why you need to live for yourself and not for others

why you need to live for yourself and not for others | journal entry ep. 5

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Жыл бұрын

like I said in the video: living for yourself may not be possible to everyone due to the risks it involves. However, living for yourself can come in tiny ways. The tiny things you do for yourself can slowly build your confidence (you might not even realize it). Tiny things leads to big things. I believe happiness really comes from the little things and moments.
You only live once. You really do. This journey and the things you finally realized you wanted to do, may be really lonely. Your loved ones or parents or friends may not be there to support you. They might not believe you will even make it to be honest. They may support you at the finish line but not on the journey. It is a hard pill to swallow. This path you take on with have consequences that you will have to deal with. But remember you are capable. Remember that you finally decided to accept your passions and that is a big step. The road down requires discipline and hard work. It's a path you will be carving for yourself and by yourself.
This may be the first time you are making a decision for yourself in such a shameless way and you may be terrified. But, what is courage if you're not scared? To that, I say it do it scared. This journey is scary but it can also be just a little bit exciting. Among this fear, there may be this tiny excitement of going for something new and unexpected and knowing full well all you do right now is all for yourself and the acceptance of you. That thought may bring you a little comfort among the chaos. ily.
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@raqueeel.04 Жыл бұрын

i’m so serious when i tell u that ur vids are SO relatable, for real, i feel so heard and understood, love u so much

@olazajaczkowska2446 Жыл бұрын

Yas girl I agree so much

@nezukoyaegerr 3 ай бұрын

fr TT

@Mobirin Жыл бұрын

As a 31 yr old Filipina, born and raised with Asian parents, I want you to know that I feel you. I really felt your sentiments. I became a nurse and work as a nurse for more than a decade now just to please my whole family. I love art. My only dream in life is to draw draw draw.. but everyone in the family is a nurse. 2 yes ago was diagnosed with thyroid cancer stage 1, just then I realized I want to live for myself. I'm just done with nursing. Life is short Imma live it well.

@bandzbandzbandz42 Жыл бұрын

Inspiration ka talaga ate :)

@naiarasantanasantos1430 Жыл бұрын

I totally understand you! I'm brazilian, my dad wanted me to be a Nurse, so I graduated in nursing, but I've always wanted to study Literature and Linguistics. Now, in my 30s, I'm studying it, and it's like a dream come true! I hope you get to do what you want, like you said, life is short! Best wishes!❤

@Mobirin Жыл бұрын

@@naiarasantanasantos1430 I'm glad you we're able to do it. I am still saving for now but praying to embark on the full time art career by next year, after I pay all my debts. I am happy for you, I hope to follow my passion soon too!

@Mobirin Жыл бұрын

@@bandzbandzbandz42 thank you.. follow your dreams. Live your life to the full, sobrang iksi ng buhay. Parang natulog lang ako, now I'm in my 30's na. Hehehe

@infp_girl Жыл бұрын

hi. i am proud of you. and i want to share my story. i am a nurse, too. natigil dahil nag ka anxiety sa pagiging nurse since di rin yun ang gusto kong gawin. a few months ago i stàrted my art career dahil yun din ang gusto ko, i started selling my paintings but unfortunately di nag work but i am not losing hope. ipagpapatuloy ko pa rin, but as of now i am planting fruits and vegetables para may income kahit papaano and i realized sobrang enjoy pala mag garden, like i am motivated na bumangon sa umaga. yun lang. proud ako sa naging desisyon mo. let's do the things that make us happy so that our soul will be happy, too. take care.

@Ihatethisuser264 Жыл бұрын

I started tearing up at the same time when you started explaining how nobody asked or cared about what you wanted. It’s so sad to think for how long someone can neglect their wants to a point where they feel like they can’t even think for themselves. I want to hug my younger self as well (.づ◡﹏◡)づ.

@viively7 Жыл бұрын

"you can do things scared" ,, this was so eye-opening because i realized i only do things that i am more confident in where i am not scared or less scared but its not always what i want to do

@TutorednoobXD 2 ай бұрын

The great Boxer Mike Tyson said, if there’s anything he is scared of he does it. That’s success.

@fairyrae_ Жыл бұрын

This whole series has been emotional for me so far because I can relate so much to this. I'm currently 27 and I'm in this stage in my life right now. It's been a long journey of self-doubt and worrying about my future and having to live on this road of perfection because of the eyes that were upon the younger me. Restricting most of my dreams because of the fear of failure and not living up to the expectations of others. I do wish I could go back and give my younger self the biggest hug because honestly, she was so harsh on herself and stressed the fuck out. But now, I've started living for myself and finding my identity and now I've started taking tiny steps into my bigger ones and I feel a little more happier. It's still a long journey but so far, I'm happy to be taking the necessary steps to live and show up for myself.❤

@AnimeFreakpz Жыл бұрын

Awww I’m in the same spot and I’m the same age too! But I still have a long way to go because I suffer from anxiety and am also scared of failure which is holding me back. I want to push myself harder to try and achieve what I want even if I don’t get it, at least I know that I tried and won’t regret trying which is better than not doing anything about it. I hope the best for you! 💕

@fairyrae_ Жыл бұрын

@@AnimeFreakpz Oh, I definitely feel you there with the anxiety. But, honestly, just taking that first step toward what /you/ want is an accomplishment within itself!! So, I'm hoping for the best for you too! 💞

@javidgt8 Жыл бұрын

Im 28 and feeling the same way. Keep your head up. I hope it all works out for us both.

@notshondrella Жыл бұрын

You honestly don’t know how much this comment means to me! I’m currently 17 and so much is happening in my life right now. Stress about university, friends, family, life in general and I really think I should just start doing this for me. Thank you so much and I hope you have a wonderful rest of your life! 💕

@JjBianca Жыл бұрын

I know the feeling and the life you're talking about. I'm almost 30 and I'm feeling tired of everything most of the time lately. The truth is that I have to live my life taking care of myself and when it's not about others and their approval, I kinda get "lazy" to make things happen. 80% of my decisions or goals were about others always. Their approval, love, admiration, pride, public image and so on. And today my eyes are watering when I see such videos and life experiences similar to mine. And I'm tired to be tired and unhappy all the time. Just tired. Let's make our life better and take care of that better ❤

@nnss7728 9 ай бұрын

I am 28 and I am going back to school to get the degree that I wanted and I am loving it 🥹🥹 go for it 🤍 go for fashion school if you want, its still so early especially at 22. Rooting for you!

@sudhapandey7067 7 ай бұрын

I'm 24 and next year I'll go for my professional degree in clinical psychology, this video is really helping me to understand that yes, go for it, its never too late whether you are 22 or 32, you are right on time, it's your journey and you have to walk that path alone. And it's okay if there are no people behind you rooting for you. loads of love and wishes for your school to start again. ♥

@almomdnilk Жыл бұрын

"talent can get you far, but hard work can get you farther" SO TRUEEE my bff is the most talented artist i've ever seen, yet she failed her art class. why? because she didn't put a single ounce of effort into her work, never showed up for herself and procrastinated, meanwhile those who weren't nearly as good got As and Bs because of their consistent hard work. that truly showed me the power of resilience!! chase your dream people, you can do it

@rickanimaciones4591 11 ай бұрын

So True

@Brianna58321 11 ай бұрын

Wishing your friend the best. I hope she can turn the temporary failure into an important lesson about passion and commitment 🤍.

@im_just_vidu Жыл бұрын

It just hit me when u said "You'll only live once". People always says that & I really never cared. But when you said "I'm 22 now & I'll never be 18 or 19 again" THAT'S when it hit me. Cuz I'm 24 now and I lived for others up until now. And when am I gonna live for myself? And what if I'm unfortunate and die young? So I'll never lived for myself? Via, thank you for making this video. Thanks for talking some sense to me ❤

@byrabia Жыл бұрын

omg i feel you so much, i’m 24 too and i’ve always and still kinda am lived for others and worried that they’ll think less of me if I did a certain study or job that I really wanted to do. Years go by so fast and its hard to catch up sometimes. But as Via said the little changes will make difference and we’ll feel ourselves lighter when we don’t worry about how others will think of us as.

@aena5995 Жыл бұрын

@@byrabia time does go by fast I will not lie I thought it's just me one moment I was 18 turning 19 then Covid happened and everything got delayed and now I m turning 22 and my dream to study abroad is still just that 😢

@iiCounted-op5jx Жыл бұрын

I wanna be a teenager forever

@xunvenile Жыл бұрын

I'm 24. I feel you so much!

@sallybutton6237 Жыл бұрын

Imagine how I feel, just turned sixty & realised I’ve lived my whole life for the pleasure of others & not myself..things have changed..I may not have long left on this earth but the time I have left will be all about me & my happiness from now on.

@jaslavie Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this, yesterday was supposedly high school prom and I didn’t go (as a senior) - part of me felt that I was missing a keystone moment of high school, reflecting on my lack of fulfilling relationships, and now seeing your video I realize that I have simply been latching so tightly onto the fabricated traditions of high school imposed upon us by someone else. I’m learning to find comfort in my own definition of happiness which ultimately does not rely on these traditions, holidays, or whatever you want to call them. I’m spite of what other people say I should do.

@via.ilyouu Жыл бұрын

no worries babe. i also didn’t go to my high school prom. i also did feel like i missed out but i know that i would get very anxious about social settings even now. we are in this together bestie

@kadraabdoulkader8033 Жыл бұрын

hi there, you're not alone on this !!! yesterday may 24 was my graduation day as senior in high school ,but guess what I decided to not go. many people has questioned and judged my course of action , having to explain over and over again why I took such disposition. am yet to drop the fact that I'll take a gap year . most definitely my mom will snap and go crazy , and I'll be the black sheep of the family :)

@INFP-Turd Жыл бұрын

@@kadraabdoulkader8033 I didn’t go to prom (junior and senior year) either and I’m also the black sheep of the family, you’re not alone either :)

@chocolattefeverdreams4228 3 ай бұрын

Heyy, the day before yesterday I was also at my hugh school prom. I only went bc a friend of mine wanted to go but left early bc of health issues. I should have realised that it was ok if I didn't want to go in the first place, bc then I was pretty lonely after that. Either way, just know that there's nothing wrong with missing prom and in my case, feeling lonely in a place you expect to have fun in. ❤

@seriouslysarah1665 2 ай бұрын

tbh you're probably not missing out much because I heard what my friend said about prom where I live and she said only the last 10 minutes were good. i hope you're doing well xx

@lilia_casburn Жыл бұрын

Honestly, I find myself the opposite; nobody is pressuring me to lead a certain life, but I find that the issue. I search for people to tell me what to do, and find it easier to follow what they think is best, as if that’s better than my own judgement because I’m not sure what I want and I’m afraid of making those mistakes (which indefinitely come). Anyway thanks for the great video ❤❤

@linh2917 Жыл бұрын

that’s exactly how i feel right now

@anuabraham5823 11 ай бұрын

THIS. I've always wanted someone to tell me what to do so i won't be weighed down by my own decisions. I currently took a course i want to do but i'm not at all sure if that will work out for me in the future. I feel constantly doubtful and scared about my decision. I just hope it works out somehow and i will be less anxious.

@sheevaneebais. 11 ай бұрын

That's because you don't know yourself. Do things because you want to do it not because you should do it! In the end the only one who truly benefits is you. You are the one who will reap most of the rewards and whose life will change the most due to your own actions. Not because it is the best idea in the world, but because you chose to do it. Hope it helps❤

@widowswail888 9 ай бұрын

I’m the same way and I think it’s exactly because of what Via mentioned in this video; taking accountability. I suppose of other people told us what to do, everything will be easy right? We don’t have to put in much work in discovering things for ourselves. On the flip side, if people told me what to do, would it align with my visions for myself or would it drag me farther away from who I envisioned my self to be? I’m 27 yo almost 28 and I still struggle with this too. I do feel like I’ve been wasting my time though I do also believe that there’s not a specific rigid timeline to someone’s life. Well, here’s to living and growing.

@lilianamoma 9 ай бұрын

You can study business admistration, that’s always a good idea because it is very multi faceted, you can get a variety of jobs afterwars. Then once you start working you’ll see what you like and you definitelly will see what you don’t like too 🙂

@angeL_ocracy 11 ай бұрын

Thank you so, so, much. I’m 16 years old, and I’m too scared to do anything for myself. I feel as if I step one foot outside my house, I’m going to get shot or sexually assaulted, because that’s the mindset my Haitian parents put onto me. I understand that they care, but I have absolutely no sense of independence because they’ve always kept me sheltered. Whenever I try to do something by myself it almost always turns out horrible. I don’t trust myself, because I’m afraid of making mistakes and looking stupid. However, this video helped me realize that I am capable of doing things, I just have to stop blaming myself for everything that goes mildly wrong. Yes I’m scared, and yes I don’t have a set idea on what I want to do in my life, but I’m glad that I’m aware of the interests I have and that I have people out there who’ll support me in what I do. I want to rebrand my KZfaq channel, I want to create my own animated TV show, I want to go into voice acting, I want to draw more, I want to write more, there’s so much I want to do in my life. I’m starting off slow by deleting all of my social media (except for KZfaq and Discord), and hopefully I’ll become more productive and strive for the things I so desperately want to accomplish.

@mainlyava 11 ай бұрын

Oh. Em. Gee. I relate to you soo so much, 😭. My Haitian parents sheltered me so much, (they still kinda do) and my personality definitely changed due to it. Like my parents always telling me to stay to myself, or warning me of mistakes instead of letting me go throughout life experiencing the mistakes, and learning from it. It’s great at times, but others..? Not so much. I used to feel like you as well, i used to be afraid of looking stupid. But one day I jus stopped caring soo much..like YOLO! This summer I also want to write more, and do other things. Anywaysss, I hope voice acting and KZfaq goes well for you❤. I hear you.

@ellielupien3425 10 ай бұрын

you are so young and lucky to have discovered this so soon in your life. go for those things.

@banglittlechan 9 ай бұрын

I believe in you dear stranger! YOU GOT THISSS 💐🤍

@katischurr2710 Жыл бұрын

As someone who has struggled with their self-esteem and is in their last year of high school, your videos have helped me so much. It's so scary that life is so unpredictable, and I don't know what to do with it, honestly I will try to just do what feels right :)) Thank you for your videos. They're really calming and helpful, really

@via.ilyouu Жыл бұрын

same here love. i am here with you. you’re not alone ilysm bestie

@dragonflymoki Жыл бұрын

i'm starting to feel that living for other people's acceptance and attention is going to make us invisible & I don't wanna be invisible in the only life that i am sure of. i'd rather "fail" whilst being myself than "win" living solely for others

@LyssieLysse Жыл бұрын

I’m 33 and I feel like half of my life has passed me by just from pleasing other people. I wanted to go to art/fashion school after high school, but everyone put pressure on me to become the first doctor in the family. When I tell y’all I burnt out the first month of freshman year! My grades first quarter of biology major was so bad that I got SUPER depressed, moved back home, and settled for another school in my hometown (bad idea). I switched my major again before junior year and (barely) graduated with a bachelor of arts and I felt great about it, but I was still depressed + anxious from the pressure put on by my parents and myself to find a great job. That never happened and to this day I’m working a job I’m not thrilled about, but I need it to pay off my debt. With each passing day I feel my true Self emerging and I’m tired of pushing Her down, tired of ignoring that She’s there. I’m not a doctor (and after working where I’m currently working I don’t want to be one anymore), never will be one. I am Me and no job, accolades, etc. can define that.

@Megan-lr2hx 9 ай бұрын

OMG, that sounded like me. I went to a University straight out of HS, dropped out, and moved back home. Attended some close colleges, I barely graduated as well. I had jobs but still trying to figure what I want out of life.

@matt55592 8 ай бұрын

“Do it scared, but keep going” So true. You’re never gonna feel perfect and be in the exact right moment to do something, but you just gotta do it

@laene69 Жыл бұрын

7:09 this hit me. tbh this entire video hit me. the most fucked up thing about this entire feeling is that “we” (everyone going through these struggles) know what to do but it’s the action itself that is so daunting. as i’m approaching 22 i’ve been trying to incorporate this mindset into my daily life but like you said. you have to be consistent. and that’s something i feel like i’ve been failing at lately. falling back into what’s “comfortable” but ultimately not what makes ME feel good. so, thanks for the reminder. it’s exactly what i needed to hear rn. and to everyone else feeling lost and scared i’m supporting you from afar. you’ve got this. ❤

@promise-getahunt1410 Жыл бұрын

IF I SAY IM CRYING NO ONE BELIEVE ME THANK YOU VIA FOR YOUR WORDS. FR ITS MEANS ALOT FOR ME CURRENTLY I ALMOST GIVE UP ON MY DREAM AND FOLLOWING WHAT MY NEAR PERSONS SAIED TO ME. GIRL I WILL STAND FOR MY SELF UNTIL VERY VERY END FROM NOW ON. LOVE VIA AND THANKYOU SO MUCH

@debasmitaaapaul Жыл бұрын

i am not even lying, it just makes me cry because i can relate to her so much. she isn't only my comfort youtuber but also my comfort person from afar. everytime i feel anxious or have that bad feeling of being isolated/not having friends/social issues etc etc, her videos are really warmth to my soul

@ava03 Жыл бұрын

Why did i find you so late I found a week ago and already in love with your episodes I'm still 17 but feels like I need to financially independent already Finding ways to keep me happy in my depressive era from past 2 years Finally gonna move out of my house which doesn't even feel like home after my dad's death I found people like you on yt to keep me going Thankyou

@undercovernerd6848 Жыл бұрын

Something clicked for me when you said “what about consequences? So what if there are consequences?” . I can always learn and move on 💗

@half_cactus Жыл бұрын

I needed this today. I'm finally going back to school at 25 after years of self-doubt, an ex-boyfriend who put me down for my choice of major, and fear that moving away would disappoint my family (a weird circumstance that was aggravated by lockdown). It's never too late to go after what you want ON YOUR TERMS and no one else's. It's hard to get the ball rolling on so many passion projects that I left behind out of fear of what others would think but I'm happy that I am finding the courage now. Y'all can do this! It's better to live YOUR life than someone else's.

@ephemeralmaple Жыл бұрын

i don't see a lot of people talking about academic validation and what it does to you, and having support from your family but,,, with certain terms and conditions attached. so thank you for this video

@ashen3207 Жыл бұрын

I'm so emotional right now reading these comments while listening to these words so happy for all of those who found confidence in themselves and are happy doing what they want you are really strong because it takes alot of courage,time and patience to actually not feel guilty for simply doing things for yourself I'm not at that stage rn saying it is really easy because it's something i want for myself but don't have the courage yet to do it but i do really respect and admire you people for not treating life as a competition, for listening to yourselves and for trusting in yourselves and for those who haven't including me it's alright take your time you can do this, it might take some time but in the end it will all be well

@lillian_arin Жыл бұрын

honestly, it feels great that there's someone out there who can feel the emotions as you do and for me, that's you! I never ever felt so much comfort just from a video and it felt like I relate to your every words. Thank you so much for speaking from your heart and not just some other people, who pretends.. Love you so much!

@via.ilyouu Жыл бұрын

i love you so much more bestie 🥹🩷🌷

@katiethewise Жыл бұрын

you're literally one of the best creators on this website. best wishes to you!!

@via.ilyouu Жыл бұрын

my god you’re gonna make me cry

@HalimoAbdi-np2wd Жыл бұрын

@@via.ilyouu what state and city do you live in? It looks so peaceful and walkable 😢

@ch0colatechum Жыл бұрын

Somewhere in boston she made a video

@HalimoAbdi-np2wd Жыл бұрын

@@ch0colatechum do you know the vid :)?

@ch0colatechum Жыл бұрын

@@HalimoAbdi-np2wd living alone vlog 🧸☁ college days in boston, starting self care, cafes, getting my life together

@normapadro420 9 ай бұрын

Hello. I like what you said in your video. I knew what I wanted to do as soon as I could remember. When you are little parents make choices for you, but I learned that I didn't want to be like anyone else. I began to live how I wanted in my teens. While others wore fashionable clothes I wore hand me downs. Once I got older people began to push me away. I just took control, and completed my education. I got into creating things. I got into writing, photography, art, music. I did things that I wanted to do. I created my own world. I live in the world that I want to live now in my own way. As for those that pushed me away I have grown, and am at peace. Life just keeps passing by. The years just keep passing by. It's good to know what you want, and take chances. No body is going to stop you, but yourself. I'm 57 years old now. I had a family member that committed suicide. They always said life is so boring. I never told him anything, because I have never been bored. There are so many things that I can do. What I'm trying to say it this. Finding joy in living is very important. Knowing yourself, and your capabilities is very important. Take care.😊

@adameyan3435 Жыл бұрын

I'm literally crying right now because I've been very sensitive for a few weeks and I discovered this channel. The first thing I noticed when I started watching your videos was what a different person you are. (which is a very nice thing because such people are rare). I say this because I want to thank you for helping me feel good and for helping me see that I am not late for anything. If I could, I would hug you for helping me understand myself. Love u girll❤❤

@janaki1005 Жыл бұрын

i relate to the academic validation part sm. there's been times when i was satisfied w my grades but my parents had higher expectations and once i realized i didn't reach those i just felt terrible. this video came at the perfect time and it's so comforting

@janaki1005 Жыл бұрын

@@sinthrax ik it isn't black and white and im glad they give me the push i need but the grades im talking abt were for a subject i rly rly worked hard for and i scored well above average, just wasn't top of my class like i was for other subjects and that made them upset

@drp12189 Жыл бұрын

Currently I’m in my last month of my first college year. And through this scholar year I’ve felt so lonely because it’s really hard for me to accept that maybe this is not the career that I was looking for. I am afraid to change careers and make my parents feel disappointed with me. But thanks to you I’ve been able to clear my mind ❤️❤️❤️❤️💜💜💜

@rosalesmickaela Жыл бұрын

Same! In my case, I already know what I wanna do career wise (related to arts and design as well like miss via) but due to financial issues and uncertainty I'm stuck on a course that I'm not confident in- basically I can't see myself doing it for a long time (at least). A part of me keeps asking the same question everyday, "Will all this be worth it?". It just feels like I'm wasting my time tbh... I'll be rooting for you! Wish you all the best! 😊

@Luvluna19 Жыл бұрын

Gurl same no one forced me to take what I wanted but you never know what you’re getting I was also second guessing my uni my subject like 😢

@aspen_19 Жыл бұрын

I just want to say that I've started living my life as if it really is mine. I'm so proud of myself for finding new hobbies, getting into sports, and posting short youtube videos. I'm also proud of people like you who push others to live for themselves. I hope that whoever's reading this stays healthy and chases their dreams. Good luck guys

@dragoneer121 Жыл бұрын

This is why I did not go to my University graduation. I didn't want to, my mother wanted it. I was only able to get away with it because of the pandemic. Living for myself is somehting I have struggled with for a long time and I am still trying. I have to take some big risks soon and its terrifying but I need to do it.

@hendsem 2 ай бұрын

@dunoo751 Жыл бұрын

it's so nice that your videos are like a reflection of our diaries! so warm and real 🫶

@via.ilyouu Жыл бұрын

ilysmmmm

@Aquisces 11 ай бұрын

When KZfaq put this on my reccommended, I felt like this was the wakeup call that I needed. Everything you said hit home for me when I was mentally admidst of all the chaos being cornered by phantoms of my own past traumas, and knowing I'm not alone in feeling this way, I think I can start moving forward, even though it might take so many years to finally feel at home with myself. Thank You.

@donutyue Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for these diary entry videos Via! I'm 24 going 25 this year and I myself went on a journey to live for myself last year when I realised I hated everything I was chasing for and I was trying to please everyone as well (cLASSIC ASIAN CHILDHOOD). Since I did, I've definitely felt the same way, stressed out and terrified but so lucky to have loving and supportive friends surrounding me, and now I'm making friends with the most talented, genuine and nicest people with the same mindset as me and feeling super fulfilled despite not getting a fat paycheck (working on that hehe) DON'T BE AFRAID FELLOW 20+ YEAR OLDS YALL CAN DO IT FRFR

@jennystarr1993 Жыл бұрын

I’m so happy you are doing this now!! I’m 57 and in transition and finally figuring out myself! Thank you for this encouragement! 💜

@danoleary639 9 ай бұрын

Same... until I read your comment, I thought I was the oldest person coming to terms with this question . Trying to figure out how to lead the next + 30 years of my life.

@gigistyles7239 Жыл бұрын

Wow, this hits right on the spot❣ I'm 25 living with my parents and I wanted to do the things I really want, wear whatever I want, style my outfit, etc. But I can't. Mama decides everything for me, and whenever I try to say "No", she's mad for instance, I wanted to try this new style of outfit and she's like No, you should wear this ad that and I don't even have "eye" to see if it suits me or not. So as a result, I would wear the outfit she picks for me and would go on with my day uncomfortable. I love my parents, and I respect them a lot. But I can now see that they don't really support me with what I want. And I'm also at fault for not standing up for what I want. I'm still trying, taking small steps each day. Anw, thanks for this video Via. This helps me calm my anxiety. I know I can make it.

@MiaMia____ Жыл бұрын

Haven't even started watching and LIKED already🤣

@via.ilyouu Жыл бұрын

MUAH

@flumiie Жыл бұрын

My parents always tell me to find a job, even though I quit last year due to high stress and depression. They also encourage me to not taking too high of a risk. Those influence really deep-down implants me of what I am today. It seems boring & uneventful. Yes, I got the monthly salary, but I'm working for someone else, it's just felt like something is wrong. I don't want to be that guy in the same "crowd". Now I've been seeking for therapy & stuffs, but Via really nails it. Start from the very small things, even though people judge you for it. Especially my parents, every single damn day.

@elizabethle2237 Жыл бұрын

girl i love your videos, it feels like im listening to a friend give me advice. us being the same age and having other similarities makes me super grateful for your videos and words. it feels good to feel someone validating how ive been feeling lately, so always thanks for sharing!

@Gabrielle649 Жыл бұрын

“Do it scared” you literally inspired me to just do it. I’ve been applying to so many jobs but I’ve been unemployed for months now and losing money. If I’m being honest with myself, I’m just wasting time waiting because I’m too afraid to make the call or answer call backs. I want to pursue my hobbies and try out the interests that I have and I need money to do that. I’m going to call tmw. Ty for this vid

@thatteacher_ayan Жыл бұрын

I stumbled upon this video randomly but I needed this right now. I'm at that state in my life where I have been feeling lost and behind in life compared to others. I've been doubting myself and my progress. Having CPTSD and depression surely doesn't help at all. But you're right, I can do it scared instead of just living with what if's and regrets.

@janene4734 Жыл бұрын

You will feel alone sometimes following your dreams, but you will never be isolated.

@SimonTheSuperSexy Жыл бұрын

Back with another banger journal entry lol. Thank you for making these, they really help a lot and it’s nice to know other people feel exactly the same way about certain things. This entry especially helps a lot in where i am right now. That worry, want, need to not disappoint the people you love and not hurt them and to make them proud is so scary, but at the end of the day a lot of the people that truly love you wouldn’t want you to be doing something that ultimately won’t serve you and/or make you happy. It’s rough but this vid really helps in giving me the courage to take this next step ive been thinking a lot about recently so thank you and good luck, hope you and whoever may read this has a great week/month/life and that they have the courage to live their life

@leticiafonseca5550 Жыл бұрын

Hi via, I saw your video and I thought it was very good for me. I'm 16 years old and it's only after watching this video that I realized that my life is being controlled by other people and their opinions. I haven't been myself for several years and my 10th grade is being horrible I live with toxic friends . This video showed me that I have to start being me. Thanks for sharing this whit us

@tadak549 Жыл бұрын

I’ve recently found your channel and I’ve been binge watching your videos. Your videos are very comforting and I love them so much, you feel like a friend and I just want to thank you for making me feel better and making me feel like my feelings are real and valid

@HopeByrd Жыл бұрын

as someone who wants to go into the arts, this means a lot. you’re words are so heartfelt and beautiful and it lowkey made me cry. ur now my favorite youtuber

@aquadust Жыл бұрын

this video could not have come at a better time and it made me so emotional. thank you for your kindness and the little extra push you're giving to all your viewers to pursue what they truly want, i'm 20 and realizing that i've lived my whole life knowing exactly what i wanted but have never had the courage, self-love, and discipline to fully chase after it. i just know i'm going to come back to this video again and again whenever i need a reminder. sending all the appreciation, love, and support in the world!!

@engene4198 Жыл бұрын

Ever since I've found your channel I've found a sense of comfort in the content you create because of how comfortable and relatable your videos are and how it makes me know I'm not the only one suffering with these types of emotions. Love your content so much and I look forward to future videos in this series 🫶

@motivatedjudith4996 Жыл бұрын

Girl everything you said in this video is so damn relatable that I pause every minute to walk around my room telling myself how right about everything you are 😭 We have so much in common it's genuinely scary. I am also studying business and I wish I was in the arts.

@notchristal 10 ай бұрын

I just started watching your videos and omg i have never felt so validated and seen by someone. It's really comforting to see that other people my age experience the same thoughts and feelings that i do; it makes me feel less alone. love you girl you're officially my internet best friend

@anyone1111 Жыл бұрын

5:29 it made me tear up when you said this, thank you. I’m glad you’re now doing things you want and I’m so happy you’re feeling confident in yourself while doing so. Thank you for the kind message I reallyyyy needed to hear this especially today.

@yadig8157 Жыл бұрын

This video came to me as I just turned 27 and still haven't done what I truly want in life which is to travel to Asia. I have a bad fear of flying but also separation anxiety and it's hard to make decisions for myself without thinking about my family. But you spoke so well and true that I am willing to start small and work my way towards my dreams. I wish you the best of successes as well as everyone who stumbles upon this video the way I did. Thanks!

@xolovesrine Жыл бұрын

I really love how you can articulate your feelings and emotions out, I also love how you think of things.

@Lena_raly Жыл бұрын

Wow I really needed to hear this. I am trying to live my life, even as I’m a broke college student that can rarely go out. I try when I can. I’m about to enter my corporate job and I’ve decided that it doesn’t define me. I’m not my job. I can still be the things I’ve always envisioned myself becoming while having a job that funds them. This gives me hope. Thank you always for your wisdom. Ur soul is comforting💕

@user-lo1hj7gi4d Жыл бұрын

Thank you, I am a 18 year old that recently graduated from high school and I am really anxious about the future. My parents usually tell me what I should do w my life. But I am have been feeling lost questioning all of my efforts I've done in life. But you have given me hope in making me believe in myself. You're right with us not being able to know what the future holds. Even if it's really we should do it because just like you said, nobody will live for ourselves. I really would like to live a happy life that I can be proud of, I know I'm not going have the support of my parents but I know I'll be fine. I'll really try my best to be who I want to be. Just like you said, If other people can do it, why can't I? I want to live a happy life. I want to be happy.

@userhope18 Жыл бұрын

She really talked it out and I felt like seeing my reflection in it, and I am sure a lot of us must have seen themselves in her words too. I think this episode was quite comforting to me who's going through a terribly hard time mentally. This video simply lifted me up to start living my life once again, for myself

@mango1333 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this. This video found me right as I am in the midst of an identity crisis because I feel like I don’t know myself at all. I’m about to turn 24 and I finally realized that I can just,, do whatever tf I want, but the fear of consequence kept me confined in a cage for so long. Your segment about consequences and how no matter what we do we will face consequences whether good or bad so might as well do what we want to do in order to grow, spoke to me on such a personal level. Like a sign from the universe that it’s finally my time. I’m slowly accepting that I am so capable of anything I want, and this video felt like a warm hug telling me that I’m starting on the right path to self discovery. Thank you Via ♥

@silverkenesis 4 ай бұрын

this opened a different perspective for how i saw my line of action towards reaching one of my biggest goals. i thought i knew what to do before, but the comment about taking the little steps towards your goals in life made me think more about what those small steps i should take actually should be, and i’m glad it did! this episode was super reassuring, and i’m happy you chose to share where you used to be at and what you’ve learned after breaking away from others’ expectations of you and your future. keep doing what you do!

@meimelody_ Жыл бұрын

honestly this series has helped me so much to realize a lot. Listening to what you say makes me feel confident and free, as if my inner self wanted to burst out. I want to thank you a lot for this, I’m really grateful!

@aphroditesdevotee 11 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for your support and encouragement 💗

@0_nizz Жыл бұрын

I really found you at the right time. I've been dealing with a lot of anxiety these last few weeks and also evaluating everything that's been going on in my life, including the people around me. there are so many things i want to do but somehow it seems i'm always waiting for other people's approval to tell me if it's right or not, if i look stupid or if i deserve to be where i am. and I know it's a huge responsibility to put my happiness in someone else's hands, but I couldn't help it. since I started watching your videos I've been motivated to do more things alone and enjoy my own company, something I had lost a long time ago. I'm making significant changes in my routine (like visiting places by myself, starting a new course in another city, exercising every day, and even wearing what makes me feel beautiful) and even though it's baby steps, I feel so much happier because it's what I want to do. I always saw achievements as things that should be huge and I underestimated the little things in life that are also part of this process.I know this is only a start, but for now it's enough for me and that's ok.

@nataliasouza5876 5 ай бұрын

It's incredible how much I relate to you even though we live in different countries and have different cultures and upbringings. I never heard anyone voice my fears, wants and values so clearly. It's like you're reading my thoughts. It's crazy. I recently found your channel and it's helping me a lot. Thank you.

@lizornelas1449 Жыл бұрын

This video literally almost made me cry. Please keep posting, you’re speaking for so many of us who have felt this way forever. Your videos are amazing

@zekiacampbell9176 Жыл бұрын

I’ve been struggling with finding myself and the next steps after college. I am terrified, because I’ve made the decision to start living for myself and to be positive the best way I can be. This video has designated with me SOO MUCH. Within 16 minutes I’ve learned from you that I am not alone, that it is okay to face the “consequences” because it builds character and it take courage to go after your passion. Thank you for this. Keep doing what your doing.

@Idgafyaar 11 ай бұрын

This video has literally changed my life.. I can't thank you enough. You deserve all the happiness in the world, ILY💜

@cleened8013 Жыл бұрын

thank you truly from the bottom of my heart via. i’ve never watched a video before that brought me to tears and i really needed that today after feeling numb and hopeless for too long to remember and being in a limbo of deciding to take a big risk in my life or not. i’m in a similar position to you feeling like i’m coming to these realizations later than i would’ve hoped for but they do count for something and will help us moving forward. big congratulations on your graduation today too, been watching you for a long time and i am so happy to see your growth this past month

@reingabriel7925 Жыл бұрын

i was having a breakdown rn at literally 4:30 am and then i came across your vid n i just want to let you know how this vlog of yours comforted me

@oIdricecooker Жыл бұрын

hello via! i’m 15, turning 16 this year :) i’ve been struggling a lot with decision making especially with going to junior college next year and having to choose subjects that will probably benefit my career path next time but my biggest problem is not having a career choice. literally none at all. i’m so lost and i honestly feel really really overwhelmed especially with everything the school has been pushing on us-career talks, day internships etc and while i am incredibly grateful for the opportunities i cannot help but feel a little overwhelmed, lost and anxious. and now that i have to consider junior college and university in the future, i have to think about how i’m going to fund my studies and all that stuff because as an asian kid my parents have already told me that i’m going to have to pay my school fees myself starting from university (which i totally get and i’m not complaining at all) but sometimes i just think about the more privileged people whose parents can afford to sponsor their education journey throughout, and even if all else fails, that money can still help boost the child somewhere into society. but for me, if everything falls apart, my money goes to waste, and i think i’m going to have a lot of trouble trying to get everything back together again, especially in the type of society we are in. i still don’t have answers and solutions to a lot of these problems, but i just wanted to share that what you said in this video has resonated with me deeply. i’m super thankful i stumbled across this video :) thank you via ❤️ and i’m wishing you all the best in your future endeavours. you’re truly one strong and capable person!

@dreaminmint3766 Жыл бұрын

I relate to this so much, especially with being a first gen student trying to make everyone proud while also following my own dream. I wish you could like youtube videos more than once!

@Nikki-ef2zi 2 ай бұрын

I discovered your channel few weeks ago and i wanted to say that your videos bring me so much comfort. You made me realize that its okay to feel certain emotions, how to deal w them and keep going in life.

@stephanie-mk2vv Жыл бұрын

thank you for being emotionally vulnerable and making this video, i think a lot of us really needed it 🥺

@daniaza3625 Жыл бұрын

i love this series so much because it’s literally the exact thoughts i have thought and struggles ive been through. tbh i just needed someone to tell me it lmao. ive sent all your videos to my best friend:) we both love these

@kassandravang1551 Жыл бұрын

Words from a sister I’ve really been needing… I finally feel truly seen. Thank you for this video. Coming from an Asian family, and feeling like I can only pursue a certain thing to feel validated by relatives and family members… this was so helpful and inspiring. “You are capable”, will now be my new motto to live by until I can really achieve what I want, even if I don’t get the support I need from others.

@LenaLiu-bk7kp 6 ай бұрын

It always tears me up when you talk about the inner child

@Hi_Zie Жыл бұрын

I swear whenever I watch your videos it’s so calming and so therapeutic especially since I’m young and want to prepare myself for a happier future in my own way :) thank you so much

@jenniferdon5442 Жыл бұрын

I'm so grateful to have come across your videos, I've been struggling with some similar deeply rooted issues, I'm finally giving myself permission to thrive at 25 in spite of my anxious perfectionism. it's refreshing to be able to relate to someone that has put it into words.

@emma.l Жыл бұрын

oooo you hit hard with the "i wish i had studies art/fashion" bc I felt the exact same after graudating, I just finished a science degree lol. but I'm lucky enough to have found a job outside of what I studied that allows me to be creative! all hope is not lost

@jennifermarin2586 Жыл бұрын

Currently same situation what job did you find 🤔

@emma.l Жыл бұрын

@@jennifermarin2586 I work in communications/marketing so get to write and design posts for social media :)

@magagama10000 11 ай бұрын

I feel you! I decided to persue languages instead of chemistry and biology. I hope that it pays off haha. Good luck with your job! I am happy for you even though I don’t know you!

@emma.l 11 ай бұрын

@@magagama10000 ah thank you!! studying languages is great, I hope it goes well!

@shifashaikh1712 Жыл бұрын

Dear vai li , your channel is literally therapy for me and it is really so relatable for me like i feel like i am talking to my inner self who gave up on her dreams and things she is passionate abt just to seek academic validation I want to be a finr arts and a business student and now i am gonna achieve both of em thank you for making me realize alot of things abt myself that i have negletted now i am only gonna live for myself and lead a happy life tbh uh videos gave me alot of courage to do stuff i wanted to do . I started following ur channel just a while ago like 2 months ago and i saw ur vids it motivated me to give time for the stuff i like and accept myself as a whole and i even started wearing stuff i like.I am writing this comment so you get to know that uh r such a wonderful person and i hope uh will never stop making these

@ButterfreeBug 11 ай бұрын

This is the first video I watched of yours and you don’t even know how much I needed to hear this 😭😭😭 I’m happy I found you thank you so much for the support 💕

@blooming_flowers3412 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video! I really appreciate your honesty and being yourself even if it's scary. I'm 23 and I have so many questions, I'm not sure what I wanto to do, who I want to be, what's my hobbies are... I'm learning myself. The worst thing for me is knowing that I am alone and always will be. People will be around but I have to live my life

@jdhde Жыл бұрын

I always thought that I live for myself and don't let others control my life or choices (I'm very head strong and know what I want) but this made me realise that a lot of the things I "want" are actually just things others want and I don't really care about. This was really eye-opening, and I'm so grateful that you uploaded this right now. I'm trying to better myself before I go to uni in a couple of months and this has also helped me feel better about some of my choices I made earlier this year. Thank you for the upload - you've gained a subscriber 🩷

@yeosepp Жыл бұрын

i want to say thank you for this via! i have been constantly been struggling lately with whether im on the “right” path or not or if i will regret going in a certain direction in the future. i had a thought that all of my overthinking would disappear once i start really LIVING and trying as many things as possible. then this video popped up and it really was the cherry on top because the missing piece was not only living and trying amidst the fear, but also doing it for me.

@kirtigautam166 11 ай бұрын

Thankyou so much you helped me a lot you said exactly what I needed to hear. This channel is so underrated , this was so relatable . "you can do things scared" is a life saver this will always stick with me thankyou again

@WildermanJNM Жыл бұрын

it's crazy that somehow you always seem to make videos of the exact things that are going through my mind at the moment. My whole life I've had that idea of "Oh I want to do this but I'm not allowed" weighing me down, even though if I think about it objectively, nobody was really stopping me from doing the stuff I wanted to do, or telling me I shouldn't do it. In reality it was just me trying to avoid some imaginary judgment from others. So these past couple of months I've been trying to change mindsets, and the best way I can describe it to myself is that I'm gonna do things "without asking anyone for permission". It's crazy that nobody was stopping me, but doing things for myself still feels kind of rebellious in a way. Even though all I'm rebelling against is my own mind.

@noxisjpg Жыл бұрын

im new to this channel but i cant say enough how comforting it is to hear these words from someone else :> the truth is i care a little too much about what others think and not nearly enough about myself. ive been trying really hard to change that mindset and hearing the words i subconsciously knew out loud really helped. i missed a few "key" highschool events and yeah fomo sucks but it happens, and who deemed them "key" anyway? i just wanted to say thank you so much, it really helps

@tessaisntreading Жыл бұрын

this video came to me as I'm going through a period of so much change in my life and I want to thank you for making it. whenever I'm self sabotaging and avoiding to do something out of fear I go back to you angrily saying to do it scared and it feels like an advice from a friend. it always reminds me that I got my back and I can do it. thank you so much for it

@goalchaser._8232 Жыл бұрын

When you say “you are going to die some day so is it really worth it to start living your life for someone else?” This statement stuck out for me because I feel that as I’m living with parents but going off to college soon, right now I feel like I’m going to be stuck in one place for a long time. Yet, I know that it will not happen if I work for the life that I want. I know that I can go places and do many things if I truly focus and be consistent to get there.

@bareumi Жыл бұрын

As the eldest child, I often feel pressured to choose my own path. When you said that making your own decisions requires you to commit to it fully, I felt that deep in my soul. As a child, I was always too scared to step out of the state of comfort that my family provided for me. Growing up, they would always make sure that they take care of my needs… just so I can follow the path that they decided, since it’s “safer” that way. I listened, without realising that I could’ve made my own decisions too and fought for it myself. Instead, I would curry favour people around me and made myself regret it in the end. My point is - Since we’re the same age, watching your video (this is my first time seeing your channel) made me realise a few things that I forgot to remind myself. To never lose yourself for others. You put quite an amount of relatable mentions in it, it felt like a friend is giving an advice to me.. without putting me down for it :) thank you for the wonderful video 🤍

@rebecamartins2717 Жыл бұрын

This is so relatable! I'm really glad I found your Chanel! I was feeling really bad these past few weeks and I think your videos are so important and inspirational for me! Please keep up!! Me and a lot of other people love your content! ❤😭👏🏻

@al4sk4gr3yx3 2 ай бұрын

i am so thankful for this video, you really need to know how much you helped me, it was like a turning point..i felt alone, stuck in this situation, scared for the future, your words were so powerful..its okay to be scared and do things scared..thank you from the bottom of my heart, now i know i'm not alone and can make it

@I-dont-care-anymore. 5 ай бұрын

your videos are so relatable and it helped me realize that I'm not alone. I often have a hard time knowing what I want for myself you made me realize that it's okay, it just takes time.

@manuelaabreu8892 Жыл бұрын

Can’t believe I was just looking for a feel good video and you posted this 😢❤ thank you

@manshaadhar706 Жыл бұрын

I am 19 years old, currently in law school, however I am scared to do alot of things. It takes a lot of efforts for me to even wake up in the morning and do something. Hearing this journal entry of yours I feel at peace, atleast I aint alone. I think I might try to do different things now!💞💞💞

@Aeiouaaaaaaaaa Жыл бұрын

Good luck!! You’re already doing great :)

@anisharodjan5562 Жыл бұрын

I'm also in law school..I was never a bad student but i have to say law school is not really my cup of tea..And i'm not sure if i want to give up yet because something in me does want to succeed in this major...BUT i also do know that if i don't make it i'll find another path and start living for myself instead of only thinking about what others might think of me

@lunchjoy. 8 күн бұрын

i'm only now coming to these realizations. i'm thrilled you’ve adopted this mindset so early even if you feel like you’ve wasted time. thank you so much for sharing

@mollygraceee Жыл бұрын

thank you for this vi, i'm a big people pleaser and i'm scared to say 'no' because i don't want people not to like me :') you always post the right videos at the right time, i'm so thankful for you and ily 🫶🏻 (ps. i'm so proud of how much you've been growing! you'll be at 100k in no time :o )

@via.ilyouu Жыл бұрын

stop ilysm. you guys have no idea how much i appreciate the support you guys are giving me. i am so blessed with you guys ilysm

@authordarlenerodriguez 11 ай бұрын

I teared up twice during this video. And I relate to this entire video so much. It meant a lot to hear this and know someone else feels the same way.

@priscilamenjivar6741 Жыл бұрын

This video was so helpful. Thank you. It’s been really hard for me because I have been trying lately to pursue the things I want instead of the things that others want for me but through dealing with depression, it has been really hard to find things that I truly enjoy and that I have passion for especially since I have been so burnt out from uni.

@Thecheeseisreal04 Жыл бұрын

There couldn't have been better timing for this video- exams are in about 2 weeks and I've yet to decide what college I want because my whole life I've been just blindly doing what others want/expect of me, without ever thinking what I want. Always relying on academics for a hint of validation. I never realized how this affected it me until I was completely burnt out and the anxiety that came with it was even worse. But recently I've been more mindful of myself and the things that I want and need- yes I'm still struggling from time to time, but I'm happy with my progress. This video brought me so much comfort and confidence to try and breach the little bubble I'm in and to go after what I want. Acknowledging the hardships and struggles that may come along is somehow reassuring because this is /my/ decision and at the end of the day I'm in control of it (mostly heh) Thank you so much for this- and every other video

@jenndaizy 11 ай бұрын

Watching this as a 25 year old eldest daughter, I can tell you whatever she said is so ffin true !! Live for yourself, throw away the guilt they're only in your imagination they're not real, the guilt you felt is what holding you back from actually experiencing all the beautiful things in life, and that's what making you feel so heavy all the time. Learn to let that go, learn to let a lot of things that weigh you down go, and the people that gives you bad vibes. I rmb telling my best friend about the problems and the stress I was feeling, and he said to me: "Take the weight that you can afford." It was the best advice ever given.