Just found your video and it really resonated with me. I’ve probably got 30 years on you. I have zero awake friends and only a couple of friends that I see on a semi regular basis. They don’t understand my quiet lifestyle at all. I wish I could explain all that I’ve learned but they would just laugh at me. It’s really like living in 2 different worlds,one with the normies and the one where you “know”. Good job with your explanation. Subscribed.

When you get to the top you’ll have finally realized that EVERYTHING comes from within so most of the demands of friends, family and society in general, fade away as you get busy living an amazing life, fully immersed in the present moment. Thanks for sharing 🙏

I tried explaining this to my friend yesterday, before I even saw this video. And he got very aggressive with me and I saw why I was even telling him these things. We don’t have the same frequencies and he didn’t respect that. I told him I don’t listen to rap or smoke weed anymore and he was like “oh so you just think you’re better than us”. And I said “no naturally because I’m growing into a new person, our connection isn’t the same. I don’t like the same things he does, and I don’t like how he puts himself first every time we hangout. Almost like me needs and wants aren’t important to him AT ALL. He has the need to prove he’s right about absolutely everything and I’ve gotten to the point where I’m like “yeah bro you know what? You’re right” and just walk away because I don’t care whose right or wrong I just wanna have a good time with my friend. But I see the universe is telling me it’s time to move on. Not in a bad way as I explain to him, sometimes people just change for the better and in doing so, they cut the connection of the friendship because we don’t share the same wants and needs and He just doesn’t respect me in a lot of ways.

I think I manifested this isolation. Told the universe keep all the wrong people away from me. It happened

If someone is excessively inviting you out drinking, it's a red flag. In my case they were trying to cost me my apartment by spending and also making noise in my place. Sometimes people, especially at work, can pretend to be your best friend when really they are playing a game with your life and other people's too...

I've lost a lot of friends on the path, though I've learned that such is the cycle of life. People come, people go. I try to practice Aparigraha, the yogic value of non-attachment. Easier said than done, but that's why it's a practice. It helps to allow yourself to grieve the loss, practice forgiveness, and invest your energy into nurturing the relationships that are present in your life, as well as cultivate new ones. There are lots of amazing people in the world and it doesn't have to be hard to make new friends as an adult-that's just a perception that too many people have. 🕊

So i am not only in this situation. But i realised that universe wants me to be isolated to save my energy from negativity of the people that are not up to my level.

Interesting. I tend to go by the saying... People come and people go, but the memories last a lifetime.

Thank you.People find me sad and boring and I can't bear nonsense small talk or being cool. Your video gave me much needed clarity.

Thanks for saying the truth. 80% to 90% of people are not on a journey of growth.

You may not want to push people out of your life but what happens when the universe ripped everybody out of your life and you're alone

I was stuck in the pleasure-seeking phase for most of my adult life. Now, at 38 I’m 4 years sober and definitely in to growth and expanding my consciousness. Great little video

I honestly am so alone that I feel like that astronaut in the movie planet of the apes; no one I have met understands or even want to understand the truth of this thing we call reality. I have zero chance of meeting a compatible woman because honestly I don't think she exists unless maybe she is from another more advance planet. The truth is a very lonely journey.

“Friendship” is relative. We all are connected and any “toxicity” is out of place. We can only relate to others in a healthy way by being authentic.

I haven’t heard it phrased or explained this way. I love this logic. Thank you! I had to let go of 10 different friends who were stuck in pleasure seeking. I like the concept of seeking growth minded individuals now.

Really appreciate that you said to love everyone. Being a spiritual person does not mean that you are better than others. Growth is being compassionate and expanding our understanding of differences. The hardest part of this is acceptance. Be kind to yourselves first so you can project that love onto others. ❤️

It is very hard and heart breaking to see friendships that you used to treasure, to spiral downwards when you start to improve yourself. But I think that's only a sign that you're making some right decisions and to keep going even stronger.

It happend to me all my life, in three phases as an adult.. it’s sad, and difficult, i just loose interest. I have nothing to learn from them anymore… I know it’s right and i know people who align more with me will come along, but you need to be alone for a while until that happens.

This would apply to Family too.

The chart reminded me of when you are at a higher level in school. Your on a different wavelength usually to pupils in the year below you. If earth is a school, then when we move up a grade in our own "growth" we resonate with people on that wavelength and don`t feel the same satisfaction hanging out with people below that wavelength. They don`t engage us in the same way, so we let go to create room for more friendship`s that fill us with Joy, feel like home and are more fulfilling. Where there is deeper communication and less drama.

I've always thought of it as.... Light. The further you get the brighter you become. This makes the shadows around you longer and longer until the disappear.

The universe and God remove people from your life. He is listening to their conversations about you. It's a 👍 good thing. Good video!

yes you are right i found people i mixed with once i would not mix with now.. i feel enlightened and a better person more peaceful.. I have seen people waste their lives and money on crazy things.. we saved for retirement which I am pleased we did i am alone now due to cancer and losing a lot of people I knew. I am very spiritual.

I really appreciate this video because this is exactly what has happened to me. I didn’t know what was going on. Setting boundaries was huge for me & people don’t like that. It’s hard when you no longer resonate with family. That’s been the hardest. They like the ‘broken’ me. They can’t see me for who I am now. But it’s ok. I really like this video I am going to watch the other one now 😊

Really well put. Zen master Richard Rose heavily emphasized to his students that they should work with others in general, but especially on different rungs of the ladder. Helping those one rung below your and being helped by those a rung or two above us. Friends on the path also help keep us accountable and keep us from rationalizing!

The coming to terms with being "different" has been really helpful to me recently. I had to leave my family and I felt a lot of guilt about being "better" by leaving them. I came to the realization we aren't better then each other but just different and I need to live my own life.

For me, one of the biggest steps in my path was drastically cutting down on alcohol. This made me realize a lot of my existing 'friends' were really just drinking buddies. It also made me less tolerant of disrespectful behavior, and I got ostracized for it, which I try my best to be OK with, but it's not always easy as I am still a social creature at heart.

I’ve currently lost some of my friends because of my depression and anger. I feel like I can entertain myself without people. I did it before and I can do it again. 😊

Most people do not live for pleasure seeking. They ALL seek security then comfort. Pleasure is result of security and comfort.

So beautifully explained. Thanks. Setting boundaries has rattled some of my longest standing friendships and I'm so surprised at how much defensiveness is out there. Amazing how visible certain behaviours become once you address them in yourself. So many friends averse to conscious relating. What a helleva surprise!

Very interesting topic. I am going through the same experience in the last 9 months. I am meeting friends much less than use to be, but I love people and I wish everyone the best ❤

True, I learned you can learn from everyone people be so quick to judge people who aren’t spiritual but they can still be wise 🧠

You gained a sub 🎉 well said. I found your video at just the right time. Over the last 6 + months I lost pretty much all of my old friends with whom I used to sit around and smoke weed and party with. Even I was the biggest stoner of them all before. But for over 3 years I was one foot in and one foot out. I finally got the courage to dissociate myself from this lifestyle completely. Moving foward to today I’ve been going to the gym consistently for 1 and a half years, stopped everything including alcohol, got promoted at my job, started a business and got a girlfriend that’s oriented towards growth as well! I wondered for so long If I made the right move getting out of those friendships. I think the answer is pretty obvious now.

That's what I'm experiencing right now

For each of us, it’s a personal journey. Friends and family, are additions to our lived life. Where I’m finding difficulty, is with my wife. I’m a naturist, being close to a natural living space, fills me. (Yes I know, we don’t truly have any fully healthy ecosystems any more). My wife is certain, that we are from spirits in space. She could be right? The trouble lies in her disappointment, that I’m not at her level. My disappointment, is that she looks down upon me affection and sex, as below her. Bumping into partners, in hookups, is shallow. Finding depth of experience with your trusting partner. Can be as much as you make it. The path, was never meant to be easy.

Makes me feel quite guilty thou. I was so so religious as a teen and in my early 20s. I created strong friendships which were based on ... all of us having the personality of a sacrificed saint or victim who is so holy because "she endures a lot". That kind of phylosophy about .... being poor because its holier, being so humble all the time never taking care of yourself. Now I am 27 and I steped out of it, I still believe in God but I dont belong to just one religion and I understood I have to love myself and take care of myself and I worked on that kind of ego of " being a good girl super holy". Because of that I lost some friends, because also some of my friends got so bitter with time that they really cannot stand somebody being joyfull or just dancing enjoying life or doing things for herself. I feel quite guilty to leave them thou. I dint wanna abandon them. Its just that I feel there is nothing there anymore. Makes me a bit sad thou. Just 3 or 4 years ago we were still great friends.

Yes, yesterday I said to my life time friend no, when she want to go on a party. I said I do not drink, I do not watch TV, I do not eat meat and I really do not want to go on a party. 🙃 Yes, really I have a partner and a 12 years old daughter and they understand me. They are still in pleasure state, but at the same time they are moveing up. So I can meditate, I can be in peace and alone. Sometimes I am really sad because of all, like a stranger in this world, but I have support also from nature and animals, books, music and such kind people from u tube like you. And lot of times I feel amazing and really grateful that I can smell, touch and just be.

You have put that very well, I knew I was moving into growth but I didn't realise its from pleasure. I'm changing and my friends aren't in same place, sometimes they frustrate me when I try to explain I'm not into that stuff anymore. If that went on I would lose friends I'm sure. As much as I do hope to find new friends who mirror this growth area, thank you for helping me understand I just need to love current ones and keep my awareness to myself. Thanks again, lovely tone also. Peace

Love one another despite our differences ❤

In life, we come across many closed doors. When I opened the door of pleasure, it was overcrowded over there. but most of them are mechanics. Then I closed it off, and I opened another door titled "intellect and purpose," and I found a select few there. However, in this door, I observed a tiny, hidden corridor that was overpacked with scammers and parasites who would kill to take credit for the intellectual property of the visionaries. The more you become spiritual, the more you seek out a purpose for your existence. Why are you here?

And family. Some will never understand, just accept that and keep moving.

"love everyone no matter what level your at...you're at a different frequency". =. KEY -----ty for this video,.

Indeed, I agree with this statement. In the past 12 years, I have undergone a significant transformation in my personality and character. However, regrettably, the majority of individuals who were once my companions have not experienced such a change. I believe that this is due to differences in energy and wavelengths. Individuals who seek truth emit dissimilar frequencies than those who indulge in excessive partying or drinking. As we are all composed of energy, we are drawn to those with whom we resonate. This can be either fortunate or unfortunate depending on the circumstances.

The pursuit of joy leads to pleasure seeking when we aren't able to be pleasant within ourselves. You can't BE joyful or pleasant if you think these experiences are something to be sought outside you rather than the outside inspiring this within you. The most oppressive lie is that you have to seek in order to have what's within. If you can "be" you can be anything.

That image of the hot air balloon has been in my mind for a while in relation to how I've had to 'cut some toxic people sandbags' loose so that I could move forward (and upward) in my life's journey. I live by myself (and my cat) have few friends and have a more peaceful existence now.🙏

Thank you, I'll save this so i could be back into the old abandoned me, that i left before depression, pleasure, addiction, and fulfiling my needs everysingle day, i was on that path for 3-4 years, for 8 years i suffer with anxiety

There's also a lot you can learn from those people once you've realized a few things. You see them falling into all the old traps you used to. Which is kind of an affirmation of your progress. Not that you'd dwell on that or anything, but it's there none the less.

You begin speaking truths that the masses have been conditioned to believe as lies. And when your fully spiritually awakened you realise you need no one, other than the one who woke you. They either get on board or totty bye. It's of no relevance to me. Very few have eyes to see and ears to hear, the main are spiritually blind and deaf, therefore, I AM grateful that Yahusha (Hayahooshah) came and healed the blind and the deaf. And for those who do not get healed, well this is how the wheat is separated from the chaff, for the next life experience. It's no big deal, it's just the process. You either become consumed by the world or consumed by The creator. John 16:33 "In this world you will have trouble, but take heart, I have overcome the world".

I think what you describe as “pleasure seeking” is avoidant/ numbing behavior. They don’t want to feel.

I really like this, and the calm way you present it. People do naturally drop away when you develop spiritually and they stay where they are (and sometimes they can be nasty about the path you are on). Not being judgmental of them is so important, as you relate. We are all developing at different rates---and some never move from the material self-serving mindset.

People pleasing is such a hard topic for me….I’ve been going through a huge rut with my very best friend of 6+ years. We met online and talked every day, the distance never made it difficult to be friends. But for the past few months, i’ve been so convicted in my relationship with God. Ive felt less and less drawn to the things of this world, called to bigger and better things that will grow me further. I believe what you explained in your video is us exactly, me going into the growth phase while she is still in the pleasure phase. It’s nothing against herI still love her friendship. the only thing is, i love her so much that it hurts to see her still chasing the things of this world. I’ve experienced her growing up and begin to feel more drawn to worldly things, cursing, drinking, a lotta dark humor that makes me uncomfortable. I don’t hold it against her, but it’s just a very painful process to go through. For a long time i’ve been wondering and fighting this feeling, fighting a judge mental mindset. I think the problem is just that we’re in different parts of our life right now. And I forget that that’s okay. I wanna say thank you for the video and the wise words…It brought a lot of closure and explanation to all of my questions and pain. Thanks for the new outlook on things, man. ❤

Your video was recommend to me, clicked because of the title was not dissapointed. This helped me normalize my thoughts, thank you for that

Its so hard to find that kind of people. Nobody is interested in growth.

It’s about balance. Some pleasure is good every once in a while ❤ don’t have to burn bridges either just keep distance

had a new love interest and when i spoke about my beliefs she asked me to change the subject. thank you next.

Great summary of spiritual transition - easily digestible information and so important that love for all others is underlined as a consistent foundation. Thank you for this superb short video 😊

"Some seek non-duality, others duality. They do not know the Truth, which is the same at all times and everywhere, which is devoid of both duality and non-duality." Avadhuta Gita by Dattatreya

Welcome to the “club” You are young but has wisdom. Congrats

4:22 you do understand to love others one needs to love themselves? You cannot give something you don’t have! Being spiritual is about being aware? Not just loving, being loving is higher on level, and not everyone has reached that stage yet, SBS accepting that brings peace

I actually find it "easier" to find peoples with the same vibe as me lately. These days it’s to common to be just random and it can be overwhelming. Video was good in format and content toi

in my humble opinion, the spiritual focus is simply about being present and the self improvement focus is a mind/ego quest. They are not opposing pairs of the same duality. I don't believe someone can be more spiritual than someone else much like how something can't exist more than something else. It simply is, all is spirit. You may be a very intellectually developed person who has mastered discipline with a sophisticated understanding of cause and effect, I'm not challenging that, but that in particular isn't the be all end all of spirituality

Thx for the inspiring Vid. I started right now, to blame my selve for the lost.

You dont lose friends the real friends stay

But others are insecure around you because they see that your at a different level than them and most people don't like it

I don’t think I’ve ever heard anything explained quite so beautifully!❤ thank you for changing my perception!♑️🤪

people are not pleasure seeking. people are trying to escape discomfort. there is a difference. being bored or unstimulated had become very very very uncomfortable for a great many people. that is just one example of the kind of discomfort people are trying to escape.

I’ve always wondered why it’s hard for me to make friends, but listening to this put it in a perspective that I had considered before. Hearing it from someone else makes it that much clearer for me. Thanks!

Thxs for ur time Ur content

Im neither schizophrenic nor particularly religious, but I am starting to see people as functionally demon posesssed. In the same way, if I am dealing with mean self talk or ruminating on negative versions of other people, I think that is also functionally a demon. It seems like we should be focusing on prayer instead.

totaly relavent to my day yesterday great video thanks.

Thanks for your video You describes my life and my feelings; i feel alone with my old friends whom i dont get anymore and they dont get me either, have no new friends-hard to make and being an alien in family reunions because their conversations dont interest me at all. So i prefer to be alone and read, draw, go to the park,... Funny how we re passing through this the same way all and feeling alone - (sorry for my english)

Wow, loved this video! So amazingly you explained everything! Thank you!

"I started telling everyone i was enlightened and they were ego-slave animals, now nobody likes me"

What a great message

I feel the pleasure seeking is also a kind of form of escapism. When you begin your awakening process, you begin to choose to face all those things you were running from. All of a sudden, those things you did for escapism don't seem as engaging.

This was a really interesting video to watch. It happened to me back in 1997. I changed and two people that I had been close to dropped me like a hot potato. Any regrets? No. My spiritual journey has brought me new friends. And closer to God.

Ironically, years after my spiritual awakening I learned to enjoy my pleasures more without beating myself up about it like I did in past. I found biggest lesson was to be your authentic self (as flawed as that may appear) because those self perceived imperfections is actually what makes you the perfect version on you.

Very clear explications and video rhythm

thank you 😊💛

On a certain level, we have a drug store in our brain, the neurochemicals that show up in flow: so dopamine, norepinephrine, anandamide, endorphins, and serotonin. If you were to try to cocktail the street drug version of that, right, you're trying to blend like heroin and speed and coke and acid and weed- and point is, you can't do it. It turns out the brain can cocktail all of 'em at once, which is why people will prefer flow to almost any experience on Earth. It's our favorite experience. It's the most addictive experience on Earth. Why? 'Cause it cocktails five or six of the largest pleasure drugs the brain can produce. We're all capable of so much more than we know. That is a commonality across the board. And one of the big reasons is we're all hardwired for flow, and flow is a massive amplification of what's possible for ourselves.

Through special training and technique I have become enlightened and still have the same friends, my life has not changed much except that I am in a state of perpetual bliss.❤

Nowadays spirituality in general is actually used as a form of escapism. People use it as blinkers/horse tack or differently said, deceiving themselves to avoid responsibilities and/or material problems/difficulty. Spiritual people leaving their friends and changing personality/hobby's etc, is not a sign of growth, it is a sign of that they do not or cannot accept the reality they are living in. At each time they meet people who are not " on the path", their fantasies about a world with no responsibilities falls in the mud and that frightens them. That is the real reason they avoid pleasure seeking people.

Wow. Your graphic is so effective an accompaniment with your narrative. Thank you. May I use that graphic please?

thank you ... slowly slowly keep away from pleasure people ( out of site out of mind ) less disturbance will be there in growth , and keep money for survival

Straight and to the point

It could be that, but be aware that you might also be losing friends due to a character or behavioural flaw which you are unaware of. For years I thought I was pretty 'advanced', only to realise I was pushing people away with my superior attitude and lack of humility.

Simple, clear and easily understood. Great video.

I like how you describe things, alot of the other spiritual youtube 'gurus' arent realistic and just say to avoid anyone negative or at a different level like you said, that's very limited thinking. I think we have to be open to other layers of thinking, but also be practical about what we let in.

Much appreciated, thank you

You are so good in what you 're explaining.

So this is what awakens looks like.

As a compassionate being it seems prudent to accept that I am motivated by pleasure, as are the others around me, and that there is nothing wrong with pleasure seeking, and that there is pleasure derived from the spiritual growth I pursue and pleasure derived from imparting spiritual growth on others. Pleasure can be a mechanism for spiritual growth. A life without pleasure seems unnecessarily lonely and placid.

This is excellent! Thank you for sharing this.

I have been experiencing this over the last few years. It doesn't bother me so much with losing some of my previous so called friends but it does bother me in regards to not having a relationship with my brother. It really is true that most people are only concerned with either pleasure seeking or the pursuit of gain. They just care about money and entertainment or getting drunk. They want nothing to do with big thinking or deep conversation. Their idea of growth is simply accumulating more money or material possessions that usually are unnecessary whereas people like us view growth as something internal they view it as completely external and materially based. Honestly I don't think many of them even have the ability of introspection or if they do have no idea how to use it. I think modernity causes a lot of this. I think we are actually a lot more like how people used to be and are naturally wired to be but modernity and it's atheistic nihilism it's fashionable unbelief in anything besides material and physical things have destroyed culture tradition and meaning in the world and if it does not change soon we could be in for a truly dark age. So it's important that people like us continue to grow internally and get more in tune with the non physical reality and use that to try and preserve heritage tradition and virtue which is currently dying in most parts of the world but especially here in the west. To quote a song by a perfect circle "it's time to put the silicone obsession down take a look around find your way in the silence we've become disillusioned" A perfect circle has a lot of really great and relevant lyrics to our current predicament.

Excellent video. Thank you for posting this! 👍

I have nobody in my life who is interested in anything but baseless pleasure. That path only leads to pain, and I have seen it all. You have to distance yourself from people who drag you down.

Wow! Great video! Thank you so so much! Everything makes more sense! ❤️

Most people connect out of a sense of usefulness. They observe whether or not the person has a function in their stage of life experience. For example, when you have a baby, your party/pleasure friends will most likely not adapt to your new experience and start drifting away from you and you from them. You might still like each other but your usefulness to each others needs has changed.

It kind of feels like you don't have to do anything in particular for the things that don't align with you to fall away. Orienting yourself in a way that's more balanced and healthy is something that will naturally filter out what doesn't align with what you want on a spiritual or even practical level.

if you are losing friends then you are not on a spiritual 'path" u always gain friends!!!!