Why Your Ex Checks On You Even When They Won’t Talk To You

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Why Your Ex Checks On You Even When They Won’t Talk To You
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Are you wondering why your ex is checking up on you, "stalking" your social media but wouldn't reach out to talk to you? Clay Andrews explains it on today's video.
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@ClayAndrews Жыл бұрын

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@masq8678 Жыл бұрын

Plz don't fool us but telling us what we want to hear. Tell us what we need to hear. They dont love us. If they did, they would be trying to make everything right.

@devarshraval8040 Жыл бұрын

If you believe they love you then they should try making everything right, why aren’t you doing it? Ever thought of that. Similar to you, they might not be approaching you

@surasmitameher 11 ай бұрын

@devarshraval8040 You don't fix something someone else has broken. Simple. If they are not interested in fixing something, they shall just stay away. Don't at people, just shows how coward you are.

@shuvachakraborty6356 10 ай бұрын

@@devarshraval8040what if they don't reply

@carriebell3566 9 ай бұрын

Then checking on you, etc is not due to them loving you though…it actually has more to do with the whole “let’s see them miserable” thing, because if you are miserable it allows them to say they were not the problem.

@Gbb93 4 ай бұрын

People’s pride and fear stops them from going after things they want in life all the time. This is not true

@amstarla Жыл бұрын

Lovers are lurkers, that's why🤷‍♀️

@arethaboddy7490 2 жыл бұрын

Sometimes it feels weird you can be upset and mad at someone and still like them sometimes.

@gaetanolopez7779 3 жыл бұрын

4 reason is because they hate you and they want to see how bad your life is without them they want to push you to text them for being insulted and rejected. So you put your account private and leave them alone with they madness. LOL

@KultureBraidzLLC Жыл бұрын

That's what I am doing. Lol

@thisloop Жыл бұрын

Yea i did it, private ma acc n blocked him! Hes been nuts even til today 😹 he pissed off i ignored him time to time

@hi8107 Жыл бұрын

These are people with nothing exciting or worthwhile going on in their own lives that they need to vicariously leach onto someone else’s reality and try to push others down in an attempt to lift themselves up.

@stanfen1966 Жыл бұрын

💯

@jordanlennox5435 Жыл бұрын

The just want to see if they still have emotional authority over you and they don’t want to lose control over you

@chilledchad Жыл бұрын

Yeah... Another more realistic comment

@donaldmcjizlletetz5499 6 ай бұрын

Definitely realistic I agree with the other guys reply. Although if you’re hanging around girls/guys that genuinely like you, they don’t really get that deep, at least from my experience. It’s either real or it isn’t. I still agree that there are some sneaky people who do stuff like that.

@Wildanimal864. 3 ай бұрын

I like to call it “yanking the line or testing the line” tryna see if that fish is still there.

@78SHAFER 2 ай бұрын

Im a whale bitch you need a harpoon @@Wildanimal864.

@Wildanimal864. 3 ай бұрын

Most times they are doing what I like to call “ testing the line” the are yanking the rod to see if the fish “you” is still on the hook…… you must be polite but act uninterested…… you must fight the joy when they contact you.

@Proverbs31Ministries222 10 ай бұрын

Yes true. Actions speak louder than words

@TheCat_98 3 жыл бұрын

She’s been stalking my social media and blocking and unblocking me. So, I know she cares and acts petty on social media so I know she still loves me

@Giovanni-01 2 жыл бұрын

At the end of the day, if there was no interest, they wouldn't look.

@444truthteller 2 жыл бұрын

And you still love her by noticing her blocking and unblocking you...

@rustycage5550 2 жыл бұрын

She does the exact same to me and we dont even follow eachother, i hope youre right

@inspiredx3866 2 жыл бұрын

Did yall reconnect with all that going on a yr later?

@fernandogonzalezmartinez83 2 жыл бұрын

@@444truthteller sow what ?! These is the problem with society always wanna point out. Sow what ? What’s the problem ?

@truthteller1973 2 жыл бұрын

This is creepy behavior 😳!!! Mind have some kind of Narcissism.

@HT-bi2qb 2 жыл бұрын

For real😳

@indiakxoxo Жыл бұрын

I agree narcissistic

@Ms.UncutMMC Жыл бұрын

The competition part baffles the fuck out of me. On the contrary its hard to give af when you're trying to get rid of the person 😢

@inspiredx3866 2 жыл бұрын

Maybe they are a little curious. Doesnt mean it will change their actions to want you again. Theres a possibility later they will. All in all dont think too hard into it. Go by their actions which you cannot force.

@ristegorgiev5114 3 жыл бұрын

Hey clay you post this in real time how accurate you are this is a lot helpful to me

@ClayAndrews 3 жыл бұрын

Glad it helped. :-)

@lovelyescaro5326 3 жыл бұрын

This helpful. 7mos ago he broke up with me and still do this things. Im sicked of this games so i finally blocked him everywhere.

@-taylor-9980 25 күн бұрын

... because you made an huge impact on them such as being the best thing since sliced bread. ❤

@melaniagonzales1148 Жыл бұрын

It’s been almost 4 years that he’s been stalking my social media and messaging me off and on … lol I just want him to leave me alone 😂

@sierushest1991 5 ай бұрын

Because they are hunting you. Very sociopathic behavior.

@alanna4148 2 жыл бұрын

Very insightful video .. thank you. My ex that left me didn't start searching me on social media until over 10 months later . He still hasn't reached out to me in all this time. I honestly feel like it's better that way. I still love him and if he reaches out i know it would be a lot harder to move on and a lot more painful than my current situation because i know him and i could never be a couple again

@ULTIMATEUNITED2000 8 ай бұрын

Depends who did the breakup. If it was you, you need to make the effort. If it was him he needs to. Simple

@SUNGODDESSMOONCHILD555 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this

@ClayAndrews 2 жыл бұрын

No problem 😊

@ranginijeyatharan6665 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you good information

@ClayAndrews 2 жыл бұрын

You're welcome. :-)

@Royette-Labandillo Жыл бұрын

If you notice ex still stalking in your account even he had already in another relationship, trust me once you post other girl in your side he will crumble down 😅

@ClayAndrews Жыл бұрын

@user-jh9qq4zj6e, thank for sharing your insights regarding this video. :-)

@SamRaz23 5 ай бұрын

then she comeback to me?

@margaretbatson83 2 жыл бұрын

Lmao ! I'm sure they do it to everyone. They even call the work but no one answers.

@markramsden5101 10 ай бұрын

Me and my ex split 4 yrs ago she went into a rebound relationship thats dead .Now she's coming back down to the bar we both have friends in .We don't talk but she's always looking over and I catch her eye constantly

@How.Dare.You. 8 ай бұрын

What is supposed to be going on with me?? Nothing! As usual living my awesome life!!

@Natalia-xo1yj 17 күн бұрын

What's sad is when they break up with you to be with the woman they went to when they broke up with you last time. We never know what goes on through those wishy washy energies.

@ladyviking89 2 жыл бұрын

My ex broke up and the couple weeks later and ask me if I missed him. I told him the truth that I moved on and I was no longer wanted him

@JohnDoe-dl4td 3 жыл бұрын

Curious on why an ex mirrors you. Like steals your style. And Is into everything YOUR in after the break up.

@emmabell1587 2 жыл бұрын

Cause they can't be their authentic self, so they have to copy your style. lol They are crazy and need help.

@mariamish8988 Жыл бұрын

Some of them also try to pattern their "patch-ups/ rebounds" based on your style/ sense of fashion. "His taste is (still) me." 😁

@briteidea08 Жыл бұрын

They lost themselves in the relationship. It sometimes takes a few months and therapy to change.

@millyardopeacecraft9778 Жыл бұрын

One of the forms of narcissistic behavior

@sickwitlyrics Жыл бұрын

Bro she copied my tattoo and she put on the wrist like I did

@neciasilver5357 Жыл бұрын

Mine does it to intimidate me, to try keeping me isolated afraid of his blow up accusions and seeking any mistake I make or wrong I do to point at or twist into something worse than what he's done that made me feel I needed to gwt away from him.

@John-ee5dh Жыл бұрын

My X girlfriend drives past me

@priyarai4307 3 жыл бұрын

How do I know that he got feelings for me when he shows mixed feelings towards me.? Maybe he is fooling me and playing dirty games.

@thomaspeaster4777 3 жыл бұрын

You just described how my long distance ex has been acting for the last year. How do I get past this and get her back?

@ClayAndrews 3 жыл бұрын

Hi Thomas, If given a chance, will you be emotionally ready to reach out to your ex?

@arthurmorgan1550 3 жыл бұрын

My ex is jealous I hang out with this one girl even though she’s in a rebound relationship

@SamRaz23 5 ай бұрын

then she comeback

@waynelaughlin9377 3 жыл бұрын

My Ex and I broke up due to long distance. Then when the first lockdown ended she ran out and started seeing a new guy. Now she is blocking and unblocking me all the time. Like what gives?

@livsnjutaresverige3802 3 жыл бұрын

I can relate. Covid made my girl leave a couple of weeks early for work one year abroad. We where fighting and ended up not talking for a few months. Well she meets someone else better and shes with him now…

@kristenfuller9168 Жыл бұрын

My ex hasn't spoken to me for a long time. He just randomly went on my Twitter page yesterday. Liking stuff I post. Even his rebound partner who I don't know. Is follow me on social media too. But not talking to me either. As well. He's even retweeted of what I retweeted. He's pretty much copying me.

@Kerplunk-rn5dq 3 жыл бұрын

Maybe you're right. She still follows me with her dummy account.

@romeda5156 2 жыл бұрын

My ex only deleted me on snap, and never I really snapped her even when we were together.

@aubreyparker5427 Жыл бұрын

I hoped someone could reach me up, I used to break up with my ex on this February and it’s literally broke me so much, I’m drowning and had a bad week even took me a lot of time to recover, soon as I started played tiktok, I started to gained followers, i realize he stalking me for a couple of months , may June until august, and now I fully do no contct literally blocked him and I still find it way hard to forget about him, I’m trying to get him out of my mind please help me

@Beastshortvideos200M Жыл бұрын

What if she stalks you secretly at your class intervals, which you noticed many times😢💔

@Beastshortvideos200M Жыл бұрын

and what if she gives you a secret eye contact at the class💔

@felixthecat2786 Жыл бұрын

I blocked my dumper because I was not interested in having this person in my life anymore. It's been 5 years and my ex has created several fake social media accounts in order to check my social media. Why are they doing this?

@minnie9306 10 ай бұрын

What if they been doing it since you started talking to them

@geieffect6698 Жыл бұрын

He unfriended me on fb.. but still has me in a relationship with him. Makes no sense

@whan1936 Жыл бұрын

It didn't say your name or who the relationship was with did it ?

@geieffect6698 Жыл бұрын

@@whan1936 I removed the tag he tagged me in which means i took down my name on his profile...but it still has the relationship status on there he hasn't removed it yet.

@umibozu7827 Жыл бұрын

We Broke up 4 month ago, in the last 3 weeks, she is asking "MY" friends, about me, what i am doing and so on. but i am still blocked everywhere. yesterday she admitet she has my passport, and she was worried, but she dont want to give it to me in person. just know it of my friend. it is so wierd.

@txl43n Жыл бұрын

I'm in a bad relationship and I can't get out. I'm trying find a place to move and they want income to be 3 times the rent.i had my own place My current crazy partner sabotage me from moving. he kept liking his ex selfies on fb and ig for TWO years before he met me. but I found this out after months of dating and caught on too late. what is the reason he chose to kept his ex on social media for 2 years and keep liking the bitchs selfies. I accuse him of using me as a back up and waiting for her to take him back. he denied it.

@thisloop Жыл бұрын

😹😹😹 i blocked him everywhere but he turned up on youtube. He pissed off that i closed ma main account, deleted everything and set into private. then today he posted a song that he composed and dissed me on the lyric 🤦🏻‍♀️ i knew it from other friends so i looked at the lyric n i laughed so hard. Same act from me to him: IGNOREEEEE! i aint wanna talk to him or be friends wit him after his trash attitude for being so rude n disrespectful toward me. aint tolerate wit dude who uses rude words on me

@evamaria___ Жыл бұрын

My ex blocked me after the breakup and I’m still currently blocked. It’s been 2 months and he requested to follow me on a business account he made and possibly thinks I don’t know it’s him. Is he just curious to see what I’m up to?

@EthnicRush 9 ай бұрын

me ex watches my stories on fb and insta and she posted a sad face status and messaged her are you ok? got nothing No contact again....

@BridgetteBentley 7 ай бұрын

So please tell us…what is the solution? Do we hide them from stories..unfollow or block…or do nothing? Seeing him in my stories gets to me emotionally I’m having trouble moving on. But I see in his comments on his page he is flirting with new women now. It bothers me

@lisa5821 Жыл бұрын

Had a one month long situationship blocked for four months. I know it's wrong but I caught feelings and he seemed more casual. I blocked without explaining why. Unblocked him two weeks ago and I got a request. I accepted and asked how he's doing. He left me on delivered, it's been four days. Lol. I was going to apologize and explain what happened but I guess not.

@bonafide_forever Жыл бұрын

Oh he’ll come around eventually. For now, he’s still licking his wounds and just testing you. He wants you to feel the hurt that he’s been feeling without having convenient access to you. He mad because he couldn’t lurk to get details of your life. But he gotta learn that playing games will eventually get him burned. And you flamed him when you dropped him and went ghost. His ego literally melted. No more Misses Nice Woman😂😂😂😂😂👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

@user-xp6hu6mh7f Жыл бұрын

U are out of ur mind to date someone lol… leave him alone

@laughingjack8794 3 жыл бұрын

Clay question it's been a month since my ex broked up with me for the rebound and I work with the rebound but she'll come sometimes at my job to buy thing's or see her rebound but is she also showing to see how I'm doing does it mean she still cares about me or anything?

@myexisback836 2 жыл бұрын

He is indeed a problem solve contact him!!!

@myexisback836 2 жыл бұрын

Contact father right..away Text him now through whatzapp

@gregorytaylor240 Жыл бұрын

I said the same thing man IDEK why TF my Ex is still watching my storys it really pisses me off when she watches my storys but her Dumbself Blocks me on TikTok like a Dummy yet I didn't do anything I was at work but it fine she goes on Social media and act all cute and all this other crap I'm just pissed off if I get a New Girlfriend her Dumb self gonna get jealous

@londonkristian777 10 ай бұрын

Lolllll exactly keep it pushing

@KJ-gx7bg Жыл бұрын

Only reason I won’t block him is I’m afraid he’ll start stalking me in real life.. I don’t post much just share memes, so he’s gonna get pretty bored 😂

@_Matilde96 2 жыл бұрын

Butttt Why nobody talks about when they secretly stalking you from fake accounts ?? Those zero followers newly created accounts . What’s their intentions - then ? Cause If they watching your stories from their own real accounts it’s not even stalking, they clearly just watching your story and that’s that . Most likely from curiousity and the end ..

@raymagaa Жыл бұрын

This is happening to me, I hid my stories from her and I muted hers so I don't see anything. But now she is stalking me with her fake profile which I 100 know its her because she even once told me about this account lmao

@_Matilde96 Жыл бұрын

@@raymagaa but what’s the point ? Means she’s just curious or what ? Very weird 🧑🏿‍🏫

@raymagaa Жыл бұрын

@@_Matilde96 honestly we will never know, but one thing for sure is that if they still look at our stuff, we live in their minds and think about us a lot.

@_Matilde96 Жыл бұрын

@@raymagaa crazy 😰

@ramonariehl3393 Жыл бұрын

What if an ex blocked me but is now having his friends try to friend me? Should I accept?

@Merilee-kv6dy 10 ай бұрын

No do not accept the friends. They re playing games. Be your best self and let them see what they lost. Hoping everything good comes your way.

@brandyschneider3034 2 жыл бұрын

Well, lemme see- concerning #1- the man would never tell me that. 3. HE HAS A TON, of pride. Stubborness, whatever.

@EmoJoshSavesTheWorld 3 жыл бұрын

Clay my ex and I reconnected as friends at the beginning of the month. She was active on my social media, liking my posts and watching my stories for a few days and then completely stopped. I suspect she may be checking secretly… whyd she go from public interacting with my page to silence? She knows how I feel about her, does she not want to give me false hope (she already did by saying ‘don’t give up, next time I’m single we can try again……’)? We’ve been broken up since feb 2020

@myexisback836 2 жыл бұрын

Hello the do you need help to fix all kinds of problems in your relationship including getting your ex husband girlfriend boyfriend crush within 48hours??????

@myexisback836 2 жыл бұрын

Contact father right..away Text him now through whatzapp

@myexisback836 2 жыл бұрын

He is indeed a problem solve contact him!!!

@AuntJuli 3 жыл бұрын

My ex and I brokeup 5 months ago but we're still friends on Snapchat and it's a bit awkward now to just delete him

@ClayAndrews 3 жыл бұрын

That's totally fine, if you are uncomfortable letting him see your activities, I guess you can make some filters or mute him?

@carlosdegouveia9612 3 жыл бұрын

Glay I got divorced it about 3 year and she wanted to be friends I didn't like that so she got married I don't talk to her for 7 mouth and I don't hear enething from her.?

@janeholland7206 3 жыл бұрын

Chat him up 💪

@carlosdegouveia9612 3 жыл бұрын

@@janeholland7206 thanks

@carlosdegouveia9612 3 жыл бұрын

@@henrypio1109 thanks

@carlosdegouveia9612 3 жыл бұрын

@@henrypio1109 thanks she is married I can not do everything about .thanks

@stefaniamandi6897 3 жыл бұрын

why my ex try to make me jealous

@emmabell1587 2 жыл бұрын

They want you to chase them. It's not worth it, you don't have to chase true love. Just live your life and be happy without them. Maybe one day everything will click and they'll stop being crappy humans.

@shesanne2 Жыл бұрын

My ex said that he was already move on, like we're done and he regrets breaking up with me then suddenly he start stalking me now after 3 years, he said he used to hide from me because his miserable but yet his not talking with me or said what he really feels. Idk I just met another 2 guys already when he said its done but now I'm confused if it's nothing or there is something? And also his mom keep caring about me until now she'sclose with my mom , I want to ask if he still loves me? Or else

@shesanne2 Жыл бұрын

When he stalk me I'm shocked and confused and yes honestly we can make it work? Cause now we're 21 back then we're just 17-18 I just understand that breaking up with him is invalid and I still love him I just go with rebound relationship? To heal

@Beastshortvideos200M Жыл бұрын

@@shesanne2 you're together again?

@nonenone6884 Жыл бұрын

She has her friend's watch me

@latoyawinter3396 24 күн бұрын

Lool that’s wild

@nonenone6884 24 күн бұрын

@@latoyawinter3396 its called gang stalking

@ComeBolo Жыл бұрын

Do you know what it means for your ex to orbit your social media? Nothing. If the person really wants you, he goes after you, because when you love someone, you'll not wait in your corner, in silence. You don't have a minute of peace when you're in love: you sleep and wake up thinking about the person, you work without concentration and everything makes you think about the person, every silly thing. So, there is not the slightest chance that someone will have good feelings for you and keep quiet. My advice to you is: use this as a motivation to become the person who will be irresistible to him. Show your evolution. Show that your life is moving forward. Partially show your achievements - but not enough for him to understand everything. Let him know that he's really out of your life. If he still doesn't take the initiative, block him, for good. You certainly don't deserve someone so disturbing or so coward.

@MarkieMcG. Жыл бұрын

I wish this were true but it's not. I absolutely love my Husband, but we're separated and I won't talk to him. It's been 6 months so far. Yet truly I love him with my whole soul. I just have to allow him to see what's really out there first.... Work on himself and give him time.

@ComeBolo Жыл бұрын

@@MarkieMcG. I'm sorry to tell you, but if he hasn't contacted you in 6 months, chances are he won't contact you at all. But I hope you're right and I'm wrong.

@HelloHello-xm1ek Жыл бұрын

@@ComeBolo Not true at all! Sometimes you just saw your worth and that the person didn't value you and saw you as an option and you realize you caught up feelings and now you can't let go of him, but won't answer his msgs anymore , cuz you know he is just using you. And now you are stuck and watching his IG or open fake accounts to just get a lil bit information of him, cuz you miss that connection but you know you were not worth a bit. :(

@thisloop Жыл бұрын

agree

@ComeBolo Жыл бұрын

@@HelloHello-xm1ek In other words, you're wasting your time.

@thatonadinelennon86 2 жыл бұрын

So what does it mean if he unblocked me a month after the break up? I realised yesterday when I re downloaded my social media apps that he actually unblocked me. It triggered me because I'm still healing from the way he treated me, which was really bad, and when I saw that he unblocked me I just went ahead and blocked him everywhere and I deleted his phone numbers along with his family's numbers and mutual friends. Anyway... What does this all mean?

@hellohelena8876 Жыл бұрын

Just lurking to see if you're an option. Good on you to block him! Keep healing

@CynthiaWithLove Жыл бұрын

If you're asking, then you still care. Focus on you and why you feel the way you feel.

@lindavangalder3466 Жыл бұрын

I encourage you to watch some of RC Blake's videos. He can give you insight on why men do this and why you need to keep them away from you even if you still have feelings for them. It is called a trauma bond and it isn't real love.