When my dad died he told me my mum was with him, our long dead family dog Judy, and his very long dead mother. I am a Christian and find this memory comforting. At the time I brushed his comments off as I was younger , but now at age 75 I do believe he did in fact accept his death because he saw my mum who came for him to take him home to heaven. God bless you and many thanks. From UK.

I'm 37 and on hospice. I appreciate this interview... Thank you!

I know I'm late to the party, but this just reminded me of something. Years ago when I was a kid, I couldn't have been older than 12, I had this really weird dream in which I died. I was laying down, perhaps on a bed or on the ground, and my family was standing around me. Most of them were blurry, but my little brother was in focus, and he was crying. What was strange about it was that, in the dream, I wasn't sad or afraid at all. There was this warm light around me that kind of washed out everything and it was SO. FREAKING. PEACEFUL. I looked at my baby brother standing over me falling apart, and I just said, "No, its ok. It's so peaceful." It's the strangest, saddest, and happiest dream I've ever had. I didn't experience a peaceful feeling like that until 20 years later, at one of my best friend's wake after she passed away. Her name was Donna, and her death was very sudden. There was only about a month from diagnosis to death. I was heart broken. My sadness and emotional whiplash completely disappeared when I walked into that funeral home, though. I could feel her so strongly that it was impossible to cry. She was right there. It was open casket, and my husband, my daughter, and I approached her body to say goodbye. It was strange, because even though I could feel her there, the feeling wasn't coming from her physical body. It was coming from everywhere, completely non-localized. Oh, that reminds me of one more thing. We were at the hospital with Donna, and I was sitting in the bed next to her holding her hand. All of a sudden, she looks up at the ceiling and her eyes widened like she'd just seen... something. I don't know what she saw, and by that point she couldn't breathe well enough to speak, so I can only guess. But she definitely saw something, and whatever it was, it was apparently the craziest shit she'd ever seen in her life. I had never seen such a look on her face. If I remember correctly, she died 2 or 3 days later. I saw her in a dream a few months after that. It was a short dream. I walked into this house I'd never seen before, and she was sitting in the couch talking to someone. I said, "Oh hey! You're back!" She just looked at me, smiled and nodded, and then turned back to her conversation. It could've just been a dream, but it felt like more. It felt like she was really there. I think she was saying, "I'm fine, I'm busy having fun, go live your life." And so that's what I've done. I've had other dreams where I've seen dead loved ones, and in one of them, I was given information I couldn't have known, and it turned out to be true. So while I don't have any better understanding of death and consciousness than anyone else, I've seen enough to convince me that there's definitely something more to our existence, and whatever it is, it's fascinating. If anyone would like to know about it, feel free to ask. I'd add it here, but this comment is dangerously close to becoming a novel. Anywho, have a lovely day!

As a hospice nurse too, I think it's ironic that Nurse Penny says religious beliefs don't make sense, yet she, like the rest of us who have worked as nurses for some time have seen a lot that doesn't make sense. Many who are religious have amazing, beautiful, peaceful deaths because of a hope of Heaven. People ( patients and caregivers) sometimes have supernatural experiences and see angels and Jesus. There is so much more than we know; To try to "make sense" of it is futile. Heaven and Hell are as much of a possibility as some think they aren't. The spiritual realm is most certainly real.

Anyone else get goosebumps when Penny was talking about the 40-year-old man who was dying, while she and a hospice aide were by his side? I know I sure did!

I did Hospice Nursing last 10 years of a 50 year career and Penny is right about everything she advises people about

I Love this beautiful video and it’s very inspiring and informative about death and dying and I didn’t get into learning about death till my age over 55 and want to learn as much as I can but yet when I was younger I felt scared to die and I still do and just feel just a tad better about death. But, I don’t want to die. The fear for me about death is suffocating /suffering

People are never are usual. They are all unique.

And dying alone. I Love all of my family and my children and Grandchildren.

My sons freak (ages 30 and 34) and do not like me saying dead, so I negotiated and call it jumping up. Talking death is so difficult for people.

It’s “patients”. NOT “patience”. I am a patient who has no patience for misspelling. 😂

He's an excellent interviewer, and she's so smart and empathetic, great episode!

Your sure are a legend, Nurse Penny. You were my first hospice nurse on social media.❤️😎

Heaven & hell are real!

I absolutely love you Penny, your tik tok brought me here. When you talk about your patients dying and seeing their loved ones coming to take them to the other side, you make the process seem less scary. All of your content you do on tik tok is so fascinating. Keep up the great work. You are a real life angel 😇

I watched my dad leave at 69. I watched my grandmother leave in her 80s. Both looked up as if someone came got them, then they was gone. With my dad, the room had a feel why he was there for 2 weeks or so. After his passing, the whole room had a feeling as if it was a tomb where why he was alive, there was love in the room. I feel sorry for people that have no religion. Even if the religion is right or wrong, there is something else next BANK ON IT.

Hey, Peggy! I grew up and still live on Camano! And we are close in age and I was the black sheep trouble maker. We could have easily hung out! Love the story surrounding your late dad.

I've got to admit that the closer I've gotten to the age 50, which is just around the corner for me, the harder it has become to accept that I have lived out my life halfway already. It's rather scary to me. I wish I could live forever. I worry about leaving my daughter alone. She struggles with sime severe mental illnesses. I just want her to be okay, and to be able to navigate this crazy life on her own when I am gone. The day that girl was born, was the day I felt like I actually did something great in this world. Yes, I am a worrier...

The need of quality, caring case managers in the hospice field has not waned. I’ve seen so many vultures with arrogant power trips in various hospice groups. I’ve also seen many beautiful ones. I always tell people, the first hospice place you contact is NOT the only one. Meet the team. Get a feel for them. Do they feel clinical and cold and in a hurry or do they actually be present with you, care about you,, slow down and talk to you to help you relax so you can communicate your questions and feel comfortable with them?

Penny, im 40. Your life story leading up to age 40 is alot like mine. Im at a crossroads in my life and i want to serve others. Its been nagging me for a while

Absolutely LOVE listening to Nurse Penny ❤

I have done hospice as a minister and Sad times my mind turns to take kind humor, done respectfully I have found at certain death and to die can find some humor does help to lighten the situation.

Wonderful wonderful experience listening to you both! Thank you!

Am 48 on hospice in Spore for cerebral and systemic lupus

I mean am kinda obsessed with life after death but not to the point of being scared. Am just Uber curious. It’s been this way since I was very young.

I fear death. This was helpful, thank you ❤

I used to work as a CNA in a nursing home and I watched my father battle cancer and pass from it when he was 49 and I was 18. I love the idea of helping other people in the medical field, but how does your immune system respond to being around different dying people and being exposed to all of their bodily fluids? I stayed sick when I was a CNA and I had trouble sleeping and a lot of nightmares. Maybe I’m just not the type to be a nurse 🤷‍♀️ P.S. when I say I stayed sick, I don’t mean literally. I just mean my immune system was always over reacting. I’d have cold sweats regularly

My husband was diagnosed with Idiopathic Pulmonary Fibrosis a year and a half ago. I’ve been hoping for a gradual decline ending with hospice. Penney’s father’s experience seemed so sudden. I wish I could find out more about his expected end but don’t find answers.

0:01-0:13 "There ARE Things That Are WORSE Than Death!" Oh, ABSOLUTELY!!! Or, as Col. Henry Blake of "M*A*S*H" Fame once put it: "Absitively!" 😳😊

Found you on my fyp on fb. Obssesed.

My ex and his family , myself too all have pretty dark sense of humor. My ex mother was on hospice in our home . We scared a few nurses. Not those in hospice though. Lol

There’s a spelling error on your video. It’s ”patients”

Start asking them when they get close... Some describe Heaven and others describe hell... Really critical to discern what they see .. pray that the Lord, Angels show them heaven... Even several week before passing they have open dreams... talk to them... They may even teach you... But discernment is critical to see what is happening... Pray, for the Lord to lead you and He will and does!

It is just unnecessary and, well, incorrect, when people make statements such as, “there’s something about 30” or “you just realize you’re going to die at 30” or linking 30 with middle age. This “death anxiety” thing isn’t just a foregone conclusion. No, people do not just realize they will die someday because they have turned 30. She says that young people are just waiting to get older. No, she may have, but please don’t watch this video and think it is universal. This is not the way that most people feel. I hope her use of sweeping generalizations does not confuse people. We don’t want you speaking for us. I am not a self-help proponent, so when I say death anxiety near the age of 30 or 40…or 50, it may be time to get some professional help. I do very much agree that people need to talk about death more and it needs to begin, in appropriate ways, in childhood. She speaks of fear of the unknown as it relates to death. All fear, of anything, does stem from lack of knowledge. This is why giving children information about death, illness, divorce is always better than avoiding the subject. Children and adults, can create terrifying scenarios in their minds just because they tend to make up their own answers to questions. These are often questions that can be easily answered, but either they go unasked or, as often happens with death, answers are not given because “it’s something we don’t talk about.”

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Patients not patience

The boy snickering at inappropriate times 😒

I don't consider 30 middle aged . I'm 47 though lol

“Patients” not “patience” in the title

Geeze spell it right!!!

She will never "normalize" death tho, I'm sorry, people are and always will be afraid of death. So IMO it's really just about her own feeling of entertaining people.

I'm sorry.There's something about this woman that's very off putting to me. I usually love your interviews but i'm not even ten minutes into this and I had to click out of it.