Wow amazing ❤.....wish to have such elder women in life

Beautiful. I have seen the same with my grandmother. That was a sorted generation. The ones who came in 50s and later for some reason are messed up ..

@dkfitnesstube *devi... yes she was... she had the most calm and peaceful smile. She radiated peace.

Salute to her

Uneducated you mentioned but she was the highly educated woman of her time❤.

Have patience

Agreee... duri se pyaar bana rahta hai

@@vartikavaish6377 I agree aur duri agar jyada hai toh time time pe wapas paas aya jata hai (ye toh Shayari ho gyi)

very difficult to do so.

We are not brought up in this manner. Whatever happens we take care of our elders and children and relatives and society and our country and values

Problem is conditioning that parents are correct and evil resides in the children not realising that it's the older generation which sometimes is rigid and doesn't want to change. And it's a harsh truth dusre ki aulaad ko koi pyar nahi karta, the Bahu won't ever get the love which her mother gives her. No matter how much you do there will always be something missing to please the entire clan of in law's. Best is opt for your financial independence have your own house in your own name and do not take shit from anyone. Kyon ki after their death akele khud ki counsellor ke chakkar lagane hote hain

😢भाई ये बंदा भी तो थी bolra झेला

Same here

That's amazing statement.

In many houses now , mother in law is the house maid cook and baby sitter

U r right mam but in laws don't let this happen too.they are afraid that they will loose their son and making him emotionally dependent on them till now like when a man reach late 30's still they can not take any decision on themselves,they will utter everything told to them by their parents, they can not think on their own and would expect the girl k yar thoda sa hi to adjust karna hai, can they even imagine to live with their in laws and if such situation arrives can they live in that atomsphere answer is clear NO

Meri bahu ko aaye ek saal ho gaya h .Main hamesha usko office ka tiffin aur breakfast chai banaker deti hu aur dinner k taiyyari bhi uske wapas aane se pehle karke rakh deti hu.uske aane per kadak chai banati hu aur wo kabhi apne room m jaker rest nahi karti balki hum chai peeker sofe per letter khoob gappe marte hai jab tak hum dono k husbands ghar aate hai. Uske baad bas 10-12 roti banane ka kaam karna hota h

@@nilinimagupta5311 mam ye to apki achai he na.. bt har ksi k nasib me ap jese samjhdar lady nahi hoti na.. kitna b kamalo kitna b kaam krlo .. 2 roti k lie ginwaya jata he.. I am still happy K kisi k to bahu khush he .. stay happy stay blessed

​@@MeghaKaushik5678thank u megha & all the best for u 😊

@@nilinimagupta5311apke jaise bohat kamm h . My mom is same as you

@@MeghaKaushik5678 right ma'am

Me tòo❤

Naukri kar ke bhi yeh haal kyun banayi aap ne. Why u allow it.

@@Milagrinahusband made this situation for me and I don't know kabhi nikl bhi paungi isse

Ask this question 30 years later from your self

@@SourabhGautam-so5bo So now what should a women in her place or similar place like me do

Just try to keep both ends separate by continuously adding wax😏

Bilkul sahi Kaha aapne I m working Kids were taken by my parents. But in law treat me like a servant door open Karo sab chije hath mein do tabh bhi khush nahi hote. Apni beti ek glass pani de de arre woh to humari bahut care karti apna ghar jhod kar humare yaha aakar baithi hai 10years se. Husband bhi unhi ka favor karte hai

​@@tsgaming4584 that's why marry a single child sibling wale very dangerous set up

सास की छोड़ो, बेटियां मां से भी भूख लगने पर हक से खाना नही मांग पातीं, जिस हक से बेटा खाना मांगता है। बेटी से तो expected होता है कि उल्टे भाई को बना कर खिला दे। लड़की होकर मां से कैसे मांग सैरीभाई। कुछ घरों को छोड़ दें तो तो बेटियां अपने घर में भी दबी दबी रहती हैं। मां के प्यार की कहानियां, कविताएं, यादें, सब बेटे और मान की कहानियां होती हैं, बेटी और मां की नहीं।

​@@ninanani4085freedom sabse jyada important hai Ye sare logon ko chhod do aap

​@@ninanani4085hmari youngest sister ko bni bnayi chay milti h ar khana bhi prosati h mammy nasta bhi ready hota h . bhai se jyda usk nakhre hote h .but bt jb meri aati h wo ek cup chay bhi nikal k nhi deti h bhale bnaya maine ho. N wo hme hmare psand k chize bnane deti h

​@@ygp47 I hope you understand how fragile your job/career is to understand the current job climate and contemplate your comment. I have to deal with this every day with newborn sick MIL and uncooperative husband.

@@ygp47 good food will one from good earning. Not from the family where wife needs to giveup on the job for just cooking and kitchen households.

Now people will search for hus/wife who do not have parents at the time of marriage only till the son/daughter starts working

​@@hemangshrivastava9561 very gud

Best is single child family both hus/wife side at least in middle and upper middle class set up so less issues in rich class anyways parents give a separate house at the time of marriage to avoid any issues afterwards but Indian parents want a back up so they have 2 kids only for such purposes nothing else with such toxicity between children and parents children should straightaway ask the parents why did they have them in the first place in public and they should be made to feel guilty so at least they will not trouble the new DINK trend couples

Good Thought mam 👍

Good earning boys should not marry working girl or party cat. Better to have beautiful village homely girl. Adjustment will be easy.

Most people are not socializing these days especially in cities. I do not know what he is talking.

@@ManjisthaDas03 Exceptions are there. But I think most good earning men should avoid working women for marriage.

But if you are not taking from them then do not give them also and also pl be careful before marrying such a person

True.. kharcha mangna is constant though we hardly visit them thrice a year. But electricity bill n all hame hi pay karna hota h

Good Answer 👍 well Appreciated

Absolutely right

@@priyabhasharma5620 Thanks

So true n my summarisation of my life for past 3 years

Sir.. if in-laws are totally financially dependent on u and wants to live with us in our rented accommodation, and in-laws want the daughter in law to serve them all the time.. and try to create conflict between the couple so to rule the house and son’s finances also.. unko kya kahoge

Kal tum bhi unki jagah logi aur tumhari Bahu bhi aise hi KZfaq PE tunahre bare me aise hi comment kr rhi hogi 😂

😂😂

Aur thoda bhi rebel karne par 10 myths n superstitions +aap feminist (negative version thereof) alag.

Plus baaki working bahuein se comparison alag..unki waali to sube k nashta n raat ka dinner bhi banati h.cook k hote hue bhi😅

Some girls do not wish to live with in laws. Then do not expect boys to respect her parents.

@@abhijeetpanchal9301 ... what does not wanting to live with inlawa have to do with respecting them?

@@sujathagopal7939 Never force boy to meet girl parents. Simple

@@ManjisthaDas03 Tomorrow you will force men to be pregnant. Maybe girl education is backfiring in some cases.

Then young people will avoid maariage or will delay marriage. Its a disasterous thinking

I agree

Iske upar sir ne kaafi videos banayi hain, conclusion bata deta hun : if parents are toxic and kaafi kalesh hai, live separately, rent or buy, baaki nearby location pe ghar lena, ye easy nhi hoga obviously but this is the best......

True

Bête Bahu ne Near by ghar liya to lanchan laga jaynge padosiyon ke ki nai nai bhyah ke aayi bahu ne bete ko budde maa baap se nyara kar diya .

Sahi baat hai

Bilkul sahi kaha apne

First of all such moms need to have their limits and boundaries when supporting family. Second, there should be planning for her difficult times beforehand and not something expected out of the DIL. At any given point of time the efforts required to take care of an elderly is a lot more than handling other things. Children are future assets but oldies aren't. Therefore, one must plan things in a way that they can be taken care of by someone as own members may not want to be a part of that.

And also never talk to each other in those countries it is mutual and understood and sometimes parents even help them in some way whatever possible to get a house if required initially both hus/wife are working mostly but in India it is different you have to still follow some traditional norms and if staying away it is due to toxicity mostly not mutual and sometimes such that is son/wife managed to earn good then they might just not think of ever visiting the parents due to past toxicity in such a scenario I was thinking logically if parents and children relationship is coming to a stage where it could result in a fight then do not understand the logic behind having kids and even pressurizing still the new gen to have grand kids in that case new DINK trend is better to at least avoid continuing disputes for next generation at least current new hus/wife will live their life peacefully till whatever age they live and hopefully they expire before their children have to take care of them in that way there will be no fights and hence peaceful existence

Thodi bezzati sehni pdegi aap confident rho. Aap unhe dusre reason dedo jisse vo satisfied ho jaye jese ki bcho ki pdhayi k liye hm door reh rhe h, pti ki job door h tb or thoda confident hokr light way mai bolo ki shadi to pti k sath rehne k liye hi ki h to vhi rhenge na or hmare saas sasur itne backward nhi h vo smjhte h. Aapko thoda reverse psychology krna pdega ese logon k sath. Kuchh states mai ye zyada hi h. Hmare yhan pr log bolte h pr itna nhi to bs ldke pr depend h.

Easier said than done.

Yes I too want videos on case studies

Better live seperately

Then follow DINK so no dependence on grand parents

Most people are not socializing these days especially in cities. I do not know what he is talking.

Some girls do not wish to live with in laws. Then do not expect boys to respect her parents.

Grand Parents should not be used to take care of grand children. They should enjoy the retirement

​@@abhijeetpanchal9301 if girls are expecting not to live with in laws then dont live with girl's parents i mean ur in laws.. both of you should stay separately from both side of the parent.. u take care of ur parents till their end and let the girl take care of her parents till their end.. simple..

I have seen these kinds of Mother in laws my life...one was my Grandmother who used to butter my Chachi just bcoz she was in an another house...away from city...and used to put pressure on my mother to work all the time....eventually Saasu passes away...and aapka time aayegaa...as of now...try becoming independent by any means ...anything that u excel in....so that there is an income and mind gets diverted

@@funnlearnforkidshi5 I am working and earn a good amount. I have this problem when she is valued above everything and I feel bad the way I have been treated. It actually make my moral down.

I feel so sorry that you had to go through this. It hurts seeing the same set of people behaving differently with someone else.

​@@mishikaraghuwanshi4265 - that is the problem even there is only 1 child then automatically both adjust without too much issues so less interference from siblings also only thing both have to contribute towards the expense of the house help except that use your room for the activity if staying in the house or go outside on 1 of the days or may be to inlaws house but there also wife should be the only one no siblings else there also will be issues one cannot just go like that friends you can visit them at their house or outside at a common agreed location and keep trying to buy a house or may be some men might look for a high income earning girl and never come back at all to visit the parents house if too much tension already which also some parents will complain afterwards because relatives will come only for entertainment when they know that the son/wife never come to visit parents at all then they will try to incite the parents and they might get depressed there are cases where like he mentioned if both are high earning by chance then in some cases they might never visit the parents at all if toxicity was due to finances UpTo each family if it was mutual then it's another thing so in future both hus/wife will forget about their parents once they start earning good or that will be their only aim and then they will completely ignore the parents unless there is some other unknown reason you know this is the reason Indian parents have 2 kids it is called their own selfishness so new DINK trend is a step towards reducing such toxicity with children as they are DINK

I have also suffered the same. But it's never too late. Stand-up for yourself now dear and try to limit your any kind of dependency on your in laws.

In same boat...Tkng care f maid,cook,nanny expense,when mil arrives gv everything in hand,do all her shopping,always gv gifts but ek word nhi appreciation ka.

make them realize that dnt take u for granted.

Dont feel bad Mam.. its ok to choose peaceful life over daily melodrama. Best of luck

Do you earn?? or do you work and have salary? , if not then you are also a dependent and a leech. what value you are adding in the marriage? Answer these question to yourself.

Bura maane to maane, you should do what is good for you. In 2-3 years they will come around slowly. Otherwise, have self-confidence that you have done what is right for you.