who are going to be at that relative's home *(1st cousin's house basically)* tonight, **I swear to god, while sitting right in front of me he said this "1st cousin, since it was his home, 2nd & 3rd and 5th one" "RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME, WHILE EATING IN MY HOUSE" and said "Boys in the house tonight", this really made me think am I really invisible to others (metaphorically). Now when I'm around them I don't have anything to talk about since I'm not invited to anything and hence I don't have any story to share, nor do I relate to any of their's since they have their group and I'm not part of it, I'm not even part of their insta they have their things going on over there and since, I don't have anything common or connected to them I don't have anything to share, so I don't talk to them that much, it's like a cycle at this point and (I feel left out), now I no longer enjoy being around them and rather feel uncomfortable, and annoyed by them and I don't even feel like talking to them at all. But what made me wonder is that, what does that other cousin of mine does better than me that he attracts all these peoples, like he also has quite a few friends who come by every now and then, while I have just a handful, good ones but just a handful (3 to 5). Is it because he has alot of things to talk about, or because he is good at talking to someone. I'm sort of an introvert so I talk only around people I'm comfortable with and I don't really have that many topics to talk about anyway, like My cousin would be knowing about this relative what he's doing and that relative and talk about them while I'm figuring out who TF that relative is and how is he even related.

Sorry, bro..that's Bullshit. Loneliness is a systemic issue affecting the entire country. Working on yourself and self improvement only gets you far, if few people are willing to do same, and if the society and culture doesn't value compassion and empathy.

It's hard to make friends in your 20s after losing your friends because 1. People are judging you for your looks and how successful you are 2. They think you want something or don't trust you 3. They already have close friends and think your trying too hard 4. They are fake most of the time 5. They only use you for stuff since they don't know you that well.

It’s not that I can’t make friends it’s that people don’t care about my feelings

Not always true. The most confident people also seem to intimidate the masses, and are alone not by choice.

Not really.. I’ve been kind of socially outcasted for more than a year in my class right now. I already had a low self esteem and I never seeked help. The first few months were okay, because I had already known how to be by myself. I just have to befriend and talk to myself. The only way I could talk to someone was to me and that was for hours. I was afraid of my interests and talking about them but in your head, no one (except yourself) can judge you. But the following year was HARD. i felt constant loneliness and the lingering need to talk to people got the best of me. So I bettered myself, I tried to create more small talk which made it even worse because nobody gave me any time to talk to them. It gave me more misery and loneliness and it made me feel like nobody cared or wanted me, no matter how hard i tried. But I knew those words weren’t true. I know it’s not their fault for not wanting to be friends with me. It’s completely okay. It’s not oaky to antagonise them in my head, causing a distorted view on reality. So I just accepted the fact. Some people in my class, even I don’t wanna befriend due to just no compatibility in interests, or just shitty people that already make my life worse, so why would i even try and be friends with them. It’s not that they ‘don’t care about me’. If I were to fall down and injure myself, people would come to my aid. This doesn’t say that they “don’t care about me”. They genuinely do. Just not to the degree where they wanna be with me every day and talk to me and thats okay. I can better myself and be the best version of myself and some people will still refuse to befriend me. Either way, I shouldn’t care.

no i choose not to be around most ppl. they all drink, drugs, ect ect, jerks for no reason. i dont need that

Yo homie I just get too anxious to even exist around people, my social skills are 25/100 I literally never talked to anyone my whole life I have 2 friends I don’t even talk to anymore cause I feel I mess it up everytime. Lovely life isn’t it

We’ve just woken up and realized we’re tired of being used. It has nothing to do with not being that great. You literally explained my point

I'm kind of feel like a lonely person as well I just feel like there's too many fake people in the world it makes me sad

It can also be because you don’t value others enough to keep them around and you’re quite happy.

Not necessarily, that's very rare actually. Usually people are just shy or just want a small circle.

No hate to this guy but this is a terrible message. Sometimes it’s hard to find people who make you feel valued and you shouldn’t just let anybody in your life. Keep being genuinely yourself , doesn’t matter if you feel like you’re awkward, quiet, quirky etc you’ll attract your people. And stop listening to these “harsh truths “ because, while we all need to do some inner work and self reflection, that doesn’t mean you’re a terrible person.

This is what I'm feeling right now in life not just work, your trying to be visible instead you are invisible to them. If you are trying hard people would think you're a trying hard wanna be. If you wanna be visible you got to have height , build and handsome to stand out to people. No matter how polite you are or good nothing will ever notice you.

Its hard to find people with the same vibe with you sometimes, for me though yes, I tried to communicate and be the listener and try to understand... Its draining me😢

Thank you, I'd rather be alone than waste energy on people who absolutely do not deserve my contribution to them

I lost friends when I start noticing all them weren’t real friends…my real friends showed me what a real friend was and I could no longer tolerate fake people around…i thought people you grew up with were supposed to be your closest friends and alot of them really never were and that took me to my mid 20s to understand💯💯💯

It’s call Envy 😂 love to be by myself life is great!❤

Or it could be that you don’t tolerate bullsh*t and fake a** people so you don’t waste your time surrounding yourself around people who don’t deserve you. ❤

Friendship doesnot require greatness, it requires innocence

Yall are great, dont let society define if you are great or not 90% of people are materialistic and selfish so dont let them think that you are inferior, stay strong 🤝

They say “be yourself” a lot of the time people don’t do that because it just makes life a whole lot harder since being yourself means sharing your opinions and beliefs and representing that but others don’t appreciate that they may call it “bragging” or “over sharing” they might just flat out say “ that’s wrong”. It was always easier to stay quiet, stay alone. People put it into the simplest words lie be yourself it’s not always that easy with being yourself also come disagreements can lead to arguments and arguments can lead to that person disliking you and then there’s enemy’s and no one wants an enemy. When you try to make friends they don’t like you they also don’t like the fake you. It’s probably best to be yourself once you know them well enough they will stick with you. Also so many desperate people will take those kinds of “friends” that are only friends with outcasts or are only friends because they feel bad fake friends. People can get so brainwashed into thinking they are real friends yet they cut you loose once you’ve become useless to them. Once you aren’t the lonely person anymore, once you can’t do anything more to improve their reputation. They don’t care about you what they’re interested in is what you can do for them. Genuine friends are hard to find best friends re even harder to find searching for a real friend can be one of the biggest challenges in life. I know people who think they have real friends but they just feel bad I tried to tell her but she doesn’t listen but chooses to ignore me. She claims I was rude to her but I’m trying to help because I was friends with the same people they lie their parents condone lying and told them to lie to me. Their parent called it harassment when I was mad at that person for lying. No she did not apologize as in she thought it was right and I was in the wrong I did go on a long stupid rant about lying because I hate lies. Even if finding real friends means getting enemy’s on the way a lot of times it isn’t worth it because those enemies stack up and it’s only a chance because everyone could become your enemy and you have no friends at the end but a bunch of enemies instead. That’s why a lot of people don’t take that risk.

People who have more friends are not great people

I realized my problem is that I had a terrible resting bitch face and no one wanted to talk to me because I always looked upset. I started smiling more when I talk to people and it seems to have helped

I dont have friends, but i also dont entertain those who are fake. At this point in my life, i would rather be friendless than to go back to being the empty person surrounded by fake abusers. Yes, i once had a bunch of "friends," but they were only there to take from me. They all disappeared when i needed help. Now I've stopped trying to find new friends. It's not because i do not want friends but rather because I'm scared and deeply hurt. Needless to say, I do not know how to trust anyone anymore.

We won't all always live it up. If people are there during our highs but not our lows then hows that real friendships

Most people I talk , they were so egoistical and they want to show their power they are selfish and always want authority over me they don't even want to hear me or talk to me .IAM FORGOTTEN

I can kinda understand this but the problem that this could also lead to having fake friends.

My problem is ive never met another person who thinks the same as i do. When i talk to other people from my heart and give them the deep emotional questions i keep locked inside, they all look at me like im a freak or some nut job conspiracy theorist. Im 6'2" 215lbs fit 6 pack dark olive skin. Brown hair blue eyes 30 years old. I work construction and can literally build, paint and fix anything anyone could ask of me. My problem is the fact i chose to believe in religion. Instead of focusing on MY future. So i decided to quit the company i worked at start my own business and leave the woman who has trapped me emotionally for 13 years of my life. I feel free

That's y I don't care who leaves n who stay on my side anymore. Yes it hurts sometimes but I have to accept it.

I wholeheartly dissagree. This isnt always the only reason...

That is very false, but since that's what YOU think, YOU are not that great to be around. If you are a lone wolf, you are stronger than most people, and you don't need others to rely on

He's young and still at the stage in life where he needs a crew to hang out with and connect with his peer group. Once you hit 50+ you don't need so many hang--out buddies because time is too valuable to be wasted on people who aren't worth it.

I used to have lots of 'friends, ' until I got really sick, and was left virtually housebound. Its times like that you find out who your friends are. Turns out I hardly have any.

Its all bullshit there is no such thing as good friends no matter how hard you try they will end up treating you like shit its better to stay alone

This is all very well but has no solution. It's just all negative so I don't see how this will help anyone. I mean what makes you worth someone's time? Kindness isn't enough these days. A lot of people just have their own lives, their own issues such as money troubles, anxiety, other mental health issues, busy with family or some are just plain old arseholes lol. We don't all like the same things but what makes a person interesting?

the cold truth don't give a fuck what others thinks towards you everyone is in their own head focus on your self 💯

These comments pass the vibe check and it makes me smile. 😊