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If I were to list 100 things I'm looking for in a wife, Deen would be number 1 and "Career focused" would be number 105.

WE SHOULD FOCUS ON HOW ALLAH WANTS A WOMAN TO BEHAVE AS A WIFE, INSTEAD OF WHAT A MAN WANTS.

RESPECT..Am married for 16years now Alhamdulillah with 5 kids..nd RESPECT is very very important

The level of attractiveness changes. Initially he may be attracted to your looks but I believe the reason for attraction changes. After marriage I can tell my husband finds me attractive when I'm kind and caring to his family. When I stopped wearing make up, I catch him watching me and ask why he's looking at me he says I look nice (I used to always wear make up. Not wearing make up is freedom now). You really don't need anyone else to love you for your looks, if your husband loves you as you are it's very empowering. Alhamdulillah

Mahdi has no clue what he is talking about, wants her to be shy and not talk to people but also wants her to have a career and have her own thing and not rely on him, brother is a little confused.

A SPECIAL EPISODE WERE WE REACT TO SISTERS RESULTS ON WHAT THEY THINK WE LOOK FOR IN A WIFE, WANT MORE EPISODES LIKE THIS LET US KNOW. THE NORMAL EPISODES WILL STILL CONTINUE. ENJOY

These guys missed the most important thing 1. Respect 2. Obedience. Dont be afraid to be judged it might save someone's life.

I was disappointed with some of the sisters response. I am a happily married woman for 16 years…. I agree take care of yourself but just beauty and femininity does not make a good life partner. The sisters saying that sisters compete with each other seemed shallow and the one sister mentioning it she was shut down. My dear sisters… confidence, being a good friend to your spouse, education, patience, intellect, being a good mother and having a good relationship with his family with good intent…. These qualities are beautiful.

Mahdi has basically accepted the Western way. How can you have a "shy" career driven woman? I feel it's still a man's world, so for a career driven woman, she more than likely has to play in the boys club to get ahead. The degree part triggered me. As first generation, my family relied on me. I worked 60 hour weeks, pursued school and took care of my daughter/brother at 22, helped my mother with medical care and a terminally ill aunt over 20 yrs. It was a challenge to finish my degree. It hurts to know I would be "written" off as not ambitious because I don't have a degree. I felt I was doing the right thing by sacrificing my goals/dreams for the sake of my family and their needs. So, I tried to be a good Muslim woman by doing the "right" thing by my family, but will be penalized as not ambitious because I didn't finish my degree because of it. 😕Sigh I would think the actions I chose to take would reflect my loyalty, love, care, appreciation and respect for my family but that will be negated because a degree can measure my level of ambition. Got it brother.

im 27 years old i never had a girlfriend before i never kissed a girl and im a virgin. i never smoked cigarettes shisha or drunk alcohol and im proud of my self. But thats why my future wife has to be a virgin too BUT if i wasnt my virgin my self i shouldnt and couldnt expect a virgin wife too

Simple, Men need women who are 1. Feminine/ Family oriented 2. Respectful 3. Obedient And ofcourse Deen/religious, that goes without saying

1. SubhanAllah 2. Alhamdulillah 3. La ilaha illallah Muhammadun Rasulullah 4. Allahu Akbar 5. Astaghfirullah wa atubu ilaih 6. Subhanallahi Wa Bihamdihi 7. La hawla wa la quwwata illa billah

The point at 7:00 about attractiveness being about effort is something I deeply agree with, because not only is that in itself attractive, but most women who do take care of their bodies do become attractive.

The success of a man is not measured by his ability to attract and provide for women. It is in his ability to be a leader worth following. And no leader is successful who dismisses his followers humanity by making them not worthy of being listened to or valued.

That was actually a beautiful episode. 🕊️

I have been married for 21 years and I am an average woman in looks and speaking from my experience my handsome husband loves my simplicity, loyalty, modesty and honesty AND he is very happy when he sees me caring for his mother and looking after her like as if she is my biological mother because he is a mummy's boy. I don't mind that though because I love him selflessly & because I know what to do to keep him happy the most & my mother-in-law is a lovely woman I am lucky for that.

The sisters were so good! The botox comment is trueee. Most guys will look at some random women on social media and think they are "natural," but really, she has filler, botox, makeup, etc. The beauty standards are messed up, unfortunately.

1.Attractive 2. Respectful 3. Loyal 4. Trustworthy 5. Obedient 6. On deen

This video just proved an important point: "some men don't know what they want". I don't mean to disrespect these brothers but forgetting to mention "respect"?? Is beauty more important than respect? Is beauty more important than the deen? Are we all forgetting that this world is temporary? She can be ugly but the way how she speaks, her piousness, her purity, her intelligence, the way she treats you, her connection to Allah may lead you to Jannah. Apparently this woman doesn't even get a chance to show her values. You fall in love with the heart, beauty goes away after some years. Sisters please focus on your deen, connect to Allah and put him at the center of your heart, remember that one day we will be alone in the grave, your husband is not going to be there. To all married sisters out there, thank Allah for this blessing and work hard to make the marriage work, we are living in hard times.

1. Good Muslim 2. Respectful 3. Kind, caring, nurturing 4. Attractive 5. Good with their children, his parents, siblings

One thing I would like to comment on. The sisters were talking about makeup as if it were normal. However, wearing makeup in front on non- mahrams is Haram. It goes totally against wearing Hijab. Hijab is supposed to conceal the beauty, and Makeup does the opposite. May Allah SWT bless and guide us all. Ameen

It's time to all of us to work out in our lives and marriage. By Allah this umma needs to learn that life is more important than just showing off the social media platforms. Ours brother and sister in palastin needs for all of us to work tight together so we can stand up for them.

I found this episode really insightful MashAllah. JazakAllahkhair for this podcast.

I really love your content. I truly believe the work you are doing on this pod cast is top notch. It really helps people like me to learn about the British Muslim Community.

Wallahi Sister Dopamine brought all her energy into this show. She was on the top of the discussion panel.

Some good podcast right there, ما شاء الله

What I like about this is that it gives me hope in women and that there are some women out there that are good and fear Allah out there. Something that I haven't seen due to the environment I've been brought up in.

WOMEN DO KNOW WHAT WE WANT. Deen, loyalty, respect, security, stability, protection, good overall health, happiness,

A woman who knows how to maintain a relationship, maintain the home, ability to cook, have understanding towards her husbands emotional & physical needs. A good mother, a good wife & a nurturing friend.

Bunch of kids. If you put mature women who are married over 10-20+ years, divorced or widowed the conversation will be alot different.

The girl with the blue hijab is really smart! She made many great points! Masha Allah

While all people are jealous; isn’t it actually men who are more jealous? While a woman may have to tolerate polygny, a man could Never contain himself in such a situation. So how is it women are labeled as “jealous “? All Humans experience jealousy; it’s not gender based, it’s an emotion.

Men like to be attracted by women but do not like other men sharing that attraction

Woman here. I would say the no.1 thing a man should want in a woman is deen. Other things become a byproduct of having that deen, such as respect, appreciation, compromise, femininity, reliability, loyalty etc

Beauty, intimacy, respect and appreciation.

Sister in the middle said it.1. conscious of Allah SWT ❤❤❤. Shout out to you, respectful n kind, gentle naturing.love's kids. respect her husband's decisions as long as its not haram,loves her parents n respect's them.❤

i would NEVER compete to be in polygamous horrible night mare. personally I want my man to have one wife (me) n i be married to him only at same time in this marriage

I liked the way of thinking and the way of behaving and talking about women of the person dressed in green and then immediately of the person with the red sweater. Respect!

Respectful, modest, Patient, obedient, religious, attractive and interesting. These are main qualities I think women should have.

We are not supposed to dress the best in any form of competion at weddings or in public as it can attract unneccasary intention.

The sister in the middle wearing green abaya was so right. A man that can be vulnerable is amazing.. i don’t know why other sisters had to dismiss her ..

Aslm. This is a brilliant series. Allah bless you all. From South Africa

This is a good format. Activity based. It's more fun and engaging.

It's good you brought this discussion to the show. Some vital points were missed out like another commenter mentioned respect. And CONFIDENCE is the most attractive trait in a woman. Focusing on material facts alone will not yield a confident wife. It does come with emotional intelligence. A man wants and needs respect and a woman needs and wants love. Attractiveness flows from these traits. Of course everyone has different levels of what is attractive but personality makes one beautiful.

Here's the problem , women dont care what men want in a wife , when men state what they want , women will argue for them and try to change men's preferences and use shaming language ex: insecure, controlling , manipulative

Thank you creating separated rooms!

I really appreciate how the brothers emphasised on the term ' attraction' over ' beauty' , especially how brother Mehdi highlighted that sisters take it too far. It shows the level of maturity, which is quite reassuring 😊.

Loyalty I guess is the number one thing, followed by faith, understanding, supportiveness, health, beauty and intelligence in a woman most men seek in prospective wives. She can be of the same faith as you are but still can be disloyal and selfish. She can be beautiful, attractive, fertile, youthful, wealthy, resourceful, higher similar or lower economic status, or from the same faith or not from the same faith - but if disloyalty and lying is part of her psyche and character, she's often no good. It's common across all religions.

I used to dress up for him, respect him and follow his word, but throughout our 12 years of marriage he has been cheating on me... when i lost the will to maintain myself, n finding it hard to respect him, he blames me that he "started cheating" cz of me, but the matter of fact is he had been into other women even BEFORE we got married (i wasnt aware of this back then) I stood by him through veeg difficult times, was understanding of his kong working hours (n then working "late") and he has made it a habit of that... going n meeting other women, and never taking us out anywhere as a family How do i try to fix this?

What are these sisters talking about? "Seeing his wife as a prize because his wife seems to be the best looking compared to other sisters, elevated amongst his peers, his ego is fed, being competitive," this is all sounding like riya, ego, arragonce. Showing off. Completely agaisnt the teachings of our beloved (saw). i swear this is cringeworthy. That sister in green scarf made some good points, but she got shut down. Allahumma baarik laha.

The women that 'appear' ready for the 'wife life' is the one fully covered and the one on the far right. Great discussion.

I’m glad to see my man Mahdi on the show!!!😅

A very important point missed is intelligence. You want to be able to have a good conversation with your wife. Otherwise you will be hearing gossip all day. Also being funny, laughing, playing silly games, etc. Life is too serious as it is so the home should be fun.

Leaving the list for women to check the man. - financial stability - deen - understanding deen -mental capability. - emotional stabiltiy - confident in his decisions

mahdi needs some nasal decongestion spray, i initial thought the breathing was coming from the big guy but my suspicions were cleared when he started talking and that ghastly sound continued. im surprise no one else in the comments picked up on it considering i almost locked off the pod because of how distracting it was. otherwise interesting ep

Who wants botox lips and face??? I think you need to change the kind of men you’re speaking with 🤔

Ali dawah! May you be blessed آمین 🥹

Assalamualaikum warahmatullah my dear sisters. Masha Allah excellent conversation

👍👍 Glad that men and women are sitting seperately now . Even in layman muslim house ,if friends meet each other , husbands and wives sit and talk in seperate room.

The answer is, it's not one size fits all. Some men want a woman that works inside and outside the home. Some men want a woman to stay home and keep the home in immacukate order and do everything in the household. People are different. I think obviously all.men want to.have a beautiful, clean, intelligent, organized woman. People love anything close to perfection although there isn't eich a thing in this worldm but everyone wants a partner that suits their character and lifestyle.

Brother in the cap went straight to the point with the third point, it's an important matter.

1.loyalty 2. care /nurturing 3.humility in that order or chaos will ensue also only in the streets not in the shhhhhhhhhhhh. smile ikhuan it's sunnah

The nakab one is wearing the most makeup then she is talking about other sister. From the beginning of time to now for men it’s looks, looks and looks.

Peace is so important to have at home!

Watched a few of these and the guy in the green is the only real Man on this podium. He’s grounded, mature and calm-natured, respectful, reasonable and he listens. He exudes rationality, positive confidence and sensibility which will inevitably make a good leader.

Brother Ali, big fan of this series, me and the Mrs watch all the episodes, entertaining and educating!.. I only watched the lads bit and had some comments. I thought the conversation about the qualities was good, I agree with other comments that career focused is a bit of a weird sounding one to wish for but as long as there's no career obsession from husband or wife, then you got a good shot at being married! I've been married for 10 years alhumdulillah and hope Allah gives us many more years inshAllah. The brother next to brother Mahdi, all that stuff he said for the last 10minutes, I'll be honest I don't agree with this view at all. I've seen him before on this show and I remember his comments were pretty wild back then too. Again, I don't mean to disrespect but it strikes me as a very... Derogatory view of women. What I learnt from many years in this wonderful religion is that.. Men over the years have tried to bring in the cultural male dominance into faith. They bring it not because the prophet SAW did that or said that. They bring it from own self interest. The interest is that Pre Islam-Andrew Tate mentality. I work.. I go out. I do what I want. You stay at home. Shut up. Be grateful, be obedient. Don't be a feminist... I'll tell you how to live. You are too neurotic to decide. From my knowledge many women in the east especially still live under the shoe of their man like that. My advice to women from all the years of being happily married - know your worth. That whole thing above is there not to keep you on deen. It's to control you so that the man himself can grow up from teenager to a man...have a wife and kids.. And still... Live like they are single. Hang with the boys... Work till late... I know the modern western way has flipped things to the other extreme level. There are many plagues of our age and marriages are under a massive attack from the Army of Shaytaan. But there is a middle ground. Brother on the left touched upon it . Together. In sickness and in health. Supporting each other. Not 'I'm a man I'm this I'm that I'm smart you are less, I got deen, you are a cake and I'm gonna bake it. Seriously I do feel slightly sad for that harem. Because Allah created love for us to enjoy in this world and brothers and sisters, in my humble opinion whatever that was... Is far from it.

38:00 my bro’s lookin at the camera like this channel’s the Inshallah App 😭😭😭😭

Respect and gratitude comes hand in hand.

On your Birthday, the focus is on the parents. On your marriage ithe foicus is on parenting,,giving thanks both ways

Muslims should never compete with each other they should support each other.

Assalamu Alaykum. I am married since 4 years AlhamduliLlah and as a wife, also as a second wife, I still dont know the perfect answer to this. Just try to do your best, to make him happy and to ask if there is something you can do better, most importantly have faith in Allah s.w.t.

Ohhhhh my godddd thats a juicy one

BROTHERS DISCUSSION IS SENSABLE

You can tell when you hear the brother on the furthest to the right speak that he's very thoughtful

Mash Allah. It's refreshing to see such podcasts. Shout out to the sisters, I'm impressed that even in this modern age, they are knowledgeable enough to understand what muslim men want in general.

Hey big bro Ali you always get it all together I mean when I just want to take a look at your podcast I end up watching all of it

Good conversation.

Yes as a married man i agree that man loves feminine in females

The sisters with the Niqab is on point she understands!!!

Ali dawah is so funny may Allah bless him. I always agree with Mahdi the most

As a man all I want from my wife Respect, Appreciation And Loyalty and Intimacy !

there's a whitewashed aura that i despise, it generates disappointment in me even though nobody is perfect. But its still painful to recognize such patterns in our own ummah

Concerning the "asking what your wife want" part, what women want is different from a woman to another woman. And the way women express themselves is different from one another. For you to take the example "when a woman says yes it means no", is incorrect as this expression is used to say that when a woman wants something she has her own way of expressing herself. Which means she actually knows what she want but is not necessarly going to manifest it clearly or in the right way. Also saying "women don't know what they want" may be true for some, and in some specific situations, but please let's not generalize. In some situation, yes, women are not experienced so they don't know until it happens and then they know. But in some other situation they actually really know what they want or what they don't want. If you don't ask you cant know anyway. And the "let's go out" sorry not every woman is the same. For example, me, I'm the kind of woman that would have a good time at home rather than going out, it's just MY OWN personality. Also for the part "don't go to deeply before marriage in trying to know the woman" (smtg like that) : trying to know the partner is only natural and necessary especiallyfor women because we don't get to divorce "easily" if things go sour. Now obviously it won't benefit anyone to be to demanding or unrealistic expectation but for example me I know there's just some things I cannot live with. Obviously, men should not kill themselves to satisfy unrealistic expectations of women, but sometime us women are asking the bare minimum or completely legit things. So depending on the situation, please ask us what we want.

Whoever out the guys is breathing so loud into the mic is doing my head in!

Good show

Shyness Carrer driven sounds polar opposites

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The one that surprised me the most was them saying peace

Always Ali dawah says there’s no enough time left!! in the end hahaha ! May Allah give you more time 😅

I say this very kindly, one of the brothers is breathing heavily into the mic. I am not sure if it is something they can control or not, but please sit further from the mic if you are not speaking. May this comment be beneficial insha'Allah.

Mehdi keeps exhaling from his nose like its some asmr 😂 so jarring he done this before man wait in silence 😅

One of the best episodes 🤲🏼

The two brothers on the left seem like good genuine family men and a good example for the younger generation. Mahdi has valid points but likes to come across as chauvinistic 🤷‍♀️ could we please have him on a show with Pierce Morgan 🤣

Mahdi 2 is a G lol knows his stuff, brother in the white and cap talked sense 👍🏽

Good to see Mahdi acting mature not animated like last time

From all the men i'd choose the last one. Loyalty. Simple. Even when the spouse is bad, you will try to get over the problems in life and get better as long as you are loyal. You grow together in ups and downs. Fights but staying and rebuilding. Nothing is steady. But when you are loyal to your spouse you try to overcome the wave of life.

Would they like to have their wives and daughters or sisters to make interviews like so?? I have a lot of respect for some of this brothers, but I really don’t understand what they’re doing here!!! Also this nonsense things can wait maybe till we feel better or we’re in better place as an ummah!!! What’s going on with our Muslims nowadays!!! Are we forgetting the most important topic right now?? This nonsense can wait!!! Talk about Palestine, talk about the ummah!! Talk about how we can all contribute and help our brothers and sisters!!! We get this is his job and income but I can’t really understand this brothers!! I hope this was recorded before!! If these are our scholars, idk what else to say!! So disappointing!

Alhumdulillah it was interesting to hear what the sisters on the panel thought but I felt like they put too much emphasis on the modern definition of beauty. It’s difficult for the average Muslimah these days to dress and appear modestly when every Muslimah on KZfaq and the streets are wearing fashionable clothing and a face full of make-up, even niqaabis these days have huge fake eyelashes and eyeliner etc which defeats the purpose of concealing the beauty. The problem is that Muslim men are so used to seeing this ‘’modern day beauty” that even religious brothers seem to expect it from their potential wives. Please brother Ali, do cover this topic. I find it concerning when the niqaabi sister said “at least cream your face” - I don’t think we should encourage young Muslimahs to do this. Also dressing in “modern day beauty” for a woman is competitive and almost like an addiction - it starts off with one bit of make-up, then leads on to things like fake hair or nails, or nail paint that make proper wudhu impossible and even to the extremes of cosmetic surgery all to achieve this level of “beauty” which is a fitnah and destroys the woman mentally and physically. Yes, we should encourage young women to be clean, smell good to their husbands, dress presentably, eat well and stay fit, but not to “cream” our faces with toxic chemicals which are carcinogenic or impact fertility. Let’s be mindful of what we are promoting.

Beauty is not in the eye of the beholder When someone is beautiful most people will say it