“Your partner should be a cherry on top, not the whole ice cream.” 🍨 🍒

Guys invest too quickly in a girl out of desperation and a scarcity mindset...They feel like they need to invest a lot up front to keep the girl. Unfortunately, this comes off as needy and desperate and the girl leaves any way. My advice, invest as much as the girl is investing and sometimes even less.

Don't be needy. One of the keys to being loved is not needing to be loved by others, instead love yourself and others will follow.👍

Thanks man, your advice has completely changed the way I look at dating

Dogs 🐩 bark, baby’s 🍼 cry 😭 & women leave ....... it’s just what they do !!!!!!!!!

You have basically just told me everything i have been denying for the past month. I went full on in saying I loved her and she said the same, after 3 weeks and its been 5 weeks now and shes become very distant saying "i will let you know" whenever i ask if she wants to hang out. Im going to leave her to contact me first from now on and if she doesn't im moving on.

Instant gratification culture...SLOW THE HELL DOWN MEN

Maaaan, I feel so terrible bro! I had an awesome life. Studying music, meeting friends, going to the sports club playing my sport and then the second lockdown happened. Just before that I met a cute girl and then everything was gone. I was projecting all my happiness onto her and I couldn't get happiness anywhere else anymore ... This is killing me!

This started happening to me over the last few weeks with an amazing girl I been seeing. I had to pump the brakes over the last few days. I have other options but this particular girl is special. I'm glad I watched this video, good advice as always

Man... in this video you literally described me 100%. I know I'm good looking, and I feel like I have pretty tight game, but I get invested so fast and I have ended up practically in depression a number of times when I've come out of relationships that have lasted from a month to 6 months. I've logically realised that there is no way I should be feeling this way over a woman I've been seeing for practically no time at all, but I still feel the emotions, and it is probably my biggest weakness when it comes to anything. You're right. It's because I've not felt happy in other areas of my life that this happens. The girl comes along, when I'm with her I get some respite from the other life-stress, and you get dependant on her. She becomes a crutch. I also do the thing where I just abandon dating and focus on the other areas of my life. And to be honest, sometimes I think you have to do that; you need some prerequisites in place and you need to feel confident enough in your own life or else you're just not going to give off the right vibe with a woman. But a lot of the time I'll just abandon dating out of immaturity and this incel mindset that in my case I really shouldn't be having. Thanks for the video.

I’m 37 and so very much wish I knew this stuff sooner. Women respond to me now more than ever. however, being in a 11 year relationship delayed my development

this is some great gender neutral advice. girls need to hear this too

This is absolutely true to a T! Invest in a great life, so if the girl doesn't come around it's no sweat.

I used to be needy as, I would get hell into a girl really quick. Met a chick and fell hard and got massively hurt. Over time I said “fuck it I’m awesome and it’s their loss not mine” I got ghosted today and didn’t give a fuck, already got a date with another girl straight away. Thank you Lloyd, been following your channel over the past year and it’s help immensely

Been there where i wasnt even sure i like the girl - was more addicted to the attention and phone notifications

What I do is just vibe with her and show her your confident with who you are and how you act,you need to let the girl you want to come to you,

Whoever is reading this comment trust me this guy is like an angel bcuz he mentors in every situation.

Thank yu. I needed to hear this man. Im a college student, a technician for Honda, getting an engineer degree. Im trying to have things going in a good direction for me. I met this girl, almost 2 months now of talking and dating. I like her but idk, and I’m tired of feeling like idk. I can’t invest cause I don’t trust woman period. I have to work on that

I needed to hear this, thanks brotha.

needed this bro. straight up. thanks for this

Please upload more lloyd👊 ur helping many of us, u mad underrated

Needed to hear this. I fell for a girl recently and dove really deep. Thanks man.

It's ridiculous how applicable this is to what I'm experiencing right now. Right now I'm pretty drunk because of how distraught I am because a girl ghosted me because of how needy I am (I grew up with a lot of trauma and dependence upon parental approval). Thank you so much Lloyd. I am extremely hard on myself, and keep repeating the same mistakes.

Great video, makes total sense. Thank you so much!!

Thank you for doing this ! Followed your tips and things are starting to get on track, had the same issue, invested too quickly. But i learned from it, saw my mistakes and wont do them again. Thanks again ! I wanna give you a "naveta de bere" ! Salutations from Romania !

You're a Bro' Lloyd! Thank you so much! We must be whole and content to begin with before going into relationships and seeking our own validation/self worth from within instead of trying to bring someone in to fill that void by investing too much too soon. There must be no voids to begin with (by that I don't mean the absence of imperfections but rather us being strong in who we are and the life that we have made for ourselves). Thanks again man.

I’ve been listening to your videos for awhile. You have AMAZING knowledge and while some PUA people in the FB comments stand out, I know your knowledge and wisdom is helpful for anything regarding women. I wanted to buy into your product but cannot commit to it at the time. At the moment, I am focused on my military career and work is hectic. But I had to comment and say, your stuff is on point and this video specifically hits home. Thank you for the clarity!

Someone with common sense and a great perspective. Thank you for this.

I’m a girl but your advice was still 💯 on point for me. I felt like I had to give up dating because my life is in pieces after covid but your video and perspective gave me hope again. Thank you so much 🙏

Dude, such a great content. Completely agreed your points on guys only wanting to focus on career and other stuff before they wanna figure out their dating lives. I am like that. Keep up the great work !

This stuff is helping me as a woman too. It is so much better to understand what mistakes I do and then take steps to fix that than just cribbing. Thanks for this advice.

So relatable man thanks Lloyd I needed to hear this

I wish I watched this video way before, Really helpful now, Opened my eyes!

dude this is some amazing advice thank you man. The dont give up completely on dating topic you mentioned resonated with me alot as i am one to be too hard on myself sometimes hahah. You really eased my mind, thanks for the vids!

Needed this🙌💯

Much needed this one ☝🏽 fambam 💯

So relatable! So relatable!

Thank you so damm much man.This video changed the way i looked at dating

Put the feeling into words, great content

Incredibly true, shouldn’t be dating if you’re starting at the bottom, the good vibes aren’t there so no girl will want to stick around. And yep, if doing well it is cool to welcome a good girl into your life but still don’t invest too much unless she is earning it consistently

Great advice bro love your content

Yo this touch my soul like ice cold water in the middle of summer I can't hold you this put mad shit in perspective for me

Just kinda advice i need in a right place at the right time

Thanks buddy..this video is really helpful

Not just a dating coach but a life coach as well

Thank you, Lloyd.

Holy shit. This man is spot on!

Well said!

This is true. We as men we need a life outside the women

Happened to me, got invested after the first date, went on 2 more dates, done the deed and slept together a few times then the slow and short replies came. I won’t lie I called her out so yep I looked hella needy. Problem is there was another girl I was talking to who wouldn’t talk to me again and I could tell she was way better as a person. I fucked up by choosing the wrong girl but it’s all a learning curve I guess.

This is true, most of us men don’t know how to deal our emotions tho anything learned can be unlearned.

loved this

Do you ever talk about your relationship. Or any break ups you’ve had during your KZfaq channel career? I just discovered your channel week or so ago. It’s freaking great btw!

You talk to my soul bro

What you are referring to is co-dependency.... It's a program in our subconscious.... Everytime we see someone we like and they give the attention in the beginning... We get hooked.... So technically this doesn't hook you to person... You start valuing attention from person over the person! Which isn't a great way to live

I need to work on being honest with myself about how I feel. I think I do fall into this category, to some extent, of guys who fall and invest too quickly. I’ve also been trying to work on having that happiness and having a life before having a girlfriend. It feels like college takes up most of my time, as well as poor time management, but I’m hoping when I graduate I’ll finally have time to work on that

great advice

Right in the feels

Something that was a problem for me is not that I felt unhappy but that I was at work and I have to have my phone on me so I’d see all the text updates and get tempted to text or have the person on my mind. I ended up getting 2 cell phones and I’d leave any girl I met on the other cell at home just to force myself to not ever think about her while at work. I had a relationship for 5 years which was my longest after I figured that out.

Damn, I've had almost the exact same situation as the guy who asked the question.

Dope advice

You are like my big brother... thank you

Genius. :) Jon

been 5 years since i have had to get girls again, met a girl a few days backl and got her number and felt like i fucked everything else up. I came back to this channel and i am ready to start getting back to my old self with the ability to talk to women again

I keep finding comfort thinking about this girl and the possibility of being with her despite the fact we don’t even really know each other. How can I stop?

First: don't be invested in a girl, get your life in order. After 4 minutes: it's okay to be invested in a girl and not have your life completely in order.

Another great take. Lloyd. But I feel like I can lock into your wisdom better with your hair pulled back or slicked back. Has any of you supporting fans mentioned it???? Other then that keep up the fantastic work.

Saint of the single and lost

why are your eyebrows used as clickbait? It worked. Came for the eyebrows stayed for the wisdom. Awesome and true

Fuck, right time for this. Unfortunately being in a national lockdown causing unhappiness in a social sense. It’s difficult.

Thank you

If you are a guy, we must be needy once in our lifetime. So, we should learn from this in our own.

His eyebrows are gnarly

This is an interesting perspective I'd like to be in touch with you

I used to worry a lot about a girl texting me back when I went from being in a relationship to single again. I've almost gone the other way too much where I don't care now. lol

I had an affair with a girl for about 40days and she was telling me she was in love with me and i made her happy and sp pn, then left me with no obvious reason. Things got complicated i showed to her neediness we both had a std.its been like 2 months since we broke up bit we still talk for the medical issue. i have other options im talking with 3 other girls but doesnt feel like wirth her. im not sure if its an ego thing that i want her back only because she left me and it was the quarantine period or because it was something special and unique(im doing mostly ons and i usually end things really quick). If you can make a video i would be glad because im pretty depressed right now and i hope you keep posting helpful videos and that lock down stops in order to have you as personal coach.

Damn you're good...

i feel for this guy. i got options but fall hard. this 1 chick left me on delivered, came back after few weeks & is now doing it again after we just saw eachother. so confusing

I learned not to make a woman all of my happiness. I focused on myself and how to improve.

Silent hill with 808s I like it what’s the name of the outro track?

First! 🙂

All you have to do is ,"Be proficient at this stuff already." - Be skilled at this stuff ALREADY, and you can get better. Gotcha. Have your skills in place, and you can improve on them. OK. So - Be YOUNG. Be RICH. Be GOOD-LOOKING. Be all of these things, and you can improve all of the skills that you ALREADY have. Gotcha.

I have an issue though, I don’t have time. I’m a senior in high school while also working 20+ hours a week and driving multiple hours a day for work/classes. I only have time for either a gf or to have friends. Not both. What do I do?

Thank you more on this. Women in uk are hard work lol

Don't text them every day! This is what fucked my most recent connection up after 1 month of dating.

#Pump & Dump #Catch & Release

3 months for me and i blocked her bc i was so incredibly attached to her and obsessed with her so i wanted to get over her. that just made things worse. i have so much regret. i wish i never did that. i tried unblocking her and tried to explain things. only led to me getting blocked by her and now we never talk

Dude that guy's literally me..

Does this advice apply to someone you have known for years and have a lot in common with? Because they still rejected me for reasons unknown when I told her I was interested in her :(

Are the b-roll couples clips being used as some sort of mind technique to make me a better man somehow? 😆

Fall in love with yourself and focusing on becoming the very best VERSION of yourself gentlemen. Take it VERY SLOW WITH THE LADIES BROTHERS. LET THEM EARN YOUR RESPECT. Remember. The MAN IS THE PRIZE. NOT THE WOMAN. REGARDLESS OF WHAT THEY SAY. SOCIETY IS FULL OF SHIT. LOL 🤷🏽‍♂️✌🏽🤣Trust me. I've seen it all and done the research.

Slept with a girl and she responds afterwards with "I don't know what I want right now". I act and don't bring up the sex for the hangouts afterwards. We hook up again and I still don't bring up what we're doing or talk about hooking up. She is starting to drift away.. what do I do? Do I speak up on our hookups? P.S. She was divorced back in April.

Thats what im gonna do then😂

what's the song called at the end?

Dating life is not meant for everyone I know that more than anyone

He should date multiple people in the same narrow window of time, especially if they are new, so that the strength of the mental association that his brain chemistry creates (which would otherwise be entirely toward one person) is reduced by division. This is a technique that makes attachment urges more manageable. He also needs to delay agreeing to exclusivity for at least several months. Finally, any unhealthy attachment behaviors MUST be addressed by seeking help from a qualified professional. Contrary to popular belief, while it may be true that some people form unhealthy attachments due to external factors, the reason men become attached is due to the effects of vasopressin. Women form attachments based primarily on the effects of oxytocin, and they need repeated exposure over a longer period of time to match the degree of attachment a man would have.

omg this is so me. Got dump becuase of this

The man is simply implying that we must never be too afraid to take risks. Yeah sure, we can invest in a relationship but not too much. Again, too much of everything is bad.

2 months? That shit took 2 weeks for me