This is not falling in love, this is FOLLOWING FOOLISHNESS!

Never warn your female friends more than 3 times about their men. Let that friendships go. Otherwise it might cost your lifes.

I have literally lost friends because of their awful toxic 'relationships' with horrible men. My 'best friend' of ten years ghosted me because I told her that her man was abusive. Two years later, after he dragged her through DV, cheating, substance/financial abuse and the policing, Court system... She came back crying and distressed. Never acknowledged the fact that she pretended that I didn't exist for TWO YEARS and just threw away a decade of friendship to get her ass handed to her. We're not friends anymore.

Wait. She would rather PAY her neighbor to do normal pregnancy tasks instead of asking her husband/father of her child for FREE?? I can’t build a healthy friendship with this mentality. I refuse! ☹️

The village is no longer free

Wait until the chick gets pregnant. Then everyone else becomes the baby sitter, the child support check, the psychiatrist, the chauffeur, etc. Everyone else EXCEPT the man who got her preggo. Infuriating!

Years of societal conditioning has taught women to stay down and loyal to a man no matter the circumstances. So women often will look red flags in the face and dismiss it as something that will “get better”. Now fast forward further into the relationship, it’s harder for you to leave because you’re more attached and those things that were supposed to “get better” are now significantly worse.

100 % agree with her. Those women drain you of your energy but would not tolerate a 10th from you that they tolerate from their men.

The sad thing is that this poor girl doesn't even realize she is MORE codependent than the friends she is admonishing. If my female friends want to have relationships with raggedy/unstable/unreliable men, that is on them. I immediately cut them off because you are not going to use me to help you where your man should be stepping up. I am not giving money, time, or resources to help women that I know would choose their man over me anyway. This girl needs to recognize that she is just letting herself be used in the name of nonexistent friendships. 😮😢

It's never love, it's usually codependency and trauma bonding.

These women will use their female friends to not upset the king. I do not have any sympathy for them and I do not want to listen to their nonsence. By the way, you could end up dead one day because if he is crazy and violent he will take revenge on her and her friends. These women think being desperate means being in love. Not the same thing. What they are feeling towards that man is not love, it is neediness and desperation. Sometimes these women will be so arrogant they will call anyone who does not "love" like they do cold and without heart. They will say you do not understand how deep their feelings are, how special the connection is between them and you have "obviously never been in love".

When I hear “It was probably a situationship.” And “They worked together.” In the same sentence… I immediately, instinctively, rolled back from my desk and just sat there thinking…*Who is actually this stupid?* Now, I am aware that in some circumstances, and I do mean like super rare circumstances, people can literally meet their wife or husband through their occupation, and have the best rest of their lives. But it really takes a special pair of people, crossing a very fine line, to make that fairytale a reality. Never, ever, date/smash/openly flirt with your coworkers. Someone, somewhere, is always going to screw it up if you both aren’t yourselves.

This is my mother. She is the person I love most in the world, and the strongest too. I am autistic and she always protected and shielded me like a mama bear. I respect and adore her so much for that, which is why it is almost physically painful for me to know that she is so weak with men. She stayed in an abusive relationship with my father, and after much encouragement on my part she finally left him. I thought the nightmare was over, that we were finally free of him, free of the overbearing presence of a man to ruin our lives. And then she got with my step-father immediately after, and he is even worse than my dad. He isolated her from her family and pushed me out of their lives, effectively denying me the care and attention I needed because of my disability. When I visit her his presence is like a physical weight that sucks all the life from the room, he doesn't like to let us spend time alone, he doesn't like when my mom is physically affectionate with me, he doesn't like when we laugh, or share memories of our lives prior to her meeting him. And my mother has been with him for 10 years. And each year she tells me it's not so bad, she wouldn't know what to do with herself if she was single, she thinks it's a win when she scolds him after he insults her, when he shouldn't have insulted her in the first place. She is wrong, she lost. Every single day she stays with him she loses and he wins.

You have to love these people from a far... I told my friend I hope she finds a love that treats her well and moved on, but I can't keep rescuing you.

I literally had to go no contact with my sister because she REFUSED to stop bringing toxic abusive men into our family. And around our family’s children! Expecting us to support her in every stupid thing she does. Rally around her every time there’s some big chaotic blow up. It’s one thing to not respect yourself. To put your whole family through this over and over again with different men means you don’t respect us either.

These women are trying to “ stick it out”, because one day he will truly love her, after he sees how much she really loves him. He’s going to see how “ deep “ her love for him is, by constantly cheating on her and turning her against the other women( who are also clueless ), mistreating her in various ways - and eventually her relationships with family and friends ( mainly women) will suffer. This is the root of why so many women people say “ keep others out of your relationship “ and why so many men “ hate the single friends”. They want to isolate the woman and watch her struggle.

It’s low self esteem and desperation.

Its NOT love. My own sis wanted me to feel happy with the way her love life was going. Women who are desperate to be with a man usually create a child just because they want someone who will love them unconditionally. Whether those women end up becoming a mother or not, it always ends up bad. She will always be the one holding the bag.

I understand the frustration and definitely agree friends shouldn't go out of their way to fix these women's mistakes. I also know a lot of women who settle like this often have a history of being mistreated or abused. It's a sad state to be in

This describes my sister to a Tee. This girl has had crappy relationships one after the other and blames on everything but herself. With her current dude who then kicked her out of her own house and she had to call me asking if she was crazy. It got to a point I had to tell her I'm tired of listening and talking to her knowing she won't listen to what I have to say anyway. In fact I'm usually the villain once they make up because I tried breaking them up so I told her I'm tired. Her response? No relationship is perfect and she will get married one way or another. I told her alright cool. I wish you all the best and now every time she tries to bring up her relationship issues I willfully ignore her or give her a dry ass dang and keep it moving. Sometimes people are just tired of seeing the same script over and over but if you do want better for yourself then don't complain about the mediocrity you allow yourself.

Get well Maria!!!!!❤

Never accept disrespect and poor treatment in the name of love. 😒please… I can’t do struggle love. I’m not your mother!

Dang first destiny down with chicken pox and now you’re down as well. Get well soon babe 🤎

Honestly, this girl is a good friend and she should dump all these si lly friends. They do her a disservice.

As someone who is guilty of staying, its not because we are in love. Its partially because there is no closure, partially because its alot easier to stay and endure than to walk away because well, we dont know why this person isnt treating us right, why dont they care (we blame ourselves alot). The abuse becomes normal and you slowly lose yourself trying to get them to care and then you are stuck. Some of those guys are very manipulative also.

Thats one of the hardest things ive yet to conquer and idk why. The ability to tune it out and literally not care or have any behavioral change/shifting when it comes to the manosphere and decentering men and all things that no longer serve me. Perfecting the art of detachment when you were never shown secure healthy attachment or how to properly detach is EXTREMELY TOUGH. It almost seems like my brain is on par with the changes necessary but my body and emotions dont care about what my brain and logical side just said 🙃😂

I am convinced that these compilation videos you and other KZfaqrs make are saving lives.

I wouldn't have done that for that so called friend 😂

I differenciate that with my friends. I tell them what I think about their 'prizes', but I help them no matter if they are in a relationahip or not because they are my friends. Besides that I make clear that I don't listen to that relationship crap for eternity. Accept the conditions of your destructive relationsship and shut up or break up. I protect my sanity. 🤷😄

Quick recovery Maria😊. For the topic at hand we as women should to stop centering men in our lives period,😌

Get better soon!

Hi there! I am a new subscriber ❤ who is the one woman speaking about her friend? She looks really familiar

I stayed in what AT FIRST seemed like a bad relationship, until I realized that it was ME who wasn’t appreciating the right things. I valued time and companionship over resources and provisions at time when both wouldn’t be possible. I had to learn the difference between a man and a friend. And to STOP telling him everything. And to keep our relationship simple. Been peachy keen ever since.

Women wonder why women friendship is in the gutter, but then you see women saying they'll dump their friend who got in a toxic relationship. If you dump your 'friend' because they're being abused, you're not a real friend. Just say you're 'not like the other girls' and go, but don't be surprised when women don't want to befriend you. Women who dump their 'friends' over a male for any reason are all the same to me. So the woman who gets in a relationship and dumps her single friend is just as bad as the single friend who dumps her abused friend in a relationship. You notice that males always stay on code, which is why they're STILL winning even though women are earning more, educated more, and buying more homes. Some women- even the ones who claim they're happy to be single- still compete against other women and never stay on code.

@08:55 why did she use a voice filter?

its DESPERATION. not LOVE.